Woman A Controversy

In this episode, we swim through the deep waters of the debate of the 21st Century; Who is a woman? A tag of war between culture and change, tradition and reinvention, biology and choice and many other school of thoughts.

Tune in for a brainstorming episode of different bullet points that will leave you empowered or afraid of power. Either way, it will blow your mind.

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Mambo, literally, caribou line tongues. Sem mumbayo na skill is a transformation of tongues. Mbazu naweza balisha machina. Kweny nila musiano malaze. Kazi. Na meisha koyumla. Na we mbay. Umichu kuana fancy ya koskeleza lel. Linetonks. Nashikoro. Tune in till then. Much as to nataka kum inu a manamke. Lakini tukubaliana na kwamba. Io pitcha ota swira ymanamke. Kuwa kamu wanamki wanybalimke. A mama wanybani. Ndyo taswira mbayo imekwa ki kubalika lumute. Na mwanamke um pamuoye na kumba anweza akawa vituvingi kuakati modji andomana the topic of this podcast ni woman a controversy. Mwamke anawese akawa vituvingi kwa katimoje, but it still is a conflicting uh definition. Kwamba wwanamkeye awe vituving ki awe vituviote awa bakie katika nafasilia mbayo alisha we kwa kwansia wwanson. So wkida kyanga lea definitions a wanamuke ata kwa tikika uh dictionaries a very, very simplified version of uh what is uh or who is a woman, but who actually is a woman and who actually can a woman be and a wesa kuanani katka ulimanku hu katka nafasihi e mbat mempa natukamkubali. Kwa saboku pamija na kumba tu naizat katamani sana e kum chikolia wanamke as a very simplified version of wanam keni mama, wanamkenimke, wanamkenim lazy, that is not the entire truth. You understand? Emwanam keni zaidi, ya, ya, wwombileyake. Wanamkeni zaidi, ya mone kana waki wanje. Wanamkeni zaidi, ya boxi mbayo wanam weka, idi awese kubalika. So boxy mbalu ni na kubalika, ngalha inga wa hali inuliwiwi, hali tu kuzi, hali pere shimayake, ni boxila mwamkenkiwa. Nke, aw mama yumbani. Ilo na boxi wul wunguni mwata nakwamchina wwanakubbalina na kitu kumbachu, neda kwam mzungwa nakwana kitu kumbachu, neda kwam Mongolia, anakubbalena nakitu kamaechu, neda kwamtua zulu, wanakbalana kitu maicho. Wate wanakubbali kwam boke, wwanamke ni mke, wanam keni, mama, wanam kenituka mbani. Makini individually, each woman, what are they saying? What are we saying? Who are we really? And at this moment, in this time, being a woman in self, just identifying as a she is also a controversy. Kifuham kwa kunawatu mbawa meibuka, na kutaka kuitu akama wanawake, wa kuji tengeneza kuwa wanawake, kwa u chaguzi. Ni wanawaki wala niwanawaki walio chaguwa kuanawake, si wanaki mbu wali jikuta, katka nafasi akwama namke, naikabidi wa tenbekat nanafasi mbwali pewa, namungu, ale jumbingun hivyo ha wakwana uchaguzi wa wate bali kubaliana, nafasiyo hivyo, wakabidi waende, wwendane nayo. The world gave you uh how can I say, did not give you a choice. Who do you want to be? You found yourself in a position of a female, a woman, and so you have to leave it with everything that entails uh being a woman. No, it's not easy. Lakini kuna chaguo, la kua mwanomke, awko to kua mwanamke, katakipini ishin ya hea sasa, uh itself is a controversy. Mina waza kusema, kwasababu uchabuze, wa kusema min ni nataka kuwa kitu cha kituflani ki biologia, nikitu wambacho ni chamshangao, kupande wangumbe nikitu wambacho, wwanawaki wa miyaka msini lopito wange uliza, kamo wangeweza kuchagua, hangeweza ku shanga. You understand? Kwa this point in time, nina wona kama nen no mwanam ki, limeo kwekwa katika taswira ambayo ina npana sana, ina maulizo mengi sana, ina maswali mengi sana, ma jibuyake haya ile weki, there's no right answer, there's no wrong answer, there's no direct answer, it's still a is a controversy. Kopande wango mimi the roles of a woman do not define who a woman is. Ufano kua mama na kua mke does not define who a woman is. It's not the complete picture of who a woman is. Wanamke haya kamilika, ku kusama kumbae ni mwana ni mama aw ni mke. Uh i the the picture of who a woman is and who a woman should be is so broad that her roles alone cannot define her uh in simple terms. Unawanawaki mbao, wame beba wom kinakwa mama, wwaka elemea upande mungine, katka shulizao, kazi sa kunawana keamba wali kuwap political activists, wali kuwa wion gozi, wali kwa military leaders, na kuwa chaguzi huo, theya theya femininity, waw kuwa wanawake, uli kuwa uli ulizu wa, uli tyoma shaka. Wa twa kaju liza je, huin kweli ni wanamke kasu amecha wwa kua politiko activist. Awamechaguwa nafasi a kua mwana je shia kommando, katka, kimbisa pengine mageuzi flani. Wana wuna kamahi yo si unafasi wanam. Nakumbuka one of my greatest admirers, na empenda sana, anaito magre thatcha. Kipini mbasha maggit thatcha lipengiye madarekani katika uh a parliamentya we British, Ali kuan is the only female political uh leader. Na it was very difficult for the males to be able to identify her as their colleague, kwasbabu to them a woman's place was not in the parliament. A woman's place was in the kitchen. They ridiculed her, killa kito chukwana kifanya makwans atalbokwana ungia walim wali m darao, atavile lebokwana on e canalim darao, uhumku bali kwa mumbilake, kubali kwa kwangia kwa kia umkali kwa ma wazo yake, simply just because the picture of who they believe a woman should be was not who Margaret Thatcher was. However, Magritsacha ali kwa ni mke, Margret Sacha ali kwa ni mama, e aliza wa tutu wawili, ali walea pmuja na msada wa tuengini, la kini, pakasiku anakufa, margret thatcha, ali kuwa me, it was accounted kwa mbaye yindi ali kuwa me waza, wwana wake wa tutu wake wawili, na kuwa mke, o mume wake mbo wa likuwa pumwuje mpaka kifu. Wwe at the end of the day, I think io picha yata swira ya wwamke ni nani, it's a limiting belief, aw it's a limiting factor, ilikum nyima wwanamke kuwa kiliya na jutomani. Aw kumzuye wanamke asi one kane e kota swira flani. Aw kumzuye wanamke asi pandevi wango flani. Wuna youa empowerment of a woman. Statsuta woman herself. Like any empowerment of a woman can never take place fully if the society or the culture does not accept different versions of who a woman wants to become in this world. Kwa s mbkama wanamki nata kakuwa flani. A love society inyo inam zweye, inam njima, inam limit, kwa sa babu inapicha tayari na ewe mwamken nata ki wafana na hivi, ba se society really does not accept who a woman really is. Wana mini, wwana mkini nani, wwana mini, lekin badu hawajam kupali. Mana kymepewa zawadi, lekin hawaja weza badu kui, kuana upana uzuru yo zawadi, kwa so bwana kwa threatened by the fact kwa ma wanamki anawesa kawa kitu kingjine, zadia mama ke wana uguopa, wwamba ilo e neo nie na wambalu pinkini wanam kia kiyenda, anaweza kawa too powerful, too strong, too uh too uncontrollable, in the sense kwamba akamzidi wana uume kwasababu samha w sambue kat kaidunia, to na gumbba niana na nafasi yat kangulu. There's a struggle of power. Everybody wants a seat in the control power. And if we remove privilege uh privileges and and um and dominance, we will be able to have a democracy and a choice that anybody can rise up to power. Then if we have a choice that anybody can rise up to power, even a woman and both namigard as a mother and a wife. Then who are we contesting to with? Basi tulu kuatka na nafasi mboni ngum sana kwasabab mwanamki kama mwanamki anawesa kainuka kwaam to yoyote na akashindana windan in natina environment amboni iko a nawana hume, basi nafasi ya mwana hume, inawaze kawa e kokatika hati hati. That's why there's so much of a push away from the from the the idea kwamba mwana muke an awesa a kainuka, tuna jarebusana kum chindiliya, kum shusha chini, mwambia no, remain in your place because you know what? There's supposed to be very few people at the top, and maybe the top is not met for you. Kwa you listen to to this mama, stay in the kitchen, cook, stay in the in the bedroom, do your duties, uh, go to the label ward, deliver those babies. But all those that is meant uh to to reign in this world, nafasi zotiam patanozo ka uka yinua u kainuka, iso nafasi se oza wana m. Kuno yoko na wanawaki wenki mba uli kuana staili ku a maraisi ba dunyehi. Mata tu ki watizama katikam tezamo u wa wawasifa. Atam, uh, ali weza, angeweza kwa raisi msuri sale, na kwa kipini ki refu, ali mwakiliisha mumewake, eg, katka politiko arena atad wokwa isi, la kini kwasababu kipini kili ha kumkubali mwanamke, katga nafasi ura isi, nga mumewake li mwa minim ki waki kwaam sma jwaki, kwa mwakili shi wake, ali a mini mawazuyaki, lia mini fikwazaki lemini, guvuyaki u shawishi, akweza ku mwendos kwa nafasi ura isi, kwaciya yote le, kwa sa bahiki li kwankitu wambaciakubalika, u kwomfano, wwa marekani pekyakele kinduni kote, hata tuki pelek, tuke chukule mfano wa South Afrika, mama wini mandela, viliya bambake lbok kwa yuko, yela kumekashina saba, bokwana piganyia u kumbo zwa anchi ya South Afrika. Iliwofikar ki pindi chauta kutawazwa raisi. Yule mbo ali kuwa meshi spearhead, uh the the whole revolution, alibeko bempenin, naf mwana uume, nduali nuliwa kwa raisi. Atusemi kwaamba mandela hastaili kwa raisi. Lakini, can you see the shift of how things are? Enimboyake na dan dunyanzi mene yua, um Lakini, unfortunately, the truth shall be told in very beautiful words, but it still is a truth, and it still is a very painful truth. The words from uh James Brown, um the words saying it is a man, man's world, but it can be nothing without a woman or a girl. It's true, it is a man's world. The terms that are running around around empowering a man. And once you give a woman power, then it's a very dangerous tool to give to a woman. Whatever power means, maybe it's a job, maybe it's an opinion, maybe it's a mic, like the way I'm using a mic at this moment, maybe it's education, like the way the Iranians uh prohibiting women from going to school. Maybe it's education, maybe that power is education, maybe a power is uh is the ability to see a woman uncovered, uh completely glorious, beautiful in the creation of who she is as a creation of God. Bila kumzuia, bilakumful, bilakumwambia, yitande, na lote lile, lakini, kumkubali, kama kiumbe, kwasukat kama yama wato lungo nwanyes mungu, mungu aliwa vika, nguo naturali, akwapa, mavazi, yakuvaa, yakuzuia utukufuake, bali mwanamke, ali kuje alduniani, anambiwa funike utukufu mungu, kwasubu pengine ye ye, apasu kuane kanavile livio, she might be a threat, or too powerful herself uh to be herself. Wa yuna kunana fastes ngine ambazu wanam ki ana inakwanenghu balika, to kama sebu tukiangalia, women sports, women football is not a it's not a a celebrated kind of sport, because a babu, yeah, monamke, yuk pale, utamtiza ma vipi monamke, akichesam pira mba wana umume omekwa ki ukumba tia kama wow. There was nowhere in the football kwamaliandiko okay. Now this is generally designed only for male, no any other uh gender woman can will not play football. It was not written anywhere. There was no laws that were written about this. Lakini kwa viladunia Tayari li kwemisha with unwritten laws. I mean sha yandikia kumba wana sports flani flan is a manamke. Ubalika katka yeah, sports especially kat ka sports and bazoni globally accepted kama football. Bado, wanam ki abo ni footballer, ambo haji chagwa apakalysti, ka jechakwa kusukanyuele, abychagwa kwa plain uh woman kwasu pengine, si yo interesti yakio rembo rembo, ewe interest yakini fiziku eza wake wa wamwili wake, badu ana unekana kumba sio mwamki kamili, kwas wabu weamti wa maisha lwo chakwa kuishi, na pengine wanaweza wakam awakam wwambia, oke fine pengine kuna kunanjia to fauti mba um, uchekwa kupita kwa sa babu pengine kwa mwone kano, awfanani na vili mwanamki nawa takem kuwa, bazu naizu kawa siyo, mwanumki vili nawadan. Wengi wao, wamebindi, wwele ke mtindo to foto maisha kwasababu, yamiya eya kubali, wwanafasizao, ingawane wanawake. Kuna wanawaki ambao, wwakakatika, michezo n fan of female bodybuilders, amba wwana penda tum michezu ya ku tengenesa misuli, it's not as famous or uh accepted as much as male bodybuilders. Mikimtukama uh anushiozniga ali kuafa uh worldly acclaimed bodybuilder, but there were so many female uh women body bodybuilders in the world all of Walushinda Mataji na mataji, but who are they? Where are they? Kwa nini tusewa inuel kini, kwa vile tuna tari tuna taswira flani, ye mwamamke natakyawakaye akae vipi awe vipi, no manabadu nasemae woman, ise controversy. Tuna bidi tum celebrate mwanamke katika enio flani. Tabidi a pite narrow path, but what is that narrow path? Ata tukisema kwamba wwanamke awe e katkashima shinano yaku ya ulimbuende, ulimongo ni mwate kuchakwa wanamke mzuri, anatakio awe vipi bado, tuna pata ute ukiakasi, wakusema wwamke mzuri ni nani kasu kila mwaka, anatoke utukenj sofotu fauti, na badu hatu jeza kusema oke, wanam kemzuri ni mwafrika, nwwindi, m Venezuela, kwasamba wilo taji, lina rfuka, doga mwanamke hui, wwwanamke hui. Mwanam kem zuuri miyaka ish am sili lyopita, nasaivin tofaut kabisa, kimangale, kim kadashin, this time, angewekwa kim ange kwa, kim kim kadeshan, pembeni, yea sanam Michelangelo, uh, alvokwa ana chora wanwake wa zuri, ausa namzake wpukwa nazi, dengineza mwanam kemzuri, mwanam kemzuri akwa kabisa, vili mbavio, na mona saevi naito mzuri kweo. How should we say a woman should be? Who is a woman? Who kuna wakati mbapu nikula jtizama kayikio, nina jiangalia, umbri wangu, na vilia mbavu, andina badilika kulingana na umbri, badae nikawa nikitizama, the beauty standards of the world, na what is required of a woman to be. Nikasama all these things that are placed kwamba ili mwam kiya w mzurulazima we hivi, they are so difficult to attain. Pade nikasama kumba I am not a porcelain doll. Mimi siomdoli, si we se kupa perfect. I will have dents, I will have uh dimples, and I will have uh uh herbs, I will have uh uh ripples, I will have different things and I will have scars. Mimi Takwato Fauti, Kwasabu, Pengini Rutunavokalika, Kwamawana Mke, wanavu kiwawawe celebrated women. Maybe it's uh it's not who I am. A very controversial standpoint is an office power, real power, wezo wangu kat kakalam, wanamke kuandika, wwajina laki, naku naku authentify, aw kupitisha kitu powerfully am a woman na mimi panguyang mimi nakiru swiki ni just currently miakakada to semihata smeth la tini, ambapu wanawake omekua judges, or meweza kuwa ma administrators, ou meweza kua nani uhistrates, ume kwa judges, likeini requa something that we never saw. Ay kuyepo when female judges. Now still female judges are very few. Ada wanawake mbawa wanapewa ngu katika uangosi masiyo maka wwanwa wwa corporates pubuwa ni wanawaki wa chachi. Niu wwanawake umbao ma shohuri ewonaza nikawata nikawa of kiria, abwana ungosa e institution schuba nianiba to se me uh international monetary fund, wanakati lungosu noamke, la kini ni no chce sana United nations presidents. I don't remember kama lishawa e kwagata manamke. Unilewa. Oyo na fase here manamkime kuwa very much a controversy. Nakumbuwa kuwa kuna wakate and she yetu yatanzania wraisi wetu alisa makwa itabidi to gow in a fasza wana ke bitimalu. Yenuanamke likuana pewa power. She was she did not earn it, she did not contest for it, she did not go katika yamina kuwa onakujita mbulishanatkan nefasiya wangozi, pengine mwake kekata, bengine mabamkua kenketa, bengina towaki wangemsuya, bingine yamiya kesingekubali, wa yemu shwa siku ali shakuliwa, na kupewa. Lakine shkuru mbungu katika chama ipenzani wali toa manifesto ya katifani nisikia, wa kasmu kumu wanumke, hato pewa tena nafasi apitimalu mikifika katiwao, kwas babu mwanamki nae anata kiwa eende akagumba niye nafasi, akadyoneshia, kasemekumba akatoe maonyake akila ta katifanya wiz that. Nina mini unampanguvu wwanamke, kuji tambulisha, na unam pangguvu wwanam ki, kubali kwamba hata ye anaweza kubeba ki tu kingine tu fauti, na helema yokumwa mba tu me shampa. Uanyuwa katka dunya hi, kama tuki tidi tufungwe macho tu kumbaliane kumba yi, u mwili wa incha ndiomwili epeke mbonfauti tisha, like intuandani, anatfoti sana. Engewesa kusumama hapa, hana ma umbilia hai mboton a itizama na akili na ufahamu. So unfortunately, fortunately he does not have a gender. Ufa mwangu na kiliangu, um I can say with my own opinion, is not gender influenced. Unless kuna science this ambwana sobana akile mwamkin top four na kiliaman, because won smu a kile wanam kiw no koso pingine na blubina even, then mawasu wambatu kuyana yu wanamke pengine and Isa kat foe some slight difference kuma intuition or the use of emotions more than the use of logic, which I don't say kumba it's entirely kumba kila wanamke yuko hivio because there are men who are more emotionally inclined than uh logically inclined. So we cannot just say stere stereotypically that this is how a woman thinks, because let us just put the gender thing aside and give a woman a chance to describe herself who she is. Women have crossed over this earth the moon. They have shown us exactly that they are capable of not just the stars that but also the moon. Wa mewesa kufika. How many female astronauts are there? There's so many chapwesa kuku noe a stereotypical kind of uh projection of who a woman should be and who a woman is safe to to to walk in the pathwunawake, mama, wa tamani kuzawatu. Wapu ambo hawana nia kapisa yaku nyo nyesha, walawana nia kabisa yaku beba mtomgongoni, lakini he yeni ngana nke lokamilika, just because she is a woman. Lakini wapu ambo wame chukia, wwame nyenapaliwa, kwas babu, wali chakua kutopusa, wali chakua ku to kolewa. Na wale mba upengini litukia wakaza. Lakini akolewa. Wabase meito majina abaya. No wana wwakua mwamki kwa whakuja kamilika. Lakini mwana umi is a very simple term. Very simple term. I don't think it has changed so much. And let us ask who makes the rules and why should we follow them? I'm asking you, are you a conformist or a non-conformist? Do you choose to go with the wind or against it? Una panafasi wanamke kuwa jin se ali wa unaw go pangufu manamke how july akipewa atakua what kind of monster? Atakua, how great, how big, how mighty, how uncontrollable? That's a question I'm asking you. Do you think a woman is defined by her roles? And do you think a woman can be more than what the society thinks she should be? To me, a woman is a controversy. I really wish each woman would define her own terms and who she wants to be in this world. Yeah, you bad skeleton episode skipped up.