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Encouraging One Another Through Transparent Conversations
A single honest conversation can literally change the trajectory of someone's life - and during Suicide Awareness Month, this truth carries even more weight. After attending a suicide prevention conference, I was struck by a powerful insight: talking openly about difficult thoughts is one of the most effective ways to save lives.
We're all experts at small talk - those superficial exchanges where everyone is "fine" despite whatever storms rage beneath the surface. But what about the conversations that truly matter? Those heart-to-heart moments where we address the elephant in the room without judgment or agenda? These transparent dialogues communicate something profound: I see you. I love you. I care for you. I support you.
The Bible reminds us that challenges are part of the human experience. From Elijah's despair in 1 Kings to David's laments in the Psalms, scripture acknowledges our struggles. Yet four barriers typically prevent us from having meaningful conversations: fear of assuming, reluctance to jump to conclusions, worry about embarrassment, and concern about making things worse. Underlying all these is our hesitation to be vulnerable and truly "go there" with someone who's hurting.
Jesus taught us to love our neighbors as ourselves, and Paul encouraged the Philippians to consider others more important than themselves. When we apply these principles, we can move beyond our discomfort to focus on someone else's needs. This might mean taking time from our busy schedule to call a friend who's struggling, affirming their feelings without trying to fix them, and simply meeting them where they are.
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Just one transparent conversation can change the trajectory of someone's life. What prevents us from having those conversations and how do we initiate them? You're listening to Whole Heart Conversations, a podcast especially for women to boost your mental and emotional health and build resilience as you grow in your relationship with Jesus Christ. I'm your host, Constance Lavonice. September is National Suicide Awareness Month, and I recently attended a suicide prevention conference. One of the speakers grabbed my attention when she said that talking about what the person is contemplating is one of the most important mitigating factors that save lives. So, in recognition of Suicide Awareness Month and prevention and reducing the stigma around mental health, I want to talk about the importance of having a heart-to-heart conversation without an agenda, a conversation that expresses I see you, I love you, I care for you and I support you. For you and I support you. A conversation that changes circumstances.
Constance Lavonice:I believe we're all good at small talk. Hey girl, how are you doing? Oh, I'm doing okay. How about you? Oh, I'm doing fine. Well, you look good. Oh, you look good too. Well, it was nice seeing you. Yeah, the same, I'll talk to you later. Okay, bye-bye.
Constance Lavonice:Small talk, but are we good at having conversations that matter? But are we good at having conversations that matter, a conversation that addresses the elephant in the room. Life is good, but life is not all joy and laughter. We're going to have challenges in life Pain, loss, grief, difficulties that's all a part of life. The Bible allows us to reflect on some of the things that we can expect in life. About James, chapter 1, verse 2, states when you encounter various trials. The Bible is trying to tell us that we're going to face various trials. It's not a matter of if but when, and the Bible allows us to see the human condition through the people in the Bible, as we see in 1 Kings, chapter 19, verse 4, chapter 19, verse 4, when Elijah the prophet, was discouraged and he said enough, now, lord, take my life, for I am no better than my father's. And David stating in Psalm 42, verse 6, and Hannah, the mother of the prophet Samuel, is described as being greatly distressed in 1 Samuel, chapter 1, verse 10,. Knowing that we're going to face challenges in life and it's biblical and no one is exempt it's a part of our human experience.
Constance Lavonice:What prevents us from having transparent conversations with others, especially our family, friends or our circle of contact? I have four observations. The first is we don't want to assume. We don't want to make an assumption about a situation even though we're observing it. The second is we don't want to jump to conclusions, getting ahead of ourselves. Third, we may be wrong, we might embarrass ourselves. And the fourth reason is we don't want to say anything to stir up the situation. Say anything to stir up the situation because we think the person may feel worse or act on the situation if we were to mention it. But underlying all of this is the fear of truly being transparent and going there with that person, which leads us to how do we initiate these conversations?
Constance Lavonice:In Matthew, chapter 22, verses 35 through 39, an expert in religious law asked Jesus, teacher, which is the greatest commandment in your law? Jesus responded Love the Lord, your God, with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. And the second is like it Love your neighbor as yourself. Think about that. Love someone the way you want to be loved.
Constance Lavonice:Philippians, chapter 2, verse 3, tells us to do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but, with humility, consider one another as more important than yourselves. So, as we put these biblical principles in place, we're able to think about the needs of others as we do for ourselves. So what does that look like? Letting go of our own fears, getting out of our own head and focusing on someone else in the spirit of care and concern. In the spirit of care and concern, having no other agenda or judgment but to meet that person where they are. And for me, it's taking a moment from my busy schedule and calling a friend who's been dealing with a lot of stress from a life circumstance and asking her how she's doing and affirming her feelings wherever she is at that moment, meeting her at her point of need and in doing so, demonstrating the Apostle Paul's exhortation to the Thessalonians. Therefore, encourage one another and build each other up. Chapter 5, verse 11. And if you've heard anything helpful today, consider subscribing and sharing and text the show to let me know what's on your heart.
