Reclaiming Your Closet: The Closet Inventory MAY 2026 - Week 1: Identifying the Three Types & Beginning the Release

 Monday, we talked about the map. Today, we draw the lines.

Today, we inventory. Today, we identify. Today, we begin the release.

 In this Action Wednesday, Nyomi gets REAL about her own closet journey—the 200+ wigs, the 30-year-old clothes, the drawer of expensive bras she gave away LAST WEEK, the family memorial t-shirts she released THIS MORNING, and the red carpet dresses she's finally ready to let go. This isn't theory.

This is Nyomi doing the work WITH you, in real time, sharing her own struggles and breakthroughs as she reclaims her closet.

This is Season 5. This is action. Let's do the work. IN THIS EPISODE The Recap: Three Types of Clothes

• Type 1: Clothes that no longer fit your LIFE (not just body—your actual life, who you are, where you live, what you do, how you move)
• Type 2: Clothes from old chapters (the job you left, relationships that ended, versions you've outgrown)
• Type 3: Clothes for a version that never arrived (fantasy clothes, "someday" clothes, "when I'm that person" clothes)

Nyomi's REAL Stories (Doing the Work in Real Time): The Background:

• Cleans her closet at least 6 times a year
• STILL has clothes older than her 30-year-old oldest daughter
• Had over 200 wigs (now down to maybe 100-150)
• Used to buy clothes constantly when actively in the industry, going to events, seminars
• Now back in production on mainstream projects—her production company doing amazing things
• Some clothes/wigs can now go to her production house to become characters

Last Week's Release:

• A whole drawer of expensive, custom-made bras
• Victoria's Secret bras, bras specifically made for her old size
• Had breast implant surgery in August of last year
• Has cleaned closet/drawers 3 times since August
• STILL was holding onto TWO big drawers of bras she could no longer wear
• Finally bagged them and gave them away LAST WEEK

The Red Carpet Dresses:

• Still has several red carpet dresses
• Knows she'll never fit back in them (not just size—doesn't have the body for them post-surgery)
• Expensive pieces she's been holding onto
• "But I spent so much money on this!"—finally ready to release

This Morning's Release:

• Family memorial t-shirts from when family members passed away
• Some with pictures faded from washing
• Some she wears sometimes, some she doesn't
• Had them for YEARS
• Sat at altar this morning and prayed about releasing them
• Has their obituaries and pictures displayed—that's memory enough
• Doesn't need the garments with their pictures on them to remember

Her Mother's Closet:

• "I wish I could go into my mother's closet and do it!"
• Her mother (she's her caregiver) has SO many old clothes
• Being her caregiver has been "one" (laughs about it now)
• Can see the same patterns in her mother's closet

The Mel Robbins Post Timing:

• Hit her at the EXACT right time last week while cleaning closet
• Thought she was doing it right (cleans 6 times a year!)
• Realized: still holding blockage, still holding things with old energy and old stories
• Divine timing: the expansion happening in her life NEEDS this release now

Exercise 1: The Closet Inventory NYOMI WANTS YOU TO ACTUALLY DO THIS (not just think about it): Step 1: Pick ONE Section

• One shelf, one rod, one drawer
• Not the whole closet—just ONE section
• Make it manageable

Step 2: Pull Everything Out

• Don't leave it in the closet
• Put it all out where you can see it
• Every single item from that section

Step 3: Sort Into Three Piles

• PILE 1: Doesn't fit my life anymore
• PILE 2: From an old chapter I've outgrown
• PILE 3: For a version of me that never arrived

Step 4: Journal on Each Pile

• For Pile 1: Why doesn't this fit my life anymore? What has changed?
• For Pile 2: What chapter was this from? What version of me wore this? Why am I holding onto that chapter?
• For Pile 3: What version of me was I trying to be? Why didn't that version arrive? What was I trying to prove? Who was I trying to become?

Step 5: Make the Decision

• Go through each pile
• Keep or release?
• Ask yourself: Does this support who I am NOW or who I'm BECOMING?
• If the answer is no → it goes

Step 6: The Physical Release

• Get donation bags
• Put released items IN the bags
• Tie them up
• Put them in your car
• Drop them off within 48 HOURS (this is critical—don't let them sit!)

The 4 Common Blocks & How to Overcome Them:

BLOCK 1: "But I spent so much money on this"
Nyomi's example: The red carpet dresses

The truth: Keeping it won't get your money back. The money is gone whether it's in the closet or at Goodwill. But at least at Goodwill, someone can use it.
Your response: "I honor the money I spent. And I release the guilt. Because someone else will love this piece."

BLOCK 2: "What if I need it someday?"
The truth: You won't. And if you do, you'll find something better that actually fits who you are at that time. Your response: "I trust that I will have what I need when I need it.

" BLOCK 3: "This reminds me of a good time"
Nyomi's example: The family memorial t-shirts she released this morning

The truth: That's beautiful. But memory lives in your heart, not in your closet. You don't need the physical object to remember. Your response: "I carry the memory with me in my heart. I don't need the object." Nyomi's story: "Yesterday, just this morning, I chose to release t-shirts that my family made when family members passed away. I've had them for years. Some with pictures faded from washing. I sat at my altar and prayed that I was going to release them. The thing is, I have a whole area with their obituaries and their pictures. That is memory enough instead of wearing a garment with their pictures on there

." BLOCK 4: "I'll fit into this again when I lose weight"
Nyomi says: "That was a big one for me. That was a big one for me."

The truth: First of all, you are beautiful and handsome enough as you are RIGHT NOW. But second, when you reach that goal—and Nyomi's going to tell you this—you're going to want something NEW. You're going to want new clothes to celebrate the new you, not the old clothes from years ago from the old chapter. Because when you finish the transformation to get that new body, you ain't going to want that old stuff with that old energy, with them old stories on that new reformed body. You're not going to want that.

 Your response: "I honor my body now. When I change, I'll celebrate with new pieces."

Your Commitment for This Week: Write this down. Say it out loud. Make it real:

1. Inventory ONE section of your closet
2. Sort into three types
3. Journal on the stories behind each pile
4. Make the decision: keep or release
5. Physically put items into donation bags and drop off within 48 hours

Accountability: Option 1: DM Nyomi on Instagram

• @TheRealNyomiBanks (spelled N-Y-O-M-I)
• OR @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast
• Tell her which section you inventoried or how many items you're releasing

Option 2: Tell an accountability partner

• Make it public
• Make it real

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Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

Monday we talked about the men.

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Today we draw the lines. Today we inventory. Today we identify. Today we begin to release. So let's do the work. Hey my beautiful people. Welcome back to the Seeds of Siph Love Podcast. This is your girl to Goddess, Naomi Banks, and I am so glad that you are here with me on this action Wednesday. And y'all Monday was powerful. Monday was very powerful. And we talked about how your closet is a map to your past. We talked about the 15-year-old coast. We talked about Mel Robert's post and the three types of clothes that we hold on to. Well today, today we do the actual work. Today we inventory our closets. Today we identify which clothes fall into which categories. And today we begin to release them. So I want you to grab your journals, get your pen ready, and let's do the work. So let me welcome you properly to the show.

SPEAKER_02 1:03

Welcome to the Season of Save Love Podcast. I am your host, Naomi Banks and I am so glad that you are here. As we continue to transform in life, so does this podcast. In season five, we're moving differently. More intentional. More action. Less learning. More doing. Less waiting and more living. This is a space where we don't just talk about self-love. We practice it. We don't just discuss transformation. We live it. Every episode is an invitation to do the work with me. Not just listen to me talk about it. This podcast is brought to you by Ask Naomi and Elevate Me Self-Discovery. We believe that loving yourself intentionally is a foundation of true transformation. So get ready. Now let's get started.

SPEAKER_03 2:08

Alright, good morning, good morning, my beautiful people. So before we dive into the work, we're going to ground ourselves with the 62nd guided medium guided meditation. I got a little tongue-tied this morning. So today we are preparing to release. We are preparing to release and to let go to make space, alright?

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To make space, alright?

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Alright.

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So wherever you are right now, just close your eyes if you can and be comfortable. Put both feet on the floor. Take a deep breath in through your nose. Now release. And I want you to say quietly to yourself and repeat after me I'm ready to see what I've been holding on to. Inhale. Exhale. I release all identities without shame. Inhale. Exhale. I make space for who I am becoming. Inhale. Exhale. I honor the past. I choose the present. I create the future. My breath in. Release. Now say, I am ready to do this work. And when you are ready, gently open your eyes and grab your journal. And let's begin.

SPEAKER_03 4:24

All right, my beautiful people. You are new here to this is an Asifla podcast. It's something we do every episode just to help ground ourselves before we get into the topic at hand. All right, so let's recap quickly on Monday's episode. All right, so we talked about how your closet holds three types of clothes, right? So type one clothes is that you no longer fit in your life, right? Um, that you're this not just for your body, but for your life, the clothes that don't match, right? Don't match who you are now, where you live, what you do, and how you move. And there's a type two clothes, right? From your old chapters of your life, um, the job that you left, the relationships that ended, and the versions of that you have outgrown. And then there's the type three clothes that you bought for versions that you've that never arrived, you know, the fantasy clothes, the someday clothes that when that person that I'm going to be close. You know what I'm saying? That's that I'm that person type of clothes, you know. But today we're going to identify which clothes that's in your closet fall into those categories. And we're going to start releasing those because I know, I know that we all have those type of clothes in our closet, right? All right. So here's the first exercise that we're going to do. And y'all, I need y'all to actually do this and not just think about it. I want y'all to do it. I want y'all to do it. And I look, let me tell y'all something. I I wish that I can go into my mother's closet and do it. I really do, because she has so many old clothes in there. Think, oh my God. When I when I tell you, um being her her caregiver has been uh um, yeah, it's been one. But but I I laugh at it now, especially now that I am I am um actively truly going into my closet and really going in in there and really cleaning it, really cleaning out everything out of my closet right now. So as I am telling you these exercises, I'm doing this exercise myself. Because when I tell you, when I saw that post last week, um that Mel Robbins um posted last week, and it hit me at the right time when I was doing my closet, when I was cleaning my closet. And I, you know, I think I'm doing it right, you know, because I do it all the time. I like I said, I I at least clean my closet at least six times a year. And this is the thing, I don't go buying new clothes like that anymore because I don't go places like I used to, especially when I was actively active in the industry and I was actively doing things, you know, going to different events and you know, different seminars and stuff like that. Like I was buying clothes and buying shoes and stuff like that. No, I have clothes that's older than my oldest daughter, 30 years old, and I was still holding on to those clothes for whatever reason, items, shoes, wigs. Um, I think the last time we talked, um, when I told you I counted my wigs, I think at that time I had like over 200 and something wigs, literally. Um, right now I think maybe I have maybe 150 wigs. And I'll probably um I'm um yeah, maybe. Maybe a hundred and something wigs, or maybe a hundred and fifty something wigs, maybe. And so to say that, you know, say this now I I kind of figure out what am I gonna do with all of this stuff? What am I gonna do with all these clothes? What am I gonna do? And now that I'm back to writing, now that I'm back in production on mainstream projects, and my my production company is really doing some amazing things now. Now I can use a lot of those items, a lot of those clothes, a lot of those wigs. Now they're now could be in my production house. You see, so all of it's not going to vain, but they can come out of my closet. Now I can put them somewhere else that they can actually do and become characters. So that's one thing that I love to do. But then there were other things that were still sitting in my closet that were just sitting there and just was holding blockage for me. And I know sometimes we do that. They hold a sentimental thing or they hold that we're going to lose this weight and we're going to be able to fit back in there. I know I was one of those ones. Or, oh my God, this cost me this much. I mean, literally, I have several um red carpet dresses, red carpet dress that I know that I will never fit back in that dress for wrong reason because I don't have the boobs to fit in those dresses ever again. I don't. Just last week, I'm about to um share this with you. I had a drawer full of amazing, expensive bras, bras that were specifically made for my bra size. And I had to put them in a bag and give them away because I no longer fit those bras. Victoria's Secret bras, like a whole lot of bras that I no longer can wear. And I was like, wow. And I'm I had my breast implant done back in August of last year. And just now, just last week, is when I was like, wow, I'm still holding on. I had two big drawer full of bras that I can no longer wear. And since August to now, I think I cleaned out my closet at least three times since then, and in my drawers at least three times since then. So why what why what was I holding on to? And so when you think about things like that, and that's what I can truly appreciate when that post came up into my life last week, understanding exactly what was going on in my life, the expansion that's going on, and know that it's needed right now. So who's ever listening to this podcast at this moment, at this time, knowing that it's not an accident that you came up on this, knowing that this is where it's needed, is that, okay, there's something more that I need to do. Then maybe that shirt, that dress, those pants, those shoes that I was just looking at yesterday or today. And I'm like, man, should I keep these or should I give them away? Or should I donate it to the um to the the, I forgot the name of it, but you know, the down the street, I'm getting brain fog again is coming in my mind. But you know who with um foundation are. Should I give them away? Maybe this is it. Yeah. Because if they're not aligned with you right now, if they're not into in your life right now, if it doesn't fit you right now, give it away. Give it away. So here's the first exercise, all right? Here's the first exercise. Pick one section of your closet and don't try to do the whole thing today. Don't try to do the whole thing today because it will get overwhelming. It will get overwhelming. I want you to pick one section. Wherever you hold your tops, if it's your tops, do your tops. If your pants, do your pants, if it's your dresses, do your dresses, if it's your shoes, do your shoes. Even if it's your accessories, let me tell you something. Those accessories can get we all know that.

SPEAKER_01 11:45

But just pick one, and we're going to go section by section. All right, two. Step two, put them all, put everything together.

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Yes, everything, all of it. I want it visible. All of the section of the each section, like if you want all of the pants, put all the pants together like that. I want them in front of you because when it's when it's hanging in the closet, it's easy to ignore. So when it's all on your bed or all on your floor, all in your face, then you have it right in front of you. And then I want you to create three pals. That's your next step. Create three piles. And then your first pal is your type one pal that you no longer fit it, no longer fits your life. Pile two is is from old chapters in your life. And chapter type three is from a version of you that never arrived. And I want you to go through each one of those items and ask what type is this. And I want you to be honest with yourself. Don't lie to yourself, don't make excuses, just truth. That blazer from your corporate job that you left three years ago. That's a type two. Those workout clothes that you bought when you were going to start a new routine but never did.

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That's a type three.

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That dress or those pants that technically fit fits but makes you feel like you're pretending to be someone that you're not.

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That's type one. And I want you to sort them. All of them like that. And then next exercise two.

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Now I want you to have a story behind each pal. Now you have the three pals, right? And I want you to journal on this. Yes, journal on this. So the power for power one that no longer fits your life. I want you to write this down. I want you to write this. I've been holding on to these clothes because.

SPEAKER_01 15:57

And then you finish the sentence. Who did you think you would be? Who would be back in shape? What life did you think you would have? And then write the version of me that never arrived because. That version of me never arrived because. Was it unrealistic expectations? Was it someone else's vision for your life? Was it society's pressure? I want you to name it. I want you to write it down. See it. And exercise three, the decision.

SPEAKER_03 16:58

Here's when it gets real. For each pal, that you're going to make a decision. This is where you're going to make a decision. But before you do that, I need you to remember something. I want you to remember something that Meryl Robins said that I share with you on Monday. If a piece makes you feel small, if a piece of clothing makes you feel ashamed or disconnected, it does not belong in your future. It does not belong in your future. I'm going to read that again. If it makes you feel small, if it makes you feel ashamed or disconnected, it does not, it does not belong in your future.

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So here's the decision for each pal. For pal one. Does this support who I am now? If yes, then keep it.

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The key word is now. Who I am now today, now who I'm going to be next week, not who I'm going to be when I finish this course or this class or this. But now don't think about who I used to be. Don't think about who I might be someday. But now. Does it support who you are now?

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And then pal two, am I honoring this chapter or am I stuck in it? I'm gonna repeat that again for Pile 2.

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Am I honoring this chapter or am I stuck in it?

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There's a difference. See, you can honor the past without living in it. You can keep one piece that reminds you of that chapter. The rest goes. The rest can go. Impile three. Is this my dream or someone else's?

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If it's your dream and you are actively working toward it, then keep it.

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But if it's a fantasy, a shoot or someone else's vision, then let it go.

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If you just sitting there and you just wishing, dreaming upon it, and you have not actively done anything to get there, let it go. If it's someone else's dream, let it go. Because we've been sitting there for over a year and you have not done anything, let it go. I save up for you and let it go.

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Let it go.

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Alright, so now it's all about the physical release. Y'all ready? So for everything that you're letting go of, I want you to do this.

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I want you to do this. Y'all ready? Are y'all ready? Alright. Step one. I want you to thank it. Yes, thank it. Out loud if you can. I want you to say thank you for serving me during that chapter.

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Thank you for the lessons that you taught me. Thank you for showing me what I don't want anymore.

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I want you to honor it and then release it. Step two. I want you to put it in a donation bag immediately. Immediately. Don't leave it in the maybe pile. Don't put it in the back of the closet.

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Put it in a donation bag right now.

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Get it out of your space. Get it out of your energy field. Get it out of your vision. Put it in the bag right now. Step three. Commit to dropping off the bag within 48 hours. And why I'm giving you 48 hours, because I know some things that people need to do, go to work, do certain things. Because I don't live far from the drop-off, so I try to do mine's at least daily. That's how much stuff I got in my closet.

SPEAKER_03 22:10

And see, the thing is I think I'm going to redo my closet. I think that's going to be a gift to myself. I think that's going to be my summer project. I'm going to redo my closet. After I remove a lot of those things. I had a dream last night. I have these, these seven-inch platform heels. Oh, they cold. Oh my God, they cold.

SPEAKER_01 22:44

Yeah. They gotta go.

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I can't wear them anymore. My body, my legs, my my ankles, they just won't allow it. They just, but they, oof, woof, woof. Yeah, they bad. I think I'm gonna post them in and put them in my story. I don't know where I'm gonna put them in my story, but they gotta go. Oh, yeah, they they nice. They they nice, but they gotta go. Yeah, yeah. So they'll make somebody else nice and happy. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I know you, but you got daughters, they'll wear, nah. Mm-mm. Yeah. They don't want them. They said they were too high. I already asked. I already been there. I already asked. I would have loved to keep them in the family, but they said they were too high. You know, not a um, I think I was probably the most courageous out of my whole entire family that will rock heels that high, you know, over five inches. Well, I was the only, yeah. Oh my god, yes, yes, I was the only one that will rock heels over five, over four inches. Yeah, yeah. Oh my goodness, yeah. But honestly, do not let them sit in your car for weeks. Don't do that. I've done that before. Don't do that. Then your car starts to get, you know, cluttered and stuff like that. Don't let it sit at your front door, don't let it sit at your back door. Drop it off. Release it. Release it. Release it. You know, and don't call, you know, and let me tell you something, what I used to do. I remember, you know, um saying I was gonna give it away to family members or even friends and say, you know, I'm I'm I'm packing up, I'm giving away some things, you know, would you like such and such? Oh yeah, keep it for me. And I remember keeping things for years for people, years of keeping stuff for people. And it just sat there. And I thought it was my obligation to keep it for people. And honestly, just last year is what I started to release. And I remember I had this um this old-time press, press machine that was pressing things, and I was gonna give it to one of my dear friends, and I've had it for like three or four years, and I finally gave it away, probably about a year or two ago. And I and um they came by last year finally, and was like, Do you still have that press? I said, No, I gave that thing away. You know, why you do that? I told you I was coming. I said, Are you kidding me? I offered you that for free years ago, and you just come now. I said, No, I had to get rid of that. There's things that I had to do in my home. I kept it for you for years. You know what they told me, you could have put it in your storage. Do you know I can't, are you kidding me? But you know, this is this is where, and you know, and the thing is, I laugh at it now because it's it it will offend some people, but it didn't even offend me because I said, you know, this person don't even know no bad. They they really don't. They they don't understand boundaries, they don't any understanding that so I cannot take it personal. I laugh at it now. Back then, I I would get, you know, it offended me. Now I laugh at it because I said they really didn't didn't even understand what they were even asking of someone. They don't even understand that. Just as they didn't have the capacity to receive it at their time, I didn't have the capacity to hold on to it. But I did it for the love of them. But I did it out of I I went beyond my boundaries to do it. But that's when you have to understand that people don't know and understand what boundaries are, or even what talking about self-love and self-care is, you know. So when you are going through this self-love journey, when you are going through this healing journey, when you are going through this releasing journey and this expansion journey and this growing journey, that there are certain things and certain people and certain traits and things that you have to release. And when you're sitting back and you're listening to the stories that you tell and you're you're laughing at some of the even the reacting, the reactions that you have, and you're like, wow, now I see what that is. Wow. And even in being stuck, and let's go to the next one. So now that I know, now I know that some of you are going to get stuck because we do. We get stuck. So let me address the common blocks that we have. Block one. But I spent so much money on these. Like I told you about the red carpet dress that I dresses that I have.

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Remember I told you about those? You have spent a lot of money on it. Yes, you did.

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And keeping it won't get your money back. Keeping it won't get your money back. The money is gone, whether it's in the closet or at goodwill. But at least at goodwill, someone can use it. So this would be the response. I honor that the money that I spent.

SPEAKER_01 28:04

And I release the guilt. Because someone else will love this piece. The next block is, what if I need it someday? But you won't. Because if you do, you'll find something better that actually fits who you are at that time. So your response should be, I trust that I will have what I need when I need it.

SPEAKER_03 28:36

In your next blockage, the next little words or thing will come in your head, this reminds me of a good time. That's beautiful. But you know what? Memory lives in your heart, not in your closet.

SPEAKER_01 28:53

You don't need the physical objects to remember. So your response could be, I carry the memory with me in my heart. I don't need the object. Yesterday, just this morning, I chose to release t-shirts that my family made when um with family members passed away.

SPEAKER_03 29:22

So I have several different t-shirts, some of them with some of the pictures of them gone, they like faded away from wash. And I just have them in. I wear them sometimes and sometimes I don't know. But I've had t-shirts for years and years. And I just decided today, I've sat at my altar and I prayed that I was gonna release them and and you know, either throw some away or you know, or put some in the goodwill, but to to, you know, they're no longer here. Some of them I can't even fit, you know, um, like things like that. And I was holding on to memory because they have, but the thing is, I have a whole area that I have their obituaries and their pictures there. So that is memory enough than wearing a garment with their pictures on there. You understand what I'm saying? So that for me is memory enough for me, the pictures that I have of them. That's memory enough instead of the object that I have. But you know, like stuff like that for me. And then um another blockage. Uh, I'll fit into this. Um, I'll fit into this um again when I lose weight. That was a big one for me. That was a big one for me.

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And um, this is the thing.

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First of all, you are beautiful, handsome as nothing as you are right now. But second, when you reach that goal, and I'm gonna tell you this, you're gonna want something new. You're gonna want some new clothes to celebrate the new you, not the old clothes that you've had for years and from the old chapter. Because when you finish doing what you're doing and going through the transformation to get that new body that you have, you ain't gonna want that old garments with that old energy, with them old stories on that new reformed body. You're not gonna want that. So your response is I honor my body now. When I change, I'll celebrate with new pieces. All right, y'all. So I gave you all of that. So here's the commitment for this week. This week. This week I'm going to commit. That's it. Y'all ready? This week I'm going to commit to one inventory one section of your closet. Pick one section of your closet, sorting into three types. Three types. And then we're gonna journal. Number three, we're gonna journal on the stories behind each pile, making the decision to keep or release by physically putting them items into donation bags and dropping off donation bags within 48 hours. I want you to write that down. I want you to say them out loud, and I want you to make it real. And here's the accountability piece. I want you to share the broccoli option. You can DM me on Instagram, either on the real Naomi Banks, and I only spell N-Y-O-M-I, or you could tag me at uh tag at the Season of Self-Love Podcast and tell me which section that you have um inventoried, or how many items that you're releasing. Or option two, you can tell an accountability partner.

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Make it public, make it real. And what does this create?

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What happens is is so let me tell you what happens is is when this dude it works. When you clear your physical clutter, you clear your mental and your emotional clutter too. I'm gonna say this again. When you clear the physical clutter, you clear the mental and emotional clutter. When your house is clean, when your space is clean, when your car is clean, when your areas are clean and you can walk out, your mental is clear, your emotions are clear. You're able to think, you're able to feel, you're able to move. When you release those old identities, you make space for new ones. When you let go of the should be clothes, you make room for the actual I am clothes, I am clothes, who I am today. Your the closet becomes a place of possibilities instead of pressure. Your mornings become easier because you're choosing for clothes that actually support you now. And your confidence increases because you're wearing things that make you feel like yourself, not like a version that you're trying to be. And most importantly, you are reclaiming your power, you reclaim your space and you reclaim you. Let me say this. I know it is very hard sometimes stepping into yourself in your daily life. I know it is, I know it is, and even though I don't know each and every one of you personally, I know and walked a lot of your personal stories myself. And I know we're talking about, it seems like we're talking about clothes today, but it's more than just clothes, it goes deeper than that. This week I posted a few posts about having to make the decisions about what you're gonna wear on this particular day when you have to make choices, who I'm going to be on this day. And it brought me back to as a teenager trying to figure out who I'm going to show up at school as. Am I going to wear this? Am I going to wear this? Trying to figure out.

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But this is a time when it can stop. This is when we can stop that. This is when.

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So before we close, let's do a closing affirmation. Alright, I want you to repeat after me, alright? I release old identities without shame.

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I make space for who I am becoming. I honor the past. I choose the present. My closet supports who I am now. I let go with love. I receive with joy. I am reclaimed. And I am unashamed. And I am ready. All right, my beautiful people.

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That's work for this week. Inventory one section. One section sort into three types. Journal on the stories, make the decisions, and release. Release. And next Monday, we are diving into week two. How does this make me feel? The one question that changes everything. Now, if this episode has helped you, share it with someone who needs permission to let go. I want you to leave a review, DM me your progress. I want to celebrate it with you. All right. And also, I'm going to tell you this we have officially, officially created and launched our new YouTube channel specifically for the Season of Self-Love podcast. And so we will have the link in the notes. So now I know here you are listening audio, but now you are able to see it visually. Yes, you're able to see me visually for the full show. If you want to see the full show visually, you will go to the Season of Self-Love Podcast YouTube uh channel there. And we will definitely have all shows. Um I will be bringing in the old shows archives. And we're gonna be doing a lot, a lot of um great things over there at the YouTube channel. Um there. Um, yeah, there too. So so until next time, this is your goodie goddess dynamic. Thanks for reminding you two, be good to one another in yourselves and always, always keep yourself sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others. Well, have an amazing, amazing day.

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Have a good one. The season of self love is brought to you by Ask Naomi and Elevate Me Self Discovery. Don't just listen. Do the work, transform your life. For more, visit asknaomi.com or follow us on Instagram at the Season of Self Love Podcast.