#1699 - How Comfortable Are You With Your Biggest Weakness?

Have you ever felt torn between admitting you’re not always organized and pretending you have everything under control? In this episode, Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros take us on a journey to explore how our strengths and weaknesses are connected. They share a powerful idea: accepting ourselves, including our flaws, is more than being okay with who we are. It’s a way to become stronger and grow.

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Show notes:
(2:38) Willingness to admit
(5:44) Layers of insecurity and weakness
(7:36) Every strength comes with an inherent weakness
(11:46) Owning your weaknesses and strengths
(13:43) Embracing imperfections
(18:30) Whoever you are, be that...
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Transcript

Speaker 1 0:00

Next Level Nation. Welcome back to another episode of Next Level University, where we help you level up your life, your love, your health and your wealth. We hope you enjoyed yesterday's episode, episode number 1698,. Accuracy is Everything Freestyle Friday. Today. For episode number 1699, how comfortable are you with your biggest weakness At $1,699,? How comfortable are you with your biggest weakness?

Speaker 1 0:30

We rented an Airbnb for Next Level Live and several of the team members flew in and Alan and I were there and Amelia was there. And before Alan got there I was like hey, man, what do you want us to do while we wait for you? And he said just go to the list and just start knocking stuff down. And I said what list is that and where is it located? And you said I don't remember what you said. And then we didn't do anything. I told the team. I said just hang loose, take it easy. Alan will be here later, our fearless leader will arrive and then we'll kind of take it from there. Take some time for yourself. I'm going to do the same. Brandon and I are going to go to the gym. You, ladies, do whatever you want. In our post-event huddle, alan said there was one thing that frustrated me.

Speaker 1 1:27

Alan said there was one thing that frustrated me and I hate you. And I said whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Tell me he didn't say that last part. He said you are wildly unorganized at times and I need you to get it together. And I said where is this coming from, dog? Where is this coming from? And he said you couldn't. You didn't even know where the list was. Man, I mean, we've been working on that list for like six months and you didn't know where that was. And I said ah, that's fair, fair play to you. You're correct, I could not locate that list. I said, in fairness, I don't know where anything is and nobody does, except for you, in fairness, but you're right.

Willingness to admit

Speaker 1 2:05

So then we had a more serious conversation on I don't remember what it was and we were talking about how my organization skills need to come up, and one of the things Alan talked about is his timing. His on-time record needs to come up. So I was on a department meeting with the next level social media team and on that meeting was Jerrianne and Nicole and they were talking about how organized they are. They said, yeah, we got the lists and everything, super organized. And I said I'm very grateful that you two are on the Next Level Social Media team, because your strengths will help me increase and improve my weakness.

Speaker 1 2:41

Because I'm not organized, alan, and I joke about it but I'm not as organized as I need to be, and I've made a lot of strides since next level. Social media has kind of grown to be more organized. Now I'm very comfortable with talking about it because, yeah, it's kind of become a running joke, but I think, more than anything I know I'm trying to improve it as we go. I think the weaknesses that we're not working on become insecurities. The weaknesses that we are working on become improvement points, and I think those are very, very different places to be. So I thought doing an episode on that would be important, because if you're not willing to admit what your weakness is, if you're not comfortable talking about your weakness, it's going to be really challenging to improve. I just imagine, as a man, if I was struggling with being vulnerable and that was my biggest weakness, just vulnerability in general it would be really hard for me to admit that and then go seek therapy to be more vulnerable.

Speaker 2 3:43

Yeah.

Speaker 1 3:44

As an example.

Speaker 2 3:46

Well, that's an interesting meta example, because if vulnerability is a weakness, admitting that your vulnerability is a weakness is vulnerability. That's very true.

Speaker 1 3:55

Talk about a catch-22 situation Some would say paradoxical. Maybe could even say that yeah, somebody could, if they chose to use that word, even say that, yeah, somebody could.

Speaker 2 4:06

What am? I used to use that word, one of the words that has been repeated many, many, many, many, many, many times in this last chapter. Everything's paradoxical lately. It's been duality was what we talked about for a long time and then now paradoxical. So you mentioned insecurity, you mentioned insecurity, you mentioned weakness. There's like layers of this. Like there's layers of this where, by the time you can comfortably publicly admit a weakness, it's already not a weakness, in a way. How long have you faced the truth? Okay, so layer one is Ah, no, no, no, I'm not disorganized. No, okay, that's layer one.

Speaker 1 4:58

That's where we all start.

Layers of insecurity and weakness

Speaker 2 5:00

No, no, I'm vulnerable. I'm vulnerable to shit. Man, I don't struggle with vulnerability. Okay, that's layer one, which is just, you're insecure and you're defensive because you're insecure. No, no, no, that didn't offend me, not at all. Yeah, okay, so fair, fair, fair, fair. So we all start there. I'm not making that wrong then. So layer one is you have a weakness but you don't want to admit it wrong. So layer one is you have a weakness but you don't want to admit it. Layer two is you acknowledge that you have a weakness, but you don't know if you can change it. Layer three is you admit you have a weakness and you believe you can change it and you're working on changing it. Layer four is where Kevin and I got to, which is just accept me, for me, man, I'm not changing this and surround yourself with an awesome team that compliments you.

Every strength comes with an inherent weakness

Speaker 2 5:56

So the name of this episode should be own your weaknesses and surround yourself with people whose strengths are your weaknesses. Now, I think that last one is more playful than anything, and I think maybe that is layer four, because I do believe that all strengths come with weaknesses and if you're going to lean into your strengths, they're going to come with a certain weakness. So, for example, driving things forward. So Kevin mentioned time being my weakness. Being on time, I would say, is a weakness. I don't think time in general is Right. Now we have one hour 11 minutes and 17 seconds to record these three episodes. I am timing myself in everything that I do so that I can get better with time. But one of the reasons why I'm not good with time is because I am good with time, and it's very paradoxical. Let me explain. I'm trying to maximize the needles that I can move forward in a given amount of time. Time, effort, money those are the three human resources that I'm constantly trying to maximize. So one of the reasons why I know that I'm not good at being on time is actually because I'm doing so many other things I don't. I don't show up 10 minutes early to a meeting and just sit there and wait because I have so many other things that I need to be doing in that time, whereas I know some people they plan their whole day around a couple main things to be on time, and I respect that, because being on time is very important. I'm not playing this game of. It's not important. That's not what I'm saying is very important. I'm not playing this game of. It's not important. That's not what I'm saying. What I am saying is I have had that moment in the past where I think to myself okay, well, that person's always on time, but really think about their day-to-day in comparison, what else do they have to do today? Okay, well, not really that much. So they're just kind of sitting there waiting. Now, does that devalue the fact that they're on time? Yes, am I comparing to me in maybe an unfair way? Yes, but I also ask myself this question of would they be on time if they were in my life, if they had to do what I have to do today, what I've decided to do today, would they be on time? And the answer is definitely not.

Speaker 2 8:10

So how do you live in this paradoxical duality of? Here's my weakness it's because of a strength. So, for example, a strength for you is implement quick. As soon as you get a new awareness, you implement really, really quick. You implement really fast, but you don't exactly set up the train tracks for long-term, sustainable success. The other people that you're mentioning, nicole and Jerrianne I can guarantee you they are more organized than you, but I can also guarantee you that they don't implement as quickly as you, from my perspective. So this paradoxical situation and Jerrianne and Nicole, please don't be offended.

Speaker 2 8:44

The point I'm making is Kev's real good at starting stuff. I'm talking good. The moment he has an idea, he wants to implement it and I've never seen someone so quick to implement. You decided to have a podcast and had all the equipment and recorded within a day and a half.

Speaker 1 9:00

I don't know if it was a day and a half. I had to order on Amazon. It was within a week. For sure, within a week.

Speaker 2 9:04

That is a level of execution, wasn't it two-day shipping.

Speaker 1 9:10

I don't know. This was in 2000.

Speaker 2 9:11

This was 2017, dog I don't know what Amazon was like back then. Amazon, I don't know Dog, I don't know what Amazon was doing back, then it was quick, I was doing I don't know.

Speaker 1 9:22

well, the other thing is I remember it felt really quick. Maybe not well, I might have been yeah, I might have been traveling for work, so I wouldn't have had access to the stuff if even if, did you get shipped to my house?

Speaker 2 9:29

I just don't know I don't want to so within a week, within a week, I think that's fair. Yeah, a lot of people take months and months, and months to get the perfect name, perfect logo, perfect equipment, that kind of stuff, and I'm not making wrong, I tended to be on that end too. It took me a long, much longer time than Kev to set up my train tracks for my YouTube channel, my Conversations Change Lives podcast. So every strength comes with an inherent weakness, and so I think you need to look at both Look at your weaknesses and think of what's the strength underneath this. What's the strength that maybe I'm taking for granted?

Speaker 2 10:07

If you're very confident, you also have a weakness of being overconfident. If you're extremely, extremely, extremely effective with your time, maybe you're not on time often because you're trying to maximize every second of every day. If you are really good at implementing things and taking action and doing tasks, maybe you're not quite as good at consistency or organization or whatever. It is Okay. So layer one is here's the weakness, and I'm defensive and I don't want to admit that. I have that weakness, all right. How do we move past that? You own it. This is a weakness.

Speaker 2 10:40

Number two is layer two. This is my weakness and I don't know if I can change it. If you were to say, alan, you can never be late again, I would say BS, brother, there's no way. There's no way. I have back-to-backs, I don't have a buffer, I need to go to the bathroom. I was late to a podcast by two minutes the other day and I said I'm so sorry I'm late. I just got off a coaching session. I had to go to the bathroom. They're like oh, no worries. I don't even know if I want to live in a world where I can't have two minutes of wiggle room.

Speaker 2 11:11

And again, that's a choice, and then there's another layer of do you even want to change it? You?

Owning your weaknesses and strengths

Speaker 1 11:25

and I same say I I think there was a time where we're a holistic podcast and I I was afraid people would think that meant that we're as holistic with diet as we are with everything else. And I like certain foods, same, not all. I'm not gonna have it every night, but 20 of the time I will have food. That's probably not great for me yeah, and that's a weakness.

Speaker 2 11:48

I would say that's a weakness, but that's okay because that comes with the strength of we're on point with a lot of other stuff. It's also convenient and fast and cheap.

Speaker 2 11:58

But there's some strengths that come with it. Everything is pros and cons, and so anyone who takes that one sliver of your life and then judges you based on that is just not seeing the whole you, and I think it takes a lot of strength and a lot of courage to lean into that. So even this episode us acknowledging our weaknesses let's not make it about us, let's make it about the listeners. What is the weakness? That either you're afraid to admit, or you've already admitted, or maybe you don't think you can change it, or you don't want to change it, and that's kind of the thesis and why?

Speaker 1 12:26

why are you afraid to admit it? If you are, is it because you don't think you can change it is because you haven't fully owned it yet? Is it because? What does this mean about me? If this is a weakness, I think that's a really important fact, because I've been disorganized since the very beginning and I think in the beginning it meant to me something different than it means now. I don't know what it means to me now.

Speaker 1 12:53

Now it means I kind of like mayhem. I kind of do. I kind of like chaos. I like sending an audio message and pacing around and then sending three more audio messages and coming back into the office for five minutes and going back out. I like that at times, maybe more than other people do. I don't know. I don't like things to be super sparkly all the time. I kind of like disorganized chaos. But I can obviously take that too far. So I think that depends. I think all of that depends on who you are and the results you're looking for.

Embracing imperfections

Speaker 1 13:29

But my question would be why are you afraid to admit what your weaknesses are? Have you not owned them yet? Do you feel like it's something about you? If you have a certain weakness, it means something about you and admitting it is going to hurt your self-esteem worse. I think that's one of the hard things about admitting weaknesses is, if you don't feel good about yourself, it makes you feel worse about yourself. It's not like you're looking at. Here are the 75 things that you're doing amazingly, and here's the one thing that you're weak at, so it offsets. I think for a lot of us it gets to the point where if you don't feel like you're doing anything well, you're not going to want to admit your weaknesses. You have a breakthrough over there.

Speaker 2 14:09

Yeah, I just was thinking to myself is it possible to have a strength without a weakness?

Speaker 1 14:17

Is it possible to have a strength without a weakness? I don't know. I mean, if you can run really fast, what's the weakness? Can't run for long periods.

Speaker 2 14:33

Yeah, potentially, potentially, if you're really, really. I mean, think of the strongest bodybuilder. Are they ever going to be a marathoner? No, probably not. No, think of the best marathoner. Are they ever going to outlift you know, bench 350 pounds? No way.

Speaker 1 14:54

Yeah, probably not.

Speaker 2 14:56

It's fair, every strength comes with a massive weakness. That is just another iteration of that, because it's not like that's the first time I've come to that realization, but I just had a moment where it hit different does a weakness come with a strength, though?

Speaker 2 15:16

yeah, every time, every time, every time. You just have to find it. That's hit different lately. One of my clients I'm thinking about. She is so present, so emotionally mature, such high energy, so positive, so go with the flow, and that all sounds like strengths, but she doesn't track her finances until she started coaching with me. That comes with a weakness I'm not go with the flow. Can you imagine I'm not go with the flow? Fun, playful, go with the flow. No, but I'm. I'm extremely structured, organized, rational. The yin and yang symbol denotes denotes masculine and feminine, order and chaos.

Speaker 1 16:13

I know I knew you were gonna laugh at that I say these words sometimes and I wonder what, if you didn't call yourself out, I wouldn't know.

Speaker 2 16:20

Oh, of course I do that on purpose, because I think it's hilarious, because that is my honest. In my head it's like denotes okay. So masculine, feminine, order and chaos. You are chaos, I'm order. We work well together and then we switch in certain things. That's what.

Speaker 2 16:40

What it is Yin and Yang, emilia and I, she. I am way more. She's way more efficient than I am. I'm more effective than she is. This is so interesting. I am way better at doing one thing really well. She can multitask up a storm, way better than I can. She can knock down a list of 12 things. I can get four of them done with excellence. And it's not like she's doing those things without excellence, but there's levels. Every single strength comes with a weakness and every single weakness comes with a strength. I am convinced of that. And being holistic comes with a strength. I am convinced of that. And and being holistic, talk about a somewhat losing game. You can do it, but it is a little bit of a losing game it's definitely harder gonna be can you imagine me being like a go with the flow, enjoy yourself, present moment person?

Speaker 2 17:37

well, do you want to be, though? No, I I don't think it would be me, I don't think I'd be myself. It doesn't mean I can never be like that. I'm that every saturday night, when the week's over, I'm very playful, I have a great night, but I can't spend 90 of my time there. Who I really am, who I really aspire to be, my natural inclination is to be very structured. I don't like being a mess Dude. My fingernails are clipped, my hair's done, I have a nice shirt, watch, and I don't like anything being astray. I'm very we call it OCE.

Speaker 1 18:13

Well, I've noticed that. I've noticed that about you.

Whoever you are, be that...

Speaker 2 18:15

We call it OCE at NLU Obsessive Compulsive Excellence Some people don't have that and OCE at NLU obsessive compulsive excellence Some people don't have that, and that's okay. They're probably a lot more fun at a party than I am. The only time I could ever shut that off is when I was drinking and then it came right back the next day after the hangover. But whoever you are, be that and surround yourself with complimentary people. We said this before. Last thing I'll share on this episode Kevin and I have common core aspirations. We are aiming towards the same mission. We have common core values and we have common core beliefs, but we have complementary skill sets. We complement each other.

Speaker 2 19:01

He is not an engineer, mathematical, rational thinker. It doesn't mean he can't think rationally, Just like I am not a artist, creator, go with the flow, comfortable in chaos, implement now, worry about it later type of person, but it doesn't mean I can't do that. Sometimes it's almost like you can visit and you can be a tourist, but you can't move in. The only place you can live is who you really are, and I think all of us would be better off if we owned who we are, loved ourselves for that and then surrounded ourselves with people who compliment us how do you figure out and this is a hypothetical question how do you figure out whether it's a net win or net loss, like, yes, I'm disorganized for sure, but I don't know if I've ever lost anything?

Speaker 2 19:58

we've needed you have, but you don't know it because you don't know if I've ever lost anything we've needed. You have, but you don't know it because you don't know it's. And vice versa, though. Seriously think about how much I've lost by not being go with the flow.

Speaker 1 20:13

Well, I mean lost as in documents not opportunities.

Speaker 2 20:17

Oh, oh.

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Speaker 1 20:19

Specific relics of business? No, I don't think so. Obviously other things, but I'm just thinking to myself. Would I rather be more organized and less take an idea and run with it? No, definitely not. I like this side of it. I like this side. It's almost. I like this side. It's almost like oh yeah, you're really fast and you might strain your hamstring, or you're really fast and you don't have the highest cardiovascular system, so you have to work on that, but you're still really fast. I like that. Strong and flexible. I'd rather be strong first and then flexible second. I'd rather be fast first and then. But it depends. It really depends on what you're going for.

Speaker 2 21:14

And then the question, kev, is do you get to choose that? I don't know. You have to deal with the repercussions of that choice. So I chose to be a bodybuilder, but that's not my natural inclination. Emilia and I went running saturday. We we went to the backfield because the track was taken and she was hilarious, she was playful, she was running and she said catch me. And it was hilarious because she's five'3" and I have these giraffe legs. So it was very cute. But I had that moment of, if anything, you'd be a sprinter and she's almost as strong as me. In the gym she's so jacked, but running it would never be close it would be so silly, did you do a?

Speaker 2 21:54

mile. Can you do a time mile?

Speaker 1 21:56

Not yet I'm curious yeah, I am too. I said do you think I can do a 630?

Speaker 2 22:02

I said that to her she said yeah, no problem, I I am curious, I will, I will soon I'm excited. Video didn't happen video or it didn't happen okay I'll send you a screenshot that the one that I did in canva edit it.

Speaker 1 22:16

Four minutes and 18 seconds, wow no, no 328.

Speaker 2 22:20

Yeah, it's pretty good. So for long pause, dramatic I. I think one of the biggest weaknesses that I have is holistic, and I think it also is a huge strength. I do I. I think that's an L and a W. Long term, being holistic, it's almost like a decathlon. You ever do a decathlon?

Speaker 1 22:47

No, all right For anyone who ran a track. Shame on you for thinking I have. Have you ever?

Speaker 2 22:53

seen one you ever seen a? Decathlon Also no, all right. Decathlon is, I think, a good metaphor. Ten.

Speaker 1 22:59

All right, decathlon is, I think, a good metaphor.

Speaker 2 23:01

Ten things yeah, so you have a timed mile. You do the shot put, the discus, you do the javelin, you do 100 meter. Again, I don't know the exact ones, but a decathlon is kind of who's the best well-rounded athlete and the shot putters are usually not great at long distance running. The long distance runners usually suck at the shot put. Dude, I think I've spent the last nine years trying to be the best decathloner in leadership, business, communication, you and I both health, wealth, life and love. How many people are really really good at all? Four of those very, very yeah.

Speaker 1 23:39

Less and less, the better and better you get. Yeah, for sure, and even me. I was looking at pictures from my past of fitness. I'm nowhere near where I used to be, I know.

Speaker 2 23:52

Same.

Speaker 1 23:52

That's the hardest one. Everything else gets better over time. Fitness, it has not trended that way.

Improve and work with it

Speaker 2 24:05

I know, unfortunately. Well, yeah, fitness it has not trended that way. I know, unfortunately, well owning your weaknesses, no matter what, is going to help you, and maybe there's a strength that comes with that weakness that you want to double down on, and I guess it's a duality you have to. Okay, kev, you're unorganized, I'm late. Are we going to change that or are we going to work with it? And I think it's both. I think we're going to both improve and work with it and, ironically, if we don't work with it, we won't improve it, whereas if you were, that's it, alan, I'm not working with you anymore for that. Okay, worst idea ever. And that's me saying well, kev, if you don't get organized, none of this would be a thing.

Speaker 1 24:52

Yeah.

Speaker 2 24:52

What a mistake that would be. So you can't take someone's one weakness and hold it against them when you love all the strengths that come with it.

Speaker 1 24:59

Well and I think you figure out your own way too. That's one of the lessons I've had from working with you for so long is a lot of the stuff that you've taught me and you've helped me implement has worked really, really well for me. There's other stuff that you do that I just don't want to do and I don't want to do it the way you do it. It just doesn't work. The same for me, like the whiteboard thing. I have a whiteboard, I can touch it. It's right here. There's my whiteboard. I don't even have it turned, so it's facing me because it it doesn't do this. It's not the same as having something on my desk where I can write on it. It's just not the same for me because it's one more. It's like, okay, check whiteboard, then check notebook, then check peak performance tracker. Now it's just I. It's like, okay, check whiteboard, then check notebook, then check peak performance tracker. Now it's just, I have an all-encompassing notebook on my desk that gets everything that needs to get done. That's been a game changer for me, an absolute game changer.

Speaker 1 25:53

Saturday I didn't have any calls. I woke up at. I think I got up at six because Taryn left at five and I just went through and hammered tasks and it was awesome, just erasing them as I go. Awesome, call this, do this, blah, blah, do this. It was awesome, but it was never the same if it was on the whiteboard for me.

Speaker 1 26:13

So, I think that's another thing too, is organization? Just an example might look different for me than it does. Alan being on time might look different for me than it does. Alan being on time might look different for me than it does. Alan. There's a piece of me and it stresses me out, but I kind of like it. I like being back to back to back and not being able to go to the bathroom. I kind of like it because I want to be on time. It's like I'll pee after Again. That's maybe a weird thing, I don't know, but I like that. I like saying to the host hey, I have to be off at the top of the hour. I did that the other day. The host said how long do you have? And I said I have until 1 pm Eastern Standard Time. He's like that's when we can finish. I said I just need a minute, so get me off at 11.59 or I was on the next meeting. Perfect, I like that.

Speaker 2 26:57

Last question Sure, what do you say to someone? This is a little depressing of an episode. What do you say to someone where the results they want in life are not in alignment with their natural inclinations?

Natural inclinations

Speaker 1 27:19

I don't know. That's a tough one, because, because the last thing you ever want to do is tear someone's dream down, but the other, the second to last thing you ever want to do is delude someone into trying to do something that they're never going to slash, wouldn't be happy doing. I think you be very, very honest, regardless of yourself and depending on what your relationship so for me, I told I have told clients that they should quit their podcast. Quite the opposite of as a podcast coach who's making money should do. I don't care, I want you to do what's right for you. This is what I've started saying recently. I used to do what was best for the business, the person. I'm talking to someone, not us. I used to do what was best for the business. Then I started to do what was best for the podcast. Now I do what's best for the person. I don't care what's best for the business. I don't care what's best for the podcast, because if it's not what's best for the person, it's not best for either of those.

Speaker 1 28:22

And it's not going to matter.

Speaker 2 28:24

Because you're not going to matter long term.

Speaker 1 28:26

No, so it's that it's really maybe you're under a level of delusion that this is the right thing for you, based on what I've seen, not because I don't believe in you. If anything, it's because I don't think you actually want it bad enough to do what it takes, or it's so far out of character for you that you're not going to do it for long enough anyway, and even if you did get the result, I think you'd regret the sustaining of that result, the best and the deepest, hardest one.

Speaker 2 28:59

Very last thing is I've talked about this iceberg a lot, this digital asset that I created and it's helped me a ton. At the very bottom of the iceberg, the underneath the surface, the deepest layer, is potential. Not everyone has the potential yeah that's the hardest thing. Is you being disorganized, right? Do you have the ability? If you could spend the rest of your life trying to be as organized as me? But you would have to. It's easier for me because it's natural for me yeah you see what I mean?

Speaker 1 29:32

well, I should put 80 of my time into getting more better at just doing things quickly and then put 20 of my time into being more organized, exactly and double down with someone who. Yeah, it's hard that that this whole conversation is hard because it's it's so dependent on who you are and what the strength is and what you want, and does the strength lend to what you want?

Speaker 2 29:54

It's a challenge for sure distance runner than me and I could work 100 of my time and effort to be stronger than you, and both of us are going to lose eventually if the other person even puts in minimal effort. Yeah, you and I ran that mile and you nearly died. Even though you're athletic, it's just not gonna. I'm being playful, you didn't know I felt like I was gonna do.

Understanding potential

Speaker 2 30:28

You fell to the ground, for sure, but we all have national. But here's the thing I still want to be a bodybuilder. I've chosen in advance to be a bodybuilder anyway, even though I know I'm a lanky, tall, ectomorphic guy. I am making that choice knowing I I've always known kev, from the moment we started lifting together that I'm gonna have to put in three times at the effort and 10 times the intelligence to be as jacked as you, and that's okay. That's okay. But I'm making that choice knowing that. And so, now that I'm on the other end of this, if you want to start a business, you want to achieve a dream, you want to track habits and be organized and consistent, I can help you with that as a coach, but you're never going to necessarily do that on your own accord. That's real humility is saying you know what. Organization is not a strength. So let me hire a coach to help me stay organized, because that's what I've been for you for seven years.

Speaker 1 31:24

I've just helped you stay on the train tracks and redesign the train tracks and you've helped me implement things I never would have done dude, seriously, you've been the train tracks in a lot of ways, not, I mean, I've gotten more organized, but I don't really have to be that organized because you're so organized. Yeah, just like you don't really have to implement as fast as I do because I'll always do it. I want to do it. Yep, I don't not want to do it, I would rather do it. I would rather say let me implement that for you and get it running, and then we'll figure it out from there.

Speaker 2 31:55

NLPS and NLSM wouldn't exist if you didn't do that. That's fair, but the whole company as a whole wouldn't exist if I didn't create train tracks that are sustainable long-term. So yin and yang and owning your weaknesses will help you tremendously. Surround yourself with the right people and love who you really are.

Speaker 1 32:18

I like that. And last last, last, last last thing If you're going to admit your weaknesses, make sure you admit your strengths. Give yourself credit for the strengths. If you're going to give yourself credit even if it feels like negative credit for the weaknesses. If you are looking for a group of amazing humans and you're looking for a place where you can be yourself, you can be authentically you, you can get positive content every single day. Yes, we have the podcast, obviously, but we also have a private Facebook group, Next Level Nation. We'll have the link in the show notes Also.

Speaker 1 32:45

Next Level group coaching round 15 starts on July 7th or 9th I will get it right eventually 9th at 5 pm Eastern Standard Time. So we are moving back in. I mean an hour earlier. Our meetup, our group coaching, that's it, just those two, because book clubs on Saturday it stays the same. So Alan and I are kind of changing up our window, our service window. So group coaching will start at 5 for the next round. Everything this round is staying the same. And then the first meetup that will be affected by that is Thursday June. Please hold 6th. Thursday June 6th. Thursday June 6th. Our next meetup will be at 5 pm Eastern Standard Time. So a lot of stuff going on. We'll have the link in the show notes for all that stuff Tomorrow.

Speaker 1 33:37

Alan Jeffrey Lazarus for episode number 1,700. Wow, wow, 1,700. Wow. Every change starts in the imagination. I watched a movie from 1980 on Sunday. That's how my weekend went, so we're going to talk a little bit about the lessons. It was airplane, so it wasn't like a I don't know, maybe a dumb movie. I guess that is a dumb movie.

Speaker 1 34:03

It's a good movie, but that's the movie I watched, so we're going to talk about that in tomorrow's episode, as always, we love you, we appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you, and at NLU we don't have fans, we have family.

Speaker 2 34:15

We'll talk to you all tomorrow own who you are next up on the nation.