سوء الإستماع قد يُدمّر علاقاتك! - مشورة الموسم الثاني مع ياسر الحزيمي | الحلقة الرابعة والعشرون

في زمنٍ يريد فيه الجميع أن يتكلم ويعبّر ويلفت الانتباه، تصبح مهارة الاستماع من أندر المهارات.

فكثير من سوء الفهم يبدأ من مقاطعة الحديث، أو من قرارٍ اتُّخذ بسرعة دون أن نسمع الطرف الآخر جيدًا.

في هذه الحلقة من مشورة نستضيف ناصر السبيعي الذي يشارك تجربة شخصية كادت أن تصل إلى قطيعة بين الأقارب بسبب ضعف الاستماع، بعد أن اتُّخذ قرار سريع دون فهم كامل لما قيل.

نتحدث في الحلقة عن الفرق بين السماع والاستماع والإنصات والإصغاء؛
فالسماع قد يكون مجرد وصول الصوت إلى الأذن، بينما الاستماع قرار بالانتباه لما يقال، أما الإنصات فهو درجة أعمق تقوم على التركيز، وهدوء الجوارح، وتأجيل الحكم وتجهيز الرد.

كما نتناول فكرة مهمة:
ليس كل متحدث جيد مستمعًا جيدًا، وليس كل مستمع جيد متحدثًا بارعًا. لكن التكامل الحقيقي في الحوار أن يجمع الإنسان بين مهارة الكلام ومروءة الاستماع.

وتطرح الحلقة أسئلة مهمة:
لماذا يميل الناس إلى الكلام أكثر من الاستماع؟
وهل الصمت قد يمنح صاحبه هيبة أكبر من كثرة الكلام؟
وما الذي يجعل الإنسان مستمعًا جيدًا؟
كما نتحدث عن أهم معوّقات الاستماع مثل الانشغال الداخلي، والمقاطعة، والاستعجال في الحكم أو الرد، ونناقش كيف يمكن أن نطوّر مهارة الإنصات من خلال الاهتمام بالمتحدث قبل الاهتمام بالموضوع.

فالإنصات في جوهره يبدأ من الاهتمام بالشخص؛
فقد لا يهمك الموضوع الذي يتحدث عنه، لكن الأصل أن يهمك الإنسان الذي أمامك.
حلقة تناقش الاستماع لا باعتباره مهارة فقط، بل مروءة إنسانية تبني الفهم، وتحفظ العلاقات، وتمنح الحوار قيمته الحقيقية.

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SPEAKER_09 2:20

Anhu be hamaj lichtibar fat al lemton had al mock of mahua hambian.

SPEAKER_02 2:28

Say the jit and sedash and akhan mushroom the costil mustemraj.

SPEAKER_09 2:36

Well for conta or is a ferkfinor. Kithirman and Naslamajes metal and yean yesmahim A Yisma al Shahs Mayhima Fahwa Yesma Wala y estima Hu Sirhan Yani Babshkani who a yesma yesma like in a minute dahl yestime yestima el nepsa yad babu mo yesmack aslan yani enoughimabara would left the imageless wool adi aslan gather to Jedwale. When a baruhuanibiji uitkelemisol, tilga his drasa, wail like, waysmack, when the maestem elidachle. Fandinasema and estima Al Insat deraja a aleminal istima. Ridalik, Waratil Kuran, Weda Puri El Kuranu, Festima Festimi Ulehu, Hadimarhala, Wansi to and Insat feetabat wahu do filjaware. And Isra, who may lumbil Jessid. Yanigu Islam Amel Kem had Isra, Wa Mu al Mubala, fehar lehtimam, Aurobam al Mubala Flechtiman, Yani Mumkinana over Likilhtima, Mumkinan Filamatam Kenamik. Agua Hagil Ish Ishkilt, Abdahawl, Arakizamaman, Fan Disema, and Distima, and the insult, and the Al Isra.

SPEAKER_02 3:56

Sadia Silana Mushkefil Isra, Magdalk is the Fisher Samam yet had it. Kifya Nagdar Astimat with Anakit with the Hadith Kif Halil Jumhor Yon Sutli with a Swalin.

SPEAKER_09 4:08

He's how about it, Sam?

SPEAKER_02 4:10

And I kept agitable in Tiba.

SPEAKER_09 4:12

It's many days.

SPEAKER_02 4:26

Eh, we'll get like an had already sualem. He talked about an Ijawahdi this time. But Ismas. And I'm the Mushkaf Israel and Asgh sil imam. Lalatukil Imamikla. Is Masualik int int. I the Swal Asi. Muskil Sua the Kartan Nima Asgrid Shahsil Imam.

SPEAKER_09 4:48

Matikdar Tusri Shah. What to read and Mustamer Jayid. What to read and takun Ayaban Mut had it? Jait Jay. Halad the Solwahad? Yemkilwa had kumut had Jayit. Mustem say it. What the kun is a Mustima bad or jayit? Laken a make the kingdom shekel. It nane lackin yamharat dachil maharat wahdaratakfi. Any kum stima jaid and yakun ledayhi wa'yun muqfi. Arba al qudra at had this al hadith asalib. Finas aslan yebni hiwa tuswalifa bil asila. Fa was el fenas yukhbir, walaisel. Nijin mas alat elistima elistima eyon mahara ukra, the hemutal labat ukra, jadara, muhtalif ataman, and jadara til hadith. At the kamul Mahua, and yakul in sanu, mustemi and jaidin, tj muta hadith and jaid. Had it kamul, like lisa kun mut hadith mustame or less a cul mustame hadith.

SPEAKER_02 6:16

Anas lachmark said, Yasalakan, cave was the mustimajid. And we should look out of his study that must say you'll have to come with had the antic mustal about and how hadith learned, like mustimajid. My anti marumat is al Hadith had seem can it come like more butith any more about the shots, charisma labarka had the king the can't must say any matter.

SPEAKER_04 7:15

Can Hulu and a guide how if I give you comestible? Fan and machine studyasar, Mumrakisma, or Halto the Harat.

SPEAKER_02 7:30

Halather's timal another stima Iabuluselby. And Muhayat Muhayat Lahada Selby and Estima Selby.

SPEAKER_09 7:45

Al Shanfer Ben Sumt Sukut Uben Listima. Listima and Yabosot. Alistima will insult like sort. And a Ryabal Mukapa Ryabal Hukum a la keramek. Ryab Tajir Rudd won't get at Titkellem. Hadaled the Yajib and Yib. Lan Maksud and me Ma'atkelem Oma Garpak, and a munk in a gatrek, minjo that istimay. Bimanagul oh, Bilal, Sudik, Hadim Mukapa, isamuhatrimanatil Hihwar. Fabilak al Muthaditl Jayid, Al Muthaditl Jayit, Hadla Yakon Musema Jayid. Hadla K Mustemajit. Well Musema al Jayit, Aledi Ujit Lil Aharin, they subvarura and Yakuna Mutaditan Jaidin. Hadi Mahara Titaj Bina Hadi Mahara Titajbina. Ashany J Maha, Ijmaun Hafi, Maharat al Hihwar. Al Hihwar, who will ledi you allimne, Kifanyakun, Mustamajit, or Kif Awanyakun Mut had Jayit.

SPEAKER_02 8:46

Had if you Maharatil Hihar. Kithat Kaedhi. Either in either kit Mustimaj or Hakumut had jade, I khat if belly. The Fajatriamar had it married and gal Malhafibanama water that would have the jade practice.

SPEAKER_09 10:05

Mushkilat and nas fisu but ilistima li annal kalam shahwa. Kalam shahwa tawa. Wahawa Mathal Maddachl Shaitan al Insan, Li Annel Insan, Yuchti Ubil Kalam, Akhtal Mim Maikabasant. Fahiham Madachl shaitan insan it killam kitir kitir, kitir kitir kitir.

SPEAKER_02 10:22

Thomas Rush Nukhat Khalini andam Kamusta Majit, Astam al Shah sil imami, and health inukat Mariana Lakisfihashana Kamusta Majit. Hadaswaal the imantere.

SPEAKER_09 10:32

One attakin Hadaswaal Aslan Sualhata. Walyan Sual Khata, Setakun al Ijab, Mahama cannot, Saheh has a Kunhati Ayaba. Teman, with Lemajikwahdi Gullik, Mahmatul a Vul Rab Efilmutel. Mahma jip Mafia Mafia Mafi Mahama Balaght Mahmaj Sashart Mahama Jibp Adawat Lak Yas of Rab Efilmutelat, Asman Sualhalat. Lish Sualhalat, Anabatik Metal Basit Lojah Wahad U Ent Filahba Tasma Tehtaj and Tesma Kelam Moham Jid then Gabid Amur Mayan Tisma.

SPEAKER_02 11:15

Sutla bad.

SPEAKER_09 11:15

Tun Sutla. Ulomafi. Tis a little so not the name it's so. Ish in the end the kilmahara.

SPEAKER_02 11:24

Nikit Vam shaded go to Kitan Sutla. A Lish Sar and the Kil An in Sat.

SPEAKER_09 11:28

Himar s and motto sheddick. Let mush Mumaris and Mars and Tikar. So Modoshadik little mother shedding. Yanil Istima and Istima Mebni Al Etiman. Fuhikah the Muhim majeddin. Anal An Ashan Akumustim Jayid Htajilantiba Shinikalini Muntabe Wal Etiman. Mushkin at the Mustama Redl Jayid and Yakun Mun Tebima Yohim Muhominal Mware. I the anime him. Ana Gullah La El Asal Allah Yuhimekil Modur Al Asal and Yuhimekish Anna Asma likli anlik in't binisbeli muh, had to look Modurak met mayhemini. Anel in Tibahil an Kemahara, Kemahara in Tibah. Intibash Mana, Maana Hazel Jame of Dodla, Wal Mushetat, Wal Turkiz Allah, Masterwahat. Walhi Ayy Baula Uchra. The shall do that. I'm kill Dodda Dahli. Hiwar Madhil, Jawali Sharat, Ahadit Harrak and Alri Kilhad, Warakizmack, Len Oracismaak, Illa Ida Kunt Mohtem, Lima Takul Omah Muhotem Bek. Timan Al An Ida Tefakna Al had Tefakna Allah Anna and Sat Mabini Allah at Turkeys what Turkeys will in Tiban, Mabini Al Timan, Yajib and Hatem Bilmota had this another Yakinan. Yakinan. Anan Kalam Mahara what is Tima ish. Mahala to Mahara, Lisa Mahara.

SPEAKER_04 13:15

Kalam Mahara will istima.

SPEAKER_10 13:19

Allah.

SPEAKER_09 13:23

Mush intel an Mahatem Bihadas Shahs. Bian Muhamm Bennisbelik. Wahadi himk, Praez, Wazir, Mudir, Khatir, Ayankan, and Telakib Tisma, Tistimahnik Muhtembi. We jeqwahadmaha meint matara shai, meantemfi, Matisma. Filihalak tisma, a suurbil Ahami. Walidali kilkalam Mahara Amal Istima Fahuamorua. Al Istima Murua Yajmah, istima Mush Mahara, Mashura Tilion Terhadi. Hm Ahad Yi Gul Anamani must tell me a Jayid Nugulhal endik Murua. Ishmael Moroa H termili Amamek.

SPEAKER_10 14:14

Hadrali amamic. Making tell Sarah Bel excellence kill me to Moroa. The Hamas in Yana had in features good dam you come with had it one estimate. Hammus L Hadi Fika.

SPEAKER_01 14:23

Murua and your unk Helter Temil had the shakes, halte temel Moldor, Al hasabatimic, Beshaxul Mordor, it couldn't and Mustima almost that almost rehadash.

SPEAKER_09 15:42

Munauba Mush Munahaba. Mush filhvat into Tibla rig untkul self tibla to khaleik lahvat Yellowbus Munahaba. Lahi Munauba, Fidrasat Gotman Lamajit Killem and Ferusat al Alakat, Minil Ashia aleti to Sibnufra fil Alakat, the karmbaini hatikar al hadith. Wa mukata at nas, ma'intilit killem bismatub hadith killem untetuqata al nas, walatism eb Shekil Jayid, Leshekin the Hadi Minil Ashia aleti tofsid al Alakat Mahmaqanat Matina. Wal Ahhamin Hada Kulla and Tehterim Tarafil Akhar, want to atihakukafil kalam, Umasahatafil Wart, Wahakkafit Tabir and Raqya, Wa ant Aywan Bihadilfil, and Tattak Filmuruat, wa Tutchilakalbayamin a habbil aman il Allah S Bhano Tad.

SPEAKER_02 16:31

Shakanlik Sidiasra al Hadil Mashur.

SPEAKER_09 16:33

Allah takil Afi Bus in the Talab.

SPEAKER_02 16:36

Madakarrat Allah Sharakala Salmabat Kamakalab. Ushkarrat, Ashil Shibdifi. An a tahad Maharu Stima Mahar Okla.

SPEAKER_09 16:46

Ah mana lent test me athale. Gibbushweitail Murua Famaka Mustama. Tab al Makamustame Elaisa Ya ni le annahu Mustama say Wamun Sharil be sualy Femaka Mustama. Wa Mun Sharil be Matalan Mayasma Muncheril Boma bin Nasali Hoda Femaka Mustama. Hadal in Shiral Dahli Akbar Muay Lil Munsa Tiljaid. Al Hadith Mahara Sa Alistima Mura Mura, Sir Bib Mabni Alhtima, Sir Lahara Fakap, who Lehu Kaida, Ismuha Al Murah Wal Adeb, Ba de Hatabni Alayh al Maharatil Uchra Leti Tesha. Tikal Afia Sidas. Tum Stemia Allah Anik Jayden. Lap Satan Satalik Sabanasa.

SPEAKER_02 17:42

Salah Tanas Sudam Tyama the Kalasadias Tima Jardiani Namahara Kamakut Ata Kut Sabakan and Mahim Rua Niktishil Amamak Tati Ahamia Tati Hakka for Samatla. And Niktisma Kalam Mahemik Talhadi Murua.

SPEAKER_09 17:58

A nuctafa al Ma Modur La Nik Talhadi Muroa. Allah to Kata Shahsliamamamek Fimordu and Tata Akhtharman Talhadi Muroa Hasan Hulok.

SPEAKER_02 18:10

Aktharmashura hat of feha fe that kirti member basura he and the arty masa talk aher the tabir while a lackam.

SPEAKER_05 18:24

Last we couldn't recognize it down.

SPEAKER_08 18:28

Al Udun always paratul axar the convenient.

SPEAKER_09 19:03

Ubardanas Ibrahel. Who may be hell mar his malik. That me lay you read who. The lemnos humakbulun, well a rot you nephew.

SPEAKER_06 19:18

Al an mathan, tosal you aldi, can you watch himl? One hell to sorfi kun. Ma istima ash walla de hell, filmushkel gadya annifiya. But who you make kalimni kalimni home of vagin this she.

SPEAKER_09 20:09

Hona, ebdafi atta el hululul al mustahbeli. Tefa al maa, uhlah, matilam, alla eenik, kil those, oh madriesh, madriesh, madresh. Is alatugullah taiib into shtiktre. Munki jigulkla na halas kalem tumiru sawet u sowe. Halasantador kla. Monki guru Alla Mahadrish awi. Wid the Aruh alkida, with the Aruh alkida, he natakel, illa masalatani and tip that its solv ma'atl khyaratu ghera, walidalik, munkawa ad muhim majdin, and you how will insan shekwa fiha ilatalab, a shekwa, ilatalab, hujalik ishteki, yeshtaki lekemin, amalematalan, butgul and taib and shtiktere, ushmunkin tatlub, ushmunkin sawi, fatankl akle, min mustawa, al alam, ulmadi, will atar, will asbab, will dawafar ila ilal hilul mubasha. Subhanla bitrayer lugata, treyer nef sita, tari kattifkira, fada wahdi m al adwar nan sewiha, wa sent nam ahan kundorna bestnessma, halitarfitani, yeani uhnan se finge. Nam tus masha atrafil Ahardu Mankad Dimleche, Wahyan Kundorna, and nehna manti kellemfilmaru namber ilem stuckben sah hleho, mayumkin tas hefel mstuckb. Had this uh tahadidin Yani Atar and Dimajmu Amin uhtasurat. Back in Yumkin Agul, Edantima To Hib and Tataf. I insan my hibbi ta'ap. I shanif sal nef so my kumustanka wala salahli muhamalata, al masha erwala wala wala. Anti the laq sadrik maybis malikaj. Kieftervalinfsik alllayu akir misajik ahead, be masha kilihi, wala kinnik temla a dunya the jij jin.