Ep 14. In Your 40s? Do the Scary Thing: Uncles Talk Layoffs, Pushups & Pivots

0:00  Cold Open — "Mr. Get-A-Job" Got Laid Off
0:25  Welcome to Unc Talk: Health & Wellness Series Begins
2:08  Live from Austin at Park House Studio
4:13  How the Podcast Has Changed Us
6:00  Brotherhood, Trust & Forced Accountability
11:25 Joe's Layoff & the "Do the Scary Thing" Pivot
15:20 Around the Horn: Joe's Health Update
17:01 Lowered Blood Pressure & "Learning to Be Hungry"
20:55 Aging, the Pool-Day Shirt & Quitting the Mental Battle
23:30 Food Addiction: Taco Bell, DoorDash & Spousal Support
29:30 Jared's Turn: Pops, Mortality & 30 Pushups
32:55 Homeschool Gym Crew & Diet Discipline at Home
35:04 Outro: Part 2 Preview & Community CTA

Summary:

In Part 1 of Unc Talk Podcast's Physical Health series, host Jay Stafford sits down in Austin with Joe and Jared for one of the most vulnerable conversations the show has had to date. The episode opens with a quiet bombshell — "Mr. Get-A-Job" Joe has been laid off — and instead of burying it, the brothers put it on the record and use it as the doorway into a real talk about health, mortality, and what it takes to keep showing up in your 40s.

Recorded at Park House Studio in Austin as part of UTP's batch health and wellness arc, the conversation does what the show does best: turns a check-in among brothers into useful medicine for the listener. The uncles dig into how this podcast has become a form of forced accountability, why unconditional mentorship matters, and how community gives men the mirror they can't hold up alone.

Transcript

J.Staff 0:00

Oh man, maybe y'all don't know. Like, I just got just got laid off from my job.

He's Jared 0:04

Oh, you wanna put that out there?

J.Staff 0:05

I'm gonna put it out there. I'm gonna put it out there. I'm gonna put it out there. I'm gonna be vulnerable. Hey, we're gonna be vulnerable. We're gonna be vulnerable. We're gonna be vulnerable. Mr. Get a job has gotten laid off, just so you know. Welcome to the Unk Talk Podcast. I'm your favorite host, Jay Stafford. We want to first off thank you for joining us on this episode. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Please remember to continue to like and subscribe anywhere you get your podcast. It really helps the algorithm, helps us with the crazy algorithm out there, really helps us build the community. We want to continue to grow and touch and connect all the uncles and nephews out there. This season we're diving into health and wellness, specifically from the black perspective, which that's all I've got really. Disclaimer: we're not doctors, we're just a couple uncles trying to do what's best for us mentally, spiritually, and physically. We're gonna dive right in and just comment and you know, speak what's on our mind. You might notice a few changes. We hopped into a couple studios, we did a little traveling, and we're just trying to build our product and continue to give you something special. So if you like what you see, if you really, really enjoyed it, give us a thumbs up, you know, leave us a comment. We really want to hear from you. We want to build something that you guys can be proud of and that you want to come back to. So now, without further ado, we're gonna dive right into today's episode. We dive into physical health. This is part one of two parts. Hope you enjoy it. Remember, love you. Cool, cool. All right, man. Welcome to the Unc Talk Podcast. UncTalk Podcast is dedicated to empowering uncles and inspiring nephews. We provide a space for informal mentorship and sharing the raw wisdom for success in relationships, finance, and personal development. I am your humble host, Jay Stafford. Hey, it's Joe from Ward. He's Jared. All right, all right, man. Gentlemen, we are here in Austin and feels good. It feels right. I figure we can get the jitters out on this first one and then go from there and see how it goes. So, you know, y'all tell me how y'all feel. How was y'all's drive getting down here? What's up? What's good? Oh, it was great.

Joe from Work 2:52

It was great. You know, I always love catching up with my brother Jared, dude. It was it was no radio play, nothing like that. Did y'all radio play? Yeah, what y'all? Lo-fi. Yeah, I mean, I'm sure there could have been some on, but we was just yep, yep, yep, yep, yep.

He's Jared 3:08

And I was just kind of see what he was gonna do if he wanted to, because I was driving, so typically the passengers running the playlist. He didn't pull anything up, so I was like, all right, well, let's just dig in.

J.Staff 3:17

Yeah, we was the playlist, dude. You know, yeah. Bro, how deep did y'all go on the trip, man? Did y'all have a podcast already? Just get coming down here.

He's Jared 3:25

That's what I'm telling you. I was like, we three hours in.

Joe from Work 3:27

I was like, man, save it for when we get to the It gets unstoppable. There's so there's so much that's always on my mind all the time about everything. So we just go. And then I ain't seen them in so long. So it was just like two little girls in there.

He's Jared 3:49

You mean exactly? Then the weather was whack, it was raining. Yeah, there wasn't a whole lot to just kind of look at along the drive.

J.Staff 3:56

So well, before we get too deep, we want to shout out to uh podcast studio Austin, man, for hosting us here. Uh JJ behind the booth over there, shouting us out, holding us down here. So, man, we are here, bro, but man, let's get into it, man. Let's just jump into it, man. So, you know, we're doing a series on health. This is our warm-up. We're eight episodes. Well, no, we're 12 episodes in. Yeah, yeah. How do y'all feel? How is how is how is being an unk and doing the unk thing changed in y'all's mind? Simultaneously.

Joe from Work 4:35

Yeah, because I I like I like that question. Um so while the vision hasn't changed, yeah, my expectation of what this would do to my normal everyday thinking, everyday life, it has completely um dismantled what I thought would happen with this. I in my head I thought, oh, what what we'll do is we'll you know, give our advice, we'll tell our stories, we'll do this, and we'll be able to help all these people out there. Little did I know that the amount of help I'm getting from this has been immeasurable. And I knew that obviously speaking with my brothers every week, talking about finance, talking about health, talking about bettering yourself would be good, obviously, right? But I didn't know that it would impact me quickly and impact me in a bunch of different aspects of my life. And that's a little bit surprising because you know, obviously I think I have a pretty good hold on what I'm doing, where I am, how I'm thinking about things. And it's like every week, oh, that's a new perspective. Oh, that's a new perspective. I could use that. Ooh, that was good. I'm gonna start using that. And it was like, wow. And then then now I'm on the lookout for those nuggets.

J.Staff 5:59

Like, bro, no. I mean, that's the that's the importance of community, though, man. Like the blind spots we have, like in our minds, in our own minds, we think we're doing if life is going good, we think we're doing what we need to do. Right. Heck, even if life is going bad, we're like, man, it's a motherfucker. It was a motherfucker. They got in my way. It's very seldom that you have the the the mirror in front of you and be like, oh man, I do got some, I got some green in my teeth, I got some, you know, I got an eye book grid. And the community is what gives you that. It gives you the permission to be, especially when you have, you know, brothers you can trust, gives you that vulnerability to be able to, you know, be, you know, see what's what's really needs to be fixed.

Joe from Work 6:50

Or receive it properly too, right? You know, because there's situations and no one's proud of this, right? Where I can hear the right advice from maybe not the right person, and I don't, I don't, it doesn't hit as hard, it doesn't feel as good, it doesn't make me want to change. But there are few people in this world that I I take what they say to heart. It's there's there's a type of um unconditional mentorship that happens where I know for a fact any advice y'all give is for the betterment of me in some kind of way, or whoever it is that you're talking to. That's something that not everybody I feel that way about. Some people I know when they're helping me, they're trying to help themselves through me. You know what I mean? Picking up on that sours kind of what's happening there, and not having that allows me to be that vulnerable that you're talking about. Where I do want to open up because it's like, man, I I need advice here. Maybe I'm ashamed, uh, maybe I'm embarrassed, whatever it is, that judgment isn't there here. Yeah. You know what I mean? And so it allows me to work through things that might otherwise be not only harder, but like a situation where somebody might say something to me. I might not feel we're close enough for me to kind of get into that, and I might placate them with something that might not be the best advice.

He's Jared 8:27

Yeah.

Joe from Work 8:28

They might take that as the best advice and go down a path that's slightly wrong, right? You know what I mean? And it's like that that's a situation that that exists, and so that's why the type of trust and vulnerability that you have is very, very important. True. Because you could kind of pass off not the best advice, and you don't know how the other person's receiving that, you know? And so uh that's a really, really important thing about our relationship, about this podcast, about the way that we communicate with one another that I just love.

J.Staff 9:01

Yeah. Okay, what's your what you think?

He's Jared 9:05

You feel in love too? Yeah, definitely. What Joseph's saying, you know, that at a certain point, the things that that um are that get you in like a vicious cycle, like, you know, choosing the path of least resistance and not taking it, not taking responsibility for things, your actions and decisions and stuff like that. But um building community, especially when it's a relationship, there is that like forced accountability. And so if you're you're saying things and your actions aren't lining up with your words, well, that's when we have character and integrity issues. And so if you want those things aligned, you have no choice but to, okay, I'm in here saying that I need to exercise. Right. And you're saying, here, I need to, I need a diet, or I need to do the things that bring me mental health. Okay, I need to get out here and do some journaling, or I need to do some reading or some writing or whatever creative expression that you might have actually doing those things. You're saying, all right, I need to actually take action. Yeah. And then you have brothers that are, hey man, like like when I asked you, so which app did you doubt did you delete? I didn't ask you if you did it. I didn't ask you, I said, which one did you delete? It was Facebook. Yeah, that's who you mean that you deleted it. So it's kind of like those moments, like, hey man, you look, you asked me to do this thing. I'm doing it now, here we are with it. But um as we do this and we get six months, one year, two years, three years down the road, and we kind of look back and you see there is you more easily see the change in trajectory from that pivot point versus like you know, uh, you know, a couple of months down the line, but you can tell, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That was when I started doing this. Here I am now. And I'm the person that that person wanted me to be now. Yeah. You know, maybe you're 45, you 50 at this point. And it's like, oh dang, when I was in 41, 42, yeah. Now I'm doing it. But it takes all those other things, consistency, discipline that we're holding ourselves accountable to.

J.Staff 11:16

Oh, well, bruh. Yeah, hey, and as you know, man, I mean, when you have that love and that accountability, you know, your outlook changes, your feeling changes. You know, as y'all know, oh man, maybe y'all don't know. Like, I just got just got laid off from my job.

He's Jared 11:32

Oh, you wanna put that out there?

J.Staff 11:33

I'm gonna put it out there. I'm gonna put it out there, I'm gonna put it out there. I'm gonna be vulnerable. We're gonna be vulnerable. We're gonna be vulnerable. We're gonna be vulnerable. We're gonna be vulnerable. Mr. Get a job has gotten laid off. Just so I get that off.

He's Jared 11:46

Now you gotta prove it. That's right.

J.Staff 11:51

As as somebody who, I mean, that doesn't worry me because I've always been able to um, you know, have opportunities and I've, you know, even now, just you know, just you know, on my way up here, I was I had somebody shoot me an email, I was like, yo, hey, I heard something, you know, whatever. Like, and I was just off of a brief conversation. You know, I in this in this point in my life now, I think we've talked about me and Jerry, you we've talked about like the pivot point. And like, well, do I go back and do the same thing over and over again? You know, do I go back and you know, be continue doing the things that I was doing, or do we move forward and with content or what we're doing here or and other business ventures that I'm thinking about and like what does that look like? And I heard something a couple days ago. It said in your 40s, when you start thinking about like what you want to do with work moving forward and how you want to proceed, do the scary thing. Don't don't don't do the the the the safe thing, do the scary thing because that is where the value is, that is where your progression is, that's where the adventure is. And so that has been stuck in my brain during my shower time, you know. Um that's where I think in my shower time, but um it's just been like a flywheel just in my brain, like, all right, what is the scary thing that I've been avoiding? You know, I've been doing you know, what I've been doing for the last 20 years, you know. I mean, am I cool with doing it for another 20 years? Right, right. Is that comfortable? Or even do I want to do something that you know brings joy, brings life, and feeds other people? Um, in the sense that that maybe I could have not done, you know, in my other capacity. So yeah. So hey, we're we're vulnerable to the audience, all you know, 10 of the people that listen to us. Thank you. We appreciate everything. Like and subscribe, we appreciate it. Um, but uh man, it it's just it it's changed my perspective, just you you guys being here with us and having the conversations. And so I'm I'm like, I can't be the one to tell you, Joe, like, nah, man. Step your game up, you know? Like, you know, or whatever, right? You know, I can't I can't be the one to hold yourself to you. I can't be like, oh Jared, like you need to, you know, let's let's go. We're gonna be about like and not look at myself and be like, all right, well, what are you gonna do? Yeah. So man, it's just I I mean, I know um so much growth is gonna come out of just what we're doing. I hope that you know, all ten of our followers um uh have gotten into it. But right now we're doing the series on health. And so um with health, I would say what what has brought to you what would you know we talked about doing this probably three or four weeks ago. Like, first of all, let's let's go around the horn. How is your health, Joe? What's your what's your health looking like, sir?

Joe from Work 15:25

My health is what I'll call improving. It's definitely not where I want it to be, uh, but it's improving, which is a very, very big difference from the plateau that I was in a year ago, where I was stuck in a cycle of fueling my body inefficiently and giving it just no nutrition. I, you know, it was it was gluttonous behavior, you know. I like to eat because stuff tastes good. Not because I'm necessarily even hungry. And not because I know I need you, you know what be good right now? Some XYZ, you know what I mean? Uh that was me for a long time. And uh I was able to get a hold of that by, well, a lot of factors, you know. There's there's health scares, there's uh thinking about legacy, there's wanting to be around, there's seeing somebody else have a health health scare where it's like, ooh, that was a little close to how it's real. So there's a bunch of different factors like that. Obviously, also my own willpower to, hey man, you know, this is a a you thing. It shouldn't be that hard to not do something. Like, Joe, I'm not asking you to do something. I'm asking you to not do something, bruh. And so getting over my getting out of my way in my head about things like that. Uh, this might sound silly, but learning to be hungry is a real thing, bro. Huge part of what I had to go through. That's a real thing. You know, and so my health is improving. Um, I've I've been able to scale down my, you know, I have to take blood pressure medicine, man. And I'm I've been able to lower that, which is like that is maybe the biggest sign to me. Yeah, okay, weight loss, okay, whatever. But you can, you know, there's water weight. You know, there's there's things, but like my actual biometrics that I'm looking at, those things are going down. And that's where I'm like, oh, okay, I'm I'm doing something here. So while my health is better than it used to be, it's not where I want it to be, but it is improving. And the more I add to dietary restrictions, the more I add to the amount of exercise that I'm implementing every day, the maybe not the quicker, maybe I don't get healthier faster, but I feel so much better knowing that I'm adding these different layers to something that's helping me. You know what I mean? And part of that mental, ooh, feels good. You know how it is when you start saving money? You see that first 10K that you save, and you're kind of like, ooh, that looked good in there. That's that's what's happened is I've I saw my first 10K in health, where I was like, ooh, this feels good. Ooh, I slept through the night. Ooh, I didn't get tired doing this thing. And it was like, I want that to continue. I want that to actually be. And so I finally got that first kick of this is paying off a little bit. And that really has motivated me to be like, all right, well, now there's no cheat days. Rather than like, oh, you know, if I've been good for two weeks, maybe I now I'm like, nah. Yeah. Now it's it's I'm kind of hard on the call, where it's like, nah, nah, nah. I've done this this far. And part of that is the consistency of this podcast, the consistency of when I'm like, oh, you know, with my children, I want to make sure I'm giving them X thing. All the repetitive habitual things that I've started to be more concrete about has come from the discipline that I've had to put in myself to stay on this course. But like I said, with this thing that we do, man, it spreads into all the things I do in my life. And it's like, oh, this has to be a good thing because using these same same tactics is making all this other stuff good.

He's Jared 19:08

Uh-huh.

Joe from Work 19:09

So it's like I whether or not, because you know, while I'm in it, maybe I don't see it, uh-huh, but I know it's good because the things that it's touching are looking real good. I'm like, oh, okay. So this this is this is definitely it's it's doing what I wanted it to do, and I'm happy that it's doing it for me as well, you know, because this was for everyone else as much as it was for me, but that was kind of just a something I said, like, yeah, I hope I get something out of this. Oh, but I am. Yeah. You know, oh, but I am. And I it it makes me feel good. I love it.

J.Staff 19:38

All right, all right, all right. And I know since we've been doing the research on this, you've actually accelerated a little bit.

Joe from Work 19:45

It's it's hard to look at the numbers in your face.

J.Staff 19:49

Well, yeah, because there are some statistics. We'll get into it. Yeah as we go through the week, man. Like as we go through the week.

Joe from Work 20:01

Or how could isn't it easy just to do X, you know, 25 minutes a day? Yeah, half-hour walk. And it's like, what sort of answer do I have that anyone would accept about why I'm not doing that? You know what I mean? It's like, oh, okay, that's and by the way, it's the same question I've asked myself that I can ignore.

He's Jared 20:21

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Joe from Work 20:21

And I just chose not to ignore it anymore.

He's Jared 20:24

Or or or tell yourself and believe, no matter what answer you give yourself.

Joe from Work 20:28

It's like, nah, okay, I'll believe that answer too. And then that switches up. It's like, I'll believe that answer as well. I'm waiting for the other side of Joe to say, no, that's not right. Like you didn't say nothing. I guess it's cool, man. I guess it's cool. And and that's that's what accountability is, just that other voice that said, boy, yeah, now you know you know better than that. To it. You know, you know, come on now. It's it's one, it's it's it's such an easy concept. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. But boy, an application. You you you know, I was my own worst enemy for so many years. And it's one of those situations where it's like my youth allowed me to be that way. And after my youth, okay, you had a pretty athletic youth, so this ain't gonna hit you as fast as maybe somebody who was slobbing it up from 12 on, you know, and so I had a little grace period with that. So even when I kept the appetite of an athlete with none of the physicality of an athlete, it was it took a little while for it to, but then you know, you have kids, you slow down a little bit, you get older. Kids, bro. And he and then then all of a sudden it's scale was a little, it goes that high? Okay, okay, no, that's fine. You know, and then that's a big chunk I can grab now on my side. I never really was able to do that, you know. And you start to, you know, it what what happens is for me, right? It's the first day we go to the pool as a family, and it's No, I'm gonna keep the shirt on. I'm gonna go into this. I said, I'm that guy. I said, I'll keep the shirt on. After that happened, I said. I said, we can't have this shit. Papa Joe, keeping the shirt on. I can't do it, man. I can't show off my flippers, bro. If I if I got the shit.

J.Staff 22:21

Bro, did you keep the shoes on and the shirt? Or did you shoot?

Joe from Work 22:25

Bro, Aqua Shoes didn't even didn't even talk, man. I had my Tim's on at the pool, bro. I said, no, I'm good. I said, we cool. But that was kind of like, I don't like that sort of um, I'm a I'm a out there kind of guy, man. I hate having to be like, mm-hmm. I don't think my ego's gonna accept what's gonna happen here from me. Nobody's gonna ever say anything or care, honestly. But boy, I will yourself. Yeah, I will really. And so those sort of mental battles, I don't want to have those, man. Yeah. I'm I'm done with that sort of battle with myself. Yeah. For for what? What that because I lose. I lose. No matter what that battle's about, I lose. Yeah. Yeah. The only way to win that battle is to not have that battle anymore. Only way to not have that battle anymore is to get to it, bro. Yeah. So I got to it, man. And um the support of my brother, the support of my wife, support of my family, the support of just my willpower saying, hey, I know you want that Taco Bell. I I know Taco Bell, bro. I like Taco Belly food. Yeah, yeah.

J.Staff 23:33

Respectfully, though. I mean, like don't disrespect anybody loves Taco Bell now. No disrespect.

Joe from Work 23:39

That I I I think, bro. It's not food. Something to enjoy from any serves its purpose. Anything.

J.Staff 23:46

It serves no purpose. When you have Chipotle, there's Chipotle there, bro. Like, there's no need for Taco Bell. Like, dude. Two different purposes.

Joe from Work 23:57

You're and and there and there you go, right?

J.Staff 24:00

Look, that's when the substitution, like, I'll go to Whataburger instead of Taco Bell. They're both just as prevalent. And Whataburger, at that time, you get the breakfast on them, you get two taquitos.

Joe from Work 24:13

But you gotta understand. See, this is what you don't understand. Shout out to Whataburger. You're not in love with food. You're you're not addicted. Addicted.

He's Jared 24:23

You can probably take it because it's a it's affecting your decision, your decision. Because time of day.

Joe from Work 24:29

What I've eaten that day, what am I drinking, and what am I going to be doing later? All of that would be like, mmm, those factors mean it's a jack in a bucks, you know, ultimate breakfast sandwich type situation. I love that. But sometimes it's like, mmm, no, this is actually a quesadilla with you know some jalapeno sauce and some potatoes situation. At Taco Bell, baby. Just this is what you don't understand. It's a hidden menu. See, this is what you don't understand, brother. Like it was the fact that that's even something that I can muster up, that's a bad sign. Where is that on the map? That's a bad sign. That's a custom order. That's just a yeah, that's just me telling them what I want. No, y'all gonna make this good. I don't care if y'all's normal items aren't good. No, I will make treatment. Yeah, I'll I'll make it good, you know? And so that that sort of stuff, you know, earlier we were talking about what after you delete, the DoorDash, okay? That's the app I had to delete. The convenience factor is Your Your wallet is gonna stank you too. Already, bro. Okay, so I'm gonna tell you something, boy. It's one of those, you know how they tell me you can't outspend, you can't out make your spending habits. Oh no, bro. You know what I mean? And I wear the same clothes for the last 10 years. I only get my electronics updated, and then food is where I spend my money. That that's where the money went. And my life revolved around that's where the bulk goes, and we'll fit everything else in these other slots. And bro, taking that food budget out, it's embarrassing. And you got a Korean wife, dude. Like she can make embarrassing probably. Look, and and while that's cool, 25 years of kimchi is like, all right, well, where that breakfast in the bun at? Like he was talking about. All right. You know, it's it's all the bagogee in the world.

J.Staff 26:24

Hey, I don't know, bro. You could that's a lot of bogoge I could eat. I agree. I agree.

He's Jared 26:31

I've never been married to a Kaluna. I agree.

J.Staff 26:34

No, look, my wife is is Jamaican. I could probably eat curry, chicken, and rice and oxtail and gravy every day if you asked me to. Thank you. Thank you. See, right there. Every day. Oh, man. If she made it. She made coconut rice? Okay. She's allergic to coconut rice. Oh, okay.

Joe from Work 26:52

So you're not getting that coconut. Herein lies the big distinction there. If she made it every day, I have had it made every day. And I promise you, it all becomes mundane.

J.Staff 27:06

Smother me in Oxtell's gravy. I think you feel that way, bro. I think you feel that way.

He's Jared 27:11

Yeah, I'm more just kind of, and then you she's making it for the whole family and everything. And so it's like not like she's just making it for you. It's a lot of there's only like three. That's what I'm saying. We don't like it. It's only that. Because that's the thing.

Joe from Work 27:26

When we cook, that's just kind of what we do. We cook. Man, dude, the first 15 years was just her and I arguing she wants me to make soul food. I want her to make Korean food. And it's just back and forth. But then it's just like, all right. Oh, brother.

J.Staff 27:40

Oh, okay.

Joe from Work 27:40

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Smokey.

J.Staff 27:43

Okay. Okay, all right.

Joe from Work 27:44

That that's the Yeah, man. Y'all like fusion it? That's what I'm saying. Cause I I usually because again, I'm addicted to food. I'll tell you that this is the most extreme thing I ever made. I took some country cut ribs, I smoked them only halfway. I took a pineapple, shaved the pineapple, and then cord it out. This is how they're already pretty good. Brother, I cord it. I put the country cut ribs inside the pineapple, then cross-stitched bacon on the outside of the pineapple.

He's Jared 28:18

Would you smoke it with like some postos? And then I used packs.

Joe from Work 28:21

Not apple wood. I used pecan wood. Um I thought apple wood would be too sweet because I had applewood bacon. I used pecan wood and smoked that whole. I made two of them. Dude. Bruh. Like, bruh, you made a Luther. That sounds good. You never do it again. Um just even eight. No, no, not even not that long. Because then it was just the the ribs were really, no, they had maybe three hours. Pineapple keep it sweet. Exactly. Yeah, we keep it sweet. Brother, and the sweet, that's what I'm saying. Hey, that juice.

He's Jared 28:54

Get the caramelizing. I see it. I see it. Bro, yeah, bro.

Joe from Work 29:00

Bro. Oh, man. It was it was great. I'll never, it was too much to do for, but to do that once was just enough. Oh yeah. This was just enough. This was awesome. You know, but I I like give me something extreme. Give me something cool that you saw online. Give me something. But yeah, but you know, I love to cook blah blah blah, barbecue and all just every sort of, I like any kind of meats. I love making casseroles, honestly. I'll mix and match. All right, so where are we at?

He's Jared 29:29

Because we're talking about barbecue and shit. Where are we at?

J.Staff 29:34

Okay, okay, all right, man. We're gonna we go we're gonna be on your health. All right. Because we done we done dove deep on your health, bro. All right. I didn't mean to mean that we had gotten, I realized we had gotten you did, but it's okay. You were you hey, you're a woman over here. Nah, Jared, Jared, what's what's your health looking like, bro? Your health is looking like. What is your health looking like, bro? Woo! We know Joe's, he's struggling. We know he's struggling.

He's Jared 30:04

Okay. We're in the studio. You know, context of uh Yeah. I didn't mean to I didn't mean to cut him off. I just meant to cut off like the conversation just so we can get back to whatever it was we were we were talking about. That's the whole point. I didn't mean to like that's the whole point.

Joe from Work 30:19

I mean this is the other part of the accountability we talked about. Yeah, like where is he? I'll go all day.

J.Staff 30:26

I'll go all day, man. Bro, okay, all right.

He's Jared 30:29

Thinking about it. I'm like, why am I thinking about barbecue right now?

J.Staff 30:32

Uh-huh. Hey, we're gonna go to we're gonna go to Franklin's after this. So it's okay. But man, how is your health though, bro? For real.

He's Jared 30:40

Um good.

J.Staff 30:41

What's your numbers looking like?

He's Jared 30:43

Good, dude. Like um, I was talking to my pops probably a few months ago, and we were talking about a similar situation, and um you had those moments when you're talking to, you know, people and their moral their mortality is kind of staring them kind of more in the face, and you're like, all right, wait, more conversations, kind of bringing up those things, and you start having thoughts that you never really had before and going down paths you never really had to go down before. But I remember telling him, I was like, man, you know, I felt like as long as I can get down and do just like 30 push-ups and just do 30. I, you know, I'm in a good spot. And um, after we had done all the travel and stuff like that, I didn't really focus on the health as much as I could have. We were doing a lot of walking, so I figured that was sufficient.

J.Staff 31:28

So travel by what travel you mean? Just for context.

He's Jared 31:32

Yeah, just the travel, the time, the couple years that my family took, um, traveling kind of up and down Latin America for a bit. Okay. And uh we hit a few countries and a few cities and towns in those countries and things like that. And so we were bouncing around, but a lot of walking and things like that. But I didn't feel as strong as like I felt, you know, you know, like in college, man. I ran into one of those pictures I took.

J.Staff 31:55

When you worked in the gym? When I worked in the gym. You worked. The master. Shout out to UTA. And uh yeah, shout out.

He's Jared 32:02

I was like, man, I remember feeling like that. I remember feeling that strong and feeling that vital and you in the gym every day. I was in the gym every day, but I went from in the gym every day to not in the gym at all. You know, and the nine to five gets you, and you start having to prioritize other things. Family, those milestones hit you where you just have to really shift um how your time is allocated, how your resources are allocated. Uh, but yeah, man, I didn't take advantage of the of in that way that I felt I could have while we were bouncing around. But uh by the time we got back, settled, and I was like, man, I need to jump into something else, and just couldn't get that that thing. Like it you just need you can't self-spark every single thing in your life, you can't self self-generate that thing. And so you need people to um catalyze whatever it is that thing that you're you're trying to get going. And um it was part of the homeschool group we're building, is part of that. One of the brothers was jumped in with the energy that was needed, was like, hey, we got these guys that we some we need to get in the gym. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Stimular life cycle, uh, mid to late 30s, 40s, young families, so on and so forth. And it was just that thing. And it was like, you know, yeah, it's time now. Yeah. And whether you look at it as, okay, it was a sign, however, people um are made aware of those things that need to happen. Sometimes there's people called an epiphany. You know, if you're religious, it's it's uh God orchestrated um connections and people coming into your life, and you realize, okay, this is why this person's in my life. Whether for a season or for a long season, like in our case, um, why is this person still in my life? Okay, what is it that they're here to either show me, what is it that I'm to learn from this person? Those things started happening, and it was like, all right, let me jump back in this gym. Um, and dude, man, I did 60 push-ups, one, just 60 of them joints. And I'm like, oh yeah, this is how it feels. But my wife was going to the gym, she was hitting it like every morning, dedicated, committed, disciplined.

J.Staff 34:22

We've always had some discipline around the food we eat, but um she always hey, hey, you guys eat vegan, grass-fed. Yeah, like that's not even good.

He's Jared 34:34

Y'all are very crunchy with their diets. I still get I still, you know, you know, luckily I my metabolism can still to a degree handle a lot of that stuff. Some stuff it can't. I've had to cut out a lot of things, but it takes a lot of discipline to do that. And when you notice or Sam, it takes Sam to test. Yes, so the stuff doesn't even come to come into the house. So you know, best decision I've ever made. But um, those hard moments when it's hey there.

J.Staff 35:05

You just finished part one of physical health. Come back next week and join us for part two. We hope to see you. Hey, this is ArcTalk Podcast. Remember, I'll keep saying it over and over again. Remember, continue. Like, subscribe, share with the uncles, the nieces, the nephews. We want to build a community here that continues to build up, inspire, and just create joy in the community of the uncles, the nephews, and the aunties and the nieces. Again, can't wait to see you next week. See you back.

He's Jared 35:41

Peace.