Not Managed. Fully Lived.
You have done the work. The strategies, the protocols, the mindset shifts. You keep hitting a ceiling you cannot fully explain.
This show is for you.
Not Managed, Fully Lived. is a podcast for high-achieving, neurodivergent women who are ready to go beneath the executive function conversation and into the biological terrain nobody in the ADHD space has addressed at the level it deserves. Long-form. Personal essay. The kind of conversation that treats your intelligence as the given it always has been.
I am Michele Gray (Oelking), MSW, PCC, AAC, Founder and CEO of Souljourn Coaching & Consulting. For 26 years, I've practiced at the intersection of ADHD, trauma, and the nervous system. I call myself the Neurosomatic Alchemist, because this work resides between applied neuroscience, positive psychology, ancestral wisdom, and embodied practice.
Each episode goes to the 80 percent. The nervous system layer. The somatic truth. The biological terrain that determines how you show up to every strategy you have ever tried. You will hear research and personal essay, lived experience and clinical framework, held in the same breath.
Episodes drop weekly from seven acres in the mountains of Colorado.
Not managed. Fully lived.
Episodes
9 episodes
What You Call Procrastination, I Call Freeze
It's 9 a.m. Your coffee is ready, your laptop is open, and you know exactly what your first step is. By 11, the document is still blank, and you've spent 40 minutes looking at a hotel in Portugal you found on Instagram. The ADHD world has calle...
The Coaching Industry Needs a Reset
The coaching industry needs a reset. In this solo episode, Michele draws a line from Jurassic Park's Ian Malcolm, who warned that the park's creators were so focused on whether they could that they never stopped to ask whether they should, stra...
The Dream in the Boot Box with Gail Oxford
In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with my neighbor Gail Oxford: retired educator, children's author, wife, mom, grandmother, and one of the most resilient women I know. Gail spent 45 years in the classroom teaching gifted kids and kids with...
Perimenopause and ADHD: Is It Your Body or Your Anxiety?
In this intimate episode recorded from my deck in Southern Colorado, I pull an exclusive excerpt from my upcoming book, Not Managed, Fully Lived. I open up about my personal journey through the summer of 2022—a season marked by deep gr...
Bonus Q&A: Your Real Questions, Answered
The questions people ask out loud aren't always the real ones. After three days of live training, here's what actually came up, in the chat, the Q&A, the DMs. If you're neurodivergent, nervous system agility is the only way ...
The Program Running Underneath the Success
Something has been showing up in my DMs lately, and I could not stop thinking about it. Seven-figure founders. Women running real companies, carrying real revenue, who look, from the outside, like they have it all together. And underneath it, t...
From Reactivity to Restoration with Christopher Barber
My guest today is Christopher Barber, an ADHD and AuDHD coach and a fellow high performer who spent years rebuilding his nervous system from the inside out. We talk about what actually broke down for him after decades on medication, what it too...
The Rebuild: What Actually Heals a Dysregulated Nervous System (It's Not Just Breathwork)
Regulation is not calm. It's agility, responsiveness, and fluidity. It's the capacity to hold and move with what life throws at you, and that distinction changes everything about how you approach healing.Titration and pendulation, th...
Not Managed. Fully Lived. (My Origin Story)
Welcome to the first episode of Not Managed, Fully Lived. Before we get into the work, I wanted you to know the woman behind it.This episode is my own origin story. Not the polished version. The real one. We go back to 2008, a new baby, ...
