Next Level University

#1361 - 1 Simple Habit To Help You Find Perspective

• Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

Share episode

Have you ever looked back on your past and realized just how much has changed in a short amount of time? In this episode, hosts Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros engage in a heartfelt conversation about a video that Kevin had recorded six years ago, delving into their remarkable progress and their newfound perspective regarding their past situation. They intricately explore the contrasting aspects of that time, marveling at the significant strides they have taken and acknowledging the distance they still need to cover. Amid their contemplation, Alan seizes the opportunity to inquire about the tactics Kevin would impart to his former self, underscoring the invaluable nature of reflection in their journey.

Links mentioned:
Next Level U Book Club - https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/next-level-book-club/ 
Next Level Monthly Meetup #19: "3 Things Everyone Should Know About Their Intimate Partner" on July 6, 2023, 06:00 PM EST - https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/monthly-meetups/


______________________ 

Website 💻  http://www.nextleveluniverse.com   

The best way to track your habits is here! Download the app: Optimal - https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/optimal/   

_______________________

Any of these communities or resources are FREE to join and consume

_________________

We love connecting with you guys! Reach out on LinkedIn, Instagram, or via email

Instagram 📷
Kevin: https://www.instagram.com/neverquitkid/
Alan: https://www.instagram.com/alazaros88/

LinkedIn ✍
Kevin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevin-palmieri-5b7736160/
Alan: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alanlazarosllc/

Email 💬
Kevin@nextleveluniverse.com
Alan@nextleveluniverse.com

__________________


Show notes:
[2:52] Kevin shares a video he made about six years ago
[5:50] Tracking habits
[8:30] Kevin describes his life when he made the video
[13:33] Nathan expresses his appreciation for the invaluable coaching services he received from Alan
[14:05] What would Kevin say to "past Kevin"
[16:04] Three tactics for "past Kevin"
[21:40] What gave "past Kevin" the courage?
[24:01] Record something that you can look back on for reflection
[31:57] Outro

Send a text to Kevin and Alan!

Speaker 1:

And I find that video and I watch it and I posted it on my story and said hey, I just want people to realize where you are today is not where you are forever, unless you want it to be. And even if you want it to be, it doesn't happen that way, because things change.

Speaker 2:

When you do circle back to a past version of yourself, it's almost like you see how far you've come And in some ways, you see how far you haven't come.

Speaker 1:

Welcome to next level university. I am your host, Kevin.

Speaker 2:

Paul Mary, and I am your cohost, alan Lazarus, at next level university.

Speaker 1:

We believe in a heart driven but no BS approach to holistic self improvement for dream chasers.

Speaker 2:

We bring you seven episodes per week to help you level up your life, your love, your health and your wealth, self improvement in your pocket, every day, from anywhere, for free.

Speaker 1:

Welcome to next level university, next level nation. Welcome back to another episode of next level university, where we teach you how to level up your life, your love, your health and your wealth. We hope you enjoyed our latest episode. It was episode number 1360. Don't trade in your future for your present, today in the present for episode number 1361. You see what I did there One simple habit to help you find perspective. So I don't know if we've talked a lot about this on the podcast. Alan and I have been kind of burning down behind the scenes. The team has been kind of burning down. We're very much in a season of refocus, flirting with burnout.

Speaker 2:

Flirting with burnout. That's what I've called it.

Speaker 1:

Flirting with burnout. So when I am very close to burnout, anytime, i'm either very low emotionally, very high emotionally, not certain of my identity, or super certain of my identity. I reflect. You've heard me talk about reflection a million times. I will never stop talking about it because I think it's so incredibly important.

Speaker 1:

Taryn was away this weekend. She was in New York with family and I had the house to myself, hanging with the cats me, my cats and my thoughts. I was watching UFC on Saturday night and I was kind of not paying attention. Somehow I accidentally opened Snapchat on my phone and I was like I'm going to go back and look at what I was posting on Snapchat from the beginning of time. I think I started using Snapchat in 2016,.

Speaker 1:

Maybe I was just going through stuff. I had old work stuff on there from when I used to work at the company I worked at. I had some very funny stuff on there. Eventually I got to this. It was a series of four posts which I'm actually going to share one. I'm going to share the one I'm talking about. I think it was a Saturday morning or I was off of work, whatever it was, and I got up in the morning and I jumped on Snapchat and I said I don't really want to be awake right now, but I'm going to go get after it. I'm going to go crush the gym because I know I'll be grateful I did. The next video is me talking about how I went and crushed the gym. It was awesome. Now I'm going to do yoga. Now I'm going to work. Now I'm going to do my stuff for the day and eventually I am going to quit my FN job and I'm going to do this every day. I'm going to play that. I want to play that now On video.

Speaker 2:

You're not going to be able to see it because it's not you're not going to be able to see it For the moms out there and or dads that have their children in the room there is an F word.

Speaker 1:

I know that, JoJo shout out to JoJo listens to our show a lot. There is an F word coming Your muffs. I'll try to hold it up too, so you can kind of see it on YouTube as well. Now we'll do yoga. Now we'll eat breakfast. One of these days I'm going to quit my FN job and I'm not going to work, and I'm going to do this every single day.

Speaker 1:

The perspective I gained by getting a very clear understanding of who I was, where I was, how I spoke, what I thought, probably how I felt in that was 2017. I was November 1st 2017, so that was six years ago, almost six years ago, november. One of my favorite things to do and I say this on podcast all the time I've told you, if you're listening, but maybe you haven't started doing this yet Take out your phone. That one of the most Valuable practices I can never suggest Take out your phone, open up your camera app on whatever phone you have I, whatever it is and record a video to yourself of your current state. So maybe you're happy financially, maybe you're struggling financially, single in a relationship fulfilled, not fulfilled. What are you looking forward to? What are you dreading? Just do a video diary of where you are right now and then check in on them in a month from today.

Speaker 1:

We're very blessed because we do an episode every day, so we never run out of content. There's plenty for me to reflect on. But seeing that video before any of this was a thing. Right That, i don't know. 2017, i probably had like maybe six podcast episodes at that point, maybe less, i don't know. This, alan and I working together wasn't a thing yet, i don't think, because it was 2017. Now to look back and say, oh my goodness, so much has changed in the last six years, but I didn't know what I was doing back then. I didn't know life was gonna look like it looks like today, and it is a very interesting perspective shift to have Where, when I look back at that, it's like, wow, i've accomplished so many of my dreams And can we go?

Speaker 2:

through what's different in terms of? because, all of it, everything. I remember one time I tracked my habits And I did this exercise I used to recommend to my fitness clients, which is Three columns first column, current habits. Second column Or no, i'm sorry. First column is past habits. Second column is current habits. Third column is wishful habits. I Have screwed it up. I have, i have it's. I've screwed it up. It's been a long time since I've done this. Okay, three columns First column is good habits. Second column is bad habits. Third column is wish habits. And I always said get rid of one in the bad column and add one of the wish Habits. And I remember I did this for years and I remember years later I think it was like two years later or something I looked at my old one And I was like, oh my god, all of my bad habits are gone. I used to drink alcohol. And again, whatever your bad habits are, good or bad, is dependent on your goal, depending on who you aspire to be. Dependent on your own, your own life. But I remember I was like blown away because The idea back then was you can't change all your habits at once because if you do, you're gonna overwhelm yourself. You're gonna lose. If you swap one bad habit out every month, in a couple years you're gonna be a whole different person. So Let's do that real quick. Have, like, what were you doing back then? like what? like? let's just start naming all the things that are Different and for the listeners this is for you, i want and the reason why I say that is because we talk a lot about Self-improvement, we talk a lot about growth, we talk a lot about what's possible. We talk about dreams, goals, awesome. This is someone who has actually said I'm gonna quit my job And I'm gonna do this every day, and that was back six episodes in and, honestly, i don't think you really knew what you were doing.

Speaker 2:

Oh no, definitely not or how you were gonna do it, and it's very clear in your voice, which is fascinating to know this.

Speaker 1:

I was just a hopeful kid. That's, that's it.

Speaker 2:

I was a hopeful kid who thought I I hope I'd be able to do this in comparison to it's wild, but you were 28 at the time. You know it's fascinating, so Maybe you're out there listening. In six years from now, your whole world could look completely different, and That's why I want to do this, because I want the listeners to think about what could be possible for them. So for you, let's name all the things that are different.

Speaker 1:

This was 2017, man, at that point, i was Friends with benefits. I had friends with friends with benefits at that point, meaning a friend, yeah, one friend with benefits. I never, i never, in all my years of doing that, i never had one more than one friends with benefit, friend with benefits at a time. That was my rule. I lived with Matt, so I had just moved in with Matt, probably Sometime that year. It hadn't been that long though, it probably like five or six months.

Speaker 2:

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 1:

I Was working at the company I used to work for, where we would travel up and down the East Coast retrofitting buildings, so I'd be gone pretty much Five days a week, every single week. I'd leave on Sunday. I'd get in the van. I drive from Massachusetts to New Jersey, delaware, pennsylvania, new York, virginia, wherever, and if you're international, that's anywhere from a six-hour ride to like a 14-hour ride, depending on where I was working. On the weekends I would podcast and Matt and I were renovating his house because I moved in with him Short for cheaper rent to help him for rent, and for me because I knew long term.

Speaker 1:

I didn't want to stay at my job. Right, you could tell by the what I said, like I was kind of over it. Right at that point I had made a hundred thousand dollars and realized I don't want to do. I don't want to do what it takes to do that again I was on the verge of making a hundred thousand dollars. I smoke weed every day, pretty, pretty much. At that point the smoking weed often lots of it a lot of it.

Speaker 1:

Wasn't working that hard, like I was working hard at my job, but I wasn't working on myself At that point. If I was tracking habits, it was probably like one or two post-unsocial. I don't think you were, i probably wasn't.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, that was when we were in my sister's bedroom studio, which means we were already partnered up, because I remember the first time you started tracking habits, it was five habits. I remember whiteboarding in my sister's bedroom My sister's old bedroom, not her, not her bedroom, her old bedroom in my the house.

Speaker 1:

I grew up in yeah, so that was 2018. You part, you and I partnered up 2018, so you.

Speaker 2:

I think, the tail end of 2017, but whatever, yeah, same, same sort of deal.

Speaker 1:

I think it was 2018. I Was it? I think so, Yeah okay, fair because You and I didn't partner, partner, partner up. I don't know who knows I tell my story so you had me as a guest.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, that was for the first. And you also said 2019 was when we were in Florida. We were in Florida, December of 2018.

Speaker 1:

Hmm, isn't it hard to like keep track of all.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, definitely, that's a fear I have. Somebody's gonna listen to an old episode. Be like mmm.

Speaker 1:

And this one you said you were 26 years and six months. It's like look Yeah. I tell my story so often I have no idea how how old I was or what year it was, i just know it happened.

Speaker 2:

Plus or minus one year. You know it's called percent error.

Speaker 1:

So I wasn't working. If I was working on myself, it was not very hard at all. I was doing a lot of external life improvement, very little internal self. Definitely Was not confident, even though if you listen to that you might have thought I was. I had an ego. For sure There was one thing that was fascinating.

Speaker 2:

I want to share with you Kev I Now can tell how not confident you were. You right. What is that about? whereas do you think other people can tell that?

Speaker 1:

no, because I was more confident than them at that time. Most likely Remember you, you and I are a little jaded the the ability to Jump on a camera and just say something is that's a challenge for for many humans. You and I are yeah.

Speaker 3:

We're just numb to it at this point So I would say I was probably.

Speaker 1:

No, I don't think. I don't think people would have Recognized that most likely.

Speaker 2:

So wild, okay, continue. What else?

Speaker 1:

What else was I doing?

Speaker 2:

There was no Taren.

Speaker 1:

No, no, no, Taren.

Speaker 2:

You had already met her, but you two weren't together, mm-hmm right.

Speaker 1:

I had met her and dated her a year, a year prior, year and a half prior, i Had just finished. Yeah, it's interesting, i had just finished The biggest job in my company's history that I ran. I was the foreman for the biggest job. I spent Three months in Virginia, just 12 hours away from where I lived. I Don't know what else was going on. Not a lot playing a lot of video games, hanging with my, hanging with the boys, a lot lifting, pretty extremely.

Speaker 1:

There's a lot of things going on It was a very important fitness season, but none of this, nothing I do on the day-to-day other than fitness, was happening. It's the best way to put it nothing, nothing. I had no idea any of this was gonna happen the way it did. And when I said every day, i never planned on every day, i didn't know we were gonna do seven episodes a week. I I right, that just is a coincidence.

Speaker 3:

My name is Nathan Schwerman. I'm from Lawrence Kansas. I've been a client of Alan's for coming on two years now and I really can't recommend his program enough. Alan's always there for me with great advice and hold me accountable every step of the way and and really leading by example, I've grown a lot in his program, But he's grown alongside with me. So I I'd really recommend joining up on the program and joining the community.

Speaker 2:

I Do this to you all the time, but I think it's valuable, so let's do it. I just got to go with my gut here.

Speaker 1:

It's gonna make me look bad. What would you say to that?

Speaker 2:

I can say you could, no, maybe. What would you say to that kev? Like, let's say you actually wanted to give that Kevin advice, and and you what would you say? Like that would be actually valuable, not like, don't worry, it's all gonna work out, like You know, because you obviously had to make it work out.

Speaker 1:

What are you? I would probably ask him a question of okay, you're talking I mean you're talking really big and you're saying all The right things but, like, what are you actually doing to make the things you're saying come true? You know that because I think Something would happen. I would, something would get highlighted of I don't really know. I mean, i'm I'm trying to do what I know I should be doing. Okay, cool, like what is that? or I'm not really doing that much, okay, cool, why do you think things are gonna change? I Probably just would have sat him down and had a real talk of like, okay, i love the ambition. That's awesome.

Speaker 1:

And I, like I love the somewhat level of clear Do you have. It's very clear You're not happy. It's very clear You're not fulfilled. It's very clear that you desire something drastically different than your existence is. What are you actually doing, though? and here's the thing, and you'll like this answer Who are you becoming? Who are you becoming where you want to be six years from today, or ten years from today, fifteen, twenty, whatever is Way more heavily reliant upon who you become, more so than what you do. What you do is great, and that helps you become some type of person, but That's that's why, in my mind That's the interesting thing I don't know what I was doing. I know who I was, though, and I know who I was not. I was not capable of having the level of success we do today. I don't know what I was doing day-to-day. I do know that I was not. I Was not existing as the version of Kevin that needed to exist in order to achieve the results we have today.

Speaker 2:

That I three tactics for that Kevin, three most important tactics, and then and then we'll transition back to what this episode Was supposed to be about but like three, like just just cold direct, do these three things?

Speaker 1:

read a book, just a book. Read one Audio book, anything you know, just maybe read a book. Read a book, that would be one.

Speaker 2:

Instead of read a nonfiction book yeah, yeah, read a self-improvement book.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, there you go. Read a self-improvement book Instead of masking your loneliness with meaningless sex. Find someone you really care about And be lonely until you do, because you're never going to. You're never going to if you keep living life the way you are today. And then probably hire a coach. I'm blessed because I've had a coach. You know you've been coaching me for free, even though it's.

Speaker 2:

I think I've probably said those pieces of advice. Yeah, yeah, probably. It's funny. I wish you would have said them earlier. Definitely the first one, for sure.

Speaker 3:

I wish you would have said them earlier damn it Yeah same, probably those three.

Speaker 1:

I would say Those three, hire a coach.

Speaker 2:

Hire a coach. Be careful who you hire.

Speaker 2:

Definitely Make sure it's someone that is credible and is successful in the way in which you want to be successful And that means they don't just look that way, but they actually are that way in their real life. I think it has to be someone that you actually You look at them and you go. You know what They really do, have it together compared to most people, even though I may not like them or whatever. Like I had one coach my favorite coach in the entire world. His name was Alex. He was hard on me and he appeared cold or calculating, but he was really When I look at how much he helped me grow hands down best coach I've ever had. And that's what really matters in a coach.

Speaker 2:

What you want and what you need is not the same thing. And find a coach who's going to give you what you need. Kevin didn't want to hear those things back then. I know because I tried to tell him, especially the books. One I remember arguing with you like, why do I have to read books? It's like Kev Kev man, i didn't know.

Speaker 2:

Of course you didn't know, i didn't know.

Speaker 1:

Right, i wanted to be successful. I wanted to do what we do every day. I just didn't know how. I just didn't know. I thought I believed in my ability to work at it. I just didn't know what to do. I didn't believe this would happen because I didn't know, i didn't have the awareness. There's a reason the podcast was called hyper-conscious, acutely aware. I'm not aware enough. I need to be more aware. That was really. I started that podcast more for me than I think anyone else in the beginning.

Speaker 1:

And obviously it's morphed, but it's morphed into a lot of what I still need, definitely, but it's trippy. So I'm sitting on my couch Saturday, i had Taco Bell for my cheat meal and I'm watching UFC. And I find that video and I watch it and I posted it on my story and said, hey, i just want people to realize where you are today is not where you are forever, unless you want it to be. And even if you want it to be, it doesn't happen that way because things change. But then I send it to Alan and I said, hey, man, you got to watch this, you got to watch this. And I also sent him another video of us I don't know watching something on his cell phone. But the reason I wanted you to see that is because I wanted you to hear me say one day I'm going to quit my job and I'm going to do this every single day because that in 10, 20, 30 years, that's going to be a really good social media post.

Speaker 1:

It's going to be a really, really, really good social media post, But not if I tell you that I knew all this was going to happen. If, in 40 years, i put that up and I say I always knew this was going to happen, i'm going to punch myself in the throat because I didn't always know this was going to happen.

Speaker 1:

Here's the thing, That's the beauty of doing the practice of recording the video, because you'll say shit, even when I said that I don't know. I don't even know if I believed it And I sure as hell didn't know how I was going to do it, but I wanted it. Everything starts with a desire. First, i desired it so badly. I wanted it so badly. I couldn't imagine what it would be like to be able to do this for a living. That's the level of imagine if I could wake up. This was in an episode seven. I said this. The title was Chaser Effin Dreams. I want to wake up. What I want, i want to go to the gym. What I want. I want to podcast to the amazing people, i want to spend time with the people I love and I want to be my own boss. That was it, simple. I don't have that many requirements. That's what I want, and now we get to do that. But I did not believe that was possible, so I want to make sure I put that out there.

Speaker 1:

The whole point of this is people journal. People have diaries. I think one of the benefits of that is you have something to reflect on. I like the audio video platform better because I think you can see yourself and when you see yourself you can tell I was very. I could tell that I was very energetically high when I was recording that. I was really excited to share that with the world at that time, because I don't know if I felt like I. I don't know. I felt like I was on to something I can tell by watching it. I don't know how and I don't know if I knew what we were going to be doing today, but I knew that the thought, the potential idea of whoa whoa, whoa whoa today could be my life every day. That was enough to make me feel good, and I can see that when I look back. So I want that for all of you if you're watching us.

Speaker 2:

Last question.

Speaker 1:

Yes.

Speaker 2:

Do it. How did you have the courage to say that out loud without believing in yourself?

Speaker 1:

Because I know everybody wants that. Nobody's gonna judge me for that and, honestly, if they did, i Don't know I wasn't really worried about that. I think I felt like Maybe it was beneficial, that I felt like I was ahead of a lot of the people that followed me on snapchat. You know, it's not like I don't snap, would you have?

Speaker 1:

posted that anywhere else. I I might have. I don't know. I might have put it on other stuff. I don't know. I genuinely don't know, because I'm quite. I Felt like I was already living it in a way. I Just felt like I was in the very early stages of it and on the path. I was on the path and here's the thing that was current. That was my identity at the time. My identity at the time was I'm somebody who's gonna help you and I'm gonna do it by telling you the truth. That was really what I. I've been trying to do that since the very beginning. Long before I knew the right things to say And I still don't, i don't know everything to say but long before I had any idea What I was talking about, i just wanted to help Yeah.

Speaker 1:

I just wanted to help, so that I think at the time I was just trying to be motivational And I, in my mind, more people will find positive value in this then will reach out and give me negative feedback. I have to believe that that's a core belief I have. I wouldn't be able to do as many shows as I do if I didn't believe that I know some people are gonna hear me and not like me. And here's the other thing. I Don't know if that version of Kevin would like this version of Kevin very much. I don't know. I might have said like ah, there's no way that guy's that confident. There's no way, or he must have an ego, or he whatever. So It's interesting to be on both sides.

Speaker 2:

When, in reality, what it would would be more if that Kevin was watching this, kevin, and saw your authentic confidence, that Kevin would have to face the fact that he's not confident, i mean, and that instead it's easier to just say, ooh, he's full of it. Yeah, for sure, right, and I think that that's It's fascinating. Fascinating glad we did this cool man. Yeah, it's good same.

Speaker 1:

So, whatever it is maybe it's you want to record an audio record, a video. I like video because you can look back in a month and say, oh wow, what is changed and what hasn't. I Don't know how often people go back on their social media. I do all the time. I always go back on my social media. I will go back to my first post ever. I do it all the time. I don't know if that's a me thing, i don't know if that's a common thing. I like it because I want the perspective, because things change either Not, either. They change both way faster than you can realize and way slower than you realize, and the only way to realize is to get perspective.

Speaker 2:

The. There's a quote I've not shared in a long time kev, we shall not cease from exploration and at the end of all of our exploring will be to return back to where we started and to fully understand the place for the first time. It's either TS Elliott or Ralph Walder Emerson. I'm not sure I used to quote a lot of stuff, but I do know that that is true. You go back. I remember you and I fishing on Father's Day in the very lake, slash pond, that I grew up on, and I remember looking at my house While it wasn't my house anymore because my family had sold it and I remember it was like I, i Just in reprocessing this and I get it, i get it more now. And There a lot of stuff came to light when I did that. So when you, when you do, circle back to a past version of yourself, it's almost like You see how far you've come and In some ways you see how far you haven't come. So the fitness. It's not easy to look back and realize how far we've fallen.

Speaker 1:

I saw a video me on Thanksgiving with cope daddy in 2000, probably 2018. Oh My god, i was so jacked.

Speaker 2:

I was so jacked It was like no, but here's the thing.

Speaker 1:

This, how weird is this? then the next thing I say to myself is oh my god, it's been six years already. It's been six years since that video Nothing. It doesn't seem like I changed my habits that much. Six years interesting, i know so, yeah, it's weird.

Speaker 2:

So when you look back, you're gonna see how far you've come in certain areas and you're gonna see how far you've fallen in others. And either way, that feedback is something you can reinvest now for a brighter future. Very last thing I say this all the time no matter how hard your past has been, you have a spotless future. Six years from today, your life can look completely different, completely different, just like Kevin and I's, and it's up to you. What you are doing today I know it sounds so weird, but what you do and don't do today is in time is rippling into your future.

Speaker 2:

Think of one decision in your past where, if you made a different choice what if Kevin and I didn't partner up? Everything would be different. What if I didn't go to college? What if I did go to call? or what if Kevin did go to college? these, these choices, they add up and they change everything. So you can make a new choice today. You can pick up a new book today and and that book could change your entire life. It will change the trajectory and that trajectory could change everything.

Speaker 2:

The compound effect I have it behind me. That book changed my whole world. It, it amplified everything I already was in a in a good way, and so, whether it's the compound effect or atomic habits, or The 15 invaluable laws of growth, or whatever book you want to pick up, or this podcast, hopefully, has changed your whole world. So you think that workout doesn't matter, or that talking to that person doesn't matter, or picking up that book doesn't matter, or Taking that course doesn't matter, getting that therapist doesn't matter. I texted Kevin last night. I said just do it, man, pull the trigger, get the therapist. That one idea, that one, that one idea. There's nothing more powerful than an idea whose time has come of me. Getting a therapist changed my trajectory forever and therefore All of our lives forever, everyone's life that I touch now, forever. So it ripples. It ripples out where it's wild, so your life can look completely different in six years. You just have to make a bold, courageous action today, and it can be small.

Speaker 1:

It's what, what came to my mind when you were Saying all that contrast. When you reflect, you do not get to control the positive and or negative contrast, you see, but you do get to control your future reflection. You do get to control the contrast the next time you do it. That's why I like the practice, because when you reflect and you say, damn, i'm not in as good a shape as I was hoping or as I used to be, next time you reflect in three months, you can say, damn, i'm really glad I've been working on my fitness, that I just think we need mile markers for our lives, because it either goes back, either goes by way too fast, or it seems like it's taken forever, and I don't know if either of them are actually true. I just think it's dependent on where you are and what you're doing. It's deep, well said. Thank you very much, man. I appreciate it.

Speaker 1:

Also who knew Kevin, paul Mary and Alan Lazarus would be podcasting together seven days a week. My goodness Right, all right As of last week. So last week we had our monthly meetup. It was awesome. I enjoyed it very much. We got really good feedback, a lot of engagement in the chat. Some people had their cameras on, some people had their cameras off, some people were vocal, many people were not. Our next monthly meetup is July 6th, 2023 at 6 pm Eastern Standard Time. Three things everyone should know about their intimate partner. So, as you know, life, love, health and wealth. We try to touch all bases. We are going to touch love on that one. So make sure you join us. It is totally free, totally private. You do not have to engage. You can just be a fly on the wall if you so choose.

Speaker 2:

I just thought of a really cool analogy, holy crap.

Speaker 1:

This is the first time I've ever thought of this. Let's hear it.

Speaker 2:

All right, you're at bat. Right, you're at bat Kev. what's the best? What's a really good batting average?

Speaker 1:

300. One out of three. Which means Three-thirty.

Speaker 2:

Okay, all right, which means that you hit one out of every three balls, right Okay, health, wealth, love and life Home run. Take a swing. You get on first base, seriously. First base is health. Second base is wealth, third base is love, and if you want to hit a home run, you're going to have to swing away And you're going to have to fail forward And you're going to. Even the best in the world are only hitting one-third of the time And that doesn't mean they're hitting a home run, but you can't hit a home run if you don't swing.

Speaker 1:

Nice, that's all I'm saying. Sports analogies always a risk from you. I know, of course it is.

Speaker 2:

That was a good one, Especially since I haven't played baseball since I was like playing Wiffleball as a little kid. Also speaking of home runs, if you want to join Book Club, we're reading a book called How Emotions Are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett. I can promise you it will change your perception of self. We have deep discussions. You can participate as much or as little as possible.

Speaker 2:

I hope you join us. You do not have to have read the whole book. You can just read one chapter at a time with us. You cannot read the book if you don't want to Just join in on the discussion. We hope to see you there. The registration link will be in the show notes.

Speaker 1:

Tomorrow for episode number 1362, the downside of setting boundaries. So we are very big on leaning into your level of self-worth to set the boundaries necessary for you to stay in alignment. But, as with many things, there are also negative side effects of positive habits. My goodness, am I figuring all out? So join us tomorrow for that happy Friday tomorrow, when you listen, as always, we love you, we appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you. And at NLU we do not have fans, we have family. We will talk to you all tomorrow.

Speaker 2:

Keep it in perspective next level nation.

Speaker 1:

Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. We love connecting with the next level family.

Speaker 2:

We mean it when we say family. If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. Everything you need to get ahold of us is in the show notes.

Speaker 1:

Thank you again and we will talk to you tomorrow.

People on this episode

Head Shot

Alan Lazaros

Host
Head Shot

Kevin Palmieri

Host