Military Wellness Collective
Military Wellness Collective is made up of four friends — two retired Marines (Joshua and Brian) turned church planters and their wives (Brittany and Kelli)— who have lived life both in uniform and on the home front. Together, we share real stories, hard-earned wisdom, and practical, biblical encouragement to help military members, and their families thrive in every season. Whether you’re navigating deployments, adjusting to life in a new town, or simply seeking hope in the middle of your military journey, our mission is to equip you with truth from God’s Word and tools for a healthy, resilient life.
Military Wellness Collective
EP 22: How To Set Godly Boundaries When “Normal” Feels Unknown
When “normal” keeps shifting under your feet, you don’t need guesswork—you need a compass you can trust. We tackle a listener’s question about boundaries and point straight to Scripture for clarity, then translate those principles into real-life guardrails for military marriages and daily discipleship. Think warning tracks, not brick walls: practical cues that help you protect what is good before you collide with what can break you.
We dive into the high-risk zones we see most often around the force—adultery, alcohol, and pornography—and show how small compromises become big failures. Proverbs 5 offers both a sober warning and a hopeful plan: flee what destroys and actively delight in your spouse. We also discuss why the same boundary won’t fit every season. Deployments, duty stations, and friend groups change the playing field, so wise couples review and reset expectations for opposite-sex interactions, alcohol use, digital transparency, and communication rhythms.
Throughout the conversation, we keep it practical: adopt public, transparent meeting spaces; avoid one-on-one privacy with the opposite sex; set alcohol rules or abstain during vulnerable seasons; use accountability tools on devices; and schedule regular heart-level check-ins. Just as important, we emphasize pursuit over mere prohibition—fill the vacuum by investing in your spouse with prayer, honesty, and shared routines that nourish intimacy. Pride says “I’d never,” but humility builds guardrails that let you run free without drifting. If this resonates, share it with your unit or spouse, subscribe for more biblically grounded tools, and leave a review telling us the boundary you plan to set this week.
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Share with us the boundaries you and your spouse plan to put into action at Hello@militarywellnesscollective.com
Check out Brian's blog on this topic at https://brianoday.com/2025/02/07/lets-talk-about-sex-prevent-adultery/
Grab the book; Strengthen Your Marriage, by Wayne Mack (Brian's recommendation) here Amazon.com: Strengthening Your Marriage (Audible Audio Edition): Wayne A. Mack, Jim Denison, christianaudio.com: Books
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Hey, hey, welcome back to another episode of the Military Wellness Collective. We are stoked you're here. I'm joined by my husband Joshua. I'm Brittany, if I didn't say that. And by our friends Joshua and Kelly. Look, we're a couple weeks into New Year. It's gonna be okay.
SPEAKER_05:We're also a rousing start. We don't know. When we first started the podcast, it was like, should we start over? Should we start over? And now it's like nobody asked. We're gonna roll with it now.
SPEAKER_02:We made a commitment. We had a really I think Britney assaulted you or something in an early.
SPEAKER_00:And then I said, let's start over.
SPEAKER_01:I love it.
SPEAKER_03:There's no starting over.
SPEAKER_01:We are so thankful for you guys that are listening regularly. And just I I feel like you're friends, even though I don't know you. And so we're just thankful for you guys. If you've been listening and you found this podcast helpful, we encourage you to share it with someone. We truly just want to be a resource for you, a supplement to your local church, and just helpful with our experience.
SPEAKER_02:Like we preach expositorily, expositive, exposition, whatever, however, you do that. Like we preach through passages of scripture. We would love to have these conversations in our preaching, but our commitment to preaching doesn't allow this. So this is like a supplement of how do we talk about these topics with our folks.
SPEAKER_05:Yeah, and it's really about what the Bible majors on and what it minors on. Um like there are times in scripture when people go off to war and then come back. And it's very few, like when you're walking through books of the Bible. And so But in our congregations, there's a lot of people doing that regularly. Right. So we actually want to talk about it more, but scripture talks about it less. And so, yeah, it there are topics that don't really get covered as much.
SPEAKER_01:So I'm excited about today's topic. Last week we did a listener question. This week we're gonna do another listener question. So we are stoked that you are sending us questions.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, and we've actually the whole show could turn into questions.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, because we get to talk to you about things that matter that you are wanting to work through in your military lives. And so that's exciting to me. This question is what boundaries should I set when I have no compass for what's normal? Now, we've gotten this question a few times, but I think this is a question that we all could say we wish people would ask more. Like you're thinking about it. Do I need boundaries? Are boundaries biblical? This could go in so many directions. And this is something Joshua and I had to learn early on in our marriage. What healthy boundaries are. Are boundaries scriptural? I just wanted to know.
SPEAKER_02:Boundaries from what?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I wonder. I know. Yeah. I mean, this could be so many things. This could be opposite sex, this could be boundaries when your husband ports somewhere. This could be boundaries with your in-laws.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, boundaries with alcohol, boundaries with alcohol.
SPEAKER_01:I just this is a broad question, very broad, but I would like to say one thing to this question before we start. When we say what boundaries should I set when I have no compass for what's normal?
SPEAKER_02:That's a trap for us.
SPEAKER_01:I want to, yeah, I want to point you to the compass of all compasses, and that is the word of God, and encourage you to start there. Whatever you're looking for a boundary for, what does the Lord actually say about whether it's your marriage, whether it's alcohol, whether it's parenting, in-laws, I don't know, anything. Go to the word of God. That is gonna be your compass. So as we go through this, hopefully we'll point you to the compass, the word of God, and help you to learn about boundaries and how to set them well. Brian, what are you gonna say? I see you burning over there with something.
SPEAKER_02:So it's a trap for us because you're saying, What should I do? And I love giving advice. Like, I it's one of my favorite things to do. It's almost like we started a podcast to give advice.
SPEAKER_00:Yes, yes.
SPEAKER_02:But like that's dangerous.
SPEAKER_00:You're not all knowing.
SPEAKER_02:Because I'm not all knowing at all. So we've got to think through what does the Bible say? Can I jump into my analogy? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Please. I've got an analogy for this. So I don't love playing baseball, but imagine I did for a second. So, like playing baseball is the goal. Right? That's the goal. So when we're talking about alcohol, when we're talking about, you know, relationships with the opposite sex, when we're talking about marriage, when we're talking about all whatever the topic is for boundaries, step one is what does the Bible say about the goodness of the thing that we're trying to do in the analogy, play baseball. The boundaries are keeping me away from the bad thing. And so I think about this like warning tracks. So around a baseball field, there's fences. Running into a fence at full speed takes you out of the game of playing baseball. Right. And we don't so we don't want to do that. So they put these warning tracks in right around right before the wall. And I looked it up, they are designed to give players a three-step warning at full speed. So if you're running full speed looking up at a fly ball and you're running full speed and you know there's a wall coming, you're gonna feel this like grass, grass, grass, crunch, crunch. You better brace for impact because you're about to hit a wall. And so marriage is awesome. Marriage is great. It's like playing baseball. Adultery is like running full speed into a brick wall. You might be able to go play marriage again later, but it's going to take a whole lot of work, a whole lot of rehab, and a whole lot of counseling to work through adultery.
SPEAKER_03:Yes.
SPEAKER_02:And so we're trying to put some warning tracks in place so we can keep playing baseball, so we can keep doing the good thing that God has for us and not run full speed into a brick wall. Man, I want to add to that analogy so bad.
SPEAKER_05:I'm just gonna let it fly.
SPEAKER_01:So like a fly ball.
SPEAKER_05:Good job. So the what a lot of people don't realize about baseball is it's it's one of the most interesting sports because of the baseball fields that they play on. They're all different. They're all different. So the bases are all the bases are all the same. Like the the other thing. But the outfield, the foul, the outfield. Everything's different. Some of them are longer, some of them are shorter, some of them are taller, some of them are shorter. Like some of them are uh a hard thing to run into, some of them have waterfalls, some of them they're just all different and weird, right? They're all different and weird. They are. They're all they all have like different ways. So like that warning track can start earlier. So if a player is playing in in a certain field that's really, really large, he's gonna think the wall is further away.
SPEAKER_03:Okay.
SPEAKER_05:And so he's gonna play, and he's he thinks he has 20 steps before he hits the warning track. He actually has 30 if he's in a longer field, but he's even less in a small smaller field. So those boundaries are different depending on where you're playing at. Likewise, here's where a connection comes in. Let's do it. The different boundaries for each couple is going to be slightly different, just like you're on a different field. Seasons of life. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Seasons of life and different couples, duty stations, job, everything.
SPEAKER_05:You might have different boundaries for a deployment than you would if you when you're home from a deployment. That's okay. Like those boundaries change. Yeah. Yeah. You might have different boundaries if you're going out with a set of friends compared to when you're going out on date night with just you and your wife. You might have different boundaries, you know, fill in the blank. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:One thing I want to say too is just like knowing our need for those because we know, like in the analogy, we know the wall is there. Yes. You know, and I think whatever it is, like knowing our own depravity and our own sinful heart. I think so many times we can be prideful and be like, I don't need this boundary because I would never. I would never do this to my husband, or you know, to hurt this, or I would never drink too much, or I would, I would never, but man, I feel like anytime I say that, it's like learn that lesson of like, I know I am sinful. I am prone to wonder. And I I like so those warning signs, the warning tracks need to be important to us. So we need to see that that, you know.
SPEAKER_05:Man, I'm gonna take this analogy even further. You ready for this? No, gosh. Okay.
SPEAKER_00:We're gonna go too far, man.
SPEAKER_05:If the outfielder is out, we're gonna lose the field. Oh, this is gonna be great. It'll break down somewhere. But it'll it'll it'll be fun. If the outfielder says there is no wall and runs for the ball, right? Runs straight into the wall, he's gonna hurt himself.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_05:But almost more importantly, and more importantly to even the outfielder, is you're gonna hurt your team. You're gonna hurt your spouse, you're gonna hurt your own. Everybody can link to everybody around you, all of your fans, all of your followers, your whole team. Everybody who's close to you is gonna be hurt.
SPEAKER_04:Doesn't it just affect to you?
SPEAKER_02:You're not gonna catch the ball. Right. And you're out of the game. Yeah, you're out of the game, most likely. So good. I we've been doing this for a while. We introduced ourselves a little bit lengthier last episode, but we've been doing this for a while. We've walked through this ourselves. We now, as pastors, pastors' wives, walk through this with others. When someone says, I would never commit adultery, I would never throw away my whole life in a drunken night of stupidity. When someone says that to us, it is like complete warning sirens are going off in my mind, and we're here to say they should be going off in your mind as well. If you're walking in that mindset, you are in danger, danger, danger. Because what is it? What's the root sin going on there? Pride. Pride.
SPEAKER_05:We did not practice that when we all said goodbye at the same time.
SPEAKER_01:I just want to say, in alignment with what Brian just said, the warning signs going off. In my mind, if I'm sitting in a counseling session with someone and they say that, immediately my thought is, you will do that. Like I know that sounds like a bold statement, but if we are so deceived in our hearts and so prideful that we think we can withstand the wiles of the enemy, and I feel like you just put a target on your back and he's coming for you. And the Bible tells us he's like a roaring lion and he's prowling about seeking who he can devour. And he's going after you in areas that you think you've got covered because you're probably doing it in your own strength if you don't think you need that warning track, that boundary. So I'm just gonna tell you that's what I'm thinking, and I I've learned that in my own life. Like if I say, I'll never do that, never break an angel head.
SPEAKER_02:There's a past episode. Listen to past episodes. There is there's a passage that's in your Bible twice, and I'm one of them is in First Peter 5. I forgot to look at this ahead of time, but God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble. So if you're like, I would never God opposes that. And you're right, Satan is looking for that, and he's like, I got you. Satan's looking for it, but God opposes it. But he gives grace, he gives grace to the humble. And so if you're humble and say, Lord, left to my own devices, I would commit adultery. Left to my own devices, I would wreck my whole life, my whole baseball team, my whole family, my whole church. In one night of drunken stupidity, I could wreck it all. Now, there is redemption if you've if you like there's redemption, but it's going to take a massive amount of work. The best place to not do that stuff is beforehand. So let's prep, let's prepare, and let's put some warning tracks in place.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_05:Yeah. So I'm not gonna uh curious what y'all you've we've talked to a lot of different people, and I don't want to like hijack this, but I am curious.
SPEAKER_04:No, yeah.
SPEAKER_05:Like the the different people that we've talked to, like for instance, before deployment, and we talk to them about, hey, this is what deployment's gonna look like, this is the way our communication is gonna happen through the deployment, and we kind of help them walk through like how to think through that well. We also typically will ask them, what boundaries are you putting in place for your marriage? What are some of those boundaries that we've heard in the past that and the reason I'm asking in this way is so that we don't give away our own specific boundaries because I don't want anybody out there in who's listening to this to go, oh well, you know, Brian's boundary is this, so I'm gonna make that my boundary and just because Brian did it, instead of going, no, no, no, you need to go back to scripture and you need to know what works for you and you need to pray about this and work through this with your own husband, your own wife, and figure this out. But what are some examples of some we've we've dealt with in the past?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, just the point on when you do make a rule for your marriage, your season, don't don't put that rule on everybody else. Yeah. Does that make sense? So kind of to the to piggyback on what Joshua's saying. Like just don't that's that's legalism when you take personal rules that are not explicitly in scripture and you put them on other people, right?
SPEAKER_01:That's a good point. I do think with the clarity of that, this does not mean like what we've just been pounding into the ground about pride, that you look at but the Bible and you're like, No, I love Jesus, so I don't need a boundary. Jesus is my boundary. Yeah, Jesus is your boundary, and Jesus sets boundaries, friends. Like just think about salvation. There's only one way, it's through Jesus Christ, through what he has done. God sets boundaries for us and to image him. We set boundaries to protect our marriages and to love each other well. But yes.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, so some of the rules. So famously there are the Billy Graham rules. Okay, Mike Pence got a hard time, vice president, former vice president Mike Pence got a hard time for following some of the Billy Graham rules. These are just tried and true. Billy Graham, I think he died in his 90s, the most popular evangelist in the past hundred years, Billy Graham. And he he had some rules for him and his team of traveling evangelists. And it was things like he would never be alone with another woman that's not his wife, or like his daughters, and you know, but so he was never alone with a woman that was not his wife. They had rules about how they handled money and and what they would do with that. And I assume I actually don't know if this was on there, but I don't think they drank alcohol, like just that, that whole like world, like they just did not drink alcohol. And and so there's nothing in scripture that says thou shalt never drink alcohol. It's against drunkenness. And we see a situation where Paul tells Timothy, like, hey, you should have some wine for your stomach, right? So we see some of those types of things, but for them, they're like the danger for drunkenness for us, we're just not gonna drink alcohol. There's you know, you could have oh, sometimes the military will try to say, like, to drink limit. Okay, well, that's a rule. Is it arbitrary? Sure. But is it keeping you from you know, doing something, acting like an idiot and being drunk? Yes. And so we in combat, every combat zone I've been in, there was a no alcohol rule. Right. And so we've just so those are just some of the realms for me, like pastoring, I don't take money. So, like, if somebody, if I'm meeting with somebody on Tuesday morning and they're like, Oh, I forgot to like put our offering in the in the box on Sunday. Can you here? I'll just give it to you. Like, nope, you can just bring it next Sunday or give online or whatever the case is. And so these are just some of the realms of like put some rules in place. And somebody may call you a prude, somebody call you legalistic. Like, I'm not telling you to do them, I'm just saying these are just good, healthy rules.
SPEAKER_01:I want to say something about the drunkenness really quick, because I think in the military culture in the Christian church, we I have heard defined differently. Like, people be like, Well, I was tipsy and I did this, and and they don't want to call it what it is. The way that I look at if I if you've drank too much, is are you being ruled by the spirit? Are you feeling a little too relaxed and too comfortable? Like, just so you know, don't fool yourself. Like, don't don't call things something else instead of just calling it what it is. I just gonna call that out right there.
SPEAKER_02:And the the government defines it. Like, we don't want you operating a motor vehicle with this much alcohol in your bloodstream.
SPEAKER_00:Yes.
SPEAKER_02:Like, if you're breaking that, you're probably not ready to like do your job on the spur of the moment. You're probably not ready to make really life-altering decisions. And so, and at all times, as Christians, at all times, we're making life-altering decisions. And so we can't be limited and under the influence of substance. So that's alcohol, that's drugs, all those types of things.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I think so. Oh, go ahead and do that.
SPEAKER_05:I'm sorry, there's there's an aspect of this that I think too many people don't talk about. And that is that scripture talks about our tongue in a very, very dangerous, like, hey, you need to be very mindful of this. And the second you get to that point of tipsy or buzzed, your tongue gets real loose.
SPEAKER_03:Right.
SPEAKER_05:Your personality changes, your words change, exactly. And you can cause some of those life-altering conversations to happen real quick. Even if you you believe you're like above falling into adultery, if you believe you're falling you're above, you know, oops, I'm gonna grab jump in the car and get a DWI or DUI or whatever. You can say some things when you're in that state that will really wreck some relationships.
SPEAKER_02:And there's a scary passage. Again, I've failed to have good addresses for the passage, but that we will give an account for every careless word. Every careless like that in and of itself should slow up.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I I just I bring up the alcohol because we're talking to military, right? That is just heavily inundated in our culture. And sometimes I think that we think, oh, well, drunk is like I'm passed out and can't remember what happened. So if I if I'm not at that point, then I'm not drunk. And I just want to admonish us as Christians, like we need to be better than that and above that. And not because Britney says so, but because the word of God tells us to live differently. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:So this is this is like we're we're wondering like what types of things do we need boundaries on? Yeah. Right. So we've talked about adultery, we've talked about alcohol and substance.
SPEAKER_01:I feel like those are two real big ones. Those are kind of pornography.
SPEAKER_02:Pornography is a subset of adultery, sexual sin, right? So if we're those are life altering, they are going, they are going to destroy your life if you if you if it gets out of control. They're gonna take you out of the game. Yeah. At least temporarily.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I feel like in our culture, right? I don't know if you all would agree with me, in the military culture, those three things are probably some of the biggest things we see. Yeah. And things that maybe younger military members aren't really thinking that they need boundaries for. And then we see the backside of that, like, oh no, I didn't have a boundary. This is what happened. And then we're coming in to like fix it, restore it.
SPEAKER_02:Another lie that we tell ourselves. So one lie was, I will never do that. Another one is I'm not as bad as dot dot. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's a good one. There's always somebody worse. Right. Well, I'm not, and we just like, yeah, I'm not as I'm not as bad as this person. I'm not, you could even say, I'm not as bad as this person who claims to be a Christian, or I'm not, whatever.
SPEAKER_01:Or on the other side of that, well, so and so does it, and they say they're a believer. So we're following them, which is why to me, this question of I have no compass for what's normal, you have to go to the word of God and see. And I love Brian's thing he said at the beginning, know what is good because that's what you're putting the boundary in place. You want to protect what's good. You want to thrive in this military life. It doesn't matter what everybody else is doing. You want to be praying through these things with your spouse. You want to be looking into the word of God, you want to be being transformed by the word of God and making these boundaries, not some legalistic rule.
SPEAKER_02:So I do have one passage that I know where it is. Proverbs chapter five. Okay. I would love to read the whole chapter, but I'm not going to right now. The whole chapter is about the adulteress and staying away from the forbidden woman or the adulteress. And it's really interesting. A couple things are said throughout that passage. Like it talks about how awful going after the adulteress or the forbidden woman. And obviously, this could be used the other direction as well for women towards men. But anyway, so the danger is it ultimately leads to death. So that helps you see the seriousness of it. It also says that you die, the very end of the passage is you die for lack of discipline. So that's interesting. Like I thought we were talking about the spirit. I thought we were talking about I thought we were talking about adultery, and you now all of a sudden you're talking about discipline. It also says that you refuse to listen to your teachers and your counselors, people who are trying to say, hey, this is not good, this is not a good path for you. You reject that. The other thing he talks about is the antidote for adultery is to love your wife. Dedicate yourself to your wife. And he gets pretty explicit. He talks about like, let your fountain be dressed, re bless, rejoice in the wife of your youth, let her breasts fill you at all times with delight. Be intoxicated, always in her love, like love your wife and discipline yourself from the forbidden woman.
SPEAKER_05:Yeah, it's really hard to imagine a situation if I'm sitting around just doubting on my wife and talking about how great she is and just loving her well, and then also falling into some sort of adulterous relationship with somebody else.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_05:Like the precursor of falling into an adulterous relationship is souring your relationship with your your wife. And then, oh, now there's space for bringing in somebody else. But if you're constantly drawing closer to your wife, there's no space for anybody in between.
SPEAKER_00:I do want to speak something that's a little different because I think this is just a personal testimony, I guess. Like when Brian was deployed, I mean, I was so sad that he was leaving. So we had a great marriage. I loved him so much. I probably was on the line of being prideful, like I I would never. But yet when we were physically separated because of a deployment, I remember struggling with things that I had never struggled with before. I remember going to the gym on base and I craved other men to look at me because I hadn't had, you know, like, you know, and it that's when I think the humility comes in. It's so important because that should scare you. I mean, you know, like I remember just being kind of fearful of that, like and kind of naming it. You have to name it. You can't just like push that away, or it's just like, oh, like it should be a warning sign. Like, this is not good that I want other men to look at me or I crave that. And I remember a friend telling me this, and it was helpful for me. It was before, no, I think it was after, in between some deployments. But she had said that, you know, she had this neighbor, they had been neighbors for three or four years, but her husband was deployed and he had come over to get the key to their shed so he could cut the grass. And she said, for the first time ever, she said, I'd never been attracted to him. I'd never, but she was like, My husband was gone, he was standing there, and I had this draw to him. And she was like, It scared me so much, I just slammed my door.
SPEAKER_03:She was like, Good for her. I know.
SPEAKER_00:And I just remember being like, Oh, that's good. Because it's like we can think so much that, like, and even have boundaries in place. But our minds and our hearts, yeah, like they're still prone to wonder, you know. And so that's where we gotta get to and and be like just realizing that we are prone to that and be ready to confess it, name it, whatever when those things are coming up.
SPEAKER_01:I think that's really good, Kelly, because I think back I was so infatuated with Joshua. Like, I would never do that. I probably was there too. But when I would drink, I would get really flirtatious. Like, I'm already outgoing and like, and it was over the top. And it wasn't until you were getting ready to leave. And I mean, we weren't even Christians yet. And we were like, okay, we don't want to end up like our what we came from. And we had to make a decision of not to drink because it was like, you are super flirtatious. I'm gonna be gone. And I would have never thought of like willingly seeking that out. I loved my husband, but it was a boundary we had to put in place because obviously I was drinking too much. I just want to acknowledge that. But having, I love that, like you have to name it and call it out and then do something about it. You can't just, it reminds me of I think it's a parable Jesus talks about when he goes in, there's a demon in the house, he sweeps the house and it's just left empty. And then seven stronger ones come. You can't just like put it away and then not fill it with something good. And so you need to, that's what that boundary is. It's the goodness you're filling it with. So I just want I relate to that so much.
SPEAKER_02:So on the topic of adultery and preventing adultery, I've got a little pre-deployment kind of like series of articles, and we'll we'll link that. It's on Brianoday.com. And on one of those articles, we talk about this. I I basically summarize what a guy by the name of Wayne Mack does in a DVD series, rebuilding a marriage after adultery. And he goes through a chain of events that leads to adultery. Okay. A chain of events number 19 on the list is actual sexual involvement. That's number 19. It's not number three, it's not number two, it's number 19.
SPEAKER_03:Right.
SPEAKER_02:Number one, so back to Kelly's example she just gave. Number one, presence of a certain internal and or external circumstantial factors. The military, we live in that all the time. Yes, yes. Her husband was gone. Number two, growing awareness of a particular person. There was a neighbor coming over to cut the grass. Time spent thinking about the person's attractiveness. That's step three. You're you're you're starting down the path. And one thing I want to- Nobody knows.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, and one thing I want to point out in this too is where our heart is. Are we humble or even like entitled? Like, well, my husband's not here. Yeah. Like, I want to feel beautiful. Nobody's telling me I'm pretty. So I like if that's where we are, that's scary. Yeah. Or are we, you know, frightened by these.
SPEAKER_02:And there's two, I love the example. That was a friend you said, or somebody of that slammed the door.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, yeah, yeah. So there's two verbs that we get in the Bible about sexual immorality. Abstain, that means don't like don't do this, stay away from this. The other one is flee, run away from it. So stop, don't do it, slam the door, run away, whatever. Flee. Recognize the warning track.
SPEAKER_01:We are gonna post to that article because I think it'll be good for those that are asking, how do I set boundaries? What do what does that look like? How do I think through that well? It will give you some things to pray about, to talk about with your spouse. And I cannot agree more with I've said this for years. You don't just wake up one day and commit adultery. Like there are things that lead you down that path. Yes. It's like little breadcrumbs that the enemy lays out. You pick them up along the way, and then, and then, oh, how did that happen? So I think that article will be good. So we're gonna link to that. We have to cut this one short. We could probably talk forever about boundaries. Well, we're not even cutting it short. Probably a little over. So we just want to thank you guys for continuing to listen. We love your questions. Let us know what you want us to talk about on the podcast. Send us a message through Instagram, follow us on military wellnesscollective.com, and please share us with your friends so that we can get in the ears of more military families and make sure you are joining a local church. We love you guys.