Accountability Isn’t Enough Unfortunately (2260)

Most people think accountability is the key to changing their lives. 

In today’s episode, Kevin and Alan break down why accountability is not the foundation you have been told it is and why belief, discipline, and personal responsibility matter far more. You will learn the hidden reason people abandon their dreams, why some lives quietly shrink over time, and what separates those who build a bigger future from those who stop growing altogether. 

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Show notes:
(3:32) When dreams die because belief isn’t there
(8:29) Why self-belief determines the size of your world
(12:11) Personal responsibility before results
(17:04) The truth about success: What you do alone matters most
(20:25) Wasted potential, self-worth, and the mirror
(23:09) If you want to win, you must show up for yourself
(25:14) Outro

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Chapters

• 3:32 When dreams die because belief isn’t there
• 8:29 Why self-belief determines the size of your world
• 12:11 Personal responsibility before results
• 17:04 The truth about success: What you do alone matters most
• 20:25 Wasted potential, self-worth, and the mirror
• 23:09 If you want to win, you must show up for yourself
• 25:14 Outro

Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) There are many ingredients when it comes to a recipe and I think success is very very similar and I think we are not necessarily guilty of overvaluing certain ingredients but there are certain ingredients that we always get asked about over and over and over and over again and I think the one we're going to talk about today is super important but probably overrated in the grand scheme of things.

Alan Lazaros

(0:23) If you've ever heard someone say the one thing you need for success it's always more than one thing. (0:31) Always. (0:32) It's several things stacked on top of each other.(0:35) We're going to talk about that today.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:36) Welcome to Next Level University. (0:39) I'm your host Kevin Palmieri and I'm your co-host Alan Lazarus. (0:44) At NLU we believe in a heart-driven but no BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.

Alan Lazaros

(0:50) Our goal with every episode is to help you level up your life, love, health, and wealth.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:57) We bring you a new episode every single day on topics like confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-awareness, relationships, boundaries, consistency, habits, and defining your own unique version of success.

Alan Lazaros

(1:13) Self-improvement in your pocket every day from anywhere completely free.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:19) Welcome to Next Level University. (1:25) Next Level Nation today for episode number 2260. (1:29) Accountability isn't enough unfortunately.(1:32) I had a blast from the past today. (1:35) Nice. (1:35) I saw somebody online that I have not seen speak online in...(1:45) I haven't spoken to this person probably like, I don't know, 10 years at least. (1:53) You didn't say speak online, there was a video? (1:55) There was a video, yeah.(1:56) There was a video of this person. (1:57) I ran into this person once like 10 years ago and we were really good friends back in the day but that was the first time I had talked to them in like 10 years. (2:04) So in 20 years I've probably talked to this person a couple times.(2:08) Maybe, yeah, 18 to 20 years. (2:11) And I was like, okay, this person has a job that they've had probably since they were like 20. (2:18) Same job.(2:19) And again, they might love their job, I don't know. (2:21) But back in the day they had so many fucking dreams. (2:25) And they were going to be a personal trainer and they were going to be a CrossFit trainer and they were going to be a state police officer and they were going to do this and they were going to do this.(2:33) And I was thinking back and I was like, none of those things actually happened. (2:37) Yeah. (2:37) And then I was thinking about another one of my friends back in the day who was just a world-class mechanic.(2:43) He could fix anything. (2:45) And he's like, one day I'm going to have my own garage and I'm going to, that's what I'm going to do. (2:49) I love working on cars.(2:51) And I was like, dude, that's fucking awesome. (2:53) Like that is awesome. (2:54) I can't wait for that.(2:55) That is amazing. (2:56) That person fixed my car once. (2:58) Yes.(2:59) That person fixed my car all the time. (3:00) Loved it. (3:01) And I was so excited for him.(3:03) I was like, this is fucking awesome. (3:05) And then when I started doing this and I was out here dream chasing, if anything, I was like overbearing to the point of like, dude, what do we, like, let's do this. (3:15) What do you want to fucking do with your life?(3:17) Like now is the time, baby. (3:18) Let's do this.

Alan Lazaros

(3:19) I miss when you were like that.

Kevin Palmieri

(3:21) We can do this.

Alan Lazaros

(3:22) We can do this. (3:23) There was a short time where Kevin tried to. (3:25) That was Alan Jr. Spill. (3:27) Yeah. (3:28) Alan Jr. It was Alan Jr. Spill his dreams on everybody. (3:31) I did.

Kevin Palmieri

(3:32) I think we all have that, right? (3:33) When you get excited and you're like, oh my goodness, I've, I've drank the Kool-Aid. (3:37) You must have some as well.(3:38) It's great. (3:39) You must also drink some. (3:41) But I was thinking, okay, why didn't, we'll talk about the second person.(3:47) Cause I wasn't capable of helping the first person accomplish their goals. (3:51) But the second person I sent them, I remember I texted Alan and said, Hey, I need a list of books to send to this fucking person. (3:58) I remember the books.(3:58) Sent them. (4:00) Done. (4:00) Read these fucking books.(4:02) You want to turn your life around? (4:03) Read these fucking books. (4:05) Nope.(4:05) Never. (4:06) Hey, how are the books going? (4:07) I haven't read them yet.(4:08) Okay. (4:08) How the fucking books going? (4:10) I haven't read them.(4:10) Okay. (4:12) Accountability is great, but at the end of the day, you have to, behind the scenes, keep your goals and your dreams and your aspirations top of mind, because there's nobody on the planet who's going to be able to keep them more top of mind than you. (4:28) Unless you're like, you just live with this person and they're always following you around.(4:32) If that's the case, you probably got enough money to do whatever you want. (4:36) So you're probably not super worried about it. (4:37) If you can pay someone to follow you around and be in your head all day.(4:40) But I was thinking like, what made, what is the difference? (4:42) The difference is I was able to motivate that person and I was able to inspire that person. (4:48) And I was able to ease that person and make them feel good when they were struggling.(4:53) But I was never able, I couldn't help them from a place of accountability because I wasn't with them all the time. (5:00) So that jumped off the page to me today. (5:02) Sorry, go ahead.(5:02) That jumped off the page to me today because accountability is paramount and it's super important. (5:06) And it's, if you have the cheese and you have the dough and you have the sauce and you have the pepperoni, yes, you need, you need the next thing. (5:14) But if you don't have those things, you just have pepperoni and you're not going to make a pizza with that.

Alan Lazaros

(5:19) Sorry. (5:22) What do you think that person, those people, both of them, and I don't want any sugar coating. (5:28) What do you think they really think when they see someone like you doing your damn thing?

Kevin Palmieri

(5:33) They don't like me.

Alan Lazaros

(5:35) Yeah, I don't think they like me very much. (5:37) Really? (5:38) Probably not.(5:40) Okay. (5:40) Let's go into that. (5:41) That's good stuff.(5:43) I think... (5:45) Wait, wait, wait.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:46) Why don't they like you? (5:48) I think there's a couple... (5:49) Likeable guy?(5:51) Yeah, but people, number one, people don't get, people don't like being quote unquote left behind. (5:56) Understandably so. (5:56) I understand.(5:57) That's my biggest fear. (5:58) My biggest fear is being left behind. (5:59) That's why I work so freaking hard.(6:01) So I understand that. (6:02) That's one. (6:03) 60 hours a week.

Alan Lazaros

(6:04) I was, I was expecting a lower number. (6:06) Nah, I'm in. (6:08) Nope.(6:09) Yeah, we crunched some, I was coaching Kev Friday? (6:12) Yesterday? (6:12) Yesterday.(6:13) Yeah, Friday. (6:14) And we did a time audit and I was like, oh shit. (6:17) All right.(6:18) You're doing it. (6:18) You're clocking the hours, man. (6:20) Good for you.(6:21) I thought for sure I was way above you.

Kevin Palmieri

(6:24) That's why when you're always like, hey man, I do it a lot. (6:27) It's like, I know you are obviously, but hey, don't forget I'm doing stuff. (6:31) I do stuff too.(6:32) Same. (6:33) I do stuff too.

Alan Lazaros

(6:35) Yeah, it was good. (6:36) 60 hour weeks, man, on the Reich.

Kevin Palmieri

(6:38) Eventually I'll get some respect. (6:39) The respect on my name will be of appropriate amount. (6:42) Do you think it is not?(6:45) Depends. (6:46) It depends. (6:48) Not enough respect.(6:49) Yeah, sometimes. (6:50) Sometimes. (6:51) I understand.

Alan Lazaros

(6:51) Just this week. (6:52) Just this week.

Kevin Palmieri

(6:53) No, no, no.

Alan Lazaros

(6:54) Mostly this week.

Kevin Palmieri

(6:56) This week it's definitely peaked. (6:58) We're at a peak this week. (6:59) No, I understand.(7:00) We're living our own lives, doing our own thing. (7:02) It's different. (7:03) It's different.(7:04) All right, let me answer the question. (7:04) Yeah. (7:05) Put me in, put baby in the corner.(7:07) How dare you? (7:08) One, nobody likes being left behind. (7:12) Number two, you, unless you're at a place where you are okay with the decisions that you've made, you most likely are going to villainize things that are a reflection of what you could have been.(7:25) And again, understand. (7:27) I understand completely. (7:29) So I think it's those two things.(7:31) I think it, I think it requires a certain level of self-belief and a certain level of acceptance with your own life to see somebody doing something that really lights them up and say, oh my goodness, that's like good for you. (7:43) Good for you. (7:44) Even though I might not be happy where I am, good for you for getting to a place where, and this is all under the impression that they're not happy where they are.(7:52) I don't know. (7:53) They could be happy. (7:54) I don't know.(7:55) I'm not saying, I don't want to assume that they're not, but I also feel like they would have been happier if they chased the thing that they said they wanted to do.

Alan Lazaros

(8:05) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(8:05) Right.

Alan Lazaros

(8:06) So yeah. (8:07) The conversation that comes up in my head is how, how much sadness can come into someone's life by not having dreams. (8:24) Like when you're a kid, the world is open to you.(8:29) People would say the world is your oyster. (8:32) I had one guy at the, I was a cart kid and a bus boy at a golf course. (8:36) And he said, Alan, you've got life by the balls, man.(8:40) I was like, what? (8:42) You don't. (8:43) I'm kidding.(8:44) But the bigger, better, brighter future conversation, like tomorrow is brighter than yesterday. (8:54) It can be. (8:56) Yeah.(8:57) For everybody. (8:58) It can be. (8:59) And this is the conundrum.(9:00) We talked about it on yesterday's episode. (9:02) If you don't believe that it will be, you're not going to make it that way. (9:06) You're not going to invest in something you don't believe in.(9:10) So you can't get nihilistic. (9:12) I'm always fighting against nihilism and hopelessness and all that. (9:16) Back to the point of the episode though, the accountability piece.(9:18) What's the difference?

Kevin Palmieri

(9:19) What's the difference between, cause this is my thought. (9:23) Accountability without desire is just inconvenience. (9:28) It's just, if, if, if I'm trying to help somebody stay accountable to something that they actually don't want, but they say they want, I am going to be a pain in the ass.(9:36) And I know that's an experience you've, you've dealt with that many times. (9:39) So like in my mind, I went to bat for this dude. (9:45) Like, dude, let me like, what can I do to help you need books?(9:49) Okay, cool. (9:50) I'm a business owner now and I'm trying to understand business. (9:52) Okay, cool.(9:53) What are your finances look like? (9:55) All right, cool.

Alan Lazaros

(9:56) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(9:57) You can call me whenever you need anything. (9:59) You call me crying all the time. (10:00) Fine.(10:00) Awesome. (10:01) That's what I signed up for. (10:01) Awesome.(10:02) But like, we need to, we need to go from a stage of, I'm going to be here for you to you're going to be here for yourself. (10:11) And it never got to that point. (10:12) And I think that's what like accountability is great, but accountability without direction, man, without clarity, man, without discipline.(10:20) I think it's, I don't think it's overrated, but I think until you have certain pieces, it's not really going to do anything. (10:27) It's just going to seem like the people in your life think you should be doing more with your life.

Alan Lazaros

(10:34) Yeah. (10:35) You know, which means they believe in you.

Kevin Palmieri

(10:39) Yeah. (10:39) But if you don't believe in you, then it doesn't feel good.

Alan Lazaros

(10:43) It doesn't, it doesn't feel good. (10:47) You've been there for sure. (10:48) People believe in you more than you believe in yourself.(10:50) Why doesn't that feel good?

Kevin Palmieri

(10:53) Because it seems impossible to live up to it. (10:58) The gap. (10:59) Yeah.(10:59) If I believe in myself as much as you believe in me, life would be different, but that isn't the fucking, that is not the way it works right now. (11:05) Thank you. (11:06) You know, like you have your, just don't be anxious.(11:10) Okay. (11:12) What else you got? (11:13) What else do you have for me?(11:15) That's what you got. (11:16) Don't be anxious. (11:17) Oh, just don't be afraid of heights.(11:20) Oh, I've never thought of that. (11:21) I never thought of that before. (11:23) Let me give, let me put that on and see how that fits.(11:25) No, dumb. (11:26) It doesn't work that way. (11:27) It doesn't work that way.

Alan Lazaros

(11:29) Yeah. (11:30) It's, it's deeper than that. (11:32) It is.(11:33) Yes. (11:34) The personal responsibility thing comes up. (11:36) What is accountability?(11:38) Personal responsibility? (11:39) Like I interviewed Emilia on business growth university yesterday and she mentioned this, I think on her own accord. (11:48) I don't know if I brought it up or she did, but it was, yeah.(11:51) If of all ventures fails, it's her fault. (11:55) Like it's, she's the CEO and the, and the founder, like it's her fault. (11:59) Like if NLU fails, it's my fault.(12:01) A hundred percent. (12:02) And I, and I know that sounds like, but the truth is that is the truth. (12:09) Yeah.(12:09) You know, can we go into that? (12:11) Because the personal responsibility piece needs to be prior to the results.

Kevin Palmieri

(12:18) But I think belief, and we're going to talk about this tomorrow. (12:20) I think belief comes before all that. (12:22) I agree.(12:22) Because if you believe in yourself at level six, yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(12:25) You will take personal responsibility at level six. (12:29) Yeah. (12:29) And then you'll win at level six and then you'll be like, what else can I do?(12:35) It's supposed to, I don't mean to interrupt you, Ken, but I have this person in my mind, their world is so small. (12:44) It makes me sad. (12:45) Like their world is getting smaller.(12:47) Like the things that they concern themselves with, their world is, our world is expanding. (12:55) You know, you're going to Toronto soon. (12:57) There's 40 days left in the year.(12:58) We got goals. (13:00) We got team. (13:01) We're growing as individuals and as team.(13:04) And as a business, our future is expanding. (13:08) Our possibilities are bigger, bigger and bigger and bigger. (13:12) Like our world isn't shrinking, you know?

Kevin Palmieri

(13:16) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(13:17) And obviously we're in our thirties, so that better be the case. (13:21) But I do think sometimes like that must really suck to have your world just kind of shrink where you don't feel like you have any way out. (13:32) You don't know, like if you don't know much, you can't really do much.(13:37) And if you don't know much, we're going to talk about this in the next episode. (13:39) You don't believe in yourself much. (13:41) Now you won't do anything about it.(13:43) That person you're thinking of, I've run into them. (13:46) I haven't talked to them at all, but I've seen them from across the way. (13:49) And I would be lying if I didn't say it made me a little sad.(13:56) I got sad when you told me. (13:58) They don't look as well, for lack of better phrasing, from my perspective, as they once did. (14:09) And I just can't imagine.(14:11) I think getting worse must make life worse. (14:14) To me, there is nothing else. (14:16) Like I've done the math equation in my head.(14:19) I've been an existentialist. (14:20) I've contemplated. (14:21) There is no other way.(14:22) You can't want a great life without first becoming great.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:30) I don't know if that person wants a great life. (14:34) I think they think they want a great life. (14:37) I mean, I think there's a difference between wanting it and doing it.(14:42) They could easily get a little bit better each day.

Alan Lazaros

(14:44) Like they could. (14:45) They actually could. (14:46) They won't.(14:47) But I think it comes down to the people that are around.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:52) Well, yeah, but you've got to be a certain type of person to get around a certain type of person. (14:56) So it is. (14:57) It's all fucked up.(14:58) Unless they have horrible self-worth. (15:00) Well, that's true.

Alan Lazaros

(15:02) In which case, you can get around whoever you want.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:03) Yeah, you can get around whoever you want.

Alan Lazaros

(15:05) If that person has...

Kevin Palmieri

(15:07) That's more of an inside joke between Kevin and I. (15:08) Well, no, that's, I mean, that's accurate. (15:11) I mean, one of the things we've...(15:13) I've said this on podcasts before. (15:17) Many times we've known people in relationships and one of the partners really starts to build self-worth. (15:22) And you can predict pretty quickly like that relationship is now going to fail because the reason they worked is that person had low self-worth and they were undervalued and they thought they were...(15:29) It's a whole thing. (15:30) That has happened to me, I believe.

Alan Lazaros

(15:32) Like in friendships and relationships, there are certain people I would never spend time with again. (15:38) Never. (15:38) No matter under any circumstance.(15:39) It's just too big of an L for me.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:42) Yeah. (15:42) The point, I guess the point of this episode more than anything is that even with the right people around you, when they're gone and you're by yourself, that is the majority of when stuff's going to get done. (15:56) That.(15:57) I could have a coaching call with Alan once a week. (16:00) Awesome. (16:01) Twice a week.(16:01) Awesome. (16:01) Five times a week. (16:02) Awesome.(16:02) I could talk to Alan every day. (16:04) But let's say that's one hour out of my 16 waking hours. (16:08) That's not...(16:09) I mean, I got to go do this shit too. (16:12) And that's what made me sad. (16:14) It's like, I'm not saying they're not happy.(16:16) I don't know. (16:17) I haven't talked to them. (16:18) I don't know.(16:19) But I know so many people who are just like, yeah, I'm going to do this and it's going to be awesome. (16:24) And then it just dies. (16:27) Over a long enough period of time, it just dies.(16:30) And then it's like, well, I have to do something realistic. (16:33) Oh, this is realistic. (16:34) I'm just going to stay with what I was doing.(16:36) I have a family now or I have a mortgage now, whatever it is. (16:40) And I, but I also, on the other end, I don't think the whole Will Smith, why would I ever think realistic? (16:46) I think that's dumb as shit too, because Will, you have insane self...(16:49) You slapped a man on stage. (16:51) You have too much fucking... (16:54) You have too much self-belief.(16:56) You walked up and assaulted a man live in front of a crowd and nothing happened. (17:00) You have too much self-belief. (17:02) You have delusional self-belief.(17:04) You can't do that in the real world, Will. (17:07) You can't do that in the real world. (17:09) A hundred percent.(17:10) So I don't agree with that either, but yeah, that's, that's something that's jumping off the page. (17:14) I think the, the feel good, like get around the right people. (17:18) A hundred percent, a hundred percent.(17:19) You will be more successful if you surround yourself with people who are doing what you want to do and are successful at it. (17:25) But when you're by yourself, that is where things get done.

Alan Lazaros

(17:31) And that's unfortunate, I think. (17:34) One of the things that has made me the most sad, we'll get out of here, and I'm doing all I can about this, but like, it, it does make me sad to see, like, there are certain people that I don't believe in anymore. (17:53) Like, you give them the right resources, give them the best computer, give them the best mentor, but give them the best coach, give them the best...(18:00) It doesn't matter. (18:01) They're not going to do it. (18:03) And it makes me fucking sad because it's like, you have so much potential.(18:14) God damn it. (18:15) Just your life could be so much better. (18:19) You're not going to get another one.(18:21) I'm 37. (18:22) I'm not getting any younger. (18:24) What are we doing here?(18:25) You get one shot at this life. (18:27) Stop taking it so fucking not seriously. (18:30) You've got to take your life seriously.(18:32) I learned that from a young age. (18:34) My dad died. (18:35) You got to take life seriously.(18:37) You get one shot. (18:39) It pisses me off watching people squander it. (18:42) And I'm just as mad at me for squandering it back in the day too, even though I was putting in more effort than the majority.(18:48) So at the end of the day, I don't know. (18:53) Is it emotional immaturity? (18:54) Is it self-belief?(18:55) Is it self-worth? (18:56) Is it all of it? (18:57) I think it's all of it.(18:58) And that's why this podcast exists. (19:00) This podcast exists because Kevin and I had every reason not to make it. (19:06) And we're going to make it work.(19:09) And we're going to lead by example. (19:11) I said this in book club behind your goddamn back today. (19:13) Everyone who came to book club, thank you for coming.(19:15) I said, it doesn't work when I like, so Brandon's the director of book club. (19:19) Brandon, I know you're listening. (19:21) I literally said, Brandon, if I said, Hey, if I can do it, you can do it.(19:24) That wouldn't land. (19:27) But Kevin, Kevin can do it. (19:30) If Kevin can do it, you can do it because you are relatable in that way.(19:37) And to me, it's like, why are you living your fucking dreams when other people are squandering what could be? (19:51) And it doesn't just hurt them. (19:53) It hurts their families.(19:54) Like what kid doesn't want to have an inspiring role model for a parent? (19:59) And there's someone who I had on my podcast, his name is coach Michael Burt. (20:05) And he tells this story that I love.(20:07) We'll get out of here. (20:07) He says, he was a basketball coach. (20:10) He said, parents would bring their kids to me and say, you know, my daughter's got a lot of potential.(20:16) And he would sit them down and say, okay, well, is she seeing you reach your full potential? (20:21) And he's like, they didn't really like that very much. (20:23) But the truth is that's the problem.(20:25) You got to look in here. (20:27) It's not, there's no solution out there. (20:29) The solution is right here.(20:31) The mirror, it is on you. (20:34) No one gives a shit. (20:35) If I work out every day, they hate that.(20:37) I do. (20:37) I don't, they don't hate it. (20:38) The point is no one cares.(20:40) No one cares. (20:41) I could stop that streak. (20:42) It doesn't matter.(20:42) No one cares. (20:44) Some people would care a little bit, but at the end of the day, like it's who you are and what you are when no one's watching. (20:49) And I just think that that needs to be where we all go back to.(20:52) It's like a garden. (20:54) You have to, whatever you do with gardens, you have to cultivate, you have to nurture it. (20:58) You can't neglect it.(21:00) If you stop watering plants, they die. (21:02) I think the same is true for your self-belief, your self-esteem. (21:05) I listen.(21:06) I was learning from Jim Collins today. (21:08) I was reading a business book today. (21:10) I was preparing for book club today.(21:13) Like I'm reading books late at night last night because I couldn't sleep because I need to replenish my motivation. (21:21) I need to feed my brain and I need to learn. (21:23) And one of the things that depresses me so much is how hard it is to be inspired nowadays, because a lot of my heroes have become these horrible, they're not my heroes, but there are people in business that I used to learn from.(21:34) And I used to look up to what they've achieved like a Steve Jobs or a Bill Gates or these people. (21:40) And I just, it's really hard for me now to find someone who I can even talk about because I'm an older man now. (21:49) And I'm so disappointed with some of the atrocities that these people have become such like, it's mind blowing to me.(21:57) It's like, why didn't you stay true to your heart? (21:59) Why didn't you stay true to your mission? (22:01) What happened to you?(22:03) And I'm not letting that happen to me. (22:05) But at the end of the day, you have heart-driven, wonderful people who seem like they can't achieve like almost no matter what you do. (22:13) And it hurts my heart.(22:14) And you've got these people who are super achievers, but they're horrible human beings. (22:19) And it's so depressing. (22:21) So I've decided to help every heart-driven, next leveler achieve success.(22:28) And there's a way to do it. (22:29) But I can't do it for you. (22:32) You have to show up.(22:33) You have to show up.

Kevin Palmieri

(22:34) That's the point that even the people care, but nobody cares enough to make you do it. (22:40) Almost nobody. (22:41) And it was that, it was like, here's the thing.(22:43) I remember those were your dreams. (22:45) I don't know if they do. (22:47) I remember that.(22:48) I can remember those conversations. (22:49) I remember how fucking excited I was for them. (22:51) I don't know if they remember that.(22:53) I don't know if that's still like a blip on their radar of like, yeah, if things align, maybe I'll, I don't know. (22:59) I just wonder if they'd be more, I imagine they'd be way more fulfilled if they did that. (23:04) Agreed.(23:05) I imagine that. (23:06) And I'm not saying they're miserable. (23:07) I don't know.(23:08) I don't know them, I think they'd be more fulfilled if they were doing the thing that they were convinced they were supposed to be doing that. (23:14) I feel, I feel comfortable in saying that, but I wonder if they remember that's my, that's my takeaway. (23:20) Do you, if you're out there, do you remember where this all started for you and what that dream was and what got you to start looking in the proverbial mirror and reading books and fucking tracking habits?(23:32) Because it's easy to forget. (23:34) Life is, life is heavy, man. (23:37) Life is heavy.(23:38) And I, so yeah, I'm having a little, my own little existential crisis in a different direction than Alan, but I think a more positive one, I would say, judging, judging by the conversations we've had behind the scenes. (23:49) Makes sense. (23:50) All right.(23:51) If you're looking for somebody to be in your fucking corner to help you succeed, reach out to Alan. (23:56) I don't, I mean, if you really want to accomplish goals, he literally loses sleep at night thinking about how to help clients genuinely. (24:04) So Alan is the guy.(24:05) Okay. (24:05) Outside of that, I don't know anybody who's going to put that much effort into your success. (24:09) And if they are trying to, they're going to say like it's $10,000 and we get to talk like once a week for six minutes.(24:15) You don't want that. (24:16) So we'll have Alan's, Alan's link below in the show notes. (24:19) And what else?(24:20) Just go to the website, go to nextleveluniverse.com. (24:23) We have all this stuff there. (24:24) We are committed to helping you get to the next level.(24:26) We are committed to helping you stay accountable. (24:27) We are help, help you stay disciplined, whatever it is. (24:30) We're going to lead by example every single day.

Alan Lazaros

(24:33) Yeah. (24:33) This community of next level people, fitness group, book clubbers, master classers, podcasters, team hype cast, shout out to you. (24:42) We got a community of heart driven, character focused people accountable to their goals and dreams.(24:52) I mean, it is, it is the best community and I, it's unbelievable. (24:57) So we hope you reach out, just reach out. (24:59) If you have work ethic and humility and a desire to improve your life, that is it.(25:04) That's it. (25:05) It's all you need to show up with, show up with that, show up consistently, put in the work and you will have a bigger, better, brighter future. (25:11) You will, you absolutely will.(25:13) Absolutely.

Kevin Palmieri

(25:14) All right. (25:14) As always, we love you. (25:15) We appreciate you.(25:16) Grateful for each and every one of you. (25:17) And if you are as committed as you say you are to getting to the next level and you don't do all the other stuff, make sure you tune in tomorrow because we will be here every single day to help you get there. (25:25) Keep reaching for your full potential.

Alan Lazaros

(25:27) Next level nation.

Kevin Palmieri

(25:29) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. (25:33) We love connecting with the next level family.

Alan Lazaros

(25:36) We mean it when we say family. (25:38) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (25:41) Everything you need to get a hold of us is in the show notes.(25:45) Thank you again.

Kevin Palmieri

(25:45) And we will talk to you tomorrow.