EP17 | 孤獨與被拋棄的痛：心理輔導如何療癒人心 ft. Dr. Allen Dorcas 教授/輔導心理學家

這一集，我邀請到一位我非常敬重的老師—Dr. Allen Dorcas。他是一位培育了許多輔導員的心理輔導教授與輔導心理學家。對我來說，Allen 不只是老師，更是一位真正把自己相信的價值活出來的人。

他讓我看見，什麼是真正以人為本。這不是一套技巧，也不是一句口號，而是他如何看待人、聆聽人、陪伴人；也如何在一段關係裡，讓一個人慢慢有勇氣面對自己。

我們一起談真正的成長是如何發生：

本集重點：
1）為什麼認識自己，是成長與改變的開始？
2）面對孤獨感與被拋棄感時，內在其實發生了什麼？
3）心理輔導如何透過一段安全、被接納的關係，陪伴我們理解自己、接納自己？

我很希望大家不只是聽到一些方法或答案，而是能夠感受到 Allen 的一份力量。

也許真正能改變人的，不只是某一句建議，而是一個人如何用他的生命，讓你重新相信自己是值得被理解、被接納，也值得重新認識的。

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接受心理治療的個人經歷

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人本主義與以人為中心治療

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什麼因素促進一個人真正改變

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什麼是成長？人如何真正成長？

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成長從面對自己開始：從反應到回應

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觀眾提問：為什麼被突然斷聯後這麼難放下

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觀眾提問：如何處理孤獨感

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