123 - The Inner Work of Facilitation - with Quanita Roberson

It took me nearly one year to arrange this interview, due to just how popular, committed, and focused Quanita Roberson is.

But I would have happily waited a decade for the value, kindness, and wonder she imparts in conversation. Quanita is the founder of Nzuzu Consulting and focuses on the deep, fun, and easy flow of energy to address embedded trauma.

Her insights into the human condition, our experiences, and the role we play as facilitators are genuinely groundbreaking.

We talk about grief, faith, community, privilege, slowing down, divine order, and lots of things that aren’t technically to do with facilitation but, really, are fundamental to our work.

This is a special episode and one I hope will stay with you for a long time.

Find out about:

●     Getting out of our own way so we can get out of our participants’ way

●     Why we need to ‘clear the decks’ in the room before we begin a session

●     How we can see fear as in invitation, not a warning

●     Why grief underlies a lot of the ‘bad’ things we feel (e.g. shame or guilt)

●     Learning to grieve – alone and together – and how we can facilitate this

●     Understanding ourselves and our communities as part of nature and the divine

●     Why, in the Information Age, embodiment is more important than ever

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Questions and Answers

[01:28] When did you start calling yourself a facilitator?

[03:47] What makes someone a facilitator and what makes someone a trainer?

[04:47] How can one be present and absent at the same time?

[06:13] Do you and Tenneson Woolf have a routine for ‘clearing the decks’ when you work together?

[09:39] What has your journey of inner work looked like?

[13:25] How do you translate and transfer the lessons from your own inner journey into a group setting, to help the participants in their own journey?

[15:59] What is the role of the group when you are guiding them through their journeys?

[18:55] To help a group through feelings of shame or guilt, then, do we first need to help them realise they’re actually dealing with grief?

[22:20] How do you open the space to discuss grief in a ‘professional’ environment?

[23:49] How can we learn to grieve?

[26:54] How do you think the pandemic affected us and our relationship with grief?

[35:00] What does it take to create a community for grieving in a professional space?

[41:22] What does the Circle practice mean for you and for groups?

[44:43] How do you catch yourself focusing on the methodology rather than the experience?

[47:11] Can we grow into embodiment?

[50:50] If somebody wanted to begin a journey towards the perspectives you’ve shared, how would you advise they start?

[52:15] What keeps you grounded and aware in times of crisis?

[55:11] Was there anything you wanted to discuss that we haven’t spoken about yet?

[57:45] What is the one thing you would like listeners to take away from this conversation?

Links

Nzuzu Consulting, Quanita’s website

Fire and Water Leadership, Quanita’s Rite of Passage course

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