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#1803 - If It’s Not Sustainable… It Wont Work - Freestyle Friday

• Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

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Why do so many people not stay consistent? In this episode, Kevin and Alan dive into the importance of starting from a place of sustainability, whether in your health, relationships, quality of life, or career, and how to build from there. Learn practical tips for setting achievable goals, avoiding burnout, and understanding which areas of your life need the most focus right now. Join us to discover how to make meaningful progress without sacrificing your well-being.

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Show notes:
(2:27) Sustainability, consistency, and improvement
(4:50) Green, yellow, red
(8:09) Health, wealth, and love
(12:19) The relationship between quality of life and fulfillment
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(18:27) The challenge of excelling in multiple life areas
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Speaker 1

Next Level Nation. Welcome back to another episode of Next Level University, where we help you level up your life, your love, your health and your wealth. Today, for episode number 1,803, it's Freestyle Friday, so we've talked about this before, alan, but I feel like there's a new wrinkle in an understanding that we had before. I was on with a wonderful human today Shout out to Josh. I did a podcast breakthrough session with him, a young, ambitious human just trying to get after it in life, and obviously we've taken very similar paths in the world and in life, because he's going to school to get a physics degree, and that is something that I also did not do. I didn't really do that. No, I was talking to him about sustainability. Consistency and improvement is what I was talking to him about today, and there was a moment where he said how do I do something in one bucket of sustainability but in the other bucket of growth or improvement? So just just for the, the NLU community, who may not have heard, that, anytime you're doing something new, you have to start from a place of sustainability. So we'll use podcasting as an example, because it's just the easiest one. I want somebody to start with what is sustainable for them. Is it one episode a week? Is it one episode every other week? Is it one episode a month? Cool. What is the technology that's sustainable for you? Is it solo episodes? Is it guest episodes? Awesome, cool. What is sustainable for you? All right.

Speaker 1

Then, when it goes from a place of sustainability where you know you can do it, then we have to focus on let's do it consistently. Let's make sure whatever we're doing we're doing consistently Cool. We know it's sustainable. Now let's do it consistently. Then, as we do something consistently enough, we want to make sure we're improving every time we can. But it's very hard to improve something that you don't know if it's sustainable yet.

Sustainability, consistency, and improvement

Speaker 1

And the analogy I used with this young man today was it that you don't know if it's sustainable yet. And the analogy I used with this young man today was it's almost like around New Year's, people say I'm going to start going to the gym, and then they go buy new clothes, new water bottles, new pre-workout, new headphones, and then they figure out oh my goodness, I burnt myself out trying to go to the gym five times a week. I have all this nice stuff, but I didn't do the sustainable thing first. So we were talking about podcasting and he said what's sustainable there? And we had a conversation and then I said, okay, now let's talk about social media, because you also have to do something sustainable on social media, what is sustainable for you?

Speaker 1

And I think it makes sense why a lot of us might feel stuck, because you might be in fitness, starting to do something that's sustainable, and in your relationship you might be doing something that is focused on improvement because it's already sustainable, it's already consistent, and now you're improving. And then in finance, it might be either end of the spectrum you might be way ahead or way behind, and I understand why it's so hard. So I thought it might be an interesting conversation to talk about that, because if you're not starting from a place of sustainability, it doesn't matter how much you can improve, because you might not be doing it long enough. And yeah, that's my thought. That was my thought from the call I had with this gentleman those are three very, very important things.

Speaker 2

I was on with a potential client earlier and they had never yet promoted their podcast on social media and I said, okay, well, let's, we created this little sort of business model. And it was social media leads to the podcast, the podcast leads to a free virtual workshop and the virtual workshop leads to a paid workshop and they do leadership trainings. And I said, let's okay, let's do green, yellow, red I try to keep it as simple as possible. Okay, the podcast you've been doing for a long time and it's sustainable and you've been consistent and it's been improving. That's great. So that's green, green. Check the workshops you've done three of them. So that's yellow. It's kind of rolling, but it's not consistent. So it's sustainable, but it's not consistent.

Green, yellow, red

Speaker 2

And then there was two red x's. The red x was the paid workshops and the social media. And I said there's two kinks in your hose, so to speak. So what we have to do is keep the green and the yellow and we have to work on the reds. And so I said, okay, the next step is let's break down social media. Okay, what's the platform that you think your target demographic is on most? And they said linkedin. I said I agree, awesome, okay. Do you two each want to because they're co-hosts? Do you two each want to do your own personal accounts or do you want to create an account for the business? And I said I recommend personal accounts. As you know, kev, I always, you and I both have our own personal accounts. We don't have an nlu account, right? I think personal brand is the future. That's, that's my truth and I'm glad that we did that because I'm business coach, your podcast coach, so it's actually working out really well. But ultimately they said, okay, personal. I said awesome, okay, so each of you make a LinkedIn account and then figure out who your target demographic is, who your target listener is, and then start posting content for free on LinkedIn consistently for that demographic about the topic that you do workshops on. They said okay, but I didn't say okay, we're going to go do a full makeover Instagram, linkedin, facebook, tiktok, all the. It was just one platform, one post a day, just to get some momentum, and once that becomes sustainable, then we're going to up the ante.

Speaker 2

And I was on with a client earlier today who just got back from Israel shout out to you if you're listening, and she said I'm overwhelmed. I'm struggle bus. I said, listen, you are in the phase right now You've been coaching me for two months Like we have got to dial it back. You're about to fall off, and fall off for good. I can feel it. Let's dial it back. We got to get back to basics. So your system of success, your habits, your train tracks toward, whatever your goals are, it is sustainable first, then consistency, then improvement and unfortunately, with health, wealth and love, being holistic, it's actually really difficult. I was on with a team member earlier and she said I feel successful holistically. I don't feel successful in any one area, and I would say it's very, very, very, very, very difficult, almost impossible, to actually feel successful in all three simultaneously, almost impossible to actually feel successful in all three simultaneously.

Speaker 1

What would you rather? Would you rather feel successful in one or holistically? How do you feel successful?

Speaker 2

holistically, but you don't feel successful in one, just the most. It's almost like you can sustain and be consistent in all three, but you can't really improve all three simultaneously. You can try so, for example, health, wealth and love. Let's you and I do this breakdown real quick. Which one's the one where you're really pushing it? You're, you're upping the ante, you're getting to the next level wealth, nice, same, okay. So, and that's out of necessity. We're both doing that. But the other two are not in coast mode, but they're certainly not 10 out of 10 effort uh, I mean fitness is like 9 out of 10.

Speaker 2

I'm meal prepping every day, making rice every day and then your relationship is probably eight.

Speaker 1

Yeah, I mean, they're the highest. I think they're all the highest they've ever been, so holistically, they're the highest they've ever been.

Health, wealth, and love

Speaker 2

But there's always one that's more of a focus, and this is the definition of a priority too, and this is the hard part about priority. The definition is what is your most important priority? For mine, it's business coaching. That's the most important priority. Nothing on my calendar gets above that Kev. For you, it's podcast coaching, yeah, right. And now, if something were to happen to your wife, taryn, or something were to happen to Emilia, we'd shift priorities and then that would be the priority, but then it would shift back to business coaching and podcast coaching, most likely. And so everyone has to kind of figure out what. What's the one thing I guess, which? So let's do? Health, wealth and love. Health. Are you sustainable in health? Okay, yes or no? Yes, okay. Are you consistent? Yes, okay. Are you improving? No, all right, work on that, yeah, yeah, I think that's really good. So you have health, wealth and love, and then you have is it nine squares?

Speaker 1

Exactly, there's nine squares. And if you're, yeah, if you're maxing out, if you're, it was sustainable. And now you're doing it consistently. And now you're doing it consistently with improvement. Now you jump to the next bucket. Let's do it with you all right health.

Speaker 2

Is it sustainable what you're doing right now?

Speaker 1

here's the interesting thing no, the dieting isn't super sustainable because there's an end, but I'm doing it sustainably, so maybe that's like more of a yes. I can do it to the degree I need to do it in order to accomplish the goal. Yes, okay, nice.

Speaker 2

But long-term. No, yes, very good, all right, are you improving?

Speaker 1

Yes.

Speaker 2

Okay, wealth Is it sustainable? Depends.

Speaker 1

Depends on what purchases we make. Yeah, the effort putting in right now, yes, yes, Okay, is it consistent?

Speaker 2

Yes, is it improving More than ever? Nice, okay, your relationship is it sustainable? Yes, nice Is it consistent, I would say less than the other two right.

Speaker 1

I don't know. I feel like the schedule switch for me. Alan and I switched our schedules recently. It made my life dramatically better. I think it made your, your life dramatically worse, which I do feel bad about. I I do not bad enough to want to go back, even though the schedule that I mean we it's still obviously it's overwhelming. There's a lot going on.

Speaker 2

I think my mic is like moving. I think my mic has been moving. That might be why. That honestly might be why I keep having to touch it.

Speaker 1

I think it's actually slowly like gravity is taking my mic, everyone. These mics are heavy, so it does stuff I have to tighten it. I think right now, health, wealth and love are the highest they've ever been in terms of the process, even disconnected from one another. That means that you're probably the most fulfilled you've ever been. Yeah, I don't know. I don't know if I'd say I'm the most fulfilled I've ever been.

Speaker 2

No.

Speaker 1

No, I'm not the most fulfilled I've ever been.

Speaker 2

Well, that means that your quality of life is probably taking a massive hit. My quality of life is most likely taking a hit. So because you're dialed in in all three of these, Because that's one of the things.

Speaker 1

Maybe that's sorry real quick, maybe that's health, wealth. We don't even say life. That's why life is in there.

Speaker 2

Because life is Ah, that's a great point, that's a great point.

Speaker 1

Life is everything and quality of life, and I never made that connection. I didn't until this moment. That is alarming.

Speaker 2

Yeah, it is. That's alarming. Well, we knew it was.

Speaker 1

We knew that life was encompassing the three other things, but yeah. But in this moment maybe I'm not as fulfilled because my quality of life isn't as high as I was.

Speaker 2

That's not a maybe, that's a definite yeah. I mean yeah Because, honestly, if I say, is this the most fulfilled you've ever been? You would say yes but no, and the but no is because the quality of life is just not really there. Yeah, to the extent that you would like.

Speaker 1

I would say so Again. I get to do this full time and we make a good amount of money doing this and all that. It's just but yeah things. The quality of life has definitely taken a hit over the last year, for sure, 2024 has been alarmingly difficult, yeah it really has been a little bit of a rough year. And shout out to anybody else who it's been a rough year. Just keep going, just keep going, friend keep going, yeah, seasons.

The relationship between quality of life and fulfillment

Speaker 2

I think that one of the valuable takeaways for this freestyle friday is realizing which one put those in order. Put those in order of most importance.

Speaker 1

I know we've never done that I don't think we've ever done that seems very simple.

Speaker 2

Yeah, health, wealth, life and love. And let's call life quality of life. Meaning you, you know, don't have to wake up to an alarm at 6 am every day. You get to actually enjoy your morning, whatever. Whatever quality of life means to you, right, fun, unique experiences, travel, whatever, it is okay. So quality of life, I'm going to define each. So life is quality of life. Meaning self-explanatory health, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health. Wealth how you make your money, in other words, do you enjoy? Is what you do meaningful? It's a better way to put it is what you do meaningful? How much do you earn? Is that increasing or decreasing over time? And then, where do you invest it? And then love, intimate relationship, first, immediate family, friends, colleagues, clients, mentors, mentees, people, the people.

Speaker 1

Before intimate relationship, I would say self-relationship, yeah, yeah, self before intimate yeah, self-love, good call.

Speaker 2

Well, now we know which things I'm neglecting, but yeah, so for you, what's the order of importance? And for the listeners, what's your order of importance? Most importantly, Mine's probably.

Speaker 1

That's so hard. It's wealth first for sure. Well, it might be quality of life.

Speaker 2

Yeah, but your quality of life is completely predicated on whether or not you're winning in wealth.

Speaker 1

Well, I know, but it's the fine line of if you've ever, are you turning your nose up at me?

Speaker 2

No, no, it's an itchy nose. I'm totally kidding.

Speaker 1

When one of the reasons I was so miserable at my old job is because I traded in so many of my core values for wealth.

Speaker 2

Yeah, I traded in quality of life for wealth.

Speaker 1

I know, I know.

Speaker 2

But yeah, but you can't do. Okay, wealth was what An eight, and quality of life was a zero. Well, it's bad, that's not good. Yeah, it wasn't great. That doesn't mean wealth's not first, that's fair. I'm just saying you've got to be very conscious of it. I think it's wealth and again, very self-righteous, tell me about me. I think for you?

Speaker 1

yeah, it's probably wealth. You do know me very well, so.

Speaker 2

I'm not offended. We've spoke, yeah, we've spoken Wealth, life, health and then probably love.

Speaker 1

I don't know, man, man, that's a tough one. It's a tough one. I think I've had seasons where I thought it was supposed to be one and it wasn't really, but they're all. So, no, I, I'm telling you, I, I think health is after love yeah, yeah, if I only had an hour and it was. I could spend it with tyron to go to the gym. I'd spend it with tyron.

Speaker 2

Yeah, that's a great point that actually did happen for quite some time.

Speaker 1

Now that I think about it yeah, one of the reasons I'm so. I feel good because even my quality of life right now, the fact that I finish at six, seven o'clock latest and then I have three hours before bed, is amazing for me, because that's a guaranteed opportunity to connect with tyron every night. Now she's not home every night, she works late sometimes and she's whatever, but that gives me so much certainty. The way my day is set up is I get up at 6 and I have the time to go to the gym and do that stuff and then from 10am until 6pm I'm doing this. It just feels it feels more regimented than it has in the past and it doesn't feel detrimental to have the regiment, because we've tried that before. Oh, we'll do this, didn't work, we were losing. Now I don't feel like that. I feel like we've we've really started to understand the things that mean the most and matter the most and the most important tasks and behaviors and habits and all that.

Speaker 2

I crunched the numbers. Oh, did you a while back? What's a thousand times a thousand times a thousand? Is that a billion? I you think I'm the guy man, is that a? Billion.

Speaker 1

You think I'm the guy man, I think you know it's whatever three, nine zeros is 1,000 times 1,000 times 1,000.

Speaker 2

It doesn't give me the commas Hold on.

Speaker 1

One, one, two, three. Yeah, it's a billion.

Speaker 2

Okay, 1,000 times 1,000 times 1,000 is a billion. So if you want to be top 1,000, and I crushed the numbers on this, yeah, it's a billion. Okay, a thousand times a thousand times a thousand is a billion. So if you want to be top 1,000, and I crunched the numbers on this because I genuinely and again, please, we share ourselves on here, I'm just going to do it. So I do aspire to be one in a thousand in health, wealth and love, and I just realized mathematically, if you add life into into that, no wonder why my quality of life is brutal. Right, look at, if you, if you add wealth in that, you're one in eight billion, you're one. You're the only person to ever do it like. If you are one in a thousand for health, one in a thousand for wealth, one in a thousand for love and one in a thousand for life, that means a thousand times a thousand times a thousand times a thousand. So you thousand, so you're one. In. It says basically I don't know one E to the 12th, it's, it's more, it's you're the only person on the planet.

Speaker 2

I always used to wonder when I was a kid, and this is very vulnerable for me to share. I used to wonder as a kid why there would be a wealthy person who wasn't in shape. Because I, in my head, I would say well, you have the time and you have the money. Because I have a mentor, for example, who's you know multi, multi, multi, multi-millionaire and he has plenty of time. He easily could be in shape if he just put the effort in. And again, maybe easily is probably the wrong term, but he knows he could and I've talked to him about it. Okay, so he totally could. He just doesn't.

The challenge of excelling in multiple life areas

Speaker 2

And I think that, and he's admitted to me, he's like, yeah, I don't really feel like it. So, okay, fine, like to me. It's. Why wouldn't you just do that? It doesn't make any sense. But I also understand holistic is rare, and so now I'm starting to realize I mean, dude, if you want to be one in a hundred, so let's do this One hundred times, one hundred times one hundred times one hundred. And this is how the probability works. You're, if you want to be one out of a hundred, top 1% in health, wealth, life and love. You're one in 10 million. So you're one in 10 million If you, if you can do you don't know, I'm sorry One in a hundred million. You're 1 in 10 million if you can do.

Speaker 1

No, I'm sorry. 1 in 100 million. You're 1 in 100 million.

Speaker 2

Okay, and that's why it's so hard to be holistic. I mean, have you been? I will share this. And again, this is vulnerable to say I do think that certain things come fairly naturally to me, being extremely good at health, wealth, life and love simultaneously.

Speaker 1

I will admit, is unbelievably difficult, it's the hardest thing in the world.

Speaker 2

It's the hardest thing in the world and, as someone who typically feels like a lot of things not all things, but a lot of things do come naturally and easy to me.

Speaker 1

this is honestly, way harder than I thought. I don't know if I had expectations. I don't know. I don't know if I had expectations of what it would. Actually, I didn't have accurate ones, so I was definitely off and it's definitely harder than I thought, for sure.

Speaker 2

Do you think it's possible to be top 1% in love?

Speaker 1

Me physically, me personally yeah.

Speaker 2

Yes, same. I think I'm already there. Okay, same same. Do you think it's top?

Speaker 1

it's possible for you to be top 1% in health. Yes, I think that's very much in my control. Genetics are good. I'm consistent, I have the awareness.

Speaker 2

Okay, agreed, and I know we're afraid of sounding arrogant here.

Speaker 1

Always.

Speaker 2

Do you think it's possible for you to be top 1% in wealth?

Speaker 1

Yeah, I don't know what the number is Like, what is the? What does that even mean Net worth of? But I would say yes.

The journey to Top 1%

Speaker 2

So that would be a net worth of Hold on the top 1% own large portions of major companies investments. What is the top 1% of global wealth? What net worth puts you in?

Speaker 1

the global. Alan loves Google. Alan's on a Google kick so any opportunity to use Google.

Speaker 2

I love stats, Big fan of stats. Okay, you need a net worth of $30 million To be in the top 1% Mm-hmm In the US. It may take you $530 million To be in the top 1%. Mm-hmm Shit In the US. It may take you $5.81 million to be in the top 1%. Okay, so never mind. Nope, sorry, you need to be a net worth of $5.81 million to be in the top 1%, and the US is the largest economy. So, yeah, so you need to be about $6 million.

Speaker 2

Okay, okay, I would say yes, and that's a net worth. By the way, and the way you calculate that. Seriously, that does not mean you have that money in your bank account. It means all your assets minus all your debts, plus your cash on hand. It's a whole thing. Don't worry about it. Okay, so you do believe that's possible, right? Yeah, okay, so, in order to do that, you essentially have to be one in a million.

Speaker 1

I believe it is Probable. I believe it will happen. I don't even believe it's possible.

Speaker 2

I believe it will happen. Well, that's wild, because that means you're basically saying you're going to be one in a million statistically.

Speaker 1

That's what it means.

Speaker 2

One over a hundred times one over a hundred times one over a hundred. Now here's my real point of this If you add one in a hundred in quality of life, do you think it's possible for you to do all those and have a one in a hundred quality of life?

Speaker 1

I think eventually, yeah, yeah but all it was no way. No, no, I think no way. That's the thing about the your, your mentor, is. He went so long without having quality of life that now that's his hundred I know that's the hard thing is that's why you kind of you usually overpour the cup that has been the lowest for so long, in order to get you where you're going Agreed.

Speaker 2

So you and I are kind of doing health, wealth and love and then hoping the quality of life comes later.

Speaker 1

Well, I think the quality of I was able to go to Europe for two weeks. That was wild, and that's quality of life. Yeah, for sure. And that's quality of life yeah, for sure, and that's a privilege. Most people not most, but many people don't get the opportunity to go do that. Yeah, and I didn't have to take, I didn't have to put in for vacation time or use time that I've accumulated. I just said, hey, let's make sure we get all the episodes done.

Speaker 2

I'll do what I do to make sure clients are taken care of. So that's, that's a quality of life that I never necessarily knew I was going to be able to have anyway. So if you are able to achieve that and I do believe you can, I really do that means you're one in a hundred million. Statistically. That is wild, and so I hopefully for the listeners. The point of this is not just numbers and talking about us. I hope everyone understands and I really hope this lands in a new way. Life, love, health and wealth is the hardest thing ever to be good at all. Four of them I mean honestly, my quality of life is the one that's the lowest, for sure.

Speaker 1

For sure. Well, I think an important lesson is where this is important to state. If I wasn't a bodybuilder already and I was starting from, I've never gone to the gym I don't think I would say I could be in one in a hundred, never mind one in a thousand or whatever.

Speaker 2

Agreed, yeah, this is something that's a long-term game, you kind of have to and you almost have to delay, like that mentor.

Speaker 2

You have to delay one of them while you're working on the other one. In a way, I think health, wealth and love is totally doable. It is possible to be one in a million. There's there's eight billion people on the planet. You can be one in a million, but the one in a hundred million, that's a whole nother level and just I hope that this is validating for people, because I don't want anyone to sit there and think that any of this is easy.

Speaker 1

It's ridiculously difficult to do all four of these and you're also going to have a one in a million journey and a one in a hundred million journey when, if you ever feel misunderstood, that's going to be one of the reasons why I don't think that's bad anymore. I don't think being and it's bad if it hurts you, if it creates conflict within you, if it creates emotion within you Maybe it's not constructive. I like being misunderstood Now more than ever. I do, I don't know. I enjoy it. I think I always kind of have. Honestly, I've been weird in that, but I think the upside is.

Speaker 1

You're probably already really good at one of the things. Oh yeah, I'm, I'm a bodybuilder, I'm, I know what I'm doing, so I'm gonna be good. I'll be good there.

Speaker 2

You can put that in coast mode, kind of kind of while you work on the other ones right more than the other ones. Yeah, so for you, the one that's the hardest is wealth.

Speaker 1

For me, the one that's hardest is quality of life, even though that was one I was good at in the past at the detriment of your relationships, though well I know it's. I wasn't good at juggling as effectively as I'm I'm juggling today.

Speaker 2

Such an interesting I didn't realize what we signed up for. I I'm not just saying that, I'm not trying to like oh poor us. I really don't think I understood the math of how hard it was going to be to be top 1% in those four things. I mean no wonder why we're one of the only holistic self-improvement podcasts. I mean there's not a lot of podcasts.

Speaker 1

Well, I think other people's definition of holistic is different than ours. Agreed Holistic is more, whatever it is, living by the land or stuff like that.

Speaker 2

I showed my tracker earlier to two new clients that are potential clients. I showed them your tracker and mine and they were like what? And it was a really good wake-up call for me of yeah, that is kind of nuts, huh. I forget because we do it every day. Whole team tracks habits, all my clients track habits, emilia tracks habits. So I I forget that even even just tracking habits puts you in the top one percent we did an episode oh man, this was a while ago.

Speaker 1

It was something like five habits that will separate you from 99% of people. It doesn't. It's not that we're amazing. I do think we are amazing in our ways. In certain ways, I do. I'll give us that. Give us that. I'm not from a place of ego, but I think we've earned that. We deserve that in some regard.

Embracing and tracking growth

Speaker 1

It's not just that that you're amazing if you're tracking five habits. It's also the fact that a lot of people aren't. And there's a big difference between somebody who is on purpose and intentional and somebody who isn't. And if you're spending 10 minutes a day tracking your five habits, you are freaking crushing it. Even though it might not feel like it, it probably, even though your life, yeah, it might feel worse, it might literally feel worse, but you have to believe that it's going to be worth it. I said this in our group coaching group. I said I sent an audio to the group and because there was just so much love going on and Amy had a connection call and people were so vulnerable, and I said I'm very, very proud of each and every one of you for looking at the things that are scary to look at now but you'll be grateful for eventually, or the things that are scary to look at now but will be rewarding eventually, especially rewarding, and that's kind of growth in a nutshell, and that's why it's so hard.

Speaker 1

Yeah, it is hard, you do the thing, and you do the thing, and you do the thing, and since you're growing, you're actually getting more resistance because you're growing. So the air is different, or whatever. The mountain is more dangerous, or whatever it is.

Speaker 2

The client that I mentioned earlier I think it was this episode that came back from Israel. She said I'm failing, so bad at that. I said you're tracking. You know. You did it three times in the last week while while on the trip right it's. It feels like you're failing. You're actually doing better than you would if you weren't tracking.

Speaker 2

It just feels like you're failing because now you're tracking it yeah, you're still doing the habit more than you would have done before, and that's why I said we gotta can some of these. This is too much, because if you keep feeling like a failure, you're not gonna stick with it, and it's not so easy to lose sight of.

Speaker 1

I know like you're doing 70 of. You're doing 70 more than you used to do, yep, but it's still not 100 of what you want to do. But all you're looking, 70% more than you used to do, yep, but it's still not 100% of what you want to do, but all you're looking at is the 30% that you're quote-unquote failing, when in reality you're actually winning.

Speaker 2

It just doesn't feel good. Yeah yeah, freestyle Friday, that's fire Appreciate it Always my favorite.

Speaker 1

This is always my favorite episode of the week.

Speaker 2

Do you have one final takeaway? Because I have one that I definitely want to do.

Speaker 1

Go Hit it.

Speaker 2

I do think that all of us are naturally better at one of those four Quality of life, health, wealth and love. The person I was talking about earlier shout out to her Quality of life. We don't need to track it. We had R&R on there. She's never missed and she's never gonna miss. And she's like, yeah, I'm, you could see she got up a little. She's like, yeah, I'm, we don't need to track that. We need to track the, the other ones.

Speaker 2

So everyone out there listening or watching, what is the one health, wealth, love or quality of life. What's the one that you're just so damn good at? Emilia and I are not good at all at the quality of life. We will just grind ourselves into a fine pulp and that's okay. But we have to focus on something on the whiteboard called the nucleus, where we have one night a week for each of us and then one night one day a week where we do something special together, because otherwise we'll just work ourselves to the bone and that's a superpower and it comes with a weakness. So everyone, figure out what's the weak one and what's the one that you're really, really naturally focused on. Try to work on the weaker ones if you do want to be holistically fulfilled.

Speaker 1

I would say just my point would be tagging on that what's the measurement for success in each of them? What does it look like for you to? What does the wealth thing look like? What does the health thing look like? What are the results that you're trying to achieve?

Setting goals and measuring success

Speaker 1

I know it can be scary to decide those, but even going back to the previous episode where we talked about identifying as something before it happens, before you become it, setting the goal is most likely going to be beneficial as long as it doesn't overwhelm you and scare the pants off of you. But that's a self-awareness thing. So, just knowing the reason, I know I want to be in the, whatever it is. I don't care what percentage it is, just for the sake of the episode. It's just because I know the numbers in my head that I want. I want to have the best relationship ever. That's my goal. I don't ever want to come across a couple that has a better relationship than Tara and I do Not from a place of ego, but from a place of I feel like we're capable of it.

Speaker 1

That's mostly it. I feel like we're capable of doing it and I want to lead by example, and the better my relationship is, the better lessons I'll be able to add on the podcast and in life.

Speaker 2

It's all good things man, only you aspiring to. That creates only good, for sure, as long as you're not an arrogant dick about it, it's only good things.

Speaker 1

The money thing, I think, is where people can get scared, because just because you're making a lot of money doesn't mean you're doing it in the right way.

Speaker 2

That's a good thing too. The team gets paid more families have more it's, it's a, it's the person, it's the integrity, it's the character. Money doesn't make you.

Speaker 1

It makes you more of who you are. If you're a dick, you're gonna be a dick with money. If you're a kind person, hopefully you'll be a kind person with money. I don't think money changes you that much maybe I think it amplifies, whatever you, are?

Speaker 1

yeah, it's. If you've ever seen somebody who gets changed by money, it's probably because they're very underdeveloped. They're probably young. You've ever seen somebody who gets changed by money? It's probably because they're very underdeveloped, they're probably young. You've ever seen somebody like Macaulay Culkin and a lot of these Justin Bieber? They get a boatload of money. They're children. They do not have the mental capability of understanding what all of this means in the grand scheme of things. Imagine being 18 and the most famous person on the planet. My goodness gracious, I can only imagine what that is like. I would probably be terrible. Not anymore, though. All right, we're gonna go, because we are gonna hammer out another episode for the nlu community.

Speaker 2

I don't think you have to worry about being the most famous person on the planet I yeah.

Speaker 1

No, I don't know, I'm not.

Speaker 2

Doesn't seem to be trending that way yeah, you and I don't have to worry about that that's.

Speaker 1

It's good, because I like to leave the house in pajamas and stuff and I don't want people camping outside my house. I don't think we have to worry, you guys aren't going to get any good pictures of me. All right, as always. Subscribe Excuse me, I can't speak. Subscribe if you haven't, and you want to make sure you get to the next level every single day. As always, we love you.

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