EP12 | 為什麼你總是需要別人肯定?｜如何建立真正的自信 ft. 黃茵Dorothy Wong 專業輔導／心理治療師（下集）

上集我們談的是童年創傷的裂痕如何形成。這一集，我們談的是如何修補。

當我們成為父母，如何承擔曾經造成的影響，重新建立與孩子的連結？
當我們成為成年人，又如何拿回自己的力量，不再被過去定義？

我們一起討論：

• 如何修復關係中的「裂痕」
• 內在認可與外在認可
• 為什麼過度依賴外界評價，會動搖自我價值
• 面對批評與回饋時，如何建立穩定的內在認可
• 當感到停滯不前時，如何突破成長瓶頸

創傷不是終點。
成熟，是願意承擔，也願意在一生中不斷修復與重建。

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🎧 上集回顧
 我們談童年經驗如何影響自信與自我價值，也探討什麼才算創傷，以及如何面對與整理它。

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｜來賓｜Dorothy Wong 黃茵
 專業輔導／心理治療師

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Transcript

預告

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Hodo ye grouping. Do you low like gang son soyo ye hai ho ye king of food, some gang of meeting? Taibun self help su tenga di YouTube little gripin. Kopin haio chi hangdo you bay hold gula tiggay some so job di fancy why you did ho fan fan.

SPEAKER_00 0:22

Yet lie to external validation. Case at the yin hurdle bag. You wanna go bag little doing a de beau joy pang on name? You and I'm seeing the mojongola. Got lego white why ying bang ping bam about hurdle direct color. They hold see y we got a hole. Say we'll hang on. Oh, they dance on that. Yes, sir and do ya got a finger chong demon so ye a generation.

SPEAKER_01 0:53

Yes, some food or hold.

SPEAKER_00 0:58

Hello, come again, they got a home hai cherry, fooning fandology and hop. Welcome back to the psychology department podcast.

受害者與加害者心態

SPEAKER_00 1:44

Hang on, whole so hot. So high her little home. So high the gun goes on okay.

SPEAKER_01 2:10

Um, ying one dog white yellow saw hoje. Come down all we'll come at. Um churching yim yellow sing or don't you do fag got diggers or hog. Mo fun bo fun kick along like e toifong ling or go fong sunshine to gilga ho zero, donk is a yoga hoje. So egg a church fatim has sang while they ho, Dana Kimo Tai and Doy Fong Long Lango Sing So Gum Tai Yu Yin Songhoi, but the Suntai Song Hy was it gum sang yesong hoy su yin sing my so hose. Come so hoze, told sea, do hai yum my got the tigay, hai mo son bo tig gom do ye come lila ma thing or is that do we want silpan yao hide, the yum my high go see how coy moguma yin. Hoy guys it come time yao di koy being a yummy young or to hai kindergarten, gas silpan yao to yiging ho ye whole like gong ye some chicao to di full mo sai ban fat magazine, a hai din nature is sung a so mob jok. Come so yaudi full mota yeah you go they said so hoy di tail is a gog yeah. How but a baby put hoy, so beautium. Tippaga got che gangloi pin, you go like got yawye fong, high got the hole, but bacon pen ati. Gum case at you like gong he sang jung again

如何修復關係中的「裂痕」

SPEAKER_01 4:00

like full motif see ho ye chick ham so joga hoje, say wakug siao le my mouth leg a chilo di ye my hai some be more lot lay ho di sacko chung my digo so t come cusam Langodolana. Come walking oli fumo hai sec jokin wazilo di ma yeah, could check mo dai, siu boon gwai, so tongo sipang ya eye level. Ya wazer po hei koi tongo eye le fumyong gong, yiking jang ho yuna. Come ton yin, or yik do you gong ho chan sumwa, or the muya go and hijofu moto yan sang that sea, hym sick. Come hollang yansi y tonjola, ya wazai yansi jo jo di get to go, your dick go fan. Come on the dimhoi bow fila, yawazo y ling to nigo song how was the ego crack, bogum yimjong. So tongko dou he block, waffan bigger ten, thousin mummy tai cho jo, eva hell lay joga, danya yun hai. Some jin hai, mummy don yingo yung gum senhei, la nigga ho si la you go langa zikka go di joda but joke ye the e saw bow, le time dog ye tai fan, kesa go sunghanzo yiging hoi liugala, hoi kyu jo haiago a bandwogai jo laula, t sitla, ya wazer you lay so bota hole, hoji ya bunge hang a gum gai, wa le youngi gang hog and mat by jo haigo le hango do, but dan zim haiago song han fan y lingdo yun sing a yachola kangaho. Com water tango hold gong Baba hollang gong j home hob late. Home made so fan itongje do hip kiss a could on Baba Guan Hai kangaho. Com saying o'go they put you so Yogamahochi, Jonan Siu di buti him taiga, haga hoje, but this uh ye, dear wabi to font hair come like gong, hame my hole, I may ging up gang or the guan hilo, then I poor wagon taiga guan halo.

SPEAKER_00 6:03

Um, don't think you do really fun like the old hang your parents. That's saying on my high parents, uh doubt you're lunch and mouth. The whole thing, go home. Blame hang on, I think I'm gonna see some of CSC. Or the injango realization. Ling the go see, believe that high om ga house. No way or settled home. Taifan, okay, or their parents.

如何建立自信和自尊

SPEAKER_00 7:46

Dorothy, I demand yet advice.

SPEAKER_01 8:08

Never too late to have a good relationship with your parents, right? Ya was they out here had joded up my mo or should up joke. In her team or fancy in her one go, gay woo, he saw bowl. You little languages, you fancy you soon hoy de gay her goisin, layout jumgan so bad. You go like a fool mo, but then lady hang the zimway, whose support like wa fox on gaff, double foot heansea maybe augama come lay diman bong, to hide joy go thodico. His old sido fugo judge high um south singlock. A yin sang joy mummy mojola, hold on bug will go for one sub mo silo, uh whether you're joy and young gaj jo are ti dog. Your don't keep on jo don e gag singlock a soul, lay y'all bill yet, leg a teaching, legal detecture soil, the yao lay gag don't hide tea, not like you see. Don't you young leckum yao sangyan? Mamma win my joy, nay some bindy yan, do we got the e ying sang joke mojo or cojo do come the young lo tick find the pan, do high gum yung young I might. Listen be and ya chido. Come say young mango cajung ya go bong or de tigh single high cockti gay, you know sanglo yet jun high jo do co, come die got okay, John do more bang, more loudige gay, you know, dana chung san ho could think, or ten yet yao joy go or ten yet your late hey son joy one dog. Come y tea loy the yellow garner, nigga digin to yell low yellow high tigh senga.

SPEAKER_00 11:37

Gam gone yao lang all of our getting his son at home as he how you go to high thing san yet. How the hot city makes a promise. Or choodo ya self confidence. I found her practice like hai hi yao go zasatam gok. Mm sado internal tongue, external validation. Internally, so go and it's go chop me hold. Self-reflection.

SPEAKER_01 12:40

Hello? Come call your jong or galling boon. Come gouding gows in the can you go to judge and judging subtail the my book or jo. Come here, all the moment lau finding autumn sandwich. You may go like hope be mean. Fontaine go come bewil me a dub on your little gonuchelet, mooler. You go mighty some dice on joy. Come on, good. Come on, come on, move galugum yellow, get Joe Sagy Hayesan yiking, Yao Mido Gaffe, Yao Jing Son Chong or Garunggoy, M so giga Uber. Tell me but my whole ghoul like hai nation guy could man take a long leg. Hai young legger thinking, young legs see how go being neg a doing. Chong ye yun my legger hang by jo ho jo, later wake on got jinjong lady a being. A soyo ye do you long by a tile gong, or te montai gaiuming bank, hold on ye guipin, do you low like gang son soyo ye hai ho ye king of food or some gang or meeting, tai gabun self helps you at ten a de youtube little gribin. Kopin haio chi young. Dana y do you bay hold gulay one or high hung to go whole direction. Hoi grybin, or to dum chaw. Some so job e gay, zodi fancy why you go like a young. Come on, go ahead whole fun fan.

SPEAKER_00 14:54

See, come on day, hi, you go like the egg jumbo instead of lay hideo dum go hold, lay di full fun. I'm doing no church on your way sea sang, beansang you yin. Beansang hangwai. Yang di fan jun. See how one junha sang or young yu yin yo gongsua dim se gong yeah, hungwai. Hi in how they bean fun jo yang hung sea so and then practical diagotho practice. Dim got month housing all the pangs a code.

SPEAKER_01 16:01

Maybe go like learn ye. So you go sick yeah, limited. Uh ye bong si gay fun fai com seal, come so yo tai chim tai dim gaian yu butun ho lifelong learning, you haw ye. Y ho ye jo jong yu tai hoi chong kick legao lampha. Na you le wa la li pang yao butun fancy to joy how do high go ho, come silwa kiss a k mo san si wider. Come ho lang hai with your sixty mtonga pang yao, sungi some fo tong, kinha mdong yesai guide, come kiss a co si ya fo, could guy could manta lung like my go jo, or so young yogam lie high footosa, what a lodging or philo, the tongsa yago eight fo nigo tie ligam taila. Com you go lay guggam mantila, high little philo gum die. Ye lay guy could man taiga long ling, the holding or yugan foum die. His a lisa momentila, yum my guy could manta lung like dye go legum tyma, dana you got you fun jun, lay gungamanti, high de go a fo phyllogum die. Dana you know lay guy good man taiga long leg, the sauban, legal mantai, ma chinga sauban, the one lingamanti, hai yun jun die you ling along like gum legity pang ya licolong tai sanko big hoc dogoddy yella, mon late jala, mogo and yellusika, hotisan ye, chip jong tonga sea mut, leg a gai good man taiga lan leghai jolla see how legal mantai jong wigum yimjongala, bido de go like.

SPEAKER_00 17:43

Oh so lumla case hai youn san cage, go me mala, na hai or team guy m seal jolly de a hai mig um you go a tang sorry. Kase auto self blame you might say hung. Yao casey dirty go you cut was a whole expectation of the only junjo meet and the uh fighting tongue or lady case a good joy energy. I'm not sure. So the energy height lingo. Okay, can we focus on the next one? Next thing hoi demon lingo kingdom will shang funny on tank and get a hung at the gong with that. All that or sun hai, whole side or the high whole sec duck, deep surround or gay. Some journality is a case that they go yang zul Kwang food. Got the soft months out yoga angle or soft. Go on it's a high expansive. In our fan arm dark hands are high. They change your leg behaviour, hung white. My feet fan they get self-esteem, joy some funny so I'm gonna go loop go relationships.

SPEAKER_01 19:28

I have you

在困局裡如何突破成長瓶頸

SPEAKER_01 19:30

guys your bow chong yet, but I'm gonna go to the bummer sick myself, the bomb, though. Come lake, y to high tongue, go you lock joy tan order, jawa, or you sick di jung me yak. I can young silver kingdo di and ho tiwa, tummer six months di and do high teen I may similar energy with cup fan my tie. So you lay tell single, hang on young sung a diam, or your sick dog one to di come yellung bondol you lay my older cherry, or got a keg on siling jungle energy. Yummy you whole victim, home got a sea and bo jol, lady young don't we sunbean. Yum coi de gong church like wool like a shipwaller, they got a layer to do, uh lay a baby legum go de son laying to the gong dear gumga, no ying got you churning. Come go so laying tong, you shall go, mg baby ho yang or come here, don't go each other tang don't let so each a witch in. So dee go to hai you like a low yeah, don't it but tangum san fa foolangle.

SPEAKER_00 20:59

Lia we cup young do fan it's a gum job yung fun that cage white on your daughter. So long as they give it a king guy. Um why are they lie those used to hide?

別人不肯定自己，如何自處

SPEAKER_01 22:00

Being hugged one gang. Dali tea food, do sick and do ya didn't or the tops in yang young hoy bong lay teal chicken go get pangowle. Le holland ja you give me qua co you live in si whole um Jo Wan dong Le Holland ja you join go le chongloi molam go gym. Le chonglo my whole sons yan they gill fan gauge hoy fatong a game hoi ha junti jo deep lay ping pussy song jo ye. Yemai zo hai hi di m tonga wangen la bean, le holland sang senior ego, not a gill duck po way, or ten your nine hang yan, could gong, ho gas duck your okay ho tail m ho some gum ten yaho boug it, whackelle hoy, cutang. Columdomolum, so jun hai, may hig a boy long. Ho jo ya cod the ungo yin, or yin mo get high side john than lies a trip, could sang tong side. Tell you lay mango or got the yan sea, or the hung go haggot done yun j day. Hollang or they dougly dougho do you find come sir haga yam. K yan se basic gay take a break. Hoyum tongue one gang gin ham tonga yan, young sang to win yeo. Don' ye eating mo e t out, come lay mango, a tire ch light like go yo so bom joyao. Then or him on gula die god tie, the yet thing you but dun sang son legal yan sung him zigum yang. Had got team better lake eagle sai gai zowat jun. K yet then we be a ho chung saga sung baylei, mo ba bain auntinquanana, come fatazam yo ziga. Til go little hurdled. Kamovan jun taula, you know we go king like do tawle, high sang.

比較 - 內在認可與外在認可

SPEAKER_00 23:55

Hydolido Mandai. Young my case that or they gong an internal tongue external validation. Yet lie to external validation. Kha ying hurdle bag. Hi, hi. For example, you go high go and see gum hollonko, fang hologin to mojon singola. Got like a while ying bang ping bamboo direct holo. Um good I more and you will say how long y'all do. I lame you young interpretation. Yes, we'll get so juicy.

SPEAKER_01 25:00

Hi. Oh, good H generation. Yes, sun food or hold. Come down hey, Chichung Ya lay Ho Jogo one gang, little yoga chun sick hungan. Yum y guy say go di my sawge pompin I come hang ye gate joga yeah what it be and h boy how g dim de hong so. Come you go lame mango gong or gay go gag points and oh hey to gay lum chy. So in di young ye go like yoga young high con chok sang his a joint. You lay mangol or cock dung you and do check the lum coging a joy. So you find ye chairing or dye challenging a din tangling or dam sum. Kitten and bow phong choke chun like could hold cow cake and would choke a sung men. Hollong some t yao yet and fan bag. Koi would gun yako waiway lock lock, kill joking up fan secge young son, co yi white zigay ho chong meng, got the little sog jum megum canne jo ye go jong zaula, got bay happy o gole, his a coin zido coya chong ming, his hai zige, mox of jo zigay being along like being yet in high sang jik, or canido you do your de yan to fako hai. What should her go kac say, Hajo bay make a gong jungsaw. Have a good time. What jung yang okay, what's a hoy to already young, so in order and baby high hold young shall tang o to ho ye okay. Yang munchukum hai tang le hai go cappine, but they got tick wise and a go dye. Fun ye hai nayam fai to gay. Hungo chigan yaw go lintou gongayho, gang yato janhei, holo okay to kinog hai l'oganyo ja sunasuna jo uba, not beijo gate, hoseo, targa tesla to uba, that keg of one gang gay ho. Gun to colo as a hija gong san or the okay one gang ho, so ying order yoga tari to uber se gate, that you might put on got it, kiss all on a yin to jolle jo one suit, to seeking or hoy some go to and king hot guy. Come song yin full mo gang out like you are not good enough. Oh sai come come. Tani case you go sung a toy m sea come to gang out like lo hoyer, has such a song hard toy boom dang at like. Sun ping yan, hey yao yao chunghao, the gong gay to lay mofa ina, your di john joga hole leg, son hogo di yanna, har di no sico jojo di meho sungo gumma wi go the yes sung high wood hai yam day sualo bina, laying mo ya zigorla what it la margama big or young sang when you do your dian helligalala do ye. Hollong lay chin side to the hole gum side boyan. Yik do yao di atner shen gay low like tom junggy lay. Come hold on the song as I to the cry hogum side lan hump. Come time jung yuga ja yaudian came over so lap chung. Le fan ye dimelho would chur like a sung ming a gong chow, cousin sinsa dimmo done. Come mo legal dim jungy legal yana, but you focus on jigay, tom my hayful nigga yan, but the good may yo love chang a yan. My man who is so good sang my leg and la la do I may hold the lay.

SPEAKER_00 29:16

Hold on second story, Sandelato self esteem, gay deep some tie. How do joy how parting words your dear mass and tong goon jung gong?

SPEAKER_01 29:30

So easy gay. Don't eat tanda cow go gang you so let little fagot, you know, soy don't make sense. You go yet in yet chop by the king like mo lind dolet. You gon' bo you go younger young, yik don lang dolity or ticket chung eating but yet, what you did my yet. So ye young son we go ging like to lay.

SPEAKER_00 30:09

That's a dark thing. All the more joy die get take away, see how to get a high Molan like ging like go de madam. They yet then you send the hug. Young high go on ye since the high dodge or sunset, see how see you honest to yourself be since you with hard. Oh they had jargon. Right, mm singla. You along the topic, let the high choice high Instagram. Her DM follow along, come on day hats up jargon. Bye bye, thank you.