The Uncovered Self
A space to explore the parts of you that shape your patterns, your money habits, and the way you move through the world — and to uncover the emotional truths beneath who you think you are.
Hosted by Ben, this podcast brings together practical psychology, real‑life reflection, and gentle inner work to help you understand yourself on a deeper level.
Each episode offers grounded insights, simple questions, and small practices you can use right away — so you can slowly uncover the self beneath the layers you’ve built for protection.
This is inner work for everyday life — including your relationship with money.
The Uncovered Self
Unlocking Your Life with Experiential Values: A Deep Dive
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This episode explores how understanding your experiential values can change the way you live, choose, and relate. Instead of treating values as abstract ideas, Ben breaks down how they’re actually felt in your day-to-day life — and why your unconscious values often shape your behaviour long before your conscious mind catches up.
Drawing from recent workshop conversations, Ben unpacks the difference between meta-values and experiential values, how unmet needs drive patterns like people-pleasing or avoidance, and what it looks like to build a life that’s aligned with what you truly care about.
Key Topics
- The difference between meta-values and experiential values
- How values shape behaviour, relationships, and emotional patterns
- Why unconscious values lead your actions more than conscious ones
- Practical tools for identifying and aligning with your real values
- Insights from Ben’s recent values workshop
Takeaways
- Meta-values are the big themes you prioritise — things like freedom, connection, growth, or stability.
- Experiential values are how you feel those themes in your everyday life.
- When you understand both, you stop forcing yourself into someone else’s version of a “good life.”
- Most behaviours aren’t random — they’re attempts to meet unmet values.
- Your unconscious values lead until you bring them into awareness.
Sound Bites
- “Most people think it’s a motivation problem.”
- “Every behaviour is trying to meet a value.”
- “Your unconscious always leads, not your conscious.”
Resources
- Values Alignment Starter Kit – https://www.bengetleycoaching.com/copy-of-meta-personallanding-page-1
- Website – https://www.bengetleycoaching.com/
- https://www.instagram.com/bengetleycoaching/?hl=en
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Hosted by coach Ben Getley, this podcast dives into self-esteem, identity, emotional healing, and personal growth. Through grounded reflections and practical tools, Ben helps listeners understand their inner world and reconnect with their authentic selves.
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