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#1699 - How Comfortable Are You With Your Biggest Weakness?

• Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

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Have you ever felt torn between admitting you’re not always organized and pretending you have everything under control? In this episode, Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros take us on a journey to explore how our strengths and weaknesses are connected. They share a powerful idea: accepting ourselves, including our flaws, is more than being okay with who we are. It’s a way to become stronger and grow.

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Show notes:
(2:38) Willingness to admit
(5:44) Layers of insecurity and weakness
(7:36) Every strength comes with an inherent weakness
(11:46) Owning your weaknesses and strengths
(13:43) Embracing imperfections
(18:30) Whoever you are, be that...
(21:00) At NLU, we want you to win, so we’re providing tools and resources to ensure your success. Join our Monthly Meet-up every first Thursday of the month at 5 PM. https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/monthly-meetups/
(24:13) Improve and work with it
(27:54) Natural inclinations
(30:38) Understanding potential
(35:45) Outro

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Speaker 1

Next Level Nation . Welcome back to another episode of Next Level University , where we help you level up your life , your love , your health and your wealth . We hope you enjoyed yesterday's episode , episode number 1698, . Accuracy is Everything Freestyle Friday . Today . For episode number 1699 , how comfortable are you with your biggest weakness At $1,699, ? How comfortable are you with your biggest weakness ?

Speaker 1

We rented an Airbnb for Next Level Live and several of the team members flew in and Alan and I were there and Amelia was there . And before Alan got there I was like hey , man , what do you want us to do while we wait for you ? And he said just go to the list and just start knocking stuff down . And I said what list is that and where is it located ? And you said I don't remember what you said . And then we didn't do anything . I told the team . I said just hang loose , take it easy . Alan will be here later , our fearless leader will arrive and then we'll kind of take it from there . Take some time for yourself . I'm going to do the same . Brandon and I are going to go to the gym . You , ladies , do whatever you want . In our post-event huddle , alan said there was one thing that frustrated me .

Speaker 1

Alan said there was one thing that frustrated me and I hate you . And I said whoa , whoa , whoa , whoa , whoa , whoa . Tell me he didn't say that last part . He said you are wildly unorganized at times and I need you to get it together . And I said where is this coming from , dog ? Where is this coming from ? And he said you couldn't . You didn't even know where the list was . Man , I mean , we've been working on that list for like six months and you didn't know where that was . And I said ah , that's fair , fair play to you . You're correct , I could not locate that list . I said , in fairness , I don't know where anything is and nobody does , except for you , in fairness , but you're right .

Speaker 1

So then we had a more serious conversation on I don't remember what it was and we were talking about how my organization skills need to come up , and one of the things Alan talked about is his timing . His on-time record needs to come up . So I was on a department meeting with the next level social media team and on that meeting was Jerrianne and Nicole and they were talking about how organized they are . They said , yeah , we got the lists and everything , super organized . And I said I'm very grateful that you two are on the Next Level Social Media team , because your

Willingness to admit

Speaker 1

strengths will help me increase and improve my weakness .

Speaker 1

Because I'm not organized , alan , and I joke about it but I'm not as organized as I need to be , and I've made a lot of strides since next level . Social media has kind of grown to be more organized . Now I'm very comfortable with talking about it because , yeah , it's kind of become a running joke , but I think , more than anything I know I'm trying to improve it as we go . I think the weaknesses that we're not working on become insecurities . The weaknesses that we are working on become improvement points , and I think those are very , very different places to be . So I thought doing an episode on that would be important , because if you're not willing to admit what your weakness is , if you're not comfortable talking about your weakness , it's going to be really challenging to improve . I just imagine , as a man , if I was struggling with being vulnerable and that was my biggest weakness , just vulnerability in general it would be really hard for me to admit that and then go seek therapy to be more vulnerable .

Speaker 2

Yeah .

Speaker 1

As an example .

Speaker 2

Well , that's an interesting meta example , because if vulnerability is a weakness , admitting that your vulnerability is a weakness is vulnerability . That's very true .

Speaker 1

Talk about a catch-22 situation Some would say paradoxical . Maybe could even say that yeah , somebody could , if they chose to use that word , even say that , yeah , somebody could .

Speaker 2

What am ? I used to use that word , one of the words that has been repeated many , many , many , many , many , many times in this last chapter . Everything's paradoxical lately . It's been duality was what we talked about for a long time and then now paradoxical . So you mentioned insecurity , you mentioned insecurity , you mentioned weakness . There's like layers of this . Like there's layers of this where , by the time you can comfortably publicly admit a weakness , it's already not a weakness , in a way . How long have you faced the truth ? Okay , so layer one is Ah , no , no , no , I'm not disorganized . No , okay , that's layer one .

Speaker 1

That's where we all start .

Speaker 2

No , no , I'm vulnerable . I'm vulnerable to shit . Man , I don't struggle with vulnerability . Okay , that's layer one , which is just , you're insecure and you're defensive because you're insecure . No , no , no , that didn't offend me , not at all . Yeah , okay , so fair , fair , fair , fair . So we all start there . I'm not making that wrong then . So layer one is you have a weakness but you don't want to admit it wrong . So layer one is you have a weakness but you don't want to admit it . Layer two is you acknowledge that you have a weakness , but you don't know if you can change it . Layer three is you admit you have a weakness and you believe you can change it and you're working on changing it .

Layers of insecurity and weakness

Speaker 2

Layer four is where Kevin and I got to , which is just accept me , for me , man , I'm not changing this and surround yourself with an awesome team that compliments you .

Speaker 2

So the name of this episode should be own your weaknesses and surround yourself with people whose strengths are your weaknesses . Now , I think that last one is more playful than anything , and I think maybe that is layer four , because I do believe that all strengths come with weaknesses and if you're going to lean into your strengths , they're going to come with a certain weakness . So , for example , driving things forward . So Kevin mentioned time being my weakness . Being on time , I would say , is a weakness . I don't think time in general is Right . Now we have one hour 11 minutes and 17 seconds to record these three episodes . I am timing myself in everything that I do so that I can get better with time . But one of the reasons why I'm not good with time is because I am good with time , and it's very paradoxical . Let me explain . I'm trying to maximize the needles that I can move forward in a given amount of time . Time , effort , money those are the three human resources that I'm constantly trying to maximize . So one of the reasons why I know that I'm not good at being on time is actually because I'm doing so many other things I don't . I don't show up 10 minutes early to a meeting and just sit there and wait because I have so many other things that I need to be doing in that time , whereas I know some people they plan their whole day around a couple main things to be on time , and I respect that , because being on time is very important . I'm not playing this game of . It's not important . That's not what I'm saying is very important . I'm not playing this game of . It's not important . That's not what I'm saying . What I am saying is I have had that moment in the past where I think to myself okay , well , that person's always on time , but really think about their day-to-day in comparison ,

Every strength comes with an inherent weakness

Speaker 2

what else do they have to do today ? Okay , well , not really that much . So they're just kind of sitting there waiting . Now , does that devalue the fact that they're on time ? Yes , am I comparing to me in maybe an unfair way ? Yes , but I also ask myself this question of would they be on time if they were in my life , if they had to do what I have to do today , what I've decided to do today , would they be on time ? And the answer is definitely not .

Speaker 2

So how do you live in this paradoxical duality of ? Here's my weakness it's because of a strength . So , for example , a strength for you is implement quick . As soon as you get a new awareness , you implement really , really quick . You implement really fast , but you don't exactly set up the train tracks for long-term , sustainable success . The other people that you're mentioning , nicole and Jerrianne I can guarantee you they are more organized than you , but I can also guarantee you that they don't implement as quickly as you , from my perspective . So this paradoxical situation and Jerrianne and Nicole , please don't be offended .

Speaker 2

The point I'm making is Kev's real good at starting stuff . I'm talking good . The moment he has an idea , he wants to implement it and I've never seen someone so quick to implement . You decided to have a podcast and had all the equipment and recorded within a day and a half .

Speaker 1

I don't know if it was a day and a half . I had to order on Amazon . It was within a week . For sure , within a week .

Speaker 2

That is a level of execution , wasn't it two-day shipping .

Speaker 1

I don't know . This was in 2000 .

Speaker 2

This was 2017 , dog I don't know what Amazon was like back then . Amazon , I don't know Dog , I don't know what Amazon was doing back , then it was quick , I was doing I don't know .

Speaker 1

well , the other thing is I remember it felt really quick . Maybe not well , I might have been yeah , I might have been traveling for work , so I wouldn't have had access to the stuff if even if , did you get shipped to my house ?

Speaker 2

I just don't know I don't want to so within a week , within a week , I think that's fair . Yeah , a lot of people take months and months , and months to get the perfect name , perfect logo , perfect equipment , that kind of stuff , and I'm not making wrong , I tended to be on that end too . It took me a long , much longer time than Kev to set up my train tracks for my YouTube channel , my Conversations Change Lives podcast . So every strength comes with an inherent weakness , and so I think you need to look at both Look at your weaknesses and think of what's the strength underneath this . What's the strength that maybe I'm taking for granted ?

Speaker 2

If you're very confident , you also have a weakness of being overconfident . If you're extremely , extremely , extremely effective with your time , maybe you're not on time often because you're trying to maximize every second of every day . If you are really good at implementing things and taking action and doing tasks , maybe you're not quite as good at consistency or organization or whatever . It is Okay . So layer one is here's the weakness , and I'm defensive and I don't want to admit that . I have that weakness , all right . How do we move past that ? You own it . This is a weakness .

Speaker 2

Number two is layer two . This is my weakness and I don't know if I can change it . If you were to say , alan , you can never be late again , I would say BS , brother , there's no way . There's no way . I have back-to-backs , I don't have a buffer , I need to go to the bathroom . I was late to a podcast by two minutes the other day and I said I'm so sorry I'm late . I just got off a coaching session . I had to go to the bathroom . They're like oh , no worries . I don't even know if I want to live in a world where I can't have two minutes of wiggle room .

Speaker 2

And again , that's a choice , and then there's another layer of do you even want to change it ? You ?

Speaker 1

and I same say I I think there was a time where we're a holistic podcast and I I was afraid people would think that meant that we're as holistic with diet as we are with everything else . And I like certain foods , same , not all . I'm not gonna have it every night , but 20 of the time I will have food . That's probably not

Owning your weaknesses and strengths

Speaker 1

great for me yeah , and that's a weakness .

Speaker 2

I would say that's a weakness , but that's okay because that comes with the strength of we're on point with a lot of other stuff . It's also convenient and fast and cheap .

Speaker 2

But there's some strengths that come with it . Everything is pros and cons , and so anyone who takes that one sliver of your life and then judges you based on that is just not seeing the whole you , and I think it takes a lot of strength and a lot of courage to lean into that . So even this episode us acknowledging our weaknesses let's not make it about us , let's make it about the listeners . What is the weakness ? That either you're afraid to admit , or you've already admitted , or maybe you don't think you can change it , or you don't want to change it , and that's kind of the thesis and why ?

Speaker 1

why are you afraid to admit it ? If you are , is it because you don't think you can change it is because you haven't fully owned it yet ? Is it because ? What does this mean about me ? If this is a weakness , I think that's a really important fact , because I've been disorganized since the very beginning and I think in the beginning it meant to me something different than it means now . I don't know what it means to me now .

Speaker 1

Now it means I kind of like mayhem . I kind of do . I kind of like chaos . I like sending an audio message and pacing around and then sending three more audio messages and coming back into the office for five minutes and going back out . I like that at times , maybe more than other people do . I don't know . I don't like things to be super sparkly all the time . I kind of like disorganized chaos . But I can obviously take that too far . So I think that depends . I think all of that depends on who you are and the results you're looking for .

Speaker 1

But my question would be why are you afraid to admit what your weaknesses are ? Have you not owned them yet ? Do you feel like it's something about you ? If you have a certain weakness , it means something about you and

Embracing imperfections

Speaker 1

admitting it is going to hurt your self-esteem worse . I think that's one of the hard things about admitting weaknesses is , if you don't feel good about yourself , it makes you feel worse about yourself . It's not like you're looking at . Here are the 75 things that you're doing amazingly , and here's the one thing that you're weak at , so it offsets . I think for a lot of us it gets to the point where if you don't feel like you're doing anything well , you're not going to want to admit your weaknesses . You have a breakthrough over there .

Speaker 2

Yeah , I just was thinking to myself is it possible to have a strength without a weakness ?

Speaker 1

Is it possible to have a strength without a weakness ? I don't know . I mean , if you can run really fast , what's the weakness ? Can't run for long periods .

Speaker 2

Yeah , potentially , potentially , if you're really , really . I mean , think of the strongest bodybuilder . Are they ever going to be a marathoner ? No , probably not . No , think of the best marathoner . Are they ever going to outlift you know , bench 350 pounds ? No way .

Speaker 1

Yeah , probably not .

Speaker 2

It's fair , every strength comes with a massive weakness . That is just another iteration of that , because it's not like that's the first time I've come to that realization , but I just had a moment where it hit different does a weakness come with a strength , though ?

Speaker 2

yeah , every time , every time , every time . You just have to find it . That's hit different lately . One of my clients I'm thinking about . She is so present , so emotionally mature , such high energy , so positive , so go with the flow , and that all sounds like strengths , but she doesn't track her finances until she started coaching with me . That comes with a weakness I'm not go with the flow . Can you imagine I'm not go with the flow ? Fun , playful , go with the flow . No , but I'm . I'm extremely structured , organized , rational . The yin and yang symbol denotes denotes masculine and feminine , order and chaos .

Speaker 1

I know I knew you were gonna laugh at that I say these words sometimes and I wonder what , if you didn't call yourself out , I wouldn't know .

Speaker 2

Oh , of course I do that on purpose , because I think it's hilarious , because that is my honest . In my head it's like denotes okay . So masculine , feminine , order and chaos . You are chaos , I'm order . We work well together and then we switch in certain things . That's what .

Speaker 2

What it is Yin and Yang , emilia and I , she . I am way more . She's way more efficient than I am . I'm more effective than she is . This is so interesting . I am way better at doing one thing really well . She can multitask up a storm , way better than I can . She can knock down a list of 12 things . I can get four of them done with excellence . And it's not like she's doing those things without excellence , but there's levels . Every single strength comes with a weakness and every single weakness comes with a strength . I am convinced of that . And being holistic comes with a strength . I am convinced of that . And and being holistic , talk about a somewhat losing game . You can do it , but it is a little bit of a losing game it's definitely harder gonna be can you imagine me being like a go with the flow , enjoy yourself , present moment person ?

Speaker 2

well , do you want to be , though ? No , I I don't think it would be me , I don't think I'd be myself . It doesn't mean I can never be like that . I'm that every saturday night , when the week's over , I'm very playful , I have a great night , but I can't spend 90 of my time there . Who I really am , who I really aspire to be , my natural inclination is to be very structured . I don't like being a mess Dude . My fingernails are clipped , my hair's done , I have a nice shirt , watch , and I don't like anything being astray . I'm very we call it OCE .

Speaker 1

Well , I've noticed that . I've noticed that about you .

Speaker 2

We call it OCE at NLU Obsessive Compulsive Excellence Some people don't have that and OCE at NLU obsessive compulsive excellence Some people don't have that , and that's okay . They're probably a lot more fun at a party than I am . The only time I could ever shut that off is when I was drinking

Whoever you are, be that...

Speaker 2

and then it came right back the next day after the hangover . But whoever you are , be that and surround yourself with complimentary people . We said this before . Last thing I'll share on this episode Kevin and I have common core aspirations . We are aiming towards the same mission . We have common core values and we have common core beliefs , but we have complementary skill sets . We complement each other .

Speaker 2

He is not an engineer , mathematical , rational thinker . It doesn't mean he can't think rationally , Just like I am not a artist , creator , go with the flow , comfortable in chaos , implement now , worry about it later type of person , but it doesn't mean I can't do that . Sometimes it's almost like you can visit and you can be a tourist , but you can't move in . The only place you can live is who you really are , and I think all of us would be better off if we owned who we are , loved ourselves for that and then surrounded ourselves with people who compliment us how do you figure out and this is a hypothetical question how do you figure out whether it's a net win or net loss , like , yes , I'm disorganized for sure , but I don't know if I've ever lost anything ?

Speaker 2

we've needed you have , but you don't know it because you don't know if I've ever lost anything we've needed . You have , but you don't know it because you don't know it's . And vice versa , though . Seriously think about how much I've lost by not being go with the flow .

Speaker 1

Well , I mean lost as in documents not opportunities .

Speaker 2

Oh , oh .

Speaker 1

Specific relics of business ? No , I don't think so . Obviously other things , but I'm just thinking to myself . Would I rather be more organized and less take an idea and run with it ? No , definitely not . I like this side of it . I like this side . It's almost . I like this side . It's almost like oh yeah , you're really fast and you might strain your hamstring , or you're really fast and you don't have the highest cardiovascular system , so you have to work on that , but you're still really fast

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Speaker 1

. I like that . Strong and flexible . I'd rather be strong first and then flexible second . I'd rather be fast first and then . But it depends . It really depends on what you're going for .

Speaker 2

And then the question , kev , is do you get to choose that ? I don't know . You have to deal with the repercussions of that choice . So I chose to be a bodybuilder , but that's not my natural inclination . Emilia and I went running saturday . We we went to the backfield because the track was taken and she was hilarious , she was playful , she was running and she said catch me . And it was hilarious because she's five'3" and I have these giraffe legs . So it was very cute . But I had that moment of , if anything , you'd be a sprinter and she's almost as strong as me . In the gym she's so jacked , but running it would never be close it would be so silly , did you do a ?

Speaker 2

mile . Can you do a time mile ?

Speaker 1

Not yet I'm curious yeah , I am too . I said do you think I can do a 630 ?

Speaker 2

I said that to her she said yeah , no problem , I I am curious , I will , I will soon I'm excited . Video didn't happen video or it didn't happen okay I'll send you a screenshot that the one that I did in canva edit it .

Speaker 1

Four minutes and 18 seconds , wow no , no 328 .

Speaker 2

Yeah , it's pretty good . So for long pause , dramatic I . I think one of the biggest weaknesses that I have is holistic , and I think it also is a huge strength . I do I . I think that's an L and a W . Long term , being holistic , it's almost like a decathlon . You ever do a decathlon ?

Speaker 1

No , all right For anyone who ran a track . Shame on you for thinking I have . Have you ever ?

Speaker 2

seen one you ever seen a ? Decathlon Also no , all right . Decathlon is , I think , a good metaphor . Ten .

Speaker 1

All right , decathlon is , I think , a good metaphor .

Speaker 2

Ten things yeah , so you have a timed mile . You do the shot put , the discus , you do the javelin , you do 100 meter . Again , I don't know the exact ones , but a decathlon is kind of who's the best well-rounded athlete and the shot putters are usually not great at long distance running . The long distance runners usually suck at the shot put . Dude , I think I've spent the last nine years trying to be the best decathloner in leadership , business , communication , you and I both health , wealth , life and love . How many people are really really good at all ? Four of those very , very yeah .

Speaker 1

Less and less , the better and better you get . Yeah , for sure , and even me . I was looking at pictures from my past of fitness . I'm nowhere near where I used to be , I know .

Speaker 2

Same .

Speaker 1

That's the hardest one . Everything else gets better over time . Fitness , it has not trended that way .

Speaker 2

I know , unfortunately . Well , yeah , fitness it has not trended that way . I know , unfortunately , well owning your weaknesses , no matter what , is going to help you , and

Improve and work with it

Speaker 2

maybe there's a strength that comes with that weakness that you want to double down on , and I guess it's a duality you have to . Okay , kev , you're unorganized , I'm late . Are we going to change that or are we going to work with it ? And I think it's both . I think we're going to both improve and work with it and , ironically , if we don't work with it , we won't improve it , whereas if you were , that's it , alan , I'm not working with you anymore for that . Okay , worst idea ever . And that's me saying well , kev , if you don't get organized , none of this would be a thing .

Speaker 1

Yeah .

Speaker 2

What a mistake that would be . So you can't take someone's one weakness and hold it against them when you love all the strengths that come with it .

Speaker 1

Well and I think you figure out your own way too . That's one of the lessons I've had from working with you for so long is a lot of the stuff that you've taught me and you've helped me implement has worked really , really well for me . There's other stuff that you do that I just don't want to do and I don't want to do it the way you do it . It just doesn't work . The same for me , like the whiteboard thing . I have a whiteboard , I can touch it . It's right here . There's my whiteboard . I don't even have it turned , so it's facing me because it it doesn't do this . It's not the same as having something on my desk where I can write on it . It's just not the same for me because it's one more . It's like , okay , check whiteboard , then check notebook , then check peak performance tracker . Now it's just I . It's like , okay , check whiteboard , then check notebook , then check peak performance tracker . Now it's just , I have an all-encompassing notebook on my desk that gets everything that needs to get done . That's been a game changer for me , an absolute game changer .

Speaker 1

Saturday I didn't have any calls . I woke up at . I think I got up at six because Taryn left at five and I just went through and hammered tasks and it was awesome , just erasing them as I go . Awesome , call this , do this , blah , blah , do this . It was awesome , but it was never the same if it was on the whiteboard for me .

Speaker 1

So , I think that's another thing too , is organization ? Just an example might look different for me than it does . Alan being on time might look different for me than it does . Alan being on time might look different for me than it does . Alan . There's a piece of me and it stresses me out , but I kind of like it . I like being back to back to back and not being able to go to the bathroom . I kind of like it because I want to be on time . It's like I'll pee after Again . That's maybe a weird thing , I don't know , but I like that . I like saying to the host hey , I have to be off at the top of the hour . I did that the other day . The host said how long do you have ? And I said I have until 1 pm Eastern Standard Time . He's like that's when we can finish . I said I just need a minute , so get me off at 11.59 or I was on the next meeting . Perfect , I like that .

Speaker 2

Last question Sure , what do you say to someone ? This is a little depressing of an episode . What do you say to someone where the results they want in life are not in alignment with their natural inclinations ?

Speaker 1

I don't know . That's a tough one , because , because the last thing you ever want to do is tear someone's dream down , but the other , the second to last thing you ever want to do is delude someone into trying to do something that they're never going to slash , wouldn't be happy doing . I think you be very , very honest , regardless of yourself and depending on what your relationship so for me , I told I have told clients that they should quit their podcast .

Natural inclinations

Speaker 1

Quite the opposite of as a podcast coach who's making money should do . I don't care , I want you to do what's right for you . This is what I've started saying recently . I used to do what was best for the business , the person . I'm talking to someone , not us . I used to do what was best for the business . Then I started to do what was best for the podcast . Now I do what's best for the person . I don't care what's best for the business . I don't care what's best for the podcast , because if it's not what's best for the person , it's not best for either of those .

Speaker 1

And it's not going to matter .

Speaker 2

Because you're not going to matter long term .

Speaker 1

No , so it's that it's really maybe you're under a level of delusion that this is the right thing for you , based on what I've seen , not because I don't believe in you . If anything , it's because I don't think you actually want it bad enough to do what it takes , or it's so far out of character for you that you're not going to do it for long enough anyway , and even if you did get the result , I think you'd regret the sustaining of that result , the best and the deepest , hardest one .

Speaker 2

Very last thing is I've talked about this iceberg a lot , this digital asset that I created and it's helped me a ton . At the very bottom of the iceberg , the underneath the surface , the deepest layer , is potential . Not everyone has the potential yeah that's the hardest thing . Is you being disorganized , right ? Do you have the ability ? If you could spend the rest of your life trying to be as organized as me ? But you would have to . It's easier for me because it's natural for me yeah you see what I mean ?

Speaker 1

well , I should put 80 of my time into getting more better at just doing things quickly and then put 20 of my time into being more organized , exactly and double down with someone who . Yeah , it's hard that that this whole conversation is hard because it's it's so dependent on who you are and what the strength is and what you want , and does the strength lend to what you want ?

Speaker 2

It's a challenge for sure distance runner than me and I could work 100 of my time and effort to be stronger than you , and both of us are going to lose eventually if the other person even puts in minimal effort . Yeah , you and I ran that mile and you nearly died . Even though you're athletic , it's just not gonna . I'm being playful , you didn't know I felt like I was gonna do .

Speaker 2

You fell to the ground , for sure , but we all have national . But here's the thing I still want to be a bodybuilder . I've chosen in advance to be a bodybuilder anyway , even though I know I'm

Understanding potential

Speaker 2

a lanky , tall , ectomorphic guy . I am making that choice knowing I I've always known kev , from the moment we started lifting together that I'm gonna have to put in three times at the effort and 10 times the intelligence to be as jacked as you , and that's okay . That's okay . But I'm making that choice knowing that . And so , now that I'm on the other end of this , if you want to start a business , you want to achieve a dream , you want to track habits and be organized and consistent , I can help you with that as a coach , but you're never going to necessarily do that on your own accord . That's real humility is saying you know what . Organization is not a strength . So let me hire a coach to help me stay organized , because that's what I've been for you for seven years .

Speaker 1

I've just helped you stay on the train tracks and redesign the train tracks and you've helped me implement things I never would have done dude , seriously , you've been the train tracks in a lot of ways , not , I mean , I've gotten more organized , but I don't really have to be that organized because you're so organized . Yeah , just like you don't really have to implement as fast as I do because I'll always do it . I want to do it . Yep , I don't not want to do it , I would rather do it . I would rather say let me implement that for you and get it running , and then we'll figure it out from there .

Speaker 2

NLPS and NLSM wouldn't exist if you didn't do that . That's fair , but the whole company as a whole wouldn't exist if I didn't create train tracks that are sustainable long-term . So yin and yang and owning your weaknesses will help you tremendously . Surround yourself with the right people and love who you really are .

Speaker 1

I like that . And last last , last , last last thing If you're going to admit your weaknesses , make sure you admit your strengths . Give yourself credit for the strengths . If you're going to give yourself credit even if it feels like negative credit for the weaknesses . If you are looking for a group of amazing humans and you're looking for a place where you can be yourself , you can be authentically you , you can get positive content every single day . Yes , we have the podcast , obviously , but we also have a private Facebook group , Next Level Nation . We'll have the link in the show notes Also .

Speaker 1

Next Level group coaching round 15 starts on July 7th or 9th I will get it right eventually 9th at 5 pm Eastern Standard Time . So we are moving back in . I mean an hour earlier . Our meetup , our group coaching , that's it , just those two , because book clubs on Saturday it stays the same . So Alan and I are kind of changing up our window , our service window . So group coaching will start at 5 for the next round . Everything this round is staying the same . And then the first meetup that will be affected by that is Thursday June . Please hold 6th . Thursday June 6th . Thursday June 6th . Our next meetup will be at 5 pm Eastern Standard Time . So a lot of stuff going on . We'll have the link in the show notes for all that stuff Tomorrow .

Speaker 1

Alan Jeffrey Lazarus for episode number 1,700 . Wow , wow , 1,700 . Wow . Every change starts in the imagination . I watched a movie from 1980 on Sunday . That's how my weekend went , so we're going to talk a little bit about the lessons . It was airplane , so it wasn't like a I don't know , maybe a dumb movie . I guess that is a dumb movie .

Speaker 1

It's a good movie , but that's the movie I watched , so we're going to talk about that in tomorrow's episode , as always , we love you , we appreciate you , grateful for each and every one of you , and at NLU we don't have fans , we have family .

Speaker 2

We'll talk to you all tomorrow own who you are next up on the nation .

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