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#1817 - Your Growth Is What Grows Everything Else - Freestyle Friday

• Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

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Do you need help to keep up with personal growth while juggling your busy schedule? In this episode, Kevin and Alan speak about the real-life struggles of staying consistent with self-care, routines, and improvement while chasing big goals. Learn how they handle the complex parts of success, from managing distractions to doing the things they hate most, and discover practical tips that could help you, too!

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Speaker 1

the hard part is making more money. That's the hard part for most people. That's what most people are aspiring to. That's where the dissatisfaction is. This is my current lifestyle. This is the lifestyle I desire. That's why it's so hard to do this.

Speaker 2

Everyone's biggest challenge is that everything you want and love is only sustainable if you do something you hate. I'm convinced of that. Why am I not in better shape? You know the answer I don't diet. I've exercised every day for two and a half years and I don't diet. Welcome to.

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Next Level University, next Level Nation. Welcome back to another episode of Next Level University, where we help you level up your life, your love, your health and your wealth. Today, for episode number 1,817, it's Freestyle Friday and if you're new to NLU, freestyle Friday is an episode where Alan and I turn the lights off and we're a little less serious, a little less profesh.

Speaker 1

And in this case you can see Kevin a little less serious, a little less profesh, and in this case you can see kevin a little less in your. Your window is just my camera is just very different than yours, where my camera is optimized for the studio and the way the lighting is, and when I turn the lights off it just doesn't change. Yours auto changes. I think why what's happening? Your, I think your camera works really well, even in low light. Mine doesn't, because it's not set up that way. I like it. I feel like I'm telling a campfire story but you lost the light uh, yeah, but I honestly like this better.

Speaker 1

I have to look. I have to look at the final product. You know how it goes. I'm the creative here. I gotta, gotta take a look at what the final product is. This is my thought for Freestyle Friday. I had a little. I had a moment of envy towards you.

Speaker 2

Hmm.

Speaker 1

Hmm, shall I disclose more For sure when? So in yesterday's episode, when you said you, you and Emilia have your phones across the house so when you wake up in the morning you don't get bombarded by messages, I had a little piece of me that was jealous of that, because I don't feel and there's a point to this whole thing, hopefully I don't feel like that's good for me, but I also don't feel like the way I'm doing it is good for me either.

Speaker 2

You feel like it's not good for you To have I it's not. I mean, trust me, I grab my phone almost right away, but but it's not. So this morning woke up, went and got my protein Pop-Tart and my protein shake Glass of warm milk as well. No, but it might as well be. The protein shake is delicious. You have them too, the Premier Proteins.

Speaker 1

Quick 30 Gs. Not sponsored by them, but they're great. I make my protein ice cream with these and the ice cream maker.

Speaker 2

Just FYI, one of those plus protein Pop-Tart, that's 50 Gs right in the morning. That's 50 G's right in the morning. It's a good start to the day. I should know that off the top of my head I would say probably, like Probably, 350, 400, 350, 400.

Speaker 1

You're only looking at 240 cals In the protein pop tart. Yeah probably Maybe 280.

Speaker 2

Yeah, probably 280. Yeah, I should know that. I know the g's on the protein. I don't know the the calories that's, that's a tell.

Speaker 2

Right there there's a tell. It's been a little while since I've tracked calories. Normally I know that that's, that's not good, okay, but ultimately that's what I started with. And then I grab my zen book, my little it's like a little mini laptop that I work on and my dream ladder, and then I go over to the couch and I have my little morning routine and I do my mobility, and then Emilia wakes up and we go get the pets and that kind of thing. But I check my phone.

Speaker 1

How fast.

Speaker 2

It depends on the morning. When we have 9 am it's pretty much rush to see if I can take a shower and get to the studio, but in an ideal morning it would be an hour without it. An ideal morning would be an hour without it. Lately that's not the way it is at all. But then sometimes the other thing too. I actually am retaking an insane productivity course that I've taken 50 times probably at this point. But I start my morning with something learning. I try to start my morning with something learning. I do Atomic Habits or whatever book I adore, and or a training course typically, and then usually around as soon as I'm done with my protein and my pop tart, then it's okay, it's time to work, and then I do my dreamliner and then I'll do 20 minutes of whatsapp and email or whatever so it's, after that it's devices.

Speaker 2

So I use my zen book and then I I tap in, I check the other thing too, and again, let's not make this about me, but I do check and you, you'll find yourself doing this all the time. I look at WhatsApp and then I'll scroll through to see if there's anything super urgent.

Speaker 1

Yeah, always.

Speaker 2

And then email same deal. I look at email and see if there's anything super urgent like a reschedule or whatever for a paying client.

Speaker 1

How do you figure out how much of that is constructive? Yeah, I think that's what I'm trying to work through right now. When I wake up, I wake up, go to the kitchen, take off my mouth tape as I take off my armor all the stuff that I wear when I go to sleep. Pretty much Usually, fudge is looking out the window looking at birds. In the morning, nice, at 6 am, he's like hanging out on his window seat. Usually I'll go see him say hello. My phone is usually out in the living room or in the kitchen overnight. I never bring it into the bedroom, so I have my phone essentially from 6.03 on.

Speaker 2

First thing I do is usually check email, probably like 605 well, you and I talked about this earlier you feel like you're not as focused on the self-improvement as much. I do feel that way. Yeah, it's so. I talk about my. I was on with a actually he's from germany and I this podcast. I was concerned. I said do you know, I don't speak German because, like no, no, we want English speaking guests. Like we're good. I was actually on two German shows today, for some reason, I don't know why, and they were. They were awesome, they're really good.

Speaker 2

One of them was a pre-call as a young guy, 21 years old, and he was asking me every question under the sun about how I got here productivity, finance, business, everything, everything, everything. I don't know where I was going with that. Oh, I told him about my routine. The first third is for me. The second third is for service. The third third is for fitness, food and family. That's kind of my daily structure.

Speaker 2

Monday through Saturday is front-facing, sunday is family day, but really, and he asked he said straight up, do you like how much do you work, family day? But really, and he asked he said straight up, do you like how much do you work? And I said honestly, I never used to say this because I was too scared to be unrelatable every single day. I don't think I'll ever not work a day in my life, ever Now. Sometimes it's going to be a couple hours and other times it's going to be the whole effing day. And I, if I do too much of the whole effing day in a row, I do get resentful, I do get Understandable, I call myself a snippy pippy. I I'm not happy, I just am so unfulfilled and just annoyed. And then we talked about venting about that and all that stuff, which also venting just means expressing yourself ultimately, but hopefully in a healthy way.

Speaker 2

But so what's my point of all that? You, the people that I coach? It's supposed to be self first. Everyone has sort of that order of priority Self first, then ideally it would be business and then relationship. For you, I think, and I think lately it's probably been business first. And I feel that way too, quite a bit, because I do get resentful when I can't listen to my books or do my own personal development, even this workbook we joked about it earlier. I got this Atomic Habits workbook and I'm so excited. I joked with Kev I said paid $11.99 for it. You know, tiny tweaks change my life forever and I don't have time. And if, maybe, if I had tiny tweaks, maybe I would have time. It's I'm being playful, but ultimately, when you do grow and scale a business and I know that we sound really negative about it it is very difficult to put yourself first when you have so much responsibility.

Speaker 1

I'm feeling that. I'm feeling that there's a piece of me that I don't. I need to know what's going on. I would feel.

Speaker 2

Irresponsible.

Speaker 1

Yeah, irresponsible. But I feel like I would be so anxious if I didn't know what was going on and then I just went to the gym.

Speaker 2

I just feel, I don't know I I think I would just be nervous is there a way you can do a half an hour morning routine before you touch your phone and and then go to the gym after you check your phone? I'm sure I just if there's fires, I want to put them out immediately 100 and I respect and admire that and I'm grateful and for anyone out there watching or listening, particularly the parents. How do you put yourself first? That's a good episode right there. I mean, dude, honestly, can you?

Importance of putting yourself first and managing responsibilities

Speaker 1

I'm not a parent, nor do I know if I ever will be one, so I don't know.

Speaker 2

I got interviewed earlier by a man named Chris Perry. I don't know if his name is actually Chris Perry. I think Perry might be his middle name. It was his Zoom name, I don't know. But he said, hey, this is so-and-so and it was a different name than what was on Zoom, so maybe that's his middle name. But great show, been on it twice. Awesome dude, you're going on next week.

Speaker 2

He said he listened to the episode we did about what it means to be a real man and he talked about how he wanted to interview me about how proactive I've been at trying to prepare to be a father in advance, cause he has four kids. He didn't prepare to be a father. He didn't know that he was going to be, he didn't even know if he wanted to be, and then he had to figure it all out and so he was. It was really nice, actually, and I said listen, I I don't know if I can do an interview about being a father. I'm not a father, so I can only tell you theoretically what I'm intending on, and I do think that being a good leader and being a great man in general is probably where you should start. And then we went into it. It was really good.

Speaker 2

But for people that are parents out there, people that have households, people that have businesses, people that have pets and kids and family want to be fit goals, dreams, health, wealth, love it's very easy to design a life or fall into a life where you're basically never putting yourself first and that can be something that will eventually implode on you and I've seen that, especially for older people. You can tell when older people didn't take care of the asset. Emilia and I talk about that Take care of the asset, take care of the asset, take care of the asset. And what we mean by that is our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual, particularly physical. A lot of people like if you're not brushing your teeth, if you're, if you're serving so much and so often that you forget to take care of this asset, you're in trouble because that's a losing game.

Speaker 1

Yeah, it's hard, it's hard. It's hard when there's so many other things going on and I'm still going to the gym and I'm getting eight hours of sleep and I'm drinking plenty of water. I have so much water it's not even funny. A lot of it is that I was just telling Alan. I said I just don't feel like I'm doing as much self-improvement as I used to. I feel like I'm having more deep conversations than I ever have, which is great. A lot of them are public-facing because it's this podcast, another podcast, again. Great, it's all great, but it's not. I'm not learning about the stuff that I used to learn about. I know I'm not meditating like I used to, I'm not journaling like I used to, and maybe it's not the season for that.

Speaker 2

Maybe I don't want to say I've outgrown that but maybe it's just not as needed as other things right now. What's the thing that you miss most, that you think? I always ask my clients, what's the thing you know you should be doing, that you know you want?

Speaker 1

to do that you're still not doing, probably just having any morning routine.

Speaker 2

Yeah, you used to have a fire morning routine.

Speaker 1

You used to do ROMWOD. First thing mobility. It was absolutely world class bulletproof, yeah, but I was broke as shit yeah, well, there's got to be a happy medium, right no, I don't know, it depends.

Speaker 1

I think I'm just in that it's very easy to forget what you did last season, because things start to feel normal and when you do something the same way for like a month, that tends to feel like your new normal and then you look back and you have to say how did I used to do this? There's a piece of me in this moment that is thinking. One of the reasons I was so consistent with ROMWOD, which is a mobility thing Bianca introduced me to, I was paying for it. I'm going to do it. If I'm paying for it, I'm not paying for it anymore. Canned it, canned, all of it, got rid of it. That's one of the things. They have a free trial.

Speaker 2

Like the free videos. There's seven free videos. You can use those, but they're not as good as what you were doing probably, of course not. So I think it's a piece of it is finding the right content that I look forward to doing. We don't talk about these fundamentals as much as we used to because I, I don't know, I, I the. But what are the most important things for the self? Like for you. Stop saying like so much for you. What do you get?

Speaker 2

Resentful, and maybe resentful is not the right word, but upset, resentful, whatever, angry, frustrated when you don't do it for me. If I don't listen to personal development in the morning, I'm not happy. I can't stand going out and pouring personal development and self-improvement into other people's lives when I haven't been able to work on my own life at all. Now it doesn't have to be a ton, and lately it hasn't been, quite frankly, and I guess can't stand, is probably harsh. But eventually it gets to the point where I'm helping people with their life more than I'm working on my own.

Speaker 2

I don't want to live a life where I'm helping. It's just not sustainable, because in coaching and I'm very grateful, I have a lot of people that I'm coaching right now, all day, every day. I'm helping people improve their lives, but if I can't implement the stuff in my own life, that's making my own quality of life better my own physical, mental, emotional, spiritual development, my own learning. And then the other piece of it too, kevin, this is something that we don't talk about enough, but it's Freestyle Friday. Let's do it. It's very hard to find content that I consider valuable these days.

Speaker 1

That's fair. Well, I told Taryn this Because I was talking about why going to the podcast conference was that jeffed me because we were digging and trying to explore it and I said I think one of the things is, even if there was stuff there that I wanted to do, we most likely wouldn't do it because it just doesn't fit in the business. So I might hear a thousand ideas that I think are really good ideas, but if it doesn't fit into the way we want to do it, it's not going to happen anyway, so it doesn't really matter the way we want to do it.

Speaker 2

it's not going to happen anyway, so it doesn't really matter. Have you found?

Speaker 1

it difficult to find content that resonates? No, not necessarily. I think I'm way behind, for sure, on the self-improvement, business awareness, that type of stuff. So, no, I've found some Leaf blower's going on outside. I've found some really good stuff that I enjoy, but the problem is it has nothing to do with me. It's not the four tendencies, mindset, seven spiritual laws, whatever I used to listen to. It's not that. It's not about. Okay, I feel stuck here. How do I let me make sure my window's all the way shut? I feel stuck here. How do I break free and break through it's business?

Speaker 1

One of my favorite things to watch is there's this channel called Company man on YouTube. You've probably heard me talk about it and he talks about companies and where they went wrong. So it's like the climb and the fall and the climb again or whatever it is, and I watched one today on KFC and I watched one on what else was it? I watched one on oh GoPro and it was just really cool. It's a really cool channel. I learned so much from those examples. But that doesn't. That has nothing to do with me and my morning routine.

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Speaker 2

Yeah, it's not self-improvement, that it's skill development, it's business, it's success, it's achievement. Hello, hello, hello, nlu listener. Thank, as always, for listening to Next Level University. Real quick. I just want to jump in and let you know about the Next Level Dreamliner.

Speaker 2

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Speaker 2

The goal achievement framework picture goal in the center and then the bottom left is metrics. The upper part of the triangle is habits and the bottom right is identity. Identity is the self, self-improvement, and I think that in in an ideal world, everyone would wake up in the morning and work on themselves first, and then they'd work on their career second, and then, in my opinion, they'd work on their family third. And I just the only reason I put it that way is I think that makes sense from a willpower perspective. It's you're not going to wake up on a Monday morning and then, like, spend the day with the family. It's you're supposed to, supposed to. Again, I put that in quotes. So everyone design your own life.

Speaker 2

But ultimately the unfortunate part about lifestyle design is you kind of have to go with. So, for example, kevin and I, let's say, we wanted to take a Thursday off. We could, but clients aren't, and so you kind of have to go. I remember when I first got into this space it was, oh, I can make my own schedule, not really. Yeah, you can, but you and I have completely fallen into the Monday. I mean, I do Monday through Saturday, you do Monday through Friday, but you also work Saturday mornings. It's not like we're going to not work Mondays when the whole world's working Mondays right? So when you have customers, clients, community, you need to kind of be on their rhythm.

Speaker 2

And so for me, I think, you wake up in the morning, you have a morning routine that is mostly focused on the self self-care. Maybe it's a shower, maybe it's mobility, maybe it's learning, whatever that is. And then you go serve in your career. Whatever your career is, you are in the service of others, no matter what it is. If you're getting paid, you're not getting paid for nothing, you're getting paid for service. And then the last one would be, I think, family, which is your relationships are usually for the evenings and that's where you connect and have dinner with your family or whatever. So emilia and I always have dinner together and I love it. I. To me it doesn't make any other. No, nothing else makes sense. It doesn't make any sense. You. You're not gonna wake up. No one's gonna have like lunch with their family at 11 am when they're also focused on being uh successful in their career.

Speaker 2

And I think that it doesn't mean you can't ever do it. It's just you're not going to do that every day, right? So it's not a good rhythm to get in.

The most challenging part of achieving success—doing what you hate

Speaker 1

Well, I think the hard thing is the thing that you are most pardon the word, but the thing that you are most dissatisfied with. The results in are the thing that your time, energy, effort, focus has to go to the most. And this is the hard thing. If you're living with your family, you can kind of see your family whenever you want. In terms of the ability to do so, if you have a capable body and you're able to exercise and you have a morning routine, you can do that. The hard part is making more money. That's the hard part for most people. That's what most people are aspiring to. That's where the dissatisfaction is. This is my current lifestyle. This is the lifestyle I desire. That's why it's so hard to do this.

Speaker 2

That's a really great point right there.

Speaker 1

Not a lot of people talk about that, that's very true, I would say health, wealth and love the majority of people struggle with wealth the most, statistically speaking. You can accidentally spend too much time with your partner on a Monday. You can accidentally go for a longer hike than you intended on. You're not going to accidentally make money most likely. It just doesn't work that way. It just doesn't. Money is external.

Speaker 2

I think the one that people statistically sorry to interrupt you statistically the one people struggle with most, I think the majority of people is wealth. Next, I think, is health and third, I think, is love. I would agree, and all three are really challenging and love, I think, is probably the hardest for people who are really good at wealth, from what I've seen Like. For me, I think that health and wealth, success, external achievement we'll call it External achievement always, I feel like came easier than relationships, but I think the majority of the population relationships come easier.

Speaker 1

I think it requires less, not effort, action, I think, on a day-to-day basis it requires and again, I'm not saying if you have a household and you have children and you have all that that's a lot of action, I'm not saying but it's more readily available where you can fall into it. Yeah, and again, I'm not saying that's a bad thing. I think if that's what you value, I think it's a wonderful thing.

Speaker 2

But you're most likely not going to fall into money accidentally. Yeah, spending quality time with friends and family is probably more readily available and easier to.

Speaker 1

There's less resistance.

Speaker 2

Yeah, there's less resistance, it's less uphill, it's less uphill.

Speaker 1

Yeah, agreed to. There's less resistance. Yeah, there's less resistance. It's less uphill. It's less uphill. Yeah, yeah, agreed, it's easy to do. It's it's just. It's easy to do because most of us value it at a very high level and it's a convenient. It's a convenient way to do something that's less resistance as opposed to more resistance you and I talked about this and I'm very weird with this.

Speaker 2

So I everyone take this with a grain of salt, but I have a want, love, hate framework we've talked about, and I say I want to be fit, and I think this will resonate, because this is my truth. I want to be really fit. I love weight training. I hate dieting with a passion. I hate it. It's I. I absolutely hate it. There's nothing about it that I like. I don't like salad. I want to eat nachos. I don't. Dieting is not great. I don't care about it almost at all. Now I will do it, but it's not because I want to.

Speaker 2

And I think people who say, oh, I love kale, I don't agree with you. I think you're lying. I think you're lying. No one likes kale, right, and if you do, you learned to like it. I'm obviously being playful right now, so don't, don't, you know, take this out of context.

Speaker 2

But ultimately, the want, love, hate framework. I'm telling you, I was on with a couple of people this past week and she was a podcaster, she, we did the want, love hate. Okay, you want to be successful in business, you love podcasting, but you hate insert here. What's the thing you hate that you know, you know that. You know that. You know that. You know that. You know you need to do in order to be successful at the other two. And she's like oh yep, dude, I want to redesign my entire system, my peak performance tracker, my habits and metrics around the things I hate. I know that sounds insane, but the truth is the other stuff happens automatically. The stuff that's meaningful and fulfilling and that I enjoy automatically happens.

Speaker 2

I don't, I don't need to force myself to weight train. Sometimes I do, sometimes I do, but for the most part, I crave it. I haven't weight trained that much. I think I've done three workouts in the last seven days. To me, I'm itching Like if we don't go to the gym tonight, I'm gonna be deeply upset. But prospecting and different things I that is not. I'm not drawn to that.

Speaker 2

And so what are the things that you do have resistance to that actually lead? And this is the world's biggest problem. Everyone's biggest challenge is that everything you want and love is only sustainable if you do something you hate. I'm convinced of that. Why am I not in better shape? You know the answer I don't diet. I've exercised every day for two and a half years and I don't diet. Now I do intuitive eating and I try to make sure I'm in a surplus or a deficit, but I'm not. You didn't even. I didn't even know how many calories were in my protein pop tart on my shake. Off the top of my head, that's a tell.

Speaker 2

And I think everyone has deluded themselves. And this is the last piece and I apologize for this giant monologue, but I said this to someone on a coaching session this past week and I know this will help everyone listening or watching. I said what's the thing that you've deluded yourself into thinking you shouldn't have to do? That is dude. Look at any failure you've ever had in life everyone.

Speaker 2

I lost my first fitness show. I got stomped. What is the thing I deluded myself into thinking I shouldn't have to do? I didn't get a posing coach. I didn't do check-ins consistently with photo check-ins. I had a fitness coach, but not really. It was kind of an accountability partner thing. And the second time I won the show I had a posing coach. I had check-ins every single week and a paid fitness coach and that's why I won. It was much more accountability and I hated and I dieted. I didn't dude. You saw how lean I was. I was so hungry. I was so hungry, I was suffering so hard and I hated every second of it. I loved being lean and ripped and having an eight pack. That was great, but I absolutely hated the dieting so much yeah.

Speaker 1

It's an interesting thing, I agree. I'm in agreement with that for sure. I think one of the reasons, the big reason we don't accomplish our goal, is not because we don't want the goal, it's because we don't want to do the things necessary to accomplish the goal. That's, I think that's goal setting 101. I don't know many people who get halfway to the goal and say, honestly, I don't know if I want the goal anymore. It's usually I don't want the process to accomplish the goal and I'm as guilty. I said I did a fitness show, I won my thing. Awesome Said I was going to do another one. My goal didn't change the fact that I didn't want to do. I didn't want to suffer like I did the first time. That changed. I wanted a lifestyle. I wanted to be able to go get pizza and not have to work out seven times a day, twice a day. I didn't want to do that again. I didn't want the experience of that.

Speaker 2

It's brutal, brutal, seven times a day. Twice a day is what you said.

Speaker 1

Seven times a day either way. Terrible, it was terrible, but again I so. That's the thing is. I signed up for it and I signed my name on the, on the proverbial dotted line, and I did it, and then, when I went to do it again, I remember thinking I don't, no, no, no, no, no, no, we don't want to do this again. This was terrible.

Speaker 2

This was terrible for us what's your roundup, wrap up of this this freestyle friday? I don't know. I don't even know if I have an answer, because I think I'm.

Kevin reflects on past self-improvement habits

Speaker 1

This was terrible. This was terrible for us. What's your roundup, wrap-up of this Freestyle Friday? I don't know. I don't even know if I have an answer, because I think I'm kind of going through it.

Speaker 1

I think right now I don't feel very. I don't feel very holistic. I think I am the most holistic I've probably ever been. Honestly, consistent time with Taryn has been the best it's ever been. Fitness is the best it's been in a long time. I'm dieting, I'm tracking my macros, weighing myself every day. Eight hours of sleep all that's really good. I just don't feel like I am doing as much self-improvement as I once did and I feel like I am more a victim of the business right now than I'm used to slash comfortable with currently. So I think maybe it's just okay tomorrow. This would be my takeaway for everyone Tomorrow. What is one thing I can do to move in the right direction? And for me, even if I batch my WhatsApp while I'm doing, mobility, that is an improvement to what I'm doing currently. So I'm going to wake up tomorrow and I'm going to go in the living room and I will try to do I don't know 10 minutes of mobility to start the day, and I could have it stack learning with that.

Speaker 2

You know you used to do.

Speaker 1

Yeah, yeah, but back then it then it was, and again, this is an excuse and a justification. I'm not saying this is not my complete internal dialogue, but back then there wasn't a lot going on, so it wasn't in comparison? Yeah, for sure. In comparison, yeah, yeah. When I was when I was the most consistent with my morning routine was during covid ain't shit happening yeah there wasn't much going on in a weird way that was setting you up for success because you were self-improving.

Speaker 2

But you can't just have a morning routine that's going to get you success.

Speaker 1

A morning routine is a is a unless you have an ice, you can wake up, jump right in the ice bath. You're going to be a millionaire before you know it.

Speaker 2

It's a pyramid and the foundation needs to be self-improvement, but that is not enough. It is critical but not sufficient.

Speaker 1

That's like supplemental. You didn't want to use supplemental, I did.

Speaker 2

Well, no, because critical but not sufficient. And then something that I think can be supplemental would be supplements. Okay, all right on that my vitamins and creatine.

Speaker 1

Those are supplemental vitamins, anything, what would? What would your thing be before we get out of here?

Speaker 2

what are the top three things that you think are best for your own self-improvement? So, to give an example, a great book or a great course. I need that. I need it Every day. I need at least 20 minutes of learning something that, even if it's not learning, I'm not trying to learn anything new. I need to refresh and replenish the same fundamentals.

Speaker 2

I've read the compound effect 50 times. I've read atomic habits dozens of times. I go back to the insane productivity course by darren constantly, so, and then there's certain speeches on youtube that I'll listen to over and over and over and over again. I just need something that gets me and keeps me focused on. So that's one. Another one would be mobility. That's really important. And then what would be another one? One more thing I would say the self-care A shower where I floss and I brush my teeth while I'm learning and I cut my nails and I take care of the asset. I don't like rolling into a day without taking care of Alan, taking really good care. You've got to take care of the asset. You're not going to renovate a home and redo the kitchen if you don't value it, and I think self-worth starts with taking care and valuing the asset.

Speaker 1

Value the asset. I like that If you are looking to improve the asset. Like that, if you are looking to improve the asset. I'm not going to say that many more times, but I will say it one more at least. Group coaching starts on October 8th. And here, real quick, I'm not if you do a cold plunge, I'm not crapping on you. I just know there's a lot of people that think like that's the secret. It's not the secret, but it's good for you. If you want to do it, do it, but it's most likely not the uh, the thing that's going to make you a bajillionaire, if that's what you want. So just, I just like to throw it out there, because the sexy thing is usually the sexy thing, not because of the sexy results it produces, it usually just looks really cool yeah, it's really cool to hop a hop in a cold plunge like this is how I start my day awesome, good for you, awesome, awesome for you.

Speaker 1

I start my day Awesome, good for you, awesome, awesome for you. I start my day by panic swiping through WhatsApp and I'm fairly successful, so maybe you should do that, probably not.

Speaker 2

No, I'm trying to work my way away from that Group coaching starts on October 8th.

Speaker 1

I know we're joking here at the end, but if you're trying to be the most consistent, fulfilled version of yourself, I have a deep belief that group coaching will help you. And we have a bunch of people dozens and dozens and dozens and dozens of people who have been through group coaching, who have gotten really, really, really good results and have grown so much. If you want to experience that, we'll have the link in the show notes. Use NLU Listener at the checkout for the coupon code and it will end up being $96.60 per month and you get four calls per month, access to the WhatsApp group a whole bunch of amazing stuff.

Outro

Speaker 1

Alan still has spots open for one-on-one clients. Whether you're a business owner, whether you're looking for peak performance, whatever it is, if you're a humble human who is looking for more results, alan is your guy. If you're a podcaster who is looking for more results, I would love to help. Free call, paid call, whatever Reach out, email me, I don't care. Anything I can do to add value. We are always just a message away. As always, we love you, my goodness, we appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you, and at NLU we don't talk to you all tomorrow, please reach out. Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. We love connecting with the Next Level family.

Speaker 2

We mean it when we say family. If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. Everything you need to get a hold of us is in the show notes.

Speaker 1

Thank you again and we will talk to you tomorrow.

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Kevin Palmieri

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