The Season of Self Love
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The Season of Self Love
Claiming Your Space: The Work of Unashamed Growth (Action Wednesday)
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You cleared the space. Now it's time to fill it. In this first-ever Action Wednesday episode, Nyomi walks you through the actual WORK of unashamed growth. No theory. No fluff. Just practical exercises, real examples, and one bold action you're taking THIS WEEK. This episode includes:- Exercise 1: Mapping Your Space (identify where you have room now)
- Exercise 2: Naming What You Want to Grow (fill it intentionally)
- Exercise 3: Choosing Your One Bold Action (and actually doing it)
- Real examples from Nyomi's community
- Accountability prompts
- What to do when resistance shows up
- Quick Monday recap (the green bathroom story!)
- 3 guided exercises with writing time
- 4 categories of space: Time, Energy, Physical Space, Bandwidth
- How to name what you want to grow
- Choosing ONE bold, visible action for this week
- Addressing shame, fear, and guilt when they show up
- Real examples: Sarah, Marcus, Jasmine, David, and Nyomi
- Accountability: sharing your action
- What to do if you're scared (spoiler: do it anyway)
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You cleared the space. Now it's time to fill it. You set the boundaries. Now it's time to expand into them. You asked yourself what growth means. Now it's time to actually grow. This is Action Wednesday. And today we are not just talking. We are doing. Well, hey, my beautiful people, and welcome back to the Season of Self-Love Podcast. It's your girl to God is Nami Banks, and I am so glad that you are here with me on this Action Wednesday. Yes, Action Wednesday. And y'all, if you listen to Monday's episode, you know that we are doing something different this month. This month. We're not just learning that we're applying. And we're not just listening, that we are taking action. So you know, Monday, I told you about the question that I was asked. Have you seen any growth from me? I told you about the shame that I tried to try to creep in. I told you about choosing to speak my truth with compassion. And I told you about my green bathroom and how I almost shrunk. And how I almost said, I think I'm doing too much. But I also told you how my husband reminded me to be unapologetically mean. Well, today, today we're going to do the work. Today we're going to identify where you have space now that you didn't have before. And we're going to name what you want to grow into that space. And we're going to take one bold visible action to claim it. So let me welcome you properly, properly to the show. Welcome to the Season of Self-Love Podcast, the season of healing intentionally. I am your host, Naomi Banks, and I am so glad that you are here. This season we are slowing down to go deeper. Every Monday and Wednesday, we're creating a space of intentional healing, authentic conversations, and the kind of self-love that transform from the inside out. This podcast is brought to you by Axe Naomi and Elevate Me Self-Discovery, where we believe that loving yourself intentionally is the foundation of true transformation. So whether you're on your own journey of rebirth, navigating life transitions, or simply choosing yourself, this is your safe space. So get comfy, grab your favorite beverage, and let's heal together intentionally because you deserve to embrace that beautiful person that you are. Now let's get started. All right, my beautiful people again. Welcome to the season of self-love. Well, before we dive into the work, we're going to ground ourselves with the 62nd guided meditation. You see that tongue tied right there. But today's meditation is different. Today we're not just setting an intention that we're preparing to take action. We are preparing to take action. So what I want you to do right now, I want you to grab your journals if you have it. And I want you to get your pen ready. Because after this meditation, we're going to work. So wherever you are right now, I want you to close your eyes if you can, and I want you to get comfortable, all right? All right, my beautiful souls, wherever you are and whatever you're doing, I want you to just pause with me for a moment. I want you to put both feet on the floor, and I want you to feel the ground beneath you. You are supported and you are ready. Now take a deep breath in through your nose, and I want you to slowly release out your mouth. Now place both of your hands onto your thighs with your palms up, open, receiving, and ready. And now I want you to say quietly to yourself, and I want you to repeat after me: I am ready to claim my space. Now inhale, exhale. Now say quietly to yourself, I release the fear of being too much. I release the guilt of taking up room. I release the shame of expanding. I welcome boldness. I welcome visibility. I welcome action. Now one more breath in. Release. Now say today I act, today I claim, today I grow. I am unashamed. And when you are ready, gently open your eyes and grab your journal today and let's do the work. Alright, my beautiful people, you ready to do the work? Are you ready to do the work? Alright, so let me quickly recap on Monday's episode for those who listen and catch up on for those who didn't. You know, on Monday I share with you a story of being asked, have you seen any growth? Um, and how that question made me realize that we all have different definitions of growth. Some people measure their growth by an external marker, their career, their house, their accomplishment, the things that everyone can see. But for others like myself and many of you, growth looks different. Growth means healing, setting boundaries, uh, means self-awareness. Growth means choosing yourself. And also I shared on how shame tried to creep in. Um shame tried to keep me from speaking my own truth. Shame told me to shrink, to make it easy to just say what they wanted to hear. But I chose differently. I chose to speak my truth with compassion. And then I told you about my green bathroom, about how I was redesigning this space in my home. And I started to second guess myself. I think I'm doing too much, is what I said. And my husband said to me, No, no, you be you. He said, Baby, you've done so much work to be comfortable in your skin because I watched you. He said, You made a commitment when we walked into this home, and you said that when people walk into our home, that when they walk in one way, but when they leave, they leave another way. You said that when they walk into your home is that they want you want them to be an experience that it to be transformative to them. And that's when I knew that that I needed to be unashamed about my growth, that I needed to stop apologizing for my growth of my in my healing, and that's what unashamed growth looks like. It looks like claiming your space, it looks like filling in with your truth, with your reflection, with your expression unapologetically. So Monday I gave you five reflection questions, and today we're going to use those questions to do the actual work. So I know you asked in Naomi, so how are we going to do the work? So here's how we're going to do the work. I'm going to walk you through three exercises and I want you to actually do them. I want you to actually do them. Not just listen to them and not just think about them, but to actually do them. So if you're driving right now or you're working or you're cooking and you're just listening to me while we're doing this right now, you can just come back to this and you can do these exercises later. But when you do actually do them, write them down. I want you to speak them out loud and I want you to take action. Because here's what I know you can listen to a thousand podcasts about growth. You can read a thousand books about boundaries, but if you don't actually do the work, nothing changes. So today we're going to do the work. So before I give you exercise, um, number one, I want to share something with you and um with you all on several um examples of doing action, being putting action behind the work that you do or the the things that you say that you're going to do, or better yet, reading. Um I want to say two years ago. Two years ago, I did a 10-day uh a 10-day book thing, and I said that I was gonna continue to do it. This is one of the things I said I was gonna do that I hadn't done yet, but I I did my first um very first 10-day um book challenge, and it was um Change Your Paradigm, Change Your Life by Bob Proctor. And we kind of um and we had an amazing, um amazing um time doing that book. And I remember doing that book, but it also within doing the book in the in the challenge, you also had to challenge yourself to do an additional, I believe it was either 60 or 90 days, that you can, you know, read the book every day. Read the book every day, um, and actually share with somebody and do that with them and make each other accountable for that book, um, for reading that book and doing the things in that book. And I remembered um choosing myself and my sister were accountable partners, and I remember myself and one of my aunties was accountable partners. And so I kind of I kind of did it several times, and I actually created a framework using part of those principles that Bob Proctor had taught us to create a framework for that. But then I thought about the four agreements, and I remember sharing the four agreements with um first with my Axe Naomi platform and talking about the four agreements there. But then I remember, you know, anyone that I ever ran across with, whether it was friends, family members, or whoever, I can be at a tea party, at a wedding, or whatever, I used to speak to them about the four agreements and what it truly meant. But though, but that book right there is what I truly do actively use on a daily basis. And what I mean by that is that you have to be very intentional on how you want your life to be. Again, we cannot just be highlighting and writing things down and not doing the work, especially if we say this is really what we want in our life. Do we really want this in our life? Do we really want change? Do we really want growth? Do we really want that successful business? Do we really want that successful relationship? Do we really want to heal from that heartache? Do we really want to heal from that trauma? Do we have to do the work? We have to do the work. All right, so let's go to exercise number one. Exercise number one is the first exercise, and I'm gonna call it this is mapping your space. This is where we identify where you actually have space now that you actually have space that you didn't have before. Because remember the boundaries that you set in March, or whenever you set them, you created a room, you created space, and now you need to name that space. So, what I want you to do right now, I want you to grab your journals and I want you to write down these four categories, and I'm going to give them to you to write each one of them, all right? All right, so the first category. Remember, I said four categories. The first category is time. It's time. Time is the first category. Category one is time. All right, where did you create that? Where did you create time that you didn't have before? Where did you create time that you didn't have before? Maybe you stopped scrolling on social media for you know an hour every night, or maybe you stop um overcommitting to events that you didn't want to attend, or you know, maybe you just delegated tasks that weren't where you don't carry anymore. I want you to write it down right now. Where did you create time? And I'm gonna pause for a moment, I'm gonna play some little music, you know, while you write that down. We're not gonna, we we're gonna take a little slow today. All right, again, category one is where did you create time? All right, category number two is energy. Where did you create emotional or mental energy? Maybe you stopped engaging in draining conversations, maybe you stopped carrying other people's problems, maybe you stopped overthinking or people pleasing. Write it down. Where did you create energy? I'm gonna play some music and allow you to go ahead and write that. Where did you create energy? Category three, physical space. Where did you create actual physical space? Maybe you cleaned out your closet. I did. Maybe you set up a workspace, maybe you claimed the corner of your home as a sanctuary. Maybe, like me, redesigning your bathroom or even you know, your garage and built you out a home gym. Write it down. Where did you create physical space? I'm gonna give you some time. Okay, right now I want you to pause for a moment. I want you to take a deep breath in through your nose. Hold for a moment, exhale through your mouth. Take another deep breath in through your nose. Hold for a moment, release through your mouth, take another another deep breath in through your nose. Hold for a moment, release through your mouth. Alright, we go to category four. Category four is emotional, mental bandwidth. Okay, this one is more subtle. Where did you create emotional or mental bandwidth? Maybe you stop worrying about things that you can't control. Maybe you stop second-guessing yourself, and maybe you stop trusting yourself more. I want you to write it down. Where did you create bandwidth? Now I want you to look at your list. I want you to look at all of the space that you created. Time, energy, physical space in your bandwidth. This is real. This is yours. This is the room that you make growth from. You made for growth, okay? Now you're wondering why I paused and I did those three inhales and exhales because I know sometimes when you are going deep, sometimes it can become very overwhelming and anxiety can set in. Because you could put pressure on yourself, and this is not what it's supposed to be. And so I wanted to take a moment to just pause and take a moment, and that's what that was. And so even if you leave from here and you sit down yourself and you do it again, I want you to take those moments to take those three breaths in, those three inhales and exhales out like that. Inhale, hold for a moment and then exhale. So you can gather your emotions, and then you can continue. Because when we start to look at our own reflection in the mirror while we heal, and sometimes it's not as pretty as we want it to be, but know that you are still an amazing person through this transformation. Know that. Know that even wanting, having the courage to want to be a better version of what. You already are. Speaks values. Speaks values. Now to continue on with this exercise two of this is naming what you want to grow. Now that you mapped out your space, we're going to name what you want to grow in that space. Because here's the thing nature abhors a vacuum. If you create space and don't intentionally fill it, something else will fill it for you. And it might not be what you want. So we're going to be intentional and we're going to name what we want to grow. We got to be careful that we're not hoarding other things that are not supposed to be there. Remember, we just cleaned things out that were no longer aligned. Right? So we want to make sure that we're not putting things in there that are not supposed to be in there. All right. We're naming what we want to grow. We're putting a stamp on it. We're claiming it, right? So I want you to look at each category and I want you to ask yourself, what do I want to fill this space with? So let me get you some examples from my own life. So time. I created time by setting boundaries around my work hours. What do I want to fill time with? Rest, creativity, time with my daughters, time at my altar, time to just be me. Because if anybody knows me, I can work 24-7. But I know I need time to rest. I need time to heal my body. I know I need time for just creativity. I know I need time with my daughters. My baby girl is still here in the home, so I know I need time with her to nurture her, to feed into her. And I need time at my altar. I need time with my baby boo. That's just time for just to be. And then energy. I created energy by stopping people pleasing conversations. That I'm no longer on the end of just listening to people dumping. What do I want to fill that energy with? With my own healing, with my own projects, with my own joy. With physical space. I created physical space by redesigning my bathroom. By taking all of the stuff that I had in my garage that I was sharing with and building out a whole gym. And what do I want to fill that space with when I created the bathroom? Beauty, peace, a reflection of my truth, a sanctuary. With my gym, health. Health. Health is wealth. Balance. And bandwidth. I created bandwidth by trusting myself more. What I want to fill that bandwidth with new ideas, new possibilities, new growth. You got it? Now is your turn. I want you to go back to your four categories, and for each one, I want you to write, I want to fill this space with. And then you fill in the space. So right now, we'll pause for a moment. I want you to fill in this, I want to fill this space with. This is your space. You get to decide what grows here. All right, so now that you mapped out your space and you name what you want to grow, now comes the most important part. And that's taking that one bold action. Because growth doesn't happen by thinking about it. Growth doesn't happen by writing about it. Growth happens by what? By doing it. Do it. So I want you to choose one bold, one visible action you're going to take this week to claim your space. And when I say bold, I mean something that stretches you, something that makes you a little uncomfortable, something that requires you to be unashamed. And when I say visible, I mean something that can be seen by you, by others, by the world, something that you can't hide, something that takes up space. So let me give you some examples. If you created time, sign up for that class that you've been talking about, book that massage, block out two hours this Saturday just for you, and put it on your calendar where everyone can see it. Or if if you created energy, start that creative project, write that first page of that book, post it that, post that thing that you've been afraid to share, or speak up in that meeting. And if you created physical space, finish redesigning that room. Put up that art, buy that green paint, or make your space a reflection of you. And if you created bandwidth, I want you to apply for that opportunity. Have that conversation. Ask for what you need. Make that decision that you've been avoiding. Now I want you to look at your list. And I want you to look at what you what you want to grow, and I want you to choose one action, just one, but I want you to make it bold. I want you to make it visible. And I want you to make it this week. Write this down. Write this down. This week I will right now. I want you to do it right now. I want you to make the decision, your bold decision right now. This week I will. Make an appointment with yourself to do that. Does that make sense? Does that make sense? I know it's being a little funny, but does that make sense? Commit to that, commit to yourself. Make that bold commitment to yourself. Make that one thing, do that one action. Because I'm gonna tell you something. Here's where it gets real. Because as soon as you commit to that bold action, resistance is going to show up. Shame is going to whisper. And it's gonna say, that's too much. Girl, you're doing too much. Boy, who do you think you are? Fear is going to whisper. What if people judge you? What if you fail? What if you look stupid? Guilt is going to whisper. You should be doing something more practical. You should be focused on something else. You being selfish. And when those voices show up, notice I say when, not if. I want you to remember Monday's lesson. I want you to remember what I said on Monday. Growth has no single definition. So you don't have to measure your growth by someone else's ruler. And you don't have to apologize for growing in ways that don't fit the script. But trust and believe those voices are going to show up. So when they do, I'm gonna go tell her, go sit over there in the corner. Because that's what I tell my eyes, that's what I tell my voice, go sit in the corner over there. No, we're not entertaining that today. And I'm just blessed that I do have someone that'd be like, uh-uh, no, when it gets really loud for me, no. This thing called life, it's a daily thing. This thing called healing, this wonderful thing called healing, it's a daily, daily thing. Man, it's every moment of the day. Every moment of the day. My husband said, You be you. He's witnessed me doing the work and being comfortable in my skin. So when that shame, that fear, that guilt shows up, I want you to say to this out loud, I am claiming my space. I am growing unapologetically. This is not too much, this is exactly right. I am unashamed. And I want you to say it right now with me out loud if you can. I am claiming my space. I am growing unapologetically. This is not too much, this is exactly right. I am unashamed. Beautiful, beautiful. All right, all right, now here's where the accountability piece comes, all right, y'all? Because we commit to something out loud. When we share it with someone, it becomes real and it becomes harder to back out. So I want you to do one of the two things. Option one. I want you to share your option with me on Instagram. Either DM me or tag me at the season of self-love podcast and tell me this week I am claiming my space by dot dot dot dot dot. I want to see it, I want to celebrate it, and I want to hold you accountable. Or option two, tell someone in your life, not someone who's going to talk you out of it, not someone who is going to judge you, but someone who supports you, who gets it, who would cheer you on. Text them right now and say, this week I'm claiming my space by and let them know what you're doing. Do it now, before you talk yourself out of it, before resistance shows up. Do it now. So, right now, what I want to do is I want to give you some real examples of what claiming your space might look like. And these are from people in the in in my community who have done this work before. So let's talk about my girl Jessica. Jessica, she created time by setting a boundary with evening work emails. And that was her bold action. So she started a pottery class on Wednesday night, something that she wanted to do for years, but she kept saying she was too busy for now. So now every Wednesday, she's created with her hands. She's filling her space with joy. So let's talk about Mike. Mike created energy by stop, stop, by stopping draining friendships. His bold action. He joined a men's support group, something he's been too ashamed to do because he thought real men don't need support. Now he has a community and he's filling his space with connections. So Jasmine, Jasmine created a physical space by cleaning out her garage. And that her bold action is that she turned hers into a home gym. Not a fancy one, but just with some mats, some weights, and a speaker. But it's hers, and she's filling her space with health and strength. And then Dave, he created a bandwidth by trusting himself more in his relationship. And his bold action is that he's told his partner what he actually needed instead of just going along to keep the peace. To keep this peace. So his scary conversation was, but it was honest that he's filling his space with authenticity. And for me, I told you about my bathroom. And my bold action was that I bought the green paint and I'm committed to the vision. And I've stopped second-guessing myself, and I'm filling my space with beauty, with peace, and with truth. And I want to, I can't wait to see what you do. What about you? What's your bold action going to be? So actually, the end of this week, probably Sunday, hopefully I'm done by Sunday. I will post a picture on all of my um all of my platforms of the finished work of my my little bathroom, my guest bathroom. Yes, I will of the the finished touch. So I'm excited to see, you know, when it's all done. But yes, please um do that. Now, some of you might be thinking, Naomi, I hear you, I want to do this, but I'm scared. And I want to say to you, good, good. That means it matters. If you wasn't scared, then it wouldn't be growth, right? If you wasn't nervous, then it wouldn't be bold, right? If you felt completely comfortable, you'd be you'd be already doing it, right? Right? The fear is a sign that you're stepping outside of your comfort zone. The fear is a sign that you are expanding. The fear is a sign that you are claiming space that you didn't have before. So don't wait for the fear to go away. It won't. Do it scared, do it nervous, do it unsure. Because here's what I know on the other side of that bold action is the person you're becoming. On the other side of that fear is your growth. On the other side of that discomfort is your unashamed life. So feel the fear, acknowledge it. Thank it for showing you what matters and do it anyway. So here's what's going on for going to happen next Monday. On our next Mindset Monday, we're moving to week two of Unashamed Voice, where we're going to talk about speaking without softening, about using your voice boldly. But I also want to check in with you. I want to know did you take your bold action? Did you claim your space in what happened? So between now and Monday, I want you to do three things. Three things. I want you to one, take your bold action. Do the thing that you committed to this week and don't put it off. Don't wait for the right time. Do it. Two, I want you to notice what happens. How does it feel? What resistance shows up? What support shows up? What shifts? And I want you to pay attention to it. And three, share it. Share with me on Instagram, with your accountability partner, or with yourself in your journal, but celebrate it, document it, honor it. Because this is your growth. This is your unashamed life. And this is you claiming your space. You claiming your space. All right, my beautiful people. So before we close, I want to leave you with the affirmation for this week. So please repeat after me out loud if you can. I am claiming my space without apology. I fill it with what serves my growth. I take bold actions even when I'm scared. I am unashamed of expanding. I am unashamed of being visible. I am unashamed of growing on my own terms. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed and I am taking action. Beautiful, beautiful. All right, my beautiful people. This is it. This is the work. This is action Wednesday. You've mapped out your space. You've named what you want to grow. You've chosen your bold action. Now it's time to actually do it. Don't just listen to this episode and move on. No. Don't just think about it. Do it. Take the action, my beautiful people. Claim the space. Grow unapologetically. And remember, growth doesn't have to look impressive to other people. It just has to be real to you. And it just has to be yours. So whether your bold action is buying green paint and signing up for a class and having a hard conversation or starting that creative project, it matters. It counts. And it's real growth. I am so proud of you for just being here. I'm so proud of you for just doing the work. I am so proud of you for choosing yourself. Now you go claim your space. Now, if this episode has helped you, I want you to share with someone who needs to take action. Leave a review and please, please, please send me a message on Instagram and tell me what bold action that you're taking this week. Because I want to celebrate with you. So until next Mindset Monday, this is your girldy guidance, Nami Banks, reminding you to be good to one another and yourself and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first and you can love others well. Have a good one. All right. Thank you so much for joining me today on this journey of intentional healing. I hope that this conversation has filled your cup and reminded you of the beautiful and worthy person that you are. I want you to remember, healing isn't about rushing, it's about showing up for yourself with love and intention one day at a time. So I'll see you back here Monday and Wednesday for another episode of The Season of Healing Intentionally. Right here on the Season of Self Love Podcast. So until then, keep choosing you. And visit us at the Season of Stuff of Love Podcast.com for showing notes and resources and remember to connect with me on Instagram at the real Naomi Max. This has been brought to you by Alex Naomi and Elevate My Self Discovery. Because you're really mad. You are love. You are worried. You are exactly what you need to be. Take care.