You’re Either Building Belief Or Borrowing It! (2121)

Are you relying on someone else’s belief in you to move forward? In today’s episode, Kevin and Alan break down what it takes to build lasting self-belief. From the dangers of staying in “training wheels mode” to the impact of the people around you, they share practical steps for turning borrowed confidence into your own. If you've ever felt like you're stuck despite consuming all the right content or having the right mentors, this episode explains why and what to do next. You’ll walk away with clarity, encouragement, and tools to take ownership of your growth.

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Show notes:
(3:28) How your circle shapes your mindset
(6:02) Environment and identity go hand in hand
(10:18) Why “just believe in yourself” fails
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Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) Step one in building belief is borrowing it, but just like anything else, if you're riding a bike, you can ride with training wheels for a while, but you're never really going to feel confident in riding a bike until you take the training wheels off and then prove to yourself that you're actually capable.

Alan Lazaros

(0:16) If I could only choose one thing to help you work on that will maximize the probability of you reaching success and reaching your potential, it would be building self-belief.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:30) Welcome to Next Level University. (0:32) I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri. (0:34) And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazarus.(0:37) At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven, but no BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.

Alan Lazaros

(0:44) Our goal with every episode is to help you level up your life, love, health, and wealth.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:50) We bring you a new episode every single day on topics like confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-awareness, relationships, boundaries, consistency, habits, and defining your own unique version of success.

Alan Lazaros

(1:06) Self-improvement, in your pocket, every day, from anywhere, completely free. (1:13) Welcome to Next Level University.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:18) Next Level Nation today for episode number 2,121. (1:22) 21, 21, I think. (1:25) I'm kind of losing track of how to do the numbers here.(1:27) I'm getting a little confused with the numbers for some reason. (1:30) You're either building belief or borrowing it. (1:33) Okay.(1:34) We have had some people that were in the community that kind of left the community for a little bit that have come back into the community. (1:45) And I'm not talking trash about you, whether you're watching or listening. (1:48) This is all with love, but you know I like to, we like to take our lessons and share.(1:53) So this is not from a negative place at all, I promise. (1:56) I know who you're talking about. (1:57) He's not going to be upset.(1:58) Okay. (1:58) Well, there's a couple people. (2:00) Couple people.(2:00) Couple people. (2:01) Couple people. (2:02) And when they were a part of the community, they were dialed in.(2:08) They were crushing it. (2:10) I'm willing to bet they would say that they were the most consistent, aligned, productive, fulfilled versions of themselves. (2:17) Then they ended up leaving the community.(2:19) And when they came back, almost everything that they were doing before, they stopped doing. (2:25) And essentially it's starting from square one again, kind of. (2:31) And you and I had a conversation and you said, how does that happen?(2:34) I feel like they learn so much, they evolve so much. (2:37) And I said, they were borrowing your belief and they were borrowing your brain and they didn't build it for themselves. (2:45) As uncomfortable to admit for you as that will be.(2:48) And I thought that that would make for a good episode because if you're out there and you're consuming content, you have a coach, you have a mentor, you're in the right communities, all that stuff, but nothing is changing. (3:01) It most likely is because you're not actually changing. (3:05) Maybe your behaviors are, but your identity isn't.(3:09) Maybe your results are a little bit, but your self-talk isn't. (3:14) When you change, everything around you starts to change. (3:17) And I think there's something to be said about the fact that you can borrow something for a long time, but until you know how to build it for yourself, you can't really get beyond a certain place.

Alan Lazaros

(3:28) I have this exercise I do with clients called your five-pointed star. (3:34) And I pull up the whiteboard on zoom and I draw a star and I put the client's name in the center. (3:40) And then I put the five people they spend the most time with.(3:43) And then we rate from zero to 10, how dialed in they are towards their goals. (3:48) So let's say it's a 77777. (3:54) That's never the case.(3:55) And I don't let people use all sevens because I want them to delineate between, I don't know if that's the right word, but I'm going to use all sevens just to make this easy mathematically. (4:05) That means their belief is a seven. (4:07) So if you are around five people that you're closest with, and they all believe in themselves at level seven.(4:15) And I mean, actually do not fake, not ego, not lying to themselves, not delusion, but actually their self-efficacy subconsciously, unconsciously, and consciously, then your belief is a seven. (4:30) The five people you spend the most time with. (4:32) There's a reason that quote exists of you are the sum average of the five people you spend the most time with.(4:37) And this depends on the industry and the category. (4:42) So without making this too complicated, people say your net worth is the sum of the net worth of the people you associate with. (4:51) Okay, fair.(4:53) But what if some of them have terrible marriages and some of them are out of shape and some of them, so yeah, your net worth might be really high. (5:03) If the people you spend the most time with have high net worths, because you're going to talk about money more. (5:08) You're going to talk about ideas that have to do with money more.(5:11) You're going to learn finance more. (5:12) You're going to go to nicer places that cost more. (5:15) So you have more necessity to make more.(5:17) It's going to be a whole thing. (5:18) There's a statistic. (5:19) And again, don't quote me on the exact percentage, but Emilia said this recently, and I don't quote her on it either, but I do believe that I've heard this over and over and over again over the last 10 years.(5:29) If you have a friend who becomes overweight, you are 30% more likely to become overweight yourself. (5:37) And this is why a lot of times when you find couples and they get together, they either get in shape together or out of shape together. (5:42) Almost always.(5:43) It makes sense. (5:45) If Kevin's dialing in on fitness, I'm dialing in on fitness. (5:49) We hang out.(5:50) Out of sight, out of mind works. (5:52) In sight, in mind works. (5:53) Kevin and I are talking fitness.(5:55) I see his posts. (5:56) He sees my posts. (5:57) We're in a community.(5:57) Everybody's getting after it.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:58) We're talking about it more on the podcast.

Alan Lazaros

(6:01) Talking about it more on the podcast. (6:02) Because what you say, think, do, feel, and believe is completely connected. (6:07) And we are one human being that has a community of other human beings around us that really influence us.(6:13) On the 4th of July, I had to fight my urge to work less yesterday because the whole country was essentially on vacation. (6:22) And I didn't have to fight it as hard as I would have in the past. (6:25) But I was conditioned 4th of July means you go party.(6:28) 4th of July, you go party. (6:29) And in the past, I told Emilia last night we watched The Patriot. (6:33) Nice.(6:34) Extended. (6:35) Three hours. (6:36) Three hours.(6:37) What time did you go to bed? (6:38) Late. (6:39) You stayed up late last night.(6:40) Late last night. (6:41) We let it ride. (6:41) We rode the lightning, as you would say.(6:43) I told her when we went to bed, I said, that was the best 4th of July I've ever had. (6:47) It was hands down the best 4th of July I've ever had. (6:49) It was unbelievable.(6:50) I don't want the drama. (6:51) I don't want the, I don't, I'm not about it. (6:53) You don't want to black out anywhere or you don't want to go black out somewhere?(6:57) No, I, no, nope, not a fan. (7:00) Never been a fan actually.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:01) There's a little ego piece of me that sees people celebrate and it's like, I'm getting ahead. (7:06) I'm getting ahead. (7:08) It's facts.(7:08) I had a double shot of whiskey though last night. (7:10) I had a strong shot. (7:12) Double shot.(7:13) What is it?

Alan Lazaros

(7:13) In a glass. (7:14) In a glass. (7:14) Okay.(7:15) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:15) Yeah. (7:15) Not, I didn't shoot him down. (7:16) I had a double shot on ice.

Alan Lazaros

(7:17) You're ripping shots by yourself.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:19) Of Macallan 12. (7:20) We are really going backwards. (7:22) Nice.(7:22) Good for you. (7:23) In bed. (7:24) I literally drank my whiskey while laying, laying in bed watching TV with Taryn.(7:28) It was fucking wonderful.

Alan Lazaros

(7:29) Nice.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:30) That's great.

Alan Lazaros

(7:31) Um, my point of all that is you are, and you and I both worked yesterday.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:36) Yes.

Alan Lazaros

(7:37) Long days. (7:38) That is the power of association. (7:40) So your point of this episode is the belief thing, borrowing belief.(7:44) If you have a community of people who believe in themselves, they're going to have bigger goals. (7:48) If they have bigger goals, you're going to want to have bigger goals. (7:50) They're going to be able to pour into you.(7:52) It's, I honestly think to some extent, and maybe this was more me than you. (7:58) I didn't feel like I belonged anywhere. (8:00) So I just created belonging in our company and in our community.(8:04) I mean, next level university, a place where you learn how to reach your potential. (8:09) That's what I always wanted. (8:10) And I remember when my mentor said, why Kevin?(8:13) I don't understand like why Kevin? (8:16) And I said, yeah, Kev's flexing. (8:18) Biceps.(8:18) Hilarious. (8:19) I said, in my head, this is what I said to myself is that that's where I belong. (8:24) I feel a strong sense of belonging with Kevin.(8:27) I feel like he gets me more than most people. (8:30) And that's, that was true. (8:31) That was true.(8:31) Especially at the time. (8:32) I feel like no one understood why I was trying to do what I was doing and no one really believed in me as much as you did, which is weird to think about.

Kevin Palmieri

(8:41) And turns out you believed in me less than I thought. (8:43) No, no, I had, I mean, look, I, I quit my job and went all in. (8:46) I, I had the utmost belief in you.(8:48) It just is worse than I thought it was going to be. (8:50) You made it seem like it was going to be like, okay. (8:54) And it wasn't, it wasn't.(8:57) What did I make it seem like? (8:59) I sold you a lie. (9:00) Yeah.(9:01) You made it seem like it was going to be awesome. (9:02) And it was awesome. (9:04) It is now, but it wasn't for 90% of the time we've been doing this.(9:09) It's been terrible. (9:11) Pretty much. (9:12) No kidding.(9:13) I'm so, I don't want to take us off the rails. (9:15) No kidding. (9:16) He says, I found a fish hook in my, in my chicken nugget.(9:19) No kidding. (9:20) No kidding. (9:21) I'm serious.(9:22) There was a fish hook in it. (9:23) This is terrible. (9:24) Oh, I'm sorry.(9:24) That's what, that's what you just did. (9:26) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(9:26) I'm sorry. (9:27) That's too bad. (9:28) I am fascinated.(9:29) I just don't want to take the episode off the rails. (9:32) I told Kev right before we hit record on this second episode we're doing today. (9:36) I want to talk about self-belief more, dude.(9:38) I, I have been in the personal development industry for 10 fucking years. (9:42) And I'm telling you all the speakers, not all of them, but most of them, most of the big, big names books. (9:49) I mean, personal development books.(9:50) I've hundreds, if not thousands, nobody's talking about self-belief because they don't know that they have it. (9:57) Dude. (9:58) Wow.(9:58) That feels like the biggest blind spot.

Kevin Palmieri

(10:00) Because you wouldn't know, you wouldn't know you had it either. (10:03) If you didn't work with me because of you, I'm, I'm convinced. (10:07) And again, this could be a bold statement.(10:09) I have never heard anybody say they don't resonate with most of the successful people because they understand most of the successful people don't get them. (10:18) That was my experience. (10:20) I can't listen to someone who says, we'll just believe in yourself more.(10:23) That's dumb as shit. (10:24) That's like me saying, we'll just go to the gym more.

Alan Lazaros

(10:27) Kev, when I gave the speech, I gave a speech in 2022, that was apparently hot garbage. (10:32) There's a couple of people that really loved it. (10:33) Amelia loved it.(10:35) I talked about a Redwood. (10:36) Yes. (10:37) And how there's all these different types of trees and there's an acorn that looks like a little piece of poop.(10:41) That's what I would call it. (10:42) And I pulled it up and this little fucking acorn becomes a massive Redwood that you can drive a fucking truck through. (10:50) And I was like, who else hears a fucking Redwood let's do this.(10:53) And I showed a little baby photo of me as a little piece of poop, a little blob. (10:57) I couldn't even, I couldn't even hold my head up, I was a little, little fat kid. (11:01) And then I showed the progression of me and my sister over the years and how I grew into a Redwood in the metaphor.(11:09) And then I showed the picture of a tiger, of a little kitten looking into a puddle and it sees a tiger. (11:17) And I said, and this is back before I knew this wouldn't land, but I said, I'll give you a secret. (11:23) I never saw the kitten.(11:25) I only ever saw what was possible. (11:27) I don't ever, when I was a little prepubescent fucking loser, I didn't see that. (11:33) I knew that I experienced that it was terrible, but I always saw this.(11:37) I'm not kidding, dude. (11:38) I saw this. (11:40) And that's why I was so upset that I wasn't, when I went to Superman and I cried in the bathroom, that's why it affected me so much because I knew that I knew that I knew that I could look like Henry Cable, not fully let's be real, but his physique.(11:57) I knew that I knew that I knew that I knew that I knew that I could do that. (12:00) And I was letting myself down every day. (12:02) So I wonder if you don't have the belief that you could build a Henry Cable level physique, is there almost no downside to not doing it?(12:12) A hundred percent.

Kevin Palmieri

(12:15) Next level nation, what is happening? (12:17) If you've thought to yourself, I want to try coaching, but you don't really know where to start. (12:23) Group coaching would be a wonderful place for you.(12:25) That's really why we created it in the first place. (12:27) We start a new round every 90 days. (12:30) So if you're hearing this, go to the website, nextleveluniverse.com.(12:35) And we have the landing page where you can actually hold your spot right now. (12:39) Even if there's a group going on right now, you can still lock your spot for the next one. (12:43) The biggest thing that we've seen is as we get closer and closer to the date, unfortunately, some people end up missing.(12:49) The group fills up and they can't do it. (12:52) And then they end up regretting that. (12:53) So please head over to the website.(12:55) The link will be in the show notes, and we would love to see you there. (12:59) I think of it as like the, the ice cream analogy of it. (13:03) Well, you know, I had a fricking, I had a sausage, egg and cheese McMuffin for breakfast.(13:09) I already fucked the day up. (13:10) So I'm going to look at a side of hash browns. (13:13) Then when people are coming around the office for lunch, it's like, Hey, I know you brought your lunch, but do you want us to order something?(13:17) It's like, yeah, I already fucked that up. (13:19) So yeah, let me get a four slices, pep pepperoni, extra chi, please. (13:25) And then at dinner, it's like, I already fucked up.(13:27) And then it's like, I might as well have dessert. (13:29) I already fucked the day up. (13:30) I think that's how a lot, if you don't believe you can improve it, I think sometimes you just let it ride and or push it in the opposite direction.

Alan Lazaros

(13:39) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:40) Unfortunately, unfortunately. (13:44) What was it like for you to build so much belief that you got arrogant? (13:48) Are, is it, are you, are you saying this live right now that I've gotten arrogant?(13:52) No, no, not now. (13:53) No, I don't think you're arrogant. (13:54) In, in, in bouts.(13:56) Uh, the, the post Brenner Bruchard event. (13:58) That wasn't, that wasn't belief. (14:00) That was just like a, Alan and I went to an event.(14:03) I was convinced I wasn't going to fit in. (14:04) I wasn't going to be smart enough. (14:06) And I left realizing I have way more clarity than I even understood.(14:10) And you're smarter than you thought. (14:11) I'm way smarter than I thought. (14:12) We're, we have, we're like more not successful, but we're more clear and on direction than the, many of these people have been to 20 of these events.(14:22) This is my first ever event. (14:23) So I left feeling terrible. (14:25) I came back feeling great.(14:27) I definitely over swung, but I don't, I don't think it was real belief. (14:33) It was delusion. (14:34) It felt good.(14:36) It felt really good to be on the opposite end of it. (14:41) Honestly, it felt good to be delusional. (14:44) It felt, it was just like positive.(14:49) It was like, fuck. (14:50) Yeah. (14:51) Fuck.(14:51) Yeah. (14:52) This is awesome.

Alan Lazaros

(14:53) Yeah. (14:53) It feels really good. (14:54) The reason I cried and said, please don't leave me was because if you, and I realized this only in hindsight, I, I saw you think you were awesome.(15:04) And it's like, if he thinks he's awesome now we're fucked for sure. (15:07) We're wildly unsuccessful. (15:09) For sure.(15:10) I mean, if so, and usually in the past, whenever someone would get delusional, I would have to go, but imagine this.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:18) Okay. (15:19) And this, this is so interesting to think of because we're going to take us way back. (15:23) You used to tell me all the time, like, Kev, you can do it.(15:25) You're smarter than you think you can do it. (15:27) Like you're going to be fine. (15:28) You're going to be fine.(15:29) I borrowed that belief and it was like, all right, fuck it, man. (15:32) I'll try. (15:32) Like what Lori harder today.(15:34) All right. (15:34) Let me watch your Ted talk and see. (15:36) All right.(15:36) I got some quiet. (15:37) I feel like we can do it. (15:38) I got some questions.(15:38) Cool. (15:39) That event, that was me building belief. (15:42) I just didn't know how to use it yet.(15:43) I didn't borrow it. (15:45) That was like a level. (15:45) It was like, oh shit.(15:47) Wait, but you did borrow it. (15:48) Cause I basically had to freaking out. (15:50) But when I, but when I left, I wasn't borrowing it from the event.(15:54) It built me up. (15:55) It was like a new level, but it was beyond, it was a new high, high watermark. (16:00) And the water was flowing all over the place.(16:01) The walls weren't high enough yet. (16:03) That's exactly how, and it still happens.

Alan Lazaros

(16:08) Usually I'd have to burst that bubble, quote unquote, like the time you call me out of shape.

Kevin Palmieri

(16:12) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(16:14) Um, and, and I don't attack when you, when you popped my boat, I thank you later. (16:18) And I will continue to do that genuinely. (16:22) So when someone does get an ego and they get, they get, they hit a new high and some of it's real and some of it's inflated.(16:29) I'm usually the one to unca unintentionally pop that bubble. (16:33) Yeah. (16:33) And I don't mean to, when you pop my bubble, I don't attack.(16:36) I contemplate and go, fuck, I didn't, I am actually kind of out of shape because you were vulnerable.

Kevin Palmieri

(16:41) You cried. (16:43) You were vulnerable. (16:44) You didn't, you didn't pop, like it wasn't a negative pop.(16:47) Yeah. (16:48) It was more like, Hey man, I, I know you're in a bubble right now. (16:51) And I'm afraid, like, let me in the bubble with you so we can work on the bubble together.(16:55) As opposed to like, you shouldn't feel good about yourself. (16:58) You didn't see, it wasn't that.

Alan Lazaros

(16:59) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:00) Like, Hey Kev, I know you're feeling like you're hot shit, brother. (17:03) You're a fucking loser, man. (17:04) Lock it up.(17:05) No, no. (17:06) I know you didn't.

Alan Lazaros

(17:06) I know you didn't say. (17:07) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:07) Well, what if you did?

Alan Lazaros

(17:08) If I could have, if I could go back in time, I would say Kev, I know you're feeling good and I'm grateful. (17:15) Good for, Hey, good for you, man. (17:17) Awesome.(17:18) We are fucked. (17:19) If you think you're awesome already, because we are pretty atrociously bad compared to what we need to be in order. (17:24) But here's the thing.(17:24) If you're not calculating what you need to be, then how do you know?

Kevin Palmieri

(17:29) Yeah. (17:29) And you can't calculate, you cannot calculate an equation. (17:32) You don't know.

Alan Lazaros

(17:33) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:34) So it's the whole point, the lesson, the next level lesson for me in this is when I started to build the most belief in this journey is when I detached from Alan and I started doing things by myself. (17:47) I remember telling you like, dude, I feel so good when I'm not with you. (17:52) Cause I feel like I'm actually confident.

Alan Lazaros

(17:54) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:55) And I'm so used to playing, not against you, but being with you where I'm essentially never number one. (18:00) So it kind of sucks, but it's also like molded me into somebody who's pretty good at a lot of stuff.

Alan Lazaros

(18:06) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:07) So when I started going on podcasts and people would introduce me and it's like this many episodes and all that, number one, you gotta be careful. (18:13) Like you can't let that shit gets your head. (18:15) Of course.(18:16) But it would feel so good for somebody to say like, Oh, you're really good at this. (18:20) Or that was awesome. (18:21) Or your, your story was amazing.(18:22) Whatever it was that helped me a ton because it proved to me that I didn't need Alan quote unquote. (18:27) Now, not all the way of like, fuck this guy.

Alan Lazaros

(18:31) I'm not going to listen to a word he says.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:33) I've had people do that.

Alan Lazaros

(18:33) So I want to be you. (18:35) I want to go and do my own thing.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:36) Yeah. (18:36) Hey, look, go best of luck. (18:38) Enjoy.(18:38) Best of luck. (18:38) We will see you at the top.

Alan Lazaros

(18:40) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:41) That helped me tremendously when I used to literally message Alan and be like, Hey man, can you look through this email? (18:47) I want to make sure I, it's good. (18:48) I don't do that anymore.(18:49) That is a suggestion that I have built belief. (18:53) That is what I'm suggesting to each and every one of you watching or listening, because that is the way to do it. (18:58) You use the training wheels for as long as you, but you got to take the training wheels off.(19:02) And when you take the training wheels off, you're probably going to go over the handlebars a couple of times. (19:06) And that does not mean you shouldn't believe in yourself. (19:09) Would you rather go over the handlebars a few times on your own and then learn how to ride or ride with training wheels forever?(19:16) My choice is the first one. (19:18) And I think if we were honest with ourselves, most of our choices would be the first.

Alan Lazaros

(19:23) Okay. (19:23) Next level lesson for me is self-belief and humility hand in hand. (19:28) They very rarely go hand in hand.(19:31) It's very, you have to build both. (19:33) I always used to say, I now understand why people think I'm arrogant. (19:36) I have level 10 self-belief in this direction and I only have level eight humility in the other direction.(19:42) So I appear level two arrogant. (19:45) And then some of it is just awareness and that kind of thing. (19:50) I think those are the two, in your control, we do self-belief and self-worth.(19:55) I think self-belief and humility in tandem are the hardest to have simultaneously. (20:03) Because we always say, when you're winning, stay humble. (20:05) When you're losing, stay optimistic.(20:07) That's basically saying, when you're losing, keep your belief. (20:10) When you're winning, don't get fucking cocky. (20:14) And that's very hard to do.(20:15) Because when you have a lot of belief, it's, yeah, I think I can do a marathon. (20:21) It's hard to be so good at so many things and then not have it spew and spill. (20:28) It's hard to have it not spill.(20:30) And then you do reckless shit that you shouldn't do. (20:33) I think it takes humility to have a tracker and read books every day and set a timer because we're late. (20:41) But humility and self-belief don't always come hand in hand.(20:45) Actually, they rarely do, I think.

Kevin Palmieri

(20:48) Yeah, I think proactive paranoia is a really good thing, but it oftentimes requires two people. (20:54) One person is building the future and the other person's like, yo, we need to hit the brakes. (20:58) We're going to fucking go off the cliff here if we don't.(21:01) I think it's really hard for one person to hold that. (21:03) I've switched at times. (21:04) It's been fun.(21:04) For sure, definitely. (21:05) Yeah. (21:06) All right, cool.(21:06) All right, Next Level Nation, if you are looking for an easy way to build your habits and an easy habit to help you build your habits, we have the Next Level Dreamliner. (21:15) It is a journal that will literally take you five minutes a day. (21:18) It's not that much.(21:20) I mean, you can't see it on the camera because my lighting's off, but it's not super complicated. (21:23) It's not one of those things where it's going to be impossible to do and it's a habit you're going to have to break. (21:28) It is super sustainable.(21:29) Take you five minutes a day. (21:30) You'll definitely level up your clarity. (21:32) You'll definitely level up your consistency, and hopefully you'll level up your journaling.(21:36) So we'll have the link in the show notes for that. (21:38) It is on Amazon and we appreciate you.

Alan Lazaros

(21:40) The top 10 reasons people are not more successful is our next monthly meetup. (21:45) I do not have the exact date yet, but the link will be in the show notes by the time this launches.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:51) As always, we love you. (21:52) We appreciate you. (21:53) Grateful for each and every one of you.(21:54) And at NLU, we don't have fans. (21:56) We have family. (21:56) We will talk to you all tomorrow.(21:58) Keep it Next Level. (22:00) Next Level Nation. (22:03) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University.(22:07) We love connecting with the Next Level family.

Alan Lazaros

(22:09) We mean it when we say family. (22:11) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (22:15) Everything you need to get a hold of us is in the show notes.

Kevin Palmieri

(22:18) Thank you again, and we will talk to you tomorrow.