#1755 - Sometimes Consistency Feels Impossible

How do you stay motivated and consistent when everything around you slows down? In today’s episode, hosts Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros tackle the challenges of staying committed to your goals, especially during tempting summer and holiday seasons. They explore the often-missed aspects of keeping your drive strong when you feel like relaxing. Whether working through a holiday or pushing towards personal goals, this episode offers helpful tips to keep you inspired and focused.

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Show notes:
(2:00) Feeling the summer slump
(3:36) Importance of consistency, featuring Bianca and Emilia
(6:31) Overcoming struggles in podcasting and business
(9:57) Next Level Dreamliner: the planner, agenda, journal, and habit tracker to rule them all. Get a copy: https://a.co/d/f1FWAQA
(11:04) Consistency in relationships and personal goals
(13:18) The purpose of success
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🎙️ Hosted by Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

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Transcript

Speaker 1 0:00

Next Level Nation. Welcome back to another episode of Next Level University, where we help you level up your life, your love, your health and your wealth. Today, for episode number 1,755,. Sometimes consistency feels impossible, so we're recording this on July 3rd, so tomorrow, the 4th of July, independence Day in the US is a very, very big holiday and a lot of people are having barbecues. I just got off with a client who said yeah, I'm having 14 people over to the new house. We're going to be partying, living it up. I said have a blast, I hope it's wonderful. And Alan and I were talking We've been talking over the last few weeks about how, in the summer, people tend to slow down and few weeks about how, in the summer, people tend to slow down.

Speaker 1 0:45

And I texted alan today because alan said somebody, somebody canceled the call and he said it's summer's always a frustrating time and I said I can. I told I said this to taryn today. I said it's. It's very challenging for me to stay consistent and this is my truth. I had a moment today where I was like I don't want to do anything Because I can feel the energy of the world. I know that sounds. I'm a wizard. I'm just a wizard.

Speaker 2 1:11

It's not. No, I tend to. I do know what you're saying. Yeah, you can feel. I think a lot of people can. I don't know if that's fair.

Speaker 1 1:22

Yes, and right now it's the 3rd of July. I'm a wizard too. You're a wizard, Harry. I think that's something that was said in that movie. It is At some point.

Speaker 2 1:31

I've heard enough through the grapevine A thumping good one, I reckon as well, once you're trained up a bit.

Feeling the summer slump

Speaker 1 1:37

Okay, same, hagrid Hagrid, whatever your name is, hagrid Hagrid, you can feel the energy of the world, and when you can feel the energy of the world as a wizard, of course I wanted to take today off. I didn't want to work. Seriously, it's going to be 82 degrees out. Taryn's going to Vermont Thursday Sorry, friday morning and I'm staying here working. I'll be working on the 4th of July. I'm giving a speech to Evan's group on the 4th of July, nice, virtually, and then we have a meetup and I have a coaching call with two humans that would never miss because of a holiday Evolve Ventures, nice. Of course they're not going to miss on the 4th of July.

Speaker 2 2:22

Bianca and Amelia do not miss.

Speaker 1 2:25

Super consistent. They're not going to miss on the 4th of July. Bianca and Emilia do not miss. But there was super consistent and that's what we're talking about today. We're talking about consistency. But I had that moment where I was like everybody else is taking time and I can feel that energetically and I think that's a reason why consistency is so important, because everybody else is doing it, why shouldn't I do it?

Importance of consistency, featuring Bianca and Emilia

Speaker 2 2:43

And it's really hard it why shouldn't I do it? And it's really hard, it's really hard. I think we should shout B and Emilia out, because I think they're a great example of what can happen when you are consistent. I saw their post earlier today. I was posting. We got a really awesome testimonial. Shout out to Charlie. She gave us this awesome three minute long testimonial for group coaching. That was just ah, wonderful. Thank you so much, and I posted that today. So usually when I go to post I will see other posts, and one of the ones that came up, bianca, posted something along the lines of their 300 episode and I know it wasn't recent. This was someone commented, so it got back, put back on the top of the feed and I just had this moment of like. You guys are are awesome. You guys are magnificent, because I remember when they started the why power podcast why you do what you do and you and I were like the third interview or something. I remember we were in chairs in the studio.

Speaker 1 3:41

You were hungover that day? Yeah, you were. Hey, you still showed up, though, and this is about consistency so you were consistent.

Speaker 2 3:50

You weren't at your best, but you were consistent that's fair and I've been coaching them for a long time.

Speaker 2 3:57

Obviously, emilia and I are wildly in love and I she's my coach, I'm her coach and we're pillow coaches we we joke about that and they basically are their acorn, their, their keystone, their through line, their theme, their purpose, their calling, their passion, their one thing that they never strayed from is mental health in general. So b Bianca's a clinician. Emilia is doing trauma certifications right now and she's been studying this stuff since she was 12, which is also why I've transformed so much since meeting her and she's the one who encouraged me to get a therapist, all that stuff. So, anyways, I recently was on a call with B. B just jumped, so B Bianca just jumped to weekly coaching and we've been just getting after it and I just had this moment earlier today of they are super, super consistent and the truth of the matter is they have between the two of them I think they have, if you don't include bianca's clinic that she works for between the two of them, I think they have 30 clients. If you do include the clinic, I want to say it's like 70 or 80 between the two of them. It's just unbelievable.

Speaker 2 5:07

And we meet podcasters all the time, right and a lot of them aren't winning, quote unquote, particularly on the finance side. It's not easy to build wealth with the podcast, despite what some courses tell you. Yes, and they just aren't really doing a very good job. And I told b I said I'm very proud of, for despite all of your pendulum swings in the last five years in this case, evolve Ventures was technically born three and a half to four years ago. They're like four years in I'm really proud of how you've never strayed from your main through line. So, you and I, holistic self-improvement is our main thing. Self-improvement, success and fulfillment is kind of what everything we do is. Yeah, the vehicle changes. Sometimes it's podcast coaching, sometimes it's business coaching, sometimes it's mindset, sometimes it's a community or group coaching, but underneath it all it's improve yourself, be more successful, be more fulfilled. I mean, ultimately that's what it is. And mental health we I don't want to say we're bad at, but we're not as good as they are- because, it's.

Overcoming struggles in podcasting and business

Speaker 2 6:09

We're just not as focused on it, right, and we're not clinicians, so we're more coaching success. There are more clinicians, mental health and we both do both, obviously, but I'm very proud of them. And ultimately, we meet a lot of podcasters, and a lot of podcasters really struggle to generate revenue, and I understand why we did too, but they've done a great job and the reason why, underneath it all, it really comes down to I just watch the way they work. B is extremely consistent. I've coached her for five years now and she just crushes consistency over and over and over again, and Emilia is the most consistent human I've ever met, other than me. As scary as this is to say, it would be me.

Speaker 2 6:53

When I first met Emilia, that was one of the only things that I feel like I was. There's a couple of things I was very much ahead of her on. One of them was focus and consistency, but from the moment we lived together brother to now, she does not miss a goddamn thing dude ever, and it's unbelievable. And the truth is is a lot of people want their success. They want to start their own thing, they want to be their own boss. Their success they want to start their own thing, they want to be their own boss, they want to start a podcast and and succeed and have a community. But the truth is I don't think you really can. It's it's almost like kevin and I coach bianca and emilia. He coaches them on the podcast side, I coach them on the business side. We kind of know they're gonna win it's, it's, they'll never stop.

Speaker 1 7:31

Yeah, you know why consistency is so hard. If you asked Bianca and Emilia on a scale of one to 10, how much do you feel like they're winning? They would say one or two, probably. I know, yeah, and that's why consistency is so hard, because even when you get certain results, you don't feel like you're getting any results. This is Alan loves the word paradox. This is a paradox.

Speaker 1 7:51

The day we crossed a million listens and a million dollars in the business, I felt very little because I'm already looking at the next goal. And I had a call with a client that day and I said you know what's interesting? There are a ton of people who are aspiring to get to where we get to, and I was aspiring to get to where we got to for the vast majority of the time. The second it happened, the clock shifted and it was the next goal. That's why consistency is so hard, because you're probably not doing it for a specific result and when you get the specific result, you have to maintain the specific result. We're doing the 10 pound in 10 week challenge and I was talking to Matt last night and I said my thought behind doing this was I'm going to cut to 165 pounds.

Speaker 2 8:42

Did you tell him you can see your abs for the first time in six months?

Speaker 1 8:46

I did tell him it was happening and Matt just got engaged and he was like dude, I got to get my S together. I am going to cut to 165 pounds, which is really lean for me 165 pounds I'm going to be very lean, but it's going to suck to get there. Then I'm going to focus on bulking to 170 pounds, gaining muscle, and then when I cut back down to 165, I should have more muscle and look a little bit better. The reason I want to do that is because I know if I just work consistently for the 10 weeks to lose the 10 pounds and then I fall off track, I'm going to have to do the 10 pound and 10 week challenge again in six months because I'm going to break free of the consistency which might happen.

Speaker 2 9:33

It's not, I can't, I won't let it happen, Not this time, not this happen. It's not, I can't, I won't let it happen not this time.

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Speaker 1 9:36

No, I can't. Well, it's. It's very reasonable to think it would, because it's happened every other time. But that's another reason consistency is so hard. It's not like when you get to the top of the mountain it stops. When you get to the top of the mountain, you still have to do whatever it takes to stay on top of that mountain, which is usually at least, if not more, consistency than it took you to get to the top of the mountain in the first place. And that's why it's so hard. Now you get better and you're able to collapse time in some things. But that's one of the reasons consistency is so hard Because, yeah, maybe you want to lose the weight or get the relationship or whatever it is, but I've had to be more consistent as a husband after I was married than before, Before.

Speaker 1 10:26

When you're dating it's easy. It's not that hard in comparison. But when you live with someone, you have a household with someone and you're legally married and there's repercussions of the amount of money you make and bills and cats. If you're watching or listening, you have children. I'm not negating what it's like to have children. I don't have children, so I can only speak to cats but you have to be more consistent afterwards than you did in the beginning. And that and that's it's weird success is elusive. For a reason it has to be, because if it wasn't elusive, it wouldn't be considered success.

Consistency in relationships and personal goals

Speaker 1 11:02

I'm going to try to articulate this you have six minutes I know so this is going to be a 15 minute episode. I was supposed to say that in the beginning, but we just went off to the races I don't know if I've ever gotten this to fully land.

Speaker 2 11:16

I watched my first youtube video every ever with someone earlier today who's scared to start their channel, and I just realized how everyone's in this same sort of boat of well, I don't have enough certainty to take action, but yet you won't have enough certainty until after you take action. So what's the small thing? So remember how you reached out to somebody and you said zero to 10, how scary would it be to post a video on social media of you speaking into the camera? And then you said zero to 10, how scary would it be to send it to me if I promised not to send it to anyone? And they said that's within my comfort zone, that's good, that's a five. I think it was like zero, five, 10. I don't have time. But the point is I did that with someone today. I said just send it to me. And she was very scared. I totally understand. I said you're never going to be less scared than you are right now. She's like well, I don't feel ready, you never will, and that's another episode altogether. But when you reach a new level of success, that next level pun intended, nothing gets easier. That's why Bianca and Emilia don't feel like they're winning Because they're playing a bigger game.

The purpose of success

Speaker 2 12:34

Now, yeah, and I do believe that the purpose of success is not to get success, as weird as that sounds it's. It's to make meaningful progress, to improve the quality of your life and to grow and contribute beyond yourself. Success is achieving a specific goal, but the moment you achieve that specific goal. I was on earlier with another NLU team member who, quite frankly, has achieved many of her dreams through the success of NLU A lot of her dreams, and not only through the success of NLU, by the way, person, if you're listening, I know it's not just been us, but we've been a big part of it in the last couple of years. That's understandable and wonderful, but now what? And the now what? Feeling only comes after you achieve whatever that thing is. So the listens million dollars. Now what? I purposely chose an infinite game that's unachievable, so that I never have the now what moment? I'm not saying everyone should do that. I think it's a duality. I think you have to set this massive infinite game, mission, purpose calling, and then set little tiny milestones, small goals along the way that are achievable in order to be fulfilled. And I think that it's. It's really important that everyone understands that consistency is a byproduct of commitment toward meaningful goals and the moment the meaningful goal goes, you better believe consistency is done.

Speaker 2 14:04

Dude, I want to beat my old best in fitness and that's a hell of a climb. Yesterday I had a moment I was like whoa Emilia emilia mentioned. She said you look so cut and I sent a picture to the 10 pound and 10 week challenge. I feel like that's a good picture of me and I have I. I now say I have.

Speaker 2 14:20

I hit a pr yesterday, and when I say pr I mean a new pr since covid, and then I injured myself and was out of the gym and all this stuff. So I'm going from a new mountain, but I'm trying to. I haven't given up on bettering my best. Naturally, no steroids, no drugs. I want to surpass my old best and I think it's going to take me like seven more years of commitment to even get to a place where I could. I'm still going for it. And here's the thing Even if I don't get there, I'll be consistent at hydration, sleep, nutrition, training, mobility, breathwork, supplementation. I'll be a better Alan, even if I don't get there. And consistency is a byproduct of meaningful goals, I think, and the moment those go, I think, you just lose the necessity to be consistent.

Speaker 1 15:07

I would agree. I would agree with all that and I think that landed probably better than it ever has. Last thing, before we go there have been times where Taryn and I would plan like a date day and we'd drive an hour, or we'd drive an hour and a half to a place and it would be closed and Taryn would say, babe, I'm so sorry, you drove all the way here for nothing. And I've never once been mad about that, like it's good, don't worry about it. Did good, don't worry about it, did you have? I mean, we wanted to have a good time, this was the plan, don't worry about it.

Commitment toward meaningful goals

Speaker 1 15:33

I think it's very similar. I don't really care about the outcome, I care about the fact that this is what you wanted to do. And there you go, it's all good, don't worry about it, it's not, it's not a big deal. So this is one of those detached from outcome kind of situations, but it's a very dangerous one because obviously you want the outcome. But it's a very dangerous one because obviously you want the outcome, but it's a whole thing. Maybe at some point we'll do an episode on detached from the outcome and what that means now to you versus what it once did.

Speaker 2 15:58

I would love that he would love that. Yeah because I now understand it at a much deeper level. I used to reject that completely, and now I understand the value of it.

Speaker 1 16:06

Always learning, always growing and and always hypocrites, because we're saying things and then learning later. Not hypocrites in a bad way, but I know, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 16:17

How dare you All right, we got to go.

Speaker 1 16:18

Group coaching starts Tuesday. As always, we love you, we appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you and at NLU, we don't have fans, we have family. We will talk to you all tomorrow.

Speaker 2 16:27

Stay consistent for fulfillment.