Part One: When you finally find something healthy, or work towards a healthy relationship, it can often feel a bit boring. Not having chaos in your relationships might actually make you feel like you need to create chaos if chaos is all you know. The good news is you can change your relationship tastebuds- from craving chaos to craving calm. It is possible to rewire your brain to crave calm, healthy love vs. addictive, chaotic love. Healthy love connects you back to yourself, unhealthy love pulls you away from yourself. We discuss the process of creating healthy relationships and preventing toxic relationships through nonviolent communication, and personal trauma healing work. We discuss what, "adulting" is and how adulting can lead to a very rare thing, a sustainable, longterm, "next level partnership."
Part Two: Poem called, Trenches, which is about a personal experience and partnership I currently have where we are doing the work together. This poem expresses what this looks and feels like to me to be creating a next level partnership through doing the difficult work of healing past trauma, both together and individually.