E033 Boundaries in Business: You Spoke Up, So Why Are You Still Stressed?

Spoken up about what you need and ended up doing more work, not less? This episode will help you understand why that keeps happening. We're looking at what happens when nothing changes after you've been clear and why situations like this keep pulling your energy and attention back in.

You sent the email. You outlined exactly what you needed. A week later you're following it up again, checking whether it was done and stepping back into a process that was never supposed to land back on your plate. When situations like this keep repeating, your brain stays focused on trying to close the loop. The $7 Season Mapping Quiz will help you understand where you’re at right now and why your nervous system can struggle to switch off when patterns like this keep happening. 

Boundaries in Business: You Spoke Up, So Why Are You Still Stressed?

In this episode, I pick up right where I left off last week. I walk through what happened when I set boundaries and they were ignored anyway. I covered what that looked like practically and why I ended up carrying more responsibility after speaking up instead of less. We also look at what happens in your brain when patterns keep repeating and why situations like this can slowly push you into Survival Season.

📋 What we covered:

• Why being able to tolerate a lot can work against you
• The difference between what you can personally handle and what your business can sustain
• What it feels like to speak up and still be ignored
• Why you end up stepping back into work that was never meant to sit on your shoulders
• Why your brain keeps track of repeated patterns and unfinished situations
• The Zeigarnik effect and why your brain keeps bringing things back up
• How trust, consistency and predictability affect your nervous system
• Why your brain keeps asking “can I rely on this?”
• What Survival Season can feel like in a working relationship
• How staying in that space too long can slowly lead towards burnout 

🧰 Boundaries in Business: Expectations Check-In

A check-in to help you get clear on what you need and what the business actually requires.

👉 link coming soon

🧭 Season Mapping Quiz

Identify your current season and understand what your body needs right now.

👉 https://gawellness.myflodesk.com/seasonquiz

🌟 Key takeaways:

• Speaking up takes courage and it does not always lead to the outcome you hoped for
• Your brain keeps track of repeated patterns because it is trying to close the loop
• What you can personally tolerate and what your business can sustain are very different things
• Spending hours reviewing, correcting and following up pulls your energy away from what really matters
• Recognising you are in Survival Season is the first step to getting out of it

🔁 Episodes referenced in this episode:

E032 Boundaries in Business: Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About That Conversation

🎧 Related listening:

E007 Let’s Talk Habits: Why You Can’t Hustle Your Way to Wellness
E008 The Myth of Balance: Let’s Talk Seasons
E009 Let’s Talk Integration: The Secret Ingredient to Real Change

If you’ve spoken up, followed through and still found yourself carrying more than you expected, this will help you understand why and recognise the patterns sooner before they drain even more of your energy.

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Transcript

E033 Boundaries in Business: You Spoke Up, So Why Are You Still Stressed?
Georgia Ann 

Opening
Have you ever spoken up, being really clear about what you need? Followed it through and crickets. Instead of things getting easier, you find yourself doing more. You're following things up, re-explaining, stepping in and using your time and energy to do work that never should have come back to you. In this episode, we're explaining why that happens, what it's doing to your nervous system and how it drains your energy which can lead you towards burnout so you can recognise it early and stop it before it even gets there. 

Podcast Intro
Welcome to the GA Wellness Podcast. Small steps, lasting change. I'm your host, Georgia Ann, health coach, solo mum and a woman who's lived through the chaos, the curveballs and the craving for something steadier. After 20 years in the fitness industry and my own journey through grief, motherhood and starting over, I've learned that real wellness isn't about doing more, it's about doing what matters. Each week, we cut through the noise and get real with simple, doable tools to help you feel stronger, calmer and more like you. This isn't about perfection, it's about steady soul led progress because you deserve wellness that fits into your full life, not just one version of it. Let's dive in.

Welcome Back
Hey lovely. Welcome back to the GA Wellness Podcast. If you've just found my pocket on the Internet through a friend sending you this episode, or through my socials, or through another way altogether, a huge welcome to you. I created this space because I felt the wellness industry was saturated with fluffy, generic ‘just find more zen’ language and just assumes that everyone needs a ‘one size cookie cutter’ approach. As a woman, and a busy one at that, when life throws real curveballs, having someone you can sit with who just gets it makes a real difference. That's what I do here, I'm very different because together we explore the connection between your nervous system, your body and the way you show up in different situations so you can understand what's happening and take your power back.

Share This Episode
If after listening to this episode you felt it helped you, I'd love for you to share this with someone who may be going through this right now. This is so she has somewhere that she can start and start her journey as well so she also knows that she's not alone. So right now you've landed in our Boundaries In Business arc. This one is literally about taking that power back, getting a little uncomfortable and exploring what uncertainty looks like so you can honour yourself.

Last Week’s Episode
Last week in particular, we spoke about what happens before boundaries even come into the picture. We looked at those moments where something doesn't feel quite right, even though everything looks fine on the surface and how your body often picks up on this long before your brain.

We chatted about how those small signals can build up over time, how they show up in your thoughts, your energy and your day-to-day. If you're curious about what those signs were or what they mean for you, head over to last week's episode after this. 
 
To round it all out, the focus last week was really on awareness. Noticing the patterns and noticing the connection between what's happening in the situation and how it feels when you're in it. Usually that feeling comes first and the brain and reasoning comes after. This is the moment you realise you need to do something about this. Today's episode is the next layer of that.

What Happens When You Speak Up
We're going to talk about what happens when you do speak up, the courage it takes to put boundaries in place, how exposed that can feel and what happens when things don't change the way you expected. We're going to look at this on both sides of the coin, when boundaries are in place and when they're not. Oh, yeah, we're going to look at this from all different angles.

Even though this arc is called Boundaries in Business, what we're talking about here can apply in almost any situation. These patterns don't just show up in work or business, they show up in everyday conversations, relationships and situations where you're interacting with other people.

Patterns
When I say patterns, I'm talking about things like this. Situations that keep coming up in the same way, conversations that leave you feeling the same way afterwards and moments where you find yourself thinking about it long after it happened. Possibly even noticing that you're stepping in more than what you expected to just to keep things moving. So as you're listening, don't get too caught up into the context in particular, just notice how it feels for you in your situation.

The Case Study
Now, I started sharing a story in the first episode and this one will follow through across all three of these episodes. You can kind of look at it as a bit of a case study. If you want full context from the beginning, you can go back to the previous episode, but for now, we're going to pick up right where we left off.

So I spoke about a situation where I started getting the heebie jeebies and I knew around that point that I needed to do something about it. There was a moment where I was forced to step in and do the job. I'd outsourced my contractors and that's when it became very clear that I needed to put boundaries in place.

The Operational Side
Before I go on, I just want to say this. I'm giving you a bit of a front row seat here. Not just the creative side of the podcast, but also the operational side, through a real situation that actually happened behind the scenes.

So at the time, I was brand new to podcasting. I had no idea what I was doing. I didn't have a reference point for what to expect, how the process worked or what went into it behind the scenes. I was relying on that support because that's what I had outsourced so I could focus on the CEO side of the brand. So, when things weren't working, it heightened everything. I was manning the situation and learning it at the same time.

Putting Boundaries in Place
So, okay, back to the story. The process of putting boundaries in place didn't happen overnight. I had to get really clear on what I was willing tolerate and what I wasn't, especially from an ethical business perspective. To be honest, even this part took time. I'm someone who can tolerate a lot, on the road, in team environments, relationships, okay, maybe not the road as much, but it is one of my strengths.

In this situation, it was my downfall as well. Since I can tolerate a lot, it meant I had to sit down and really think this through properly.

Strategic HR Brain
This is where my strategic HR brain started to kick in, I was looking at different scenarios and contingencies, asking myself some very clear questions. This is something you can use as well. If you've got a notebook handy, grab it, because this is a real practical way to get clarity when you're setting your own boundaries.

So these are the questions I ask myself. Number one, what could I tolerate personally? Number two, what could the business tolerate? These aren't the same thing and it's very important to distinguish between the two.

Personal Tolerance Versus Business Tolerance
If I tolerated too much, what would that mean for the brand? Would I be letting too much through and would I constantly be chasing my tail trying to keep things together?

The answer for me was yes, there were things I could personally tolerate, but the business couldn't sustain if I didn't hold that standard. That's where the change needed to come into place and that's the change that I needed to do. I could see very clearly what needed to be upheld from the business to function the way I needed to.

The Woman Who Has Standards
The standards weren't optional, they were part of how the business operates and from that point, my boundaries became very clear because I became very clear on what the business needed. This took me a few days to land on, and once it did, I spoke up from my needs and expectations. At the time, I remember feeling like a weight had just lifted off my shoulders and in my mind, I had become the woman who has standards.

What Happened Next
What happened next was quite telling. It wasn't working and I was being blatantly ignored and I'll be honest, as an Aries, I don't like being ignored. There were missed deadlines, schedules just weren't being followed and emails were going unanswered. I was very clear in what I needed. I outlined how I wanted things structured and what the expectations were moving forward. It started to feel like I was sending the same email again and again because nothing had changed.

The Impact
This is where I started to notice the impact. Every time I had to follow something up, explain something or check that it had been done properly. It was taking my time away, it was pulling my focus and it was draining my energy.

There were responses and there were apology emails, but it came very clear that nothing had changed in the way things were being done, which was very disappointing. The same things kept happening and the same patterns kept repeating and because of that, I became more involved in managing the process.

Managing the Process
I was reviewing every episode in meticulous detail and spending hours writing precise instructions so things would be done properly. At one point, I remember I was spending close to three hours one single episode. Even then, episodes were coming back with the wrong intro or the wrong episode attached to it.

So I was reviewing and correcting, managing and upholding the entire process together. Even though I communicated, I'd been specific and I had followed through, the pattern just remained the same.

The Mismatch
There was a clear mismatch in the way things were working and in what was being delivered. The impact on me was I was operating in what I call survival season. I'll go into this a little bit more later on in the separate episode. I was constantly checking, managing and making sure everything stayed on track instead of it being a space where I could create, move things forward, move the needle and focus on what actually grows the business.

A Check
Okay, and I do want to take a moment to check in on you here, because this part can feel quite emotional. Finding the courage to speak up and having the hope in your mind that this is going to change things is huge. There's a level of responsibility that comes with that.

When it does happen, and that is fantastic, especially when there really was just a misunderstanding about what expectations were. Sometimes life doesn't always play out that way. When it doesn't, it can feel quite deflating, especially when you've come in having these really good expectations and happy because you've put your boundaries in place and then it just didn't come to that.

What You Can Control
So if you're listening to this and thinking, I've done that, I've said something and nothing's changed, I want you to know that what you're feeling is completely valid. For me once I worked through the emotional side of it, I brought my focus back to what I could control. I didn't take ownership of someone else's actions.

I'll be honest, that can be really hard, because your brain will try to rationalise everything and look for ways to make it your responsibility. This is where clarity comes in and that's when I knew I had done what I needed to do from my end and the situation wasn't going to change.

The Emotional Side
That doesn't mean the emotional side of it disappears. The response is still there and it makes sense because we're wired to look for resolution. When things don't work out, that doesn't always happen and this is where it connects. Your emotional response, just like everything else, is tied to your nervous system and your energy sits right in the middle of that.

The Amygdala
So I'm going to humanise this for you for a second. At this stage of the relationship, there is no doubt of what's happening. You haven't read it wrong, you've tried everything, you've communicated, you've even tried to be specific and you followed through on everything you said you would bring into this partnership, but your expectations weren't met. Your body picks up on that straight away.

This is where it helps to understand what your brain is doing in the background. Essentially, your brain, and in particular the amygdala, is constantly checking what's happening and comparing it to what it expects to happen.

The Open Loop
When something is consistent, your brain recognises the pattern, it gets handled and you move on without thinking about it again. When that pattern keeps breaking, like in this situation, your brain can't complete the process and it doesn't get a chance to close it off. Your nervous system stays in what I call ‘go mode’.

There's a gap there and your brain keeps running in the background, try to make sense of it so it can work out what to do next. This is why you start keeping track of things. You notice the missed deadlines, you notice the unanswered emails, you notice the gap between what was agreed to and what eventuated, because your brain is trying to close the loop.

The Zeigarnik Effect
There's also a psychological reason for this, which is called the zeigarnik effect. It's your brain's way of holding onto things that feel unfinished. When something hasn't been completed properly, your brain keeps bringing it back until it feels like it's being dealt with. When you look at it like that, it makes sense why it keeps popping back up in your mind and why it zaps all your energy.

Predictability
From a nervous system perspective, all this comes back to is predictability. Your brain relaxes when it anticipates what's happening next, which also sits into what I call the rest and digest mode. This isn't isolated though and it also shows up in how you relate to people. We're going to zoom out a little and look at this from a human point of view.
 
In life, we're always needing to know who it is that we can count on. Think about what we're taught. Literally, as children, our parents or caregivers are the ones who show us what consistency looks like. This is where we first develop our sense of trust.

Even back in early communities, if someone said they were going to do something, it needed to happen and that's how things worked, that's how people stayed safe and everyone understood their role and there was trust in that. When it didn't happen, it certainly wasn't ignored. You noticed it because it mattered.

Maslow and Safety
When you look at it like that, it's really no different to now. Your brain is still wired the same way. It's still looking for consistency, for follow through, for something it can rely on. This is where something like Maslow's hierarchy of needs comes in. As you know, I do like talking about Maslow, but it's also what my HNSF Method is actually built around.

So at the core of this model is safety. Before you can focus on anything else, your brain is saying, am I safe here? Like, can I rely on this? Do I know what's going to happen next and when? 

If the answer is yes, things get handled, you move on and your energy can go back into what it really needs. When safety isn't there, you'll brain doesn't move on. It stays focused on that thing that feels uncertain. That's why situations like this can take up so much of your time, your focus and your energy than what you kind of expected it would.

Energy
I really want to go into the energy part a little bit more as well. So think of the amount of time you're spending mentally, the checking, the rereading, the back and forth in your head, all of that does take a fair bit of energy. That energy has to come from somewhere in this situation.

It's been routed into quality control and risk mitigation. You're holding the situation together when the energy should be going into shared goals, strategy, creative input, or even just really allowing yourself to rest properly.

Survival Season
Over time, that starts to affect everything else. This is where you can find yourself sitting there in what I call survival season, because you're constantly switched on, you're managing the situation and people, you're keeping things afloat and there's very little space left for anything else.

There's no room to move into growth season when you're where you can create and build and there's no space for rest season either, where your body can properly switch off and recover because all your energy is tied back into that survival space.

Burnout
When that keeps going without a break, that's where people can hit that point where they feel completely drained and or move closer to burnout. Now, for me, this is the part that matters and I really want you to hear this. I didn't get to that point and I'll walk you through exactly how I navigated that in next week's episode.

Before we go there, this is why understanding where you are right now is so important. Getting clarity on the patterns that aren't serving you and recognising where your time, your focus and your energy are going into is your first step.

Season Mapping Quiz
Once you can see that clearly, your decisions become a lot simpler. This is exactly what I offer through the season mapping quiz.

It helps you step back, look at what's going on in your life right now and understand which season your nervous system is sitting in or you're currently moving through. Then I will give you support and actions that you can use and take straight away. The details are in the show notes and if you have any questions about what it is or how it help you can send me an email ar georgia@gawellness.com.au

Full Circle Summary
All right, lovely. We're going to bring this whole thing together. We picked up today at the point where you've done your part, you've spoken up, you've been clear, you've followed through and you've put boundaries in place, but the situation hadn't changed. What we unpacked is why it feels so often in the moment and why it keeps coming back into your mind.

Your nervous system stays switched on and your energy gets pulled into something that was never meant to sit on your shoulders in the first place.

What We Walked Through
We walk through what's happening in your brain when the pattern doesn't match, what was being said, how that loop stays open and why it keeps coming back. We looked at the human side of it, that need for consistency, for follow through, for knowing who you can rely on and when that isn't there, your system doesn't move on.

Then we zoomed out and looked at how this shows up in your energy. The checking, the managing, the stepping in more than what you expected to, and how that can slowly, or more violently really shift you into the survival season. You're keeping things moving, but it's costing your time, focus and capacity to do the work that supports growth.
 
So if you take one thing from today, it's this. Notice what's happening for you. Notice the situations that keep coming back in your mind. Notice where you're stepping in more than what you expected to and notice where your time, your focus and your energy is going.

That awareness is what gives you clarity, and once you see it clearly, your decisions become a lot simpler.

Where We’re Heading Next
Next week we're going to take this one step further. Seeing the pattern is one thing, choosing what you do with it is another. Dealing with the pushback is a whole different layer. I'll walk you through exactly how I navigated this and what it looked like to make a different decision without needing everything to fall apart first.

For now, just sit with what came up for you today and if you want a bit more support with this, the season mapping quiz is there for you. It will help you understand where your nervous system is sitting right now and what kind of support is there for you next.

Until next week, stay. Stay happy. Stay healthy and I'm so glad you're here.

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