為何太快下結論係最危險的思維習慣？點樣透過懸置判斷令自己的思維更清晰、決策更準確《最強提問力》

一場好的交談，開始於好的問題；
一個好的問題，開始於好奇的態度，真誠的求知慾；
最強提問力，就是一封邀請函。
邀請你看見一個新世界，一個新的自己。
 
　　愛因斯坦：「如果我只有一個小時可以解決一個攸關自身性命的問題，我一定會把前五十五分鐘都拿來判斷我該問的問題是什麼？」
　　
　　你有很多疑問，但沒有勇氣問，問問題會被看成跟人作對，與人找碴？或被貼上「無知」的標籤？
 
　　你沒有興趣和好奇心問問題，也怕踩到「交談地雷區」，只有場面話最安全，不會洩漏你的情緒；人際關係有距離，會讓人比較安心？
 
　　你不小心落入「對話框架」，但這個框架從何而來？你不知道什麼時候問？該如何問？從來沒有人教過我們，問問題還要學？
 
　　本書的核心是讓身處二十一世紀的你具備最重要的技能——提問力。
　　實用哲學家埃爾克‧維斯為你喚起那個早就存在內心的蘇格拉底。
 
　　你敞開心胸，用好奇心加一小撮渴望和一份耐心，培養屬於自己的蘇格拉底態度，控制向上與向下的問題，運用開放式和封閉式問題，讓你從每一個問題去追索每一個答案的真諦。一層一層引導與聆聽，打破僵化的「我以為」「我認為」思維，重新組裝認定的邏輯。
 
　　6個【問問自己】單元，全面性找出為什麼我無法問出好問題的原因，
　　32個【練習】單元，按照主題，實務操作，鍛鍊提問力最佳實用操作手冊。
 
　　改變你勇敢而大膽探索，不會以為自己早就知道答案；改變你樂於接受自己有所不知，安靜保持傾聽，而不是想到什麼就說什麼，終結廢話，垃圾話。塑造自我的核心價值。
 
　　當你踏上「提問力」的驚奇之旅，人生雖然打掉重練卻越來越了解自己，越來越喜歡自己，從而發現一個更豐富的自己。
 
本書特色
 
　　本書提供你問更好的問題，獲得更棒的答案！
　　◆拆除對話地雷區，跟膚淺交談說掰掰
　　◆終結廢話．垃圾話．場面話
　　◆二十一世紀必備技能之一
　　◆提問力‧思考力‧聆聽力三強鼎立一起學習
　　◆各行各業適用‧每個成長階段都需要一本
 
　　如何喚醒我們內在小小的蘇格拉底？
　　◎不要貼標籤，保有驚奇的心，如同每個人看雲朵都有不一樣的想像。
　　◎探索自己的猶豫和質疑，像個哲學家一樣。
　　◎不要認真判斷，反覆對你的判斷做出判斷。
　　◎拋棄自我，成為認真的聆聽者。
　　◎先把同理心關掉，實行同理心中立。
　　◎學習偵探福爾摩斯的觀察力。
　　◎利用關鍵類型的問題展開對話，或加深對話的深度。
 
專文推薦
 
　　這是一把打開你我人生寶藏的鑰匙
　　「所有問題的答案，都早就已經在我們『裡面』，
　　我們就像已經在心上懷了胎兒，只是自己還不知道。」____實用哲學實踐者 褚士瑩 
 
國外讀者迴響
 
　　「快翻開這本書，你的人生會變得更加豐富！」
　　「讓人在現代生活中可以放下戒備，很重要的一本書！」
　　「若想要更認識自己和其他人，這是一本很棒的書！」
　　「每個人都該讀一讀。這麼一來交談一定會變得很有趣！」
　　「這本條理清楚又實際的書，正適合想要開啟更好、更有深度對話的勇敢思想家。」
　　「這本書真的是太珍貴了！真的讓我的日常生活變得豐富許多。」
　　「本書簡直是一顆瑰寶！」
　　「非常推薦給常常在毫無收穫的對話、爭執、辯論中越陷越深的人。」
　　「這本書是這個充滿爭議與兩極化的時代中的一道希望之光。」
　　「埃爾克．維斯讓實用哲學變得平易近人。必讀！」
　　「一本令人心情愉快又不落俗套的書。」
　　「鼓舞人心、易於閱讀，本書充滿實用的活動，可以讓人立刻開始練習。對我來說，這是一本必讀的書！」
　　「本書中的強大意念促使我們與其他人和自身建立起更多連結。」
　　「有些書真的能改變你的世界觀或日常生活行為，就我看來，本書就是其中之一。真心推薦給所有人。」
 
作者介紹
作者簡介
 
埃爾克‧維斯 (Elke Wiss)
 
　　實用哲學作家埃爾克．維斯的作品暢銷全球，其著作利用簡單的日常小改變來幫助讀者轉變日常生活。維斯的寫作範疇包含撰寫並指導表演題材、短篇故事、獨角戲和敘事哲學詩，也寫文章、製作Podcast，本身身兼教練、推手以及實用哲學家的身分。她舉辦與實用哲學、提問藝術相關的研習會，在各機關教導蘇格拉底式對話，也提供一對一的哲學式諮商。《最強提問力》是她的第一本著作。
 
譯者簡介
 
翁雅如
 
　　英國雪菲爾大學翻譯碩士、東海大學中外文雙學士，現與先生同居新北兩貓之家，專職書籍、影視字幕、舞台劇字幕翻譯。目前譯作四十有餘，熱愛翻譯，斜槓花藝師。
 
目錄
004【推薦序】如何透過提問，知道世界上的一切？／褚士瑩

前言__被對話的框架框住了？
015 我們的判斷從何而來？
017 你為什麼沒有勇氣問？
019 你為什麼有權利問？
021 從此你的名字可以叫「思考者」
023 實用哲學；有什麼用呢？
024 培養「敏捷視角」
026 為什麼是蘇格拉底？
027 「我知道我什麼都不知道」
030 哲學思考的開端
032 何必這麼麻煩？
034 從你和我之間開始
037 學會提問力，思考力

PART1__為什麼我們都這麼拙於問出好問題？
041 「我一天到晚在問問題，是有什麼好學的？」
050 原因一：人類天性
059 原因二：害怕提問
067 原因三：得分點
076 原因四：缺乏客觀性
083 原因五：沒有耐性
088 原因六：缺乏能力

PART2__你的核心：蘇格拉底式態度
098 從畏畏縮縮變成超級英雄：喚醒你內心的蘇格拉底
105 蘇格拉底式態度：擁抱驚奇的心
110 蘇格拉底式態度：好奇——真的想知道
116 蘇格拉底式態度：勇氣
121 蘇格拉底式態度：不要認真地判斷
136 蘇格拉底式態度：學著接受（甚至擁抱）無所知
143 蘇格拉底式態度：把同理心先放一旁
161 蘇格拉底式態度：忍受不悅感——都是過程
163 蘇格拉底式討論的架構

PART3__提問的時機
191 條件一：一切從當個好聽眾開始
198 條件二：認真看待語言
207 條件三：徵求同意
213 條件四：把步調慢下來
217 條件五：忍受挫敗感

PART4__提問的能力：技巧、小撇步和陷阱
223 蘇格拉底式提問指南：起伏
239 提出好問題的祕訣：天上的派？（遙不可及？）
251 提問的陷阱與類別

PART5__從問題到交談
263 骨牌遊戲
272 跟進自己的提問
285 用問題來對質
293 跟進：用「如果」問題來當你的強心劑
297 敞開心胸去提問

306 後記
307 謝誌

Transcript

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