總是迎合別人覺得好累？《成為一個人》教你找回真實自我，不要再問「我該怎麼辦」？你該問的是「我是誰」！

這不是一本勸善文，也不是一本勵志文集，也不是一本自助手冊。本書的目的，是要拿我這個人的某些部分來與你分享。這是我在現代生活的叢林中所體驗到的一些東西；這是我所看到的；這是我終於相信的；這也是我所面對的困惑、疑難、關懷和不確定。但願在這分享的過程中，你會發現，些東西正是針對著你而說的。──羅哲斯
 
《成為一個人》在1961年的出版，為羅哲斯帶來了全國的知名度。身為研究者和治療者的羅哲斯原本認為這本書是寫給心理治療者看的，但是在銷售超過百萬冊之後，他才發現他是為一般人寫的：看護、家庭主婦、商界人士、牧師、傳教士、老師和年輕人。接下來的十年間，羅哲斯成了大寫的「美國心理學家」（the Psychologist of America），他的很多想法得到廣泛的採用，成了主流心理學的一部分，以致到了現在，我們都已經忘了那些想法在當時是多麼地新穎、多麼地具有革命性。
 
羅哲斯重視治療者與案主之間所建立的關係。他相信案主需要一種能夠被接納的關係，而他所使用的技巧叫做「同理心」和「無條件的正面關懷」。羅哲斯用一句話來描述他的核心假設：「如果我能夠提供某種型態的關係，那麼案主就可以在他自身中找到一種能力，從而在這種關係當中開始成長、改變與進行個人發展。」
 
全書由二十一篇個別發表的文章集結而成，但貫穿其間予以統整的正是羅哲斯溫暖、熱切、自信與關懷的語調。我們看到一個人，不斷耐心嘗試，並善用所有資源，以傾聽他人與他自己。如此細細的聆聽，既是為了那個前來求助的個人，也是為了尋索那個大哉問：究竟怎樣才能成為一個人？
作者簡介
卡爾．羅哲斯（Carl Rogers, 1902-1987），美國心理學家，與馬思婁同為人本主義提倡者。首創非指導性治療，又稱以案主為中心的治療、以個人為中心的治療，強調人具備自我調整以恢復心理健康的能力。1956年獲頒美國心理學會傑出科學貢獻獎。1961年獲選為美國藝術與科學學院院士。1972年獲頒美國心理學會傑出專業貢獻獎。
 
羅哲斯在2002年西肯塔基大學心理學系教授Steven J. Haggbloom的研究當中，名列「二十世紀最具影響力的心理學家」第六位；「二十世紀最具影響力的治療師」第二位，僅次於佛洛伊德。在2006年專業雜誌Psychotherapy Networker所做的問卷調查中，名列「過去二十五年來，最有影響力的心理治療師」。

譯者導讀    
作者序    
 
第一部：說到我自己
第一章　「這就是我」：我的專業思想和個人哲學的發展
 
第二部：我怎能有助於人
第二章　關於如何輔助個人成長的一些假設
第三章　協助關係的特徵
第四章　我們對心理治療的客觀知識與主觀知識
 
第三部：成為一個人的過程
第五章　心理治療中可見的一些變化方向
第六章　「成為一個人」是什麼意思
第七章　心理治療的過程觀
 
第四部：人格的哲學
第八章　「成為一個如其所是的自我」：心理治療者對個人目標的觀點
第九章　治療者心目中的美好人生：做個功能完全發揮的人
 
第五部：逼近事實：研究在心理治療學中的地位
第十章　人，或是科學？一個哲學的疑問
第十一章　心理治療中的人格變化
第十二章　案主中心治療法及其實徵研究的脈絡
 
第六部：對於生活的涵義
第十三章　有關教學與學習的一些個人見解
第十四章　在治療與教育中有意義的學習
第十五章　 一位參與者所體驗到的「以學生為中心的教學」
第十六章　以案主為中心的治療法對家庭生活的涵義
第十七章　溝通失敗的處理：個人之間，團體之間
第十八章　人際關係的一般法則：一個試驗性的陳述
第十九章　邁向創造性之理論初探
 
第七部：行為科學與人
第二十章　諸行為科學正在茁長中的力量
第二十一章　人在行為科學新世界中的地位
 
參考書目
卡爾．羅哲斯的重要著作簡介

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Kumja bun e gong, litig gumguen ging gim to my son secle di also yi bay dong the fong sec h bay dialogue so dab kanjle dialo fat zi leng Hang dong comingu tango de so yang sec so chap guan ye xi se one job mo se la yi ka dialo pun dun yinhale so do se bui fat ma zing or fong why yang hung dialo yao si hai wo zi dong lao co di son sec ho yi bin lingo tsi kei ho jouch full htai yan kei dogke hangwai. Kama yk du lingu bang gumkun king yimle jim jimpin ne jo yun yao yi tma gong ng. Kamo de binda hai yong y n yek chengsoi, chung lan, lingu kei, but so gum seng ying h b seng. Kum gumseng, ging sang bay ying whai hai go katsihong. Chocan zon yan, bunsai gong nan kung di man gumfa da yao gai tai, bang die jong xi no su yin y king hitha liga wider tin yin ye yangdongle. Come yunga ho ho fat fight, hai chong yunga yan do yan, zhao hang sang so, sang jang fong home king hai jung, cho cho lek. Kh or de hoyle, hei soy yao gate hai to my yanglo sang lim tito. Donk jai, yu kwong jung san tin, you bin do si dong, yu fatin sang so, kha zong, you bu yin, you kick fat sing or yao gate hai soil n lean ge king home. Come new king home to yao hon will be king young hao got with some lay form way jok young hai kun my jog. Come to yahoang so my joy could sing some do huggin jokeng meo fo yang chun jok day white. Come uh chun jog y mu yet. Little dungan yet ya sick dong till gin to gai fong bu yin jum so do se bufa to my zing or fong way yung hone but a ho yung ying na yik jo yao gaia gong nung. Lingdo be me jok white to my loy some tie yum haizi some diful so van ching phong to pay you tong lay loy some gum do zil yesi how dilitang oi bulle gatong hai mo si young zi gum fong zit ye junior pento kum chok te yang miele kum jo fatle hai home chia ni hai waibu joli zi san ya tai yim. Te hei lay to my kita nga guan hai mean lil si tole, hoi wai siako gong bu mean, kum tai chonglo tumbu yaohao ydo ya yi te wala, cho mo yikai, bu mean songa to chat to my sat zai tai yim hai yun chun tonga siao. Kumai yun yan, ling no de binak gai be chong chong, tha me yun yan, lingdole ling yun tao hai xi ge yim, ho fu up taiang k doi. Choc te yangwale, se wo yfa, to my zing or fongway, gan bun, t leti y honggo. What the whole gang, toon de ton, what the whole gang, bean penga, when the whole gang, mfu up taian k doi, whole gang, bean tsa, t wajo ying up taian, ying hup full mo, ying up se woo manfaga k doi, when de pas sick fat tin chli jung gang or ho yeng no joga soikao tongsi na yik jo loisum hai chan hai son gong jung chan sumwa hai changgo my chong he. Kama so hei monge gam dai honggo to my fong white some ti hoy judo wale yan si nungo ti ya ti joikam bu da ko de gumgot yansi choktio sum la ti lsi hai tai gong hai langdog mon tsi on chi one banget si do guanhai lengyan lango kam dai honggo to my fong white sum ti yao gum buda yan sile hai m soyo joi hoi pa me do tsi san ya tai yim fan yile halango ganga yun teng si yao gum gum sa do chong tai si do tigate sunhai hedo la gun lango gan skinglegan koxikon sang why yet goyan ya koi limle chokte but dun gulangodei hai yungo ganghoi from the fongse la tsun ya tai yim ton gumsal yun xi yu koyan chong yuga gay bun son lim to my son yang yinway yao ge taige gumgot hai bait zige secle hai gang tikson layat langout son yam tsigya tai yim teke jog jo gun yeo hai, chonga y lele, hai yet chota ting men y to hoge dai bong lekotaginsi ho ti ho yao gaj to my tik taho jogi siolle ko tai tikoj jogola te wung go leho toge jai to ya go cheng le sengo yao ge tai ganggok hai bailig gang tikdason lai hei lei joktim nanga ganga sumson zi sengo and your fan yin zihao leto fagole le ho yi yung li and yeho to yan ne siha guma little pin to ganga jinjongo zhong ho chimo wu but menga sangfa zhongjongo hai chifu ho chong you sang a sangfa come yingwali di butengalam fale to my lim tawle hai witai lingua day tho chong yo day foun yam tzi ga tai yim getenghai seng. Yi ho do jai wo lingdol wai y legsi sang, hami sang haiaozi why taiyim ging tai sen, hornang wosha chok, dan a little song sunkoi bait dandok one yung lega some t ye sex or chat holer, high with sealga Doc tile m danzi a son yam ziga tie em joyimle si white gold oakin white quinwella taiim jaiao yan so gay bun cup gumgok cho seng Yan sile hai ho yi patun gamho gansan bin fa sixila you do mantai tunango sixy so zang. Gama do choc on tai yimbun san jai zi go mo san kun whai so do chun sangdole he tigai tie yim. Yamhoyan de a gun nimit ziga gun nim ketu bayim so yim gumokin white. Wait fight in sun late, high biso yet yi jo yi sangam fan fan her tie him si zong. Gum little pick kan san leg gua tang. Tomale hai langdole sangwai late xi kate gua tang. Hyad yeung. Tijung go yu yi ho kesu fat lega tie yim t so y hai gang yao kin white and well, quang whai gay bun zigo. He sang go tie in with hung couple mina choigo yao kin white sang y tawa hai jo gay chang. You got lay you toke go some lady the lalan. Come yug, later ganggo lay tomago on to yet gong jo gang yim ye say j jolia go some lady the lalan. Come you got lay ya would gong on to yet tie jung some lady lookong zong tai yim. Com sang solid go y sam jong tai yim the kun whiseng jang on jugai jo yi janga la tai yim bang mayam white mbu fan chi yao kyseng di fan junwelle kohe tai yim chan kop kit choi tai chang ho yi but dun gum yung san ye g when your fong se gim chakoamle tai yim six kings on ya sutn what if fan to weng yunda hoi fong hi yangti bit y resoutang mai ko chip but fan chok yeam white kohoi yun chunto how guohoi fong yu yan yle hoi ye moji hang dongzi how hanglong hao hai mitan elanga lingdo mo ye yi but duncho bit y gasultang gun lato ya dole they will ho chan gang yuko toi kun whai go man yan the king song yi go chung kunle guan hai yingo dimunchu la tani chongulam goi gum hondor kun whai kun legwan hai bunsen moho whitevan cryo ko yigo iim seng ganchile mate piso yo tung gok form me her sea dimyan yung joho fong sex so dogla to jung jo gabung chang up get hium si white jo kun white son yam da sin jikokamgok lingo tig bose butun gansan so jingajontai gumigo chule kun like guan hai ho reform yung tsikek so ja kun lei ket yi so mi ho tai kei chang get a singotje hai jo liu ga jong fonga ta kun whai wong won't jong he kun nigga go chang so i meat youle le cup yu kei chang chokka son yam sinagoson ne one jokga chim taido yan yung yo so y go gamgok saiba san king sai bao yan tai bunsan zeg a gold ofatka yao ge tai chipsal hei, ya se gok tho gok tengok chok maygok dang dang, her kao zik chut, mode fok a gamgun tai yim, li taiyim, bunsan de chumun do young seng, hai sohan yuman ji so me tai yim lungati, hai sa jo moban fajun sengamu chun se do tai yim k ten so. Mode pisso yo yao yi se gumho siha tai yim lungi buha yi yi. Kyao gok sik got yung gumgun king yun to my son tai gumgok cho yi senga. Gum chon yabo lap yap hao yin dogundim, tai yimai ho yi legaiway, sun tai gumgot to my son tai yu yin. Y j wana santai basi why changso chong tai chong satai yao yu chengso kuo yu chao jong, behao yu to my manti danyga buda, sun tai ganggok ganganang builda chang ti kan chan su chong tai la yu tang gongko tole orgosamha go cham chong tong tai yim kuang dai chun si suntai yu yin yesihao gumgun ying yim so gangsi gang pa ham jo san bu cheng suntai ton my yu he grani a call yimla de ko hai siha, tong yang man dio on sio tong haga tai yim han don. Come majul on my jeng yok yok wong fast seat, y shung won bole like sale hung come what jokil do beto dumb yim jin fai in donk funlo, che her suns at fan in siao, could a ho yi hop you k sea gum ya bu yin fun low. Yi don't see k hoi tip lock a funn low, what ahoi tau men zin in fun low, hi m we go yapo I sang tonga, Kuifyin kai hoi, hop you k si gum bu yin hunger. Yi jung tsi hong, hi mm we lang do ziginagaye, hoi xi lin kisan mo yo sang yok moi yao taulaan y gamgo hoi moon some that yi teen mui chongsi tokum di dole. Gumio dole taile yan ye langa one hoi chong zung gumgoki sun tail me laudong uh tho kochung gumgokwi nang chuntai gumgoke wo hai guan hai yi skok ta okay white mini fai ina uhim dan ja dan dine jung gumgok yi tho jung gumgok gao zikmaya chai junghoi wusan panghang. Gumku gumgotole moi wan chang tai tip hop chho you gumgo do dectoi toyop to my fun gumgoto heng choi yi chum ho kei. Y do gumgo do lan san to my lambo gumgo donbogo to my yong he do gumgo do whai so to my hoipa. Gumko chong zong gumgo yungo he koil me high gumfokeng tai ye bate lob the wale to ho ye tai juginsi sango hai gum one jin yi mbu chung pek sang ho moban fat hong zag no zido. Come chok tia woi doup Thailan kisa tato yan face on lay sungatai fatigo hai gongan dimhondoi bole hangwai to my bolex or di a po I sing the my tam tall quan yi soul sang man tile come chok thochi fan sec c t bole sec yin jung. Comujawala c Tizo y lipsa hemway gain or cran buyan way highway jo chuniko boga sat ho y doom wo se quolong. Com quin white xi yin man butle highway see san lo mean high ta san mojong bo hai penhangajong tai come dana lady n tong se p aga gang sio so yoan loi case high bay ye saan boy yoan sang case a hai hai hot umbo come buihao to chin joy soy cow they do again though such joy po whai hang white buyho get soiko tomai mu fanho dip lap sea sun tie yim ligan se come case at tong liko hoi fong si toi wala yhota guanin chokti has some lady meat dimmer taikona yet goyan hoi si my home sip lapsi gay tie him gasihao could do my home sip lap tie and yet tie yim come sing why yet go yan tia high tip lapsi son tieyim gegua tang y two with the o jogay yan jai guan hai chan sang yang hung hi dimelikai come chotavala could you tie lango hern si kyan lo joga chansa zinhoy si how could you fight in t hai mui za mongam yang jongigo go so lang tan xi gay headle gangle kan ya siha chitongo yut hai se to jungli gotong yeo lang tang tido yin sando lengakan sans jangasihao come good y langa jinjon kuso gumsa do sang a fo ten hai soi cut bindo y layun yi job got mon mon chong yapigo goose go di her cockta and mo built her so jo be yan her choujong why cho bit yan her han kushang yan de hangalo yumal ling tan zi black alangle yun yi lukai yun yi yung yan m da tun ya langle molen ling tenga dojonatsi gating a k taian he coi tile ma tengo de hoy yum liga ling tengil dim doja my koyan yesing yam pako lady xi gay loi song yam taian y sing yam sun tai sing yam come ling tengsi tai chong song lil gaga yi yun tai sohoti me so tile hate siing or fong why yang hon siale yan tonsi gang ta go gang orgamin go bigole come ton jok ja sito chak gai xi no form whai chi some puh hong gole cajin one hurt se gay her liuga yan day zaikin hong mo himgesi ta honang zyu lengo what the goi bean what the hole an hai her one hurt se gay her changum liu guai tie and so gong a suit wa to yukoi hai dogging a me ye come liga yamala liu guai hagin mo himgesi the yugungo bait se gay her cox at gum liugayan mother hollan weam little guy ye fas and go bean ye case at node to hoi pa goi bean be me satalhole gungtai high wan watching gum tatu is meok han jai zog changin gongwa yan he to hog a jong tai ha mina jai pat dun liu guai chi santai yim pin fag loudongwa cheng y liga biso kin of he but dun lengthen a cage or t sang come youth siho foul site but dun lingtenga loudong zhongtai no fajin lingo tontoiwa hai mut pat hofong a guanhai yumai toiwa ja mo so go lengtang so jose come song bay you tongue tan toiwa what they kanga son ton loy some ging or doiwa come choktewa tongo day hai lang you k siam hui sang my tsi k si howle lo some liming at sing or toiwa chong duct on mountain the wigan jigam siu come si the song molon hai langtan si gate tong ta y sing yam hingo lingtang silla do si don doiwala come quanito wala chocet he sam jung changin ta chin jo yi t hokga g ego doiwa chit ho zip lak taian y zango chim lung come kuchywala tetolenguan hai min kangil tiu sengying ta che hai lengyagungo gang o tongle komta wusing my jo toiwa guan hai gecho haiong mokde tomale yong gito ngotong ta guanhai chi makfataje. Gum sang do yu tan for me yang do ta magedokba guan hai. Kamachen chi lec triang, hai ygo chi tai do guanhai. Kama ying sang toiwa guanhe guan kinsa jo yu sang ying ta che with jung ta ches si white tong xi kong yang chun jo yi ma chung ta jesi wai jong mapgoi mutele son yu hong zago jung. Kama langao yao mo to my ta keg guanhai tho hung mo to my lei kegwanhai la. Kama to yungle, don yakyan pai che siplapsi san tai sihao chi mo tai chyu kunganghai pingu jung xi no ta jefa yim yi tobei tisan tai sen yam jong toj do loi to si notoiwa lonwai kano ketokba kwanhai tonagan langa chiplap tisan tai sihao couldung tsi no chan such gumsal gangakaugan ping langao yi tai yim jobwai cham timba kim ta tsi san jong tai loi jo ting hotiwa sinangao sone kautong loi jo ting hotiwa kwanhana chitong y langa chip la tsi san tai yimgasihao le no siway lingo ta jet binva ding tai yim j langa jokwai yga chamtiu Sisi Koying Changong a jongtai Likan Chang no tongan okoile lo joga tingotoiwa J Lango Gam siu chongdu to my mounton Yi son lei kautongla Sula mina tsi wabbing on tido Sengwayan with sang whai yu k so silexige Hai mejontai gonaj lang tang ji bla sonyam tsega Tai yim Chai Seng Whai tige Gama Yam Chai go butin sengwai tigia guateng Sumintai se kedo yangseng becoming Kekua Chengti jong Gam libun su menjai on becoming a person. On to so bu yin yepin faban don't lamine choxika hai ko one hai kate xi yao gam chun yap ko tsi gay bun yin so ziga lao being go changti jong gum ko do banhang goko yao si no fong lo jo yim hota man gam gamu lan tang zigei komdu uh y majju ko hai uh langao hai call fock gumgot my fan yangina hai kauda wo hai. Yim so yu hakban gung fongse hong xi gay cheng ting cho chogam gai tang, te y maju koi kanga langa chip lap zi ge so si hai di made. Che could you nangao yung tong yung a fong se lang tang liu guai yan yi chip laptaian. Kumkota wo chang tsi sangyel lo jo go chang bulo chile. Yumai koi langa chanse to my son lai lidi tie yin. Kui patunido, chamsa, ping che fai yin sang my kamyungko lao pin patkoyzi kei, hi m dun yu, fai young tige no sang, pin chu pin du pake, kom son vanner, nigai langdo tsie kanga kyungo kamer sang my man yam hoi fong hap lay, yao lo jo to hungga yan lig. Langao yong yong hei, sang jongle, si hego fookta man being a tru gang til sick. Dum jai seno de siu hai. Kugo chan zangloisam, fong hap henga to my hong jai tie yuk mon we do chansa poxak a jong tie. Dum lady ting no what a tie and sing yang the langao be one ho chunjoi y do a langao bei ho ho tang game. Then you siu hai chi junghoi mo ch mo hai woon zeng dang and sing mon j sai gai si hau, couldi wo ydo, gun tatli saigai boon me mao, couldn wutong bean, mutin menlingho pinseng, da yung ye. Tong yea, ti no sat yin zhe, y doingo hondoi ti gay, tama yang de bunseng. Singwakani bunsule, hai sik up soyo yantai, yimakwa yan dongode, her tam so sangi wa yan, cho gay bunamantai, to hai morga si so. Tomango dim yung chun joyle, nigga whole low toga chun joi chi yimantai. Jogta yungo day jung a chong dim fong hate ziga ji san tai yim so me. Yung jo yun ti sunsa fongse ho one fan chang no. Comediko tam go chang no mina jokte but dun cooline or day ziga lang tang tigate zip la ziga tai yim mo la nig of fun low sang teho eye de kalin de toy so get hunger could yun chin sun light zigay hedigo yaogi tai yando could tell her good zin or sat yin sang jang fong her comyo choc te go and son name to my sea song tide kis a headal cho yang take toy song mo whai call him te to ging gong si yi sang yang pahan yi tsi pat gin yi meng but why yi sang the call him but why yi sang tai ton su laming gong mm kap chiho penga tong hong jai yauso fo yang buihao chai yan hum sang whai yat goyan ye yi si la dongosu goosei mo ya sometjon while legong gayapunho su you go late to hai go mm gum yi yin jong hei mount ongode yatai sang up jumbo ki yan. Funny late then you guy up mode your channel tongue yeo de la yong take a like a share guy one day yetai sang up yetai jumbo