S2 Ep7- From Father Wound to Mother Wound: The Pattern That Keeps You Stuck

In this episode of SUITT and Boot (Standing Up In Truth, Transformation, and breaking out of trauma), we close the loop on the father wound—and step into a deeper truth:

The father wound may be why you chase it…
 but the mother wound is why you stay.

This is not about blame. This is about awareness.

Your mother was your first example of what it looks like to be a woman—how to love, how to give, how to endure, and how to survive. And whether intentional or not, those patterns become your blueprint.

So you don’t just learn love… you learn endurance.
 You learn overgiving.
 You learn staying—even when it costs you.

For me, that cost was $144,000.

In this episode, we break down:

•  What the mother wound really is 
•  How it shows up in relationships and business 
•  Why you keep overgiving and staying too long 
•  The connection between the father wound and the mother wound
•  How to shift using the Scorphenegle framework: Instincts 🦂 Insight 🦅 Ignition 🔥 

Because awareness alone isn’t enough—you have to break the pattern.

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Identify your pattern and start your shift:
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Transcript

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Just close the loop on the father wound. We talked about how we talked about how first man set the standard. We talked about how that wound followed you into your relationships into your marriage into your gonna talk about the mother wound. Now, what is the mother wound? Let's talk about it. Now, the mother wound, it's not about bl your mother. It's not about blame. Now let me say that clearly. This is not about blame. This is about awareness. Because your mother, whether she meant to or not, was your first example, your first example of what it looked like to be a woman in the world. She showed you how to receive love, how to give love, how to carry pain, how to survive. If your father created the wound, your mother showed you how to live with it. Now, let me just tell you is where it clicked. The Scorfinega switch came on. It wasn't just what happened to me, it was what I watched. I watched what my mother tolerated. I watched what she carried. I watched how she showed up, even when she was tired, even when she deserved more, even when things weren't fair. And as a child, you don't question it, you absorb it. So just learn love. I learned endurance. I learned that being a woman meant holding everything together. I learned that being a woman meant hold given more than you receive and staying even when it comes. Now let me make this personal again. Now, as a child, I watched my mother just tolerated. I watched what she accepted, and I thought, this is how you are. This is how it is supposed to be. And let's be clear, she set that precedent. Whether or not it was subconscious, it occurred. It's a fact. Even when things were not fair, even when things were not right, and you don't question the persons, you you absorb what you absorb. Staying longer than you had to. Part is real. Yes, stay because you want to be the ride or die chick. Absolutely. You want to be that woman down that doesn't give up. The woman that pushes through even in the toughest of time, the one that suffers through everything and still stays. Because somewhere in your mind, there's a reward at the end. If I just keep going, if I prove myself, if I just don't quit this relationship, then it will pay off. But what is the reward? Because I stayed, I stayed with clients who stopped paying even after I did the work, yet I kept working. I can't want to give up. Y'all know that I'm an attorney. And lawyers already have a bad reputation. They get a bad rap. We get a bad rap. People say a lot negative things about attorneys. We're called all sorts of names, thieves, dishonest, you know. And so lawyers don't. People think that attorneys don't care your money and they don't do stuff. That's what a lot of people believe. And I wanted to prove that. I wanted to show that this is this is what attorneys do. I wanted to prove something. And then on top of that, I am a woman. And a woman of color nonetheless. So now it's not just about doing the job, it is about proving your worth, proving your integrity, proving that you belong in the room. It's tougher for us, it's a lot more difficult. So, what do we do to try to prove that we belong there? We over-deliver. We overwork. We overstay because you think if I just keep going, the reward will come. You think you're gonna get a reward at the end of this. But let me tell you, the reward doesn't come. That's the truth of it. There is no reward at the end. A cost. Everything comes at a price. And for me, that cost was a hundred and forty-four thousand dollars. Time, energy, peace, boundaries. Because I didn't just learn how to work hard. I learned how to stay past the point that I should have left. And it's in everything. As you're seeing, it's not just in personal relationships, business, because you have these wounds. So now we're gonna go into the inside part of what I learned in the scorponego framework. Awareness. Because this is where everything shifts. This is the part of where the scorfinagle shifts, right? Because the eagle asks, Where did I learn this? Why do I believe this? Why does staying feel like strength? And when I asked myself that I realized something. I realized something. The f michase it. But the mother wound that's what made me stay. That eagle awareness has to come in. But then let's talk about phoenix ignition. What was I gonna do now that I know that I'm aware? So here's this shift, the phoenix ignition action. Because awareness alone is not enough. It's not enough. So at some point, you the pattern. You have to break the chains. You have to say to yourself, I see what I learned, but I'm not living like this anymore. It's that means you stop over giving. You stop over functioning. You stop staying where it's costing you. Even when it feels uncomfortable to stop it. You're breaking a pattern. So you're stepping out of your comfort zone. Feels wrong. Even unfamiliar. Cause when you've been doing something so long, when you've been conditioned, it's not easy to break out of it. So what is the scorpionagle integration? This is it. This is what I've been talking about. The scorpion, I see the instincts, the eagle, I understand the pattern. And the phoenix, I choose differently. That's how you break it. That's how you break the pattern. That's how you break the generational cycle, break the chains. That's how you stop repeating it. That's how you move from survival to sovereignty. That's how you take back your reign. That's how you go from scorpion to eagle to phoenix. So if you've been wondering why you keep overgiving, why you keep staying too long, why you keep ending up in the same pattern, the same situations. It's not just the father wound. It's the mother wound too. It and it's and that taught you how to live in it. And if you're ready to break it, to break that pattern, break that chain, and take back your rain, that is exactly what I am teaching. Not just theory, not just talk. Real patterns, real shifts, real change. Because I didn't just talk about scorpionagel. I was about scorponagle. I lived it. I saw it. And now I scorphenagle. And you can too. And for me, it cost me a hundred and forty-four thousand dollars. Not because I didn't know how to work. That I learned for sure. Not because I wasn't capable, but because I didn't know how to stop. But here's what I realized it wasn't just the father wound. Because the father wound might be why you chase it. But the mother wound is why you stay. This has been suit and boot standing up in truth, transformation, and breaking out of trauma from scorpion to eagle to phoenix. Don't just talk about scorfinago, be about scorfinago. Until next time, thank you for watching, thank you for listening.