看似熱情其實極度危險？《恐懼，是保護你的天賦》總結：壞人下手前的 5 個「隱藏前兆」你的直覺早就警告你了！

「相信直覺，超前部署，只有你才能救你自己！」

在不安定的年代，獻給每一個曾遭遇危險威脅、擔驚受怕的你。

 

「本書敲響了一個時代的焦慮」

三任美國總統安全顧問傳世之作　９１１事件後引發現象級討論　

《紐約時報》暢銷書排行榜盤踞長達４個月　《歐普拉秀》為本書製作１０周年指定訪談

１８種語言全球熱銷２０餘年　危險年代的必備護身寶典

 

臺灣商務印書館 OPEN系列創始作　１／４世紀經典強勢升級重現

收錄新版導讀、臺灣版作者序、大量實例及全新篇章

 

真正的恐懼是一份禮物，那是種天生的第六感，教你覺察危險，趨吉避凶；

無端的擔憂則是一份詛咒，那只是你製造的幻覺，並阻礙任何有建設性的行動。

 

直覺，永遠都是以自己的利益為第一優先考量。

屏除雜念干擾，學會傾聽、信任並鍛鍊自己的直覺，讓直覺越來越強大，

才能在千鈞一髮的時刻掌握求生訊號，有效抵禦暴力與危險！

 

車廂內有個乘客一直碎碎念，還開始對旁人叫囂，我該不該先躲開？

每次提分手，他就會哭著求我原諒他，甚至威脅要死給我看……

只不過在網路上發了篇文，酸民就天天留言騷擾，刪都刪不完！

被解雇的員工心生不滿，宣稱都是主管看他不順眼，害他被搞走，還說絕不會善罷干休……

上完廁所回來桌上多了杯飲料，他說是特別為我點的，不喝就是不給他面子？

 

隨機殺人、約會騷擾、職場霸凌、暗巷尾行、網路恐嚇；

回想每一個面對危險的關鍵時刻，你，都做對選擇了嗎？

 

殺警嫌犯持槍逃逸、狼師遭爆長期性侵、政治人物街頭暗殺、嗜血八卦啟動失智列車……



治安崩盤的社會，世界只剩下兩種人：加害者，和被害人。

暴力和危險，以各種面目在各種角落出現。任何人都不再能保護你。你最後的希望是自己。

 

被歐普拉譽為研究暴力行為首席專家、擔任過雷根與布希總統安全顧問的作者蓋文．德．貝克，將帶領讀者親臨暴力現場，精密分析街頭犯罪、辦公室暴力、婚姻中的殺機、癡心糾纏與恐嚇威脅，以及青少年暴力的內在成因和外在特徵。他整理大量真實案例，清楚列舉每個前事件指標，更建立一套威脅評估系統，讓你具體知道危險離你有多近，教你解讀身邊迫切的威脅訊息，化恐懼為助力，及時採取有效預防指施，保護你和你的家人。

 

本書集結了蓋文．德．貝克幾十年來研究暴力的實際成果，一出版後立刻成為暢銷書，話題不斷，在《紐約時報》暢銷書排行榜上停留了17個星期，並以18種語言出版。歐普拉在節目中多次介紹該書，2008年甚至做了一個紀念該書出版十周年的特別節目，該書也在賴瑞．金（Larry King）的節目中出現了整整兩小時，連續三周黃金時段直播，更占據了《時代》雜誌的兩個中心版面。十多年來，本書已成為英語世界談論社會暴力、虐待行為與安全議題的必讀書籍。蓋文．德．貝克因此名列亞馬遜前百大自助書作家，本書也被選入50本心理學經典（50 Psychology Classics）。

 

這本書將教你解決以下問題：

 

1. 我該如何面對那些拒絕放手的人？

2. 應對恐嚇的最佳方式是什麼？

3. 陌生人的舉動會對我造成什麼威脅？

4. 我要如何才能幫助我重視的人更加安全？

 

蓋文．德．貝克運用他的專業知識，打破了大多數暴力行為是隨機且不可預測的神話，並表明它們通常有可供識別的動機，在發生之前有明確的警告訊號。透過他的職涯經歷及幾十個引人注目的真實案例，他揭示了暴力行為的複雜性，並詳細介紹某人是否對我們構成危險的事件前指標（PINs），讀者將學會如何：

 

1. 辨別警告我們的求生訊號

2. 依靠自己的直覺

3. 區分真實及想像中的危險

4. 預測危險行為

5. 評估某人是否會使用暴力

6. 不再逃避危險，讓直覺作主

 

此外，蓋文．德．貝克還提供了保護自己及所愛之人的具體方法。包括當有陌生人接近時該如何行動、什麼時候你應該害怕身邊的人、如果被跟蹤了該怎麼辦、如何發現匿名威脅電話的來源，以及當你面對一位暴力威脅者時，所可能犯的最大錯誤。他為那些飽受家庭虐待、職場暴力與情感脫困之苦的人提供深入的解決方案，更為那些死亡威脅、跟蹤狂、虐童犯、隨機殺人者，提供了一套獨特的分析見解。

 

蓋文．德．貝克深信，在任何威脅或暴力發生之前，暴力行為的受害者通常會有一種恐懼感。但他們可能不相信這股恐懼，並依循這股恐懼感採取對應的求救行動。重點在於，我們必須相信這股與生俱來的恐懼第六感，並鍛鍊直覺，如此才能學會識別潛在攻擊者的警告訊號。同時他也強調，必須區分真實的恐懼（fear）與無謂的擔憂（worry），前者才是與生俱來的天賦，後者只是無心自擾，甚至會成為判別危險時的干擾雜念，陷自己於險境。

 

★書中名句摘錄



「每個人都有一個內在的守護神，他會在危難來到前預先警告你，並在你身陷險境時，領你安然度過。」

 

「真正的恐懼是一份禮物，那是種天生的第六感，教你覺察危險，趨吉避凶；無端的憂慮則是一份詛咒，那只是你製造的幻覺，並阻礙任何有建設性的行動。請學習如何區分。」

 

關於否認危險→

「逃避問題，就等於簽下一紙分期付款的合約；現在少付，將來就要加倍償還。」

 

「正如同有人老往壞處想事情一樣，也有人在危險出現時，硬是不願意去正視。這類人有一種幻想：只要不去想或不去正視危險的存在，它就不會出現。」

 

「人類是唯一一種在證據確鑿的時候，仍然會否定危險存在的動物。」

 

關於女性安全→

「我建議各位，請記得『不』這個字，它就是一個完整的句子。」

 

「我奉勸常被迫為自己的憂慮辯護的女性，要知道，妳們的求生本能是上天的恩賜，它對妳們的安危懂得比他們男人多得多；本能是無須他們首肯的。」



「可以理解，男性和女性對安全的看法是如此分歧，因為他們是生活在兩個不同世界的人：談到安全這回事，追根究柢，男人是害怕被女人嘲笑，女人卻是害怕被男人殺害。」

 

「男性，不分年紀、地域，都要比女性來得暴力。職是之故，本書在提到暴力犯的時候，用的一律是男性化的代名詞：他。女性可以很驕傲地告訴世人，在暴力這件事情上，她們不打算和男性一爭長短。由此可見，政治上正確的事情，不一定在統計學上也正確。」

 

關於死纏爛打→

「大部分的人碰上糾纏者──不管是已分手的前男友、被開除的員工，還是偏執狂──在考慮各種不同的對策時很少會想過，什麼都不做也是一個可能的對策。」

 

「受害者總想去主動做些什麼，好讓那些追求者罷手。但無論怎麼做，你都沒辦法控制瘋子的行為。就像一場拳賽，他們當然不願意輸；問題是，他們也受不了贏，因為這意味著拳賽已經結束。只要擂台上一天有人，拳賽就一天不會結束。」

 

「你要改變你能改的，不要試著去改你改不了的。碰到糾纏不清的人時，最明智的做法莫過於停看聽，而不是瞎攪和。一旦選擇了攪和進去，那你就不用再想脫身了。」

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