Your Standards Matter More Than Anyone Else’s (2136)

Are your standards helping you grow or keeping you stuck? In today’s honest and unexpected episode, Kevin shares stories from a recent golf trip where he realized how easy it is to accept support that keeps you comfortable but not challenged. He and Alan talk about the difference between encouragement and enabling, and why your own expectations should matter more than anyone else's. This episode will remind you to stay true to your goals, even when others try to make things easier for you.

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Show notes:
(2:33) The golf trip that taught a life lesson
(5:59) When praise holds you back from growth
(8:12) Stop letting people “mom” you
(12:40) At NLU, your success is our purpose. Join our Monthly Meet-up every first Thursday of the month for tools, insight, and the spark to move forward. https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/NzwOxCMxTDyRJg4CLJS1qg#/registration
(16:30) Don’t be saved from the resistance
(19:22) Raising the bar starts with you
(21:59) Outro

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Chapters

• 2:33 The golf trip that taught a life lesson
• 5:59 When praise holds you back from growth
• 8:12 Stop letting people “mom” you
• 12:40 At NLU, your success is our purpose. Join our Monthly Meet-up every first Thursday of the month for tools, insight, and the spark to move forward.
• 16:30 Don’t be saved from the resistance
• 19:22 Raising the bar starts with you
• 21:59 Outro

Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) I was listening to a book this weekend and it was about coaching and it said when I come across somebody who has a bowl full of whipped cream, I throw some shit in it. (0:10) And when I meet someone who has a bowl full of shit, I give them some whipped cream. (0:15) And I promise we're going to make that connect to standards today.(0:18) What in the hell? (0:19) This is not what I expected. (0:22) Standards.(0:23) I think you have to have higher standards for yourself if you want to get to the next level. (0:28) If you don't want to get to the next level, you don't. (0:31) Welcome to Next Level University.(0:33) I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri. (0:35) And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazarus. (0:38) At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven but no-BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.(0:45) Our goal with every episode is to help you level up your life, love, health, and wealth. (0:51) We bring you a new episode every single day on topics like confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-awareness, relationships, boundaries, consistency, habits, and defining your own unique version of success. (1:07) Self-improvement, in your pocket, every day, from anywhere, completely free.(1:13) Welcome to Next Level University. (1:19) Next Level Nation, today for episode number 2,136, your standards matter more than anyone else's. (1:26) Why am I talking about poop in Whipped Cream?(1:29) I never thought in a million years that's where you were going to go. (1:32) Yeah, no, look, I listened to a book. (1:34) I finished up...(1:36) What book? (1:37) The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle, I believe. (1:40) Did you talk about the Whipped Cream?(1:41) At the very end. (1:42) The very, very, very end.

Alan Lazaros

(1:44) I don't remember that.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:44) I listened to it on the plane ride home from Myrtle Beach. (1:49) And he was talking about somebody who was a coach. (1:53) And the coach said, when I work with kids, the way I give feedback is if I'm working with a kid who has a life filled with Whipped Cream, their life is just Whipped Cream, it's sweet, it's easy, it's amazing, I throw some shit in there.(2:08) A.K.A. I give them extra feedback because they need it. (2:12) If I'm working with a kid who has nothing but shit in their bowl and everything is terrible, I'm giving them some Whipped Cream. (2:18) I'm giving them extra love.(2:19) I'm giving them extra support. (2:20) I'm helping them raise their standards as opposed to live up to my own standards. (2:24) So as you know, maybe, and if you don't, doesn't surprise me because you have more important things to know than where I'm flying and going to in the world.(2:33) But I went to Myrtle Beach last week for a golf outing. (2:37) My buddy Matt's birthday is coming up. (2:38) I'm the best man.(2:39) That was the plan. (2:40) We did it. (2:42) And essentially everybody there is a better golfer than me.(2:45) Everybody there actually practices golf. (2:47) They're in leagues, whatever. (2:49) And I have not played golf, actually gone to a golf course in like 15 years.(2:53) Been a minute, been a long time. (2:54) Not a sport you can take time off of. (2:56) No, not that much time.(2:58) It's crumbling as hell. (2:59) Especially when you're already not good. (3:02) And I went and I was like, hey, I'm gonna suck.(3:05) So just let me, you know. (3:06) Real quick, was it you are letting the team, is it pick the best ball, like tournament style? (3:11) No, no, this was you play your own ball.(3:14) Play your own ball. (3:16) So then you're not holding anyone else back. (3:17) Who cares if you suck?(3:19) Well, there's somebody in the cart with you. (3:21) They asked to bring you to all the balls. (3:22) So you fire a ball into the woods.(3:24) They're gonna take you to go look for it. (3:26) It's a whole thing. (3:26) Luckily, Matt was in my cart one day.(3:29) And then Eddie, one of my other buddies was in my cart the other day. (3:33) But I realized pretty quickly that I was getting babied. (3:39) Not in a bad way.(3:41) I needed it in the beginning, for sure. (3:42) I mean, we pulled up. (3:43) So we went to Myrtle Beach and we went to this resort called Legends.(3:46) And it's just a golf resort. (3:48) And it has some really nice courses. (3:50) And the day we went, we had an early tea time.(3:53) And when we pulled up, Alan, it was like 500 people just getting into golf carts. (3:59) And I was like, oh my God, this is gonna be terrible. (4:02) This is going to be terrible.(4:04) But I realized pretty quickly that most of the standards that the guys had for me were low. (4:10) So they were just like, yeah, don't worry about it. (4:12) Here, I'll give you a bunch of balls.(4:13) Don't worry about it. (4:14) You can lose them all. (4:14) Who's the best golfer you guys played with?(4:16) There was a guy, another guy named Matt, who is like, I mean, he plays in leagues. (4:22) He's really good. (4:24) He just goes wherever he wants, essentially.(4:26) I assume nobody babied him? (4:28) No. (4:29) And he was super supportive of me, which was great.(4:32) The lesson I learned was if I just let them baby me the whole time, I wouldn't have gotten any better. (4:42) I would have gotten through the trip and I would have gotten through the days. (4:45) I probably would have felt really good about myself thinking, oh, I did way better than everybody thought I was going to do.(4:50) And that was the thing. (4:51) Everybody's like, oh yeah, I'm super surprised how good you are. (4:53) Thank you.(4:54) And I'm an athlete and I can do better than that. (4:58) I can do better than that. (5:00) Let me do better than that.(5:01) So we played two days in a row. (5:03) So the second day, the second day I got up. (5:08) I worked in the morning.(5:09) You're just hammering balls into the woods. (5:11) I'm telling you. (5:12) Keep it up, Kev.(5:12) You're amazing. (5:13) You're doing so good.

Alan Lazaros

(5:14) So here's the thing. (5:15) It's hilarious.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:16) First shot went into the woods and the second shot was a beautiful shot. (5:19) And everybody's like, just forget the first shot. (5:21) Don't count it.(5:22) I was like, I have to count it. (5:22) It happened. (5:24) They're like, Kev, it doesn't matter that much.(5:25) It doesn't, it's not. (5:27) Just forget that episode. (5:28) It's not that big of a deal.(5:29) Well, that's, again, that's my mindset, right? (5:31) Like, no, no, I have to. (5:32) That's, that's how I'm going to get better at this.(5:34) So the second day I went early to the course and we got free driving range. (5:39) So you could go to the driving range and hit as many balls as you want. (5:41) So I had 120 golf balls in a hundred degree weather to try to get my swing.(5:46) Right. (5:47) You get my swing. (5:47) Right.

Alan Lazaros

(5:48) Nice.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:48) And then we went out and I essentially played exactly the same as I did the day before, but I felt more comfortable. (5:54) I felt more comfortable. (5:55) And Eddie kept saying the same as in the score.(5:58) Same as the score. (5:59) But my confidence was better. (6:00) And I made some good shots.(6:02) All things considered. (6:02) It was good. (6:03) And I had a blast.(6:04) It was a really good time. (6:05) So Eddie was like, Kev, don't, you're overthinking it, man. (6:08) Like if you hit one into the woods, teed up again and don't worry about it.(6:11) And I said, Eddie, I have to worry about it. (6:14) I have to. (6:14) It's not detrimental to me.(6:16) I'm competitive. (6:18) So that night we went and played darts. (6:20) I have never, I think I've played darts a couple of times in the past.(6:24) And we were playing and I was, I was doing pretty good. (6:27) And then I missed a shot. (6:28) And somebody was like, Kev, it's not that big of like, don't worry about it.(6:30) You don't ever do this. (6:30) No, no. (6:31) I need to worry about this.(6:33) My standards for myself have to be higher than my, than your standards and expectations of me. (6:39) And that is the lesson in today's episode, but it also goes the other way. (6:43) How different was that experience than what, what it is working with me?

Alan Lazaros

(6:48) Drastically different. (6:48) Yeah, it's not that big of a deal.

Kevin Palmieri

(6:51) Worry about every single little mistake. (6:54) But in a way it's not though, because it's like, yes, worry about every little mistake, but it's not the end of the world. (6:58) Just don't do it again.(6:59) Like we'll learn from it. (7:00) Right. (7:01) So I don't want to make it seem as bad as it could sound with that.(7:04) It's not that bad. (7:05) So we were playing darts. (7:06) I was doing pretty well.(7:08) And then I was missing shots. (7:10) At this point, the whiskey was rolling. (7:12) It was, it was flowing like the salmon to the Capistrano, obviously.(7:15) And people were trying to bail me out. (7:16) Like, Kev, you never play. (7:17) Don't worry about it.(7:17) I was like, you have to understand. (7:19) I need to get good at this. (7:20) I don't do things just to do things.(7:21) I want to get good at them. (7:22) I don't have to be the best, but I need to get good. (7:24) And that was a lesson for me.(7:26) If, if you're doing better than you expected, raise your standards and don't let the people around you cloud your judgment, make you feel like you're the best because you're already doing better than you expect. (7:39) You need someone to say like, all right, now let's test it. (7:42) Like, let's try, let's try this.(7:43) Try this club, try this shot, whatever. (7:45) So they're trying to throw more whipped cream in your whipped cream. (7:49) And the whipped cream, I already have more whipped cream in my bowl than I thought I was going to.(7:52) I thought I was going to be filled with shit. (7:54) Nice. (7:55) You give me some whipped cream.(7:55) I got, it's more whipped cream than I thought. (7:57) I don't need any more whipped cream. (7:59) But on the other end, if you are doing something for the first time.(8:03) I'm so sorry. (8:04) I just started laughing. (8:05) I'm so sorry.(8:05) Everyone, I'm happy to be back. (8:07) This is good. (8:08) It hasn't been that long.(8:09) It's been three days. (8:09) It feels like three years. (8:12) I also just picture me draining them on you at Next Level Hope Foundation with no remorse.(8:17) You know? (8:18) But I told you at one point, I said, like, don't take it easy. (8:22) Don't take it easy.(8:22) I did. (8:23) Not this past one. (8:24) That's good.(8:24) 15 and 0, baby. (8:25) That's good. (8:26) I don't, I don't.(8:27) Now, if you're playing with five-year-olds, you probably shouldn't dunk on them, right? (8:31) Like, that's, that's what I'm getting at. (8:33) And there have been, there have been situations in the past where Alan and I would be, we would get, like, mommed by people where they would say, oh, no, don't talk about, you're not out of shape.(8:43) Look, I'm not saying I'm out of shape to make you tell me I'm not out of shape. (8:50) That's not why I'm saying it. (8:51) I'm saying it because I am out of shape.

Alan Lazaros

(8:54) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(8:54) And I have been on a bodybuilding stage in my underwear, and you could see every vein and every muscle. (9:01) I am out of shape compared to where I've been and where I know I could be. (9:04) Don't save me from this.(9:06) Nice. (9:06) That's not why I'm saying. (9:07) I'm not saying it to get saved.(9:09) I'm saying it because I think it's accurate. (9:12) It's very, you've got to be very careful with whose standards you accept.

Alan Lazaros

(9:16) I'm saying it because it's accurate.

Kevin Palmieri

(9:18) It's accurate to me. (9:20) That's why I say things. (9:20) It's accurate to me.(9:21) It doesn't have to be accurate to, to somebody else necessarily, right? (9:25) I'm going to give the darker side of this for a second. (9:29) When Kevin and I used to get mommed or dadded, depending on if it's a male or female, when we used to say we're out of shape, people would, they'd say, no, no, no, you're in.(9:38) It's like, no, no, no. (9:38) Listen, here's the darker side. (9:40) We're in better shape than you.(9:42) It's fair. (9:44) We're comparing to our best, but we weren't confident enough and we didn't want to be dicks. (9:50) Okay.(9:51) Part of it is we didn't want to be dicks and say, hey, listen, you don't have to mom me. (9:54) Like I'm in way better shape than you are. (9:56) I used to think they knew that.(10:00) Can you imagine? (10:01) I mean, you saying, Hey man, I'm kind of out of shape. (10:04) And then me in worse shape than you being like, no cav, you're in, you're in really good.(10:08) It's like, Alan, shut your fucking mouth. (10:10) But I think that's usually the way it goes. (10:12) I think it's the way it goes.(10:14) Usually is somebody says something like that and it's from an insecure place. (10:18) Yeah, yeah, yeah. (10:19) So people thought we were insecure.(10:21) I think most people, all, all it is, is you're presenting a bowl of shit. (10:26) Let me throw some whipped cream on it. (10:27) That's all it is.(10:29) Yeah. (10:29) In reality, it's already a, it's bowl of whipped cream to me. (10:34) I know.(10:35) Because I know I can do it. (10:37) That's why I'm saying, cause I know I can do it. (10:39) I just haven't, I know I could get better at golf.(10:41) I'm certain of it. (10:42) Certain of it. (10:43) I just would need to do it a little bit more than never.(10:46) And I could get better. (10:47) Am I ever going to be the best? (10:48) No, obviously not.(10:49) You know, one thing that we've taken a huge L on our desire to be accurate and I'll blame myself for this because it's more me than you. (10:58) I don't care at all whether I'm good or bad. (11:01) I only care about accuracy.(11:04) Like when I say I'm out of shape compared to me in my bodybuilding days, I'm, I'm significantly more out of shape than I was back then in terms of body comp. (11:13) That doesn't mean I'm not statistically in great shape. (11:17) Yeah, yeah.(11:17) But I want, no one's going to think through all that. (11:19) They're not gonna be like, oh, Alan actually thinks he's in great shape compared to the statistical norm, but he's actually comparing to his old best. (11:29) Yeah, no, everyone has a life beyond being able to care about that.(11:33) But you and I have taken a big L by, I think in hindsight, I probably wouldn't have said. (11:40) It's annoying to me though, because I actually do think I'm out of shape. (11:44) Right now I think I'm out of shape as fuck.(11:47) Like, I'm not kidding. (11:47) It bothers me daily. (11:49) I think some people would hear that and go, oh, well, I love my body.(11:54) It's like, no, no, no. (11:54) I like my body better than you do. (11:57) I just want to be better.(11:59) It's all based on what's possible. (12:01) I'm never basing it based on my current. (12:04) And what's my point for the listener standards.(12:06) I'm comparing to my standards compared to my standards. (12:09) I'm here. (12:09) If you're on YouTube, I'm holding my standards are high.(12:12) Let's say 10 and I'm at a six. (12:13) If 10 is the best I've ever been, I'm at a six right now. (12:16) So when I say I'm out of shape, I only mean I'm a six out of 10 compared to my standards.(12:22) Now, if I were to compare statistically, I would be a 10. (12:26) Does anyone know that when I say that? (12:29) I don't think most, I don't know.(12:30) I don't think most people are thinking about it that way. (12:32) I think they're thinking about what their inner dialogue would be if they were saying the thing out loud. (12:39) I think.(12:41) NLU listener, what is happening? (12:44) I just wanted to jump in here and let you know, if you want to get to the next level faster, we have a free virtual monthly meetup at the first Thursday of every month. (12:52) You can connect with like-minded people and become a bigger part of this amazing global community.(12:58) The link to register will be in the show notes. (13:02) Well, I remember we had a mentor one time who's like, I'm broke as shit. (13:05) And we were like, and, but he had, he had millions of dollars and he's gone broke, but I still fly first class.(13:10) It's like, brother, you're not broke. (13:12) Oh, wait, you're broke compared to no. (13:14) I actually agreed with him.(13:16) I didn't. (13:17) Dude, he was being dumb with money. (13:19) Yeah, but he still had more money than I ever had.(13:22) I agreed with him. (13:23) I think he was being stupid and I think he was broke. (13:25) But that's you, that's you.(13:26) You're thinking through everything. (13:29) You're thinking all the way down. (13:30) In my mind, it was like, dude, what?(13:32) I just watched you buy a new car and not even think about it. (13:37) Yeah, yeah. (13:37) Remember when we went into the Tesla dealership?(13:39) He's like, you think I should get this? (13:40) Yeah. (13:40) It's like 250 grand.(13:42) Yeah. (13:42) I, that is broke for him though. (13:46) I know, but it takes awareness to know that.(13:49) Yeah. (13:50) Yeah. (13:51) You know, anybody else that says they're broke, you're thinking.(13:54) Their bank account says zero. (13:56) You're, yeah, you're thinking you're not gonna be able to pay your bills. (13:58) What he was really saying is my income is really low compared to what it used to be.(14:03) And I'm spending more than I'm making. (14:04) That's what he should have said. (14:06) What he should have said is my income is below my standards.(14:10) Right. (14:11) His income is way below his standards. (14:13) It's all you get to say.(14:14) His income was so far below his standards at that time. (14:17) But yeah, that makes a lot of sense. (14:19) No one else would hear him say that and then think he's actually broke, right?(14:23) No, but nobody would hear him say what? (14:24) I think he was broke. (14:26) Like when he says, Hey, I'm, you know, I'm sucking in finance.(14:30) Cause that's what he would say. (14:31) He's like, I'm kind of sucking. (14:32) It's like, yeah, you kind of are, to be honest with you.(14:34) I think it would depend on what you saw. (14:37) If you saw the way he lived, I would never think that. (14:39) No.(14:41) Yeah. (14:41) It really is all relative to your own inner standards. (14:44) And this is why the social world is so hard for me.(14:46) So I don't want to make it about me, but I do think that's the lesson. (14:50) Well, I think that's why this is such an important thing. (14:51) Because again, I'm, I'm realizing that what we like to do is we like to take very, we'd like to take things that happen and then just like peel the onion and peel the onion and peel the onion.(15:01) And that was the first thing I thought is like, maybe I would hit a ball. (15:08) I'd fire a ball into the woods and I would get so fucking angry. (15:11) I wanted to snap the club over my knees.(15:13) Nice. (15:14) And I think they thought that that was me like giving up on myself.

Alan Lazaros

(15:18) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:18) Yeah. (15:19) And it was like, no, no, no. (15:19) I'm, I just need to do better.(15:21) I need to figure out what went wrong. (15:23) I'm obsessed with figuring out what went right. (15:26) I need to know what went wrong.(15:27) I'm just upset that I don't know yet. (15:29) And they didn't think you were actually flustered. (15:32) Like, I don't know.(15:33) They probably did. (15:34) Cause they're not used to someone. (15:36) I would understand if they did, because we're at a very well-known golf course and there's a bunch of really good people.(15:41) And I'm the, I'm the scrub of the group who doesn't golf, right? (15:47) Like, and that's been a known thing since the beginning of like, yeah, I'm going to see what happens. (15:51) I'm doing this because Matt loves golf.(15:53) I don't, I don't love golf necessarily. (15:55) For the listeners and or viewers, what is the takeaway? (15:59) I've been saying this a lot lately.(16:01) The compound effect is a book that I recommend. (16:04) It's not because of it's a well-written book. (16:06) It's just because the principle is so powerful.(16:10) Rationality, my favorite book ever written by Steven Pinker. (16:13) I don't necessarily like Steven Pinker or the whole book. (16:16) I just love that concept, rationality.(16:19) And I now realize I've been so poor in communicating these things. (16:25) So my takeaway, my next level lesson for this episode would be. (16:30) When are you being babied because you're saying something that maybe in the social world is being misinterpreted.(16:39) And that's happened to me a ton. (16:41) Like anyone who I think back in literally six, seven years ago, I remember I talked to my mom. (16:46) I've told this story before.(16:47) I said, mom, why are you trying to teach me business? (16:52) And she's like, well, what do you mean? (16:54) I said, I have a master's in business.(16:56) I have a computer engineering degree. (16:57) I made more money by the time I was 23 times, probably five than you ever have. (17:04) I'm not trying to be mean, but like, why are you telling me how to run my business?(17:08) I have a mentor with a net worth of $150 million. (17:12) I just got sushi last week with the CEO of a billion dollar robotics company. (17:18) Like, why are you telling me how to run my company?(17:21) And I remember after that she never did again. (17:23) And it's like, oh, so you never thought through any of that? (17:28) She just never thought about it.(17:31) It's like, don't give advice when you don't know what the fuck you're talking about. (17:35) You know, like I never do that. (17:37) I don't, I think people are trying to give support.(17:43) I think people are trying to give support. (17:44) That's why the, I think the question, are you looking for a shoulder? (17:46) Are you looking for strategies?(17:47) So, but dude, how many times have you come to me and I try to solve your problems? (17:50) And it's, you're just like, dude, I just need to talk about it. (17:52) Like, I'll figure it out.(17:53) Like, that's my natural tendency is I want to help you solve your problems. (17:57) But you, I did it today. (17:58) I fucking did it today.(17:59) I was like, well, what about this? (18:01) And then I was like, oh, nevermind. (18:03) Nope.(18:03) Nope. (18:03) Nope. (18:04) Take that back.(18:05) No, no, but that was actually something that you do have merit to talk about though. (18:09) I think a lot of people.

Alan Lazaros

(18:10) Yeah. (18:11) Okay.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:11) The only way you know if you have merit is if you know how much the other person knows. (18:14) Yeah. (18:15) Which they don't know.(18:16) That's all they don't know. (18:16) It comes down to is no one, no one was thinking through all that. (18:19) That's what I'm trying to just not thinking through everything.(18:21) I just, my mom never thought of all that. (18:23) No, no. (18:24) I remember thinking to myself like, what the fuck is going on here?(18:26) If she thought of all that, she would be more successful in business than you. (18:30) I know. (18:30) More successful in business.(18:32) Yeah. (18:32) I never realized I had to connect all those dots for her in order to, you know, cause she really probably on some level was trying to help, but it's like, mom, you can help me in a lot of ways, but it can't be this one. (18:42) You never, you never let a team or built a business.(18:45) Like, what are we doing here? (18:46) So yeah, I didn't understand the implications of all this back in the day. (18:49) So humble pie.(18:50) And I'm never letting that mistake happen again. (18:52) Well, that's why I love these. (18:54) I love these chats because they're, it's different, right?(18:56) It's like, I don't know. (18:58) Is this a fundamental? (19:01) Maybe.(19:01) I don't know. (19:02) Maybe, but I think it's one of those things where you, when you start to understand it, you start to see it everywhere. (19:06) My good.(19:07) We're not. (19:08) Okay. (19:08) So we're doing very well in business, but I'm still struggling in business to get to the next level.(19:14) But do you think when you complain, it almost opens up the door? (19:17) We're not. (19:19) Well, I know.(19:21) Oh, we're struggling compared to where we're trying to go. (19:25) We're not, but it depends on who's listening. (19:30) I remember I had a, I had a friend one time who said, dude, you know, if you ever need anything, I got you.(19:34) It's like, I appreciate that. (19:36) I do. (19:36) I appreciate the fact that you're thinking about me and you care about me, but I mean this with all the love and the most humility I possibly can.(19:42) There is very little I could come to you with that you could actually help me decipher. (19:45) Just because you're not your standards for yourself are so much lower than my standards for myself are in my future that I don't need someone to talk to. (19:55) I don't need, you know, I'm not looking for somebody that I can complain to.(19:57) I don't, that's not really what I'm looking for at this stage. (20:01) I'm not saying like, if that's what you're looking for, that's fine. (20:03) I'm not making that wrong.(20:04) Cause that's the other thing too, is my standards for the way I communicate my problems are different than they've ever been. (20:12) Five years ago, they, I probably did a lot of bitching. (20:14) I just don't complain as much as I used to because now I have more belief that I actually know how to fix the problem.(20:19) So I don't, I don't complain as much. (20:21) So yeah, I do. (20:22) I bitch a lot.(20:22) I'm just, it's less than ever. (20:24) Next level lesson for this episode would be, there are a lot of people out there that are unintentionally going to try to save you from resistance and that resistance is actually what creates the growth. (20:35) So make sure you're taking the right amount of resistance on because if you're not, you're also avoiding growth with whether you know it or not.(20:41) That's what I would say.

Alan Lazaros

(20:42) Nice.

Kevin Palmieri

(20:43) Well, thank you. (20:44) I appreciate it so much. (20:45) I haven't had a whiskey in 24 hours, so it's starting to, it's starting to cycle out.(20:49) You know, I feel really good. (20:51) Getting the sharpness right back. (20:53) Getting the sharpness right back.(20:54) All right, cool. (20:55) All right. (20:55) Speaking of getting the sharpness right back, every single month we do a free next level you monthly meetup.(21:02) I don't know what the title is because I have yet again been fired from another department, but Alan will tell you about it. (21:10) So we do have a meetup on August 7th. (21:13) The link will be in the show notes to register for that.(21:16) Mark your calendars. (21:16) I want to read a message privately that I got today. (21:18) Hey, Alan, can you tell me what it's going to take to join your book club and fitness club specifically, not just the tech side, but also what it requires for me to show up well and extract as much value as I can?(21:29) Great question. (21:30) What an awesome message to get. (21:31) Shout out to you, by the way.(21:32) I know he listens. (21:33) I will keep it anonymous. (21:34) Can we get a first name or no?(21:36) I'm not going to. (21:37) Okay, fair.

Alan Lazaros

(21:38) Yeah, I'm not going on this one.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:39) Thank you though. (21:40) But you know who you are. (21:42) Thank you so much for messaging me on WhatsApp.(21:44) And yes, I'm going to invite you into both of them and respond to your message as soon as possible. (21:48) Hopefully today at latest tomorrow. (21:50) But if anyone else wants to be a part of book club or our fitness group, please reach out to Kevin or myself.(21:55) DM us on Instagram or email us, both of which will be in the show notes. (21:58) Boom. (21:59) As always, we love you.(22:00) We appreciate you. (22:01) Grateful for each and every one of you in NLU. (22:03) We don't have fans.(22:03) We have family. (22:04) We will talk to you all tomorrow. (22:06) Keep it next level.(22:07) Next level nation. (22:10) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. (22:14) We love connecting with the Next Level family.(22:17) We mean it when we say family. (22:18) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (22:22) Everything you need to get ahold of us is in the show notes.(22:25) Thank you again. (22:26) And we will talk to you tomorrow.