The Best Way To LOSE All Of Your Self-Belief (2297)

Hosts Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros challenge the belief that setting bigger goals automatically builds confidence. They explain why self-belief is earned through alignment, proof, and disciplined action, not motivation or hype. Drawing from psychology and thousands of real coaching conversations, they show how misaligned goals quietly erode confidence and consistency over time. This episode reframes what real self-belief looks like and how it is built one credible win at a time.

If you want stronger follow-through, clearer goals, and confidence you can trust, listen closely. Build belief the hard way so it actually lasts.

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Show notes:
(1:20) Behavior belief Vs. Outcome belief
(3:30) The danger of fake big goals
(5:40) Genetics, reality, and possibility
(9:59) Three beliefs required for outcomes
(13:33) How misaligned goals destroy confidence
(18:07) Why credibility creates trust
(21:40) Building belief through small wins
(24:02) Why success must be earned daily
(25:09) Outro

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Chapters

• 1:20 Behavior belief Vs. Outcome belief
• 3:30 The danger of fake big goals
• 5:40 Genetics, reality, and possibility
• 9:59 Three beliefs required for outcomes
• 13:33 How misaligned goals destroy confidence
• 18:07 Why credibility creates trust
• 21:40 Building belief through small wins
• 24:02 Why success must be earned daily
• 25:09 Outro

Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) Like some of my favorite personal episodes, today's episode came from Alan and I arguing behind the scenes and then saying, dude, that's not how it works. it works. (0:10) For me at least, I know that's how it works for you. you. (0:12) So we're going to do an episode on that today.oday.(0:14) The number one most important thing for success is self-belief. (0:18) We're going to teach you how to build it today.oday. (0:21) Welcome to Next Level University.(0:23) I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri.ieri. (0:25) And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazarus.arus. (0:28) At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven but no BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.(0:35) Our goal with every episode is to help you level up your life, love, health, and wealth. (0:41) We bring you a new episode every single day on topics like confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-awareness, relationships, boundaries, consistency, habits, and defining your own unique version of success. (0:57) Self-improvement in your pocket, every day, from anywhere, completely free.(1:04) Welcome to Next Level University. (1:09) Next Level Nation, today for episode number 2,297, we're actually going to teach you how to destroy self-belief.lief. (1:16) The best way to lose all of your self-belief is the title of today's episode.sode.(1:20) Alan and I were talking, and you've heard us talk about this many times, state, prove, self-assign.sign. (1:26) So if you want to become more confident, if you want to have more self-belief, if you want to feel like you are capable of creating external results in the real world, you state something. (1:35) Today, Alan and I are going to go and we're going to record episode number 2,297.,297.(1:39) I stated it. (1:41) Prove. (1:41) Prove to yourself that you're actually capable of doing the thing.hing.(1:43) Here I am recording episode number 2,297. (1:46) And then when I get done with this, I need to self-assign. (1:48) I did that.(1:49) I recorded that episode. (1:52) State, prove, self-assign. (1:53) However, that is a behavior.(1:58) So there's two types of self-efficacy.cacy. (2:00) Self-efficacy is the fancy psychology version of self-belief. (2:05) One of them is the self-efficacy in your ability to do a behavior.(2:09) The other one, the harder one, the one that more people want, the one that's more valuable, is your ability to create an outcome, cause and effect.fect. (2:17) So you said, I'm going to record episode 2,907.,907. (2:22) What is it?(2:22) 2,297. (2:24) Yeah, 2,297. (2:25) That's a behavior.vior.(2:27) An outcome would be, I want to launch it and get at least 150 listens. (2:33) So an output is a byproduct. (2:35) It's an effect, not a cause.ause.(2:37) So you believe in your ability, 10 out of 10, to do behaviors. (2:40) What you didn't believe in, in the early days, and are starting to now, is your ability to reverse engineer outputs, to create effects, not causes.uses. (2:49) Yeah, so create an outcome.(2:51) I like outcome for some reason, not output. (2:53) Outcome's good.good. (2:53) Output, outcome, yeah.(2:55) The argument, quote-unquote, it wasn't a real argument, but we're on different sides of this.s of this. (2:59) Alan's always believed in himself.self. (3:01) I'm very new to actually thinking I'm capable of saying I'm going to do something and then doing it. then doing it.(3:07) And then it's, but the problem is it's this weird cycle where, this goes back to yesterday's episode where we were talking about how, excuse me, how when you meet someone and you're like, hey, what's your goal?y, what's your goal? (3:21) And they give you the collective view, not you specifically. (3:24) They give you their goal and you say, well, come on, come up with something bigger.(3:29) Like, what's your big, hairy, audacious goal?goal? (3:30) Give me the real shit. (3:32) They just make something up.(3:33) Like, okay, I'm going to be a gazillionaire.aire. (3:37) Fuck yeah, you are. (3:39) Nice.(3:40) They don't believe it.e it. (3:41) I've never had a conversation like this.this. (3:42) I'm not saying it's you, but I've had people like, what's your real goal?27;s your real goal?(3:48) Just gave it to you. (3:49) That's what I got. got. (3:50) No, no, no.(3:52) If you could do anything. (3:54) Yes, for sure. (3:56) I think it helped me.(3:57) I benefited from it because I survived long enough to make a lot of the things that I didn't think well together, obviously to make a lot of the things I didn't think were possible, possible, but, but I think that's the, here's the, here's the issue.e, here's the issue. (4:11) Can I share something real quick? (4:12) Yeah, of course.(4:14) I've never set a goal that was not something I intended at the time.time. (4:21) So this is why this is so unrelatable for me. (4:23) And again, I'll bring it back to the listener in a second.cond.(4:26) Never once was someone like, hey, Alan, come on up the ante. (4:30) Never once. (4:30) No, definitely not.(4:31) No, they're like, seriously.usly. (4:33) But isn't that, how much of that is just the result of you knowing what you're capable of?apable of? (4:38) You've said this before.fore.(4:39) I can't be the strongest person in the world.orld. (4:41) No, I cannot. (4:42) No way.(4:43) No chance. (4:45) How am I supposed to know what I'm capable of?e of? (4:48) There's a big, there's a big chasm between me being stronger. stronger.(4:54) How can I be the best speaker in the world? (4:58) To me, that's like a doable thing for you. you. (5:00) How though?(5:02) How do you see that? (5:04) And I don't.27;t. (5:04) And then how would I ever see that?(5:06) Okay. (5:07) Okay. (5:08) Can you unpack for our listeners why I can't be the strongest man on earth?arth?(5:17) Oh, genetics. (5:18) Yeah. (5:19) Probably the biggest.(5:20) A hundred percent. (5:21) Okay.

Alan Lazaros

(5:21) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:22) Good. (5:22) Anything else you can give a couple more? (5:25) Mostly genetics.(5:26) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(5:27) Same.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:27) And there's not enough steroids in the world for you to do a 1200 pound squat.quat. (5:32) Like that's just not. not.

Alan Lazaros

(5:32) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:33) Break me in half. (5:34) Yeah. (5:34) For sure.(5:34) Okay. (5:36) You have the genetics to be the most effective speaker on planet earth. (5:40) Okay.(5:42) Okay. (5:42) Okay. (5:43) I know fitness.(5:46) What if somebody does not understand fitness to the level I do? (5:49) Would they think you are capable of being the strongest person in the world? (5:52) I don't know.know.(5:54) If they believe that they are inaccurate and they might be inaccurate and believe that that's, but then that means they're probably inaccurate about themselves too.elves too. (6:04) But okay. (6:05) In the wrong direction though.(6:07) Because here's the argument you've had for me in the past and I'm glad we're doing this.'re doing this. (6:12) I think NLU is becoming a success podcast where it's Kevin, myself, and the listener debating healthfully about something that I want to create some magic where there's aha moments for everybody.everybody. (6:26) So me being the strongest man on earth, not possible.(6:31) We both know that. (6:32) Yeah. (6:33) Okay.(6:34) But me being an astronaut is possible. (6:38) Yes. (6:39) Okay.(6:40) How do you know? (6:44) No, it's not. not. (6:46) I would say there's probably been people that have been astronauts that are less gifted than you. you.(6:50) Quote unquote gifted. (6:52) There's a path to it.o it. (6:53) So what did your brain calculate right there?(6:56) You're smart.mart. (6:57) You work really hard. (6:59) Both of those are things you can change for sure.(7:04) So don't you see, don't you believe you could be an astronaut now?onaut now? (7:10) But I mean, this is new. (7:13) Cool.(7:14) It crosses a chasm. (7:16) Now, I don't believe I can be an astronaut tomorrow.rrow. (7:18) Right, right, right.(7:19) I believe if I dedicated the next 20 years for that reason, I must be out. (7:24) Yeah, no, I'm not gonna.onna.

Alan Lazaros

(7:25) Tomorrow?

Kevin Palmieri

(7:26) I'm out. out.

Alan Lazaros

(7:27) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:27) Can't do it.o it. (7:28) But can you, old Kevin never would have, what would old Kevin have said in this conversation? (7:34) I would say you sound arrogant as fuck.(7:36) You think you'd be an astronaut?naut? (7:38) Seriously? (7:40) Probably.(7:41) I wouldn't have said it.d it. (7:42) I would've been thinking it though.ough. (7:44) Because it would make me insecure.(7:45) It's like, well, I can't be an astronaut.astronaut. (7:47) What the fuck? (7:47) Why do you get to be an astronaut?(7:50) Okay. (7:51) Okay. (7:51) Let's unpack that.that.(7:53) That presupposes that I don't have anything you don't.on't. (7:56) How arrogant are you? (7:56) I couldn't get a job at a fucking warehouse working overnight.ight.(8:00) You think they're going to send me to the moon?moon? (8:05) You couldn't get a job at a warehouse because of other circumstances.nces. (8:08) If I said, Kev, I need you to get a job at a warehouse.(8:11) Do you think you could pull it off? (8:12) Today? (8:13) Yeah.(8:13) I could run the fucking warehouse today. (8:15) Damn right. (8:16) I love it.(8:17) Okay. (8:17) Now talk to Kevin. (8:18) Talk to Kevin 11 years ago or whatever, nine years ago.(8:23) I always get those two confused because I got my car accident 11 years ago and started. (8:27) Well, this was, this was, I mean, I was like 20. (8:29) I was 18.

Alan Lazaros

(8:30) Okay.

Kevin Palmieri

(8:30) Go back to that person. (8:31) Now you're mentoring that kid. kid. (8:33) Do you believe you could help him get a job at a warehouse?(8:37) Not tomorrow, but in time. (8:40) How long? (8:40) A month?(8:41) Give me a couple months. (8:41) Yeah. (8:41) Give me a couple months.(8:42) Okay. (8:42) So it was possible just because you didn't know.know. (8:46) Knowledge.(8:46) It was possible. (8:47) Does not mean it's not fucking possible.ible. (8:49) But that's where I push back and say, if you don't know that it's possible and you don't somehow find a way to think outside of the box, it is not possible because you stop seeing is believing.seeing is believing.(9:00) It's still possible even if you don't do it.7;t do it. (9:03) Sure. (9:04) But it does not seem possible to you.(9:07) Fair. (9:07) Doesn't seem is very different than objective truth that it is actually possible.ible. (9:11) Yes.(9:12) But oftentimes feeling is the dictator, which is something that you can shift if you get around the right person.

Alan Lazaros

(9:19) I do agree.

Kevin Palmieri

(9:20) Which is the point of this fucking podcast. (9:21) I do agree. (9:22) Which is great.(9:23) So state-proof self-assign. (9:28) By that rationale, you kind of have to give yourself a shot. (9:33) Let me fuck you up with the truth.(9:35) Imagine them sending me to the moon. (9:37) Imagine them picking me. (9:38) It's like, ah, him. him.(9:40) That one. (9:41) He's the guy. guy. (9:42) Hold on.(9:42) In 20 years, they pick you because you've done nothing, but...ut... (9:47) I'm not going.oing. (9:48) 7,300 days straight, you've done nothing but prepare and train to go to the moon.moon.(9:53) Fair. (9:53) Yeah, yeah. (9:53) Fair.(9:54) Now they pick you. (9:55) But even that right there, you're operating...ng... (9:59) So three beliefs you must have.(10:01) This is a TED Talk. (10:02) I didn't make this up.s up. (10:03) You must believe it's possible.ible.(10:05) You must believe it's humanly possible.ible. (10:08) So is it possible...

Alan Lazaros

(10:08) That's the first one. one.

Kevin Palmieri

(10:09) Yeah, that's the first one. one. (10:10) Is it possible to be an astronaut? (10:12) Yes, many people have been.(10:13) It must be personally possible. (10:17) You personally must be able to do it. (10:20) And here's the big one. one.(10:21) It must be worth it. (10:22) If I don't think I can be an astronaut, you think I'm going to dedicate the next 20 years to trying?to trying? (10:30) No.(10:31) However, if I am a mentor or a guide to you, and I say, Kev, it actually is doable, and here's a clear path to making it happen.ppen. (10:38) Now you actually make a conscious choice not to do it or to do it, instead of defaulting to the little box you were put in. (10:47) Yes.(10:47) I don't believe anything is possible for everyone.yone. (10:51) I do believe most people are capable of far more than they believe inside and far less than what they say externally. (10:57) I concur.(10:58) But I do, I really, I think it gets down to this. (11:02) It's this weird paradox of, okay, you know why I have much, and again, happily married, very beautiful wife, very blessed, very lucky.ucky. (11:16) For most of my life, I was not good with women.(11:19) I just wasn't.27;t. (11:20) I could tell you, I could get Alan going here. (11:22) Alan loves when I talk about how much of a loser I was in the past.(11:27) Why does that happen? (11:29) Somebody says, dude, just go do it. (11:31) Just go talk to her.(11:32) What's the worst that can happen?ppen? (11:34) Nothing. (11:34) What's the worst that can happen?ppen?(11:35) She says, no, no, the worst that can happen is she says you're short and you're too short for her.t for her. (11:40) That's the worst that can happen when you're afraid of being short.ing short. (11:43) You go do that.(11:45) That right there breaks the belief. (11:48) That's not going to be better next time.time. (11:50) Then you stop stating, proving, and trying to self-assign.(11:54) Agreed. (11:55) That's valid, however- Real quick, real quick, real quick, real quick.uick. (11:59) I'm off on one right now. now.(12:00) This is good. (12:01) Then you state, I'm going to go out tonight and I'm just going to have fun. have fun. (12:05) You go out and you have this moment where you see someone and you're like, okay.okay.(12:10) Then you don't do it.o it. (12:12) You don't do it.o it. (12:13) You prove to yourself that you're not capable of doing it.g it.(12:16) You self-assign as, fuck, I'm never going to do this.this. (12:18) I'm never going to be that guy. guy. (12:20) Then that becomes the cycle.(12:21) Isn't there a third one, which is you give it a shot and then you're proud of the courage it took?e it took? (12:27) In Lion King land, that is one, for sure, but no- Lion King land? (12:32) Yeah, wherever, Lion King land.(12:35) Disney World, it's like, dust yourself off. off. (12:40) You've done great work.work. (12:41) I don't think that's how most people operate.e operate.(12:44) Now I do, but you know why? (12:45) Because now I have belief, which is connected to belief. (12:49) I'm telling you, belief is everything.hing.(12:52) It is everything.

Alan Lazaros

(12:53) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(12:54) Because not only does it dictate, I'm going to go try it.y it. (12:57) It dictates, well, when it goes wrong, yeah, it was just this one time. (13:00) I'll try it again next time.time.(13:01) Right. (13:02) But you assign, let's say you go up to a beautiful woman at the bar and you're short, and she says, you're short, you're the worst.u're the worst. (13:09) How dare you even think that you're capable of talking to me?o me?

Alan Lazaros

(13:11) Pretty much how it works.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:12) The worst happens and you go in the corner and cry. (13:15) What you need to do is assign that accurately of, she's a horrible person who was wildly unkind, and that doesn't mean you have no value. no value. (13:21) It's not all or nothing.hing.(13:23) I know, but there's a lot of meta thinking going on here.here. (13:27) Which is exactly what we're trying to- For sure.sure. (13:30) Condone.(13:30) Yeah, for sure. (13:31) Not condemn, but condone. (13:32) Condone.(13:33) I am saying the best way to lose all of your self-belief is to set a misaligned goal based on your current level of self-belief because people tell you it's sexy to do it.o it. (13:43) Agreed. (13:44) That, for some reason- What if there's a small percentage of the population that really does believe in the big, hairy, audacious goal?goal?(13:54) I was one of those people. (13:55) Yeah, yeah. (13:56) And then encourages everyone else to set bigger goals.(14:00) For sure. (14:01) And then those are the people that achieve more, so those are the leaders that people look up to. (14:05) And then what if that encourages everyone to set misaligned goals and destroy their self-belief while those people keep building self-belief?(14:11) Like, whoa. (14:12) And then people like me in the beginning villainize people like you.

Alan Lazaros

(14:17) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:18) Is this why you didn't like being in high school?hool? (14:19) I know that's part of it.f it. (14:20) In hindsight, obviously, I had trauma and I had- You thought- No, that's not it.t it.(14:25) And by the way, I could throw a football better than you. (14:28) It wasn't about- No, no., no. (14:30) This was about being a wide receiver.(14:31) There's no chance in all of- in the world you were tackling me, son. son. (14:36) Not a fucking chance. (14:37) All right.(14:38) All of that ego horseshit aside- Yeah, yeah, yeah. (14:40) Part of it was I believed in myself and didn't know other people didn't.dn't. (14:44) And I probably came off very arrogant.

Alan Lazaros

(14:45) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:46) And I also, obviously, had some wounds that I- Well, I always say that. (14:49) I say Alan was- He came off as arrogant, but I came off as confident. (14:54) I was extremely self-conscious.(14:55) So, I'm not saying he was arrogant.gant. (14:57) I thought he was arrogant based on where I was. (15:01) Yeah.(15:01) Well, haven't you- And this is something that I think might land for our listeners too. too. (15:06) I'm going to ask Kevin this, but I want you thinking about if this ever happened to you. you. (15:11) I'm thinking of someone in our past that we know begins with- His name is- Begins with a C. a C.(15:19) Okay. (15:20) Neither one of us are a fan. (15:21) Okay?(15:22) Yep. (15:22) This person didn't believe in himself at all either.ther. (15:26) He pretended like he did, but he didn't, especially with women.omen.(15:30) And you've witnessed women want him a ton. ton. (15:34) Yes. (15:35) Okay.(15:35) When he would come to you and say, honestly, Kev, I don't really believe in my ability to get a woman either.ther. (15:41) What would you say? (15:43) Back then, you would have thought, what do you mean?(15:45) Obviously, you should believe in yourself more. (15:47) It would be that, or you don't even have to, so it doesn't matter.;t matter.

Alan Lazaros

(15:52) You don't have to.e to.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:53) That's what you would say now. now. (15:54) You wouldn't say that back then.then. (15:54) No, I would say that back then.(15:56) What do you mean you don't have to?e to? (15:58) All you got to do is show up. (16:00) You don't have to say anything.hing.(16:02) It doesn't matter.tter. (16:03) That's like, oh man. man. (16:07) I'm afraid.raid.(16:09) It's hard.hard. (16:09) I'm afraid I can't slam dunk it.m dunk it. (16:11) It's like your hand's over the rim.r the rim.(16:12) All you got to do is drop the fucking ball in. (16:13) What do you mean? (16:14) It's not even a slam dunk.dunk.(16:16) It's like a gentle layup.ayup. (16:18) It's different.rent. (16:19) Not the point I was making.(16:20) I know. (16:20) Why is it different? (16:23) It's not actually that different because you can be capable of it and not believe it just as much as you cannot be capable of it and not believe it.e it.(16:30) But you can also be accidentally successful. (16:32) That. (16:34) Why does that matter if you don't build self-belief?lief?(16:37) I think that's another thing.hing. (16:38) Because it's the same.same. (16:40) It's because I don't actually believe that they don't believe in themselves to the same level I don't. level I don't.(16:47) Everybody is questioning their level of self-belief versus other people, and nobody knows where anybody really is because nobody knows where they actually are. (16:55) That's a fair assessment.ment. (16:56) That's very good.good.(16:57) Agreed. (16:58) Thank you. (16:59) You're welcome.come.(17:01) Stamp of approval. (17:02) No, but that's very good.good. (17:05) If you have level 10 self-belief, you have no idea other people don't.27;t.(17:10) Especially when they're around you, they act like they do.y do. (17:13) I can only imagine because I don't have it.e it. (17:16) There have been people, people, we'll keep it high level, who have been a certain way with Kev and then a certain way with me, and then we hang out with them together and you're like, oh, what the hell? the hell?(17:28) What's with the ego? ego? (17:29) They're different.rent. (17:29) And I was like, dude, if anything, that was dialed down compared to what I'm used to.d to.(17:33) And we now realize that they were mirroring and matching my confidence, but they didn't have to do that when they're in a room with you. with you. (17:43) So I got a certain version of them that you never got and vice versa. (17:47) So we both live in our own sort of lack of understanding of, dude, I'm not kidding.ding.(17:52) I had no idea. (17:53) Now I had a client, I'll keep anonymous.mous. (17:56) She was very vulnerable.(17:57) I've been coaching her for years, I think like three or four years now. now. (18:00) And she knew you and I, she came to our first speech.

Alan Lazaros

(18:05) 2019, I think.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:07) Yeah, yep. (18:09) And we met her in person and she said, I was skeptical. (18:15) You guys sounded really confident and I was skeptical, but you guys have totally proven me wrong.(18:21) And I'm sitting there going, this is probably one hundredth of what we were talking about doing.oing. (18:30) Accomplishing, right? (18:30) We're still at the very beginning of the journey.rney.(18:32) But anyways, why would someone come on a journey if they didn't believe we were, we meant it?t it? (18:42) She basically said, like, I was skeptical, meaning I didn't believe you guys were going to do what you said you were going to do.o do. (18:49) And that's really unfortunate because if other people don't believe we're going to do what we say we're going to do, then why would they come on the journey?come on the journey?(18:57) You know what I mean? (18:58) None of this has any merit if you don't believe it.e it. (19:01) You know what's interesting?ting?(19:02) You're offended by that, which I think is an indicator that you have high self-belief, where I am not. not. (19:08) If anybody reaches out and says like, hey man, I never thought you could do this. (19:11) It's like, same, brother.ther.(19:13) Fucking same. (19:14) But we did it though. (19:16) When somebody doesn't believe me, I am never personally offended.nded.(19:20) That's a good distinction.tion. (19:22) I think that's a thing.hing. (19:23) And the problem is.(19:24) I don't know if offended.nded. (19:25) Yeah, I'm annoyed.oyed. (19:26) It's whatever.ever.(19:27) Whatever the word, I think I'm just talking.king. (19:29) You're discrediting what I'm saying.;m saying. (19:30) You're assuming that I'm lying then.ying then.(19:32) I think most people talk more than they do. (19:37) We're going to hear.hear. (19:38) We're not because I don't really know anybody that sets New Year's resolutions, but there's a lot of fucking goals coming next couple days.ng next couple days.(19:44) You listen to this episode, people around you are like, this is the year. (19:47) It's not. not. (19:49) It's not. not.

Alan Lazaros

(19:50) But what if it is?

Kevin Palmieri

(19:51) It's not. not.

Alan Lazaros

(19:52) It's going to be for us.r us.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:54) Yeah, but that year started nine years ago. (19:57) I know. (19:58) By the way, we're not New Year's New You, but we are Next Level You.Level You.(20:04) Always. (20:05) See what I did there? (20:05) I did.(20:06) That was not New Year New You. (20:08) Next Level You. (20:10) Masterclass, January 1st, 5 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. (20:12) Start the year off next level. (20:15) It's going to be how to set and achieve the optimal goals.oals. (20:18) And it's going to be totally private, not recorded.rded.(20:20) I'm going to be on my remarkable.able. (20:22) Bring your notes. (20:22) Bring your open mind.(20:24) And get ready to work, baby. (20:27) I just think that self-belief is this. (20:32) It's set up in a weird, flawed way where it's almost like one of the things I've learned.x27;ve learned.(20:38) And again, you're going to you'll push against this.inst this. (20:40) But I was talking to somebody the other day and they're like, yeah, I'm part of this potential real estate deal.tate deal. (20:46) And we just have to give them $50,000.(20:48) They invested in this thing. (20:49) And then we just get money back like month over month. (20:52) And then we get a payout at the end.(20:53) That's like, you know, whatever.ever. (20:54) However, much more. (20:56) And I was like, how interesting is it that like when you have money, it's just easier to make money.oney.(21:03) I think self-belief is the same thing. (21:06) When you have self-belief, it's easier to make more self-belief because you're like.7;re like. (21:11) You're just in the momentum of it.f it.(21:13) Now, again, I think all of us, if you do it correctly, can build self-belief. (21:18) I'm not I'm not saying you either have it or you don't.you don't. (21:21) Trust me.(21:21) Go watch the old content. (21:22) I did not have it. (21:23) You might not know it because I pretended I did.(21:25) One of the best things I ever did was I started drifting away from Allen and I would go do things by myself. (21:32) I know blasphemy. (21:34) But I remember I said that I was like, dude, one of the best things I ever started doing was going on other podcasts without you.(21:40) Because I would state that I'm going to do it.o it. (21:42) I proved to myself that I was going to do it. (21:43) And then it went really well.(21:45) And that helped me. (21:45) That helped me build confidence. (21:47) That was huge for me.(21:48) Endorsement for my coaching. (21:50) Well, no, it gave me I that's how I had the abilities in a way you drifted away to build your own belief.lief.

Alan Lazaros

(21:57) I created distance.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:58) I created distance. (21:59) But that's that's important because the best coach in the world can't do it with you.do it with you. (22:05) Wait, say that again.(22:06) I'm sorry.orry. (22:06) The best coach in the world is not going to do it with you. (22:09) Best coach in the world is not out on the field with you.(22:11) They're on the sidelines, which is great.reat. (22:13) But it's it's the stuff you learn behind the scenes that gets you to go out on the field for the first time and do it.and do it. (22:17) I think that's my takeaway.away.(22:20) Wrap this with a bow. (22:21) The best way to lose all of your self-belief is to set a goal you don't believe you can accomplish that.that. (22:26) Yeah, very blanket statement because start super small.(22:30) You might surprise yourself to share it that I have one client who struggles with the self-efficacy of creating an output. (22:40) And I said, OK, let's just set a small goal in between each call.call. (22:44) Small.(22:46) OK, do you think you can get one client by the next time we talk? (22:49) She said, yeah. (22:50) I said, let's shoot for that.that.(22:52) Awesome. (22:53) Another client. (22:54) What's your goal?goal?(22:55) It's a month apart monthly client.ient. (22:57) So in a month, you're going to have a part time job. job. (22:59) She said, yep, cool.(23:00) And I said, I need you to heart it in WhatsApp. (23:02) So I know that you're agreeing to this state.tate. (23:05) Now go prove it.(23:06) Prove it to me and prove it to yourself. (23:08) Most importantly, yourself. (23:09) And then we're going to self-assign that shit when you when you accomplish it.h it.(23:12) Now, here's the key. key. (23:14) When you don't fucking accomplish it, you can't think you're a failure and never try again.ever try again. (23:19) You have to get up, brush yourself off and get the fuck after it again.(23:24) That's the thing.hing. (23:25) You have to go from failure to failure to failure to failure to failure without losing enthusiasm. (23:29) And I know that that's a quote that most people won't resonate with.nate with.(23:33) However, that is when I say no one will out fail me. (23:36) I don't actually mean failure is the goal.goal. (23:39) Failure is a necessary ingredient to becoming fucking successful.(23:44) The other thing, too, on the opposite end of that is you can't just assume the first success is like everything's great now.great now. (23:50) Now you have to either replicate the same exact thing or you have to up the ante a little bit. (23:54) And then every time you up the ante, there is a possibility that it goes wrong.(23:59) That's why I say you can't own success.n success. (24:01) You can only rent it. (24:02) And that rent is due every day, baby.(24:04) Well, speaking of the rent being due, we have to go to do other things that pay the rent. (24:09) That is that is happening right now. (24:11) If you're a podcaster and maybe you're stuck in this loop where you don't know what to set for goals or you don't really believe you're capable of accomplishing what you set out to accomplish as a podcaster, we have something called the Next Level Podcast Accelerator.evel Podcast Accelerator.(24:21) It is starting on January 6th. (24:24) Correct. (24:25) Is that when it is?(24:26) 5 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. (24:27) Tuesday, 5 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. (24:29) With the discount code NLULISTENER, it takes, what is it, 20% off, 30% off?(24:35) 30%.

Alan Lazaros

(24:35) I haven't.27;t.

Kevin Palmieri

(24:36) I know. (24:36) I'm out. out. (24:37) I'm out here, Jeff.Jeff.(24:37) It ends up being $96.60 per month for four calls per month. (24:42) So it's like $24 a call with a minimal of two coaches on each call.call. (24:47) Just imagine.(24:48) There is no more affordable, high quality, valuable group coaching program on the planet, I assure you. (24:54) That's why we designed it the way we designed it.d it. (24:56) So I'll have the link in the show notes below.elow.(24:57) Literally the most affordable coaching I've ever personally seen.seen. (25:01) So I hope you do that. (25:02) At very least, it will be the Mario Kart booster to kickstart 2026 off, right?(25:08) That is all I have, good sir. (25:09) As always, we love you. (25:10) We appreciate you.(25:11) Grateful for each and every one of you. (25:12) And if you are as committed as you say you are and you believe you can get to the next level, make sure you tune in tomorrow because we will be here every single day to help you get there. (25:20) Keep leveling up to reach your full potential.(25:23) Next Level Nation. (25:24) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. (25:28) We love connecting with the Next Level family.(25:30) We mean it when we say family. (25:33) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (25:36) Everything you need to get a hold of us is in the show notes.(25:40) Thank you again and we will talk to you tomorrow.