Unaweza Mpenda Mtu Asiyekupa Kitu?

Ili mahusiano yawe ya thamani kwako je utatarajia jambo? Mapenzi ili yawe matamu yanahitaji pesa? Ndoa ili iwe na raha, itabidi iwe na mtoto? Mauhusiano mengi yamevunjwa kwasababu watu hawatambui msingi wa mahusiano ni kuhusiana na sio kupeana au kuonyeshana.

Pengine hauridhishwi na mahusiano uliyonayo kwasababu hayaelekei vile ungependa, naomba nibadilishe mtazamo wako. Naomba kwenye Episode hii nikupe mwanga wa kukutoa kwenye giza la mahusiano "Superficial" to Mahusiano "Natural".

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Hello, Mambo, Natalinit, Karibukunya Linetalks. Samu Ambayo Una skill is a transformational talks. Ambazos naweza Belisha Mayako. Kwyanula Mosiano Malazi Kazi Name Shabo Yumla. Na weam bymechukuana fasi ako skiliza leo linee talks. Nashikoro. Tune in till then. Ya unas kupenam to se kupachute. Ywen himtuam by him to kupen. Lazimo pate ki toktu fano pesa toto shori. Connection. Mda. Iuna fasi zawadi. Yemto se kufanya chote. I will to heave you. What a giske ba kupendo. A water yiskab I would pendogele eitana battle nail sahivi or dozania. Auto semiwa East Africa to kia minikuamba upendo e transactional. Aupendo lazima we bo two ways traffic. Una katumungina kataka maisha unaiza kukuta na mtuambai mataragio u kwaki yesifanane. Nayale ambona taregiya kutuka wakoe. Pengini we na takemea mtuambay wanampenda, a waku pende, akube pesa. Ye pengina tegeme ketoftufoto akwako. Wa kile mbacho u na fiki rea utapata onezo spate. Mino giliam fano klaba pengini wama pensi. Unezo kakutana namtuambai. Mkam na ili wana sanakumba mna kliknu manino exwizen sman ku click na sink u aligned la kini huyumtu penginiya hata akuti mizi aliamba wuna taku tupakwake. Iliwezu kufraya mausianu. Kinezekana winwanamki. Una takapesa. Mwanaumi mbae, umpata mwanaomi mbauna takemia u mausiano yenu efambali, aumishao kuta na naye kata ypendichi, u nauna kwamba hui mwanaume, e mwina kuma misha melewana, la kini kyunggezeka inel ye sol la pesa, hapumti na fraya zaidi. A wonuta fraya zidi. Ka mausiano kwas babu pesa, yenezekana kunggeza maonjo, katkamusiana yenu, oiko kufanyo kampenda ye zaidi. Yenezekana piawe ni labda pengine wana ome. Na muktana wanam kim so rin premusan. Na um nailewana meklik, me sink, go aligned. Na pengini mkawana na bada koana kata rajii automaticali kumba utapata familia nae atakusaliam toto. Uka kukuta kwamba ana uzazi infano. Awzizuki na kuchelewa. La ywa kipendihi, awuje patam tutu mtoto kutoka kwake na apenzi ako yananza kuyumba. Na opendo wako kwake wunanza kubadilika. Kosubabuchukitekemia kutoka kwake. Awki pati. Na ilisa wesu kufraya mapenzi hayo. Inabidiu pate huyum toto. Na ilu wesu kumpenda wyumwanamke. Itabidi ya kupe mtoto. Awine zakana piawe ni tu mbae wuna mausianu mbayoni. Sio mapensi. Lakino mausia no namtu mbayeni tumzi malabda, awfiki, mwakaribu, ambaye wunatekimeaushia wurutekwake. Nimtu ambaye wuna yo kikakar wunaye ata kupa idea zamana. Zadia shara, zakazi, yisiya kwe sa kutoka katakasuye nuyoonayo, kwasababu nimtu mbana usoyefu, wana kili, ana platform wana yuwa, a vituvingi mbavio, wew nawnefta kufa idea. Nekini wuna muna kwa mba haile ki kuli mbaku na takawe. Vili mbavio nawsena nawewe, efanani, kabisa na matra ideo yeko. Na wuna mshanga, uyumtu, wa wa na wa defahi mtu wa mba na takio kuakatika mai shayako katipindichi ntaky ntuambai, anaisa kutoa katka situeo. Lakini, ntu mzuri katkamanyye mgine yote. Likeat kahju mbacho ni shauri, awe se kupa shauri. Awez kwaambiya kitu chakusa idea. Like su kumba kwa sababubu hana uwezuhuo, ne kwamba anatare kitu kingila tfau tikwako, na kili mbachu na tajia kutoka wake. Ufano ineze kanapia weni, wuna muse na raki krafiki n'tumkine. Naki wnatare u natarajia konnection. Nwana wumen wanamke, wuna nutarajia kwamba kwahuyumtu, nabatakazi, kwahuyumtu, nta pataku jua, wa tuengi zaidi, kwa yumtun taweza kufikambali, kwa yumtun taezaku pewa deals, kwahuyumtu, taezaku ytu kanyi events, kwa yumtu, na eesanika ji riwa, se m flanin zuuri, kwa uyumtu, yenu na tigemea konnections twa kwa yumtu. Na huyumtu, ha kufanyi chuna chytakawe. Na, mausiyano yenu, upengine ulu mchagua uliona uyu, na hususani, katika mai shayako, ku katihu, kwa sababu wuna chokita yiktoka kwake, nicho ambacho wana mini, kineza kufanyo kampenda zaidi. Nineza kanapeni mda unafasi, especially kati mausiano labatuseme yekem ma pensi, wuna kuto mishan, pendam tumbo m very busy person, anakazi nyingi, ninto kwa safiri, aw nimtu mbail, mausiano yeno na tabidiye long distance, ks mka zake nyinggi, niza mmali, kwayye wuna kutabidi mu, mwonge kwye se mu mye video calls, mfaya nini, la kini wu napenda mwda, natamani mkaipa mwyye mtoke pa mwyye mwende beach, mzunggu kiem fanya hiki, mfanyakile, mka epa mwyye mungali movies, m. Mshirikiane katkama yukumu, kmana wa toto, kulea, hautaki kuapekiako, nbawtaki mausiano yambani, unatamani mda. Ineze kanapia we unate yemekitu flani kto kwa msaziwako. Libba pingine wweni, nimtoto, a lafu msaziwako, alitra ji, al ulitera yye u to wakwaki, akupemambu flani flan. Pengine pia kupeta u mdwake, karibuwake, akupende wewe kwanjiato fauti, akupe wewe laba pengine uriti mbau unaona kumoto kse di katama shayako, akupe wewe pengine upendeleo, katka familia, kwasubabwe wewe ni wa kwanza, wateva itis, awenwa mwishu, awanunu msiana peke, u nmunume peke, lakine unawona msazewako, hakupi, hichu ambacho unataraje kutoka kwaki. Na sasasa uko disappointed, kwasububu ili um pende, uye msazewako, yina bidi akupe, hichu mbacho unatarajakuwa kwaki. Ah lakino male kwaambe kito. Very, very, very simple. Na, wwelewe ili wze ku, kuju eki kitu kimeto kea wapi. Kuna zana potofu. Emboye meibuka katakamiyaka mbayo, aina zedi meka tuseme, batusu kunatano shirin. Ya mapenzi kuwa very publicly displayed. Na watu wengi wana mini kwamba e mapenzi mbayo yako e flaunted mapenzi mbayo nisahihi. U nawatu mba wa na takam www na kwamba ili anapendwa. Nabidiye we posted kwanye social medias, ili kwunekana na pendwa a u in anabidi kwanza a na nunulye gari, kamahivio, ilionekane kwa watu, afanyye shoppings, aweze pelikiawa ezawadi za kutosha, mawa, awe zeku ku ku nfunguli be shara, aweze kunuliwu anye gari, nyumba, ajingewe, whatever things anbazu, according to the person, anataka, wo expect and expect to takoyo, npenzi wake, uh, then dokitu ambacho kinaweza kamfanya e mpenze. And this goes both ways. Kosa babu squeeze wana umume pia, wataka fanya mambuyoteyo. The men don't mind nowadays kupilekya flowers. The the some men welcome it completely. Kwa mapensi atokimpayukitu anafile kabisa some men who don't like it. Lakini kuna grow growing number of men who love to be pampered. So, it goes both ways. Sasa tuseme kikito nekitu kandi kikito ni danapotofo, wasabgani. Long time ago, in the olden days, love was free. Love was not transactional. Love was not necessarily a two-way traffic. Love was uh ilipwena pimo akwavili ambavia we, unaweza uka sacrifice, kwa jinya mwensako. And that is how long-term relationships and bazu met zimeza sise ambone me kayasa hivi 21st century people, awatuwa millennium people, uh, after the millennium, dwambau tuna wona kwa mba oke, our parents walivumilia, bana siya patu suvumilia. Awapenzi wakatuwe re kwa very easy, very cheap basis ya patu taki ama penzi, ntu taka mambumapia. And wakanza sahaya mambo ya, yaku yaku expect too much from the people that we want uh a relationship from. But I think bila ku you wa tnutengneza uh entitlement uh community. Na entitlement, katika love, katika relationships, it's a very bad thing. Watu wa naiza kasnani kwamba, oh wana, it's not true. But it's very true. Kwamba o atuengi wana entitlement mentality. Wana tara kwamba, it's automatically kwamba. I must receive in this relationship for it to be worth my time, worth my efforts, worth anything in my heart, a place in my heart, a place in my mind, where I must receive something from it. Omesahaw the the ease of a relationship, the fluidity of a relationship, na uzuri wa mausianu ambao ni mausiano yenyewe. Una yua sa babu ya ku siana na mumtu, ni mausiano, mao siano kama yalivyom. Na yanaweza ya kaya na kitu. Eao yanaweza si y na kitu msano. Kwanyindoa. Wwanaomi amba na tere gia kwamba mwana mki, ali mwa la zima mzaliye, anaweza aka akadani kwamba maousiano haio yandoa, ya zima yabatani na mtoto. La kini ndoa yinaweza ykawa ni tamu, ikiwa kama ndoa, kama ilivyu. Nandoa haiye ke definition yandoa, hakuna kitu kina juitu mtoto, hakuna e element yamtoto ylata jopu kabisa, ni watu wawili. Kwehawi musiano yando ya naweza a kawa mazuri as beautiful as ever, without a child, kapisa kabisa, if you decide it to be. Na kyondoa entitlement mentality kwa mba you are entitled to uh to be a father, or you entitled to receive something from somebody else. Ye, tunggi mfano kama kpando wa pili, uyomtu mbay, u nategeme ktu kakwake, ume shekeku kommunikate na ye gusi kio pando wakieye ye, pengine hichuambachu na kitaka e kutay kutowa, ina izekana ku sababu yaweo ku wana kwamba ha poke una chukitaka, ni pengine huyo mtu amekupenda awewe, yisi ulifio. Lakini at the same time, ni mekanika fkir na gundu wa kwamba, karakter ewatu wamba wana taka ku receive so much in a relationship, ni watu amba wana trust issues, na watu ambao wana ugupa kupoteza. Yan ni watu amba wa me shia ngie katu meusiano me ngi nfanu. Ambayo ha kupata kitu kto kanya musiano. Ngba ku tambu tamani wa mousiano, kua mausianu hai nyyewe, wakapele kambele vitu, amba dai wakagunba kwamba, wwana wa at mausiano rubu wwenjika kuku bakiana chot. Yani they were afraid when they lost the when they lose the relationship, when the relationship ends, they remain with nothing. Or they gain nothing. So they expect to gain for the in the relationship, for the relationship to be worth their time, their effort, their heart. Kwa yo niwatu mbwata kpoteza, kwa kija kwako, anajuye na izekana kishuna kishokutwa kachana. Lakini ata kwa mzazi nzekana kishuna kikikutu mzasea kafariki. Bila e kunipa kunyaanji kunyanikia uku tam kambeli zanu kuzangu bana mina kwa chief lani ktu ijina ichi, u mzazi ngkana su mzasi, ambaye ana weth my time, mma money, u my care, umma effort, inezekana mzazi pia mbay kajitoi, kwam totuwa. Kuna yoko nazase mbao, they show love in a very different way. Kos babu pengine wau wanamini wachuki fanya ki na tosh. Wamekuza, wamekulea, wakpelika shule, wamekutunza, apu ulipo inatosh. Wanategemea kwamba kina chipada hapo ufanyye mwinywi. Maybe they did not communicate it. Ha kuse ma kwaku. Lakini kwa matendo, inaunekana kabisa bana paliwa walipo mali zia. Kwali malisa kwa mbali kusa idea, uka patailimu, uka kua, uka vi zori, na mwali wwesa kusa idea ku kafunga ndoa, ba soli nambali. Kuna ngine atasuli landoa, na na na kwenilea, ni wewe. Ni wewe sasa ufanye maishani mwaku. Likini kuna totu wambau tuna turaje wa zaziwetu, wa extend themselves father. Fanu kuna nawake mbao, wwangeta ragiye wa zaziwao, aw mamayake, ange kuam toka rebu tsano kwake, kipindi mbacha la patam toto. Aye ku gundwa kuamba mamayake, hana kapisa interest, ya kuwa katkama isha yake, kipindi hicho pengine, hataki ku ku kuleam totumdogo, ha wataki, ku ku ku gyu sisha na tototo, kuna zase kuna totu mbao, wwana chukiazu zwa wana resent o mamawa mwa mama zao, ambao hawataki kabisa, ki vitoto katanbayao. Awataki wanataka wkija, wuna wana wana salimiana, wwwona mtoto n levi zuri mzuvizuri, bada hapu rudin bani kwako. Sunya chem totu se kulayaasta ki don'want it. Lakini sisi kuwa wanawaki wengi, we expect our parent our mothers to bear the burden of raising our children together with us. Nakuna wanaki mbo wendam paka makamani kuwa kuku wa sa siwa, umabuana mama yangu, akyakuni sa idea miku leam toto, nabidi ni so me ndi patamye uyo stoka tani kya shule, hive nabidini so me, kwahiyo mama ina ta kiwa nsaide kuleam tutuangu, na yeka mamzazi, stakiwa ta kumpa pengini hela tumizu subabu, kama leza kun lea mimi kwa nini niasen sa ide kulem totuango smuye mamangu, anani penda mimi kujana wa tuangu. Nawe mama mwa ki mwa kasima kwaamba no, ue ni mzazi, oyumtotu naba baba mama yaku, ali kuwa mzazi kwako, ye ali leem tutuwa kijumulaki na wewe beba la kwaku. Nakuna totu mbawa me rezent wa zaziwawa big time. Kwa sabababu wa zaziwawaha, kuta kakakuji, ewa extend in the area mbawa wa likspe twa kwa. Kwayopuni, mwunggile musiano kate ne ula mbaba. Mzazi, mama na mwanay. Um lakini ini also goes opposite direction, ina izakana we ni mzazi wuna takemea kitu twa kwa mtotuwaku. Kumba xi ohiya mefikia levo mpabe fani kiwa, ana wezo anapesa, then uyum totuwaku etabidi, a jitoye k kwaku ki uichumi sana. Itabidi ya kugare mekia mwa nani matibabuyako, itabidiaku finance, uhbituviaku vingi mbabu nataka wwe finance, inawe mbapu uyum toto, unawuna hafanyi, basu unakwa resentful, una chukia, wuna jiskevi baya, umfrai, a umpendi uyum toto kwasababu matara ywe yako, you are entitled to receive from your child kwa sababu pengine uli invest so much na la zima upokye kutoka kwa. You don't want to to to utaki ku kubali kwamba ulichukitoa, kina tosha, unataka pia kupukea, utahu wunya mausianu. Maousianu uyakumengi, nawengi sana, tuna, tuna matara gyu mengi sana, katke mausianu. Lakin nomba ni welezi solution ka katkay ntatizo. Koswe lin tatizo. Transaction transactional love nita tizo. Uh love in, love out, nita tizo. Give and take relationship nita tizo. Eh, tatizo wam na ku kubu kasababu. Uh katkamaisha watu wa mwwanu kuja katkamaisha yetu. Wa awapiwagi e blueprint, awapiwagi e invoice matatisu yetu. Kwamba look here. This is an invoice of my problems. I want you to solve this. Sign here, uh, okay, then we are good to go. Aw pewagi kitu kamaichuna. It's not the right thing to do. Kwayo ustegi me to invoice someone your problems. To invoice someone your expectations. Na wao, wa somebody no wa wa wanasaka kwambia di not pay for this. I'm not paying for this. This is not something that I expect from you. We utofanyanyi. Natayaru na kutukum ni mausianu wa mba ni mazuri, e katka eneofengi. Kasoro hapu wambaku wanzaka pimpo it mgini ni pesa, nimtoto, ni mshauri n connection, nimdan na fasza zawagi, e na mwmengine mengi, lakini wewe e unawona buana, kama uta nipa hichi, e ivi nwuvitaja, then ayamausiano not worth it. Mama na solution. Solution is build a relationship first. Before you add money, before you add children, before you add gifts, before you add all this public display of affection, before you add connections, before you add time and uh opportunities, before you add these gifts and everything else and puzzle, it's a kafanya relationship, beautiful, in a way that you think is a ribbon uh on the on top of a gift. Yani ngeneza kwanza mausiano kabla uyo ungeza pesa foto zawadi connectionsine na katalika. Yenga hayomsiana. Maousiano ndio yawe sababuya nini kousiana. Nina inawe zekana. Inawezekana sana kam penda mtu ambay haji haji pachot. Awha itpaka sasa una haja toa kile ambacho wewe unakit geme tuga kwake. Kwasabgani, kunam kunamtu ambay. Very unexpected. Amboy ali twae relationship advice. Ambo mipakaleos yesahao. Chris rock. Ali advise on relationship. Heheheh bay laugh. But ali sema kitua ki sema. Kwakereza kinasema kwamba, there is no equality in a relationship. Oh, you know that? Mishas kek kuma echo itwa lisema kek Chris rock. There's no equality na relationship. Yeah? Kama alituan fan wa kitu kneit kwa it uh band na dania kioko marikani wa zungu. Ina ita hole n oats. Lakasema kwamba kuna kinyye band kuna hole na ots. Lakina yeku mwa gwe oats. Na ju na fja kasgani. Lakini we hole, a mishek pata hit records ningi. Shek n twa nyimpa mbazu zmezme kwa hit records ningi. Lakini ajewaiku. Kut kui kumtenga we ots, ibadu wanajita hole, and ots inga ots a jekimona walaw. Kwa kat kama ishe, woneza kazani kwaamba ilize ku ku kufraya mw musiano nlazima wiumtua pili bana, aweze kuwa the other side the other side of the pedal, the other the the other pedal in the in the second side of the bike, the other side of the bike. Apana, in life katakipindi flani, wunoso ka yuputa wewe n di mtu wambai wuna jitua sidi katea musiano. Nawala sinyiskive baya. Pengino nzu ka yuputa wenunatua mdaku zaidi, donatoa e whatever it is mbo na twa zahidi, lakinus poke kile direct li kile mbachu akiliako enatemea kutoka kwa nyya musiano. Kuna yambu mbalo, kuna flips kuna proverbslani, yema zung wina itwa na sema, don't throw away the baby with the bath water. Yani usu tube kitu chatamani na majima chafu. Zamani wa kati mtoto alevokwa, wwa u kuwa zungwa, wukwa na uga, uukwa nagwakanyye baffu, wenye beseni mwji. Nailo beseni, uluvu kwane wato ajebu sana, walikua na uga wwa wa na ansa wata zuma kwanza alafu mtoto na kwa mushu. Uy mtoto uhuta na uge majmachaf. Kwa nakuta majina kumachaf san. Na mama aneye apuena kumwaga majji, uwa wana mwia kebane ankali kanyye majj so sutu kna mtoto, siya kumaga majjina mtoto. Kwe uwa na kucha na gama don' throw away the the baby with from with the bathwater.

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Kwa unzu katani kuk majjmachaf, lekini gani yna tamani yana, yenakitu chatamani na mtoto. Kwu nezo kawona uyu mumtu kat kama i shayako, pengine anavitu flani mbuvipendi. Ana elemis flani mbazo natam nambazo haze kupiraha, lakini, uka saha u kwaamba nimtu atamani. E unasakuta, mwusiano haiyo peke, kama elive nzakani tunu ya thamani wwaku. Bile vile vile ya liveo. Bila kwanggeza chuchote. Na mbani kwaambeki twa mbachu chammuim sana begine, ue ambayo wunawasu haiya, um expectant people, anbu they really expect love uh to be to be a two-way traffic, to be not even a two-way traffic, to be transactional. Kuza wwatuwa mba wana mentality hi, ww wangyawa ha wajitu agi. U na joko ku nawatu mbao, wwana tagimea za idu kwa tuengine, na wwana yuwa kwa mba wuyo muto padu apili nbiya na etake ku yshu w li shia katimausian. A watu wafungi chichhote. Kunawale ambawa wana jitoa, lafwuna expect something in return. That's that's that can we can also say oki fine, fumilia kwa muda, badaye, uyo mtuana nawesa ka, akakakaro disha opendo. Lai kunawale ambo ha wajitoi kabisa, kabisa kabisa, and they expect a lot, kwa sa babu they don't want to lose wa kiamini kumba mmaousiana naesa ka funjikani time, kwa yu wana eza kaun kavu bao siana kaisya na wawa hajapata chichhote from maousiana ha. Ha wa tu. Nabadi mbedu swa twa suri. Na kama wwen u na ymentalite kama yonbo ypa delishi. Kwa sababu, ina wezekana ukujua, auna juwa, sababu ya kwa nini umekwana mwa su kama hai, awuna fikakama iso, a uume, ume elekia katika, e mwekyo kama huuo, a inezekana ku nawa twa liku disappoint sana. Katkamo shi. Katkamusianu yaku, maraf kizaku, pasasi waku, a wapenzi waku, whoever it is, numba wa same. Wa same wa tuote mbao, uli tekemea, kwambu pendo wao, ungitakyo wambata na kitu flani. A uli ko saiko kitu wambashu lite geme kwao. N time and time again, pengini won uliku uptu ako kutoa saidi, lakinu yung haku kupa. Let me tell you something. Uh same. Forgive them and forgive yourself. First, forgive yourself. Then forgive them. Wichewa same, release yourself from their chains, release yourself from the nom ambona minikwamba dunia yote nasunguka around you. Release yourself. You may be a wonderful person, but you are not um what can I say, the most one any the you are not um fairy godmother. Wewe see yo the most precious thing that happened in this universe. Kwamba we la zima kilo n shwitaka wewe that's makipata kane, kilunchakawele's makipatio. Waywe yitoyoku, nichukule na mtuakawaida. Nichikule simpokabisa, atakama una pesa unamuna ki wuna. Whatever that you have ambo yina kuna, una wana kumakina kuba ustahili, katkayu ma isha, winy mzuri sana, youa too beautiful, ye, you are too gorgeous, whatever it is, wuna vutiya mno, akini jiveke kama weni mtuakawa hida sana. Na kama mtuakawida sana basi uyomtu, ambo anakuye katkama mshayako, e kubali kumtizama vili alivio, kama alivio kuwwali siya. Alafu tafuta kumfraia, karaktazake, tabia zake, vitu viduko vidu kutu kakwaki pengine nimtu mcheshi, pengine ni sili person, pengine nimtu amboni nimvu milivu, pengine nimtu ambay anajali, pengine ni dafuta kuyyevo vitu, tafu vione, e kuana ukaribu amba utakupawe kuona vitu vizu ribi mtu ambavio, havi, siyo transaction, sio kitu ambacho una sio kitu mbuchy nu kapapu ke. Lakini des adjustes the things that make up the character of this person. Kweni na kuomba uwe kuona hichu. Ala fum pene weomtu vile alio. Wala siye vile u nawatara jiya wewewe. Alafu pima, uone, nimtu sahikat kama ishaku aula. Believe me, hakuna mapenzi amboy hayana kutowa. At the end of it, uyomtu ambaye unampenda nawewe, mnaweza mkapeana. Fivekin nabutak. Mneza mkapeana. Lakini, inaweze isivilo nabota yregiya wewe. Unaweza ukapewa something so little, but made with so much love. Ugivenu so much love. Unaweza ukapewa mda. Lakini is the only time they have got. Tadkama isayake uyumtuamba wana tiragiya mdambref sana kwaki. Pengine huomda leu kupa nu mda peki nana fasi peke aleo kupa. Ue uwewe nteke upoke kupendo. Yinaweze kana unfortunately, uyum tu mbuna tediye mtoto utuka kwake, asikupe uumtoto utuka kwake. Nikil akakenda wewe, kamandi yokitu chatamani ku liku ketungecha meshiketu meshake. Kuka wa za idea ta mtutu waki. Atakat kama gonju na maradi akaku miye na kusai dia. Hu? Ina ezekana mzazazi waku asio na u karibu nawewe kama li wona na kwasako ngine. Ya kini pengine na kuumbiakumungo, mfanikio lion nayo, pengini nmaumbiake, mbayo mungu, amea mya sekia ukapata mafanikyo lion nayo. Ina ezekana we mzazi mbayo wana tara yemptuakwa kupe, ichon shtaka kupa, pengine kuna bata tizu mbwana petia, awma isha mbuana taka efikie levo flani kwanza, ili awezeku, kujimudu kwanza, kabla ja kupawem sasas. Lakini pia ina ezekana ataki kutengeneza utegemezi, awanatakandugu wa shirikyane, uwa na taka yendu wa bepe jukum, lakini yana takandubu wa shirikiani. Wwena naumba uwa m wear somebody's shoes, uh wear somebody's socks even, usiwata kiyatu wear just their socks. Na ngalia upande wau nafikiria upande wao. Lakini, be real, be realistic. Remove those glasses machoyako, and see relationships as truly precious just as they are. Na utao nakuta fraya musiana akoi komu patana nafasi ako skilisa. This talk wensho. I hope mpata kito. Till next time.