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Neena Perez - Transformational Living, Kingdom Businesses, and Purpose Filled Kitchens

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Two lives meet over faith, food, and hard truths, as Neena Perez traces her path from trauma and survival to healing, coaching, and service. We unpack accountability, reframing, forgiveness, and building a purpose-filled life that lifts others.

• growing up with abuse, poverty, teen pregnancy, homelessness
• shifting from victimhood to accountability and faith
• feeling to heal, naming reality, building community
• writing Hit Me With Your Best Shot to reclaim voice
• forgiveness, family fallout, and ongoing PTSD realities
• reframing through NLP and Christian discipleship
• niching and boundaries for new coaches and founders
• teaching culinary skills to underserved communities
• launching Purpose-Filled Kitchen to blend food and faith
• future hopes of travel and hands-on service

Check her out on her website, go.neenaperez.com


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SPEAKER_01:

Welcome back to one on one with Mr. U, of course. I'm your host, Mr. U in studio with us, author, speaker, co-naving leader, and perhaps your next transformational coach. Nina Perez is in the house with us today. Nina, how are you today?

SPEAKER_00:

I'm good. First of all, did you just say Perez? Okay. Listen, I'm from Connecticut and lived in Yonkers for many years. So I get it. I'm gonna give you the props you deserve. Perez. That's right. Thank you.

unknown:

Of course.

SPEAKER_00:

That's awesome.

SPEAKER_01:

From the outside, always ask audience that come in, share kind of your travel a little bit, where you're from, how do you get from there to here? You can be as messy or as clean as you want it to be. It doesn't matter. We're good here. Go ahead and share.

SPEAKER_00:

Oh my gosh. Yeah. So um thank you for having me, first of all. I enjoyed meeting you. So I'm and I love listening to your show. So thank you for having me. I'm excited. Um, where do we go? It's messy, it's messy, Mr. U. It's messy. I mean, I grew up in the projects in in Connecticut, like right on the border in Stanford, right on the border to New York, and uh, you know, born and raised there. And um, it was a hard, it was a tough, tough life. I mean, uh, you know, abused as a child and neglected and all the things, all the things that we go through. But um, you know, throughout my journey, I I encountered a lot of like hardships, you know, being homeless, like living in shelters, things like that. Uh, I had my son at 15, my first son at 15 years old, um, my second son at 21, you know, always work two, three jobs, take care of my kids, all the kind of things. Um, almost was murdered in a domestic violence um relationship I was in. So that's what I mean. Like there's a lot, a lot to cover. Here's what I was saying.

SPEAKER_01:

How much you want to get into me?

SPEAKER_00:

Right. I mean, there's so many topics, right?

SPEAKER_01:

You're surviving, you're winner.

SPEAKER_00:

And that's that's the beautiful thing about life, though, right? I mean, we can go through all these things and now look back and say, now I could talk about it. You know, I used to be a victim for a long time. It was always, you know, this victim mentality, and I can't do it because this thing, and I can't do it because that thing. And it was always an excuse to stay in my mess. And it was when I started to find God in my life that those things started to, you know, like be revealed to me that life wasn't done against me or at me, it was done for me. And um, you know, it's built me up into the person I am today, and I'm I'm super proud of that. So I can talk about any of those things without like falling apart into this victim boo-hooing. Um, you know, and and I'm grateful for that. I'm super grateful for that.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I got so many questions.

SPEAKER_00:

Just yeah, that's why I paused.

SPEAKER_01:

Just on what you shared just now, because we're from similar uh places and we've been through some similar things, a little bit different, but a lot of it's quite similar. How did you or let me ask this? What would you attribute your being the person you are now from that? Because I know people who are in uh their 40s, 50s, 60 years old, and they're still living with the baggage from way back then become a part, I guess, in in a way their infirmity has become their identity. I'd love to hear what was the trending point for you to become because you're not what you described. I mean, no, you've met you talked enough times that you're not that. So what do you uh attribute to that?

SPEAKER_00:

Uh accountability. I think for me, it was being accountable to to what my mess really was. Um, you know, if if all of these scenarios are true, I was the one denominator that was the same in all of the scenarios, right? So I had to kind of look at things now. Life happens to us, right, Mr. U, it happens to us. Um there's things that we cannot control. I can't control being abused as a child, I couldn't control almost being murdered, I couldn't control all of those things, right? Um, but I can control how I decide that thing is going to affect my life. And I think what started happening is when I found God in my life, because God is a huge pivotal point of shift in my life, right? And when he came in, he rocked my world and he was showing me things about myself that I needed to change in my character, but also the fact that I was loved, you know, for so many years I didn't feel loved, right? And I'm I'm remarried now 27 years, but I was married. Uh you know, thank you, thank you. When I was younger, though, it was you know, just abusive relationship, mental abuse, physical abuse, you know, all the things. And um, I at one at some point I had to realize A, I'm a sinner, and B, that I, you know, I have a God that has my back. And so I realized I can throw a lot of things on him and he doesn't break, you know. So I had a lot of baggage and a lot of garbage. And I thought about it like I'm putting all of this stuff at his feet, I'm putting it in a box at his feet, and I'm like, here you go, you can have that. You can have the depression, you can have the anxiety, you can have the unforgiveness, you can have the shame, you can have all of it because I don't want to, I don't want it anymore. Because I was suffering a lot with depression and anxiety and all of the things, and then I had to just now I had to take accountability. Why do I think that way? Who do I think I am? You know, like uh, where what where does my ego play a part? You know, I had to digest and dissect all of those things, and it's not an overnight thing, this is years and years of doing it, but sometimes when somebody says to you, hey Neen, you know, uh stop being a victim of that, or you do this, instead of being defensive, why don't you just look at it and say, Do they have a point? Let me let me let me check this out for a second, right? And so, God, I started being in the word more, I started reading the word more. That also started to reveal more things to me, and you know, I used to criticize. Um, do you read the word, Mr. U, by the way? Of course, of course, okay. So I used to make fun of um the Israelites when they were on in Exodus when they were leaving. Like, how stupid can you be? And blah blah blah, and da-da-da. And then God was showing me, oh, like you like you, like you've been you've been going around the same horse for for 40 years, acting like you know, and I'm like, dang, sting.

SPEAKER_01:

My toes, my toes got yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

So I think accountability is is what I would attribute it to.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I mean, I feel like I feel like your story is more than just about surviving. We're talking about childhood abuse, teen pregnancy, we're talking about poverty, we're talking about domestic violence, the things that I grew up seeing everywhere in my in my in my city. And I know that sparked a good bit of why you wrote the autobiography, hit me with your best shot, but I'd love to know how how you person, just somebody who might be watching and listening today who's going through similar stuff, but they're living in survival mode still. How are you avoiding that trap of being in a survival mode?

SPEAKER_00:

The survival mode. Well, first of all, just be thoroughly honest with yourself and look at your circumstances and don't ignore them. I think you have to feel it to heal it. I really believe that. And a lot of times when you're in survival mode, you do not feel, you just keep going, you know. At least for me, when I was in survival mode, I was surviving the next day, right? So it was always about getting to work, making sure I take care of the kids, making sure I have the money, making sure I pay the pay the bills, and no, and I just kept going and I never paused, never, right? And I didn't want to because it hurts, right? And sometimes when we're in that survival mode is exactly what that means. You are surviving. So I need you to take a pause and back up for a second and just say, okay, these are my these are literally my circumstances. I am struggling financially, or I am struggling in this relationship, or I am whatever. X, you fill it in now. When you can see something in its reality and in what it is, now you can start making decisions on what it is you want to change, right? Because when we ignore things or we're just surviving, which I did for so long, right? When you are just surviving, you're not thriving, you're not looking forward, you're not doing, you're not taking accountability, you're not watching and saying, Where do I need help? Because community is also important in this. Surround yourself with people that are going to really challenge you and love you as you rise. Okay. Not somebody who's a yes man or a no man or somebody who's negative all the time. I'm not telling you to cut people out of your life because I don't believe in that either. I believe God will do that. But I do believe that you have to also surround yourself with a good, strong community of people that really want to see you grow and they are gonna call you out on your BS, right? Because a lot of the things when we're surviving, we're just lying to ourselves constantly that this is what we got to do. Oh well, this is how it is, this is how life is. You know, this is, I guess I'm always gonna be here. Well, yeah, you're right. Because whatever you say, it is, right? So if you say this is where I was gonna be, yep, I'm constantly gonna be struggling. That's that's correct, right? Because you are going to be designing that yourself, right? That's why God says to only think about the great things, the good things, the you know, um, keep your mind sober, like keep moving forward. And uh a lot of us just stay stuck in the woe is me. Woe is me. I was addicted to that. I'm gonna be honest. Wow, I liked being a victim because being a victim gave me uh excuses to not move forward. It gave me excuses to not show up for me and to not show up for others. It gave me the excuses of oh, poor Nina, she's struggling. And when I gave that up, Mr. You listen here, I didn't know who I was when I put that on his on the cross and I said, God, okay, you take that. I remember it lifting off of me almost like a spiritual thing, it just lifted off of me, and then I remembered going, uh oh, what now? Right, who am I? What do I do from here? I don't know, and so I had to figure it out. So I used to say, you know, put on your big girl pants, girl. We got we got a life to live, and it's not and it's not guaranteed tomorrow. So let's start living it.

SPEAKER_01:

I love it, I love it. You already answered by next question. I want to ask you about the biggest impact of having limiting beliefs, and you kind of shared that they gave you an out. Okay, I love that. Thank you for sharing that too. Yeah, uh, what would the impetus for your autobiography could be with your best shot?

SPEAKER_00:

What was the what?

SPEAKER_01:

What would the impetus, the reason why you decided to do it?

SPEAKER_00:

Oh, yeah, the impetus is because I was in this place of uh I had uh done about a year and a half or almost, yeah, almost two years of of Christian leadership for women. And I was helping women a lot in their in their walk, but I internally was struggling, right? Internally, I was not living my best life, meaning, and I don't mean being live live your best life. That's not what I mean. I mean that fulfilled or full of joy or connected to God in this deeper way, right? Um, and I remember thinking it's time, I think, for me to really face all of these demons and write this book and actually go through the emotions because I really, like I said before, I really believe you need to feel things to heal them. And I had to feel the unforgiveness, I had to feel the shame, I had to feel the resentment and the anger I had towards God. I had to feel all of the things uh that I don't like myself very much. You know, like I had to feel all of those things and face it in order to go through it. So when I wrote the book, it was a very cathartic. There we go. Are you still there? There you are. Okay, I'm like, what happened?

SPEAKER_01:

I was really good with you. I'm like, what happened?

SPEAKER_00:

The enemy, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01:

Uh anyway. We have to back into that what you were saying. Recap it for me real quick.

SPEAKER_00:

Um, I I I wrote the book because I really wanted um to um uh heal myself or go through the healing process with God, and I wanted to also touch as many women as I could with writing this book, right? And so when I wrote the book, I honestly was doing it more for me, but it ended up changing a lot of people's lives, which was very surprising to me. And I knew that when I wrote this book, because when my father molested me and I told my mother, she told me to stop lying and shut my mouth, and so I did. So I didn't have a voice for a very long time, and writing the book gave me back my voice and my power. And when I wrote it, and people were coming to me now to confess what happened to them and how they've been abused and what's gone in their life. I was like, Oh my goodness, God, you are so good. Because I knew that when I pressed that button to publish, that I was gonna lose family members, and my mother wouldn't speak to me. And it and it happened. Um, I didn't speak to people for a very long time. My mother stopped speaking to me about eight months, but um, because of him up there, I was able to come knocking on her door, even though she wasn't speaking to me. And I said, Okay, me and you, let's go. We're gonna do it. We're gonna talk about this, whether you like it or not. You know what I'm saying? And she was like, Oh, she was really mad. And I said, Mom, ABCD, this is how it is. We're gonna face this together because we got whether you like it or not, these things happened, and we're gonna have to tell the truth. And uh, she wasn't happy about it, but I feel like forgiveness is necessary in order for you to grow and thrive. It is necessary, and shame is a liar, right? So I and that's why I wrote the book. That was the the real reason was to heal me, but then it became a book that actually helped me open up to help heal others.

SPEAKER_01:

I will ask what the the uh the dynamic was with family, but I asked you a different question. Yeah, where are you in the whole healing process of all of this? If you don't mind sharing it, yeah. Everybody, but where are you in the process? How how I mean I know stack will be maybe probably won't be 100%, but where do you think you are in in the healing process of all this? You think you're talking to your mom now and you kind of get things restored?

SPEAKER_00:

Oh, yeah. Even with my, I used to call him my monster, my stepfather who hurt me. I went even and forgave him. I went face to face. I literally got in his face, like in his face. I hadn't seen him in like 10-15 years. I went to him in New York, he's from Brooklyn. I went to his house, I went to his face and I put my forehead to his forehead and my nose to his nose. And I told him, I said, you know what? For so many years I've hated you for so many years. I said, but right now I am choosing to forgive you. I don't want to, but my God is bigger, and so he's told me I had to come here to forgive you. So I'm gonna just forgive you because I have to. And I said, So I release you right now from my life, and when I did that, everything shifted. I felt God's presence. It was awesome.

SPEAKER_01:

Awesome. That's wonderful. That's wonderful.

SPEAKER_00:

Awesome, yes, yeah. So I'm in a very good place right now when it comes to the healing. I will say though, I have some uh PTSD still, you know, from like all the domestic violence and stuff, right? So I have to always kind of be careful, like I don't sleep well at night because I'm always thinking somebody's gonna hurt me, you know, that kind of thing. So there's still some residue um that I have to kind of work on and get rid of for sure.

SPEAKER_01:

Wow, sorry to hear that, but I'm believing God with you for for complete healing, so you can be able to say that sweet sleep is a gift from God. Yeah, so that means if you're not getting that, you're not you're not getting his gifts, and that's the exactly. I love that. Yeah, thanks for being so transparent too. And you do so much stuff. I'm like, I'm trying to find time to get all this stuff in. But you and I share some some commonalities in some areas that I'm excited about talking about it. What sparked the podcast? Straight talk, no sugar, names and quick.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, thank you. I started the podcast because it was time to speak the truth of what you know life is, my faith, my faith walk, um, all of the things. And because I had written the book and people's lives were starting to get transformed, I started to talk about that's how my podcast started was talking about the word of God and uh talking about like different scriptures I was reading and what it was saying to me, and you know, all of those type of things. And that, I'm telling you, that has been everything because even to this day, right now, I um as a culinary chef, I actually teach underserved communities. So people who are really struggling with uh housing and you know work and all those things. I teach them culinary and then I from culinary, we then get them jobs in the field, right? And in that, I've had um people, of course, search my name because they want to know who is Nina Perez, and then they find my podcast. And I cannot tell you how much of a blessing it has been. Now I'm on almost episode 600, right? But um the first episodes, yeah, the first uh uh I don't even know how many episodes are all about my faith and walk with God and shame and all the things, and um, it has helped so many of these people that I'm serving in this underserved community that they're like, I found your podcast, I started listening from one. My life is changing. I'm like, what? That's why I did it, Mr. You. Because if one person can change, heck yeah, all day a hundred percent.

SPEAKER_01:

I love it. The podcast is doing really well, it's a really good podcast. You do a lot of another commonality that you and I share is in regards to the kitchen. I'm a former chef, I'm not professional anymore. I I can own that part. The 16 hour days just wasn't working for me for about a decade. I just couldn't do anymore.

SPEAKER_00:

I hear you, man. I hear you. My feet quit before my heart quit, put it like that.

SPEAKER_01:

But I still cook, I do stuff uh for friends and family. I don't care anything like that. But you've been building something called a purpose-filled kitchen. I want to hear about what this.

SPEAKER_00:

Oh, it's launching soon. I'm so excited about this project. So I've been a chef for over 20 years, and I've been a coach for about I think about close to 15 years. Um, and so I'm taking both of those loves and I'm combining them. So, what I'm doing right now is I am going around. Um, well, there's a couple of facets to it, but one is um I am cooking a recipe, and hopefully with somebody that's in my kitchen with me, we're cooking together, and then we sit down and break bread together. And it's about faith and food and community. Um, and that's really what it's launching us. So, and now I'm doing like this little series where I'm going to different uh restaurants and and um talking to chefs and restaurateurs about why they do what they do, what is their purpose, why are they even doing this? You know, what are they doing to impact the community and all of those things? So God is just so good to me because I was straying a little bit, you know, and God is like, nope, coming back, let's go. Paka, oh you know, bim bimpaka, you know. So he called me back, and I um and I am so grateful. I'm so grateful. Do you know how good it feels? And you know, because you you said you were a chef for a long time. How good does it feel to help someone who is maybe struggling with housing or struggling with money, and then you can actually teach them something that helps them learn how to fish. Come on, you know, like I cannot, it's the most rewarding work, seriously.

SPEAKER_01:

I mean, that's the kind of place where you you really have to find the gold in all the dirt because it's not a it's not it's not a pretty uh it's not a pretty genre, the color. But the real thing, when you have a real life going around the throwing throwing your food across the room at you, yeah, a kid from Brooklyn, black and brown skin. I'm ready, I'm ready to start you know throwing hands.

SPEAKER_00:

Oh man, I've had so many fights with my my uh my chef de cuisine in the kitchen.

SPEAKER_01:

You don't know if it's a chef de cuisine, a somalier, it's yeah, it's it's always something, somebody, yeah, a server. Yeah, for you to stick it out so long. That's that's that's impressive. It's really impressive. Thank you. I'm a hard fishing, but oh, I'm trying to use this time where oh, you're so interesting. All right, uh your all-time favorite dish to cook.

SPEAKER_00:

A stuffed lobster, stuffed lobster. I absolutely love stuffed lobster.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, you're getting them from Maine.

SPEAKER_00:

Oh, I love Maine lobster. Yeah, if I can get it, heck yeah, I'm getting it from Maine. I mean, that's the sweetest, it's so sweet that meat from Maine, right? The the lobster from Maine. But I usually will go and get some uh lobster here. And I've tried the recipe a couple of ways, but honestly, it's gonna sound bad. I know for all of you chefs, cover your ears. I like to use uh like imitation crab meat to stuff it with. I know, I know. I told you, calm down, calm down. Everybody calm down. It's true, though. It's true. Like I've done it with the with the with the like I've gotten the crabs and cooked the crabs down and took all the meat out, and it was good, but I don't know, it's something about that fake imitation. Oh no, and this is on video, Lord have mercy. Why do you do that? Oh, because it tastes so good to see you. It tastes oh my gosh. Now I'm gonna go buy some lobster because I'm like dying to have some.

SPEAKER_01:

That's funny. Your all-time favorite food to eat. That means it's like it's that it's the food that let's describe it like this. It's the food that's just you to the happy place. It's like evokes the best memories.

SPEAKER_00:

Like okay.

SPEAKER_01:

You crave it from time to time. You crave it, you just gotta have it. Like, what is that thing? What's that?

SPEAKER_00:

That's uh that's um something in Puerto Rico we may call pernil, which is a roasted pork shoulder. Um, and it is cooked down to like the you put your fork in and just falls apart and shreds off, and you have that with a little bit of sofrito and some um and uh pigeon peas. Yeah, rice and pigeon peas, Spanish rice. Well, you listen, you from New York, so there's no way you never had any of this, okay? You know you had all of I know you have, but that brings me back to my grandparents and my parents. You know, that brings me way back.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I like my phone room. I know what it is, but I haven't had that, but I had all types of stuff. My fungal somebody I haven't had, all right. So what no, I haven't had it yet. So, what's the dish you're trying to master still? Because I ever dishes like you know what, I can't get this thing quite right. Mine's more in the baking realm because baking wasn't my thing, I can do it, but it was like uh it was a it was a struggle more than it is to be in the side. What's the chlorinary dishes you're trying to master right now? What is what's the winner?

SPEAKER_00:

That's such a good question. I don't know if there's uh uh like a dish I want to master, but there is something I do want to learn, which is um like gastronomy, right? Like when they when they take like these unusual flavors and turn it into something weird, and you're just like, how in the world did you do that? Like that kind of stuff, because I'm a farm to table type of girl, right? So everything was I had in my restaurant, I had the 20 um foot-long beds of um vegetation. I did all, I had my beehives, uh the whole thing, right? So it's all like from the from the garden into the table for the restaurant, and it was amazing. Um, but I never got into like the gastronomy work and all of the like the the jellies and the gels and the how do we, you know, I don't know, make uh make fish soup out of a jelly. I don't know. So that's the kind of thing I think I want to master now. I want to get into.

SPEAKER_01:

Ah, that's that's that's high. Like going into the science now.

SPEAKER_00:

Yes, yes, yes. I think it's cool.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I enjoyed it to a degree where I'm like, man, this is this is stressful because we get this thing wrong. It was like it was a precise science, yeah. Gotta be right or the whole nightmare. So that was what's a trend. I'm coming close to the end here. Yeah, I might just scare back a little bit, but uh, as it pertain to being a transformational coach, what would you say is a transmissional advice you yourself needed to take?

SPEAKER_00:

Hmm, that's a good question, and I think for me it was uh reframing. Um it was taking something, looking at it uh objectively and reframing what it's there for. Um, and I've realized that that has actually transformed my life because I have my master's certification and neurolinguistic programming, and that's what did it for me when I started to see, oh, okay, so um this thing happened, but why did that happen? Right? Like what's the reframing there? So instead of oh, it happened to me, it was more like, oh, it happened to me. Why? Right? So I started to reframe like different things that were happening in my life to actually see what it is God was gonna go ahead and utilize that for. Like, why did I go through the abuse? Well, because there's a woman out here that is abused and needs me, you know, and I and when I started to reframe thoughts and reframe the way I see things, that is the one thing that did start transforming my life because I realized that purpose wasn't found in chasing success, right? It's uncovering uh when we have to surrender to God, right? That is purpose. What does God place me here for anyway? Why am I here? So I started to really start thinking about how do I become aligned and take all of the stuff that we have either invented that happened in our mind in our life or actually happened, but we added to it, you know, because we have to put a little bit of our own sauce on it, you know. Um yeah, so I realized, you know what? Reframing was one of the biggest tools um ever. And I still use it. So if like you insulted me right now and we got into a fight or whatever, I would walk away from that and say, Why did that happen? Oh, maybe I need to do this next time, or that's the reason, or uh, what did I learn from that? Or maybe Mr. U needed to let off some steam. Maybe he's gonna go, you know what I mean? Like you start reframing things, you're not a victim anymore. You start to become an analyst.

SPEAKER_01:

You sound like a wonderful friend if you if you can do that, because a lot of friends will not go that far, they'll put the blame on somebody else and they keep on moving. They won't look in the mirror at all.

SPEAKER_00:

So I know, I know, unfortunately.

SPEAKER_01:

If you can look at because you talk about you you built two frameworks, I'm we're getting close to the last few questions of the show, but you built a framework, well, a couple of them. Uh, one's called Purpose by Design. And your and your wealth, wealth to wisdom, wisdom to framework.

SPEAKER_00:

Wisdom to wealth, mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01:

I'd love for you to kind of share why you created those and who they're for.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, so I work with women mainly. Um, and it's women who really want to um have their own coaching businesses, but they just really don't know if they're good enough or they can't or whatever, right? So I built a whole framework on inner inner healing. Um, and we talk about shame and forgiveness and all the childhood traumas and all the things, and then we talk about transcending. How do you start to get through that? And it's all Christian-based. And I wasn't all Christian based before. And there's women who come to me that aren't Christians, but they are they know from the get that I'm gonna be talking about God. The word of God will be used and will be put in there. So if you're good with that, come on in. Um, but then we talk about how do you define your your values? Who are you actually? Right? What is important to you? And how do you go from where you are to where you want to be? And so I use a lot of my um my uh Christian training, I use a lot of my neurolinguistic programming, my positive intelligence. I use All of the life coaching, all the tools that I have. And then when these women are ready, we go ahead and build out their business. Because a lot of people come to me, they're like, I want to do this. And then they realize they don't want to do that at all. They don't want to do that at all. They thought they did. Um, but you know, I think that happens a lot to all of us, right? We grow and expand and move, and as we get more revelation, we also get transformation. So we start moving and changing.

unknown:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

So that's what I do is I work with women and I help them get out of their own way so they can build the businesses they really want to build.

SPEAKER_01:

That's good stuff. When somebody comes through that uh is a new entrepreneur and they want to get into the coaching room, and this is somebody the coach talking to a coach here. So I always throw in coaching questions because I'm just intrigued by the idea of coaching and what mountains we have to climb sometimes to what we do. But what's one of the biggest mistakes that you see a new entrepreneur making? How can they avoid it?

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, you take on everybody. That's a problem, right? Or you think that because you put your name out there, a thousand people are gonna be knocking at your door. None of that is true. No, you will build it and they will not come. Okay, so let's just get that together, first of all. Secondly, um, now you're desperate. So the first person comes in, does not match you at all, and you go ahead and you try to take on that client because you can help them with building their car, even though you've never built a car before in your life. Stop the nonsense. Work in your genius, work in your genius. Everybody has a genius, work in it, okay? Find out what it is you're really, really good at and what people really come to you, and then do the one thing and not the 52,000 things that you can do. Because I can do 52,000 things too, but not everybody wants it, and I'm not gonna be an expert at it. Okay. So that's the biggest mistake. I think that um if we can just pause for a second and actually look at that person across the screen and say, is this my ideal client for real? For real, right? And be honest with yourself because the more you come at this authentically, the more people will be attracted to you. I think we can all read BS. We can all read it, right? So if you came to me right now and said, Hey, Nina, I want to work with you, I'm like, nope. Well, first of all, you're a man, I don't work with men, right? So, I mean, like you have to know who your people are. Who is that person? And stop trying to be everything to everybody because then you're nothing to nobody.

SPEAKER_01:

But it can't, I got another question. So that's that's definitely definitely uh a candidate for the mic moment of the show. Um, I love that because I had uh uh a little bit of work with them. I don't think you were able to see our shares a little tiny bit on social media and on the video, but I had you know, I got a high performance coaching practice, and I was trying to meet the needs of specific folks. The last time we talked, I would tell you about certain people who I was trying to uh serve and dramatically changed since the last time we talked. Now I'm I'm serving men specifically. I got some good advice, some good counsel from a coaching friend of mine, and now I'm serving men who are in a specific place, and as opposed to the whole entrepreneur base or a whole solopreneur base that I was doing before. I'm like, oh yes, so I love that. I hear from my butt last question for the show. We always ask all of our guests to come to answer this. It's always a deep question because we got to go into the archives a little bit to get the answer of it most times. It's called the CMV question. I'm taking everything off of the table, career mission, vocation that you've done up to this point. Not to diminish your work because you've done fantastic work, Nina.

SPEAKER_00:

Thank you.

SPEAKER_01:

This is just an exercise in uh yeah, it's just a hypothetical, I guess you could say. So all the things off of the table that you've already done, career-wise, mission-wise, and vocation-wise. What do you believe Lina Pettez is doing today that she hasn't done yet?

SPEAKER_00:

What do I believe that I will be doing today that I haven't done yet? That is a phenomenal question.

SPEAKER_01:

It could be a uh a vocation. What do you think you be doing? So I'm trying to jeopardy music, so you're kind of on your own with this.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, yeah, you're funny. No, I'm just trying to understand the question. So is it something that I will be doing today that I haven't done before?

SPEAKER_01:

It could be, but it's more of a hypothetical, like you know what, if you weren't uh doing the work that you've already done to the point in cases where you had been career-wise, I'm talking about so that means writing books and being an incredible chef, a trainer, coach, all that stuff is off of the table. What do you think you're doing?

SPEAKER_00:

I think I would be um, I think I would be traveling more. I think I would be traveling and helping people more. I think that's what I would really be doing. I love I've always wanted to travel, I just never get the chance. I'm always working, I'm always like, you know, you know, catering to to the next big thing I have going on or whatever. And the so the travel part has not been established. But I think that if I didn't have to do any of these things and I can just go into like a different country and help somebody, I think I would do that. And I mean help them like um, I don't know, uh help them what's that building building uh build building homes, maybe, maybe building homes, maybe um just helping minister to them, maybe uh helping them see their worth and their beauty. You know, I think I think that I mean, I used to literally go to New York City, and my husband would he he would probably laugh if he heard me say this, but we would go together and I would literally sit on the ground with all the homeless people and just talk to them. And he would be like, babe, and I'm like, hold on, you know, he's like holding my bags and he's waiting there like this freaking woman, you know, and I'm just sitting on the floor, like, hey, so tell me what can I do for you and how can I pray for you and what can we do? And do you believe in God and why don't you believe in God? And we need to bring God in this and dah-da-da-da. And I'm just like sitting on floors in in the middle of Manhattan, just chilling. Um, but it's I it's my heart, I think, just to want people to know the Lord and then to understand who he is in their life so that they can live their fullest life right now, today, because you and I are in promise tomorrow, right? So if we have this moment, we should take advantage.

SPEAKER_01:

Incredible idea. Any chance that this can happen for you in the future?

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, of course. I think I definitely see it happening for sure. Um yeah, I want to do it.

SPEAKER_01:

I can't wait to see that. I love to talk to you when that stuff starts to uh germinate. It's not thank you. Well, ladies and gentlemen, she's our author, speaker, culinary leader, and the creator of Purpose by Design and the Wism to Wealth Frameworks, and perhaps, just maybe, TNX Transformational Coach, Nina Perez. You can check her out on her website, go.ninaperez.com. I'll put it up on the screen for you guys again so you can grab it for those that are watching, those that are listening, gotta just hear me sound it out for you. Go.nina N-E-E-N-A Perez P-R-E-Z.com. Go.ninaperez. Check out. Glad she'd be glad to hear from you. Any closing thoughts for us, Nina, for our audience today? Anything you want to share real quick?

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, you're not stuck, you're just not moving forward. Just keep it moving.

SPEAKER_01:

I love it. You're not stuck, you're just not moving forward. Good stuff. Thanks again for watching and listening to the show. Uh, this episode will be live in most social media platforms with a couple of exceptions. We'll have to end within the hour, and uh, and of course, within the hour also on all listening platforms, whether you enjoy your podcast. That's Nina Fedez. I'm Mr. U. We're out. Have a great day. Thanks again for watching and for listening.

unknown:

Thanks.

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