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#1616 - Deep Down You Already Know The Answer To The Question You’re Asking…
When we find ourselves standing at the crossroads of life’s countless decisions, the path we choose often defines our journey. In today’s episode, Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros deeply dive into the complexities of aligning decisions with one’s core values and authentic self. This discussion encourages listeners to approach life’s decisions with integrity and to recognize that while the road to self-alignment may be complex, it is also deeply fulfilling. Confronting our fears and embracing vulnerability, we open the door to a life that is not only aligned with our truth but also rich with meaningful connections and achievements that resonate with our core.
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Show notes:
(5:11) Making tough decisions with honesty and the ability to accept hard truths
(6:44) Asking permission or flipping a coin
(09:59) Concept of Tertiary truths
(13:30) Character over everything
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(17:25) Navigating temptation and self-fulfilling prophecy
(21:24) How honest can you be?
(29:29) Right choice and easy choice
(32:52) Outro
Next level nation. Welcome back to another episode of next level university, where we help you level up your life, your love, your health and your wealth. We hope you enjoyed yesterday's episode, episode number 1615. Are you pushing yourself too much? Any chance for Alan to use a finding Nemo reference is a good episode, 100%, hopefully today. For episode number 1616, deep down, you already know the answer to the question you're asking. We had a lot of interesting potential opportunities over the last month or so and I shared one recently how I was stressing over it and and it ended up going better than I expected and that was kind of the conclusion of that. But we had another very interesting opportunity that was presented to us and I was talking to this person about. This potential opportunity Sounded good. So I said hey, alan, can I bring you in on this? I need some support to make sure this is good. We went back and forth, back and forth, back and forth and that always seems to go well.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it never works.
Speaker 1:I've learned my lesson just do it and Deal with the repercussions. No, so you ended up doing research on something. You said, hey, let's chat later. I think it'll bring some certainty and we can kind of come to a conclusion. And I Kind of knew it wasn't a great idea deep down. But there was potential for short-term money that will help us build the business and in my mind that's my job it's to try to help us make the most aligned money we can, and sometimes I I swing and miss that just kind of par for the course.
Speaker 1:So we met and we had a real Alan and Kevin conversation. We've done this a million times, but there was a point in the conversation where you said, yeah, man, I don't think we can do it. I'm sorry, and you were very, very. I could tell that you knew it was gonna create pain for me and you were regretful of that. But you knew this was the right decision. And I said honestly, man, I know this is the right choice. I know deep down there was a part of me that was hoping you'd say this, because I knew that was the right answer.
Speaker 2:This is the moment where I would normally be villainized instead of instead of you having that. Yeah, I knew deep down that this is true, this is what's best. A Lot of people and again I'm not gonna make this about me, but I need that for you and me, man that's usually the moment.
Speaker 1:I wanted to where I would? I guess I wanted to for sure anything.
Speaker 2:It's not just with business, it's with. It's almost like the person who it's like you could have deluded yourself into, into thinking that was a good idea. It's almost like the truth sucks and you can villainize me. You can villainize the truth, or you can accept that this is actually the better path, even though it's up, and I just wanted to make that clear. It wasn't it was.
Speaker 1:It wasn't the best idea. It was a decent idea. Yeah, in in different circumstances it would have been a great idea, but yeah, for us and in our goals and certain specifics it wasn't. And I again at this point, I've trusted you for the last seven years. The last thing I'm gonna do is say, uh, I'm just gonna go against what you say. I think it's important. How do you have a relation?
Speaker 2:How did you not villainize me? Because there's no way we would have gotten here if you?
Speaker 1:because I I've dealt with this so many times where I'll have a really good, really good good is in quotation marks for those who are just listening what I perceive is a really good Idea, and then you and I will have a conversation about it. You'll bring a deeper awareness to it. We won't end up doing it. I'll be frustrated for five minutes and then not five minutes depends and then I'll just go back to. I'll try to go back to what I was doing. So you and I have had this conversation in this form, but I don't know dozens of times at this point.
Speaker 2:In my honest opinion, having Tried really hard to help a lot of people flourish in their lives, this is the reason Kevin was has been able to. More than anything else, this is the reason you've been able to create a life and design a life that you love. I appreciate that Because I think that the ability to accept hard truths that you know deep down are what's best for you, even though they absolutely suck in the moment and not villainize someone else, but actually look in the mirror. I think that's rare. I'm coming to realize that's rarer and rarer and rarer, and I'm just I want to ask you how you do that so that the listeners can also do that more, and I know many of the listeners do that too. You wouldn't listen to this show if you didn't want hard truths.
Speaker 1:Well, I think it really so. The point of this episode is I knew the answer deep, deep, deep down. Sometimes I think you're just looking for permission to get to the answer that you kind of expect. Anyway, I told Taryn at the beginning of this, when this was brought up to me as an opportunity. I told Taryn I said this isn't, it's not going to happen, most likely. And she said why? And I said Alan's probably not going to go for it. And she said is that bad? And I said I said it'll be frustrating for me in the short run, but no, I don't think it's bad. I think it's probably what's best. I just can't see that far into the future.
Speaker 1:This is a really good. This is a really good example of this. Next time you have a decision to make and I've never actually done this, but I've been thinking about this for a long, long long time, maybe I've done it in the past, I don't know Next time you have a decision to make and you don't know yes or no, or go or don't go, or whatever it is, buy it or don't buy it, whatever it is flip a coin and, when that coin is in the air, figure out what you're actually wishing for that. I feel like that is an amazing way for you to figure out what you actually want, the truth that you know, the answer that you know deep down. So if it's heads, I'll go. If it's tails, I won't go. I don't really care and I don't really care that much. If it's heads, I'll go.
Speaker 2:If it's tails. I'm not that invested.
Speaker 1:When that coin is up in the air and you're thinking to yourself I really hope it's heads or when it lands on tails, how do you feel? Are you okay with the fact that you're not going now? Or did you actually want to go? You just weren't willing to admit it, or you needed the permission from something else. That's really what I want to talk about here. Here's another real quick. I got a message from someone yesterday and this person's an entrepreneur and they said I got this really really really good job offer with a really really really high upside. And I just tried to listen to what this person was saying to me and they said what do you think? And I said you know, you know, you know the answer. You're just looking for me to say the same thing that you're saying. And that really was the conversation and we got to the end and the resolution was yeah, no, it sounds really good. It's a really heavy temptation, but I know I'd regret it, I know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's always easy road. Remember, we used to do episodes on the hyper conscious podcast. This was always your idea. You always said there's the right choice and then there's the easy choice. Yeah, you used to say that all the time.
Speaker 1:I've forgotten a lot of my good quotes from back in the day I was thinking about this.
Speaker 2:the other day too you have another quote your life. Wait, the imagination one. Let me do it. I want to see if I can pull this off. Your life becomes the parts of your imagination. You hold onto the longest. No, I was thinking about that yesterday. You absolutely butchered it. Did I really ever say it again?
Speaker 1:No, your reality becomes the parts of your imagination that you hold onto and pour into the longest. I wouldn't just say hold on to, because you got to do something about it. You got to do some effort, though you have to do some effort.
Speaker 2:But before I let Alan speak, I'll have to be out. Then You're out for that reason.
Speaker 1:You've been asked questions more than I have because you've done more coaching. Yeah, you've done more coaching, specifically career relationship, identity, mindset, fitness, peak performance. I'm sure you get it a ton where people come and ask you a question and they're just looking for reaffirmation or guidance with an answer that they already kind of know deep down.
Speaker 2:The deep down knowing is something that I've brought. This episode. I've brought this concept. This is Emilia's concept and it's so good. Shout out to Emilia, shout out to Emilia. She's brought more value to my life than I can probably articulate. It's unbelievable, this concept called a tertiary truth. She said that to me one time. She's like Alan, that's a tertiary truth. What do you mean? What she means is deep down, it's a story I'm telling myself.
Speaker 2:We did an episode recently about the story you're telling yourself versus the truth. A tertiary truth is I'll use this as an example one time early in our relationship, we were late at night and I was falling madly in love with her and I was scared, because love for me is the scariest thing in the entire world, because it's so vulnerable and I've been very hurt. And intimate relationships for me had never felt easy, except for with her, which is the irony of this. But she said what's the matter? What's going on? Are you okay? And I said, oh no, I'm just tired. And then I turned over, we're going to go to bed. And I was like you're not tired, you're not even a little bit tired, you're staring at the wall, freaking out.
Speaker 2:And so that was my tertiary truth I'm just tired. No, you're not. What's underneath that I'm tired? What's underneath I'm tired is I'm not actually tired, I'm just saying that because I don't want to have this conversation. And then what's underneath that is, I'm deeply vulnerable. I'm falling head over heels in love with you and I'm afraid to get hurt. And I'm afraid to share that with you, because if you don't feel the same, that's not good. And so, fortunately, I had the courage and this is the first time where I've been able to really go straight to the root when it came to intimate relationships, which is probably why I struggled so much in the past, because in the past, I wasn't honest with myself about this, isn't it for me? I wasn't honest with myself, not honest enough. I was like, oh, maybe this can work and yeah, no, I think I love that, I think this is forever. No, you know, deep down, it's not Again. This is me mad at myself, by the way, so please don't let me you know, spill all over everybody.
Speaker 2:Okay, so tertiary truth is I'm tired, not true. Underneath that is, I'm afraid to have this conversation. Underneath that is, I'm falling deeply in love and I'm scared to share that because if she doesn't feel the same way, I'm going to get really hurt. And so I ended up having the courage, luckily, to say sweetheart, I'm not tired at all, I'm falling in love more than I ever have and I'm freaking out. And fortunately, she was super vulnerable too and she told me she's falling in love too, and we ended up having this magnificent night.
Speaker 2:You know, made love the whole nine. And that's the difference between growing together and growing apart, right there, one of them is the vulnerable, honest, courageous truth, and the other one is a story you're telling yourself because deep down, you're actually so scared to be honest. And so I think, deep down, you knew this wasn't the best choice, you already knew the answer, but there was a part of you that wanted the easier road, and you even said that you're like I'm sick and tired of playing the long game 100%. I'm like trust me, man, 100%.
Speaker 1:Same, but it's the only road it went from. There was two opportunities to get a bunch of clients in a very short period of time and in my mind it was like this would be really good for business. It would be really good We'd be able to do everything a little bit better.
Speaker 2:And then you know, five to 10 years from now, you'd be telling everyone online how easy it is to succeed in business. But, by the way, you have to sell your soul, you know. That's the funny part too. I do want to make a side tangent on this. I'll go quick, but that's one of the things that you and I don't talk about. We do talk about calling people out on social media that make it sound really easy, because nothing of real authentic value is. You know some makeshift off-brand car you know might be easy to make or whatever. You know some online course that's just packaged perfectly, but it's actually a bag of air we joke. The truth is is a lot of the people that are wildly successful Kev, that say it's easy to be successful. What they aren't telling anyone is that they had to sell their soul to get there.
Speaker 2:And in corporate early on, there were things that I did and said and pretended to be that I'm not proud of. And I played the game and I did office politics and I you know, he said, she said and I found a way to look better than I really was and it did. It worked. It worked unbelievably well. Now was I lying through my teeth and an awful person, all that stuff, no, but I'll tell you what I wasn't deeply fulfilled and proud of the man that I was, not nearly to the extent that I am now. And that brings us to what I know you is about, which is the harder, longer, more challenging but deeply meaningful road where you don't lose yourself, you don't lose who you really aspire to be, you don't. Character over everything is what we used to say, and that's what that moment was. It was another character over everything, character over money, you know, character over quick fix, and I would rather take that road For the audience.
Speaker 1:It's not like we weren't going into selling liquor or cigarettes or anything it was in our industry, it wasn't anything like that.
Speaker 2:Of course.
Speaker 1:It was just not. Yeah, not 10 out of 10 aligned with what we're trying to do, 100%, and I think that anyone who wants to be homegrown, organic, without taking shortcuts that are not aligned.
Speaker 2:You're going to have a harder time, but long term, there will be that moment. I can't wait for it. I tell you, meaning this all the time there's going to be that moment where it's it was all worth it.
Speaker 1:It already is. It already is, and maybe that's a piece of it too. For me it's. If this was, if we were one year into business and that, I don't know, it might be a different conversation, I might be more frustrated, I don't know. But it's, I'm over it, not the end of the world. We'll figure it out. We always do.
Speaker 2:It's not the end of the world. These temptations are all around us all the time. Remember that guy who didn't want us to come to that thing and you were like dude, I don't even want to go. I know we were in Florida and he invited us to some networking party with models and bottles and all that stuff. Yeah. And you and I were like yeah, yeah, past, there have been a million opportunities to sell out on this journey. We just won't do it. He, we weren't invited.
Speaker 1:Somebody we knew was invited.
Speaker 2:We weren't invited because we wouldn't play the game with him. I was like, well, screw you anyway man.
Speaker 1:Well, I don't want to hang out with you. First of all, what am I going to do at a party with models and bottles? I'm going to sit in the corner by myself. I'm good. I'd rather stay inside. I'd rather go to the gym, whatever. Rather podcast. I think that's what we did, I hadn't. I had something Deep down. You already know the answer to the question you're asking oh man. Oh, I think one of the reasons, one of the reasons it works so well when you do something to stay in more alignment than going outside of alignment, is now you can look at the regrets. Okay, here's a good example. I messaged the person on WhatsApp and said hey, I appreciate the opportunity so much where it's just not aligned, I wish you all the best, nothing but success. It's just not for us. And they never answered me.
Speaker 1:They never messaged me back, and that was a week ago, it's like oh okay, cool, now I see relatively true colors, if anything, that helps me lock in on the fact that that was the best thing. Anyway, I remember I've said this before I was in a situation ship. I was in what I would consider I was dating someone and I went to this person. I said look, this isn't it for me and I don't want to waste your time. I want to be respectful. I just want to be honest and upfront. This isn't it for me. I think we should part ways. And the person said no, let's keep spending time together. Okay, let's keep sleeping together. And I was like are you? I am going to hurt you. I said I promise you. I promise you, I want to be as honest as I can be. I'm not going to fall for you If that's what you think this is going to be. It's not and you're going to end up hurting you?
Speaker 2:How did she know? She thought that.
Speaker 1:Because she did think that I don't want this to sound bad. I think I was trying to protect her from I just had higher. I know how I'm going to feel. I know how I'm going to feel and I don't know I wouldn't expect you to spend time with me if you didn't like me or want a relationship. Eventually, I think it was just intuition. I kind of knew that's why I knew it was a bad idea to continue seeing the person.
Speaker 1:Yeah, eventually I woke up one day and I had that moment of I know I can't do this anymore. This is not healthy for me. I'm potentially I'm definitely stopping myself from meeting my dream partner or reconnecting with my dream partner. This person's not out there meeting people either, and when I facilitated this breakup for lack of better phrasing they were not kind to me. They said some nasty things to me. Ah, okay, there's your indicator. You got hurt, even though I told you you were going to get hurt and I didn't want you to get hurt. Here's the indicator. It's more on me than anything else. I never should have gone the second step. I knew I told you you were going to get hurt. That's on me. I should have said you know what, I'd rather be lonely than bring you along on this ride and potentially get you hurt.
Speaker 2:This is such a good conversation. That's the self-fulfilling prophecy. You're afraid to hurt her and because you were afraid of that, you weren't honest with yourself as much as you could have been should have been with your actions, obviously you were with your words, which I respect, but you need my respect now.
Speaker 2:But then you ended up hurting her. That I see that in coaching all the time. It's almost like and I do this too I'm afraid to offend people. So then I get all insecure and all weird and then I end up offending people. It's like this weird thing and I'm starting to understand these self-fulfilling cycles you may call them cycles where whatever the fear is driving, you always have an over swing and you know, what's funny is the opposite is true with your wife Taryn. You and I were in the car I'll never forget it and you were like do you think I stopped that For context? Kevin and Taryn met long before they were. Yeah.
Speaker 1:We dated twice. We dated twice before. We reconnected and then dated and then got married.
Speaker 2:And so, way back, I remember you being in the car with me talking about Taryn this is before you guys were official and all that before you reconnected and you were like, does it sound like I closed the door on that too quickly and you already knew the answer? The answer was yes, you're a coward. I didn't say that I probably should have, though I think you might have. I don't know. I don't know if I said it like that.
Speaker 1:I don't, I don't think that. Well, definitely not like that.
Speaker 2:I think I said it does sound like you didn't let that run its course you know you did.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you very clearly ran away. This is a good example. When her and I first connected, I was just finishing no, I was preparing for a second bodybuilding show. I was in bodybuilding prep when her and I connected and I ended up stopping the bodybuilding thing. I was like I'm not doing this. This is not healthy. I'm sick of this. I don't want. I'm not willing to do this again for a plastic trophy.
Speaker 1:But that's when we got my company that I was working for. At the time we got the biggest job we ever had in Virginia, which is 14 hours away from where I lived, and I was running that job. So my boss said you guys are gonna be down. You might be down there for a month at a time, it depends. You're gonna be down there for at least two weeks at a time, because there's no point in driving 14 hours. You're gonna lose a day. So we're gonna stay down there. I think I was staying down there at two week increments or three weeks. I Told that was one of the reasons I told Tara and I said I'm gonna be gone for the next like three months and I don't know how to do this. I don't know how to do this long distance. I don't know how that's gonna work, so that was one of the reasons, but you had believed in yourself more, would you have Tried to make it happen.
Speaker 1:Let me finish because it okay, it connects. When I went down there two weeks later, I texted her and I wanted to do it. I wanted to try, but I was scared. So even like right after I sent the message, I sent another one saying yeah, maybe this isn't the best idea. I was scared. What were you scared of?
Speaker 2:because that's the self-fulfilling prophecy that eventually I probably Commitment.
Speaker 1:I just I had one relationship that failed miserably. I jumped into another relationship that failed Pretty miserably all things considered, and I didn't. I didn't know if I was ready for that again.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I don't know if I was capable of that.
Speaker 2:I well, fortunately, you and I went on this crazy journey of growth and development and then you eventually were like I'm ready and Fortunately we still available, because if she wasn't, you would have screwed that up. Well, she wasn't she wasn't originally.
Speaker 1:She went that when I felt like I should reach out, she was dating someone. But I was like I I can't, that's I. I gotta wait and see what happens. If something happens, and maybe I'll reach out. If not, then I don't know what I'm gonna do. So there was that. I think I mangled this. I messed this up pretty bad.
Speaker 2:Fortunately you long term didn't but same with me, with Emilia I I tell the story jokingly, but it's true. I was DMing her, true or false? Are you in a relationship? Because I saw in a relationship on her Facebook but I saw no guys there was no Pickup line.
Speaker 1:I think somebody like you would have better game than that.
Speaker 2:That's what you come with at that point, man, I was done with any game. I don't want any game there's no games. Yeah, you and I had been through too much at that point to do any games. I know as a matter of fact, her and I wore the same outfit. We talk about this all the time. Our very first date we both had a black tea and jeans. Her sister, before the date Ella show, tell her she's like that's what you're wearing.
Speaker 1:You went actually right. Yeah, yeah, tara and I had gray and gray shirts and jeans on when we went.
Speaker 2:Isn't it wild? It's, you know what we? I had this moment and she did too. I don't care, I'm not gonna dress nice, like it be something, I'm not. This is just. She told Ella Getting ready in the mirror before the date for me, before she knew me, really knew of me, but Such a big, big podcasters yeah, such a big podcasters there with many, many modeling photos.
Speaker 2:But she's, she told Ella, her sister and we still talk about this to this day that she's, she doesn't care, I'm not, I'm just gonna be me. That's what she said. I'm just gonna be me. I was at the point in my life where I was done with all that. I I don't know if I outgrew it or what, but I just was like listen, I, if it's gonna work, it's gonna work. I'm not gonna like contort anything to, I'm not gonna put on a show. There is. No, I'm not gonna pretend I'm wealthy when I'm not. I'm not gonna. You know, I'm just gonna be entirely me. Like Not unapologetically me with ego, I mean unapologetically me as in this will never work unless I just stay me, because it's never worked in the past and because eventually the real me eventually came out.
Speaker 2:And by the real me I mean more than you know, more of my Mathematical mind, more of my goals and dreams, more of my who I really am, more of my Adoring of movies and more of my insatiable work ethic of wanting to go to the gym every day for the rest of my life, even though my partner wants to have quality time, like I just decided in advance like, listen, I I've tried to be something. That never worked and it never worked. So I'm just gonna try this time to just be a be whatever I am. Whatever it is that I am, I'm just gonna be that. And she did the same thing. We end up with the same outfit. We go axe throwing it. We hit it off unbelievably well. But before that it's Friday night and I had already unsent the m's. And again, member this is. I'll explain why this is relevant to the episode here in a second.
Speaker 2:I Was afraid to DM her. I Was afraid to be a homewrecker, I was afraid that she had a boyfriend and I was afraid to come off as a as a dick who doesn't respect her relationship. And at that point she had listened to the show a little bit. She was close friends with Bianca, so I didn't want to lose face. But I eventually said you know what, whatever worst case scenario, she says yeah, I'm in a relationship. So I did it.
Speaker 2:I sent unsent the DM several times, by the way, before this. So I was a coward. I sent it, unsent it, sent it, unsent it, I think three times. And then I was lonely Saturday night, friday night I forget which and she was actually with Bianca at the time. I didn't know that they were watching a movie together, the Lion King, which is fascinating, my favorite movie. But I DM her and I say true or false, you know relationship. And she said true with myself, I'm in a relationship with myself and we just unbelievably hit it off.
Speaker 2:But To bring this to the episode, you already know the answer. I Already knew I wanted to DM her, I just didn't have the courage. No, and it got. It wasn't until I was lonely, alone on a Saturday night or a Friday night in the gym. I remember I was at impact fitness and it was just me, no one else was there. And I remember thinking like my life really sucks, like this sucks, and I gotta, I gotta send this goddamn DM, I gotta do it and and so that's the honest conversation myself of you gotta have the courage. So my fear is Holding me back and that's really it in this episode. What is the fear? How honest can you be with yourself about the fear? You know Kev's like well, do you think I left that too early? Hey brother, do you think you left that too early? Because obviously you're asking about it for a reason. So you do you deep down, you know, you already knew the answer yes, you ran away instead of actually letting it play out and see what happened.
Speaker 1:Well, I was afraid. I was afraid, much like you alluded to there. This is my next love of nugget is this. But guys don't get scared. Yeah right, especially tattooed bodybuilders who love fighting and they don't ever get scared I'm terrified all the time.
Speaker 1:That's my existence. This would be my next love of nugget. Next time you have a decision, I want you to imagine you're flipping a coin and when that coin is up in the air, are you pulling for one or the other? You, I'm willing to bet you most likely are. I know that's worked for me in the past. I haven't actually done it, but I imagine that If you, if, if you're with me, alan and I are together, alan's super logical. So I don't think you'd ever do this.
Speaker 1:But and he said, it's a, I want to go or I don't want to go. Okay, cool, heads, you go, tails, you don't go. I'm going to flip the coin and it's going to land and I'm not going to show you yet what do you actually? What would you rather it be? I don't know. I kind of think I'd rather it be tails. I don't really want to go. All right, cool, we're going to have to look at it. Don't even worry about it. Don't even worry about what it is. You just answered it yourself. And even if it's 51 49, it's one way. It's one way more than the other way. So that would be my next level nugget. I've never I don't know if I've ever physically done it, but I do use it in my imagination quite often.
Speaker 2:My next level, nugget, is what you used to say Hyperconscious throwback, the hyperconscious podcast change the way you think, change the way you act, change the way you live. We used to say this all the time there's the right choice and there's the easy choice. And if you feel called to something, whether it's your intimate partner or you know, I do say you know. After, after thoughts like that, I'm trying to say less filler words, so I apologize to the listeners for all of my you know. So what was my next level, nugget? There's the right choice and there's the easy choice Fear.
Speaker 2:Identify the fear. The right choice is there and you can take it. And you got to answer the call. And there's good things on the other side of that. It's going to open doors. It's going to open doors, but you got to admit you're afraid, because if you tell yourself a story and you ego up, you're going to say, nah, I'm not afraid, and then you're going to go the other way and then you're going to wonder why your life's not working the way you want and you're going to wonder why you're not proud of yourself and you're going to wonder why you're not fulfilled. So, identify the fear and then feel it and then do it anyway. That's where courage comes in, and I feel really good about a lot of things in my life, but I don't feel like I've ever been super courageous, and I'm working a lot on that lately, so I hope that that inspires somebody.
Speaker 1:One of the things I'm scared of Alan you know this. I think everybody knows this is speaking. I've done a fair amount of speeches and many, many podcast episodes. There's something about an in-person speech in front of an audience that scares the crap out of me.
Speaker 1:If you want to come support your boy, next level live 2024 is on March 23rd In Groton Mass at the Groton Inn. We're going to have 30 people live and everybody who comes and attends in person will get a free next level dreamliner as well as a catered lunch and it's very, very good food. We've been there before and we're also going to sell 30 virtual tickets. So if you live in another country, you live in another state, whatever it is on another continent and you listen to NLU and you want to join us virtually, we'll be selling 30 tickets for that as well.
Speaker 1:Everything you need to know is in the show notes. We would absolutely love to see you in person if possible, but if you like the podcast, it is a deeper dive. It is I won't say it's funnier, because I know we tell I try to tell jokes on here, but it's just different. Alan and I have a very unique thing with this podcast, but we also have a very unique thing being on stage together. So if you want to see that, please, we'd love to have you.
Speaker 2:Also, every Saturday, 12.30 PM, eastern Standard Time, we have a next level book club. Some read next level books with next level people and, more importantly, underneath that is, it's a safe space that's completely private. It's not recorded. For you to be courageous, we share a lot in there. You don't have to share. You can come, listen in for a couple sessions and then eventually get to the point where you share. But it's very much a collaborative experience where we're all sharing our perspective about the same book, which has been really, really meaningful. So I hope that you join us. The link will be in the show notes to register and I will see you on Saturday.
Speaker 1:Tomorrow for episode number 1617, what's your relationship with earning it? I was thinking about this the other day, where some people say, yeah, I've been doing it for two years and in some cases two years is a really long time. In other cases, two years just isn't that long and I think it's all dependent on what it is, but what your relationship with earning it is. So we're going to do an episode on that tomorrow. As always, we love you, we appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you and NLU. We don't have fans, we have family. We'll talk to you all tomorrow.
Speaker 2:Stay courageous. See you on Sunday.
