Ep 21 Show the Universe How You Want to Be Treated: The Self-Love Practice That Changes Everything

You have heard the saying show people how you want to be treated. But what if you took that one step further and showed the universe?

In this warm, luminous, and deeply personal episode of The Magic in the Middle, Sarah shares the simple daily rituals that have shifted her energy from a lifetime of feeling abandoned, unworthy, and alone to feeling celebrated, supported, and deeply loved. Not because everything changed on the outside. But because she changed on the inside first.

This is an episode about radical self-love in the most practical, beautiful, accessible way possible. No grand gestures required. Just a face cream, a warm bath, rose petals, and the willingness to say to yourself...I am worth this.

In this episode you will discover:

• Why showing up for yourself in small, intentional ways is one of the most powerful signals you can send to the universe
• The face care ritual Sarah does every morning that turns a two minute routine into a healing, energetic practice using Qigong principles
• How blessing your skincare, your food, and your drinks shifts the energy inside your body at a cellular level
• The mirror exercise that Sarah credits as one of the most transformational and tearful practices she has ever done
• Why an empty cup cannot fill another empty cup and how filling yourself first is not selfish but sacred
• How music, rose petals, bath oils, and a single cup of sleepy time tea can become acts of profound self-devotion
• The connection between how you treat yourself and what the universe mirrors back to you

Sarah has walked from deep self-loathing, feeling small and unworthy of her own love, to this. And she wants the same for you. Because when you are full, when you are truly full, everything shifts. The way you speak. The way you think. The way life shows up for you.

You are worth slowing down for. You are worth rose petals. You are worth every beautiful thing.

Show the universe. It is listening.

DM Sarah for her free Fire Horse integration class at marrvelouslife.com and join her free Qigong practice group, Monday through Friday, 7 to 7:35am Pacific on Zoom.

Transcript

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I'm so happy you're here. I love spending time with you. I have so much fun doing this. I have so much fun sharing with you. I mean, it energizes me, it fills me, it fills me to know that you're here. So I want to talk about today. I've been thinking about something, and you know, you hear me talking about stretching and growing, and I am growing into a new greater version of me. And I started thinking about that saying, show people how you want to be treated, right? And then I was like, wait, show the universe how I want to be treated, show the universe how I want to be treated because the universe will provide then whatever it is I need to be able to expand and walk forward into this new greatest version. So so show the universe how I want to be treated, and I want to be treated with love. Maybe I haven't talked about it much, but I mostly felt abandoned and alone and fear, a lot of fear, lost. Um and so, you know, I've worked through these things through my life, and now I'm at the point in my life where I am loving me, and so I am showing the universe how I want to be treated. So something I've been doing is I have these beautiful skincare products. I love skincare products, really high quality, and uh, you know, without um chemicals and things like that, like my facial skincare lotion even has little qi balls in it, so there's qi energy and all these beautiful botanicals and healing ingredients. And so what I've been doing with my skincare, like my face cream that I use to wash my face is this beautiful emollient cream, and I put it on my hands. I get I start rubbing my hands together, and I just say thank you, thank you to the person who created this cream. Thank you. This beautiful ingredients in this cream to nourish my skin, and then I start massaging it all over my face and say thank you to my face and my skin. You know, from a Qigong perspective, there are lots of energy points in our our face. So by doing this, I'm sending so much love into my body and healing into my body. And like if you've had a facial, oh my gosh, this is so amazing the way that they like move it around your face. I kind of do that, and I'm like as if I'm getting a facial, and I say, I'm thank you for my face. I love my face. And I do that with my lotion. I rub it in my hand and I just say thank you to the person who created it. She's so amazing. She really is so passionate about her ingredients and the chi balls and healing skin, and she has webinar. I mean, it's just amazing. So I just visualize her and I just say thank you so much. I'm just so grateful for her. And then my my skincare products like body butter and oils from OC, which is O, like the letter O and C S E A and Malibu. They put um seaweed in their products and they're natural. It's a mother-daughter company, like they put so much love into it. You can just feel it. And so I like to just put some of the oil with the body butter in the palm of my hands, and I mix it around and I say thank you. And thank you to whoever made it possible for this beautiful creams to be here to nurture me. And then I put it on my arms and I just say thank you to me. Thank you. I'm deserving of this beautiful care for me. We're talking in the last episode about loving all parts and all sides of you. And just taking the time, taking the time in your self-care to really give that love to you. And it can take just a few minutes. You can take as long as you want. To slow down, because I'm slowing down my routine and saying I can take the time for myself. I don't have to rush, rush, rush. I'm slowing down. Using these quality ingredients because I'm products, because I'm loving me. I'm showing the universe that I'm loving me and I'm worth it. And the energy shifts inside. This is shifting the energy inside about how I feel about me, how I feel about the products I use. Like you may have heard of blessing your food. I bless my food. So, this is the same principle. Blessing your products. Even like when I'm brushing my teeth, I'm like, I'm so thankful for your teeth. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, gums. Thank you. I'm just treating it like it's a spa. Every day is a spa day. I did something the other day I haven't done in years. With OC products, they have this cool product for um the Vegas Nerve. They have a Vegas nerve uh product, like a little kit. And there's a bath oil. I haven't done this in years. I took a bath. Oh my gosh, it was so amazing. I put rose petals in there. I took a bath with rose petals. I used to do that with milk because the lacto the lactate or whatever it's called in there is really good for soft skin because it eats away at the dead skin cells. But I put in the OC Vegas nerve oil, and OC products just smell amazing, they smell fresh and delicious, and so when I'm breathing that in, I feel like I'm celebrating my life, life in general, and then I'm looking and saying, look at how the universe is supporting me now. Beautiful water, rose petals, OC. I feel so celebrated and so supported. And I'm showing the universe how I want the universe to show up to me and for me. I'm being clear. I'm not being wishy-washy. Like I don't know. Well, maybe. Do I deserve it? I don't. And if that's going through your mind, that is okay. It went through my mind. Not now, but it has. And it's just a practice, it's something practicing and getting used to because we are taught not to do this. We're taught to rush, rush, rush. Hurry, hurry, hurry. No, you don't have time to take care of yourself. No, you don't have time to meditate. No, you don't have time to bathe, to take a bath. No, hurry, hurry, hurry. We're not even taught to say, I love me. I'm amazing. I love you, Sarah Adams Mar de Ma. Louise Haig. Oh my gosh. She was so amazing. She was such a good teacher of love. And the mirror exercise. Have you done the mirror exercise where you look at yourself in the mirror and you say straight in the eyes, square in the eyes, I love you. I love you in your name. My gosh. When I first started doing that, I balled my head off. Because I just didn't think it was even worthy of my own love. My own love. If we don't love ourselves and think we're amazing, who will? Who will? It's us first. And when we're filled up with that, it is so easy to go out and to give it and to share it. I know there's a lot of people in this audience that love to share and help and support other people. And that comes when you're full. An empty cup cannot fill another empty cup. It's impossible. Filling ourselves up first. Taking the time to take a beautiful, nice, hot bath with whatever your favorite oil or bubble bath it is. Oh my gosh. And then the other thing I did when I took the bath. So you know how bathrooms are like have this echo? There's this music that I love to listen to. It's called Lemorion. Oh my gosh, it's so gorgeous. And they're singing. And I turned it up and it was echoing all around me. And so just think about that. This beautiful healing music is echoing in the bathroom, which is vibration, going into the water, going into my body, going into my skin. Water, right, is so powerful or picking up vibration, nurturing. So I'm filling myself with this beautiful music. This beautiful bath with rose petals, oil, nurturing, healing. I oh my gosh, I didn't want to get out. I could have stayed there forever. It was really, really beautiful. So I wanted to share this with you as a way of just really seeing how amazing and beautiful you are, and that it is okay to do wonderful things for you that nurture and hold you and love you, and show the universe how you want the universe to show up for you. Is it in flow? Is it self-love? Is it abundance and prosperity? Is it perfect health and vitality? And so then how does that look to you? Show the universe what that looks like. Because the universe will show up for you. It will show up. But it's up for us to say and be what we want and do, like taking that action, and just really showing the universe, being unrelenting. Don't give in. If the monkey mind says, Oh, this is so stupid, what are you doing? And you hear those old tapes, you just say, thank you for sharing. I'm showing up for me. I am worth it. I'm absolutely worth it. So I invite you. Maybe write down a list of a few things that you could do to show up for yourself today. What are a few things that you could do to show up for yourself? Today, tomorrow. Is it taking time now in in the US? It's becoming spring and warming up. Maybe it's taking a little time and just sitting in the garden or reading a book. Doing one little thing differently. And the energy shifts, everything. Everything is energy. So just notice like the energy is gonna shift. If you show up differently, the energy shifts. You have the effect on the world within you and around you. You're like a radio wave, or when you toss a rock into water and it spins out. That is you. So if you want things to be different in your life, find ways to show up differently. How do you want it to be different? Why do you want it to be different? Do you want to feel in a different way? I want to feel happier and calmer and more joy. Then how could you show up in that way? And how could you show the universe what that might look like for you? Maybe it's more joy. So and Xiang would call that happiness for no reason. So what would that look like for you? And it's doing something differently. It's doing and showing up in a different way. Because if you're always showing up as the same person, you're gonna get the same result. Always, 100%. If you're shifting your energy inside of you because you want to change the result, that's what's gonna change. And then your actions change, your the way you speak changes, the way you think changes. But you're the one who has to shift the energy inside. And that could be anything from raising your vibration to maybe doing something differently, like taking a bath. Maybe you haven't done that for a long time. Take a bath, get some roses, put some rose petals in there. Turn on your favorite song. Read a book in the bathtub. Oh my gosh, how amazing is that. Or maybe it's taking a slow walk or sitting in the park and looking at the birds. Feeling the sun on your face. Sitting underneath a tree. Connecting in with nature. Maybe it's taking a break in the middle of the day. Maybe you're like, oh, I want I want to slow down. I want to be slow. I want life is moving too fast. Pause and take your time. Do things slowly and deliberately and mindfully. Really connecting in and doing one thing at a time, not multitasking. It's all within us. All of it. All the love we want, all the joy, all the freedom, all the peace, all the harmony. It's inside of us. And it wants to be expressed. And we we are meant to come here and live and be in this way. And to be living the highest and best. Goodness. We can start doing that right now. Immediately. I like to make myself at night a nice sleepy time tea or something and just sip it as if it's a sacred drink. That's nurturing and nourishing me. I like blessing it, knowing that within me there is the power to bless that drink. And that's not to say in an ego way. That is to say we all have it. It's within all of us. To bless our food, to bless our drink, to bless our lives. To look at ourselves in the mirror and say, I love you. And doing it so many times and so many days that you don't weep anymore. That you really feel that love inside so much. That you're willing. Willing to say, I love my face, I love you. You're willing to take a moment and take those beautiful creams and just appreciate everything it took for them to come to you and filling them with the love in the palms of your hands. Putting that on your face and knowing that that chi, that energy is going into your body and it's nurturing and healing all of these places in your body. As you're putting hand lotion on, you're doing the same thing. All those points on your fingertips and your thumbs and your palms. Moving into your body and up through your arms and into your cells. Our cells. Love being appreciated and loved. Our spirit. In Qigong, we have a soul and a spirit. Our spirit loves to be loved. It lives in the heart center. It loves when you smile at it. It loves when I say when you say I love you. It feels good to come from so much self-loathing and feeling so small and insignificant and unworthy and to self-love and more peace. More flow. I feel we have all chosen our paths. We chose them before we came to learn certain things. I certainly believe I chose my path so that I could be here at this time doing what I'm doing. It's a blessing. Take some time. Nurture and nourish yourself. So much love for you. There's absolutely so much love for you. We are so very loved. There's a universe, there's gods, there's angels, there's I like to call it my spiritual team. Whatever you believe in loves you, loves you, and is here and wants to know how you want to be treated in your life. What you want flowing to you. And showing it in clear, concise ways. Look out for it. I was thinking today, and I know I've talked about this on podcasts, so I wake up in the morning, I'm staying in bed, and it's just right when I'm waking up. And I was like, Oh, and I have a fire horse class that is a free class that I sent out, and if you want it, let me know. I'll share it with you. Well, just share your email. You can DM me if you want to, your email, but it's a fire horse class and it's an integration class. It and so it has it's a it's about how to walk through the fire horse and take the most advantage of this powerful healing energy because it's a very powerful healing energy, it's an energy of action and creation, but yet fire can go out of control, right? And it can be really tricky and spontaneous. And so this is about navigating through this energy, but getting the most out of it too. And so, you know, I teach, you've heard me talk about so when I wake up in the morning, I'm always choosing what I'm gonna see during the day. And oh my gosh, what came to me this morning was I choose to see how the universe and God and my spiritual team just parts the seas for me, just moves everything out of the way for me. For all the goodness to flow to me and how this beautiful support is. But it really it did. It's it was really, really beautiful and wonderful. So I'm showing the universe and saying, look, look, this is what I'm seeing today. I'm seeing how magnificent and amazing you are and how much you love and support me. But then I have to love and support myself too. I don't have to, but I choose to because I want the universe to understand and be clear. I love you so much, and I thank you for being here. And if you're finding value in this podcast, please share it with your friends and family. Please give me a thumbs up, five stars. I love being here with you. We will be having guests soon, so I'm working on booking some guests. I just think that'll be really fun, and it'd be really fun to hear scientists and uh psychologists and things talking about the things that we're talking about, and you know, just continuing to cement these ideas and this practice, you know, no one teaches us how to have a successful, wonderful human life. Um, you know, it's all on us to figure it out, and that's why I created this podcast in hopes that through everything I've learned and overcome and accomplished, maybe other people can take shortcuts and really use what I've I've what I use now. Um so I love you. I hope you enjoy this. I hope you I hope you do it. I hope you take advantage of this treat, treating yourself and do it more than once. I'm gonna be taking another bath and going to get some more roses, and I may even get milk this time, just pour a gallon of milk in there. So I love you. Thank you so much for being here. I really do cherish you.