It’s hard to define what a successful and happy family is, much less how to achieve one. Dr. Tim Thayne, a thought-leader in teen treatment and parent coaching, shares inspiring best practices gleaned from decades of his own and other expert’s work related to intentional family living. Whether your family is in the midst of a major struggle or you are looking for fresh ideas to help you prioritize and enhance your home life, this podcast is for you.
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Dr. Tim Thayne interviews his wife and business partner, Roxanne Thayne. They discuss their vision for a Not By Chance Yearbook. She describes how this periodical that is full of authentic personal narratives, poetry, creative prompts and beautiful photography is focused on creating an intentional family life. Issue One was officially released November 2019 and subsequent issues will be released each year during the Thanksgiving season. To order a copy of your own or to give as a gift, go to notbychance.com. You are also encouraged to submit your own materials for consideration for the 2020 yearbook. Find submission guidelines at the above site and in the back pages of the Yearbook itself.
Talmage Thayne:
Welcome to the not by chance Podcast. I'm Talmage, Dr. Tim, Thayne son and podcast manager. In this podcast, we dive into intentional family living. This first episode, Tim will be interviewing Roxanne, Thayne, his wife and business partner, they will be discussing the launch of the 2019, not by chance, yearbook. He's going to introduce her and the topic a little bit more. So let's jump into this
Dr. Tim Thayne:
I'm Tim Thayne with the not by chance podcast, I'm here with my wife and partner, Roxanne Thane. And we're talking about something special you've been working on for quite some time with a team of people. And but before we get into that, let me just introduce Roxanne for a second. She is a co founder of homeward bound. And she's, she's been a huge force for us. She is now really focused on the marketing and the writing and the sort of the outreach efforts for homeward bound. One of the latest things that she's working on right now is what we're going to talk about mostly tonight. And it's more of a periodically the periodical than a book, which we'll get into in just a second. The thing I love about Roxanne is she's enthusiastic by nature. And so whatever she gets involved in, she can draw people in. And that energy she brings around her to get big things done. And, and so we're going to talk about her team and the people that's been a part of that. So Roxanne, let's, let's jump into this and talk about the book the period. It's more like a periodical than it is any kind of self help book or any other kind of book. How would you describe it? Yeah,
Roxanne Thayne:
well, first of all, let me just tell you why this was so attractive to me. So as a kid growing up, I was always very interested in Reader's Digest. How many of you remember the Reader's Digest, I mean, when it would come, it would disappear into a bathroom, and we wouldn't see it for two more days, and then somebody else would steal it back and it would go somewhere else. I love those little stories. As I got older, I started to have children, I started to read magazines. And then I got into design magazines, because it was just a nice way to pass time and I wasn't spending a lot of money. And I started to really get an eye for what people liked, in short amounts. And I'm a voracious reader. I've been a member of a book group for 28 years. I mean, I love reading, but I really loved what having a magazine could do for my education, my downtime, my inspiration. And so you and I have been talking about it's been six years now, next month, that not by chance, how parents booster teen success in and after treatment was written, or was published. And we've had wonderful success with that book. In fact, one of the things that we are most grateful for is the number of people that find the work that we do at home are bound because of the book. And even if they don't use our services, they find great help people who have teens or young adults in treatment. But we have always been talking about what about those parents who don't have the resources to get their kids into treatment, or their kids aren't bad enough to get there? What are we going to do for them. And so we've been talking for many years, we've had lots of great titles for books. But in the end, we decided to keep the same title of not by chance and instead make it a periodical. Now this was something that my team and I had to kind of convinced him of. So I just want to mention who my team is. I have Michelle Mulford, who is a wonderful editor. She's a little bit OCD, which I guess is exactly what you want in an editor. Like she drives me crazy. When I look at her and what she has done with a red pencil. I'm like you have got a problem. She says she knows that. So Michelle has been on there we've had Sean tall helping us get photography and working on creating what it what is going to make a really great magazine or yearbook. And then I have had my aunt Christine vanderwagen, who has also been somebody very important for me to bounce ideas off of. And I have Phil Davis, who is our printer and has put this together and he has been amazing. He's never done it before. I've never done it before. I mean, Michelle has never done it before. And our graphic designer, Natalie, string I'm in Twin Falls, Idaho has never done it before. But together, we put our heads together and tried to figure out how to put together a magazine. One thing I want to say about this, the reason that we decided to do a magazine is we wanted something that was going to be for families that anybody in the family would want to read. Like when it comes people disappear with it into the bathroom for two hours because everybody wants to read it. And that's a really tricky thing to balance between something that's going to be academic enough for people who are very educated, but also very engaging for people who just want a pick me up are some ideas. And so the thing that made this really fun for us is we did reach out to professionals, some of them on our team, some of them outside of our programs and ask them to write just a little narrative. Well Like 500 words, that's nothing. And then that then we also asked them not to talk about which treatment program they worked for, but instead talk about themselves as a parent or as a member of a family. So we have young adults, we have adults, we have professionals, we have poetry, we have narratives. We have writing prompts. We have amazing photography. Beautiful graphic design. Can you tell I love it?
Dr. Tim Thayne:
Can you tell she's excited?
Roxanne Thayne:
tonight? Oh,
Dr. Tim Thayne:
so she just let the cat out of the bag. You're gonna see it tonight. Er. So what was the hardest thing about this project?
Roxanne Thayne:
I, I'd say the hardest thing about this project was, first of all getting you to buy in. Because it was it kind of looked like a pet project at first. And then the more we talked about it, we we helped him I think, understand that this is doing exactly what we wanted to do without nearly as much of his time as it was going to take before. And the other thing that I really loved about this, and I think was kind of hard for everybody to catch the vision of is what this was going to do for moving our our model of intentional family living and parenting out earlier to people. And we just hadn't found a good way to do that. This is a good way to do that. This is not a heavy textbook. This is beautiful and engaging. And when you see it, you're gonna want to buy five for your sisters and sister in law's for Christmas. I mean, it's gonna go fast, because it's just something that doesn't feel heavy. And like it's all about problems or diagnoses, or
Dr. Tim Thayne:
that's suggestive selling, you're gonna want five or six copies. Yes.
Roxanne Thayne:
There is bulk pricing for five or more.
Dr. Tim Thayne:
Well, it really is turning out great. I saw some of the mock ups and looking forward to seeing it come out. And I think I'm totally on board. Yeah, you think I'm totally on board. I'm more practical. You're sitting in here in the barn, and all the stuff that makes it actually function as a barn is me. And everything that makes it beautiful is her so that you're gonna see, I think that's the ying and yang we're trying to do, by the way, does anybody go the bathroom today? Thank me for that. Okay. That was that was me.
Roxanne Thayne:
He puts the bathroom in the barn. That's what he's changed.
Dr. Tim Thayne:
That's right. Who needs a bathroom in the barn I kept hearing and guess what we love it, we love it. And I know I'm gonna love this, this annual, so we're calling it the not by chance, yearbook. And the subtitle is
Roxanne Thayne:
intentional family living. And we worked on that for quite a while, you know, not by chance. Another word for that is intentional. And we really feel like a lot of parents, all they just need is a little bit of tweaking in their thinking, or some creativity or a new idea or validation. And we think that in these narratives, or in these creative prompts for writing prompts, that that's what they're going to find just a little bit of inspiration. And again, it's just like a one sitting so much less than scrolling through Facebook, so much less time, you'll get that inspiration. And I really think I just really want to thank the people on our, on our staff at home are bound and the other professionals that we reached out to who wrote for this first one, not having a vision of it, we just kept saying it's gonna be great. It's gonna be great. Please submit, but we really feel like next year, we're not going to have a problem at all getting people to submit, because they're going to see how beautiful this is. And they're going to want to be a part of that.
Dr. Tim Thayne:
When you start an annual you know, you're starting something that's going to happen. Yeah, every year, right?
Roxanne Thayne:
Yes. And we've got this secret plan that it's gonna go to every fall and spring.
Dr. Tim Thayne:
What a new reveal. I heard the annual not biannual,
Roxanne Thayne:
so it's gonna happen.
Dr. Tim Thayne:
Let's see how the first one. Anyway, it's gonna be awesome. I want to thank Roxanne and everybody for the vision I used to, I usually pride myself on having the vision for something like this, this one I didn't have. And I am going to be glad to be wrong on this one. So thanks for all that and for the team. So without any further ado, let's go ahead and break it out.
Roxanne Thayne:
Michelle, we're gonna let Michelle hand this out. And, again, if you like it, please tell other people about it. We're going to be sending it around to all the treatment programs that have been a part of what we've been building this little small niche of private pay adolescent treatment, because this is where we got our start. So we want to give everybody one of those for Thanksgiving this year. We want these to come out every Thanksgiving as a way to pay it back to our industry.
Dr. Tim Thayne:
We're gonna wrap up the podcast, but if you're listening to this podcast, how can they get this this book
Roxanne Thayne:
so all you need to do is go to not by chance.com. And there in the navigation, there's an order page. And there's also a yearbook page. If you just want to read a little bit more about it, maybe how you could submit next year if you want it submit photography or narrative or an idea for a list. And then that you can also order it. It's 2999 for one copy, and then there is a 10% discount for those who order five or more.
Dr. Tim Thayne:
All right, well, thanks again.
Talmage Thayne:
Thanks, everybody. Excited. This first episode was recorded during the homeward bound 2019 annual advance. Thank you so much for listening to it. And if you're wanting to get a book for yourself, refer a friend Remember to go to not by chance.com
