فن الإصغاء.. هل نسمع أم ننصت؟ - برنامج مشورة الموسم الثاني مع ياسر الحزيمي | الحلقة الثالثة والعشرون

فالإصغاء جسرٌ للفهم؛ فهم الآخرين وفهم الذات.

مهارة تقرّب الناس، وتؤثر في القلوب، وتبني الكثير من الدروب. لكن في عالمٍ مليء بخطف الأضواء والتنافس على لفت الانتباه، غالبًا ما يتراجع الفهم.

في هذه الحلقة نتحدث عن فن الإصغاء، وعن الفرق بين السماع والاستماع والإنصات والإصغاء.
فالسماع عملية ميكانيكية قد يدخل فيها إلى أذن الإنسان ما يريد وما لا يريد، بينما الاستماع قرار يختاره الإنسان بين المنبهات من حوله. 
أما الإنصات فهو درجة أعمق من الاستماع؛ سكونٌ للجوارح وهدوءٌ يفتح باب الفهم.

والإصغاء هو ميل الجسد والاهتمام الكامل بالمتحدث.
كما نتوقف عند فكرة أن الاستماع الحقيقي لا يقتصر على سماع الكلمات، بل فهم ما وراءها؛ فالكلام فيه منطوق ومفهوم، والمستمع الجيد يدرك ما خلف الكلمات والمشاعر التي تحملها.

وتتناول الحلقة كذلك مراتب الاستماع؛ من التجاهل، إلى التظاهر بالاستماع، إلى الاستماع الانتقائي، وصولًا إلى الانتباه ثم الاستماع التعاطفي الذي يُعد من أعلى مراتب الإنسانية، حيث يحاول الإنسان أن يستشعر موقف الطرف الآخر ويضع نفسه مكانه.

كما نتحدث عن أثر الأحكام المسبقة في تعطيل الفهم، وأهمية إعطاء المتحدث قيمته واحترام حضوره. فربما يكون هذا الحوار هو اللقاء الأخير بيننا، وربما تكون لحظة الإصغاء الصادقة بداية لعلاقة أجمل وأعمق.

حلقة تناقش أيضًا أسئلة مهمة:
كيف نصغي للآخرين بصدق؟
ومتى يكون التعاطف مفيدًا ومتى لا يكفي وحده؟
وكيف نتعامل مع الأشخاص الذين يكثرون من التفاصيل أو يجدون صعوبة في التعبير؟

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Matilwald Timam, Idahi Rabi Anni Muratayibhas Alan at Nidinihas.

SPEAKER_03 7:22

Shefal istima Lima wara al Kelimat, Hadanua Ami Kjiddin, Wara ki jiddin, Taramudai Miliga Gulik Shay, Yibrahil Kelma. L'anal Kalam, Fihil Mantuk or Fihil mefum, Al Kalamufi Lukatil Arab, Mantokun Wam of whom Atikmital, Haluj Fikita billahi, Jalla Jalalhu, Ayah, Tadul Ala Anar in Sam, Maya Drab Obuhumma Fiaya Laujid Aya. Wala kinallah Azu Jalkal, Fala Takullahuma, Offin, Wala Tan Harhuma. Fahad al kalima al mantuka of Tadulu ala shayimin ahar anama huwa alamuf aidan haram. Fel kalamu mantuk u mafum. Felmayati ahadigulik shay terkal fahad al mantuki mafum, evidentligatil mafum, gidar tatafa almawta ta'am al ma'buki, ukum ta mustemi an Jaidan al Musema al Jaid Yefamawara al Kalimat. Lakanhal istima Martaba wahida al Jabla, Heyamajmu atmarat, wahat, Martabalula, he martebatut tajahul, whoa ta'mmud adam al istima Tammud Tajahul Tagranigat al Musran, Mamala Ajid Anamanias Mali, Wala Ajid Manusrili, Fashurbinur Min Adam al Hamia, Lambalatl Tarf al Akhar, Adam Liktirath, Kulwa Ashia, Tukhi Masha'ri, Fahtar Alla Atakillim, Allah an Atakillem, Wala Ahad Yasmali.

SPEAKER_06 9:03

Alabatir Nafsi, Shahs, Muraqizl Kenimat, Limawala e Klimat, Hinaq the Al Gaz, Id Antra, Fadim Walk.

SPEAKER_03 9:12

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SPEAKER_07 10:55

Ananafsusha any lam my kunfi hadith mum anama ekter asmani fajat mobul mumhum anam fajat mini chet ma magdart asma mother.

SPEAKER_03 11:06

Wahuna kathir minan nasfiadal mustawa. Kathirman nas and titsolif metan. Togulart nowena uligena sayara sadma hadith kibir umranem andl jembalmatamflani of the halt matilani male gadagulukil hadith, gadagulukna ben sharna, gadagulukhnem salatna musriba, kil hadamak hemma kil matam. Tet and the baban mas yetafal da kal hadithik bin tika mimma Yhatem mubihi walaise mimma, you shriuk ant, had a wahadman mustawayat el mustawa, al in tikai wa the sarahas luk, muz e jiddin, eda canut tarafilli maak, sadiik, au zojja, au zouj, au ach, au ab, au um, au ibben and tady ma'abha tariqa wa daim, you maris listima al inti kai binisbeti li haditi kema. Wal mustawal afdalmen, w mustawal intiba. Felayudhir, I no minute ta' of inemayintiba, yestima, low ultelahu aed ma cults say read laakin hulu one minal mashar. Wa kannnik a maam tabib gad to gulemushkiltik, who ga adisegil, bikulter kisbess huager mutefahem out muste erli mokafik. Haiu minhu, who alistima at ta'at of takamas. Mustawat takamas, wamin ala mustawayat al in sanifilestima, and tisteshir mofa parfil akhar. Lamit kalimli and shafurhan, ajanfsi abtisimlashuri, lemait had ditli kefa hua uherj ashurbiani harara tadl heraj, lemait hadith an alem, fan ashurfida khilibi marara, kamaya shurhua, wahadi a la maratablistima.

SPEAKER_04 12:58

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SPEAKER_03 13:17

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Andil henu hadnosabi and do mishkilhu rehabishtimay. When to kill emtbhus uh modu at the wasulbasari, nimatalan low had kill me a job ma anadra, okay who kulma another how will gefliself how will Yani said I say uh will ma another bayona. Fa wishal halma.

SPEAKER_03 19:48

A shukaralik at Tawasul Basari Hadefulla Wasila Wasila and Yahlikem. I the had in Wasila Asbahat wasila, Likat al Hihwar, that's the same. Had a shakes may have the hadinad let another. I did Al Qaeda Shekelam, Tarraf and Hatiajman a mammak, Ta'am al Mahouf and Lehtiaj. I did al Qaeda. And San Heb uh Solfman Solf and San Tarafinas may have bit kellem, have begun to kell them. Has to kill just a man to solve. Like the maticaleman and killer. What if the crap in another or the road another? Are you done?

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SPEAKER_03 20:58

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