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#1740 - Freestyle Friday

• Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

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In this episode, Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros dive deep into the essence of self-worth, success, and positivity. This discussion sheds light on various personal growth and development aspects, revealing the often overlooked factors contributing to a fulfilling life. Tune in for a heartfelt and informative discussion that will resonate with anyone striving to balance personal passions, relationships, and professional ambitions.

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Show notes:
(4:44) The benefits of nostalgia
(5:34) Discovering your partner’s music preferences
(8:03) Balancing relationships and personal goals
(10:15) The struggle to achieve success in multiple areas
(13:04) Sleep and productivity
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Speaker 1

Next Level Nation. Welcome back to another episode of Next Level University, where we help you level up your life, your love, your health and your wealth. We hope you enjoyed yesterday's episode, episode number 1739. There's a reason they say don't meet your heroes. Al and I were talking after that episode and we wanted the takeaway to be that you very well may be more positive more what's the word you usually use like?

Speaker 2

I would just, I would say you're a, you're a better human being than you think okay the people that you look up to and admire that you might think have things that you don't, I think when it comes to skill sets or success or perception or status, that might be true, but what I hope our community understands is you're probably a more wonderful human being than you think in comparison.

Speaker 1

Well said Okay. Perfect, perfect, thank you we wanted to add that that is my truth we didn't. We didn't add that in the previous episode today. Reps number 1740 the lights are off if you're on youtube and that means it's freestyle friday. So we are. This is a very legitimate freestyle friday because I have nothing prepped, nothing planned, nothing at all.

Speaker 2

I have one more thing that I think is super powerful.

Speaker 2

Involving I find you know I've been talking a ton about paradox and duality. Yes, first it was duality that I think that was like last year, and then this year has been paradox Reading a book the Eight eight paradoxes of leadership. But to my original point about the community behind the scenes, like there might be these heroes or these people that have status, success, things that you want, things that you envy, and maybe they do have some skills or whatever that you don't have. That's fair, quantum abilities. You name it. I mean, everyone's different, but you're most likely a more well rounded, wonderful human being than those people.

Speaker 2

99 times out of 100 from what I. That is my truth, having studied the quote-unquote successful people of the world rich, famous, blah, blah, blah and having studied our community deeply, global community and you know what's ironic and paradoxical about that is that I think our community not all of our community, but a lot of our community similar to you and I, kev, have struggled with self-worth, and what I find fascinating from a scientific perspective and by scientific I mean just observing is the people who Christina wouldn't mind me using her as an example like Christina, is so concerned about being toxic. That's why she's the least toxic person ever. And so, christina, I think, on some level, level questions whether or not she's a good person, which ironically, paradoxically, is why she's such a good person, versus the people who think they're such good people, a lot of times they're really not, and that's been fascinating.

Speaker 1

So that's, that's what came up for me okay, I don't know if I have anything on that. That's what came up for me. Okay, I don't know if I have anything on that. You know, what I was thinking of, based on yesterday so yesterday as Sunday, because we're recording this on Monday was nostalgia and what I don't know. There's always something about getting nostalgic for me that I feel is super beneficial. Like I was early, I was going to be early to your place yesterday, so alan lives in the town that we grew up in and usually when I go down to alan's, I usually leave a little bit earlier and then I drive around the town because something happens and I was listening to the same songs that I was listening to back when I lived in uxbridge.

Speaker 2

Look at this photograph.

Speaker 1

No, no, nickelback.

Speaker 2

Every time I do it makes me laugh. That's a jam.

Speaker 1

Nothing against Nickelback, I'm a fan.

Speaker 2

Creed too. People hate on.

Speaker 1

Creed. I think Creed's one of the best rock bands of all time, so get off of it.

The benefits of nostalgia

Speaker 2

I never realized how much I enjoy rock because I've been listening to alternative rock and my workouts. I go in phases of rap versus rock for working out and I've been in a big rock phase, particularly 90s and early 2000s, and Emilia doesn't like rock that much, which I didn't learn until it's a little. We're five years into our relationship and she's like yeah, you know, I don't like rock and I'm like you don't like rock. And then here's and again, again side tangent, we'll make this land I love classic rock. The reason why is my mom and stepdad always played classic rock. I mean 70s, early 80s classic rock. I know some of our listeners amy, amy lenius, she's, she's on the nlu team. She adores classic rock.

Discovering your partner's music preferences

Speaker 2

That's what we were jamming out to when we were fishing for last year's Next Level Live event and I said, oh no, no, I didn't know you didn't like rock. I thought it was just classic rock you didn't like. She's like all rock. And I'm like what do you mean? So this was like a real moment for us. It's like what about alternative punk rock? What? What about alternative punk rock? What about heavy metal? What about right? And I realized, oh, okay, so you're. That's one thing that I didn't realize you don't like rock and I. And then I thought about it a little more, because we don't talk about music ever, Emilia and I like never. Uh, and I realized, yeah, she never listens, she never listens to rocks. I didn't realize how much I love rock because it wasn't until I saw that she didn't, that I was like whoa, that's not good, Because I love it, I love it.

Speaker 1

So dude, even the. What does she listen to?

Speaker 2

Everything else.

Speaker 1

Everything except for rock.

Speaker 2

Yeah, everything except for rock. Yeah, that was just a you know. So you've been with Taryn for six or seven years um no five so emilia and I, in october will be five.

Speaker 1

So taryn and I was five in when we were in scotland.

Speaker 2

It was five, five years okay so well that you guys are starting based on the second time you not from when you first met, because when you first met was a year prior to that, or whatever right no, it was many.

Speaker 1

So you've. I've known taryn since 2000, 17, 18, 17 yeah 17 2017 yeah, yeah, so you've. You've known her for seven or eight, I think, yeah yeah, I've known her, but then you, we've been date, we've been together for five yep, got it okay anyways.

Balancing relationships and personal goals

Speaker 2

One thing that I know a lot of people in long-term relationships will resonate with is there are certain things that you learn where it's the. I can't believe I didn't connect that before. That makes perfect sense. So Emilia adores the morning and I adore the evening, and we had a moment recently, so silly it's like okay, if we want our relationship to be magnificent, all I have to do is protect the morning and the evening, which I have not been doing a good job. Usually it's either the evening or the morning, because if we get to bed early and the evening sucks, in my opinion, where we don't enjoy ourselves all the things, then because, like, if we really take the evening and really enjoy it I'm talking date night we're going to wake up late because we want to get good sleep, but then the next day the morning is where she. So she loves the and adores slow mornings is what we call them where we don't have to get up and immediately go to work. We get to actually see the pets and enjoy each other and cuddle and whatever right, and all this stuff. Whereas I love like at the end of the evening I'm completely done and want to just r and r and all of the quality time, physical touch, everything. So breakthrough moment recently. It was okay. So all I have to do is protect the mornings and the evenings and then I have full permission for lack of better phrasing.

Speaker 2

Because for me and again I know this will resonate with the listeners success is, I think, being successful and in love is very hard, because we coach couples and a lot of times what happens is we help them with their dreams and their goals and then the next call they're crushing their dreams and their goals but they are not connected and there's totally a cycle with that. It's either you're crushing your goals and dreams or you're madly in love. Almost never is it both. It's very hard to sustain both. So I'm coming off a chapter of big business.

Speaker 2

So last week was I told Kev, this yesterday was the most I've ever put on the court in my career. So if we're just looking at the career and business bucket, last week was the most I've ever put out on the court. But my relationship was taking away some time and effort from my relationship and so being in love I think is easy. Being successful I also think is easy. Doing them both simultaneously is nearly impossible, and I know some people won't resonate with that because they don't think either of those things are necessarily easy. But for you, I think, being in love feels easy and being successful feels hard. So I know it depends for everybody, but I just want everyone to know being in shape, being in love and being successful all three is like I'm not kidding, I'm someone who typically thinks things are easy, that it's ridiculously difficult, it's ridiculously difficult.

The struggle to achieve success in multiple areas

Speaker 1

Yeah, they're all. I don't want to say full-time jobs, I don't mean it like that, but yeah kind of are if yeah, yeah for sure. It's hard to. It's hard to have a, it's hard to have a relationship that's only three hours a day, you know, like it doesn't. It doesn't necessarily work, depending on what the people in the relationship value. And then fitness it's like an hour a day for fitness just isn't that much time. Like exercise, weigh yourself, drink enough water, eat the right food, cook the right food.

Speaker 1

Mobility an hour is just not that much time. And then business. I mean eight hours is great, but that's not enough. It's not is great, but that's not enough.

Speaker 2

It's not enough. Depending it's not enough, especially not in the beginning.

Speaker 1

That's how I feel right now. I woke up, I got up today, I got up at six. I get up at six every day and it's not enough time. I don't have enough time. I go to the gym at eight, so I have like an hour and a half before I go to the gym and it's like, yeah, I'd really love to do like a 25-minute yoga session. No, not going to happen. Yep, no way. So yeah, I understand, but that's why it's so valuable. It's so valuable because it's rare and I've been saying that for a minute. So we switched our schedules from we were doing 11 am to 7 pm, so you could book an 11 am, 12, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6. And we'd finish at 7. But the team call would go to 7.30. The meetup we do a call after the meetup, we'll go to 7.30.

Speaker 2

At least because sometimes the meetups go long, right yeah, group coaching at least 7, 30.

Speaker 1

And then I I told alan I was like dude I this is killing me because if I want to get up at five and the eight, hours of sleep thing, yes, yeah, and again, this is not kevin and I just just complaining. This is us well I think this is a human struggle. I think this is a human struggle.

Speaker 2

We're venting about this in an effort to understand it, so that we can align with it, and and I want everyone to feel seen, heard and valued and understood that it is easy to be successful at one thing. I think, think I do. I think that's actually really easy. That's why I was a pro gamer like semi-pro for anyone of my past friends, oh well, you weren't really. It's like listen, I don't care what you guys say, I was 20th in the world at this game. Okay, whatever, bungienet, I have a screenshot. I don't. I should have taken one. Um, I just hate when people reach out. Well, technically, it's like can you just shut up?

Speaker 1

right.

Speaker 2

But anyway. So I was a semi-pro gamer. You said pro. You know it's like oh my God, Get it life right. Okay, so I was a semi-pro gamer. I was really good at one game. That's all I did. I didn't have friends outside of Halo, so Halo 2 was my game.

Speaker 2

We have a conscious couple that loves their gamers. Shout out to them if you're listening, Big fan. And they're like wait a minute, what If you find someone who values Halo and you say you were 20th on Team Deathmatch and Bungienet? Most people don't know what I'm talking about. They're like it's so interesting. They're like wait what? And I was like yeah, and Emilia was like yeah, and emilia was like the heck is happening right now. You know you were neil ultima. You know it wasn't that, but it's funny.

Speaker 2

But the point is is it's not hard to get good at one thing. It's seriously not like and again, for me, maybe that's weird, but it's really really, really unreasonably, super, insanely difficult to be well-roundedly excellent in many different areas. It is alarmingly difficult. And I told Emilia if I'm, if you and I are not 10 out of 10, I'm not going to be okay with pursuing excellence in other things. Like for me, for you. I think it's the opposite. I think as long as you have success financially, I feel like you think your relationship will be great. I feel like as long as my relationship is great, I'll be financially successful. It's like an interesting thing. Go ahead.

Speaker 1

Well, the quality time thing, it's doesn't matter how much money I have, that will not buy me more quality time, necessarily, yeah, but if you do have the money you, you will feel like you can buy back your time to have quality time and to go on trips and that kind of stuff.

Speaker 1

Yeah, yeah, yeah. The reason it was super hard is because we were working until 7.30 and I was going to bed at 9. And if I wanted to get eight hours of sleep, I'd have to go to bed at 9 because I was getting up at 5.

Speaker 2

And that's why it was really challenging. Let's go through it. So let me ask you so what are the, what are the essentials for a fulfilled, holistic, successful life?

Speaker 1

I think it depends on the person always. I'll always throw that out there. I think it depends on the person. The essentials like you gotta figure eight hours of sleep right yeah, yeah, I would say, I would say eight hours of sleep. Yeah, even though it sucks and it used to be cool, it used to sound cool to say like I only got four hours of sleep.

Speaker 2

That's not good it's not, it's not great. I can send you a ted talk if anyone wants to know, right that. I think that's super important well, there goes a third of your life right there. Yes, that's.

Speaker 1

I think that's a really challenging thing, and I don't know this was a really challenging thing for me is sleep never felt productive. Sleep never felt productive. It's like, well, I'd rather just get six hours than to get two more hours of work.

Speaker 2

Yeah.

Speaker 1

I still deal with that. I will choose I will get up early instead of getting in hours.

Speaker 2

I don't sleep in hours, I don't sleep in, I don't have enough time.

Speaker 1

If I sleep in, I don't have enough time.

Speaker 2

Brandon's been having that struggle too because he's been researching the sleep stuff and he's like he's like you in a lot of ways. Actually we've figured that over the years but he has a really hard time not feeling lazy when he sleeps in. But your testosterone levels are higher. You're healthier, your hormones. I know Amy could talk about that. Amy on the team, I don't like to. Sometimes I talk about the team, like everyone knows these people. I understand that.

Speaker 2

But the eight hours of sleep, it doesn't have to be eight necessarily. I mean I got I'm looking at it right now. I got time in bed nine hours eight minutes Total sleep eight hours 17 minutes. Sleep efficiency 91% Resting heart rate 42 beats per minute, 85, and it says optimal. So according to Aura, I am optimal. My timing was a little off, but everything else is in the green and the timing is just when you go to bed, cause I go to bed a little late and email and I were talking late too, but like. So I slept until 9, 27 AM and again, that's like I said I can't, let's say, my first calls at 10 with you. Luckily it was with you, I. You. I said, hey, man, we need 10, 30, end up getting in here at 10 40, but I don't want to get up and immediately go to work.

Speaker 2

yeah, but I also don't want to go to bed the moment I'm done working I know, I know yeah, and so this is just a challenge I know everyone will resonate with, because there's just not enough time.

Speaker 1

As an adult, yeah and that's not counting all the other adult things. The thing I'm struggling with is I do get, I get up and I come into the office. That's the first thing I do. I wake up, I go pee and then I come into the office and I start working. There is no like wind up time because I don't feel like I have enough time and I don't want to get up any early. It has been amazing Working until 6, and again, sometimes it's 6.30, but working until 6 and then having until 10 pm. I feel like every night is a vacation. It's amazing. I love it. I love it because I can eat dinner at like 6.30. If I eat dinner too close to bed, I sound like an old man, an old geriatric fellow, but I don't sleep well because I'm digesting food.

Speaker 2

That used to not bother me. Did you get your warm milk? I need some warm milk before I go to bed. My milk of magnesia.

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Speaker 1

So that's a whole thing, but I think that that is the journey, right? If you're a dream chaser? If I don't get my belly rubs, I do need my belly rubs and my my kitty snugs. If, if you're a dream chaser and you have the ability to facilitate your own schedule in some way, shape or form, it almost is like you switch to something new and then you either see all of the benefits or all of the detriments.

Speaker 2

I think you see the detriments first. Dude, the benefits of sleep are so long term. This is one of the core reasons why people don't, I think, stick with things. I'm convinced of this. The benefit, the trade-off, the pain of the trade-off comes right now. The benefits don't come until way later, so most people quit before they actually see the compounded benefits.

Managing time effectively as an adult

Speaker 2

I mean, dude, investing money was brutal, dude, I saw no. So, for context, when I was in my early 20s, I just decided to become very wealthy and I know that sounds really arrogant, but whatever. So I was making tons of money and I wasn't. I didn't have a home, I didn't have a mortgage, my rent was half with Courtney, 450 bucks. I just had a lot coming. I bought a $5,000 Volkswagen Passat. That ended up saving my life In a car accident, which I'm grateful for. So thank you, volkswagen For making such safe German engineered cars. But I remember I just was like, all right, I'm going to be wealthy now, I'm just going to try to get wealthy. And so I just invested all my money and I mean like all of it there was. I mean I probably had, I was making 125. Then I got a huge bump when I went to outside sales. So I was making almost 200. And I was doing a referral program where I was bringing all my colleagues from Worcester Polytechnic Institute into the company I was working for and they had a bomb referral program. It was huge bonuses for this referral program because normally they'd have to pay recruiters and so they just paid the internal employees, team members of I don't like employee, but team members and so I just I made so much money, at least for an early 20s person, for someone in their early 20s. I was doing very well. Now my point of all that is I invested in a Vanguard account different index funds and tech companies that I knew had a high probability to succeed long-term and I ended up eventually with 150 grand in this investment portfolio. And if anyone ever wants you know advice on finance and all that, please reach out. I'm technically going to have to be a coach, not a fiduciary or financial advisor, I'm just going to business coach because legally I'm not a fiduciary licensed, but anyway, anyways. So my point of all that is all that investment didn't pay off at all until a couple years in.

Investment in time and money for long-term benefits

Speaker 2

Like think about it, you invest 10 grand into an investment account. You don't see any benefit, but you immediately feel the 10 grand less. I mean, think about it. What can you do with 10 grand? Okay, that's one less vacation. That's one less. New car, at least the down payment. Right, that's one less, I don't know. That's 50 less date nights or whatever, right, and this is back then too. So money, you know, 10 grand was more back then, but as if we aren't 80 years old here, uh well, inflation back in my day. So at the end of the day, you feel all the pain up front and none of the benefits. It wasn't until later, when we became entrepreneurs and I had to liquidate all my assets. When you saw, you saw the benefits Kev used to joke about me being on YouTube on the beach and doing fitness modeling, fitness competitions, fitness motivational videos, inspiration, motivation, education and you saw all the benefits, thinking that's what entrepreneurship is. That was the payday of me liquidating all my assets I didn't have to work a lie?

Speaker 2

well, I didn't I didn't have to work, I had more than enough money in the bank. Every time I didn't, I would just go sell my stocks and I would just have another 20 grand Cool, all right, like another 20 grand, and then they would grow in tandem. So then it was okay, nice. And then eventually I went broke. I went all the way past zero, yeah, but that's the problem with habits and with success and with life is that the benefits don't come till later. The pain comes immediately, and maybe not pain, but the trade-off, the downside, comes immediately, and maybe not pain, but the trade-off, the downside, comes immediately.

Speaker 1

Yeah Well, see, I'm lucky because when we started this, I was valuing time at night more, so I started seeing that immediately. So the downside it's still the downside isn't that bad. It's enough time to get what I need to get done in terms of business. I just wish I could do a more, and I'll get there. I'll get there in time as I optimize more.

Speaker 1

But I miss the days where I would put on some sort of yoga thing and I'd listen to a book. Like I don't do that right now. I just feel too all over the place. I'm just bouncing from thing to thing to thing to thing, to email, to whatsapp message, blah, blah, blah. Again, all privilege, pressure. This is what I signed up for. I'm grateful. I'd rather do this than than a lot of the other things I've done in the past.

The order of importance

Speaker 1

But if you're out there feeling that right now, whatever your own unique version of that is, sometimes it means something has to change. Other times it means time just has to elapse before you figure it out, and I think that's why it's so hard to stick with things, because you don't know necessarily. What does that mean? I mean, I have to get up at 5.30. Do I need an extra half hour? No, not necessarily. Could I buy myself back a half hour by being more productive and focused in the morning? Probably Right. Could I just do mobility first thing when I wake up? Sure Does that. This is my ultimate thought. This is the ultimate thought. It's the order of importance Right now. It's business first, then Kevin's fitness second. So I'm always going to do the business thing first and then I'll get whatever the leftovers are. Yeah, but there's seasons of that. I think there's been times in the past where it was Kevin's fitness for sure.

Speaker 2

We talk about the tripod and the health, wealth, love. It's almost like wealth right now. Lately, for both of us, has been getting the top priority. Yes, and by wealth we mean success, business team growing, the business growing, podcast, speaking, training, coaching, and. But I don't want emilia to feel like she's getting scraps, right but but. But there are seasons where that needs to be the case, particularly if your goals require that.

Speaker 2

So I talked to to Amelia. I said if, if we want to get a new place because she wants to move away from winter, then we, then I need the permission to sometimes have it feel like scraps because I'm coaching so many people right now, which I'm so grateful for, but I need permission to go do that because you're either focused more on your goals or you're focused more on the experience. You're either focused more on results or you're focused on the experience, and this is something you and I have not talked about almost at all. That, I think, is we probably used to talk about it way back, and I think kevin and I are going through a nostalgic phase in general where we're looking back at the beginning and we had a lot of things figured out that we didn't realize and we had a lot of things that we didn't have figured out at all, and one of the things we realize yeah, one of the yeah, exactly that we didn't realize.

Speaker 2

One of the things we did have figured out, I'm convinced of it is we talked about attitude more often. We talked about gratitude and attitude all the time. And I was in chipotle yesterday, so kevin and I did the next Foundation and then after that we went and we fished a little bit. Emilia picked me up on the way home from her parents' lake house and then we went to Chipotle and got two nights worth of meals. And in Chipotle I'm always observing, I'm always number one where's this company at? Are they growing or not? Where's this one particular company at? This one is the one you know, this one. This is the one near the studio back in the day that I used to go to all the time. It was so nostalgic too.

Speaker 2

I'm driving through the studio, we drove past the studio and we drove past the hotel I used to frequent and we drove past the Chipotle that I used to get all the time. I remember I would get the same meal every night in the studio when I was just there for ridiculous amounts of hours, especially on the weekends during the summer, but anyways. So I go in there and I'm seeing are they increasing or decreasing? What's their revenue? Are their employees happy? I'm always trying to look at what the team looks like. Who's the manager, all that stuff. I'm just observing emails in the bathroom and I'm waiting in line. So why not think about business?

Speaker 2

And I saw this one guy who is just miserable and he was. He was over in the corner, actually near near the bathroom, and he was eating his lunch. It was father's day and you could tell he was just so upset to be there on father's day. And I remember thinking and then I got in line and I started working with and this one dude was the happiest, the, his attitude was so positive. And I remember thinking the, the business owner of this franchise, is going to promote this guy. How could you not? He was so happy. He met you with a big smile. He, he was, went over above and beyond. We waited for white rice because they were out and he gave me extra, which I really appreciate. He saw I was a bodybuilder and it was like I'm telling you I'll go back there all day, every day, for that guy should we do an episode on it?

Speaker 1

you want to do an episode on it? I would love to attitude.

Speaker 2

Yeah, the the other guy, who's miserable, is just not going to get promoted. So here's the cycles that I'm talking about here. It's almost like the kid in the corner has a bad attitude, probably because he doesn't like his job, and then the bad attitude is going to make him not get promoted, which is going to what? Make him not like his job even more, and then that's going to leak into an even worse attitude and that's the doom loop, that's the downward destructive spiral Versus this other kid. And I say kid, like how old are we man?

Speaker 1

It's like this guy's in his early. I don't know if I say kid as much as you do.

Adding more value...

Speaker 2

He's in his early 20s, so in my opinion it's like he's kind of like a child now in our old geriatric years. I'm obviously joking, but anyway, bariatric years, I'm obviously joking, uh, but anyway. So so this other person has a great attitude, is more likely to get promoted and when he's promoted he's more like to likely to not only get paid more so it's more worth it but he's also going to like his job more because he has more perks, responsibilities, whatever pay, and then that's going to make him what have an even better attitude. People say to themselves well, I'll have a better attitude when I have a better job. No, that's flipped. Get a better attitude and you'll have a better job.

Speaker 2

Christina's attitude on the NLU team is literally the best. It's okay. What do you need? What can I do? How can I help? How can I support? It's like who, who isn't going to want Christina? Like, what company on earth doesn't need people like that? To me it's just so obvious. Maybe that's not obvious to everybody, but if you find a way to add more value with a positive attitude and work hard, you are like 90 of the way to your dreams, if you just can stay consistent well, we'll do an episode on that tomorrow.

Speaker 1

We already had one, but I've moved it down. We'll just do. We'll do an episode tomorrow on attitude, because I I resonate with that a lot, because a lot of the opportunities that I got were not based on talent or skill. Most of the opportunities I got were not based on talent or skill.

Speaker 2

Attitude and work ethic. That's what it was.

Speaker 1

We'll talk at length about that tomorrow. Love it, you dig it, mm-hmm. Anything you want to say before we go?

Speaker 2

That was Freestyle Friday. I think that was great. It went a lot of different directions.

Speaker 1

It's Freestyle Friday. I think that was great. It went a lot of different directions.

Speaker 2

It's Freestyle Friday when the lights are off you don't know what we're going to talk about.

Speaker 1

You know what I mean.

Speaker 2

I wasn't sure where you were going with that one.

Speaker 1

I was going to say it and then I was like that's going to sound pretty sexual if I say when the lights are off, you never know what's going to? Happen, so I'm going to go away.

Speaker 2

try to keep it pg-13 so a quick synopsis punk rock punk rock.

Speaker 1

Know what your partner likes to listen to? Nostalgia, nostalgia. We didn't even touch on it. We touched on it quickly and then we went in a different direction. I had some fire lined up for nostalgia. Maybe we'll do that in the future. Uh, maybe next. Freestyle friday, chipotle stocks habits are hard because they take long. Positive habits are hard because they take so long sleep testosterone yeah, we talk about a lot of stuff yeah, holistic having it all holistic success, fulfillment. Yeah, I think that's a Freestyle Friday in a nutshell, right there that's good stuff.

Speaker 1

I dig it. Next Level Nation. If you are into Freestyle Friday and all things Next Level, please leave us a review on your platform of choice and make sure you subscribe on whatever you're listening to or watching us on, so you never miss an opportunity to get to the next level. And, as always, we have a private facebook group called next level nation, where we have a link in the show notes what do you got, alan?

Speaker 2

uh, so the? I hate when I use filler words like that. Ah, how many times did I do that per episode? Okay, millions book club, we're closing it. So when is this dropping?

Speaker 1

So this is Sunday, saturday, saturday this is Saturday. This is Friday, cause this is Friday.

Speaker 2

It's free stuff, right? What a silly question then. So tomorrow your answer, silly answer. The answer was worth worse than the question was. Honestly, tomorrow if you're listening to this on the day it drops friday tomorrow is our first book club with the new book and it looks like right now 40 of the votes have gone to same as ever by morgan housel, which is the same author as the psychology of money, so apparently that was a high hitter. That's great. And if you have not yet voted, please click the link in the show notes to join next level nation. It's pinned to the very top and you can vote for boat.

Speaker 2

Wow, you can vote for one of these five books indistractable by nir yale. Identity shift by anthony truck. Same as ever by morgan household. Peak performance by steve magnus and brad stillberg. And thinking in bets by Bets by Annie Duke. We've got some fire comments coming through. Thinking in Bets was one of the best books I've ever read. 10 out of 10 suggest this one. I honestly don't like to vote in this, lol. I don't think I would have picked any of the books that I've gotten so much out of. That's fair. Fair changed my vote a few times before I locked in. Oh no, I don't know what to pick. Too many options, hmm, easily distracted, hmm, so indistractable, I guess. Yeah, so go in there, pick what you want to read, and uh, you do not have to have been in book club in the past, you do not have to commit to the entire book, just please vote, and uh, the entire book club community will, will benefit next level books with next level people, strong one as always.

Speaker 1

We love you, we appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you and at NLU, we don't have fans, we have family. We will talk to you all tomorrow.

Speaker 2

Talk to you soon.

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