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1353 - How To ACTUALLY Believe In Something Before You See It!

• Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

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Do you ever struggle to believe in your own goals or feel unsure about how to take action? Discover the concept of "minimum viable belief" - the smallest amount of belief that you can actually act on rather than focusing on big, scary, unattainable goals. In this episode, hosts Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros explore the topic of believing in something before you see the results. They also discuss the power of small wins over time and how it contributes to building confidence and faith in our visions and aspirations. They discuss the importance of self-assigning results or success to build belief in yourself and your goals. They talk about how much can happen so quickly in life, even though it may feel slow in the moment, and emphasize that experience creates awareness and cultivates belief.

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Show notes:
[2:20] The minimum viable belief
[6:04] Two theories of communication
[8:04] Self-assigning results or success to build belief
[11:05] So much can happen so quickly
[13:35] Things happen fast, but feel slow
[16:07] Kim thanked Kevin for going above and beyond in helping launch the Peaceful Productivity podcast
[16:44] Experience creates awareness
[20:21] Mathematical calculation to reach a goal
[23:14] Kevin believes more now because of what happened in the past
[28:25] Small wins over time
[30:32] Outro

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Speaker 1:

There's no way I could have set a lot of the goals that I'm setting now, because I didn't have the belief to set them five years ago. Now that I am on the second level of this mountain climb, the second summit, I can see the top of the other one. It's like, oh you know, that's not that far.

Speaker 2:

People need to see it, to believe it. Here's the problem What I've found and I'm telling you I've coached a lot of people, I've been studying this The people who stay and prove inside themselves are the ones who have belief.

Speaker 1:

Welcome to Next Level University. I am your host, Kevin.

Speaker 2:

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Speaker 1:

How to actually believe in something before you see it. Alan and I were talking about this at Next Level Nation Next Level Live, not Next Level Nation at Next Level Live, and we had a slide where it just said you've been lied to. It's a really good hook. Then I went on to add value based on the fact that I think a lot of us were convinced Honestly and I'm saying this jokingly, but from people on Alan's end of the drive to five that you should set massive goals and if your goals don't scare you, they're not big enough. And I said, basically, i think a lot of us have been lied to because many of us don't believe in the goals that we're setting and we're never going to accomplish them if we don't believe in them. I was actually just listening to the part in The Art of Impossible, where he talks about that, where he talks about the fact that you can't really BS your way to big goals If you don't believe it. It's not really going to be constructive. So Alan and I were talking about this the other day and we came up with something called the minimum viable belief.

Speaker 1:

So in business, there is something called the minimum viable product. Is that correct? The minimum viable product is something that you're capable of shipping out or you're getting a proof of concept. This is something we could use. This is something that would solve the problem. This is something the audience would pay for. In this example, the minimum viable belief is what is the smallest amount of belief that you can actually take action on, not the big, hairy, audacious goal. You hear people say that The thing that scares you, this is like what is the? Can I help you? I accidentally moved the mic again You moved the mic.

Speaker 2:

It's all good Squeaking away over there. We had some feedback from a team member that said is someone's chair really squeaky? So I want to apologize to all the listeners. That's my microphone, Stan. What is it? It's a microphone arm. We're on it. We're on it, I'm already on it.

Speaker 1:

We're going to buy new ones, more high quality ones that don't make any noise. We are on it. So thank you, Jerrian, for that feedback.

Speaker 2:

I appreciate you. Yes, i thought you were laughing because I said big, hairy, audacious goal, nope.

Speaker 1:

I thought that's why you were laughing Be hag, be hag. So that really is the intention behind today's episode, is I just think people would be happy to say I just think people would be better off if they focused on what is the thing I believe in that I can actually take action on today, not what do I want to accomplish in five years. That scares the hell out of me that I may never even start.

Speaker 2:

I have a person that I coach who has done over 280 days in a row of exercise, and she told me that in the past she called her body a useless piece of crap. She's been very ill, she's had tremendous health challenges and she thought that her body was broken and that she wasn't going to be able to be successful at anything fitness related. And I told her I texted her probably three weeks ago or something like that, after she crossed 280 days. I don't know why I was thinking of this at the time, but I messaged her on WhatsApp, which is the platform we use, and I said isn't it wild how, if I had started out telling you because I was there at the beginning, before she started this fitness program I said if I had told you that at the beginning, you would have never believed me. If I had said hey, you're going to exercise for 280 days in a row even though you've never been able to tackle fitness in your entire life up to this point. We're talking decades of trying and failing. And I said you're going to do 280 days in a row, you would have laughed in my face. She said I know, and she is unbelievable.

Speaker 2:

Instead of doing that, i didn't say you're going to exercise 280 days in a row. Instead, i went to the minimum viable belief. What do you believe you can achieve exercising tomorrow? She said I could probably do a 30 minute walk. Okay, start there. And then one day turns to two, two turns to four, four, turns to eight, eventually 280 days later. And she's not missed a single day. And now she's actually weight training. She has a whole weight training regiment now. She was bragging about it on the last team model. So she, this person's on the team, amy L Shout out to Amy L, she wouldn't mind me sharing that And it's unbelievable. She would blow her own past mind. If she could go back in time, she'd be like there's no way that's possible for me. But instead we started with the minimum viable belief.

Speaker 2:

So Kevin asked me what's your lesson, what's your point of this episode? This is a A me episode, more than Kev. I came up with this one Because a lot of people need to see it to believe it. But the problem is, if they don't believe it first, they'll never see it, and if they do, it'll be luck or by accident. Kevin and I were interviewing a man named Brent Pinvidic a long time ago and he had these two theories of communication And I now understand that I'm one of them. That is much less effective. Kevin is the other one, and I now know why it's less effective because state-improved doesn't work, which I'm going to get into for people who don't have high self-belief State-improved. So he's on stage and he says this. He says Katie Perry is the most successful artist in history. That's state-improved. And then go into the evidence as to what He says. That doesn't work. Every one of you is saying nope, no way. What about you know? whoever?

Speaker 3:

Mick.

Speaker 2:

Jagger, whoever right, elvis I don't know other artists And he said all of you are trying to prove me wrong right now, unconsciously. He said don't do that Worst way to communicate ever. He says you need to do something called inform and lead. He says I'm going to try that again. Forget the statement about Katie Perry. I'm going to give you some bullet points Number one album for 27 weeks or 27 months in a row or something. Again, all the bullet points. I don't know Katie Perry. I don't. I don't know, but I do know that after the bullet points it was like holy crap, is Katie Perry the most successful artist in history? He said see, people need to see it to believe it. Here's the problem, what I've found and I'm telling you I've coached a lot of people. I've been studying this.

Speaker 2:

The people who stay and prove inside themselves are the ones who have belief. Here's what I mean. Ever since I was a little kid, i would say I'm going to do something and then I would go and do it and then self assign it Kev, you talk about how you were an all star baseball player. But you thought you got lucky If you had decided in advance to become an all-star baseball player then went and did the work to do so, then self-assigned it. Once you completed it, once you achieved it, you would have more belief. You thought you got lucky with each job. You thought you got lucky with all this stuff. That is not self-assigning. And so it's this weird self-fulfilling prophecy.

Speaker 2:

So my thesis in this episode, for lack of better phrasing is if you start to stay and prove within yourself and then actually do the work to get the achievement and then self-assign it, you're gonna build belief And that's gonna snowball. Because here's what happens If Amy L I know she's not doing this, but if she was doing this, if she attributes it to me and not to her, she's not building belief. If she thinks to herself I could never do this without Alan. Now, all of a sudden, she doesn't have as much self-belief. Now she borrowed my belief and she thinks it's me more than her. And this is all unconscious, by the way, none of this happens consciously. This is all in our brain, it's all in our head.

Speaker 2:

And so, for me, when you reverse engineer things and you say I wanna be a fitness model, i wanna be a fitness competitor, i wanna start a podcast, I wanna build a business, i wanna XYZ. And then you go, do those things. Now you get to go. Okay, see, i told you I could do it. And when you do that enough time, eventually you just build this massive amount of self-belief And most people think that you're delusional or egotistical or arrogant or full of it, when in reality you just have a lot more state and proof And if you start small and build, it can really snowball go ahead, sorry.

Speaker 1:

Oh, no, no, no, you're good, I thought you were done. Usually I'm on point with recognizing a pause versus a finished statement. It's very interesting because things happen weird. Things happen very quickly, but also very slowly when it comes to achieving something, and it's almost like you can see the mile markers and then you can kinda see what the mile marker is going to lead up to. But it really is. You don't go in, make a year's worth of money in one day. It's over the course of the year. That really is it. I wanna make $10,000 this year in my side business. That's great, that's cool.

Speaker 1:

Now you start with the first person. Simple, and obviously I know it's not simple, but that You don't worry about how am I gonna get to 10,000, you worry about how am I gonna get to one? How am I gonna get to one person? How am I gonna get to one podcast episode? How am I gonna get to one, whatever it may be one social media post? But I understand why people look at the big picture. They look at the top of the mountain and then say I could never get there.

Speaker 2:

Same.

Speaker 1:

Because there's so much that happens between you and I have been having these conversations behind the scenes where we're kinda having quarter life, midlife crisis, as we do every what seems like a couple weeks. This would be a third life crisis, Third life crisis yeah, yeah, that's true, and it should be a quarter life crisis, technically, though, because you're gonna live to a buck 20. Buck 20., buck 20.

Speaker 2:

I, that's the goal. That's the goal. But I think that because there's four quarters in a dollar, i like to think centenarian. I think we can go for centenarian. let's try to hit 100. I'm shooting for 120. But the point is is I think this is more of a third life crisis, because quarter life crisis, i think people think of 25 years.

Speaker 1:

you know, just saying You know, i accept that. Okay, my point stands.

Speaker 3:

You and I are having some identity stuff.

Speaker 1:

We're going through some identity stuff.

Speaker 2:

Definitely.

Speaker 1:

And one of the reasons why is so much can happen so quickly, but it also feels like it takes forever And that it's a very, very hard thing to balance. Where I told you today, i was like it's wild to me that we have 45 podcasts we produce. It seems like just yesterday we had 15. At 15s and I believe we could get to 100, i don't know, i don't, maybe I don't remember, but I did believe we could get to 16. Now we're at 45, there's no reason we can't get to 100. That's the interesting thing.

Speaker 2:

It's like you're both You have more belief now?

Speaker 1:

Yeah, for sure, but I also have more results. But I don't. I never would have got those results if, when I started, i was like I'm aiming for 50.

Speaker 2:

I need 50. I know, yeah, right, some people do really well with that, because if you aimed at 50, you'd have basically been losing for four and a half years, right? And can you handle that? That's like. That's been something I've been contemplating a lot lately.

Speaker 1:

That's why I always tell people it does at times feel like I'm playing with house money. For those who might not know what that means, it's almost like you kind of can't. I don't wanna say you can't lose, but I'm very. I feel lucky at times where it's like, well, i'm ahead of where I thought I was gonna be. I'm not really worried about anything. I'm ahead of where I thought I would be. Obviously I'm still grinding my face off and working every day. But playing with house money basically means when you go and you win house money, you're up, you're gambling with that. So if you lose it, it's not like you're losing anything. So that's just the example here.

Speaker 1:

But I've been having those moments where it's like there's no way I could have set a lot of the goals that I'm setting now, because I didn't have the belief to set them five years ago. Now that I am on the second level of this mountain climb, the second summit, i can see the top of the other one. It's like oh, you know, that's not that far. Right, 45 clients in four years? Okay, i mean in theory, i could do 50 clients in the next year if I know what I'm doing. Okay, what does that look like? Oh, what does that look like in five years Interesting? I'm not sure yet, but it's a lot more than I thought, not 50 more, but 50.

Speaker 1:

Although you probably could do 50 more.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I wanna go brief about this. I don't mean to interrupt you, but I I don't know you're good It gets even harder. So, Kev, you said at the beginning of that monologue that Epic monologue.

Speaker 1:

thank you.

Speaker 2:

Epic, epic monologue. You said at the beginning of that monologue that everything happens really fast but it feels really slow. I think that was strong The. You said something along the lines of people don't like succeed huge, like in a day or whatever.

Speaker 2:

The thing that's fascinating is that I had a client and I remember this is the cool part about coaching I remember talking about this idea. He had this idea for a business and we applied for a grant. We, he applied for a grant. I advised And fast forward, fast forward, fast forward. The eight months had gone by And we had six months of that where we weren't coaching. And he's like how are you, what's going on, how's everything? And I'm like oh my god, so much is new, holy crap. And I said the same thing. I said what about you? He's like ah, i'm not really nothing. I still haven't used that grant we got.

Speaker 2:

I was like, are you kidding me? Like do it, man, what are we doing here? And five weeks later, i want to say he made $450,000 in one week And so and again, that's one hell of an overnight success. Not a lot of people make that kind of money in one week, but it's not one week.

Speaker 2:

Right, the money came in in that one week, but you're forgetting about the nine months in between, and so I think, even when you do win big and I'll use this as an analogy, the whole I did a marathon on a whim, and it was reckless. Kevin and I were trying to weigh in for the new listeners, and I basically wanted to see if I could do a marathon on a whim, and not only that, but I tried to do it dehydrated, which was just reckless, but I did weigh in, so that was good news. But anyways, the reason I set that goal, kev, is not because I wanted to do a marathon. I set that goal because I wanted to see if I could do it. I wanted the state to improve. I wanted to prove that I could do a marathon without stopping. Now, i'm not going to crush it, i'm not going to break any records, but I can do it without stopping, and I did, but I was hobbling by the end, but anyways.

Speaker 2:

So the thing that's fascinating about that, though, is I had already been running. I'd already been becoming more athletic for seven, since I was 26,. I started to really take fitness seriously, so I had seven years prior to that where I was exercising, so it's not like I just decided to do a marathon and then went and did it. I was training not for a marathon, but in general. So I think everything seems like it happens overnight, but nothing actually happens overnight. Everything is an accumulation.

Speaker 3:

Hey, Kevin Kim here Just wanted to send you a video to say thank you so much for your help on creating the Peaceful Productivity Podcast. You know I couldn't have done it without you. I knew you'd be lots of great help with the technical aspects of getting the podcast going, but you went well above and beyond that. You helped me with the strategy and you gave me all kinds of really great support. You know, I think the key to success in business is a great attitude and you have that in spades. You really walk the walk. So thanks again, Take care, I'll talk to you soon.

Speaker 1:

An experience creates awareness, that's. The other thing, too is I don't. I never planned And again, i know you did, but you have way more belief than I I never planned on getting to thirteen hundred and fifty three episodes. That was never. I didn't plan that. What do you think would happen? I didn't think much would happen. I don't know. I didn't really thought we'd stop My ability to look five years into the future just wasn't there.

Speaker 1:

I didn't know it. Almost You ever. You ever play a video. Obviously you've played many of many video games. But you know, when you get to the end of the, the map and you can't, there's nothing behind it. Or when you do get behind it, it's just a blank screen because they didn't design it, there's nothing there. That's kind of the best way to explain it. If you haven't played video games, i apologize for the reference because it's it's hard to explain. But yeah, it didn't exist. It was just a thought that didn't exist at that time. But that's the.

Speaker 1:

The beauty of this is, if you let's just break, let's just break, we'll do it in podcasting, just because we're podcasters, and that's my best reference. If you come to me and say I want to get to a thousand episodes, i don't care. Start with. You got to start with one, it's. Or if you come to me and say you know, i don't really think I'm ever going to be much in podcasting, it's probably not for me. Just start with one, because you might learn something in the first episode that you can get to episode two, and then you might learn something in episode two, and then eventually you say I've been doing this for a year. I can't believe I got 52 episodes. All right, cool You're. You're well on your way. You made it further than most people do.

Speaker 1:

Now you have a year's worth of awareness, you have a year's worth of lessons. You have a year's worth worth of reflection. Then things get weird because you're already 52 episodes in. The next year goes really fast, because you've already done a year of it. Then your two years in your 104 episodes. And then maybe you decide you know what I'm going to do two episodes a week, three episodes a week. Then, before you know it, your six years in, or whatever it is, and your 1300 episodes in. That's it. But I didn't start with that in mind. I have to be very honest about that, yeah.

Speaker 2:

I want to do this with you because I did this with a client. I thought it was very powerful. I think it'll end for our listeners. And again, please just answer these truthfully, and I know you know the answers. But whatever, you'll understand when I ask OK, from zero to 10, how certain are you that you can get Subway tonight? Ten for dinner? OK, 10 out of 10. So you're 100 percent certain? Yes, ok, from zero to 10,. How certain are you that you can get Subway within the next hour if you really wanted to?

Speaker 1:

Ten as long as you, let me go.

Speaker 2:

OK, zero to 10. How certain are you that you can get Subway in the next 30 minutes, if you really had to get it? Ten OK. Now how certain are you Zero to 10 that you can get Subway and eat it at home within the next five minutes? Zero, zero, all right. So I was talking to someone. I did that exercise and I said what you don't understand is that your brain is actually calculating. I know there's a subway. How far away?

Speaker 1:

Probably like five minutes.

Speaker 2:

Five minutes away, you know that your credit card will work with fairly certain accuracy Depends on what you did this weekend And which credit card you're using.

Speaker 2:

But you're. You're certain that there's a subway five minutes away. You're certain that your credit card will work. You're certain that they make subs. You're certain that you have a car that works. You're certain that you know how to drive. You're certain that you know how to eat. You're certain that subway makes up whatever? Right? And I said this is fascinating because at the time I was talking to someone, he has a dream home. He's showing it to me, him and his girlfriend, and it's a million dollar home and it's beautiful. And I've given them the mathematical calculation of how to actually do it And in five years they'll have enough for the down payment and the monthly mortgage. Right? And that's just a mathematical fact okay.

Speaker 2:

And I said you can do that, just like subway Five hours, you're certain, 10 out of 10. I'm certain. I'm just as certain that you can get that mansion in five years as Kevin getting subway tonight in five hours. But I can't. You can't do it in two years And you definitely can't do it in one year And there's no way you can do it in a month. Belief is the same way. So people think I'm nuts, and I understand why. Because they don't understand that I'm saying.

Speaker 2:

The art of impossible has a wonderful quote that I doubt lands for most people, but I adore it. Very little is impossible in a decade. If I dedicate my whole being to something for a whole decade, it is very little that you can't do. But no one is necessarily thinking that way And from a neuroscientific's perspective there's actual proof that some brains actually can't do that. And this is why, because if you're not practicing thinking long-term, you don't get better at it, just like if you don't practice basketball, you're gonna lose. So at basketball that's something that I hope lands for everybody is that dream that you have is possible. It's just not possible in the next year. What you and I accomplished at this podcast was always possible, but no one can achieve this in a couple months. No one, i mean, unless they get wildly lucky, and there's just no way. There's just no way. So does everyone, i guess. Is that new, for like a new frame, that land?

Speaker 1:

The time thing is where it gets really challenging, because the other thing too is I mean, that's a very measured treasure map. Do this, do this, save this amount every week, save this amount every month, then you'll save this. Do this will be every year. Cool, you multiply that by however long. When it comes to other things, i think it's harder to measure.

Speaker 2:

Yeah. But like, let's say, your car broke down which it shouldn't, because it's amazing and new But like, let's say, the subway wasn't there. They went out of business, you didn't know it and they moved 15 minutes away, so the detours will happen. It doesn't mean you can't get subway.

Speaker 1:

It just means, you can't get subway in 20 minutes. But the strategy is usually that's the hard part. That's the hard part. The strategy Yeah, cool, Yeah, because what if you don't have a GPS? I need to know where the subway is.

Speaker 2:

I hope this podcast is a GPS for people. For sure, that's what I hope. I hope this podcast can be your GPS to getting to your dreams.

Speaker 1:

Well, and that's why I try to share. one of the reasons it's important for me to share what I'm going through is because, in a lot of ways, the reason I believe more now in the future is because of what's happened in the present and the past. It's really the reason I have belief that we can do the things that we talk about I did in the beginning. If you listen back, i didn't believe we'd be where we are today, but now I do believe we can get to where we wanna go, based on the fact that this has happened.

Speaker 2:

It was always possible, though, yes, and now you know that That's the only difference. What if other people knew it was possible way before you did? That's all.

Speaker 1:

Fair. Well, they probably believed in themselves more than I, probably because they stated it improved more. Or they were delusional, or they were delusional In a good way, which again?

Speaker 2:

yeah, i asked Emile. I said is there any benefit to delusion? And she said I think that if it empowers you to try more stuff and then learn more stuff, i think yeah, but it's also a dangerous game. So I think accurate thinking is the most important. I joke with you, kev, i was right, or I was at least more right than you were, but also I was wrong too. I didn't know it would take this long. You know so that, just like I was wrong about the marathon, half marathon was actually pretty easy. The full marathon was alarmingly difficult, like way harder than I thought. So I just miscalculated And I think that hopefully our listeners can find a minimum viable belief. What can you believe at 100% right now? Maybe it's go get subway. State that you're gonna do it, go do it, build belief. Maybe it's work out tomorrow. Can you prove to yourself that you can do it? Cause if you don't prove it, you're not gonna work out five days in a row, 80 days in a row. Last piece, i promise There was someone who reached out to Emilia and said I think I've told this story.

Speaker 2:

I'm thinking about doing this 80 day exercise challenge, and Emilia was super pumped for this person cause she is like the epitome of pouring into people's dreams, like she just wants to see everyone win. It's my favorite part about her. And I said to her I said I don't wanna be mean, but there's no way he's gonna do that. She's like what do you mean? I said you're delusional, like you think that this person means that They're just talking And this person is a little bit full of it when it comes to exercise. And I said he can't even go three days in a row, nevermind 80, it's not gonna happen. And I don't wanna be unkind and I don't wanna be mean, but I also wanna be truthful with myself. Like don't expect him to actually do that, cause she was so pumped for him and pouring into it and all that kind of stuff. It's like don't even bother, but anyways.

Speaker 2:

So we ended up starting. That's when I said you know what? I wanna beat my four month record. The closest I ever went was 120 days in a row of exercise and I wanna see if I can beat it. And so I did. And eventually it was 120 and then eventually it was 220 and then eventually it was 365. And that year mark was like wild cause. That was like whoa, i've always wanted to do that, but I didn't know I'd be able to do it. And I knew I could do it if I really wanted to, but I didn't know if I'd get around to it, so to speak. And now we're 454 days in a row without missing. And yesterday we were with the whole family. They all came with us. It was awesome, both of our families, and.

Speaker 2:

But what's fascinating is we were driving home one time after the year mark and I was like now what kind of you know it's like, are we seriously going to keep doing this? And there's a part of me that was like I don't want to do this anymore, man, honestly, because this sucks straight up. And she's like let's do this for the rest of our life, like let's exercise every day for the rest of our life. And I had a mini panic attack, like straight up, because I know we can do it. I just don't know if I want to. It's not that we can't do it, it's like obviously possible.

Speaker 2:

Right, it's like a half an hour walk, you know we're weight training two days a week, two out of every three days, and then we're doing a half hour of some sort of walking, swimming, soccer, basketball, whatever has to be move your body for 30 minutes a day every day for the rest of your life. It's a tall order. And for her she said it like it was nothing. And and she's, that's Emilia, that's the way she is, she's amazing. But I had a mini panic attack of like do I actually want to say that out loud? Because if I say it out loud now I have to do it And I don't want to do it, i don't Now I'm doing it and it sucks. No, i'm doing it and it's. It's interesting because now I'll be in shape for at least reasonably for for my life, because exercise is great.

Speaker 2:

But my point is is that I know that sounds nuts. It sounded nuts to me too, but it is possible. It is possible And who knows, maybe one day we screw it up and we cancel or whatever. But so far so good 454 days in a row and we're going to exercise tonight and you know we're going to find a way. We're going to find a way to make it work. And the reason we're really doing it too, by the way and this we don't talk about is because we hope. We hope it inspires people. It's like if they can do that? what can I do? And now you know, emy L is doing it 280 days in a row. Brandon is 333 days in a row of a mile a day, every day, for 333 days, a mile a day Unbelievable. Jesse's doing it. We got a lot of people working out every day. Bianca, she's like crushing it. And so the community can win together, better together. And if you don't believe in yourself, get around people who do, because it's going to rub off.

Speaker 1:

Fire, fire. Small, small wins, small wins over time. Buildings are built brick by brick. It's brick by brick. They're redoing the one of the retaining walls in our community And it is a tall. You don't want to talk about a tall order, there's. It's a lot. It's a huge wall, but it's just a brick at a time. One, you put another one, you put another one, you put another one. Eventually it adds up to a beautiful wall. In between It kind of looks like garbage because there's stuff missing and it's ugly. But to your point, brick by brick, brick by brick, brick by brick. Next level nation, june 1st. So if you're listening to this, it's actually tomorrow.

Speaker 1:

Tomorrow, 6 pm, eastern Standard Time, we have a meetup. How, speaking of doing something consistently for a long period of time, how to stick with something for the long run? We did an episode on this last year maybe, and it did really, really, really well. So we figured you know what. Let's do a deeper dive behind the scenes. It is totally private. You don't have to have your camera on, you don't have to participate at all. You can just be a fly on the wall or you can bring all of your questions. I believe the Zoom link will be in the show notes, so please join us. 6 pm Eastern Standard Time.

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Also, i just published a blog How to Express Uncomfortable Truths. It is on the website, so the link to the website will be in the show notes. Our community and myself and Kevin struggle with this tremendously. You think everyone is walking around and they're courageous and they tell everyone like it is No, not true. When you get behind the scenes, you realize that pretty much everyone is afraid to tell their family the truth about certain things. Pretty much everyone is afraid to tell their partner the truth about certain things. Pretty much everyone is afraid to admit the truth to themselves about certain things. So how do you express uncomfortable truth to yourself so that you can live in alignment with your best self? That's what that blog is about. Please check it out. Let me know your thoughts. I love to hear feedback.

Speaker 1:

Tomorrow for episode number 1354,. Can loneliness be a good thing? We actually talked about this a little bit on Tuesday's episode, but we're going to do a deeper dive into that. As always, we love you, we appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you, and at NLU we do not have fans, we have family. We will talk to you all tomorrow.

Speaker 2:

Believe in yourselves even more. Next level nation.

Speaker 1:

Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. We love connecting with the next level family.

Speaker 2:

We mean it when we say family. If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. Everything you need to get ahold of us is in the show notes.

Speaker 1:

Thank you again and we will talk to you tomorrow.

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