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If Your Consistency Is Boring… You’re Doing It Right (2067)

• Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

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Chase meaning, not excitement. One builds, the other burns out. In this episode, Kevin and Alan reflect on the quiet rhythm of real growth, found not in fireworks but in the steady beat of repetition. They share the power of tracking, the discipline of showing up, and the hidden danger of chasing every shiny thing. With wisdom from over 2,000 episodes, they reveal why progress often feels ordinary and why that’s exactly the point.

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Show notes:
(2:58) The truth about boring consistency
(4:33) How we drift from what works
(7:20) Bright spots come from discipline
(11:58) Three years of compounding growth
(15:13) Meet your people. Chase your dreams. Level up your life with Next Level Group Coaching. https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/group-coaching/
(17:44) When the grind becomes normal
(21:49) Stop chasing shiny objects
(25:07) Finding the right ratio for you
(27:10) What growing up really means
(29:36) Outro

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Kevin Palmieri:

You have heard me say this many times, alan. It seems like Groundhog Day. Groundhog Day is a movie from like the 70s or the 80s I've never seen it, but I've heard enough about it where the person wakes up and every day is exactly the same their alarm clock goes off, they smack their alarm clock, the same car drives by, the same things happen, and I feel like, when it comes to success, it is pretty much that, and I am convinced, the more my life feels like groundhog day, the better I am doing with my habits.

Alan Lazaros:

If you believe that what it's going to take to be successful is going to be exciting, you are in for a rude awakening. There are milestones along the way, bright spots, shiny things along the way that are very exciting, but but the in-between, the silence between the notes that makes the music is quite fucking boring.

Kevin Palmieri:

Welcome to Next Level University. I'm your host, kevin Palmieri, and I'm your co-host, alan Lazarus. At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven but no BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.

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Kevin Palmieri:

Welcome to Next Level University, next Level Nation today for episode number 2067. Nothing like Alan swearing in the cold open. If your consistency is boring, you're doing it right. Most likely, I would have to imagine, as I mentioned, when my life feels like Groundhog Day, when the alarm goes off and I really don't want to get up and I don't really want to work out and I don't really want to do the things and it feels like I've been doing the same thing over and over and over again. Alan is showing the flywheel, turning the flywheel by Jim Collins.

Kevin Palmieri:

I think that's when I make the most progress, when I put my head down and I track my calories and I do the same shit. The reason I eat the same stuff every day is because it's just easy. It's and I it's not necessarily the most exciting thing in the world, but it works really really, really well. And I I think to alan's point, it's not. If you think being consistent is going to be super fun, you probably are going to be sad because consistency, by definition, is doing the same shit over and over and over again, unless you're going down a water slide on your laptop working, your consistency most likely is going to be boring and if that happens and you're doing that, you're going to get fired, most likely.

Alan Lazaros:

I just got off a coaching session with a client of mine Matt shout out to you, brother, and he's been super consistent, running a mile a day, and that consistency not only has probably gotten somewhat boring but has taken away some consistency on some other things. And I said you can only have so many musts every day, and one of the old musts that we used to have is he has a. He owns a bunch of properties and one of his properties, the one that he lives in, has an office that's separate from the house and he has these awesome book summaries on the walls and I'm super excited to eventually get some of those. But it's productivity heaven, from my understanding, and he used to. Okay, when you get out of work, boom, you go right to the office. Don't go home and see the family, yet you go to the office. You just got to get your butt in that seat and just spend a little bit of time updating your spreadsheets and your metrics and getting your life in order. Get the certainty that you need. Track the stuff.

Alan Lazaros:

We at NLU believe in tracking to stay on track, and tracking helps you stay consistent. And ever since he's been I don't know what his streak is, but I think he's 25 days in a row, or something like that, of running a mile a day. I could be making that up two weeks to three weeks, maybe four weeks. I'm not a hundred percent sure. I'd have to look, but it's, it's going. And he kind of fell off on the get your butt into the office once a day.

Alan Lazaros:

I try really hard to get my ass in this office once a day because when I don't, things start to slowly drift, achievers, people that are oriented towards success. We don't fall off our goals completely, we just drift, we just drift. And then all of a sudden, oh shit, I remember when I used to foam roll every day. Oh shit, I remember when I used to track my spending every day. Oh shit, that's what happens. We just drift. And it's so easy to drift. It is Because consistency is boring. But I also think if you want to feel really good at the beach, if you want to feel really good at the beach, if you want to feel really good at the bank, if you want to feel really good in your relationship, you're going to have to be consistent at certain things. Consistency is necessary. It is probably the hardest thing If you took away Kevinvin and i's consistency 2067 episodes as of today. If you take away that consistency, you'd also take away 90 of our success well, I think about when this journey was the funnest.

Kevin Palmieri:

Quote unquote we were probably making the least progress, at least I. I feel like we were probably making progress in certain ways, like we were building relationships and that type of stuff, but that only gets you so far if you're trying to practice skill development or being more competent in something. But, like when we were traveling all over the place, we weren't making progress in business. We were broke as shit, very broke. The credit cards were getting us everywhere. That was terrible, but it was fun and it was unique and there was different days felt different.

Kevin Palmieri:

But I don't know, I don't. I think the more I realize or the more I learn about success and accomplishment and all that, I think the sadder I get because I see so much content. It's like I don't. I don't know if people are just outright lying or maybe they're just further in the journey and they've forgotten. Right, it's, it's a lot easier now to get clients than it was in the beginning. So maybe I don't give his advice as well as I once did, but I don't know. I now it's. It's well, let's just do this real quick.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah, how hard was it to get your first podcast production client?

Kevin Palmieri:

honestly, all things considered, it wasn't that hard because it was. It was a referral. You went to his house like six times, yeah, but it wasn't. It wasn't like how much effort zero to ten. It was a lot of it. I mean this was level nine effort Okay.

Alan Lazaros:

What is it now Three? If that's a nine, what is it now Three, four, okay.

Kevin Palmieri:

It's different. It's different, but that is to your point. That is a bright spot in an otherwise really boring day.

Kevin Palmieri:

When somebody reaches out to me. I'll never forget alan and I were on stage giving a speech and we had I think I had a five thousand dollar check from giving the speech in my backpack. Yeah, hang on to this. I had somebody email me saying hey, you came on my podcast a long time ago. I need you. I need you guys to work. I need to work with you guys. It was like this is the dream. I'm getting paid to speak and people are reaching out that want to do podcast stuff. That's awesome.

Alan Lazaros:

That see how awesome that story sounds. It sounds so awesome that story. That might be the best story that whole year probably was.

Kevin Palmieri:

Well, that was also. Oh no, that that speech and training went well. We didn't bomb that one. I was gonna say that was also the speech that we bombed. So no, three hours later it was terrible.

Alan Lazaros:

They only do that every other year. I hope we get invited next year. That'd be great. That would be great, they do it every other year.

Kevin Palmieri:

So we did it in 2024.

Alan Lazaros:

So hopefully 2026. No, we did it in 2020. Was it 2024?

Kevin Palmieri:

I don't know anymore a powerful one.

Alan Lazaros:

We went deep. That was good. I liked the three hours with the breaks in between. We had like an introduction with everybody, then we had go deeper, then go deeper. I like that format I like the three hours a day thing, just like next level live.

Kevin Palmieri:

I really enjoy that that's such a big, that's such an important thing. Oh yeah, you guys got paid to speak and all this. Yes, that's because we did the same shit every day for however many years and then eventually, and it's because alan went to that, went to that college and was part of that fraternity. That's where that came from.

Alan Lazaros:

100, we had the skills, hopefully, to be able to add value based on this, but I don't know yeah, between you and I, I I remember thinking and this tends to be my process I'll bring everyone behind the scenes. I don't know if I should do this, I don't know if this is good for business, but whatever, I think the speech is going to go well, and then it usually is worse than I thought. And then usually I review it and go wow, that was actually stronger than I thought. And that's my process. You tend to be the opposite. I think. You think it'll go poorly, then it goes better than you thought, then you watch it back and go.

Kevin Palmieri:

I could have done better. I think that's probably your process. Is that fair? Well, I don't know. I think when I watch it back, I don't. I feel like I'm very cognitive, I'm very aware of what's happening in real time. So I don't know if, when I watch it back, it's that much different.

Alan Lazaros:

That means you're, that means you're most likely realistic, there's pessimistic, there's realistic and there's optimistic. I've been saying that for years.

Kevin Palmieri:

You used to say I was pessimistic. I said, brother, I don't think I am. I think I'm realist Long-term. You are, I think I'm a realist. Well, you can only be as optimistic as your time, perspective and mindset and belief and belief. So I'd rather yeah, that's fair, probably.

Alan Lazaros:

So I went to the event the next day. They had an award ceremony the next day and again, if anyone out there was there and is watching this, I'm going to say this and brace yourself. We were world-class compared to the people. I went to the event afterwards and I could not believe how much worse of speakers they were. It was now granted they're not speakers, they're just presenting awards and they're reading off it, but I went from I think we suck to we are unbelievable. I could not believe how well we captured you remember the first speech and how hard it was to keep everyone's attention because everyone was eating.

Alan Lazaros:

We did a way better job than I thought because I had nothing to compare to. It's my least favorite thing about this fucking industry. We don't have anything to compare to. You don't notice how good you are at podcasting until you go on other shows with other podcasters. You don't realize how strong of a speaker you are until we had I'm having a guest named Michael Burt. Coach Michael Burt on the Business Growth University podcast, and when we went to see him speak we went to see David Meltzer and David Meltzer's speech got moved. Coach Michael Burt has been speaking for 33 years and he was so good.

Alan Lazaros:

I was captivated by his speech when we were there and the dude who went up after was so bad and I'm not trying to be mean, this is just what it is. It is what it is this guy who came after coach Michael Burt. I felt so bad for him. Not a single fucking person was paying attention to the point where it was rude. It was actually rude how bad this was. What was my point of all? That you and I went and spoke. I don't think we did that good of a job, but it wasn't until the day after when I actually had something to compare it to that, I realized we did a great job. But the only reason we did a great job to the point of this episode is because we've been consistently speaking for so long. I went back to episode 188. No, 888. I'm sorry, 888.

Kevin Palmieri:

Yeah, don't go back to 188. Jesus.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah, it was a clip. I am night and day different, Night and day different it's. I don't know how long ago that was, so I could literally crunch the numbers. So we're at what? 2067?

Kevin Palmieri:

2066. So that would be what like 1980. So that would be, I'm going to say, 2.75.

Alan Lazaros:

Shit. 3.23 years ago, so a little more than three years ago. So a little more than three years ago, and I've it's not even close. It was boring and struggle bus and there was no. Oh, my goodness, I've made it moment, it's just. This is one of the hardest things in the world to explain, because if Kevin and I were to talk to us three years ago, the growth would be blatantly obvious. It wouldn't even be close. But we don't feel that different than I felt back then. I don't feel that much more successful. We are also significantly more successful than we were back then, but I don't feel that much more successful. And I think that feelings and objective truth are not necessarily correlated.

Alan Lazaros:

Last piece, I'll kick it to you. You, I was watching a ted talk last night. Sundays are my big learning days because we're doing house projects. We did gravel, all kinds of stuff. The ted talk was have you ever seen the? I don't know if it's called a magic hand or something. Essentially, there's a, there's a fake hand yeah, yeah and the hand okay yeah exactly, yeah, I know, hey, I know, hey, I know shit too.

Kevin Palmieri:

I know shit too. You know what I mean. I'm used to you not understanding a single fucking reference I make. That's because you throw like hey, have you seen Moana? No, I haven't seen Moana. Everybody's seen Moana. Man, you think I'm seeing a cartoon with the Rock being one of the voices. You got me so messed up.

Alan Lazaros:

I of the voices. You got me so messed up. I know alana is a great.

Kevin Palmieri:

I'm not saying it's not. I'm not saying it's not. I want to watch violence. Alan said john wick wasn't that good. It's like dude. What do you mean not?

Alan Lazaros:

great. Not a fan, not a fan. No, but that's okay, you and I can fight later. I'm kidding. We're doing a relationship talks event on the fight languages. I think you and I need to go through them. Oh, I'm kidding, I'm genuinely kidding. I was on a walk with Amelia preparing for the event, because it's on Thursday and we're it's Monday. It was Sunday last night and we're going through them and I was like I don't want to do this anymore because I have at least three of them on the list.

Kevin Palmieri:

You'll have plenty of stories to work through. Yeah, exactly.

Alan Lazaros:

So pumped to talk about my fight languages. But, by the way, the link will be in the show notes for anyone who does want to register. It's important. It's like a love language, but different. You have a certain way in which you react to uncertainty. So do I. This will be unbelievably helpful for anyone who wants to come.

Kevin Palmieri:

The link will be in the show notes, so that would be tomorrow if you're listening to this on Wednesday.

Alan Lazaros:

Tomorrow, yeah, nice job. Thursday, yeah, correct Thursday night when we record ahead. It's the time's all Jeffed you know, thursday night 5 pm, eastern Standard Time, nice, we would love to see you there. It's free. We hope to see you there. Bring your partner. Bring your partner, it's free.

Kevin Palmieri:

We hope to see website nextleveluniversecom and we have the landing page where you can actually hold your spot right now. Even if there's a group going on right now, you can still lock your spot for the next one. The biggest thing that we've seen is, as we get closer and closer to the date, unfortunately, some people end up missing. The group fills up and they can't do it, and then they end up regretting that. So please head over to the website. The link will be in the show notes and we would love to see you there. What the hell was I talking about before that? You were talking about Ooh man, we were talking about movies.

Alan Lazaros:

And how did?

Kevin Palmieri:

Moana come up. Oh, the hand, the hand and the hammer. That's right, I was watching a TED talk about how perception perception is reality.

Alan Lazaros:

I know, Kev, I'm going to need you to lock it up.

Kevin Palmieri:

I'm going to lock it up. That was a rough one. Yeah, that was a rough one. Sorry, perception, it's okay man, it's always the episodes where you're talking about how good of speakers we are, that we fuck up everything, that we fuck up everything. It's always those. It's like. If you just listen for the first time, you're like what the hell is this guy talking about?

Alan Lazaros:

I had one of my clients say did you do that on purpose? No, absolutely not. But I do appreciate that you think I'm that good. Perception versus reality. There's a fake hand that the person doing the study is taking a paintbrush for both their real hand and the fake hand and then all of a sudden a hammer comes out and it freaks the person out even though it's fake. Okay, my point of that oh, feeling like you're making progress versus actually making objective progress are two very different things. I don't feel that much more successful than I did back during episode 888. But looking back, it is night and day.

Alan Lazaros:

And I just really hope that people know that.

Kevin Palmieri:

I was thinking the other day. I remember I remember when we got the studio I would so alan and I was like a dream come true. We got a our own studio in this mill building. We could do whatever we wanted with it. We put, we did the walls, we had the, we had curtains, we had a bunch of lights. It was awesome. We had a fridge, we had a coffee maker. It was amazing. We had our own freaking studio and I remember I would get up at like 4 30.

Kevin Palmieri:

I would drive halfway down. There was a gym that was on the way. I would work out, I would shower at the gym, I'd get coffee outside the gym and then you and I would meet at the studio and work 12 hours, and like that was. I remember mondays we would get down there bright and early. Our meetup was from five to six and then we had a team meeting on the way home. So I would get home at like six, 30 or seven and I was still on the phone and I would sit in my car until I was done and then I would go in and that we did that for a long ass time Some of the best fitness progress I ever made.

Kevin Palmieri:

I used to get up at again. I got up early and I wasn't getting enough sleep, so I could have done this better. But I would get up at four 30 every single day, no matter what time I went to bed. I would foam roll, I do my journaling, I do my learning, I take my pre-workout I'd have my pre-workout meal back when I lived with Matt, and then he would get up at five, 30 or whatever time it was, and I would be like all the way through my morning routine. It was the same shit every day, just like, oh God, here we go again, oh God, here we go again. But it was.

Kevin Palmieri:

Eventually you get to the point where you fall I don't want to say fall in love with the process. You really start to appreciate the process. I'm not going to say you even like it, but you appreciate it. You appreciate the fact that, well, maybe it was a little bit easier for me to get up today, maybe I'm more excited to go do this thing, or there's less resistance, or I understand the benefits to a deeper level. I don't know if it ever really gets easier. I think it just becomes more worth it. And when you do it long enough and you start to see to Alan's point like we're way. Everything is way better than it was three years ago. Yeah, way better. But I think my life is probably just as, if not more, boring. Honestly, it's probably more boring, not in a bad way.

Kevin Palmieri:

Yeah, not in a bad way, because we've we've set and reset goals and set and reset goals, and if there, if the the goal, if you have a specific goal, I want to make and save as much money as possible. A lot of fun shit costs money. So you're, you're not going to be doing a lot of fun shit most likely. I mean, you're probably way more creative than I am, but a lot of fun stuff costs money. You want to get food, you want to go to the movies, you want to go to a museum, you want to go for a drive, you want to blah, blah, blah Everything kind of it costs money. Everything.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah. It's set going to cost anything. Facts that is a mathematical fact.

Alan Lazaros:

That's what I'm saying. It's free 99. Free 99, always the. What is your relationship with? I've been saying that a lot lately. What's your relationship with being bored? I, it's a. It's a weird thing because I haven't been bored in many years. 10 years ago, I feel like I found my calling, my purpose, my passion, my mission, whatever you want to call it, and fell in love with personal development and I mean in love, obsessed. Just getting a little better each day, every fucking day. Just get a little better, just a little bit. You'd think I would feel better. No, I know, objectively I'm better, but it still doesn't feel that. It doesn't feel like I'm, oh, I'm a great speaker now. No, I know, objectively I'm better, but it still doesn't feel that it doesn't feel like, oh, I'm a great speaker now, oh, I'm a great partner now, I'm in great shape now. It's not. It's never that way. It's iterative. And I have the number right over here 0.1% improvement every day for 50 years makes you 84 million times better. That is a mathematical fact.

Kevin Palmieri:

It's a mathematical fact 84 million.

Alan Lazaros:

That's a lot of times. 84 bajillion actually, that's a big number. No, that is actually a mathematical fact. Every social media, every social media only lets me do it once. On my Facebook and my threads it's pinned a little video of me breaking down the math 0.1% improvement for one year, for 10 years, for 20 years, for 30 years, for 40 years and for 50 years. And you do. Eventually, if you're consistent, determined, disciplined and never lose momentum, you do. You end up unbelievably farther ahead than you were. It's the compound effect consistency compounds. But all along the way it's almost like if you're chasing an exciting life.

Alan Lazaros:

I lived a life in the past where I was chasing excitement. I partied in la, one of the most famous bars. The most famous bar maybe in the entire world is called the abbey. It's in downtown los angeles and I I mean I partied and we had a blast. We played basketball with some famous comedians. We had a lot of fun, but I wasn't making progress.

Alan Lazaros:

That was a trip where I was definitely not making progress. I was making fitness progress because we were working out pretty hard and I wasn't drinking at that point, but that looked like the time of my life, but I wasn't building anything meaningful. I really wasn't, and now two weeks would probably look fairly boring, but I'm way more put together and so if you're chasing excitement, you're probably going to have a pretty hard time building a meaningful life, and if you're okay with being bored, you probably have an advantage over everybody else. You definitely do, actually, because I don't need that much. I used to say, if you learn to need nothing, you'll have everything. I now understand why that doesn't land, because you have to want huge goals and want to achieve great things, but you have to learn how to need very little along the way and keep your expenses low.

Alan Lazaros:

I don't need beautiful. I don't need a beautiful home. I don't need an amazing car. I don't need nice clothes, but it is really nice. And I do think for being a business coach, you have to, obviously, you know, play the part and that kind of thing. But the only reason why I have all these nice things, I think, is because I was willing to be broke again after corporate and just be. The grind may not be something you like, being bored isn't something you have to like, but it is a necessity and I do believe that if you want it's almost like if you want to feel fulfilled about what you've done in the world. You can't chase shiny objects. You can't. I know you can't because when I used to chase shiny objects I was just getting nowhere fast yeah, I think it's like 90, 10, 90 bored.

Kevin Palmieri:

It's like, uh, this weekend I had a big cheat meal I had. I had a lot of food. It was amazing I had a great workout the next day.

Kevin Palmieri:

But I was like I've been going, I've been dieting hard, I've been doing it, I've been exercising hard, I'm going to treat myself 90, 90 doing it, 10, fun, unique experience, 10, a little variety, whatever it is, and that, whatever the percentage, is as long as it's constructive for you and your goals. Maybe it's not 90, 10, maybe it, maybe it's 80, 20. Awesome, that's still better than 70, 30 in terms of goal achievement. We've talked about this before, where you can't do 99, one forever, unless you're wired that way, because then you're going to, you're just going to be miserable and you might regret it, just like you can't do one 99 because you're you're not going to be able to celebrate a ton because you're not gonna have anything to celebrate with and you're not gonna have anything to celebrate. And I think 90, 10, 75, 25, whatever, whatever ratio works for you, I would, I would work on that and if I find anything, if, if I started at like 60, 40, now it's, it's gone. It went 61, 39.

Kevin Palmieri:

And the number has just changed over time and now the grind is a little bit, it's a little bit more normal. I won't say it's easier, but now it's just, it's normal I wake up, I do kind of the same stuff and we're getting really good results because of that. And now I like, now I enjoy, appreciate now I the process. I won't say I like it, I won't say I enjoy it, but I very much appreciate the process. And now I understand. When you do this, this is what comes out. I'm going to be more willing to do this because I know, I know the benefits and I know the results. But it's an appreciation for me more than a, an enjoyment factor, I would say.

Alan Lazaros:

Yeah, it's a necessary appreciation. I think that's really good, because you could have a bad attitude about it or a good one. Either way, it's mathematically necessary.

Kevin Palmieri:

Right, and if you have a bad attitude, you're not going to do it for very long. Exactly, you're not going to do it my next level lesson.

Alan Lazaros:

very last thing, I was on with a client earlier and we did a zoom out of his entire life. He's 38. We went all the way to 50. And I said give me the theme, give me three words for each decade. We went from zero to 10. We went from 10 to 20, 20 to 30, 30 to 40, 40 to 50. And we stopped at that and he gave me three words for every single decade. I still got to send him the Zoom notes, but it was. It's powerful. It's a powerful exercise.

Alan Lazaros:

You just go oh, there aren't that many fundamentals, and when you're a kid, your percentages are the other way around. Oh for sure, when you're a kid, it's 90%, enjoy yourself, 10% responsibility, and then it becomes 80-20. And then it's 70-30. And then it's 60-40. And then it's 50-50. And you're in your 20s and then, all of a sudden, it's uh-oh, this is going the wrong way 60-40. And then it's uh-oh, this is going the wrong way 60, 40, and then it's 70, 30, and then you have kids 80, 20, and then that's the way it's supposed to be. That's called growing up. And I, what is your relationship with that? I don't. I, I partied like a rock star man in college. You heard the story on the last episode. I can't do that as a grown man. Can you imagine if I was like taking shots of grain alcohol?

Kevin Palmieri:

I mean look, some people make a good living doing that, emilia would leave my ass and she should, for sure.

Alan Lazaros:

And that's facts. Because we got to grow up and I'm not making that wrong. I still last, last last thing I know. I got to go. The Emilia and I are in bed at 10 o'clock every single in the bedroom at 10 o'clock, every single night, except for Saturdays. I literally earmuffs for any kids listening, although I've already sworn in this episode. I call Saturday nights my fuck off night. I didn't. We stayed up until like 1.30, watched an entire movie. I'm not going to go to bed at 10 every day for the rest of my life, but I will do it six days a week.

Kevin Palmieri:

I find that I go to bed earlier on Saturday for some reason, I don't know why it's like nine o'clock. Well, I am but nine o'clock rolls around, it's like that's good, I'm good, I'm done, I've had enough weird.

Alan Lazaros:

It's weird, but I feel you. On that, saturday night comes, I get off, my last call at 8 15 and it's game time. Baby, let's go, and I drive to la and party at the abbey, look, la was a shithole I was. I went to LA.

Kevin Palmieri:

I was like wait this is what people talk about. This is terrible. This is not great.

Alan Lazaros:

For any LA listeners. We apologize, we're not fans.

Kevin Palmieri:

I don't apologize because it's not like you made it. It's not like you created LA. You could say Massachusetts sucks. I can't take offense. I was born here. I didn't have any choice. It's not like I designed it.

Alan Lazaros:

You live in New Hampshire, sir.

Kevin Palmieri:

Well, I know, but I was born and raised in Massachusetts. Baby, all right. Next level nation. If you are looking for a group of amazing humans who are also hyper-focused and very committed to getting to the next level of their unique lives, make sure you join the private Facebook group. We will have the link in the show notes below.

Alan Lazaros:

As I already mentioned, the Relationship Talks virtual event Thursday, 5 pm Eastern Standard Time, totally free. Click the link in the show notes. These are the five high level the Exploder, the Silent Type, the Fixer, the Lawyer, also known as the Analyst, and the Emotional Flutter. Come join us and learn what your tendencies are, so that you do not hurt your relationship.

Kevin Palmieri:

Are you the lawyer?

Alan Lazaros:

Oh yeah, I have a couple of these. The lawyer is one of them. For sure the solver, the fixer, for sure the fixer. Sorry, but, hey, let's not put me under the microscope here.

Kevin Palmieri:

No, no, I feel like I'm definitely. I have the fixer for sure. Yeah, Probably all of them.

Alan Lazaros:

It's going to be a great event. It's going to be a great event Join us. Yeah, join us, and the link to register is in the show notes and I would not have cut you off unless I absolutely had to go.

Kevin Palmieri:

So thank you for listening Boom as always. We love you, we appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you.

Alan Lazaros:

And at NLU we don't have fans, we have family. Keep it Next Level, next Level. Nation show notes.

Kevin Palmieri:

Thank you again and we will talk to you tomorrow.

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