Escape the Matrix: Wake Up to Your Real Life

What if the "Matrix" isn't some hidden system, but the routines, distractions, and beliefs that keep you disconnected from yourself?  In this episode, we unpack how autopilot living, constant stimulation, and outside noise can quietly drain your energy and keep you stuck.  This is about reclaiming your focus, raising your awareness, and stepping back into a life that feels intentional, clear and fully yours.

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Hi, welcome to the next episode of Rooted and Rising with me, your host Tanya Parker. I will just apologise in advance because I've got a bad case of eight fever today, so I do apologise for the sniffling and sneezing. So let's get into today's episode. So what do I want to talk about today? So today I want to talk about the matrix. The word that gets thrown about a lot, um more so lately. Um the escaping the matrix and what does the matrix mean? Oh, what does the matrix mean to me? The matrix might mean something completely different to you. And this is just my kind of wisdoms and waffles in for what it's worth. So here it goes. So to me, the matrix is not some physical concept, it's not a physical cage that we need to break out of. It's a cage that we create ourselves by how we've been conditioned. So for me, how to describe it quickly is on a visual, is I don't know if you've seen the picture, but there's a there were a post, I think it was on Facebook or whatever, a while back. And it was of a horse that was tethered up. Or an elephant, might have been an elephant actually. Elephant that was tethered up from being young with this metal chain. And this elephant's got bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger. And obviously the chain has got by no weans any strength to hold the size of this elephant. Yet that elephant's been conditioned just to stay in that one place and do whatever it needs, the owner needs it to do. So it doesn't break away from that chain. It can break away anytime it wants. And that elephant, if it could talk, would say, No, no, I'm chained up, this is where I have to do, this is where I have to stay. But it doesn't. It's just how it's been conditioned, and it's his views on the world and how he sees it, is what's keeping him there. So to me, in summary, that's how I see the matrix. So how do we look at where all this conditioning's come from? We have to start by school. You know, in school you're taught to stand in line, fingers on lips, speak when you've spoken to it's all conditioning from a young age. You know, put your finger up if you want to sp put your hand if you want to speak, I'll put your hand up if you want to go to the toilet, you're told when you can go to the toilet, what you can eat. So it starts at that young age of being conditioned into a way that they want you to live. That chain starts pretty young. And then as you get older, it comes from obviously the the things that your parents have learnt, they pass down to you. So, you know, they tell you, oh, you've got to go to school, you've got to get a job, you've got to go to college, this is the way to live. You've got to get um save up for a mortgage and make sure you've got a good um credit rate and all these things that they then pass down to you. So you'll think, oh, that's how we have to live, okay. That's we've got that. And then you watch Tele and it's showing you what success looks like, you know. They show you these programmes on people that are really rich or what have you, and they show you that success looks like this, this, and if you want to be successful, you've got to work hard, have you got to do this, and and then it's the news. So the news is on, the news is showing you all the doom and gloom that's in the world. It's never anything that's happy. So that just keeps you living in fear, so we fear a lot of things. And that to me is the creation of your own matrix. And then as you get older, you choose what you input, you choose what you watch on telly, you choose what you read, you choose everything. But a lot of them choice come from the subconscious mind of how you've been programmed over years. Are they really your choice? Because if you would have been brought up in a different area, you would choose something different. You know, you only have to look at when you go to poorer areas compared to affluent areas. If you go in a supermarket and look around what people are buying in their shopping trolley, the affluent areas will have a lot more healthier foods than the not so affluent areas. And that's not about what people can and can't afford because sometimes you can cook a an healthier meal a lot cheaper. It's just on what they've been conditioned and what they've been taught, and we just monkey see, monkey do. So the first thing for me, escaping the matrix, is actually being aware, is opening your eyes and being aware of what this is, actually being conscious rather than going round in a subconscious whirl of all this information coming in, you know. Actually, being aware of what you're buying. It's like at minute now, all I see is matcha, everybody's having a matcha, and all these influencers having matchers. How many of them really like 'em? Probably most of them don't even like 'em. Not saying the ones that do, but it's the fat. And then it's oh Starbucks and get your dog a pup cup and post it on thing. Do these people ever stop to think, does that dog even really like that? Why does the dog want a cup of cream? It's it's it's not a child, it doesn't really realise it's getting a treat. Um and even if it does, even it does enjoy it, it it's kind of are you doing that for the dog? Are you doing that because then you can take a picture and put it on Instagram and look good? So how many of these thoughts are actually his own thoughts? So this is where I see that we become stuck in a matrix. Because your thoughts are not even your own. If you had to take yourself out of your life and think, right, strip back everything that I've ever been taught, strip back everything that I I understand about fashion, about how my home should look and things like that, what would your home really look like? If you look back in the 70s, everybody's homes was colourful and big bold patterns. And then you look now, everybody's homes are grey and cream and really, really minimalistic in colour. So nothing's changed in the people. Why do we all this it other than the fashion? And where does the fashion come from? The fashion comes from what we're told, from what we're the input that we get from the TV, from magazines, from everything. So why would I choose to have a bold pattern in the 70s? But I'll choose to have which I don't, I've got bold patterns now, by the way, choose to have grey or cream now, because I'm still the same person. But it's fashion. So is that thought my own? Is that style my own? Is that what I'd really like? And it might be that that style's yours, I'm not saying that style isn't yours. But it's about stepping back and saying, what would I really like? How would I want my home to look if nobody ever came to visit it? So I'm not doing it for anybody else, I'm doing it for me. What clothes would I like to wear if nobody ever saw me? So them clothes I'm wearing for me and not for everybody else. And to me, that's the matrix. The matrix that you put yourself in, the way that you follow what everybody else does. People call it follow the sheep, whatever, however you want to look at it. But we're conditioned to think a certain way. We're conditioned to think that that's all you can ever achieve, that's all you can have, that's the only life you can have, this is the only option for you. So, how do we kind of escape from that? So I think you've got to start by looking at where you're getting input from. What are you watching on tell? What are you reading? Are you watching the news? You're watching the news daily, every day, every day. That's depressing. I don't think anybody's gonna have an happy life watching news every day because there's nothing in that that's gonna make you feel good about life. Odd now and again they sh they shove one good luck story in the middle of all that doom and gloom, but in general it's just stuff that's gonna depress you and bring you down. I remember sat in a hospital AE once for about four hours, and all that were staring at me were the news next to a machine that just sold sugary confectionery. You know, it the matrix is people not wanting you to be the higher powers, not wanting you to have thoughts for yourself. Um, what's that famous quote? I want a nation of workers, not a nation of thinkers. They want us conditioned, they want another brick in the wall, they don't want you to think outside that box. So escaping the matrix, if if you just sat down, like I said, and just thought, what do what makes me happy? Not what makes me happy to show on Facebook, but what makes me happy. It's like when you see people all go on these holidays, there'll be a fashion aware everybody's going holiday and everybody's going to that destination. It's like, are they going to that destination because they want to go to that destination, or are they going to that destination because they want to keep up with everybody? And that's the thing. So you have to sit down and think, what do I want to put into my mind? What do I want to put into my body? What do I want to bring into my life? Because your energy glows where your energy goes where your tension flows. So whatever wherever you pay your attention, that's what your energy is going to focus on. So if you're focusing on comparing yourself on social media to so and so you went to school is doing better than yourself, then that's not going to give you an eye vibe in life, is it? You're just going to be trapped in that. Now, I am aware that I kind of start off on a subject and I drift off and it kind of goes on to other things, but I think that's just where my my energy goes, where my brain and my mouth go, and they're not always connected, so you kind of got to just either turn your phostic with me, I'm afraid. But I hope I'm making some kind of sense to you that the matrix to me is is a conditioning that we've put on ourselves of how we're supposed to live, and we don't have to live like that. If you want to live a completely different life, you can live it. And somebody say, Oh, don't do that because it's not sensible. Um a few years ago, I sold my house and moved in a caravan, and it was like you're gonna lose so much money and da da da, it's a bad move to make, whatever. Did I lose money? 100% I lost money, because I did. I'm not that dumb. I know a caravan is not gonna go up in value, and it'll only devalue. So, yes, I lost money. But I had seven years of having a life that I absolutely loved, so that were worth it to me. I could have stayed in where I was for seven years, I could have been really miserable. The miserable life might have meant that I don't know, I ended up running away with circus. I don't know. I might not have stayed happy, whereas for seven years I had a fantastic life and I loved it. Have I now gone back to a house? Yes, they have, but I don't see that as a as a failure, I see it as an experience. People will pay thousands of pounds to go on holiday. You don't say to them, Oh, I don't go on that holiday because it's going to be a waste of money. You're paying for an experience. So, yeah, I paid a lot of money for an amazing experience, and I would still go back and do the same thing again. But that's the thing, it's about doing what you want to do and not doing what you've been told to do and what you've been conditioned to do and what everybody else says you should do, or and this is the thing because while ever you're not true to yourself, you will never ever be happy. So if you want to go live up in Scotland in the middle of nowhere, if you want to go move to the beach and wake up on the beach every day, do everything you can to make that happen. Because you only get well I'm saying you only get one life, I believe, in past lives and re reincarnation, but ey-o, you only get one life this time round. So you've got to do everything that you can to make you happy, not do what looks good on social media, or not do what good looks good for other people, or not do what you fear doing. If I'd have listened to people and took their advice on on not selling my house, I would have never done that. And it wouldn't have led me to where I am now. So that path that I chose, what a path that I wanted to choose, and I'm quite comfortable with that path. And I think this is the thing, you've got to escape out of that conforming to what's deemed normal or right or whatever. I remember years and years ago for my first car, I wanted a convertible mini and I wanted it spray painting flower power. And my mum and my partner at the time were like, no, that's stupid, don't get that, that's a ridiculous idea. And it's one of the biggest regrets of my life that I didn't get that mini with a I even looked at getting one a few weeks back, but the tax was about 300 odd pounds a year, so I'm not paying that. But I wish I'd have done that. Did I buy a more conventional practical car? Yeah. Do I wish I'd have had that flower power car? Of course I do. So Escaping the Matrix is listening to things that raise your vibration, reading, taking information in that you want, switch out from the the information that you're getting that's not serving you. So don't put that news on. We don't need to watch it, nothing ever really comes from watching that news. I remember watching it once when I was a child and been absolutely terrified at Falkland's war, and it never affected me personally. But I spent weeks and weeks crying myself to sleep thinking that my dad might get called to war and do worry about things that's not necessary. But we have to look at the things that we subconsciously take it. Actually wake up to what's around us, and I think this is what I mean by the matrix is that we're constantly drip-fed information that we're not aware we're being drip fed. So it might be that you went to supermarket, it might be adverts on the TV, buses that go past. I remember Darren Brown did an episode a few years ago, The Mind Hypnotist, and he showed how this worked. So he drip fed information to this guy through his TV, through adverts on buses that went by him, and he did it over days, weeks, it's quite a while since I've watched it, so I might have got it wrong. He convinced this guy that he'd done murder, he'd committed a murder, and this guy went and handed himself in. So for somebody to convince you of that, in your subconscious mind, you'll not even be aware that that were being drip-fed into you, drip-fed into you, sorry. So he did that for the TV show, and that guy's watched that back. But we're all being like that every day. So just take into account what you see, what you're taking in. If it's not serving you no purpose and it's not lifting you up, it's not making you feel better, don't do it. Don't do it. If you can't afford that nice sofa, but you want it and you're gonna get in debt for it just so you can look good to your friends on Instagram. Don't do it. Because don't buy into that. Because that inevitably ain't gonna make you happy. Because once you've sat on it, you know, the novelty of having that's gonna wear off, and then you're gonna be left with a debt for the next two years that's gonna make you feel miserable. And this is how the condition, this is how they want us to be. They don't want us to just be happy with what we've got, they don't want us to be happy with the simple things in life, they want us locked into debt, locked into, you know, how many people now actually own their own car? They're all on finance, so I'm not saying that's a bad thing in certain circumstances. But people are paying a fortune every month for a car that they can't really afford. To what? To look good to next door neighbours. Who cares? I drive an old car and I own it and I couldn't care less. I have really no interest. I've had flashy cars, I've no interest in well say flashy, not flashy, but new cars. I have real no interest in it. A car is to get me from A to B and that's all. There's no way am I getting myself into any sort of debt or anything just to just to have a nicer calf, to look good to. Nobody cares. If somebody pulls up at the side of me in a flashy car, I don't look at them and be bothered. But then the thing is, other people are bothered. So if next door neighbor gets a new car or they get new windows or they get new this, it's like, oh I want that. And then that feeds this jealousy, and jealousy then is one of the lowest vibrations. Envy, jealousy, anger. We don't want that. You have to look at people when they always say that you get a lot of people who say when they had nothing, they were so much happier. And I think when you look back in times when they had nothing, but the people around them had nothing, they didn't really want for nothing. Because as long as you've got food, water, roof over your head, the basics, everything else is just frosting. And we don't need it. A cake's a cake. Yes, you can fancy it up by putting fancy decoration on it and things like that, but at the end of the day, it's still a cake. And if that cake is crap, it's crap. No fancy frosting, no fancy car, no fancy new sofa is gonna make a life good. If if it's rotten underneath, get the basics right. I'm not saying it in it go buy a new sofa if you can afford to go buy one and it makes you happy, by all means, that's not what I'm saying. But what I'm saying is focus on the basics, focus on the main things. Find who you are, turn that TV off, unplug from that TikTok or whatever it is that's dragging you down. Don't get me wrong, there's a lot of sites I follow that raise me up, there's a lot of TikTokers that I follow that I get inspiration from. Follow them by all means, but just be conscious of what you're putting into your mind, where your attention goes. Because if you just keep repeating the same patterns, you will have the same life. And if you're feeling low in your life at the minute, look at what you could change that way. Do I really want to watch that TV programme? I remember going where I worked before, we used to go for Breck and East Enders used to be on. I used to come back from my breck and feel more miserable than what I did before I went. I don't know, anybody can watch that programme and not feel miserable after watching it. That's not doing my life any good. It's not giving me you know, when they talk about vibration, you attract what you you vibe out. So if you're running at an eye vibration, you attract things to you with that same vibration. I'm not attracting nothing good to me if I've been watching EastEnders. I'm attracting misery, doom, and gloom. So whether you want to believe that that's true or not, it is up to you. I don't know facts, I only know what my opinion is, and I know from what I've studied and from what I've listened to and what I've learned over the years of being fascinated by these subjects. You can do with it what you want, but I do know that whenever you want to sit in a low vibration, and whenever things start going wrong in your life, and the more you focus on them, the more things come in. And whether people want to believe in manifestation, law of attraction, whatever you want, however you want to put it, cosmic ordering, however you want to put it, I've had some amazing things happen to me when I've really put myself in that focus of that's just gonna work out like that, and I'm I'm confident that's that's gonna happen, and and it does so for me. It's about just having a little look at your life, seeing where you can change, think about what you're taking in. It's like when people want to get a good physical body, they'll watch what they eat, so they'll check the nutrition of things, they'll be careful of what they eat, they might eat organic to get the best out of your body. You've got to do the same as your mind. If you want your mind to run at a top optimum, then you've got to think about what you put in, and by feeding it crap, you're not gonna have a good positive life. Especially if you're watching EastEnders, man, how anybody can watch that. I don't know. Sorry for anybody if there's an East Enders fan, don't come for me, but I don't know anybody can watch that and feel positive about anything. So think about what you're watching, think about what you're reading, think about what you're listening to, thinking about just even when you're walking out street, what adverts been pushed into your face, try and live in a bit more of a conscious state rather than going around subconsciously, taking all these things in, and then wonder why you feel crap in your life. So for me, that's escaping the matrix, being conscious, asking yourself, do I want to listen to that? Do I want to feed my mind that? Do I want to be controlled in that way? Ask yourself yes or no. Feed your mind good quality information. Escape the matrix and cut the crap out. So thank you for listening anyway, if you've made it this far to my ramblings. I know that they kind of always don't go in a a pattern kind of drift off, but I speak from my heart and from my mind, and how I this is me just sounding off the thoughts that go on in my head, and hopefully, if it helps one person and you can go away and take something from it, then it's all worthwhile. So thank you again. for listening. Fortunately I didn't sneeze anyway, so I am going to go now. But thank you for listening to this episode and I'll see you on the next one. Have a great day.