speak up

262. I recorded this episode with a heavy heart after ICE murdered another person.  i share how i spoke up for the good side of history when speaking with a maga family member. i encourage you to speak up and take action and also to continue to love, have empathy, make art, and connect with others.

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Transcript

Confronting A MAGA Family Member

Choosing To Speak Up

From Rage To Action

Rage And Rest As Strategy

Community, Grief, And Hope

SPEAKER_00 0:01

Hi friend. I'm coming to you with a heavy heart uh because this morning, you know, I woke up to the news of ICE killing another person. And uh it's heartbreaking. I mean, beyond heartbreaking, enraging, all of the things. And um I spoke with a family member today who is fully uh entrenched in the cult. They have been in their house um not really interacting with many people for months and months and months, watching Fox News all day. And they are still firmly supporting MAGA and ICE and Maha and this administration, and it is mind-blowingly uh angering, uh depressing, sad. This person I used to respect and think that they were smart and think that they were a helpful person in the world, and it's so hard to see that in anybody, so anybody that we kind of respected or looked up to or thought highly of to see that they are supporting this craziness that is going on, this evil that is going on. And when it's a family member, a close family member, it's even worse. And it's so heartbreaking. Um, and so, you know, I spoke up. And, you know, usually I try to keep the peace because I'm like, they're family. I'm just gonna like, we're not gonna talk about anything that could be inflammatory, even though it's beyond a politics issue. It is morality and ethical and humanity issue. Um, but usually I'm like, we're steering away from it. I'm not gonna take the bait, we're not gonna discuss this. And I absolutely discussed this today. And um, you know, they hung up. They, I do not even know when we will talk again. And I it's so sad, but also I feel this sense of relief that I don't have to hold all of that in and that I can speak my peace fully. And there's something so um relieving about it. And I think if it isn't apparent already, it is not the time to keep the peace anymore. It is time to stand up and to speak out and to not worry about if you upset somebody who isn't worried about other people, right? Like, I'm like, why am I trying to protect the peace with this person when they obviously don't care about their neighbors, fellow humans? Um, why am I trying to protect the peace and not upset them? Like, no. So I don't really know why I'm sharing this with you today. I think it's just I have a heavy heart and it's really hard for me to talk about anything else. But I do encourage you to, if you have that moment to speak up, to not try to keep the peace anymore because we don't want it to be too late. And yeah, find out what you can do, what action you can take instead of just stewing and stewing and stewing and ruminating and having the rage build up inside of you, although like that's just natural, that's just gonna happen. But I think letting it out in the in the form of taking some kind of action, whatever kind of action you can do, calling senators, protesting, helping your community, donating to the ACLU or whatever organization you want that will be helpful to what is going on. But in some way, I think channeling this rage into action and also channeling it into refusing to give up joy and art and creativity and community and love and connection and empathy, right? So this kind of like two-pronged approach where one, we're going to fight and rage against the machine and take a stand, and the other when we are going to come out with even more love and compassion and helping the people that need to be helped. Um, you know, I posted something on social media today about how I was raging today, and I know it's not susp sustainable. Sorry, it's not sustainable to have this much rage over a long period of time. And I think that's one of the things that this administration tries to do is they have so many firebombs that they're putting in so many different aspects of our lives that they they kind of are betting on that we will not have the sustainability to continue the rage and to continue to fight. Um, so I know it's not sustainable, and I am going to have days like I have over the past couple of days where I'm just really not looking at the internet very much. I'm not really interacting with people on social media very much, I'm not really watching too much news. I was resting and recovering. And so um, you know, somebody replied to me uh when I was saying that I have rage right now and I know it's not sustainable, but I'm planning on resting. And they wrote back and they were like, that should be a sure. Rage and rest, rage and rest. And I feel like, yeah, I think it's kind of like rage and love and create and connect, and rage and love and create and connect. So that's what I'm planning on doing. And I'm thinking of you if you are having a hard time and if you are sort of having to cut ties a little bit with family members that are still supporting this administration, please know that you are not alone. Um, I actually follow a uh thread, I guess you call it, on threads of people that uh have basically had to cut ties with their family. And it actually is comforting to see that I am not alone, that we are not alone, that you are not alone. And there are a lot of people going through this kind of like mini layers of grief and rage to know that it's happening in our world, but also to know that people that are close to us uh are still supporting this is hard. So if that is you, please know you are not alone. I am sending my love to you, sending my hugs to you. And um, through love and connection, I really do believe that we are going to come out of this. Um, but keep up the good fight. I love you, friend.