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Season 1 Episode 2: Your Nervous System Is Cockblocking Your Manifestations (and Here’s Why)

• Lisa M Saar • Season 1 • Episode 2

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Your life isn’t shaped by what you want - it’s shaped by who you believe you’re allowed to be. We go straight to the root with a no-fluff look at self-concept, why the subconscious clings to the familiar, and how your nervous system quietly decides what you can keep. If love still feels unsafe, money still feels chaotic, or success still feels like burnout, this is your roadmap to make better outcomes feel normal.

We unpack how identity homeostasis keeps you looping the same stories, even when your mindset sounds positive. Then we bring the body into play: breath, the vagus nerve, and somatic cues that tell you when your system is bracing. You’ll learn a four-step framework - awareness, regulation, embodiment, and repetition with emotion - to gently rewire your baseline so receiving becomes safe. Expect practical prompts, micro-habits, and a simple breath ritual you can use in under two minutes to anchor the belief “I am safe to expand” and “I am safe to receive.”

Along the way, we share real patterns - money leaking out after a win, opportunities slipping when imposter feelings spike - and show how to interrupt them without force or shame. The goal isn’t to control outcomes; it’s to become the version of you whose identity naturally attracts them. When safety becomes familiar, abundance stops feeling like a threat and starts feeling like home.

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Welcome to Manifesting Your Shit, the podcast, where we ditch the fluff, drop the rules, and create a life that's unapologetically ours. I'm Lisa, and here, your mindset, your energy, your messiness, and your wildest dreams are the only currency. Are you ready? Let's fucking go. And soul. The real human kind of growth, the messy, the meaningful, and the deeply transformative. Alright, so today we are diving into the core code behind all of it, your self-concept. Because everything that you experience, and I mean everything, every success, every heartbreak, every pattern that you can't quite shake, all of it traces back to how you see yourself. The way that you see yourself, speak to yourself, and emotionally experience who you are, that is the frequency that sets your entire life into motion. Because listen, here's the fucking truth. You can say all the freaking robotic affirmations that you want, but your nervous system is only going to allow in what feels safe and familiar. And you know what feels familiar? That's your identity, your self-concept. So, okay, my goal is by the end of this episode for you to understand why you've repeated certain patterns and more importantly, how to shift the identity beneath them so that your nervous system finally feels safe to receive everything that you've been trying to call in. So let's start super fucking simple. What is self-concept? So, self-concept is your internal definition of who you are and what you believe is actually possible for you. It's like the operating system that's kind of running quietly in the background of your mind and body, and it's deciding which experiences fit your identity and which ones don't. So think of it as when you're sitting there saying things either internally to yourself or out loud in conversation with other people, like I'm bad with money, or I always attract unavailable people. You're not describing facts, you're describing what your subconscious believes is true for you. And you want to know the fucking kicker? Your subconscious doesn't give a flying fuck if that story is painful, it only cares that it's familiar. Think of it like an algorithm, like your brain keeps showing you what you've clicked on before. So that's why even when you consciously want something new and want to change what's going on, things like love that feels safe or more financial flow, if that experience does not match your internal identity, your nervous system starts quietly resisting it. I learned this the hard way. And after going back and actually analyzing, when I think back to my early 20s, where my self-concept on a conscious level, it felt amazing. I thought it was on point, but on the subconscious level, I had and still to this day still sometimes have limiting beliefs that show up in cyclical patterns where I'm able to draw in and attract in love, money, opportunities. But I had this self-sabotaging beliefs and basically like imposter syndrome syndrome, where I had a hard time retaining them. Like I was consistently handed consultant jobs, opportunities, but I would self-sabotage because my inner program couldn't and wouldn't believe that I was worthy of having these opportunities. So I would somehow, and it's not like I was purposely like doing things to lose them, but things would happen where when large sums of money would come in, magically it would be like there was a hole in my pocket, and things would happen where I had to give it away or I'd lose it. And it was because I didn't believe I was worthy of having these things. I had these beliefs that I had to work hard in order to have them, or I'd feel guilty about having bigger, better things, and I would find ways to lose it, and it just became a pattern. And these are the patterns that even to this day I'm still breaking. I'm getting better and better at breaking them. But if that pattern and those beliefs are still within our programming, we're going to keep living them out. And maybe you've been there too. Like when success shows up, but part of you just doesn't quite feel safe holding it. And that's the thing. This this isn't mindset. This this is like self-concept physiology. Like you don't manifest what you want, you manifest who you believe yourself to be safe being. Now let's connect this to the body. Your self-concept doesn't just live in your mind, it lives in your nervous system too. The vagus nerve, your stress responses, your muscle memory, they are all scanning for the familiar. Do you ever notice like a wave of emotion hit your body out of nowhere? Like your chest tightens up or your stomach drops and it feels so fucking strangely familiar. That's your body reliving an emotion from your past and it's bracing for what it once had to survive. So if your nervous system associates love with rejection, money with chaos, or success with burnout, it'll create micro responses to keep you in that zone of familiarity again because it knows what to do. And your brain, your body, your nervous system, it only tries to keep you safe and in the familiar. It's called identity homeostasis. Your system wants to keep you consistent with who you believe you are because consistency, consistency equals safety, even if you fucking don't want it anymore. This is why you can think all the positive thoughts, but still feel anxious. The conscious mind could sit there and constantly say, I'm abundant, but your body, your body's like, no bitch, no bitch, that doesn't feel safe. You know why? Because we're not used to having it. Then there's this mismatch between the two, and that causes friction. And that's why when you're trying to do affirmations or change your mindset, sometimes it just doesn't stick. So instead of judging yourself for repeating old patterns, recognize this: your nervous system isn't sabotaging you, it's protecting you the only way that it knows how. But here's the good news: you can rewire it. So if you've ever felt hopeless or stuck this way, please, please, I'm begging you, do not give up. You are not broken, you're just programmed for safety, and safety that can be rewritten. So let's start off. Um, let's do a little micro way to start to change the process of internal change. I want you to take a deep breath right now. Inhale and exhale. Let's do that one more time. Take another deep breath in and out. Now I want you to think about a desire that you've been working toward. Maybe it's financial freedom, love, some type of new opportunity. Think about it and just feel that desire inside of you. I want you to notice what happens in your body when you feel that. Are you feeling excitement or maybe a little tension? If that's tension, it's not sabotage. That's just your self-concept showing you that you still feel unsafe in order to receive what you're trying to call in. Now we're gonna flip the script real quick and be just a little bit contradictory because here we are talking about drawing in stuff, but manifestation isn't about controlling outcomes, it's about becoming the version of yourself who naturally attracts those outcomes. So when your identity, your self-concept aligns with what you desire, your energy, thoughts, and actions all start working with you instead of against you. I like to think of it like this your self-concept is your energetic permission slip. If you believe you're somebody who easily receives opportunities, your body is going to relax into that truth and you're gonna start noticing doors open that were always there. You just couldn't see them when your nervous system was in that threat mode. So, how do you actually shift your self-concept? All right, we're gonna actually break this down. Number one, the number one thing to do is awareness. Start noticing your dominant I am statements. Remember, they hide in everyday language. I'm bad with money, I'm too sensitive, I'm I always end up alone. I want you to do something for the next 24 hours. I want you to quietly monitor your thoughts. No judgment, see them as if you're a third person, just observing. What are those thoughts that consistently pop up in your head? I want you to analyze them, write them down. These are going to be your identity anchors. Then number two is regulation. You can't reprogram from survival. When you're anxious, angry, or shut down, your brain goes offline. So before affirming anything, regulate. Use breath work, use grounding, EFT tapping, shaking, shaking it out is so fucking amazing. Just like jumping up and down and shaking your body, humming, whatever helps your body to start to feel safe again. Now, number three is going to be embodiment. Practice being the version of you who already feels worthy. Stand a little differently, speak differently. Now, you don't have to think it, you have to familiarize yourself with it. Repetition. You are teaching your nervous system. See, that's safe. I can do this. And the more that you repeat this, the more your body is going to become familiarized with it, and the more you're going to be able to do it, to take it in, and to be able to receive. Number four is repetition with emotion. The nervous system rewires through repetition and emotion. So instead of flat affirmations, say them while you breathe, move, or even smile. Let's let's try it right now. Um, let's do like a little self-concept breath ritual. I want you to inhale, and as you're inhaling, you could either speak out loud or just think, I am safe to expand. So let's try it. Inhale, I'm safe to expand and exhale. I am safe to receive. Inhale again. I'm safe to expand and exhale. I am safe to receive. While you're doing this, feel your shoulders drop, feel the permission open. You're not chasing your desires, you're aligning your safety with them. So here I want you to have kind of a reflection for this week. And like a little a little journaling prompt. Who is the version of me who is the version of me that my nervous system still doesn't believe in? And what would help her feel safe now? Let yourself write, let yourself breathe, let yourself be seen. Your your self-concept is not a fixed identity, it's a living ecosystem that expands with every moment of safety, awareness, and choice. The more regulated that you feel, the more permission you give your desire to land because your nervous system doesn't manifest from fantasy, it manifests from familiarity. So make peace, power, and self-belief your new familiar. If you're ready to take this a little bit deeper, I do have a couple of workbooks. Um I'll have the the tags and everything down in the notes that you can easily click onto them. I have a regulate regulated woman workbook and a glow-up from the inside out guide that'll help you to rebuild your identity from safety and not survival. And you can find them, like I said, linked down below in the show notes. And if this episode resonated with you, please share it. Tag me on Instagram or TikTok at manifesting your shit. Uh, leave a review so we can reach more souls who are ready to lift up and rise. And until next time, breathe deeply, speak kindly, and remember, you don't need to become worthy. You just need to remember you already are. Love you guys. Have an amazing day. All right, beautiful souls. That is a wrap on today's episode of Manifesting Your Shit. Remember, manifestation isn't about doing more, it's about becoming more. More of the version of you who already has it. If this episode will hit you up, share it with a friend who needs the reminder. And don't forget to subscribe so you never miss these juicy downloads. Also, please review and leave me a message. Tell me more about the things that you want to hear about. You've got this. I believe in you. Now go manifest more.