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#1834 - Top 3 Lessons From A Speech We Did 3 Years Ago

• Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

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Show notes:
(2:22) Reflecting on lessons from 1,000 episodes
(4:54) Importance of making the right choices over easy ones
(7:43) The want, love, hate framework and its application

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Speaker 1

consistency is probably the main course. But it takes a lot to get the main course to the table. You have to. If it's not sustainable, you're not going to do it consistently. It just is not possible. It's not possible doing it consistently without improvement. It's better than not doing it at all, but it might not garner the results you want, unfortunately and for me I have to do the opposite, which is okay, alan.

Speaker 2

That speech sucked. You suck kinda. Do better, because we talk about the record playing in the back of our head. So self-concept is very, very, very important, and a positive self-concept comes with a lack of humility, typically, and a negative self-concept comes with a lack of self-belief typically.

Speaker 1

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Speaker 2

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Speaker 1

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Speaker 1

Welcome to Next Level University from anywhere, completely free. Welcome to Next Level University, next Level Nation. Welcome back to another episode of Next Level University, where we help you level up your life, your love, your health and your wealth. Today, for episode number 1,834, I got a message from someone that I messaged two years ago. Two years ago, and they said, hey, my bad for not getting back to this. I sent them an audio message and I tried to pronounce their name and I said I really hope I pronounced your name correctly and they said you actually pronounced my name correctly. Thank you so much and I'm sorry it took me so long to get back and I was like I don't remember even sending this message. What was the deal with this? It was you and I gave a speech to a group of people that we know the leaders of the group, the founders of the group, the creators of the group whatever that was two years ago, two years ago.

Speaker 2

yeah, Feels way longer than that, doesn't it?

Speaker 1

Yes, the speech we gave was the top next level lessons from 1,000 episodes, so I screenshot it and sent it to Alan. I said, wow, how much things have changed and we have a list of 10. We're each going to choose one that we want to revisit and go deeper on and see. If you want the list of 10, reach out. We can always throw it in a WhatsApp group or something. I don't know how valuable it would be to have all.

Speaker 2

I think they're all very good but obviously it's a digital asset the top 10 next level lessons from 1,000 episodes. I said that, hey, I said that we will. I know we will send it to you DM, kevin or myself. Instagram, facebook, linkedin. Send us a DM, preferably Instagram or Facebook.

Speaker 1

Yeah, don't message me on LinkedIn Because, honestly, linkedin DMs are a nightmare. If you want me to get back to you, please don't message me on LinkedIn, because all I get is hey, kev, I see that you're a podcaster in the podcast space. I would love to collaborate and sell you something that you probably don't need or just don't want. What are your thoughts on connecting together?

Speaker 2

Hey, kev, yeah, I know I've never met you before.

Speaker 1

Yeah, yeah, I love to be a guest on your podcast, even though you don't have, and I've listened to so many episodes so I know I'd be a good fit. Well, you haven't listened to an episode in the last three years because we haven't had a guest on in the last three years, so you got to come to the new stuff. You know what I mean.

Speaker 2

Yeah, that's funny. If you are listening or watching this on YouTube, please DM us, instagram or Facebook preferably, and if you only use LinkedIn, you can DM us and we'll get back to you as soon as possible, which will be probably longer than it'll be shorter than two years, that I can promise you.

Speaker 1

I can't, but I will do my best.

Speaker 2

You can almost also email us alan at nextleveluniversecom. Kevin at nextleveluniversecom spelled just like it sounds Okay. So we will send that asset to you If you DM us, please do, kev, what's your favorite one man?

Speaker 1

My favorite one, my favorite one man, my favorite one. This my favorite one is it was it's number 10. Number 10 is my favorite. Okay, number 10 is my favorite, the. The reason we're laughing is because that's a hack people use to get you to listen to all their stuff. They say number five is my favorite. I'm gonna, today, I'm gonna teach you the top five ways to make a million dollars. Make sure you stick around, because number five is the most valuable and it ties everything together. If you don't have number five, you can't even do the first four that's why I made it number five.

Importance of making the right choices over easy ones

Speaker 2

And then number five ends up being them selling you something, yeah yeah, my mentorship number 10.

Speaker 1

There's usually two choices the easy one and the right one. I believe that is just more true now than it has ever been, and what I think of now is, I think of the want, love, hate framework that you have been talking about so often, because if you want something and you love doing something, there most likely will be something that you just don't want to do that you have to do to get the other two, and that's the other two, and that's the hard choice. But that's the right choice. The easy choice is just to say, well, I want blank, but I don't know. If it's supposed to be, it'll be, it'll come eventually. That's the easy choice. That's the easy choice. So if that's going to happen, it's going's gonna happen. The hard choice is saying you know what I really want blank, but I know it's gonna kind of suck to get it. And these are the things I don't necessarily want to do, but I know I should. I think that's a really appropriate example.

Speaker 2

And then I don't know if I think you give me an example of something you did recently that you didn't want to do, that you chose the right choice instead of the easy one.

Speaker 1

I was supposed to be on a podcast yesterday and for some reason my camera and my mic weren't working. It was a whole thing, and I had emailed the person because I would try to get in the room a couple minutes early. And I emailed the person and said, hey, I'm having issues. Just give me a couple minutes, I'll figure it out. I always do Anomaly. It's going to be fine. And they didn't email me back.

Speaker 1

But then I got a text from the host a couple minutes later and I tried, and I tried, and I tried, and I tried, and I tried and there was a piece of me that said it would be easy, it would be easy for me just to wait for them to email me back. But I called them because they had texted me. I just called them and I said, hey, my bad, it is absolute mayhem over here. My apologies for wasting your time. I don't know what's going on. I cannot get it to work. If it's aligned, I'd love to reschedule. If not, I understand, because this is kinduled Cool, but it would have been a lot easier for me just to say they'll email me back. No, no worries, They'll email me back when they're ready. So I went with the hard thing.

The want, love, hate framework and its application in life

Speaker 2

I think that takes so much humility to do the thing. I've been saying this a lot to my clients. I said with the want, love, hate framework want more clients, love coaching, hate being falling down the rabbit hole of social media. Well, if you're not willing to be on social media, you don't get more of what you want and what you love and there's. You can do this with everything Want to be in great shape, love weight training, hate dieting. That's a perfect example I think a lot of people will resonate with.

Speaker 2

Some people don't mind dieting. I have a client who has no problem dieting, wants to be in shape, loves eating very little, hates weight training. So usually there's a want, love, hate framework. I say this to my clients the reason you aren't getting more of what you want and love and aren't achieving your goals and dreams at the rate that you'd like is because you've told yourself a story that you shouldn't have to do. The thing that you know deep down you need to do and I'm no different, that's the same deal with me too and that's the thing is, we want to believe we can live a life where we don't have to do things we hate, but it's just not real.

Speaker 2

It's absolutely untrue. Yeah, it's untruerue. Having a six-pack is great, not eating ice cream is terrible it's not ideal huge fan of ice cream, especially why you have protein ice cream.

Speaker 1

That's why I make protein ice cream.

Self-concept and its role in success

Speaker 2

Yes what's your what's one example? Oh, you already gave me it, okay the kids on autopilot next lesson kids just on autopilot I think it's good to do the hard thing. I think it's important. What is your lesson, you, son of a b? My favorite one on this top 10 list is number three. Stick around for that one, we'll be right back after the.

Speaker 2

We'll be right back after these messages. Number three your self-concept true or made up dictates almost all of how your life turns out. Self-concept, identity what you think and believe about yourself. If you believe you are shy, you are going to act shy and then you're going to get shy results, which is then going to reinforce your belief that you're shy. Oh man, how do I even begin with this one? What is your self-concept? Your self-concept is what you think about yourself and feel about yourself. When you're not thinking and feeling about yourself consciously, your self-concept is unconscious. That's why I always ask everyone if they've seen Inside Out 2. Because I think they did the best job I've ever seen of showing the power of self-concept, and so I'm not going to give away the movie. I'm going to give away one tiny scene of the movie. Spoiler alert In Inside Out 2, there's a scene where the young girl Riley has this sort of identity, built of all the core memories up to this stage of her life, and I think she went to high school, think it was high school.

Speaker 2

You've seen the movie, yeah, not inside out too, no, oh, my goodness, okay so she's gonna take my headphones off she's in high school and her core memories and emotions have constructed her self-concept, her identity, and it's in the form of a tree inside of her head in this movie and it's it's got cool lights, kev, you'll like it, but as she's playing a hockey game, because she grew up in minnesota and she loves hockey, she has the core limiting belief of the self-concept, the identity of. I'm not good enough and we've talked in depth on this show about that and, kev, you talked about that yesterday, how you feel that's the second one, doesn't that happen in the first one too?

Speaker 2

No Negative.

Speaker 1

She plays hockey in the first one? Yeah, of course she does, but she doesn't have the identity tree. She doesn't have yes.

Speaker 2

No In the first one.

Speaker 1

I haven't seen the second one.

Speaker 2

Are you sure?

Speaker 1

I think so I think I would know when I say that Remember when?

Speaker 2

Okay, so one more piece of it, little here. Spoiler alert she's trying to score three goals. If I don't score three goals? If I don't score three goals, remember anxiety, the emotional anxiety, no, anxiety.

Speaker 1

The emotion, no, no, no. It was different in the first.

Speaker 2

In the first one, I think okay, I'm gonna need you to lock it up, since you haven't seen the movie.

Speaker 1

Well, you thought I had seen the movie. Yeah, it's my bad, so you were setting me up self-concept yes, please is are you good enough?

Speaker 2

are you smart enough? Self-concept is what you think about yourself. Do you think you're intelligent? Do you think you're athletic? Do you think you're handsome? Do you think you yourself Do you think you're intelligent? Do you think you're athletic? Do you think you're handsome? Do you think you're beautiful? Do you think you're magnificent? Do you think you're lazy? Do you think you're hardworking? Everything good, bad, ugly.

Speaker 1

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Speaker 2

What do you think about yourself when you're not thinking about yourself? And here's the problem, last piece, it's unconscious. You have the conscious mind, you have the subconscious mind and you have the unconscious mind. And science, neuroscience, has proven I'm going to get my PhD one day in neuroscience it has proven that subconscious and unconscious 40,000 times more powerful than your conscious. You can't spend your whole life fighting against your more powerful brains, against your more powerful brains. And so when kevin does something and it goes horribly wrong, if his limiting belief is I'm not good enough, he has to consciously override that and say, okay, that speech sucked, but I don't suck, no, and for me I have to do the opposite, which is okay, alan, that speech sucked, you suck, kinda do better, because we talk about the record playing in the back of our head.

Speaker 1

So self-concept is very, very, very important, and a positive self-concept comes with a lack of humility typically, and a negative self-concept comes with a lack of self-belief typically we used to say this what you think you are is more important than what you actually are, and I think that's why people talk about fake it till you make it long term yeah right, but because what you think you are is determining what you do and don't do.

Speaker 1

Yeah. But the problem is, if you think you're not good and you're actually good, you don't then you don't get any results. That's the wonky thing.

Speaker 2

Yeah.

Speaker 1

And that's really really hard to break that.

Speaker 2

We're reading a book called Identity Shift in Book Club and he uses the metaphor of the computer. The computer has hardware and operating system and software. And I draw the conclusion, and he does too, in the book. But I think I I created an asset, that for book club today that talks about how your genetics is your hardware, your identity, your self-concept, your mindset is your, is your operating system.

How mindset and consistency fuel long-term achievements

Speaker 2

So, so if you have a Mac, you have OS whatever, 15, os 15. And if you have a PC, you have Windows, most likely Windows 10 or 11. And then you have software like Audacity or WhatsApp or Google Chrome or Notepad, whatever Paint, that's your skills. Google Chrome or notepad, whatever paint, that's your skills. And so if you have the right hardware, you're physically capable, you have good genetics, intelligence, whatever, and you have the right operating system, the right mindset, the right identity, the right self-concept and you have the right skills, you can achieve your goals and dreams. But if you don't have those things in alignment, you are kind of screwed a little bit, honestly. Yeah, I mean, the old kevin had such a poor self-concept, dude. It's so wild to see how much different your self-concept is now I still, it still, it still bubbles up from time to time.

Speaker 1

I wish you could talk to old Kev so badly.

Speaker 2

I wouldn't like him If you coached him.

Speaker 1

He wouldn't like me. He wouldn't like me.

Speaker 2

But if you coached him, you could get him to see what's possible.

Speaker 1

Maybe that'll be one of the plot lines in Inside Out 3. You know I've been waiting to break into Hollywood and I know it's an animated picture, but I could probably do some voice acting. I've gotten some compliments on my voice. I could probably put something together. Maybe I'll put together a little reel. We know people in the voice acting community. Maybe that's it, kevin, in Inside Out 3.

Speaker 1

I wanted to throw another one out quickly, not because I agree with it a thousand percent. I still do, but you'll see why it's number one. This is the number one one and it's the number one. It's number one. And it says the number one biggest bottleneck to everyone's long-term success is consistency. I still agree, obviously, but at that point we hadn't talked about sustainability, consistency, improvement and what is it?

Speaker 2

scale, scalability adaptability and grit so belief yeah, but what's our don't?

Speaker 1

we have a three for? Oh, that's for consistency, right.

Speaker 2

Yeah, there's a five. That's the five star. See, I wasn't.

Speaker 1

I'm not privy to that information. Sometimes frameworks just pop up without my knowledge and then I'm learning them with everybody else at the same time. So that's what's happening there, but before that, so at that point, it was that, then it was sustainability, consistency, improvement, and then since then it's evolved further.

Speaker 2

What do you need? What's your takeaway?

Speaker 1

consistency is probably the main course, but it takes a lot to get the main course to the table. If it's not sustainable, you're not going to do it consistently. It just is not possible. It's not possible Doing it consistently without improvement. It's better than not doing it at all, but it might not garner the results you want, unfortunately, the thing that's jumped off the page for me is I've been going through and talking to people who I've been on their podcasts and when I'm going through the list because we have a list of all the shows that I've been on shout out to Laura for handling all that and keeping a list.

Speaker 1

This is not my doing. I am the worst at organization. I'm improving, but I'm using Laura's amazing organization to help me. I'm going through and looking at all the shows I've been on and when I go to find them, they're not doing their show anymore. It makes me sad. It makes me sad because the same thing would have happened if we stopped. We would have said, yeah, we couldn't figure it out. The same thing would have happened if we stopped. We would have said, yeah, we couldn't figure it out. We did seven episodes and nothing really happened. So we just kind of moved on to something else.

Speaker 1

Podcasting wasn't for us. No, it's the mindset. It's not the thing, it's not the modality, it's the mindset. You could say that about a YouTube channel. You could say that about a business. You could say that about a lemonade stand. Yeah, we were out there for seven hours and nobody showed up. Go to a different corner. Maybe they don't want lemonade, maybe they want something else. Maybe they want pink lemonade. Maybe it's too expensive, maybe your sign's not big enough, maybe it's the wrong part. It's out, whatever, right. So, yeah, the mindset of it is something.

Speaker 2

I have one last please. I'm going to wrap this whole. We talked about three lessons here, already Ready.

Speaker 1

Yeah.

Speaker 2

If you want to succeed in life I'm going to wrap all three of these lessons up. I'm going to see if I can do it. You need to number one upgrade your self-concept, which means get outside your comfort zone and consistently do the right thing. Not the easy thing. Ooh, that's. All three wrapped in. Not the easy thing? Ooh, that's all three wrapped in a bow right there.

Speaker 1

Nice.

Speaker 2

And what should you do with all that? Come to book club.

Speaker 1

You can come to book club. We're talking about identity. To talk about identity.

Speaker 2

Yeah, today 12.30 pm, eastern Standard Time, not today.

Speaker 1

Crap Next week yeah it's yesterday, so if you could go back week.

Speaker 2

Yeah, it's yesterday.

Speaker 1

So if you could go back, no, it's not yesterday, it's actually today's Monday if you're listening to this.

Speaker 2

So if you can jump in your time machine, jump back two days, boom you're there. Look at this Identity shift, Upgrade how you operate to elevate your life.

Speaker 1

Real quick story. We went to an event in California and we had the opportunity to meet Anthony Trucks and we interviewed him in our hotel room. Then we went to In-N-Out Burger. Okay, I drove, alan was in the passenger seat, anthony Trucks was in the back seat of our rental and we're in the drive-thru and Anthony Trucks gets a flying Dutchman, which I think is just a breadless, just patties with onions or something you do, you, anthony, and he, he says, and he got a large shake too.

Speaker 1

Yeah, you gotta get carved up for the speech. He was speaking the next day in front of whatever 3,000 people. Crushed it and he said whose drawers are these? And he holds up a pair of Allen's underwear in the back seat of our rental car. Those are Allen's drawers. I don't know why they're there, but don't judge us.

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Speaker 1

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