Season 1 Episode 23: Same Pattern. Different People. Still You

Have you ever felt like you keep ending up in the same place…
 with different people, different circumstances… but somehow the same outcome?

In this episode, I share a realization that hit me hard:

I’ve been here before.

Same fear.
 Same desire to change my life.
 Same moment standing at the edge of something bigger…

But last time?
 I chose safety.

From leaving my career at IKEA to chasing freedom—only to run back into what felt familiar through a relationship and a job—I walk you through the pattern I didn’t even realize I was repeating.

And the hardest truth?

It wasn’t just the people.
 It wasn’t just the circumstances.

It was me.

We’re diving into:
 ✨ Why you keep repeating the same patterns in life
 ✨ How your nervous system pulls you back into what’s familiar
 ✨ The subtle ways you abandon yourself without realizing it
 ✨ Why awareness alone doesn’t break the cycle
 ✨ What it actually takes to choose differently

Because here’s the truth most people avoid:

It’s not just the pattern.
 It’s the version of you that keeps choosing it.

And the moment you see that?

That’s the moment everything can change.

💫 If you’ve been feeling stuck, looping, or like you’re starting over again… this episode is your wake-up call.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to Manifesting Your Shit, the podcast, where we ditch the fluff, drop the rules, and create a life that's unapologetically ours. I'm Lisa, and here, your mindset, your energy, your messiness, and your wildest dreams are the only currency. Are you ready? Let's fucking go. Hello, beautiful souls, and welcome back to Manifesting Your Shit, the podcast. All right, so I had this realization recently. I've been here before. Same feeling, same fear, same desire to completely change my life. But the last time, the last time, I made a completely different choice. In the last episode, I talked about how I didn't actually lose myself. I just stopped choosing a version of me that once basically once felt alive, right? And after recording that, something clicked even deeper because it's not just that I stopped choosing her. It's that I've been here at this exact edge here before. Years ago, I had left my career at IKEA, and I remember feeling the same way I do right now. Like I wanted more, more freedom, more adventure, more meaning. Uh when I left there, I thought I was going to travel, start a business, like really figure myself out. But then I got scared, like really scared, and instead of moving forward into the unknown, I did what I had always done. I chose what felt safe. I got into relationship, met a boy. Um, I poured my energy into someone else, and I ran straight back into this sort of structure and stability, this job. Um, that's how I ended up working at the restaurant. And don't get me wrong, there were beautiful, beautiful moments in that chapter. Like I I can't imagine not knowing some of the people that I met along that journey. Um so no like hard regrets with that because I I do love the lessons and the people that came along with it. But if I'm being 100% completely honest with you guys, I totally abandoned myself in that season. And and that's what hit me recently. It's not that I lost myself once, but I've actually been repeating the same pattern. Just with different people, different jobs and different circumstances. But the pattern, the pattern is always the same. I I say that I want freedom, but when I get close to it or it gets so real to almost being there, I've chosen safety. I I say I want expansion, but when when that fear shows up, I contract. I I say I want to follow my intuition, but when it gets uncomfortable, I look for something, someone to to anchor me back into what's familiar. And actually analyzing that and seeing it, like glaring back at me. I I can't unsee that. And that's one of the things that I feel that I've been trying to teach to everybody, especially about like what manifestation really is. It's about noticing these patterns that we continue to fall into in life and being able to actually recognize them and step out of them, or else we are going to keep repeating and looping the same fucking patterns. Different people, different scenarios, but always the same feeling intertwined until we learn that fucking lesson. Because here I am again at that same edge, leaving the stability, stepping into the unknown, feeling the fear, the fucking fear rise up in my body. But this time there's no boy, there's no distraction, there's no escape route right now. It's just me. And for the first time, I'm listening, I'm standing firm, ears, heart, mine, soul wide open to my intuition, to my gut, to me. And here's the thing that I think is the hardest usually to comprehend is that patterns, they don't just live in your mind, they live in your body. Your nervous system is wired to keep you safe, not expanded. So when you start stepping into something new, something uncertain, something that's bigger than what you've actually known, your body starts to try to pull back, back to what's predictable, what's familiar, back to what it knows how to survive in. Even even if that version of your life isn't what you actually want anymore. The like down to the heart palpitations, the that gut wrenching pull in your stomach, the aches in your back, that is all your body reacting to your nervous system. And as much as you say you don't like those feelings, if that's what you grew up with, if that's what you survived with, that's what your body knows, and your body keeps going back looking for that feeling. And this is the part that kind of changed everything for me. Because you you don't break a pattern when it's easy, you break it when it actually shows up again and you choose differently. You choose yourself. So uh if you feel like you're back in the same place again, or you know exactly what I'm talking about because you've been there and you've seen the loop and the pattern. And you ask yourself why why does this keep happening to me? I want you to actually pause for a second. Because maybe you're not back at the beginning. Maybe this is the moment, the exact moment where you finally get to choose differently. I want you to ask yourself this. Where in my life am I repeating a pattern? And what would it look like to choose differently this time? Not perfectly, not completely fearlessly, but consciously. Because this version of you, the one standing at the edge right now, she's not here to go in circles anymore. Fuck that shit. Let's break them the fuck down and burn that fucking pattern down. You have this. Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for being here with me. Seriously, I I feel every single one of you guys that are listening, I feel you growing and shifting, and it means more than I can ever put into words. If this episode hit for you, I beg of you share it with somebody who might need this reminder. And if you yourself want to go deeper, I offer breathwork sessions and self-paced workbooks that are designed to help you to feel safe in your body while you expand into that next level. Everything is in my bio, it's in my web page, and please follow me, follow me, follow me on all of the socials: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Pinterest, all of that. Uh, it is all at manifesting your shit. You'll find everyday mindset minutes, little reminders for yourself about navigating and learning how to regulate your nervous system. And you've got this. You've got this, you've got this, you've got this. I believe in you, you, you just need to believe in yourself. I love guys. Have an amazing day.

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Bye.

SPEAKER_00 10:32

All right, beautiful souls, that is a wrap on today's episode of Manifesting Your Shit. Remember, manifestation isn't about doing more, it's about becoming more, more of the version of you who already has it. If this episode lit you up, share it with a friend who needs the reminder. And don't forget to subscribe so you never miss these juicy downloads. Also, please review and leave me a message. Tell me more about the things that you want to hear about. You've got this. I believe in you. Now go manifest worship.