Hack Your Affirmations & Manifest FASTER! ~ Mindset Monday Summer Series

In this episode, we talk about why your affirmations might not be working, the problem when manifesting from lack, why every thought is really an affirmation, and what to do when you feel unworthy in your journey.

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When you're manifesting from lack or affirming from lack, when that comes back to be mirrored, back to me gets what it's gonna be. It's gonna be lack you can't put lack out and expect to get the opposite of lack. It is a mirror. Lack out is lack back in lack within is lack without. Period. There's no way around it.

The universe does not feel sorry for you.

What is up my fellow dreamers and soul searchers. Welcome to the Roxy talks, manifestation podcast, your raw, unfiltered, and unapologetic source for all things. Manifestation related. I'm Roxy Lee. And for the last decade I have been researching and developing my signature 360 method, which combines behavioral science, quantum physics, and the law of attraction to help you manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams.

Visit Roxy talks.com for more info. Now let's get into it.

HII. I'm getting fantastic op opportunities, but I feel inexperienced. I think it caused the opportunities to not go through a hundred percent. Any advice? Thank you, star for asking a perfect question to illuminate exactly what we're talking about here. You just said exactly what I'm talking about. The manifestation came through.

I deployed my insec. The manifestation fell apart. So you did the work to create the opportunities, but you didn't do the work of the person who sustains the opportunities, which in your case is training experience. Whatever. I'm not saying I'm just going off what you said, right? So, so if you, I can tell you this right now as a person who once wasn't experienced and now has experience, it just takes doing so if you just start.

Doing more of what it is that you're talking about, learning, practicing, um, you know, developing whatever it is that you're talking about. If you just start doing more of that, you'll have more confidence in yourself and you'll start to eventually you'll realize that what you offer is you unique and nobody else on the planet can offer it in the way that you offer it.

So it, it makes it more like you have more of a leg to stand on when you are pedaling your wears, right? So. So, so your awareness is right on point. It is what caused the, the opportunities to not go through 100%, but that does not mean that things aren't gonna work out for you doesn't mean that these things still won't pick up or even improve and get better.

And so if you're always operating with this, you know what, that was a stumble and that's okay. Cuz I see where I'm going now. Now I'm gonna do the work to feel experience, and then I'm gonna work on the, the insecure thoughts that I'm entertaining that I'm letting. Take up space in my mind and in my day that ultimately manifests my reality and then influenced me to continue thinking that way.

So, so don't let yourself think that way anymore. Awareness and discipline 360 method, Roxy talks.com for more, uh, and, um, get back in there. That's still, your opportunities are still there for you. I just saw ASAP Les in my head. Go for it.

Do you have any affirmations? You can give me that deals with best friend communication. Yeah. So, okay. Why don't you tell me right now? What are the affirmations you're using right now to describe your best friend? So what that means is tell me the problem with your best friend. Those are the affirmations you're using to describe your relationship.

And that's why it's like that, but let me know what they are specifically. So we can talk about specific affirmations that you can. She texts me every day. She never gets tired of how much I talk. She always looking to plan our next hangout. She includes me and most of her plans. I am one of her PE go-to people.

I honestly say these all the time, but it's not the relationship I have with them. I don't affirm anything. I don't want with them. And haven't in a while. No offense. I don't believe you. Like, I mean that with love, I feel like it, it can't be true because on some level. You know that your relationship is not what you are affirming, right.

So you're not fully affirming, are you? Because you're not affirming that truth away you're affirming, and then you're letting your truth remain and using it as an excuse as to why your affirmations aren't working or, or maybe I'm saying that now. But, um, I don't think I, you know what I mean, again, with love.

I don't think that you are meant you're. I mean, you, maybe you're, it's like you're blindly affirming, but they're not, you don't believe it. And you're not trying to convince yourself of it. You're not changing your thoughts that are contrary to that, right. That are telling you that that's not true.

Somebody asked or I think it was BHA. I was like, what's the difference between manifesting from gratitude and manifesting from lack, or you said affirming from gratitude or affirming from lack same thing, cuz all your, all your thoughts are affirmations. The difference is when you manifest from abundance or gratitude, thankful place.

Thank you. I'm so glad I have. You are able to be returned or reciprocated or refilled or, you know, mirrored back reflected, fulfilling something that makes you feel grateful. Right? So if something makes me feel grateful and I express my grad, thank you so much. Wow. The universe has really blessing me with amazing things.

I've just now created the next. Situation for me to get something that I would deem as amazing, because I just said amazing things. So it's gotta be something I would deem as amazing for me cuz it's my world. Whereas when you're manifesting from lack or affirming from lack. I don't have this, this feels awful.

How can I keep it? It's going away. How do I make it stay? It doesn't wanna be here with me. It's over there. It's with someone else. When that comes back to be mirrored, back to me gets what it's gonna be. Not fair, not here with someone else. Doesn't wanna be with me. It's gonna be lack. You can't put lack out and expect to get the opposite of lack.

It is a mirror. Lack out is lack back in lack within is lack without period. There's no way around it. The universe does not feel sorry for you. The people in your life might, and they might give you. You know, cards and condolences and, and love. And that might be the way that you get love, because you don't know how else to get it, but I'm telling you, you're not gonna get it from the person that you want it from.

If this is the way you go about it,

your question was about, you met somebody, you were talking for two weeks and then they just said that, um, they're gonna go back to next or whatever. Right. So for me, what I wanted to point out for you is that. Your pattern of things falling apart before they like even get started or falling apart in general is gonna that's what's playing out.

It has nothing to do with that person. It has nothing to do with your attraction level, what you did, what you said, who they are, who their X is, where they live, where you live, where you met, none of that is relevant. All of that is completely irrelevant. And it only has to do with the fact that you are in a cycle of expecting fearing worry.

Experiencing and then agreeing with therefore re-validating starting the cycle over things falling apart. So what you're gonna have to do is start describing them together as together. What does that mean? Longevity commitment, solid, stable, reliable, dependable, trustworthy, open, honest. Dedicated commit. I already said committed, but we can say it twice.

Um, devoted words that mean long time along, you know, words that mean love you long time. Like those kind of words are what you are gonna start swapping out for your fears. Worries, dos and insecurities about where they're gonna go. Who's better. How long is it gonna last? If they don't? Are you good enough?

Are they gonna, yeah, man, just gimme all that bullshit needs to get replaced. The love you long time affirmations, right? The words, those words, longevity, commitment, dedication, life partner here for life. Not going anywhere, always around dependable count on them, you know, those things. Um, so that's first is like you have to start working to choose to view relationships that way make the.

Make statements and affirmations and choices that reflect that you are chosen. You're the prize. You're the first choice. You're the number one choice. You're good enough. You're always, you know, like whatever the opposite of your self worth stuff is telling you, that's where you wanna start putting your focus is and building up your self worth, knowing that you are.

Valid and valuable and sought after and the person that people wanna stay with or the you're the person that people choose. You're the one they pick, you're the one who wins or whatever it is like. That's what I would say is what I see from you, um, from you as far as.

Like the underlying issue of what's going on in that relationship. Cuz just trying to manifest him back is not gonna deal with the fact that your fears are gonna push him away again or anybody that comes near you. It's not your fault. We all have our things that we do, but yours there's years are gonna be around that worth stuff and like the longevity and the commitment and whether they stick around.

Do you have any advice on how to say have it catch phrases around time more assertively example? I say, I'll be with SP eventually, or I'm playing the long gay with him. I want myself now. Okay. So,

Ooh, actually there's one that came to me, uh, today or not today, I remind was reminded of it today. Time expands for me now, this is kind of like the opposite, but I just, as a personal anecdote, I was telling you guys, I went to a concert in the desert last week. And, um, we ended up renting like a better car.

Cause it was like a longer trip and my car's okay. But you know, you never know. So we rented like, um, rented a car and they upgraded us and then the upgrade ended up having one of those. The fast passes cuz in California they'll charge you like fucking $12 to use the highway. Um, well, if you don't wanna send traffic, even some of 'em, you still have to, you still have to pay.

So they have a fast pass on it. And we were like, Dr. We got on the highway, the freeway or whatever, and we're driving. And like the GPS is telling me like, I'm gonna, I, we had like VIP tickets. So I had to get there at a certain time and it's telling me that we're not, we're gonna get there. Like, you know, right.

Like right on the minute. And I just sat there. I was like, okay. I cannot look at the, the time on the GPS. I didn't look at it for probably like 20 minutes. And I just sat there, like time expands for me, time expands for MES for me. And I just sat there over and over just like time is we're always on time.

Time is for, and then we got in that fricking lane whenever the fast pass lane. And it like went down like 20 minutes. And I that's what I, what first I went down 10, cause I visualized it going down 20 minutes. It was like said 4 45, which was when I was supposed to be at the show in line ready. And that's when it said I was gonna be arriving.

And I was like, okay, I wanna to say 4 25. So when I opened my, when we got on the thing and went down to 4 35, and then it went down to 4 25, I was like, anyways, long story. Short time is on my side. I always get what I want. It always works fast. My manifestations come super fast. Everything works out so fast time on my side.

I did. I just say those things exactly the same I did. Um, so I'll be with my SP eventually. How about maybe something like, like you could even say something like past tense, like, oh, I love how fast that worked out or dang that worked out so fast or things always work out so fast for me. Um, they're fall.

You said I'm playing, he's falling in love with me right now. He's already been in love with you. He's been waiting on you. He's tired of you playing in the game. He's been waiting on you this whole time. It's unfolding. Now it happens so fast or falling in love. Like maybe like bring your, bring your affirmations to the next, the next logical place.

Like if you're playing the long game with him. Then what, because that, however you answer that will tell you, like where you can take your affirmations in a place that like makes sense to you every time you think about man, that happened so fast, that happened. So I can't believe how fast that happened and just being like, like really how you'd be like that happened.

So the sell yourself on it, you know, make it true, make it true to yourself because if you're discounting it, if you're. Saying the affirmation and then being like, yeah, but they're not really here. You might as well, not even bother, like what a waste, like what a, what? A, not, not even a waste, but what a, like what a stressful way to operate your mind, you know, seems like to just be so counterproductive.

Just be like wasting

thoughts all day long. How did I make my husband be into manifesting? Um, You know what my husband witnessed my first manifestation. So he didn't have a fucking choice. We both were like, what the fuck? Um, and it was great because I had a witness. So I knew like, I, you saw this happen. You know, that, that just came outta fucking nowhere.

I'm either psychic or I made that happen. And so, um, once that, once that thing happened and it changed my life, obviously this is why I do what I do. Um, We kind of just, I mean, like we are both on board together and I mean, my husband he's, he's, he's one of the lucky people that like, doesn't have a whole lot of fucking trauma and like bullshit to work through.

So he doesn't like sit around and worry about stuff. He doesn't like, he just is like Chi I don't. It's it's refreshing get annoying sometimes, but like with love, of course. But, um, so, you know, getting him on board, honestly, wasn't like, I didn't even, I didn't really have, like I do, you know. Okay. I will say, like, I do have to ask him to consci, like to help me manifest and to like, to talk about our, our stuff in an expansive way, because he is somebody that like, he doesn't.

A lot of like pain pushing him towards stuff or causing him to seek out things to lessen it. So he's like content, I guess, is how that works. He's content with life, whatever that is. So one of the, I'm not gonna say it's a downside, but one of the,

what's the word I wanna use. One of the outcomes of that is. He doesn't always like dream outside of what we're doing or dream like very big or, you know, he's we're, I mean, we have a great life. We have a great house. We're both very happy. We're fine here. I want bigger and better. He'd be totally fine if he's, you know, I mean, he's not, he's not pressed.

He likes his life. He's chill. He's good to go. So, um, I didn't have to get him on board because he literally watched my first manifestation happen with me. But, um, like my first conscious one or. I didn't know about manifesting, but I wasn't. I like it. I did it. Like I knew I was gonna meet this person that I didn't know in a state that I didn't live in.

And I wheeled our bodies into the same fucking geographical location. And my husband was there for the whole fucking thing. So he saw it happen so he didn't need any convincing. And then I just, you know, I'm doing what I do, period. Like if you don't believe in manifesting, that sucks for you. What the fuck is that?

I mean, Okay. And this doesn't affect me at all, you know, so I just kept going and I'm still here. I have one of my best friends in the entire world. I, I don't even think she's ever made it through the secret. We have this longstanding joke that she's used this secret as like a door stop, a fucking coffee.

Uh, um, what is it? Coaster, every poster, everything in the world, but a fucking book. Um, but so, yeah, I'm still over here doing it, regardless of whether they're on board. But I do actually, you know, I do ask him to help make me be more

proactive in our language and talk openly, you know, talk as if we're growing. Like when we were trying to move out of our old house to come here, our old apartment to come here, it was easier to dream big and talk big together because we both wanted out of the situation now. It's like, he, not that he, you know, of course we're fucking, and we're fine.

I just. Me. I'm a grinder. Like I'm just like bigger, bigger, bigger, bigger, bigger. So he's cool though. He's down.

and if I, and then Lola, here's the real answer to your question. If he's not down, just say that he is and manifests him to be,

if you're doing Disney with us, which even if you feel like it's too far fetch. But you want to, the homework is for your script about going to Disney with us, how easy it was, how fast you got here, how everything worked out, how much you loved it, how you got to stay so long, how you had the best day, how there were no lines.

We got to all the front of the rides all the time. We had the best time ever. The weather was perfect. Oh yeah. We just had, we all just vibe so well script about that. If you're not interested in going to Disney with us, then your homework is to script about. A really fun outing that you wanna do, that you haven't done, or an experience that you haven't and script scripted as if it happened.

Okay. That's our homework for the week. I love you. I appreciate you. Thank you. So. We're all raising our preparations

together. You have the power I believe in you. Bye.