S2 Ep.7 Midnight Thoughts, Mel Robbins & Mother’s Day 🌸☕✨

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In this completely unedited late-night Mother’s Day episode, I’m sharing random thoughts from the Starbucks line, reflections on motherhood, self-care, family chaos, tiny victories, and all the little moments that made this week meaningful.

From buying myself flowers to breakfast in bed after school drop-offs, seeing Mel Robbins live in Seattle, cleaning the house like my nervous system depended on it, fixing a broken toilet paper holder (yes, seriously 😂), fundraiser life, parenting through injuries and X-rays, late night Applebee’s runs, thrift store finds, and learning to slow down — this episode is basically one long voice note from my heart.

We talk about:

•  Mother’s Day expectations vs. reality 
•  Creating joy for yourself instead of waiting for permission 
•  Nervous system rest & slowing down 
•  Tiny daily acts of self-care 
•  Friendship, gratitude & community 
•  Parenting anxiety and trusting things will work out 
•  Why secondhand shopping is underrated 
•  Keeping promises to your kids (even at 9 PM 😅) 
•  Appreciating the life and home you’ve built 
•  Finding beauty in ordinary moments 

Books & Mentions:

• The Let Them Theory
• The 5 Second Rule
• Taylor Swift
•  Starbucks reflections, Applebee’s adventures & Dollar store treasures included ☕🍟🌼 

Reminder for every mom listening:
 Dog moms, cat moms, human moms, plant moms, zombie moms — you are loved more than you know. 💖

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Happy Mother’s Day. 🌷

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Transcript

Speaker 0:01

Hey everyone, so it is officially 12:12 AM and it is Mother's Day and I am recording this podcast. So I wrote a bunch of notes down and I'm just gonna read off my paper and it's completely not edited, so we will just see how this podcast goes. And I'm just glad you're here and I've had this song stuck in my head for a while and it's the song of Thank you for being a friend, traveling the road and back again. Thank you for being a friend. If you know, you know. All right, so here we go. Thoughts sitting in the Starbucks line. Usually the line goes really, really fast. I'm four cars back and tomorrow is Mother's Day and all week long I've been asking people,"What are you doing on Sunday to celebrate?" And I've heard,"We're going out to breakfast as a family and then for dinner my husband is going to barbecue, probably steak and do potatoes as well." Then another friend said,"My husband is making steak on Friday, so for Mother's Day we're having hamburgers and hot dogs," which sound really good to me. I guess I'm asking people because I still haven't made up my mind what I want to do for food tomorrow. I just know I don't want to cook and then I've seen all over social media people asking,"What are people doing for Mother's Day?" Then that got me thinking,"How about what am I not doing for Mother's Day?" Last Sunday I bought myself flowers and that felt really good. I actually bought myself two bouquets of flowers, a dozen hot pink long stem roses and bright yellow tiger lily flowers. I put them in the same vase and they're so pretty together. So my thoughts last Sunday was,"I'm gonna do something each day to celebrate myself and hopefully by next Sunday the kids and David will remember that it's Mother's Day and and I'll have made a decision on what we should do as a family and all the things that I do not want to do to make it a great day. I already know now I don't want to do any housework and I don't really want to make any decisions tomorrow. I should probably let them know what type of food I want to have and check the weather because if it's nice I really want to go take a walk. I do want to go out for ice cream, I know that. Um, I don't want to go out to any crowded restaurants, so I definitely want to do takeout or have David cook. He's a really good cook and I really appreciate that about him. So going back to each day of doing something special last week. So like I said, last Sunday I bought myself two bouquets of flower. On Monday and Tuesday after I had dropped off the kids at school, I had the chance to slow down my morning. So I grabbed my coffee and my breakfast and I went back and had breakfast in bed, which was actually really amazing to start the day slow and steady. It was so good for my nervous system. It felt like I could breathe and relax and I wasn't in a rush to get out the door. Um, obviously after getting them to school, but like before I had to start like my work day and there was no, um, meetings to rush to or work to get to. And I could start work a little later on both of those days and it really freed up a lot of space. So that's what I highly recommend. It's something I wish I would have done earlier, but it's one of those things like now that I know, it's like I can do better with that. Even if it's just one day a week where I get the kids out the door for school and then come back and do breakfast in bed or at least coffee in bed and just sit and ponder and meditate and read and not be on my phone. So then Wednesday, something I did for myself, I was able to find three friends. Two were teachers from the high school and another was a friend that I hadn't seen in a year and a half. Her name's Shelly and she lives in Seattle. Um, but we all met up in Seattle and we got to see Mel Robbins live. She is, if you don't know, she is a podcast speaker and author. She's amazing. She wrote the book, The Let Them Theory. And, um, she did so good, of course, because she's amazing. She has three kids and She shared about her and her husband in 2008 were like$800,000 in debt and how with each five-second decision, um, she just kept making a better choice to like put the alcohol down, to get out of bed, to make the phone call, to keep making these tiny little steps, like five, four, three, two, one, go. Five, four, three, two, one, go. And eventually she started sharing that on social media and teaching people that and she wrote a whole book on that. That's called The Five Second Rule. And then later on, she wrote this book, The Let Them Theory, and it's all about like what am I responsible for and how, we, can't control other people and things like that, and letting what they're responsible for... Obviously, like, just go read the book or go check out her podcast to learn more. But anyway, it was a really good night. It was fun to do something different. It was fun to hang out with people I don't necessarily hang out with in general. Um, but just, like, acquaintances, but it was fun hanging out with them. We had great conversations in the car up and back. Um, it was just a great time. I'm just thankful for the people in my life and the people I get to hang out with. Then on, um, Thursday, I don't really remember what I did for myself, but I know it was something... Oh, I know what it was. I, um I cleaned the house. Um, and I cleaned the house, which sounds like I did that for others, but I have not cleaned the house in such a long time, and it was getting so gross. But it was one of those things that I know that my house is special, and it's such a gift that's been given to us, and sometimes I feel like I waste that gift. And it was just one of those things, waking up with the realization of,"Holy crap, I gotta take care of this house. The house will take care of us." So I took the time on Thursday to really clean it up and make it look good, and it just felt really good. And we're just really blessed to have a space. I'm so thankful for it. And this is kinda silly, but I wanted to share a story. So while I was cleaning the house, in the upstairs kids' bathroom, the toilet paper holder has been broken, like, forever. And I told David,"Hey," like,"could you fix this, or could we get a new one? Like, what is going on? This is ridiculous that this has been, like, broken for so long." He's like,"No, you just have to, like, snap it into place and just be gentle with it, and it will stop, like, falling apart." And I'm like,"No," like,"there has to be a way to fix it." He's like,"Um, sure, you can figure it out if you want, but I'm pretty sure it just, it is what it is." I'm like,"Mm, no." So then I was, like, looking at it and stuff like that, and I realized there was this tiny little screw underneath, uh, it that just really just needed a small screwdriver, and you just needed to tighten it. I was like,"Ah, yes, I found it. Okay." So I was, like, looking through all, all of our stuff. I found a small screwdriver. I put, the other piece on and, tightened both sides of the toilet paper holder thing and then, you know, put the middle part in where the toilet paper actually goes. And then I, like, took a video, and I sent it to the family group chat, and I was like,"Hey, look, I fixed it." And then, like, Jasmine's like Finally, like a little attitude kind of thing, but like happy and relieved at the same time. And then Dave was like,"Awesome, great job." And the boys like said nothing. They could care less because they don't really use that bathroom. Basically, um, the youngest has taken it over and it's, you know, very gross because she's a teenager and it's her space. Um, anyway, so I was just like really proud of myself. That's one quality that I feel like I just, I see something and I just refuse to give up and I will try like 100,000 solutions until I like figure it out. Um, and I just, I don't, I don't give up unless I really just don't care anymore, but I care. I care too much, sometimes to a fault. But anyway, so I fixed it and was like super proud of myself. And then Friday, um, what did I say? And then Friday, I am committed to taking a class and out of the four people, I, I was the only one that showed up. It was just me and the teacher until towards the end, somebody else showed up for that. I feel like it was just showing commitment. And then after that, my kid rolled his ankle at school and then I was doing a fundraiser for nine hours. I wanted to say I did a really good job using my voice on things for the fundraiser and speaking up when I didn't want to do stuff or when I did do stuff, being super friendly and outgoing and helping people make decisions. It was a really good time. Overall, we profited pretty well. And now it's Saturday and what I did for myself is I slept in because yesterday was a very long day with the fundraiser and I am enjoying my Starbucks using my Starbucks points. And I took a shower and that felt really good to self-care. And, um, then, so I had ended at this point because that's where I was in the day, but, um, my son who had rolled his ankle had also had like shooting pain, um, like pins and needles like in his pinky toe. So we had thought like, so at the nurse's office when I picked him up at school the other day, um, was like,"So we're pretty sure he probably like a hairline fracture or he broke his pinky toe. Um, so like give it 24 hours, let the swelling go down, make sure you're icing and taking ibuprofen. And then tomorrow, like definitely take him in for an X-ray." And so we had scheduled that and that was today at like 4:00, like as in Saturday, as in yesterday. Um, and so Um, yesterday when I picked him up from school around lunchtime, went straight to Walgreens and bought crutches. Oh dear Lord, they are expensive. So thankfully I found a coupon and they, like, honored it because it was, like, an online thing. Um, and got those on sale. And so he's been, like, in the crutches, and then last night when he went to bed, I, like, put, like, like a little castor oil on his feet, and I was, like, praying over it and, like, did a little reiki and stuff,

Speaker 2 11:21

so then last night, like I was saying, I, like, did, like, prayer, meditation, and reiki over his foot and ankle and things like that because, like, when we left school, he couldn't stand on it, he couldn't walk on it, he couldn't put any pressure on it, and, like, there was, like, sharp pains and stuff like that. So the nurse was, like, pretty convinced that, um, it was, like, at least a hairline fracture. And so she's like,"Okay, so that means, like, he's probably gonna be out for, four to six weeks, depending on how bad it is," blah, blah, blah,"But, like, definitely go in and get an X-ray." So then this morning when he stood on it, there was no pain at all, so that was amazing. But he's like,"I'm fine, I'm fine." I'm like,"I know you think you are, but, like, I don't have X-ray vision, so we're gonna go in and get an X-ray anyway just to make sure everything is good, because I don't want you to play baseball next week or the week after,"'cause select ball is coming up soon, um, and re-injure it or make it worse, so we have to do the right thing. So today he had his X-ray appointment. So he's been, like, on crutches for the last 24 hours, and they're already, like, rubbing on his skin, and it's like, ugh. Anyway, um, so we, like, go in and, um, everything is good. And then, you know, like, because of his age and everything, like, he's the only one that goes back there and gets the X-ray. And then he's like,"I think it's gonna be fine." I was like,"Okay." And then h- like, when he's back there I'm, in the room waiting for him and the doctor to come back and I'm, like, so nervous. It's like I feel like I'm waiting for, you know, like, a big test or something. And I'm like... or, you know, just, like, this big, like, oh my gosh, like, did he break his pinky toe? Is it, like, hairline fracture? Like, how long are we gonna have to wear a boot? Like, what, like, what is gonna happen? Like, so nervous and stuff and, like, so much anxiety,'cause nothing medical is ever fun. Like, it's just not. And I feel like we've been to urgent care so much within the last, like, 12 months, like, for other the younger one,'cause she does horses and, you know. You know how the horse steps on your foot, and you have to get an X-ray, and your toenail's falling off, and there's bloody... and, like, there's just a lot that I don't share. Um- Anyway, so, so while he was in there, I was like,"Okay, I'm g- I gotta get my nervous system to, like, calm down." So I, like, put on a song by Taylor Swift, the Opalite song, and like,"It's all right." And so I was, like, dancing in the chair and stuff and listening to music, and that, really helped, calm myself and, go back to joy and go back to presence and peace and stuff like that. And just, remind myself, whatever happens, it's gonna be all right, and we're gonna get through it because we've probably gone through worse things in the last 18 years. And, um, everything always works out, and everything is perfect timing, and we always have the support we need. And I can just trust that we'll have the strength to make it through whatever is in the next leg of our journey. And yeah. So then he comes in, and I'm still, like, singing and dancing. He's like,"Are you okay?" I'm like,"Yeah, I was just super nervous, so I just, like, need to dance." And then, then the X-ray lady technician person walks in, and I turn off the music to be polite. And then she's like,"Okay, yeah, so I'm gonna pull up the X-rays. Everything looked good in my opinion." So then she showed me. I was like,"Oh. Oh my gosh, thank you so much." And then she just, like, went over stuff and, uh, protocol, and then they gave us, like, this, like, support thing that he gets to wear during the day, and then at nighttime, he gets to take it off and give it a rest. And then basically give it a week, and then as long as he can fully, like, go back to normal, um, as long as he can stand, and everything feels good, and the swelling's gone, and it hasn't gotten worse and blah, blah, blah, um, then he should be good. So that's exciting, um, that nothing's broken and there's no, like, fracture thingy. So then,, went to the store because he needed, like, good shoes to support him, and then we realized he had some at home that he could wear. And then, um, when we got home, the youngest wanted to go to the dollar store, so I took her there, and that's always fun'cause I absolutely love the dollar store, and I have passed that on to the youngest child. And they have, I think SBA testing coming up, this week, so she wanted to get, like, extra snacks for that. And I found, like, this... the cutest, uh, pineapple water drinking thing with a straw, and it's so cute, and I love it, and it holds 68 ounces of water. How cool is that? Um, and then we got some, like, arts and crafts supplies that she wanted and I don't even know, just like random stuff. I got a bigger, like, pot holder for my money tree, so I have to, like, transfer that, um, because it's gonna grow and get bigger, and it's already, like, sprouting new leaves and it's so cute. It's so cute. Um, so that was a good time. And then when we had gotten home, um, the kids have been asking me to take them to Applebee's because we got, like, gift cards in, um, like, I don't know, around, like, Valentine's Day that I've been holding onto that did not have the amount on it. That... It was just, like, a gift card from family. And so, like... And then the other day I was cleaning out... I wasn't cleaning out my car. I was looking in the glove box for coupons for something, and I found another Applebee's gift card, and I was like,"Oh, my gosh, now we have two Applebee's gift cards. This is awesome." So with the two gift cards, I was like,"Oh, this is perfect. This will cover whatever we g- get, I'm s- sure." So in my head I assumed both the gift cards were for 50 bucks. So, um, I told the kids, like,"Okay, well we missed happy hour," and I don't like going to Applebee's unless it's happy hour. So it ha- was past happy hour, so then I said,"Okay, we can go at 9:00." And I never leave the house past 9:00 unless David is driving or, like, rare, rare occ- occasion. Like, it has to be something very important because I absolutely love being home. Like, I love it. Unless it's summertime and it's, like, sunny and it's baseball or something, but I like to stay home. So I had forgotten I had said that I would leave the house at 9:00, but kids remember things so well it's annoying. So I'm just gonna call him the middle child. Mr. Crippled, um, he remembered. He comes all the way upstairs with his crutches, which he's, literally is not supposed to. He's supposed to stay downstairs is the rule for the first, like, 48 hours. N- no stairs. Just keep it simple, dude. Comes all the way upstairs and, like, knocks on the office door, like, with his crutch. I'm like,"What are you doing?" And he's like,"Are we going to Applebee's? It's 9:00." I was like,"Oh, my God, I totally forgot, and I was gonna go to bed. But I told you I would, and a promise is a promise, and sure, let's go." So only two of them wanted to go, so I went with the younger two to Applebee's, and actually it was a great time, and I ended up telling lots of stories, and it was actually really awesome, and I'm really happy we went. A lot later than I wanted to. The other two were tired and stayed home, and one went to bed, and the other one stayed up and played video games until we got back, and we brought him food. Um, so anyway, I'm just gonna wrap this up because now I'm just rambling. But anyways, it's been a great week And the last thing I want to share is I really wanted something like fun to wear to the Mel Robbins things Wednesday night. I felt like I didn't have anything like great in my closet. And so I went to the secondhand store that we have here and I found a skirt and it's so cute and I'm obsessed with it. And if you follow me on social media, you'll see it. It's like a tan like tulle color skirt and it has like little pearls on it. But I literally have been wearing it probably like every day except I didn't wear it in the concession stand for the fundraiser on Friday night because it wasn't practical. But I like wore it to my friend's house to pick up the boot just in case we needed it for his foot. My friend's like, oh my gosh, you're dressed up. Why are you dressed up? And I was like, just because, just to see you. And she's like, oh, you're so sweet. And she like gave me the biggest hug. And then in the doctor's office, the I don't even remember what the doctor said, but she like commented on my outfit. She's like, oh, you're so fancy or something like that. I was like, oh, well, thank you. And then somebody else like commented on this skirt and it just like made me laugh today. I'm like, cool. But anyway, the point is you should go to secondhand stores, find something super fun and wear it and just enjoy your life. And also like declutter and get rid of stuff at the same time. So I love that rule, like one thing out, one thing in or like 10 things out and one thing in. Yeah, good stuff. Yeah. So, yeah, random episode. And to all the moms out there, dog moms, human moms, alien moms, cat moms, all the moms, plant moms, zombie moms. Just kidding. Whatever. Happy Mother's Day and know that you're loved. I love that you're here and I hope you have an amazing day. Bye. Love you.