You Are The Problem AND The Solution (2301)

Hosts Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros challenge a belief that quietly limits progress. When results stall, the issue is rarely what most people point to. The real constraint often sits closer than expected and goes unnoticed for years. This episode creates a sharp shift in how responsibility, effort, and progress are understood. It redirects attention away from external noise and toward what actually drives long-term outcomes.

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Show notes:
(2:15) Why entitlement destroys momentum
(4:01) Success as a long-term game
(6:29) Locus of control and what you can actually change
(10:45) Being the bottleneck without self-shame
(12:40) Targeting constraints for real growth
(15:27) Ownership as the foundation of self-respect
(18:26) Feedback tolerance as the true performance edge
(20:24) Outro

🎙️ Hosted by Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

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Chapters

• 2:15 Why entitlement destroys momentum
• 4:01 Success as a long-term game
• 6:29 Locus of control and what you can actually change
• 10:45 Being the bottleneck without self-shame
• 12:40 Targeting constraints for real growth
• 15:27 Ownership as the foundation of self-respect
• 18:26 Feedback tolerance as the true performance edge
• 20:24 Outro

Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) I had a great call with one of my clients today, and at one point in the call she said, I just realized, like at the end of the day, I am the reason I am not more successful and I am the problem. (0:12) And I was like, wow, that's it.s it. (0:13) That's really profound and true, unfortunately.tely.

Alan Lazaros

(0:16) You are the problem when it comes to success. (0:20) Like it or not, that's what you have control over.over. (0:23) Welcome to Next Level University.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:26) I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri.ieri. (0:28) And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazarus.arus. (0:31) At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven, but no BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.

Alan Lazaros

(0:37) Our goal with every episode is to help you level up your life, love, health, and wealth.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:44) We bring you a new episode every single day on topics like confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-awareness, relationships, boundaries, consistency, habits, and defining your own unique version of success.

Alan Lazaros

(1:00) Self-improvement in your pocket, every day, from anywhere, completely free. (1:06) Welcome to Next Level University.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:12) Next Level Nation today for episode number 2,301, You Are the Problem and the Solution. (1:18) This is how jeffed I am. (1:19) I literally put the title as The Are the Problem and the Solution, so.(1:23) Nice. (1:24) Things are going really, really well over here.

Speaker 3

(1:26) Right now Kevin's the problem.blem.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:27) I am the problem, and I don't know if I am the solution, unfortunately.tely. (1:30) Had a great call with a client today, and this client has had a lot of business growth and a lot of clarity recently. (1:38) And essentially what we got to by the end of the call was, you really need to lock in for the next 90 days.(1:46) You're doing like a 90-day program with one of the other coaches.ches. (1:49) I need you to just lock it up for the next 90 days. (1:52) And none of this, well, I've been doing really well.well.(1:55) I deserve a trip. (1:56) No, you don't.27;t. (1:57) Oh, you know, it's Friday and it's nice out. nice out.(2:00) I should go eat lunch. (2:02) No, you shouldn't.27;t. (2:03) You need to lock it in.(2:05) Just lock it in. (2:07) And it was... (2:09) You mean dial it in?(2:11) No, no, lock it, like lock in the sacrifice. (2:15) That is your word for the next 90 days is suck now for better later. (2:19) That is what you're doing here.here.(2:22) Good.

Alan Lazaros

(2:23) I don't know.know. (2:24) I just, I think there's something to that.that. (2:28) I deserve X or I've earned it or whatever.ever.(2:30) There's something weird about that.that.

Kevin Palmieri

(2:32) Well, I think we dilute our... (2:33) It's very easy to make, to take like five big steps and then feel like you deserve four backsteps.teps. (2:40) I think a lot of people do that.(2:41) It's like, one of the best, oh yeah, I ate really well this week.week. (2:45) All right, I'm going to have four pizzas this weekend.kend. (2:47) It's like, well, there goes all of the previous...us...

Speaker 3

(2:48) All the progress.

Kevin Palmieri

(2:49) All the progress. (2:50) So I think that's kind of the thing we need to focus on.s on. (2:54) And I think it takes a certain level of belief, going back to belief, a certain level of ownership and a very high level of self-awareness to sit down, look yourself in the mirror and say, ah, interesting.(3:05) I am the reason I'm not more successful.sful. (3:07) I think if we all started there, it'd be a different world, but I think it takes a while to get there.here.

Alan Lazaros

(3:15) The person who comes to mind when I think of someone who I believe in most, it's Emilia.ilia. (3:24) Never once have I heard her say I've earned it, or I deserve a trip, or I deserve a break.reak. (3:29) Never, never once ever come out of her mouth, ever.(3:32) Never will, never has. (3:35) Why? (3:38) Because she doesn't have that mindset.dset.(3:40) That's a losing mindset.dset. (3:42) I doubt you've ever heard me say that.that. (3:45) No, definitely not.(3:46) It's a losing mindset.dset. (3:48) And I don't want to be a dick, but I think I have to be okay with that for a minute.nute. (3:55) If you think because you did five good days that you deserve something, you are missing the mark here.(4:01) Success is a long game. (4:03) Five days ain't doing it.g it.

Kevin Palmieri

(4:06) Well, even 90 days in this example, like that's a good, it's a good start, but that's not, that's not the end either. not the end either. (4:11) Like that's just the sprint.rint. (4:13) That's the very, I mean, not even that, that's just like the, the very gentle foundation of whatever happens in the next 90 days.t 90 days.

Alan Lazaros

(4:20) You ever hear, uh, see those people that complete a marathon and they, they chug a beer at the end, like to celebrate. (4:25) I always thought that was interesting.

Kevin Palmieri

(4:29) It's like, I mean, yeah, I don't know.27;t know. (4:32) I ate like garbage after my bodybuilding show. (4:34) So I, yeah, I can't really talk shit to, to a detriment for sure.sure.

Alan Lazaros

(4:38) I did too. (4:38) I did too. (4:39) But it was like a refeed.(4:41) Mine, then I got back after the next day in the Did you, did you not go to the gym the next day? (4:47) No, I went to the gym, but I, I, I mean, I resented that pizza to use.

Kevin Palmieri

(4:51) No, I resented fitness for a while after that. (4:54) Yeah. (4:54) I had a real bad relationship with, with the gym after that for sure.(4:59) Unfortunately. (5:00) But the whole point of this though is, okay, let's say that's not the issue.the issue. (5:04) Let's say the problem is not that for you. you.(5:07) Most likely the root cause of the problem somewhere is within you. (5:11) Just like it is with me. (5:13) Just like it is with Alan.(5:14) If that is it at the end of the day. (5:15) Now I know what you're thinking, Kev, you guys did an episode recently.ntly. (5:19) It was called, it's not you versus you. you.(5:21) I know. (5:22) And it also is in many cases, it's not, but it also is.o is. (5:26) Well, that episode was about competition.(5:28) Look, I'm always trying to stay sharp with my, with my episode conversions.ions. (5:34) Somebody see me on the street one day and say, Hey, these two episodes, you said different things. (5:39) That's, I did actually, I did say different things and I'm entitled to that.d to that.

Speaker 3

(5:43) I mean, you deserve that after 90 days of consistent episodes, I deserve to contradict myself.

Alan Lazaros

(5:49) The truth is you're looking at the same truth from a different angle.ngle. (5:53) Yeah. (5:53) Context that.(5:54) Yeah. (5:55) And, and the other piece of this too, is duality of you versus you was the title, but in that episode we talked about how it is versus you, but you also need extrinsic motivators too.

Kevin Palmieri

(6:09) So it's not like, well, I always like to throw it out there.here. (6:13) Yeah. (6:13) There's only so many, like, you know, how many times have we named the episode?sode?(6:17) Like the number one thing that matters for motivation. (6:19) Like you can only do that so many times, but I don't know, I feel like it's different now than it used to be.sed to be. (6:23) So that's what, that's what happens sometimes.sometimes.

Alan Lazaros

(6:25) All right. (6:26) So you are the problem. (6:27) Yeah.(6:28) Here's where I go.I go. (6:29) The lotus of control. (6:30) You have things you have control over, which is what you say, think, do, feel, and believe you have control over yourself.(6:35) And, and here's the thing.hing. (6:36) And again, I know it's hyper-rational, but if you're unsuccessful because the economy is bad, then there's nothing you can do about it because the economy is not in your control.n your control. (6:47) Is it harder to be successful?(6:49) Maybe. (6:50) Yeah, for sure. (6:51) But are there people that are successful in a bad economy?(6:55) Of course. (6:55) Well, then what are they doing differently? (6:57) Right.(6:57) Are there some people that are unsuccessful in a good economy? (7:01) Of course. (7:01) So that's not the difference maker, right?ight?(7:04) I do find this quote really good from Atomic Habits, James Clear. (7:10) He says, every Olympic athlete wants to win gold. (7:16) So obviously it's not the goal that makes the difference.ence.(7:21) It's the process, the system, the feedback, the coaching, the measurements, all that stuff.tuff. (7:25) So you have to choose the thing that makes the difference. (7:31) So if it's a bad economy, some people are successful.sful.(7:34) Some people aren't.27;t. (7:35) You need to study the successful people and figure out what they're doing differently.ntly. (7:38) And hopefully it's not lying and stealing and being full of shit.shit.(7:41) Hopefully. (7:42) But, and you might find that it is, unfortunately. (7:45) But there's gotta be someone who's not full of shit, who's successful in a bad economy. a bad economy.(7:48) You got to find that person. (7:50) You know, success leaves clues, that whole thing. (7:54) What are your thoughts on that now?

Kevin Palmieri

(7:56) Yeah. (7:57) If you know where to look, sure. (8:00) If you know where to look, it leaves clues, but it also leaves, it also leaves warnings just like it leaves clues.(8:07) And misleading clues. (8:09) Well, that's why you have to know.know. (8:12) You're a big film guy. guy.(8:14) Big fan. (8:14) You could probably explain a red herring better than I. (8:20) No.(8:20) No. (8:21) Damn. (8:22) Red herrings, I believe.(8:25) And again, look it up. (8:26) I could be wrong. (8:26) I probably am.(8:27) Maybe not though. (8:28) I feel pretty confident in this. (8:29) A red herring is when you're watching a video, watching a movie, a film as it would be for Alan, and they try to convince you that one person is the killer.ller.(8:39) Yeah. (8:40) By like subtle context clues, red herring. (8:42) I don't know why I was going to say that, but red herring.ring.(8:45) Misleading clues. (8:46) Oh yeah. (8:47) I think that's what a lot of people are doing intentionally and or unintentionally.ally.(8:52) Like they're just leaving.ving. (8:53) I think some people are doing it intentionally.

Alan Lazaros

(8:55) Yeah. (8:55) Yeah. (8:56) To sell programs or whatever.

Kevin Palmieri

(8:57) You know what great directors do? (8:58) They do it intentionally because they want you to think.

Alan Lazaros

(9:01) That it's the wrong.rong.

Kevin Palmieri

(9:02) That it's the wrong thing.hing. (9:03) Right. (9:03) So.(9:03) You know what shitty business owners do? (9:05) They red herring their products. (9:07) Unfortunately.(9:08) Yeah. (9:08) So I think that's a big piece of it.f it. (9:11) So yeah, I think success leaves clues for sure.

Alan Lazaros

(9:14) But. (9:14) Well, if anyone out there wants to be a millionaire overnight with very little effort, we do have group coaching coming up.

Kevin Palmieri

(9:19) Yeah. (9:19) It's a $56,000, a gentle, small commitment, nothing crazy, right?ight? (9:25) You pay it all up front.(9:26) And if you don't get, you don't get your money back, no matter what, we're going to change the business name. business name. (9:30) We're probably going to go out of business.ness. (9:31) We'll change our emails.ails.(9:32) You know, we're going to get customer service, but 56,000 is pretty reasonable.able. (9:35) I would say all things considered.

Speaker 3

(9:37) Yeah. (9:37) Small, three easy payments, right?

Kevin Palmieri

(9:40) Come hang out with us in person. (9:41) We'll take pictures in front of giraffes and shits.hits. (9:43) We awesome.(9:44) It's great.reat. (9:45) It's the best.best. (9:46) We are joking.

Alan Lazaros

(9:46) Yes, of course. (9:47) The program is wildly affordable. (9:49) It is, comes to less than $25 per session.(9:53) If you do the promo code, which will be in the show notes and it's 10 like-minded podcasters that we just, if you have high work ethic, high humility, and high self-improvement orientation, Kevin and I, in the beginning, the first two years in business only grossed a total of $13,000.,000. (10:11) This year we're coming up on a half million just in one year.year. (10:14) So I'm very excited.ited.(10:15) We have gone from very little to very lot depending on how you look at it. (10:20) But the reason I'm saying this is we would have needed this coaching to be affordable in the beginning for sure.sure. (10:26) So we made it affordable for early podcasters like yourself.(10:28) If you are thinking about start starting growing, scaling, or monetizing your podcast, or you are a podcaster and you want a Mario Kart booster, the Next Level Podcast Accelerator, is that thing launches Tuesday, January 6th, 5 p.m. Eastern Standard Time.

Kevin Palmieri

(10:45) And to the point of this episode, you are the problem. (10:49) You are the reason it's not more successful.sful. (10:50) It's not, that's, I think that's the thing is like, going back to what we talked about in yesterday's episode, it doesn't make you a bad person.;t make you a bad person.(10:56) It doesn't mean you're not smart.not smart. (10:57) It doesn't mean you're not capable.t capable. (10:58) It just means you don't have the combination to the lock yet. yet.(11:02) And I think that is, and I think sometimes we think that's a lack.lack. (11:07) Okay. (11:08) Five years ago, where were you the problem?(11:11) Oh, naive as shit. (11:13) With people. (11:14) And I think that's something that people might not think is the problem.blem.(11:18) It's like, well, no, I mean, still understood business.ness. (11:20) You were consistent. (11:21) You were disciplined.

Alan Lazaros

(11:22) There's always a problem.blem. (11:24) I was extremely naive about people.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:26) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(11:26) I surrounded myself with people who were entitled and arrogant and delusional. (11:32) And I did not know how to tell when that was the case. (11:36) What about you?(11:37) Five years ago, 2020.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:41) What was I doing in 2020?

Alan Lazaros

(11:42) You know, I can say, we surrounded ourselves with some people that were very arrogant and immature and delusional. (11:47) I think I knew that more than you.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:49) How dare you?

Alan Lazaros

(11:50) For sure.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:51) Because I was like, You should have fucking said something.

Alan Lazaros

(11:52) I did.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:53) I was like, I don't want to spend time around this person.rson. (11:55) You're like, there's lessons to learn still.arn still. (11:57) Okay.(11:57) Hey, hey, my bad. (11:59) There were lessons though, for sure. (12:01) Yeah.(12:02) One big one. (12:04) Get away from people like that. (12:06) We did learn a lot.(12:08) 2020, I was incredibly short-sighted. (12:12) I just, everything was like, right now is the only time that matters. (12:16) It has to happen right now.(12:18) I wasn't, I didn't believe enough in the long game of things actually paying off over time.over time. (12:23) That was a piece of it for sure. (12:25) Also spending.(12:27) I spent a lot of money. (12:29) You weren't dialed in with your shmoney.oney. (12:31) Isn't that it?t it?(12:32) At the end of the day, it's like, all you do, again, it's not this simple, but all you do is identify where you're currently the worst.ntly the worst. (12:40) Like, where is your worst habits? (12:41) It's called targeting the constraint.aint.(12:43) Targeting the constraint, as they would say. (12:45) And then that no longer becomes the constraint or less of the constraint. (12:50) And then you find another one and then you do that.(12:52) And then you find another one and you do that.

Alan Lazaros

(12:54) And that's why growth is forever.ever. (12:56) I have a client who's four times a week.week. (12:58) We never stop finding constraints.(13:00) I believe it. (13:01) That's my job. job. (13:03) The beginning of the call, full hour session is always asking questions.(13:08) Like, catch me up. (13:08) How are you? (13:09) And then I just hear them talking.(13:10) Catch me up since this morning.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:12) What has transpired since this morning?

Alan Lazaros

(13:14) That actually did happen today. (13:16) She's a relationship talks coaching session who also does my one-on-one coaching.hing. (13:19) But anyways, so there's never a time where I'm not going to find a constraint.onstraint.(13:23) Never. (13:24) And same with me. (13:25) Can you imagine if I took the weekend?(13:27) Like, you know, Kev, this weekend, I'm going to think about 2025 and I'm going to take the whole weekend to look for something that has been a bottleneck to me in 2025 for 2026. for 2026. (13:39) And imagine I spend 16 hours a day, two days, Saturday and Sunday, and I come back to you on Monday. (13:46) I was like, nope, I'm perfect, man. man.(13:47) Couldn't find anything.hing. (13:48) Couldn't find any constraints.ints. (13:49) First of all, that's the dumbest shit I have ever heard in my life.life.(13:53) There is never going to be a time where you are not the problem ever. (13:57) Why do people have such a bad relationship with that?

Kevin Palmieri

(14:00) Dude, I'm always the bottleneck to this company.pany. (14:02) But because if you already feel bad, again, this is always the beauty, as I completely understand. (14:07) When you feel bad about yourself, the last thing you want to do is feel worse about yourself.(14:10) But what if you feel bad about yourself because you're not targeting and fixing constraints?ints? (14:14) I think that's why you have to start gently.ntly. (14:16) Okay, fair.(14:18) If somebody is out there and they don't like the way their body looks, you probably shouldn't do a bodybuilding show.ding show.

Alan Lazaros

(14:25) Yeah, I agree. (14:26) That's not a good goal.goal. (14:27) Considering exercise, though.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:28) That. (14:29) Yeah, yeah. (14:29) But I'm just saying you shouldn't stand in front of a coach who's going to say, interesting.y, interesting.(14:35) So that's what we're working with.king with. (14:38) Again, I had a bodybuilding coach. (14:42) You watched me get laughed off stage.(14:44) Those judges were laughing at me. (14:45) You deserved it. (14:46) A hundred percent.(14:47) Yeah, you deserved it.

Alan Lazaros

(14:47) You were arrogant.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:48) You were arrogant. (14:49) And I predicted it. (14:50) I knew that was going to happen.(14:50) Still came in fourth, motherfucker. (14:51) Well, there was five people or something. (14:53) That's not true.true.(14:54) That's not true.true.

Speaker 3

(14:55) There was five people on stage at that time, but there was more than that in the class, okay?

Kevin Palmieri

(14:59) God damn it. (15:01) I would go down. (15:03) My fitness coach worked at a supplement store and I would go down for posing sessions and I would literally just stand in my boxers in the middle of the store while it was open.(15:16) So people would come in and he'd be like, yeah, I'll be right with you. with you. (15:19) We're just doing a posing session.sion. (15:21) Probably not good if you don't have body confidence, right?ight?(15:24) That's not a good place to start.tart. (15:26) Okay.

Alan Lazaros

(15:27) So again, you are the problem. (15:30) Let's wrap this in a bow. bow. (15:35) I'm always trying to think Kev's perspective, my perspective, topic, listener. listener.(15:41) What's the takeaway?away? (15:43) What do you walk away with today? (15:46) 1% improvement in your pocket from anywhere on the planet, completely free, success and personal development.(15:50) That is next level university. (15:52) I got something. (15:53) If you're thinking, I got one. one.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:56) Did I interrupt you? (15:57) No, no, it's fine.fine. (15:58) Go ahead.(16:00) Some of my favorite people, I'm sure some of your favorite people, if you're watching, I'm sure it's some of your favorite people too.favorite people too. (16:05) When you go to them and say, yeah, it's my bad. bad. (16:07) That's on me.n me.(16:08) I fucked up. (16:09) And they say, oh my goodness, I appreciate you taking ownership so very much. (16:14) I respect you even more now that I know how seriously you take your ownership.(16:18) Same for you. (16:19) If you're out there and you're the problem, I think you should get respect from taking ownership from where you're fucking up.;re fucking up. (16:26) Not, not, um, shame.

Alan Lazaros

(16:30) When is that not the case? (16:32) Because I think when it's somebody else's advantage of you.ge of you. (16:35) No, no, I'm saying for self though.ough.(16:37) Yeah. (16:37) Yeah. (16:37) I think you gain self-respect for sure.

Kevin Palmieri

(16:39) That that's what I'm saying.;m saying. (16:40) If somebody comes to me and says, ah, that's on me, I completely Jeffed.ffed. (16:44) I respect that person more.(16:45) Same.

Alan Lazaros

(16:47) How can we, how can we do that for ourselves is my, my thesis. (16:51) That's actually one of the things that we hire and fire by.e by. (16:54) Yeah.(16:54) How well you take ownership. (16:56) If you don't take ownership, well, you're never working for NLU.g for NLU. (16:58) No chance.(16:59) Well, because you probably don't take self-ownership behind the scenes.enes. (17:02) Yeah. (17:03) Right.(17:04) Wrapping this in a bow, what would I say? (17:05) I would say there's always a constraint.aint. (17:08) Get, start falling in love with the process.(17:11) Little by little of identifying at one point, this is obvious to me. (17:15) I used to dress poorly. (17:17) I do.(17:18) I don't take you as seriously when you dress poorly, as comes in a backwards hat. hat.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:23) I literally just said, I, I, I'm dressed, dressed like shit right now. now. (17:26) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(17:27) As a matter of fact, as a business coach, you have to write. (17:31) So there's just certain things.ings. (17:32) And this is why I love going back in time.(17:35) I 11 years ago, 10 years ago, nine years ago, eight years ago, that from 26 to 30, I went through all the photos this weekend. (17:45) Whoa. (17:46) So many new understandings and distinctions that we have now.(17:50) And if I was coaching me, Alan version 3.7, Alan, 37 years old was coaching me at 26, dude, dude, I would have accelerated this so much. (18:09) And I think that that's the value of coaching is I help you find the constraints and it's hard to see the whole picture when you're in the frame.e in the frame. (18:16) So if you need someone to, yeah, I had a client who said someone in movie club is scared of you.(18:27) She, someone in movie club, movie club, by the way, if anyone wants in, there was a healthy discord live in movie club. (18:36) And this person has a client who was there and said, I can't believe you stood up to him. him. (18:41) Like he scares me.(18:45) And I was like, I thought that was awesome. (18:49) That was a great little healthy debate. (18:50) That's the whole point of being on movie club.club.(18:52) So we all leave smarter. (18:53) Right. (18:54) What's my point.oint.(18:56) That's how you get better is you find someone who can challenge you in a positive, constructive way. way. (19:01) Yeah. (19:02) If we're all just trying to feel good about ourselves all the time, we're not going to get any better.ny better.(19:06) You imagine an Olympic athlete coach. (19:08) Who's like, oh, you're good.7;re good. (19:09) Keep it up.(19:10) I like the, just swim the, get in the pool and just swim around. (19:13) I like, yeah, just swim around, Michael. (19:14) Swim around.(19:15) Do whatever you feel.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:16) What kind of stroke should I do?

Alan Lazaros

(19:19) I don't care.care.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:20) Whatever you feel. (19:20) Just float around.

Alan Lazaros

(19:22) Yeah. (19:22) Throw you a, throw you a, a swimmy. (19:26) Yeah.(19:26) I do think your success will be determined based on how much feedback you can handle over time. (19:32) I would concur.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:33) And I think it starts with maybe there's two ways.ways. (19:35) I don't know.know. (19:36) Maybe it starts with you facing feedback yourself, or maybe it starts with you getting somebody that you trust to give you feedback.(19:41) I don't know.know. (19:42) I think it depends, but you're probably really good at getting feedback in some arena.rena. (19:46) I just don't know what it is for you. you.(19:48) For me, it was fitness. (19:48) I was really good at getting, I was getting feedback and fitness for a long time. (19:54) I mean, for a long, long time.(19:57) So I just got used to that. (19:58) And then I think that carried over to other things, but there's still like, I'm always trying to work on that.k on that. (20:03) Always, always, always, always.(20:05) So it is a work in progress. (20:07) Always. (20:07) Okay.(20:08) If you're looking for a group of amazing humans who are also hyper focused and very committed to getting to the next level, make sure you join our private Facebook group, Next Level Nation.tion. (20:16) We will have the link below. (20:17) Alan mentioned his coaching as well as the Next Level Podcast Accelerator.(20:22) We'll have the links below for that as well.well. (20:24) As always, we love you. (20:25) We appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you.(20:27) And if you are as committed as you say you are to getting to the next level, make sure you tune in tomorrow because we will be here every single day to help you get there.

Alan Lazaros

(20:34) Keep leveling up to reach your full potential. (20:37) Next Level Nation.

Kevin Palmieri

(20:39) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. (20:43) We love connecting with the Next Level family.

Alan Lazaros

(20:46) We mean it when we say family. (20:48) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (20:51) Everything you need to get ahold of us is in the show notes.(20:55) Thank you again, and we will talk to you tomorrow.