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One Reason People Aren’t As Consistent As They Want To Be (2007)

• Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

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Consistency is tough—especially when life throws curveballs like travel, shifting schedules, or unexpected challenges. In today’s episode, Kevin and Alan explain the key to sticking with your habits. They share personal stories, practical strategies, and a powerful “Consistency Star” tool to help you stay on track. Learn why willpower alone isn’t enough, how your environment shapes success, and why letting go of perfection can make all the difference.

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Show notes:
(2:25) The missing piece of consistency
(4:06) The dangers of an all-or-nothing mindset
(6:25) How small adjustments can improve long-term habits
(9:12) The power of identity in staying consistent
(15:18) Why setting up your environment matters more than willpower
(20:01) Join Next Level Live: A virtual, immersive event for those committed to growth, meaningful relationships, and a life they love. https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/next-level-live/
(23:39) Letting go of trying to be consistent at everything
(30:26) Practical tips for creating certainty in uncertain situations
(36:38) Outro

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Kevin Palmieri:

The sad truth of the matter is, consistency is super freaking hard, and it's even harder when you're traveling and you don't have access to the things that help your consistency. Flexibility and adaptability are necessary One thousand percent when it comes to consistency, and I think that's one of the biggest reasons why people struggle with it. Not every day you wake up in the same place, maybe you go to work in a different place, maybe you travel, maybe you work different schedules. If you don't have flexibility and if you don't have adaptability, it's going to be close to impossible for you to stay consistent.

Alan Lazaros:

I'm currently reading two books right now. One of them is called Willpower. The other one is called Willpower Doesn't Work. Why would I do that? Because, on one hand, you can develop willpower and discipline when you practice it. On the other hand, you can't rely on it, especially after the tail end of the day, when you don't want to go to the gym. But it's really important to stay consistent and keep the small promises you make to yourself. So you need to have self-discipline and willpower on one hand, but you also have to design your environment on the other, to make sure that it supports your goals and dreams.

Kevin Palmieri:

Welcome to Next Level University. I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri.

Alan Lazaros:

And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazarus.

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Kevin Palmieri:

Welcome to Next Level University, next Level Nation. Welcome back to another episode of Next Level University where we help you level up your life, your love, your health and your wealth. Today for episode number 2007,. One reason people aren't as consistent as they want to be, as you heard in the open, there we are talking about flexibility and adaptability. So, alan, I think we co-created, but I think you kind of led the charge on it. There's the consistency star. Amy loves it. It's like her favorite asset to use when she's doing the group coaching calls.

Kevin Palmieri:

And one of the things on there that I think would probably get overlooked a lot, definitely by me in the past, is adaptability and what I kind of lot for work. It was way harder to stay consistent in the gym because I didn't have any of the normal stuff. I wasn't in a place where I knew what the gym was like. I didn't know the hours of the gym, I didn't know what it was like, I didn't know if you could bring bags in or not. I mean, there was a lot of kind of pain in the butt to get to the gym, kind of pain in the butt to get to the gym. Now, one way to fix that was have an anytime fitness membership so you can look it up. It's easy. You know your key fob will get you into almost any gym. But most of the people I worked with they had like an on-off switch. When they were home they would eat well and they would exercise, but when they were on the road, all of that went to shit, and it's because there wasn't a level of adaptability and there wasn't a level of flexibility.

Kevin Palmieri:

And I said this to you before we did the episode. I said I feel like that's kind of a common thing. It's either you're all on or you're all off, and there's something to that. I mean, maybe that would be another. There's only five points of the star for the consistency star, but having an all or nothing mentality, I think, is a really dangerous thing to have if you're trying to be more consistent. I went to some gyms that sucked and it was like, well, this workout's better than nothing. I went to some really nice gyms too, but you never know, and I never knew what I was going to get until I showed up. So I think that's an important thing to talk about when it comes to consistency.

Alan Lazaros:

What's your mentality when it comes to this? Because I've talked about this in the past. We all have a dominant question, and one of my questions that I'm asking myself consistently I talk about it often is what's the most valuable use of my time right now? Some days are good, some days not so good in comparison, and I'll look at my calendar and I'll say, okay, there's three or four things on there. It's like, wow, that was kind of a slow day. I didn't put a ton on the court today. But then I think to myself and I go well, that's four times as much as I used to do 10 years ago ago.

Alan Lazaros:

The other piece of this, too, is consistency. At this stage, for you and I comes so naturally, I feel like it's challenging for me to understand what it used to be like. You and I used to talk about the five second rule. We used to. I talked about this on a recent episode. There was a podcast host that had researched a lot. I always love when they research a lot. I really appreciate it and they said oh, so you guys are super disciplined and super consistent. That's what you guys stand for. I remember thinking, okay, sure, I guess, but I don't know why that is necessarily. I don't feel like it's not, like we just woke up and we're suddenly super consistent, and I also thought about this recently too. That's step one, kind of in business in particular Again. So, kevin and I are leaning into what is your own unique version of success, health, wealth and love, and how do you improve yourself to achieve those goals and dreams at NLU, but also in our own life?

Alan Lazaros:

And I'm looking at the consistency star right here that you had mentioned. The first one is self-belief, the second one is humility, the third one is sustainability, the fourth is adaptability, the fifth one is grit. And when you say adaptability, flexibility, that's actually one of my client's most important skills for this quarter. And when you say adaptability, flexibility, that's actually one of my client's most important skills for this quarter. And she's been way more consistent ever since. That was the case because we looked at this consistency star and it was like, okay, which one of these do you struggle with most? At first it was humility. We worked on that, and then it was adaptability. What does adaptability even mean? It doesn't have to be perfect.

Kevin Palmieri:

It has to be done. The the ability to adapt in circumstances that are not ideal, I think is probably the the best course. I I honestly think fitness is a huge reason why I remember. I remember I have a picture on my Instagram somewhere. I remember we were working in. I was either working in Virginia or New Jersey, so it was either like six hours away from home or 12 hours. I think I was eating my rice with a chicken tender because I didn't have a spoon.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah, that's, adaptability, that's adaptability.

Kevin Palmieri:

I had to get my food because number one I was super hungry. I'm'm doing a speech today if you're listening to this on consistency. Oh, nice yeah, yeah. And I told alan. I said I stole all your stuff and I'm not going to credit you for any of it.

Kevin Palmieri:

My goal is to deliver it better than you ever have and then take full credit for it. Perfect, but, but essentially the. So it's. One of our clients showed up to iron. He said, hey, I have a men's group and every month we have a topic. And I I mean you are obviously super consistent. I'd love to have you talk about consistency. What do you think? And I said, yeah, let me, I'll send you an audio of what I'm thinking. I'll do like a canva presentation. If it's aligned, let me know, but I'll send it over to you so you can hear the ideas. And I was like, all right, well, I don't know. I think the thing that would probably make the most sense is to start at the identity level of why isn't the person consistent in the first place? Okay, that sounds, that sounds good, cool. So we'll talk about that. Do you identify as consistent?

Kevin Palmieri:

yes, yeah yeah, which is helpful yeah that identity piece. It's hard to I. Yes, yeah, yes, I definitely feel I feel like very, very, a very, very consistent human. Yeah, but that's been the. I mean, that's been the main thing over the last eight years.

Alan Lazaros:

Was there ever a?

Kevin Palmieri:

time you didn't identify it that way, not with fitness, but definitely with, yeah, most other stuff. I remember when I I took my test to be a personal trainer when I was in my early 20s. I could not for the life of me consistently study, yeah brutal I had to wait until I was like two weeks out and then cram I just the necessity wasn't high enough.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri:

The deadline was too far away and it just it didn't give me enough necessity. So the first one is going to be like identity, deeper stuff. Why aren't you consistent in the first place? Second one is sustainability, consistency, improvement. And then I'm going to go into sustainability what are the three most important things for that Consistency? What are the three most important things for that Improvement? What are the three most important things for that improvement? What are the three most important things for that? And then each of those will have its own kind of segment, and there's a couple, there's a couple other how long is the?

Kevin Palmieri:

speech an hour, nice, so I'm trying to pack as much in as I can. But there's a lot to consistency. Yeah, I think there's. There's a lot to it, and if you're out there and you feel like you're struggling with consistency, it could be for a bunch of different reasons. It might not be because you don't want the goal. It might be because maybe you work from home three days a week and you're at home the other two and you feel like you just crush it every time you work from home, but when you go to the office you can't figure out why you feel like you suck. That's probably why there's got to be a new level of adaptability.

Alan Lazaros:

One of the things that comes up is what's top of mind for you. So when Emilia, my family and her family get together we all spent Thanksgiving together for a week I could tell that fitness was top of mind for me more than everyone else. And Emilia, prior to the trip down in South Carolina, she and I always outline what is most important for you. On this trip, I think ours was getting good sleep was number one, because we usually don't when we travel. Number two was fitness. That was my main one.

Alan Lazaros:

It's like I do not want to miss exercise. I want to actually weight train. One time when we traveled, we were literally lifting with bags of groceries and I was like I had a. I sat down with emilia. I said, sweetheart, I can't, I can't do this. I can't go from a fitness competitor to fucking lifting grocery bags. Like this is not weight training for me, like this does not check the box for me. We still exercise. You know good, good for us. I mean we were doing gallons of water and that kind of thing. But come on, what are we doing here? So I, I just we cannot miss the gym. I need a gym that has weights in it. I'm not doing body weight bullshit. And again, please don't for anyone else who's doing body weight, please don't be offended. I'm, I need a gym, okay, uh, but anyway. So number two was fitness. Number three was quality time with family. In that order, in that order.

Alan Lazaros:

Emilie and I have a three-year exercise streak and my number one priority was don't break that. Her number one priority was get good sleep and then after that we had quality time, but with the family my family and her family. Quality time is their number one, two and three Going on the boat. We saw a dolphin. I mean it was awesome, but we literally had to go find a Planet Fitness. It was actually a really nice one. This place was sweet Because I wasn't sure. I looked it up and I did the virtual tour. It was really good. We're going there next time, for sure. And she also got a tech center to make sure we could be consistent on work.

Alan Lazaros:

But again, all of this is adaptability. So planning before the trip, because when you travel, we have a checklist, a travel checklist, of certain things we bring. We bring our alexa for certain music while we sleep. We we have a whole iCloud note of everything that needs to be brought. That's why we liked driving down there, because we could bring our sort of home on wheels and uh. But ultimately it's because, going back to the top of mind thing, when you and I travel, there's two things that are the top of kevin's mind at all times. Number one is where's the gym. Number two is where's the food?

Alan Lazaros:

very quickly, very close, number two yeah sure, and for me, the only difference is number one is what do we have to get done today? Number two well, you have that too. It's like what's the, the minimum thing that we have to get done, no matter what for the business. Number two is where's the gym and when are we going to weight train? And number three is what are we eating for tonight for dinner? For me, it's what needs to happen for the mission. Number two where's the gym? And number three is what movie are we watching while we eat?

Kevin Palmieri:

it was all.

Alan Lazaros:

The meet the parents last time that was awesome, but you know it's, that's the hard thing.

Kevin Palmieri:

It's super hard to have a morning routine in a place that you're not familiar with. Yeah, brutal. Oh, you don't have a yoga mat, all right, cool, let me get down on my hands and knees on the stranger's floor.

Alan Lazaros:

You remember that motel was that motel six that we went to? I fell asleep because we were cooked on the road, was, I think I was like dude, I can't. I was in california. I have to go to bed. Yeah, that was terrible. I did. I don't think I slept.

Kevin Palmieri:

I don't think I had the benefit of sleeping, but that's. That's what's super hard. It's super hard to be consistent. On the road Anytime there's uncertainty, you realize very quickly how many of your habits are just not unconscious yet. I went to the doctor so I could get some cream for my face, so hopefully, my little rash over here is going to look better.

Alan Lazaros:

It has gotten better. That's because.

Kevin Palmieri:

I got some cream to put on it and I was sitting in the waiting room. Yeah, Nice. Yeah, needed it. I was sitting in the waiting room and we've been tracking our minutes, which has been a pain in the ass, but also really good.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri:

And I was like it's really why I mean it's not great to work from my phone. Certain things are great, but Google Sheets, that's a whole freaking thing. But I was thinking how much I've gotten better at being able to work from anywhere. I mean when I was in scotland I was working in a little cabin in the middle of nowhere. I still got up before taryn and I did my thing you do hotspot or they had internet.

Kevin Palmieri:

I did hotspot in one place and one place had internet. The Hotspot was brutal, but I didn't work out. When I was in Scotland, I didn't work out once Because we were driving. It's like, okay, we're going to be in this town for 12 hours, we're just sleeping there, and then we're going to get up at 5 o'clock and we're going to drive 7 hours there, and then we're going to get up at five o'clock and we're going to drive seven hours. It's like Mike, I don't know Is it really worth it for me to do it, but I told Taryn. I said next time we travel I'm going to figure out some sort of way to exercise and I don't want to be driving all over the place again.

Alan Lazaros:

That was. It was awesome, but it was tiring. In the opening I talked about the two books I'm reading, which is fascinating when you hear the titles. One of them is called Willpower Kevin's reading it as well and the other one's called Willpower Doesn't Work by Benjamin Hardy, and one of them is about how to build willpower through self-discipline and how you can grow it over time. You can.

Alan Lazaros:

There's a certain part of the brain that develops when you keep promises to yourself, especially when there's resistance. However, it does drain. It's like the phone battery. Imagine an iPhone battery or a phone battery Android or iPhone that it still drains throughout the day and you still have to charge it at night when you sleep. However, the battery gets better each day instead of worse over time. That that's willpower okay, great, and that's necessary, especially when you travel. But the other willpower doesn't work. Benjamin hardy. His thesis of the book is listen, willpower is a thing and you have to develop it, but if you're relying entirely on that and not environmental design, you are fucked. And when emilia and I travel this house and I I owe it to her way more I actually, when I was reading this book, I told her I said, sweetheart, thank you so much like she has set this house up so incredibly well. I mean our offices, our kitchen, our air fryer, everything is set up first, I love how you have four.

Kevin Palmieri:

You have four things offices, kitchen air fryer. Everything is set up for success. I love how you have four things Offices, kitchen air fryer. Fucking air fryer is on that list.

Alan Lazaros:

You know it, our shades open and close themselves automated. It's her, not me. She calls herself the automation queen playfully, but it's true, and everything is set up to help us make positive choices. That's it. Everything in our life is set up to help us make positive choices. That's it. Everything in our life is set up to make positive choices. We playfully joked about giving kevin our 83 inch tv because she doesn't want the tv in the bedroom kev's still like yeah how has that progressed?

Alan Lazaros:

it's progressed, it's progressed. Well, uh, we'll talk about it so I said that last time too.

Alan Lazaros:

Uh, but we have. Everything is so well set up to make sure that we make our bad habits hard to do and our good habits easy to do something as simple as I asked her. I said can you please remind me, when we sit down to eat dinner, to eat my salad first? Dude, if I don't eat my salad first, I'm not eating it, I just won't. I'll fill up on everything else. I've been in a bulk, so just eat as much as possible, basically. Um, seriously, it's been great, but the salad just won't get eaten makes sense if I eat my salad first, that whole thing goes down.

Alan Lazaros:

And so she just gives me that little reminder and I'm like, ah, okay, yeah, I'll put this down, put this down first. I'm not a huge fan, I don't? I like I don't care for them. I'm like, ah, okay, yeah, I'll put this down, put this down first. I'm not a huge fan, I don't, I like I don't care for them.

Kevin Palmieri:

I'm happy to do it.

Alan Lazaros:

I think it's for the nutrition, but I'm not a big salad guy. It's different when you're dieting.

Kevin Palmieri:

When you're dieting, you eat the salad first anyway, because it kind of then seems like it fills you up before the real meal 100, 100.

Alan Lazaros:

But when you're bulking, the last thing you want to to do is eat a bunch of salad and then get full too quickly and not hit your calories, but if your environment is set up for success and you're building willpower over time, I mean, your life is just going to be so much better. But one thing I want to make as clear as possible is I've never met anyone all the clients I've coached over the years who isn't inconsistent in some things. So right now, Kevin and I, we're very consistent and we could probably name five things, but we're both very inconsistent in something.

Kevin Palmieri:

for me it's mobility I could, I just do not. I could name 10 things. I'm not very consistent what's the biggest one? For me, it's mobility, for sure I haven't dreamlined since I've got, since I've gotten it, I think maybe two, two or three times it. It's a decision. So it's not like I'm getting to the end of the day and saying, oh shit, I missed it again. It's kind of a decision of like today, these are the things I have to do to survive and that's what I'm going to do.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah, I'm not hitting it every day yet either. I'm probably one every three.

Kevin Palmieri:

Yeah, so I think that's an important thing too is people tend to only highlight what they're really consistent at. People don't really talk about what they're messing up, especially if they're trying to help you be more consistent, because it kind of seems like a cred hit. But nobody is consistent, to Alan's point, with everything.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah, no one. There's not a single client who isn't inconsistent on something, 100% no.

Kevin Palmieri:

We've been Jeffing our check-ins. We did a check-in Sunday for the first time in a minute, a minute. She said, hey, can we do a check-in this Sunday? And I said oh fuck, oh no.

Alan Lazaros:

Am I in trouble?

Kevin Palmieri:

She said no, no, we haven't done one. And Sundays come and I just want to snug and watch a movie. Next Level Nation. We are very, very excited to announce that we are doing our first purely virtual Next Level Live. On April 5th 2025, from 10 am to 4 pm Eastern Standard Time, alan and myself will be live streaming from worcester, massachusetts next level, live 2025, be there.

Alan Lazaros:

It's only 47 for a full day of personal development, self-improvement, holistic health, wealth, life and love we have a global audience.

Kevin Palmieri:

Obviously, if you live somewhere else in the world, it's hard to come across the country or across the world for a one-day event, so we wanted to make sure it was accessible to everyone.

Alan Lazaros:

You're not gonna get to the next level of your life by default. You're gonna get there by design. Join us design that next level. That's one of the things we track every week. We 69 weeks in a row yeah well again. They used to be pretty in-depth. Now it's the permission question and that's it.

Kevin Palmieri:

That's for another episode.

Alan Lazaros:

It's sustainable, right? Yeah, we started doing. Yeah, we won't get into it, but okay, last piece for me, the thing that I want to make as clear as possible is your goals and core values should be determining what you choose to be consistent at. If it's not aligned with a goal and it's not aligned with a core value, the chances of you being consistent at it are very, very, very slim, seriously. So the reason why I have to force for lack of a better phrasing myself to eat my salad is because I don't care.

Alan Lazaros:

I don't like salad. I'd much rather eat whatever else I'm eating, but my goals require me to do it, because if I don't get enough micronutrients, I'm not gonna be at my best and I'm gonna perform worse, and you can only eat Macros only for so long before you start feeling like shit in the gym. It starts hurting your performance, it starts hurting your sleep, all that stuff. So I'm not eating salads because I like salad, and I think that there's a reframe around that and, again, the success piece. One of the things that in coaching can be frustrating at times is people will say, well, I don't really like salad. It's like well, neither do I right, and and they're like well, in order to achieve your goals, you're not going to like everything.

Alan Lazaros:

Like I don't know where people got that. Like well, I don't really like that. It's a desire thing.

Kevin Palmieri:

Alan said this. I said something yesterday. He's like I don't care if you like it, and it wasn't in a bad way, it was a funny way.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah it's.

Kevin Palmieri:

Can we go into that how you?

Alan Lazaros:

boss me around. No, no, yeah, you want to talk openly about it. We could. I feel comfortable, of course you do. You said something earlier too. It's like I like to present something that's all yours. Give you none of the credit, and I realized you didn't. You and I both didn't laugh.

Kevin Palmieri:

New listeners might think you're serious I I am New listeners would be right. No. Yeah we Alan and I, spend a lot of time virtually together, so we joke about almost everything at this point. What were you? You asked me a question, Did you say something.

Alan Lazaros:

The top of mind thing. What are the things that are top of mind? That's not what we were talking about. I know, I know I'm going to transition top of mind and that's not what we were talking about. I know I know I'm gonna transition. I thought you forgot so for me, I'm consciously not doing the dreamlander every day because we have an event coming up in 21 days. I'm more focused on other things. I have clients, all this stuff. So it's not like I'm inconsistent. I'm inconsistent at certain things that I'm choosing to be inconsistent on, but that's based on my goals.

Alan Lazaros:

Question yeah, one minute answer, to don't you go off on a freaking tangent, but I think I'm freaking out in my office right now or maybe a b and I just looked straight at that light. I hope it's not a b you got your airpods on.

Kevin Palmieri:

Now you got your airpods on, give your airpods to the fly. Let them tune them in.

Alan Lazaros:

I don't have any problem with bees, man. If it was a, b, that wouldn't bother me at all, until it stings you on your forehead, oh man, you ever been stung by a bee?

Kevin Palmieri:

Of course I have Worst pain, maybe the worst pain. No, it is not. It is it is not.

Alan Lazaros:

What is worse than that? I've seen you in a lot of pain, way worse than a bee sting.

Kevin Palmieri:

When I I was in middle school, there was a kid named T Jakes.

Kevin Palmieri:

Oh yeah, and we used to take thumbtacks and stick them into our arms and you could hear the skin pop when it went through. And I was thinking the other day what the hell was wrong with us. Why were we doing this? I hope you have your tetanus shots. I do. Yeah, I'm up to date. Nice, I was going to say something. Oh, under one minute, now that I've taken up all the time. How would you suggest or what advice would you give to somebody who is struggling with that piece, Letting go of something that you want to be consistent at?

Kevin Palmieri:

but you're kind of sacrificing that to be consistent in something more valuable for your goals.

Alan Lazaros:

Oh, I hate it too. I hate it too. My advice is have the courage to have the courage to let go of being good at everything so that you can be great at the most important things. And that's why I recommend the book Essentialism for people. Things and that's why I recommend the book essentialism for people. It helps. It helps people give themselves permission to to not have to be perfect at everything. So emilia cares a lot about making the bed in the morning, like she loves making the bed in the morning. She can't stand when the bed isn't made. I could give a fuck right the the dishes. She really likes them, not in the sink, I don't really care. But there's certain things in fitness that need to happen for me. So the before and after the gym no phone calls, like we're not calling people before and after the gym, like certain things like that. So we have to integrate core values and goals. So the one minute end of my answer here, is it sucks.

Alan Lazaros:

I know it sucks. I think it takes courage to say I'm going to give up these good habits to go for these really great goals, and I think that it also takes humility to admit that you're human and that you can't do everything at level 10.

Kevin Palmieri:

It is tough Oftentimes. I think the thing that helps me but this also can be a negative thing if you focus on it too much is the dreamliner isn't really like a now thing, it's like a forever thing. So if I don't do the dreamliner for a week, I'm probably not going to notice and I might, when I start back up, and be like, yeah, okay, I could tell I was missing this, but there are certain things that have to get done now and if if they don't get done, things will break. The dreamliner just isn't one of those right now. So that's always helped me is just the understanding of everything matters. Not everything matters the same and not everything matters at the same time To the same degree.

Alan Lazaros:

What was I going to say earlier?

Kevin Palmieri:

Damn Big chungus. That's a big chungus move.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah, I guess the wrap up would be you don't have to. Yeah, goals require certain things that you're not going to want to do, and I will say this so that everyone knows I have some of the most consistent and disciplined clients of people I have ever met in my life. Some are three times a week and they never miss, and they all track habits. None of them are consistent at everything none of them and that, hopefully gives everyone permission to you know what they are consistent at, the things that are aligned with their goals and core values. So give yourself the permission to be consistent at the 10 out of 10 things. And no, yeah, I mean what's an example? And no, yeah, I mean what's an example? Romwod. It's not optimal for me to not do mobility.

Alan Lazaros:

Romwod is an app that videos long form stretching. That's terrible for me Long term. That's a jeffing. That's an L. Emilia and I. We're not getting any younger. Okay, we are talking about it often Like we gotta find a way. We gotta find a way to do mobility more. She knows it and I know it. Okay, we're gonna have to give something else up. Okay, what are we gonna give up? Nothing, right now I.

Alan Lazaros:

I haven't been doing that ever since I started cutting. Yeah, I had to can out the morning pancakes had to well, you never.

Kevin Palmieri:

I didn't even know you're. When are when are we going to do the 10-pound to 10-week challenge?

Alan Lazaros:

No man, you know I don't want to do it. No. What I've been hinging on this, maybe like after Next Level Live, after Group 18, after some stuff, after some stuff.

Kevin Palmieri:

So after Not right now, next year?

Alan Lazaros:

No fucking chance.

Kevin Palmieri:

Right now I'm going to bring it, I might bring it myself. I respect it if you do, of course it is.

Alan Lazaros:

I did 53 podcasts, coaching sessions and trainings last week. I am not dieting. A pound a week right now, because I want to focus on Coaching, training, podcasting, my relationship. I'm going to do mobility. You have another podcast to do as well. You're gonna. You're gonna do the other. Yes, your business growth you.

Kevin Palmieri:

Maybe it won't be 10 pounds in 10 weeks. I don't know. I'm not sure what it's gonna be yet. I don't know if I want to sign myself up for a pound a week either. Honestly, I think it sounds cool pounds in 10 weeks is so cool, I know, but it's. There's an ego play for me there of like, if you wait till summer, I'll do it with you. It's summer. I want to be very jacked by summer. I mean, it's already march. It's the middle of what are you?

Alan Lazaros:

optimizing for july 4th.

Kevin Palmieri:

No, I don't do things I'm not doing, things I don't think with any, anybody or things actually no.

Alan Lazaros:

What are you optimizing?

Kevin Palmieri:

for I guess I'm optimizing for july, april, may june. It's already April, almost May June. Yeah, it's time. Yeah, alright, let me think on it, because you don't have to do it if you don't want. Obviously I'll think on it, and then we can announce it whenever we decide.

Alan Lazaros:

This would be my next level lesson 10 pounds in 52 weeks, that's perfect, nice and easy, nice and easy.

Kevin Palmieri:

Prior preparation prevents piss-poor performance, I believe is a saying. The six Ps Prior preparation prevents piss-poor performance. The six Ps.

Alan Lazaros:

Nice.

Kevin Palmieri:

When it comes to adaptability, I think that's one of the things to focus on. If you know you're in for uncertainty, create as much certainty as possible. If I have my well, I don't as much because I don't really go anywhere anymore but have a travel water bottle Cool, let me fill that up and bring it with me, just in case. My gym stuff is always in my car. I have my knee sleeves in the back, my belt is in the back, my wrist wraps are in the back, my boxing gloves are in my trunk. I have all of my stuff in my car at all times my elbow sleeves, everything is in there, in case I go somewhere and then I want to hit the gym on the way home, or whatever it is. There's always a. We can try to inject some level of certainty into uncertainty to the best of our ability. That would be my next little lesson.

Alan Lazaros:

Mine would be keep things as simple as you possibly can, because complexity destroys consistency. Number two would be emilia and I. We have certain rules, self-rules. No one else is telling us we have to do this, but we have certain rules in our relationship where her and I don't go out without having our my zen book and her MacBook, like in case we have to charge the Tesla. Then we make sure that we can get something done. We have certain rules.

Alan Lazaros:

My bag is always work ready and gym ready Always, and I never leave without it, because there have been too many times where it's like, ah, we could have ended up hitting that gym, we could have ended up doing, oh, pivot, okay, her parents, you've got to gotta prepare to your point for being adapted, adaptable. And I always have my knee sleeves in my bag, I always have my wrist straps in my bag, that kind of thing. My my bag, one bag, one journal, one zen book, one phone. I think a lot of people have 10 journals and you know, three computers and a bunch of different air types of air pods and a bunch of. I try my best to have one of everything and I try to make sure that I'm always fitness ready, work ready, relationship ready.

Kevin Palmieri:

Do you know the six p's you want to say? You want to rattle them off real quick.

Alan Lazaros:

I've never heard that before in my life before. What do you? What do?

Kevin Palmieri:

you live under a fucking rock for sure.

Alan Lazaros:

That's like the bumper sticker of all bumper sticker things prior I don't think I could prevents piss poor performance say it one more time prior preparation prevents piss, poorpoor performance, nice, nice it's a good one. Yeah, it's true. I would say it's accurate it helps, it helps.

Kevin Palmieri:

And again at some point. Some days you just have to say, all right, screw it, I'm going to do it. That's a big piece of it too, but that's not the point.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah, if you need everything to be perfect to be consistent, you'll never be perfect To be consistent.

Kevin Palmieri:

You'll never be consistent, it's going to be troubled times at the OK Corral.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah, Emilia and I have three years of consistent exercise. I mean, it has been sometimes just walking in the freezing cold wind outside of a terrible hotel that we thought was going to be nice.

Kevin Palmieri:

We call it the Chateau in New Hampshire where Kevin lives, a gleaming. First of all, don't associate that to my homeland.

Alan Lazaros:

It's near the Chugga Highway thing. King of Mangus, king of Mangus, that one, yeah, yeah, yeah, and it was terrible.

Kevin Palmieri:

But we got it done. We got it done Well, and this podcast is a really good example of that. We never record when we want to Almost never. It never happens. We were supposed to record three episodes tonight. We're going to do two, and one will get done on Saturday and boom, now we've survived another week and then next week we can figure out how we're going to do it again. A lot of adaptability, Definitely something I'm working on, because I haven't always had that when it comes to business stuff, but I'm really trying to work on that.

Kevin Palmieri:

All right, Next Level Nation, if you want to attend our live event on April 5th 2025, Next Level Live 2025, we will have the link in the show notes below. It is a full day event, but if you can't stay for the whole time, with your ticket purchase you will get access to the replay. So if you come for a couple hours awesome you can watch the rest of the replay. No matter what, you'll be able to consume the content. We're only taking 50 people and we're only selling 50 tickets because we want to make sure this is a really high quality group of people Not saying you're not, but we want to make sure that the breakout sessions are really good. It's just a good showing of next level people. That's the goal, and we've done things in the past where we wanted to get as many people there as possible and it just didn't work as well and it wasn't as aligned.

Alan Lazaros:

So doing it a little different this time kev is green group green team, amy's yellow team, brandon is red team, I am blue team and christina will be orange team. So we are again five groups, 10 people. If you're a business owner, you're gonna end up on my team. You're a podcaster probably kevin's, and again there'll be some exceptions. We're we're doing it based on what we know of you and all that kind of stuff. Sign up, register 47 bucks and the. The thing that needs to be said is I know it's a saturday, I know a lot of people have a lot of stuff going on. If you have to pop in and out, we're not going to be offended, okay, so sign up as soon as possible. The tickets are selling like crazy and we are filling it up as soon as possible.

Kevin Palmieri:

Like hotcakes One of these days. We'll do an event on a weekday maybe. What do you think? I hate it Never mind, we'll see. You didn't hear it. We're not doing it.

Alan Lazaros:

Evidentlyly, I think it's important to do it on a saturday, because a lot of people work a lot of people are working, yeah, but also a lot of people are binge drinking on saturdays a lot of next level listeners. You think no, no, you guys probably, I mean, I don't know I'm not going to judge you.

Kevin Palmieri:

I like a whiskey amongst friends as well.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah, I don't binge drink them remember when we had that person come wasted to one of our events.

Kevin Palmieri:

Yes, they asked great questions, though they were into it. Nice, yeah, they were into it. I was actually surprised because I remember when we first saw them stumble in, we were like this is definitely going to be a massive issue. Like this can't, there's no possibility that this could go positively. It actually went pretty well Nice, so yeah you never, know All right, as always. We love you, we appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you At NLU. We don't have fans, we have family. We will talk to you all tomorrow, keep it.

Alan Lazaros:

Next Level Next.

Kevin Palmieri:

Level Nation. Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. We love connecting with the Next.

Alan Lazaros:

Level family. We mean it when we say family. If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. Everything you need to get a hold of us is in the show notes.

Kevin Palmieri:

Thank you again and we will talk to you tomorrow.

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