Studio Fertility
If you have been struggling to get pregnant for any length of time, then this podcast is for you! Bella Hilton, Founder of the transformational Fertility Shift program, certified Advanced Life Coach, Master NLP Practitioner and Hypnofertilitist, and someone who has first hand experience of infertility and IVF, shares practical tips and strategies on how to navigate the mental and emotional rollercoaster of trying to conceive. Exploring the mind-body connection and mindset hacks that are proven to put you back in control of your life and fertility journey, Bella also loves sharing insights from her experiences of working with infertility clients from all around the world. All this, so you can live your best life now and get your mind from chaos to calm and your body from resistant to receptive.
Studio Fertility
The Weird Ways We Try to Earn Our Baby
If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “Maybe if I just do everything right, I’ll finally get pregnant”… this one’s for you.
In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most common but rarely named patterns in the fertility world:
👉 Treating conception like a cosmic performance review.
Whether it's cutting out dairy, forcing yourself to meditate, tracking every bowel movement, or beating yourself up over that third cup of tea, we start to believe that if we sacrifice enough, restrict enough, and do this “perfectly”… then we’ll finally deserve our baby.
But here’s the truth:
You don’t have to earn your baby.
And trying to do so is exhausting, demoralising, and completely counterproductive to both your mental health and your fertility.
In this episode, I breaks down:
- Why so many women fall into the “if I’m good enough, I’ll get pregnant” mindset
- How spiritual and self-help culture can subtly shame women in this space
- Why this pattern is more about fear and trauma than discipline
- The difference between doing your best and punishing yourself
- 3 powerful mindset shifts that help you feel safe, grounded, and real again
You’ll also hear personal stories from my own fertility journey (including “the no friends diet” and secret negotiations with the universe), plus what it actually means to support your nervous system when you’re no longer willing to live like a monk on a mountaintop.
💬 Mic-drop reminder:
You are not a project.
You are not being tested.
And your baby isn’t waiting for you to get it perfect, they’re waiting for you to come home to yourself.
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