How to Not Let Summer Pass You By

Summer always seems to disappear before we know it. This week I'm talking about why so many of us spend the season waiting, for plans, people, more money, or the perfect moment, and how that keeps us from actually enjoying it.

From solo adventures and Hot Girl Summer's rebrand to summer ins, outs, and making memories without breaking the bank, consider this your reminder that your life shouldn't be on pause.

Because the best summer isn't the one that looks the most exciting online, it's the one you were actually present for.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

That's gonna be one thing I'm gonna try and pay attention to this summer and make sure I'm not letting other people hold me back. I'm not waiting around for other people to live my life. I'm gonna live my life, and when other people can come into my life, they can come into my life. You know? You know, that's the energy, that's the confidence you're gonna be walking around with for Hot Girl Summer of 2026.

SPEAKER_00 0:41

Welcome to Casually Spiraling with me, Julie Bishop, just a tall girl in this world trying to make sense of life, dating, money, relationships, identity, culture, you know, all the things. I learned that my thoughts don't always land with the people around me, so I am here to break it all down, talk it out, probably over share, and maybe find some who don't think I'm totally crazy after

Intro

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all.

SPEAKER_01 1:04

Hi, hi, hi everyone! Welcome back to Casually Spiraling. We are back again, and I'm very, very excited. I got a lot of energy this morning, so I'm just flowing with it, going with it, see what happens. Um, I have a new oversized sweatshirt that I'm in right now, a hoodie, and I don't know why, I just love it so much. It's my new comfort one. Um, you'll probably be seeing me in it a lot. I don't know why. I just feel the best in an oversized sweatshirt. I don't know. I don't know. I just love it. I love it, I love it, I love it. Um, how's everyone doing? This is the first official week of summer. The first day of summer was this week, so now we are in it, in it, in it, and I'm very excited. I feel like it's good vibes, happy vibes for summer, and I'm here for it. At least that's what I'm gonna be trying to maintain and keep up. Um, but I do feel like I need more uh trips in my books, in my calendar. I need to book more trips and have that to look ahead to. I don't have much coming up, just one family vacation. But besides that, I need to get more trips in my books, ASAP. Uh, I remember my most probably like stereotypical hottest girl summer ever was, of course, summer post-breakup, but I had a trip booked every month for like a year. Every month I had a trip booked, every single month. I didn't pass. I was in and out of that Atlanta airport, and I just ugh, I loved it, I miss it. I was going to so many different places, meeting up my with my friends and family in different places, and it was just the best. And I kind of need that energy, I need that energy again. But yeah, I just remember I was working at a Starbucks in Atlanta, and my coworkers were like, She's always gone, she's always leaving, taking vac weekends off. And I was like, Yeah, I'm working extra while I'm here, so then every month I can take time off. Like, what's the point if we're not? You know, that's why I'm I was there so much when I was there, so that every single month I could be gone. I could be gone on a plane in a new city, in a new place with friends. Duh. And that was the the best. I need that, I need it again, I need that energy again. I miss that and I want that. Ugh. Ugh Ug Ug. Does anyone else just ever feel like they have so much that they want to see and that they want to do on their list and to explore? And it just feels so difficult to actually start checking things off the list. Like before you know it, a year goes by and you're like, what have I actually done? Like time just flies because like life just gets you just get so overcompassed and encompassed with life, and it's like you have to work and get time off, and life things come up, and it's like before you know it, so much time has passed by and you've barely checked anything off, and it's just gone by the wind and forgotten about. But then at the same time, in the moment, it seems so difficult to plan because, like, well, you have to work and you have to make money and you have to do all these things, and maybe now, at least at my age, you're at that stage where a lot of your trips are revolved around other people, like weddings and babies and whatever things that you have to do, right? So then it's like you feel so difficult to just start checking things off, but I want to so bad, and I'm like, I need to make the most out of it, and then it's just like ah, ah, ah, so much to do, and how do I make it happen? And I want to do so much, and it's just a lot, but also I forget to make the time to do it. I get in a good groove of making the time to explore and try new places and things, and then it like halts because I'm like, I need to work, and then I forget to like get back into it and make that time for it. And sometimes it can also be difficult to get people to commit to going with you if you're trying to do a friend's thing. The group chat can always like have ideas, but getting people to actually commit and getting all your timelines to match up with your friends these days can be very, very difficult. So it's like, is every trip gonna be a solo trip? Or like, like that's okay, but also at the same time, you know, you want, I feel like want a mix of both. And as an adult, it can be so hard to now plan and coordinate with your friends because everyone has so much going on. Um, and it can be so hard to just find a weekend where you're all available, a time where you all have the means to go, and like can just all coordinate together. It becomes difficult, but at last we're still trying, we're still in the group chats, we're still making the efforts. I am trying to get back on, doing more activities, um, even just like weekly, getting back into having those little things that take me out of my regular schedule, checking things off that I want to be doing, just the small things, not like even trips. Like I joined another beach volleyball rec league, so I'm getting back into that. So I have that once a week. Gets me out of the house, it gets me to the beach once a week. You know, I wrote a reminder in my phone to start taking at least one day of the week off from not doing any work because I've talked about before, where literally I will do some form of work every single day, and I was good about having a schedule where I would at least take like Fridays off, and I've kind of gotten out of that. My schedule has been shifting so much that I've been moving a lot of my work stuff to Fridays, and then I have work things to do every day of the week, and I mean it becomes it comes out of good things that I'm grateful for, like auditions and new classes and this podcast and this and that, but I need to get back in the schedule of making sure I have one day a week where I don't have to do work because we need at least one, and then I can make sure um maybe every week or every other week, or once a month on that day, maybe even I go to my list, I do a new hike, I explore a new area, or I just take a beach day. I live right by the beach, and sometimes it can be so difficult just to feel like to do a beach day, you know? So I put a reminder on my phone, I'm gonna try this summer to be more proactive about that because it was in such a good rhythm with it, and then I got really out of it, and now I've just been working whenever I'm like in town, or because I'm also like dog sitting and all this, I don't know. So I've just been putting off activities and exploring aside, and I definitely feel the difference um in life when I do that. So I'm gonna be able to try and be better on myself about that, and yeah, so I don't know, summer comes up every year, and it goes by so fast every year, and I feel like it's just this this uh challenge between like a summer fantasy and nostalgia of ooh, it's summer time, there's so much to do, people be out, beach trips, sun, friends, enjoying life and not wanting to do anything else versus the reality of the situation and what actually happens during the summer. You know, it's not like we're in school anymore where you work nine months of the year and then you have three months off of doing literally nothing, and your whole schedule is dedicated to summer, and there is no schedule. You have off, you have a limited time to do whatever you want, and it's just dedicated to that. You know, it's not like that anymore. We're still adults, we don't have a summer where it is like a set period time off. We still have to go to work, we still have to make money, we still gotta pay the bills, we still gotta have all our responsibilities that we have all year long. So it's not the same thing, but it feels like summer, so it feels like we should be doing a lot more than we do the rest of the year, you know? But it's a little bit different and it's harder. You have all these expectations, and then it's harder to actually meet those expectations now, you know, because life kicks in and reality kicks in. Um, but actually, like because our year stays the same all year long, except for weather, we can be doing this all year long instead of just summer. But yeah, it just always seems like summer is the ideal time to be out and about planning trips, getting together, and all the things. So yeah, it's such a difficult balance. So that's where I kind of wanted to go today. I wanted to start our summer off strong about how to not let summer pass you by. Because in a blink of an eye, it's gonna be Labor Day, it's gonna be September, and we're gonna be like holidays now. Once that comes along, I feel like it's Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, boom, boom, boom, year's over, done, whatever. So let's get into how to not let these next few months pass you by and not let them go to waste, but in a realistic way. Alright, let's get

Hot Girl Summer Rebrand

SPEAKER_01 10:09

into it. So I think we all know this saying by now, hot girl summer. And we love that. We love a hot girl summer, but I think sometimes the idea of it can be a little misconstrued. I think hot girl summer needs a little rebrand so that our expectations are set correctly to where we can actually meet them. You know, I think really to the core of it, hot girl summer is about confidence. And sometimes I feel like people are just always waiting around for other people to let them have their hot girl summer, you know? And we want to do so many things, but then we end up putting our life on hold, waiting around for other people for hot girl summer, whether that be like boys, a boyfriend, friends to be available when you are more money, like the perfect scenario, perfect plan. But I think this year, Hot Girl Summer 2026, no longer waiting for a committee of people and a committee of things to line up to give approval for my happiness and give approval for my adventure and my spontaneity for summer. I say no longer waiting for that. Let's take control, take it into our own hands, okay? So, yes, we are going to be doing a lot of fun things with other people and with other friends. But when we're in this era where everything has so much shit going on, if someone is not available to do something you want to get done and do this summer, I say number one, you do it anyway. And then next time they'll be available and you'll do something else with a friend. But if someone is not available and you're trying to do something on your day off of the week and you're trying to make the most of it, just because if other people aren't available, let's not not do the things, let's not sit inside uh watching TV all day long, doing nothing while the sun is shining outside. Let's go on a solo coffee date. Let's go on a hike, let's go to the beach by ourselves, let's go to a concert, let's go on a little shopping spree, or drive to a new neighborhood you want to explore in your area, or whatever is on your list that you wanted to do. This time just do it by yourself, enjoy it, explore, see, do the things, relax, get outside, take in your vitamin C and D and all the vitamins, and yeah, just do it anyway, okay? It's about confidence, doing it yourself, having the most fun, enjoying your company. And then next week, Cheryl is gonna be free, and you and Cheryl can do the next thing on your list together. You know, you know, that's what that's gonna be one thing I'm gonna try and pay attention to this summer and make sure I'm not letting other people hold me back. I'm not waiting around for other people to live my life. I'm gonna live my life, and when other people can come into my life, they can come into my life, you know? You know, that's the energy, that's the confidence you need to be walking around with for Hot Girl Summer of 2026. Okay, so just just take it as a challenge this summer, okay? What's something that you want to do, but maybe you're waiting for someone else to be free or to do it with you, okay? If you have that one thing, challenge you, just do it anyway. If you have free time, just go do it anyway. And then if you want to do it again with a friend when they're free, then you can. But let's stop waiting around for other people, okay? Many adults, you know, make happiness dependent on everyone else's availability. But that's what we're gonna try to not do, okay? We're not gonna not go because no one else can come, or get dinner because everyone else is busy, um, or even just small things like going to see a movie, I'm gonna go myself if I want to, I'm gonna go on a walk if I want to, I'm gonna go get coffee, I'm gonna go to the farmer's market, whatever it might be, just go do it. If other people can come, love that, love that for you. If not, we're gonna go anyway and we're gonna enjoy our time while doing it. So, whatever that one thing that you have been postponing because you're waiting for someone else, stop postponing it. Go do it, okay? Love it, have a good time. Don't wait around for anyone else. And this is not because we are lonely. I like may okay, maybe some people are lonely, but just because you're doing things by yourself doesn't necessarily mean you're lonely. I have friends, or some people have friends, but just in as an adult, it's sometimes so hard to organize other people. So this doesn't mean you're lonely and you're alone. It just means that you're not letting other people hold you back. So I you may have other people, but if you can't get everyone together, then just you're not putting your life on pause, you know. That's all it means. That's all it is. We

Romanticize the Life You Have

SPEAKER_01 15:09

are romanticizing our own life. I did an episode on things I was romanticizing in my own life and how to remind romanticize your own life. So we are sticking to that this summer. We are remembering that we are keeping things moving and grooving, you know, and it's not like your life is perfect. We're not pretending our life is perfect and a perfect pretty picture. It's just notice what you have available to do, what is good in your life, you know? What you do have the means to do, even if you are working a lot this summer and you need to be saving money on this and that. There still are little things that you have the means and access to to make your everyday life a little more special and memorable and fun, you know? I think sometimes social media and this idea of having a hot girl summer means you are spending a lot of money on huge trips, you're out in Europe, you're out on yachts, you are lavish big life. And look, we love that. If you can do that and you you can, I love that for you. I'm living through you. One day it'll be me, and that's amazing. But that's not just what hot girl summer is. I don't think you don't have to have all that to make the most at a hot girl summer. You know, you can make the most and still have a hot girl summer with the means that you do have. I just think, you know, it's this pretty perfect picture of the boats and the cabanas and the pool side overlooking the coast of France, the south of France, whatever it may be. And truly I love that, but that's not all it is, and if you don't have the money for that, that's okay. That means we're still making the most, you know? Because in reality, we still, or at least I still got rent, I still got student loans, I still got my work schedule, I still got, you know, some people have limited PTO that they have to spread out throughout the year. So, you know, sometimes the best memories don't cost anything, or the most memorable times don't cost anything. I think that a lot of the times the best memories come out of maybe a little adventure and a little spontaneity. So, like, literally just the small things. You know, when you have friends where you're like just want to run errands together, like, you know, just doing the little things, or just like go get ice cream together, or just go to the beach for sunset and do a little picnic, or literally just drive. Remember the days in high school where you literally would just drive to a parking lot and yap and yap and yap, and it's like the best night ever. I think my friends know the Acme parking lots, the Wawa parking lots. Like it was just like, oh, we're staying up late and we can just drive around. And yeah, it would that that's what made us the most happy, you know? Or just like chilling out in your backyard outside, laying on a beach towel, tanning, music is playing, whatever it may be. Like those random conversations, those random little activities um with friends or whoever with yourself, those sometimes are the things that are the most memorable. And because they're just like, oh, this is fun little thing to do on a weeknight, or you know, whatever it might be, those are like the most fun, unexpected, because maybe they are low stakes. So then you end up that's your expectation, and then you go and you have such a good time with your friends or whoever, and then you're like, that was such a good night, and it was so unexpected, and yeah, so Hot Girl Summer can mean a lot of different things. We are rebranding it, we are focusing on what it actually means, and having the confidence, one, to not let other people determine your life or your schedule or what you want to do, and then two, like it's not just about the big, lavish, funny things, it's about the moments and the making the time for the adventure and the spontaneity and the little things. So, those are some little rebands we got for Hot Girl Summer. You know, don't let the internet convince you that the most memorable equals the most expensive. You know, it's not always the case. Again, I love that for you if you're out and about. I think just sometimes though, we can appreciate that a lot of memorable moments just come from the unexpected. A

Taking Control Over Your Own Life

SPEAKER_01 19:42

third way I'm rebranding the summer and a hot girl summer and making sure it's not gonna pass me by is I think this idea, you know, hot girl summer confidence, that's very main character energy, right? And sometimes it can come across as ugh so annoying, like insufferable, whatever, bad reputation. But no, we are getting rid of that, and we're talking about how it's more just making sure you aren't the side character in your own life. So if you want to do something, stop waiting around to be invited, stop waiting around for someone else to send the first text about it, or stop saying, okay, maybe next time, and then it never happened, or just assuming that all these exciting things happen to other people just like that. These other things happen to other people sometimes because they are making it happen for themselves. I think sometimes it's just about like you being the one to take an initiative, organize the group event, make the reservation, send the first text, the idea, be like, hey, let's do this. You being the one saying, I'm planning this trip, I'm booking it, whether you're coming along or not, let's go. Who's in? Start the conversation about whatever you want to do. Buy the concert ticket, and then whoever can come can come. You know, like it's not just this annoying big energy thing. I think it's just sometimes being a leader instead of a follower and making shit happen for yourself. You know, that's been such a ideal that I've had in my head since I moved here. Like I'm tired of just waiting around for things to happen to me and more in a mode of like, let's just make things happen if we can. Okay. So take the initiative, plan or just spark the idea, and then you can plan things with other people. Um, and if again, if others can't come, then you're doing it solo. Instead of sitting at home, you are the friend that is organizing all these things and making it happen. You know, the difference between people who seem to have these exciting summers and everyone else, it's just that they're saying yes more often. So I think third thing. Is that we're being the initiator and we're just saying yes more often and letting things just happen and go with the flow and instead of instead of saying home, instead of saying home in our comfort bed comforter in our comfort hoodie, we are taking it outside and we're just saying yes and we're initiating a plan instead of just always having this list of things that you say what you want to do, but never make any effort to actually do it. So we are initiating this hot girl summer of 2026. Hot girl summer, I think, is is freedom. I think you know the initial thing that people think when hot girl summer is you're being slutty, you're flirting with everyone, and you're just sleeping around different guys, you're not in a relationship. Okay, and again, love that for you. Love that idea, but it's really just about the freedom aspect of it. It's less of like, look at me, look at me, look at me, ma'am and more just like I like my life, I love my life, I have the confidence to go live it, and whatever happens, happens. And honestly, that's way hotter than any other brand that Hot Girl Summer has gotten. So it's just enjoying your day to day and creating these moments for yourself. There are even like small things that I've kept saying to my friends, oh, I want to do that and I want to do this. Yet months later, I still haven't done them. And it's literally just, you know what I've been telling me friends? I'm like, let's just get a group of friends together, go to the beach one evening, even if it's after work, like at five o'clock, six o'clock, during the summer, it's still light and bright out. Go to the beach, bring a volleyball, bring a speaker, bring some drinks and snacks, and like just get a big group of people. And like just small things like that, I want to do, and that's just like the most fun, and see where like little things like that take you. So this is even a note to myself. Like, I keep saying like this shit, I want to get groups of people together to do this kind of stuff, and then I don't either. So let's actually start picking a day and making a plan. And it doesn't have to be these big lavish things, like nights like that just seem like the most fun to me over summer. They're just such those cozy summer nights and the most memorable and the best. Like, because yeah, not always the best summer are the most impressive ones online. You know, it's giving like the OC, you know, your groups of friends, their like late nights out on the beach. I feel like that's so nostalgic, and like I can just see that picture of them all by the water, big group of friends, you're like just laughing, you know, you know, the little montages. Create that for your own life, you know? Create those moments, those little cutesy moments for yourself and the most fun. And yeah, just genuinely be present for those, for those little spontaneous fun moments, even though they're not the most extravagant. So one may say, you know, just stay present and enjoy those. Because before you know it, like I said, summer comes, we look so forward to summer, we get so excited, and then it's here, and then it disappears, and we're like, what did we actually even do this summer? You know, when people ask you after, like, oh, so like what did you do this summer? And I'm like, fuck. I don't even know. Do I even have anything really to say? Like, no, I want to be saying the most. I wanna be saying the most, you know? You remember like your last day of school when you were a kid? That just felt like the best, like the last day of school, like you get out early, you go get ice cream, and you have camps and sleepovers and vacations and pool days, and it's just a complete break from routine. Ugh. And they are just like trying to get that as an adult because obviously you still have the same job, same commute, same errands. We just need to be hotter about it all, I guess. We have that same routine. Let's just bring hotter, more confident energy to it and to the little moments outside of the routine. Because it does seem very difficult to somehow make these magical summer moments when we do still have our regular life. Like, you know, it is very difficult. It's so easy to stay in the same routine. It is very more difficult to make these magic, you know, nostalgic moments when you do still have your regular life going on. And I just think I'm always telling myself, like, yeah, I'll go to the beach when work comes down, I'll go to the beach when there's a week when I'm not dog sitting, I'll go plan a trip when you know I saved up more money. I'll see my friends, you know, when our schedules line up, when I'm back home for the holidays, I'll start doing this when I'm a little less busy, once there's a week where I don't know, I'm all caught up on everything, then I'll do something. And you know what? That just never seems to come around. It never seems to have a week where I'm all caught up on every little thing, you know? It just never feels like it's ever gonna happen. Because once I'm caught up on one thing, then life keeps going, and then there's the next thing, and the next thing, and the next thing, and then before I know it, September is here, and I never had a moment where I was actually doing the things because I was always just waiting and waiting and waiting for life to be perfect in all my areas, and I just I can't keep waiting anymore for life to happen, you know. I need to create my life now, and of course, be realistic about things, but at the same time, if you're just constantly waiting for another shoe to drop or something else to line up, then it just seems like it's never gonna happen. So, of course, be realistic about where you are and what you have, but at the same time, you gotta make effort to make the time and for these activities or trips or plans, you know. Life just doesn't come easy. It never seems to line up that easy where I'm like, oh, I have so much free time right now. Let's just go. No, something is always coming up. I swear, every single week, when I think I'll have a calmer week, I'm like, oh, my schedule. Like, I literally thought this current week was gonna be calmer after my last week. And before I know it, my schedule filled up and I'm stressed this week about getting everything done. And I'm like, when am I gonna have time to actually create other moments? Well, you know what? I'm tired of that, so I'm gonna start being more proactive about actually creating moments because my life is just always gonna be chaotic. I think I need to accept that. I think, I think it may not come down until retirement, you know? I think so. So I'm in the phase of accepting that and working through that. Life is not slowing down. I can't keep waiting for a stress-free week to enjoy summer because then I'm never gonna enjoy it because I'll be waiting forever. The stress just keeps coming in different ways, you know, and that's what I'm spiraling about, as you can see. But we are pushing through and we are still having fun during it and making the most of it. I think part of the problem too is scrolling and influencers. Influencers' job, like influence, is to influence you to have a certain life or certain thing. It's a pretty perfect aesthetic. And I think scrolling, we get so caught up sometimes in scrolling and seeing other people, watch other people have the best summer ever, and the you can get caught up in hours on your phone viewing all that, and then do you ever leave after that being like a little sad? A little feeling a little sad after, and it's like probably because yeah, I just spent two hours scrolling, watching other people live my life, instead of me actually being out there living my life. I've never felt better having a night scrolling on my phone than um going out and doing an activity. And damn, that sounds really lame. I feel like that really makes me sound like old and like a parent, you know. But but come on, check in with yourself. I felt it in myself. Like, you know, I get it. Doom scrolling sometimes is fun, but in my gut, in my heart, at least me personally, I feel much more better being out there than watching other people be out there. You know, there is so much content where it's like vacation content, my summer outfits content, beach content, contour content, my summer bucket list content, all of it. And you're seeing all these other people check all these things off and doing all these things and having all these things, and then you're like looking around, it's like, damn, I'm in my dark room wrapped up, and I could have been out there doing some of these things myself. And then another kind of thing I think with scrolling and seeing all that is that that kind of sets your expectations of that's what my summer was supposed to be. They have again all these crazy big experiences. So am I actually summering if I don't have that? Because that's just what is thrown on your face every scroll and swipe and this huge giant bucket list. But I again I don't think to make the most out of your hotel summer, things have to be so big and huge. I think things can be simple. It is about these simple little moments, like and maybe on your list of things that you want to do it can be intimidating, being like, I need to do this a lot over the summer. All these things, maybe like make the list and then try and check it off just like once over the summer, at least once or maybe a few times, like one spontaneous day trip, one beach day, one concert, one sunset walk, one uh like thing maybe I've never done before, something new, you know. The point is being intentional, just because I think now as adults, like summer and things don't always happen as a happy accident anymore because life gets in the way. You know, we're not kids anymore. We're the summer is designed for us. So since we're adults, we have to design it ourselves, we have to be intentional about these things, and that's not bad, it's just how life is, and just making sure you're putting effort into making things actually happen just because they don't come our way naturally anymore, you know? So I just I just don't want to get to September and be like I was waiting for the whole summer to start and it hasn't started yet, and I'm still waiting. You know, the goal isn't to have the most exciting summer ever, crazy, crazy, crazy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Whatever that perception of crazy hot girl summer is. Again, I love that. I love that, but it's just about like being present and enjoying it and making the most ever every little thing, um, every moment you had to get out there and do something, whether it's on your own, with friends, or whoever it may be, just having the confidence to be the one to plan it, initiate it, check things off, um, and stop just waiting around. Just stop waiting around for life to perfectly align and stop waiting around for other people. You know, it's it may seem like summer disappears faster now, but it is still the same, same three months. I think now we're just adults, so we're now a lot more distracted from it, right? Because we it realistically, we do still have to go to work, we still have to do all these things, so we are a little more distracted because we don't have that set time. So let's let's lock in, let's focus, let's yes, do what we gotta do, but then during the time, make sure you're making effort to um summer to let's summer, you know? You know what I mean?

Summer Ins & Outs

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So I wanted to end this fun little episode with some summer ins and outs. You know, let's let's wrap it up with some some summer ins. Things that I embracing as a little recap would be saying yes to last minute plans. You know, sometimes it can be stressful, but you know, I think you always have more fun when you just say yes. I think 90% of the time you don't regret saying yes. Sometimes I get I am a planner, and I get a little too caught up in that. So I'm working on being a little more flexible, so I'm not holding myself back, you know, at least a little bit. I'm that's something I'm working on. I do understand I can get rigid into a plan, so I'm trying to like be a little out with my rigidness and be a little more in with my flexibility and understanding it's okay to be flexible and life will happen and it's gonna be okay, and you're gonna figure it out, okay? Another in, of course, solo beach day. I again live by the beach, and it's so hard to actually get there and commit. You know what part of it too, I think me being a pasty girl, it's like I gotta lather up, I gotta put on hella sunscreen, pack my bag, drive there, find parking, walk out there. And then you're finally there and you're like, that's a lot of effort. You know, put the effort in. It's really not that much. That's what I'm telling myself, okay? So even if other people aren't available, I need to get my place like I need to get my ass there in a chair, in the sand, in the ocean, out there, because that's at least a happy place for me. Maybe I'm talking about the beach so much, maybe it's the lake, maybe it's the mountains for other people, whatever that place is, it could be somewhere else. I'm just that was my personal experience, but to the lake, to the mountain house, to the forest, to whatever is around you that you have access to. Um, another thing, oh my gosh. Okay, this was one that I saw. I love walking places instead of Ubering, and that's so hard with my LA friends to find. They want to drive everywhere, and literally I will park one or two blocks away from my place, and I have some friends that are like, You parked so far away. Like, bitch, what? I don't know. People here are a little more lazy. I know New York is so much walking and getting out there. I love a walk, like a 15-20-minute walk, especially like to a bar and then home from the bar. Like, I love a walk instead of a drive. I don't know. Trying to embrace that more, more getting out there. Um, what else is another in flirting for fun? That is a fun part of hot girl summer, and I think that comes with the confidence. The confidence aspect is what it's all about. Confident in yourself. Like, that's the energy I told you guys prior that I was struggling with. I'm trying to bring back into my life and just yeah, be more confident in who I am and how I carry myself. Um, actually using, you know, your PTO, like a lot of people who get PTO, I don't have a job like that, but I hear a lot of it accumulates. Your sick hours, your vacation hours accumulates, and people don't actually use it, and it just sits there and it's free money. And so let's like make sure if you have that, use it. It's free money just sitting there. Use the hours, use the time, plan it out when you want to use it, actually put it to use, okay? Okay, thank you. Um, another in being the friend who initiates the plans, okay? Recap. Remember that. Um, and then another one is wearing the outfits instead of saving it for the perfect time. You know, I feel like a lot of people do this, they like have clothes or outfits they feel confident and good in, and they're like, save it for a perfect moment. Let's make the plans so that you then have somewhere to go and wear the outfits. Get out there, feel your best. I am such an outfit repeater like Lizzie McGuire. You are an outfit repeater. Yes, I am. Yes, I am. Out, out with only wearing an outfit once and you once and you needing the exact perfect moment to wear it, okay? We are doing all the little things this summer and wear the outfit to all the little things and get out and feel your best, okay? Oh, another in day trips. I didn't talk much about this, but I think too, your your plans on your day off or your activity, it doesn't have to be a big getaway or something that takes you for a whole weekend. You know, see what is in driving distance of a for a day. Do a little day trip. It's minimum planning, uh, minimum time off, you know, just a day. Do it with yourself or someone else. Um, minimum like money. You're not going too far, you're not buying a plane ticket. So explore what options of day trips are around you. I think, you know, you might be surprised of things around you that you might not have been to or know of, you know? So see what's in driving distance that you can do for a day. Something new gets you out of your routine, out of your home, out of what you know every day to day. So I think day trips is a good one, a good inn for this summer. And last one, local tourism. So being a tourist too in your own city or town. You know, sometimes you've lived somewhere for so long, you're like, oh, I would never do that. Those stereotypical things that people do when they come there. And then you end up never seeing certain things ever. I think it's okay and fun to be a tourist in your own city sometimes. When my friends Ange and Megan visited me in January, they hadn't really ever spent much time in LA and seen those things. So it was an excuse for me. I've after living here for a year, certain things I had never done just because, like, oh, that's the thing like people do when they visit. And it was so much fun to like, you know, now I checked it off my list. I've done it at least once. I showed some other people it who had never seen it, and it was fun. It's fun to sometimes do those things in your own city. You know, sometimes people get so turned off by what you have actually in your own place because it's like, oh, that's what everyone does, or that's what the city's known for. And then you end up never experiencing it. Okay. Well, be a tourist in your own city for a time period. Okay. Okay. And those are my ins. And then some of my outs, the things that I'm leaving behind, the energy that I'm leaving behind, as we said, waiting for other people to make plans. Mm-mm. That is out. Staying inside because no one else is available. Mm-mm. Out, out cut. Comparing your summer to just what you're seeing on your Instagram or your phone. Out, out. Make your own memories, make your own summer. Don't compare it to just whatever you're seeing on your phone. You know? The we're out with the I'll do it later mentality. I'm waiting for this or that. I'll do it later when a different time comes. Because then things never end up happening. Okay. Try and do in the now whatever you can and whatever you can practice in the now. Um, an out which has an addendum to it, you know, it's saving money by never doing anything ever. Okay, so by this, let me explain. I'm not saying go broke. I'm not saying saving money isn't important because it is, and you know a girl, you know, a girl needs to save money, especially living here. But but if you're always just so focused on that, then your whole life is gonna pass you by and you're gonna be too afraid to see and explore and actually live your life. So, yes, of course it's important to do that, but also don't be tied down and not create memories and see and travel and experience life. You experience life while you have it, okay? Instead of if you're only preparing for life after, then that's gonna pass you by and what's the point, you know? So be responsible with this out, you know. Of course, we're being responsible, but also we're not doing anything ever and not experiencing life and not exploring and not traveling and not accidentally skipping over having an entire life because some people are so aggressive about it, okay? Okay, and then the last one something that is out for the summer at least, my out is turning every hobby into a side hustle. I think let's just have things for fun, you know, in the summer. Let's just go play a sport for fun, it doesn't have to be so competitive or your new job. Let's do little new hobbies and fun things just for fun. Everything you do doesn't have to be for money. Some things obviously are, and that's great, and you have those, you know, things you're passionate about. But I think it's also important to have things that are just for fun. There's no pressure, no competition. They just fill your cup that you can do when you have extra time, and um, yeah, you want something to do that just brings you joy. So fill your cup with um hobbies, don't turn every single one into a job, a money stream, a side hustle. Let things just be fun and loose and free and not so tied down to something that stresses you out. Okay? Okay, those are a few of my summer ins and outs. These are ways I'm focusing on trying to not let this summer pass me by because literally I cannot believe it's I can't even believe it's June. I swear it was just fucking February. Like, I don't know. I life really just passes you by so fast and it's so crazy. Um, so I'm trying really hard to just not let this time pass me by. I'm embracing this new idea in my mind of having a hot girl summer. It's not just one thing, it's not just the stereotypical. I'm rebranding it for myself. If you want to join me, join me. Let's take in every moment we can this summer. You know, a lot of happiness now that you're adult is from realizing that that someone that does something that you see, that can be you. That's someone that you are seeing being happy, doing living their best life. Like that can be you. So let's take initiative, plan things, be a leader, make every moment count, be present, and let's try our best to not let these next few months pass us by. Okay? Okay, deal, deal. We're gonna do things, not revolve around other people's schedule, do things for yourself, and whatever other people can join, they can join. Okay, share with me. I want to hear from you what you're doing this summer, how you're gonna make the most out of your summer, how you're gonna try and make sure it doesn't pass you by. I wanna hear your plans, I wanna hear all about it, I wanna hear whatever, whatever you got going on, whatever initiatives you're taking, whatever way you're expressing your confidence this summer in this hot girl summer 2026, okay? I want to hear about it. Let me know in the comments, email me, DM me, whatever. Let's chat about it, and let's have the most, the most hot girl summer ever, in which I will be fucking spiraling all summer as well, okay? Spiraling hot girl summer. All right, all right, deal, promise, pinky promise. Love ya, love ya, love ya, love ya. Hope you have a good week. Um, I know I have another guest episode coming up soon. Um, I did a giveaway on the social medias. Um, so if that hasn't ended yet, please go check that out. Um, enter to win. And yeah, we're doing a lot of fun things over here, so follow along. I love ya, and I'll see ya next week.