a solo work trip not going to plan

267. sometimes things don't go as planned, but they turn out to be what you needed

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Transcript

Ocean Introduction And Setup

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Hi friend, I am recording this right next to the ocean on the Oregon coast in my favorite little town of Manzanita. I am waiting for a pizza. I am recording a couple episodes here as I walk along the ocean, so you might hear me give the same kind of intro like a couple times in a row, and that's okay. Um, but I wanted to just talk about why I'm here and how it's going. So I am here for a solo work trip. So I take myself uh usually to the beach. Sometime I go into the mountains or uh to bend, Oregon. Um, but I take myself on a three-ish day trip to just create content, to think, to ask questions about my business. Um, I also go on solo rest and recovery trips, which are a whole different ball game, but this is not one of those. The intention here is and was to um really get clear on some things in my business moving forward for 2026. I'm gonna make some changes. I'm gonna keep some things very much the same, but I just wanted to have time and space and um uninterruption and just solitude to figure out some of these things. And so I came down uh yesterday or last night, and today was my first full day, and it just is one of those days where things just aren't really working out the way you thought or the way you wanted. So I got a miserable night of sleep, like the worst I've had in a couple years, and I am in paramenopause people, so I have a lot of nights of bad sleep. And this one was uh in you know top 10 on the charts here. So I woke up a little bit, a little bit of a headache, a little bit grumpy because I just felt like I was tired, right? And I just didn't know if it was gonna be a great day. Um, then we had the slowest Wi-Fi imaginable in my in the house that I'm renting. It's not my usual house that I rent because I procrastinated too long, and someone else got that house with the beautiful yellow wood fireplace. But I didn't get that one. Um, I got this one with the fireplace that I do not know how to operate. Despite looking up on Google many, many times, I'm kind of scared to try to operate it. So that was a bummer too, because I really like working next to the fire. Um, but anyway, so no fireplace, Wi-Fi. It's taking like 35 seconds to download a page on the internet. Um, so that's been really hard because a lot of the work that I wanted to do was on the internet. So I have a plan for that for tomorrow, but that just kind of stunk for today, and I just kind of kept trying to barrel my way through it and just trying to force it to happen. Um and then I just got all in a conundrum about one of the decisions I want to make, and it it led to this domino effect of, well, if I decide this, then that's gonna affect these three things, and now I have to make a decision about those, and it just kind of exploded into a big decision bomb. And I didn't really have the brain capacity for that today, given the just lack of sleep and the frustration with Wi-Fi and all of that. So today has been a little bit of a bust. So when I come down on these solo work trips, I like to have sort of an agenda and a plan for each day and what I would like to accomplish. Um, and I really didn't do many of the things today, or I tried very, very hard, but I didn't accomplish many of the things. And um I am in this stage where I feel like the universe is telling me to take a breath and to slow down. And I feel like the universe today was like, Tammy, it's all gonna be okay. We're just gonna slow down. And so I have a few hours left in the day, the evening, and I'm going to just mellow down. I'm going to um, I should open this thesaurus and look for the right word because I'm having trouble thinking of the word I want to say, but basically just revel in the creative exploration. I just want to, I just want to think quietly about options and how things feel and if they feel like they're the right choice for me. And I instead of doing, doing, doing and creating and marking off something off of my agenda, my to-do list, I kind of just want to, yeah, swim around in the in the thoughts of it all and take my time making decisions. And so the frustration that I had with the universe has turned into a I see you, I hear you, I know what you're trying to tell me, I've got it. And yes, I think you're right, universe, that I need to take my time and just allow myself to breathe and expand and be curious and to wonder and wander. And uh, so that's what I'm gonna do. So just know that sometimes you're gonna have really frustrating days and you're not gonna get it all done, and it's totally okay. And sometimes it might even be a sign that it's time to slow down and let the thoughts percolate and rumble around in there. All right, love you so much, friend.