#373: *Make Time, For Yourself🕰,

Self-care isn't just crucial for mental health but forms the foundation for all personal relationships and achievement. Prioritizing your own wellbeing first enables you to show up better for others and pursue your life mission with greater focus and effectiveness.

• Taking care of yourself first is essential before attempting to help others
• Creating quiet moments allows your mind to connect ideas without constant external noise
• Getting up earlier can provide the time needed for self-care activities
• Psychological wellness is as important as physical wellness
• Consistency in self-care practices creates compound improvement over time
• Being just 1% better every day means being 100% better in 100 days
• Showing up even when you don't feel like it is part of being on a mission

Take a moment for yourself, make time for yourself, and have a mission. I'm Benjo, check me out. Peace.

Chapters

• 0:00 The Importance of Self-Care
• 1:53 Creating Time for Personal Growth
• 3:20 Finding Moments of Silence
• 5:01 Morning Routines and Priorities
• 7:25 Consistency in Personal Development
• 9:15 Closing Thoughts and Mission

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Making time for yourself. You know, in my last podcast I was talking about, towards the very end, how making time for yourself is a whole different topic and something that's extremely important, not just for your mental health, but also for your personal relationships and the others around you and your general focus. You know what I mean. Like if you're always focusing on everybody else, you're not going to be anywhere near as good compared to if you're happy first. And I think that's really important because on the last episode I was talking about how, in life, you need to be purposeful. You need to have a mission in life. If you're a white belt, you keep working every single day, and as long as you keep working every day, at some point you'd be a black belt. For me, it's being a professional standup comedian and having that purpose, having that mission. On my way to doing it, and even once reaching there, I'm going to have new goals once I'm there. Right, and not getting into the last episode too much. But my point is is that do you ever feel like you don't have any time to do what you need for your personal life, let alone for your relationships, or something like that? I feel like the best way to be a good friend or a good husband or just anything in general that has to do with your personal relationships. Right Is to work on yourself first, because nobody's going to want to hang out with somebody that's not happy, that's not happy for themselves. Right, you got to have self-maintenance. You got to care about yourself. You got to take care of yourself first, because you really are the most important. Every single myself is the most important. You, you're the most important. Every single myself is the most important. You, you're the most important. You got to take care of yourself first before you start to be with others, because if you're happy, you're going to. If somebody is not doing well, hypothetically right, because you're happy, you're in a place you could make them better. Maybe happy isn't the best word, right, but if you're in a place to where you're psychologically good, right, and your buddy is doing good too well, you both can have a good time. Okay, and it's important to do this because I mean, think about how many minutes.

Speaker 1: 2:22

If you feel like you don't ever have enough time to do what you need to do, I always say just get up earlier. I'm getting up even 15 minutes earlier than I always do, right, just so that I can stretch, because I told myself I don't have enough time in a day to stretch, to meditate more, to do what I want. So I'm making time for myself and you need to do that. It's not a want, it's a need, okay. And you've got to find a way to make that happen. It could be while you're working, it could be while you're driving.

Speaker 1: 2:52

Turn off the radio and get some silence. But your mind and wind you know different things connect when you don't have so much chatter going on in the world, going on in the universe. Again, it could be the streets light, the street lights buzzing. It could be the radio on people talking, the cars are honking their horns. You know what I mean. There's so much noise out there in the universe, right. But when you turn it down or if you turn it off, different things happen. Your ideas, your thoughts, everything starts to come together, right.

Speaker 1: 3:33

But maybe you don't have that luxury of being able to turn something off. You need to find time to be able to do something for yourself. It could be the gym, it could be stretching, it could be meditating. But self-care is the most important care before anyone else. It's got to be you first. It's got to be you first. You know when you're at a place every single day, even if you're not at 100% peace, if you take a moment to dedicate to yourself, to just take four minutes out of your day while you're driving and just listen to the equivalent of one song or more all the way to your destination, right, with no radio, no music. You're just driving. That's a moment you're taking for yourself. You got to be able to separate yourself, even with others around you as well. If you have a moment to go to the gym and all of a sudden you stop going to the gym, you need to find a way to make that happen again.

Speaker 1: 4:48

I've made it a goal recently, every single morning, to just literally stretch and I feel like, by me taking like 10 minutes to stretch, I used to feel like, well, I'm going to be 10 minutes later. You ever have that feeling where you feel like you dedicate your, your um, some minutes to yourself, but you're going to be further behind. Make minutes by getting up earlier. You don't, you can. It's possible to change your schedule around, right, and maybe you don't have to, but if you don't, if you don't have those minutes, hours or whatever. You got to start your morning earlier, go to bed earlier.

Speaker 1: 5:32

I feel like I always say that nothing good, production wise, happens after eight o'clock at night. All right, I don't like to try to think of creative, creative ideas. I'd rather go to bed earlier and start up, uh, and get up earlier, right? Um, cause I feel like I'm most cognitive, I feel like I I uh can think better earlier in the morning, especially after I've been up like 30 minutes or something like that, compared to later at night. You know, that's why I hate working out at night. But anyway, um, I just wanted to take a quick minute, without speaking in circles and repeating myself about how important self-care is, self-maintenance, and not just physically but like psychologically too, because, um, I know I've felt I don't like to say overwhelmed, but I feel like I've been losing a lot of my personal uh moments lately and I'm trying to restore those and also add to them, and the solution that I have come up with is just getting up earlier, right, and here I am, I'm doing my podcast right now.

Speaker 1: 6:45

It's not even five o'clock in the morning and I'm getting things done, you know, and it's important because if you care about something, you need to find a way to do it, but not just that. If you care about others, you need to look a way to do it. But not just that. If you care about others, you need to look to yourself first. If you really want to help others, help yourself first right, because the only way that you can really be a good friend or a good husband or a good wife or whatever the relationship is, is for you to be healthy first physically, psychologically, spiritually, every way you can imagine. I mean even when it comes to like going to church.

Speaker 1: 7:30

There is a period where I wasn't like going to church right, and not 100%, but part of that reason was is because I felt like, oh, if I go to church, then you know I'm going to be behind on this, I'm going to be behind on that, and that's the wrong answer. That's the wrong answer, you know, because I need that and I want that more than a need. You know there's some things that you need to do, but you might not want to do them. That's all as important as doing things you don't might not want to do, but you need to do because it's important, like exercising, like meditating, you know, taking a moment for yourself. But if you want to, you're going to make sure that you do it. It's just added to that need.

Speaker 1: 8:19

Sometimes I don't want to do something, but I need to do it to stay on track with my personal life, my personal goals, with things that I'm working on, and that's being that constant professional being on that mission right, that mission in life right. But when I want to, it amplifies that even more. It's like skipping a day in the gym. Don't ever skip a day in the gym. There might be days in the gym, if that's your thing, that you don't want to go, but you need to go so that you have that consistency. And that's part of what being a professional and really being on a mission in life means. It means showing up when you don't feel like showing up and being there okay, because after you leave you're always going to feel better.

Speaker 1: 9:03

You're always going to feel better, uh, doing something on a day that you didn't really want to do but you got it accomplished. And in those days you want to go to the gym. You're thankful, you went the last time, you didn't miss a day and you're that much better. You know, it's like I've said before, if you're one percent better every single day. In a hundred days you'll be a better version of yourself. You're a hundred percent better. So, anyway, I gotta hop off, do other things. Um, but I appreciate you listening. If something that I said takes you to that next level, I'm really happy and glad for that. But really hear what I'm saying, listen, do it, apply it. All right, take a moment for yourself, make time for yourself and have a mission. I'm Benjo, well done, check me out. Peace.